defileyourself Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
123	Sexual violence is abhorrent. But has the fear of it been manipulated to keep female readers coming back? Has the fear become disproportionate to the actual threat?	discussion	defileyourself	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/05/24 12:17 PM

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3	Looking to some guys to vent to It sounds like your partner has somehow connected you having a second job to saving for your wedding. Is your ability to save for the wedding going to be impacted by the decision to hand in your notice? Also how much is she earning, and is it equivalent with what you bring in? My first advice would be - dont base your self worth over whether or not your partner is punishing you in an immature manner (cold shouldering, silent treatment). You sound like a responsible person, but both of you perhap…	/r/MenSupportMen	10/06/24 01:49 PM
12	What is wrong with the term "toxic masculinity"? "Toxic masculinity" has been flagged by psychologists as a term that is misleading and harmful to men's perception of themselves, as it unconsciously connects masculinity to toxicity. In an attempt to not add to male mental health issues, terms such as gender roles are much less problematic. Another term for specifically male negative behaviour already existed: "machismo", it does not have the same negative impact. No one denies that negative traits exist - only that they are negative regardless…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/04/24 12:58 PM
4	It's Not A Patriarchy, It's A Heteronormative Complex With A Significant Queer Component Still coming back to read this like a month later man. Very well thought out and written, both post and comments. Putting thoughts I didn't knowI had into words. Can I ask if you spend any time outside of reddit communicating this message? World could do with more relaxed but informative discussion of this.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/03/24 07:53 PM
1	Dehumanization of Male Victims Obligatory bit: feminism is an ideology, not a giant group where everyone has the same views. Extreme misandrist feminists do not represent everyone under the umbrella of feminism any more than misogynist incels represent everyone who supports men's rights	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/03/24 03:33 PM
1	Feminism isn't for everyone, it's just for women. People that say it is for everyone, are either naive or deliberately manipulative. Having extensive experience of Spain and Spanish people in general, I can tell you the marches you're referring to are not representative, any more than the fascist marches are indicators of a wider sympathy with fascism. Most Spanish feminists would agree with the points I have made, though I would add the issue of machismo is wider in Spain than it is elsewhere and needs addressed. The Internet is not interested in reasonable feminists because reasonable views don't incite outrage or garner cl…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/01/24 06:23 PM
1	Feminism isn't for everyone, it's just for women. People that say it is for everyone, are either naive or deliberately manipulative. "It", as in feminism, is an ideology and social movement, not a homogeneous group of people, is what I'm trying to say. There are many subsets of feminism, and many feminists that agree with and support the eradication of gender roles in a egalitarian fashion. The Internet is awash with extreme viewpoints because outrage is effective at garnering clicks. Proportionally speaking, online comments don't represent the real world any more than social media approximates real life. Most feminists I've …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/01/24 03:48 PM
0	Feminism isn't for everyone, it's just for women. People that say it is for everyone, are either naive or deliberately manipulative. Feminism is incomplete as a movement until it actually eradicates gender roles. The issue is that the unfinished work to do in removing gender roles in much of the Western World hinges on our ability as a society to have a full and open discussion about how men are impacted. Currently, there is a lot of fear of male sexual aggression and a lot of criticism of negative male behaviours in general. Much of this is justified, but as another commenter said, it is difficult to empathize with someone w…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/01/24 11:38 PM
4	I’m starting to believe FDS is right, men really do have an inherit disdain for women You don't enjoy being humble, nice and pleasant?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/21 04:54 PM
1	I’m starting to believe FDS is right, men really do have an inherit disdain for women This is one of the worst subreddits to discuss gender issues, and social media isn't much better. Realistically there are no absolutes. No all men are x and women are y. Every individual deserves to be judged on their words actions, not on their gender identity, nor any other thing they did not choose to be. People tend to be more antagonistic online.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/21 04:49 PM
1	A man who demands that his partner stops using sex toys is accused of everything from being insecure about his size to being an abusive partner, yet women who police their partners use of porn are seen as reasonable, proactive, and victims in the situation. Why? Thank you for accurately summarizing this sub and the conditions that make it possible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/21 10:07 AM
1	Because most men haven't figured it out yet, the reason most 'advice' seems a bit cuckoo... Dude, you're projecting your insecurities about your feelings onto women, talking about what they find attractive. How would you know? How many girls you ever opened up to? This is a debate sub. Your argument boils down to "well thats just your opinion, you be you". You've got nothing to back up your claim. Believe what you want, but don't preach it unless you've got something to back it up when challenged. Edit: Phone sent this twice	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/21 08:24 AM
1	Because most men haven't figured it out yet, the reason most 'advice' seems a bit cuckoo... "It’s common sense to take steps to reach a desired outcome." =It's common sense to suppress your real emotions during the grieving process to have sex with a girl who you worry may not accept you and your pain. Don't use vague metaphors to justify it. Own it. Fyi I'm not talking about me and my girl, though we are totally honest with each other that's frankly none of your business. I'm debating your claim that men in general should never cry in front of girls. So far your arguments have been va…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/21 07:26 AM
1	Because most men haven't figured it out yet, the reason most 'advice' seems a bit cuckoo... ’ll let you think that. You have in no way changed my opinion. Your comment made it sound like you had some say in what I think, "let" indicating permission. If my response was unclear, allow me to clarify; your argument is not convincing enough to have swayed me. No one said anything about being scared of women. You're right, they didn't. I said: I don't think being scared of girls not finding you attractive is particularly manly I said that because you seem to think girls finding you attractiv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/21 11:06 PM
1	Because most men haven't figured it out yet, the reason most 'advice' seems a bit cuckoo... "i’ll let you think that." You have in no way changed my opinion. Hide your tears from your partner if you are afraid she'll stop finding you attractive. I don't think being scared of girls not finding you attractive is particularly manly, but you do you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/21 08:55 PM
2	Plausible Deniability If a girl isn't funny or fun or passionate about something interesting then I'll probably find her boring, no matter how hot she is. If she's boring then I'm not willing to invest a lot of time in her just to have sex, I'm busy AF and Ive got better things to do. Even if they are interesting and attractive in some way, I'm not taking someone to dinner on a first date. Too formal and too much time to spend on someone I'm not sure about. Drinks, coffee, ice cream, walk in park, anything casual in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/21 08:52 PM
2	Because most men haven't figured it out yet, the reason most 'advice' seems a bit cuckoo... Crying all the time vs when your dog dies is not the same thing. Vast majority of girls and women I know would accept a man grieving, I don't know what culture you come from but I bet the male suicide rate is higher than average if men get scorned or rejected by women for crying when they grieve. End of the day youre still trying to A: paint crying as weak B: say that a womans finding you attractive is more importamt than dealing with grief healthily You can express your emotions however you wis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/21 07:04 AM
2	Because most men haven't figured it out yet, the reason most 'advice' seems a bit cuckoo... "Realistically, crying to a woman, as a man, is unattractive. In most cases, it will fuck you over. It’s advisable to avoid it entirely if possible" I was responding to this, because I believe it's an unhealthy attitude to preach.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/21 10:22 PM
2	Because most men haven't figured it out yet, the reason most 'advice' seems a bit cuckoo... That's how everyone should be is my point. We all get sad we should all have the right to express it in whatever way is healthy. Who the fuck tries to tell someone how to express their sadness. At this point in my life IDGAF if I live up to people's definition of manly or not, if my dog dies I'll cry right then and there and I don't care who sees me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/21 09:28 PM
1	Because most men haven't figured it out yet, the reason most 'advice' seems a bit cuckoo... Crying on a first date, definitely bad idea. Crying in front of your girlfriend or a girl you know well when something is really bothering you is fine, they get it. It's men who get uncomfortable when people cry around them cos we were taught to suppress that shit, but that's not womens fault.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/21 08:55 PM
3	Plausible Deniability Nothing in a date will make you decide to take it further with someone Of course it will that's the whole point of dating, to see if you both want to take it further. If they are not particularly interesting or nice or whatever (quoting myself) Why are you taking uninteresting mean women on dates in the first place? I think the difference between "not particularly" and "not" is pretty clear. There is a base level of interesting and nice which, if girls I find attractive meet, I might go on a dat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/21 08:10 PM
4	Plausible Deniability You've not caught what I'm saying, I'll try to explain better. Dates are where you decide if you want to go further with the girl that you're attracted to, not you trying to impress them into having sex with you no matter what. Obviously you find them attractive or else you wouldn't be on a date with them. If they are not particularly interesting or nice or whatever then I am not gonna stick around just to fuck them because they are attractive. There are plenty of other girls who I can spend tim…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/21 05:39 PM
8	Plausible Deniability I'm a man and I enjoy dates. Why would you not enjoy the company of attractive women? Even if there's no spark you get to know someone new, and sometimes they invite you to parties where you meet other girls you do click with. If you're chill with people, they'll be chill with you and if they aren't, they aren't worth your time anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/21 12:52 PM
8	Plausible Deniability I see what you're saying but the metaphor doesn't hold. To generalize, when it comes to sex guys are like microwaves and girls are like ovens. Ovens take more time to heat up but they also stay hot for longer. So girls tend to get hornier after their first orgasm, whereas guys tend to lose steam. If you can't show self-control and wait till she's in the mood before you have sex, then it comes across as unlikely that your going to make sure she's had her fun before having yours when you get down …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/21 08:48 AM
10	Plausible Deniability "Wasting away a night" "Enough money to blow on a girl" All I'm hearing is you want the quickest and cheapest path to sex, cos every minute and dime spent on a date is wasted. That about sum it up?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/21 08:21 AM
2	Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy? You lashed out and got called out man, stop taking it bad	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/21 08:59 AM
1	Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy? Nah man, you weren't speaking for me or any other men, just yourself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/21 08:43 PM
1	Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy? So if you are trying to hurt them with your reply, eye for an eye means they must have hurt you first right? I disagreed with the first commenter but they didn't hurt my feelings, stuff like that is easy to brush off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/21 08:29 PM
1	Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy? Easy. I talk to women all the time, and have seen hundreds of thousands of interactions between people of different genders in my life. A few arguments sure, but no war.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/21 08:19 PM
2	Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy? Sorry about your dad man. I imagine it must have been hard for you and your mum to go through that. I wouldn't base your beliefs about a such a large group on one individual though. I can recognize the oversized impact our parents have on our perceptions, I guess part of life is outgrowing other's perception of the world and forming our own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/21 08:15 PM
1	Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy? If every woman in America thinks of men like the women here do They don't. Some unsolicited advice, approach new people without prejudging them. It's really obvious when someone enters a conversation expecting hostility, they give off spoiling for a fight vibes that often lead to confrontration instead of conversation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/21 11:05 PM
11	Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy? I am always open for serious discussion Then why are you posting links to music videos Cause I'm being funny, snarky, and whimsical. ...Yeah, sure you are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/21 10:36 PM
7	Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy? Don't make that ban out to be a good thing. It's not a point scored for men against women, there is no gender war, and frankly you using it as a "gotcha" says more about you than it does about anything else	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/21 10:01 PM
1	Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy? All men? You really believe that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/21 09:58 PM
19	Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy? MGTOW Gotta say, when I see this men going our own way crap I always wonder if you guys are alright. It can't be healthy holding on to this much hate for women, and being so angry about feminism that you think there's a literal gender war? Don't you guys have sisters and mothers? There is no such war, only misandry and misogyny, and if you espouse one you are unwittingly contributing to the other. I am always open for serious discussion Then why are you posting links to music videos on youtube a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/21 09:53 PM
1	Why do single men over 40 desire relationships/partners more than single women over 40? I'm not looking for anything in particular, but this is a debate sub, so "back and forth" is kind of the norm here. I wonder what you mean by "people like me" but I respect your ability to set boundaries, if you don't feel comfortable talking like this on the internet then fair enough. I imagine you're more interested in internet karma than I am, in which case, best of luck to you, have a great week also!	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/21 06:15 PM
1	Why do single men over 40 desire relationships/partners more than single women over 40? I tend to question the objective of making that type of comment in the first place. Obviously we can do and say whatever we want, that's our prerogative, but if I insult someone online for holding a despicable viewpoint, then not only are they unlikely to agree with me and change their mind, I have likely reinforced that despicable belief by insulting the person instead of questioning the belief in a civil fashion. Once the trenches are dug and the first shots are fired no one is changing sides.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/21 03:25 PM
1	Why do single men over 40 desire relationships/partners more than single women over 40? I think you're absolutely right, dialogue is only possible when people are civil. I don't believe in insulting strangers on the internet, regardless of their views. I personally find the whole Incel philosophy to be pitiful and deeply misguided, but I try not to insult them because I don't see the point, they clearly already suffer from low self-esteem or they wouldn't subscribe to that philosophy. Angrily throwing a fit back at people throwing angry fits serves only to bring us all down to thei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/21 04:39 PM
–	Why do single men over 40 desire relationships/partners more than single women over 40? As an objective bystander, I must say that although you may be right to call out someone championing anecdotal stories over actual empirical research, the way you made your point is so	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/21 02:28 PM