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It gets so frustrating because it's almost like they're telling on themselves Even when they're hit with examples of men doing these things they'll just deny it or tell themselves that is still ultimately men's fault that our voices are heard because we made the patriarchy so we still have to fix it and on and on it goes Sometimes I wonder if they do realize that in any society all of its peoples contribute to all of its problems and some shape or form Both men and women contribute to sexism for…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/10/21 09:04 AM
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Kind of how I saw it too Even though I can understand the concern with the school system treating boys, as defective girls. But the other side is just as regressive as a young boy who's hyperactive will probably need guidance from someone who understands that and can work with him. It's not because he's going to be a future toxic abuser And just because a boy is more soft or sensitive or paints his nails does not mean he's going to be gay or feminine or weak or whatever and even if he is all of …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/10/21 08:46 AM
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This is kind of how I always saw it to be honest. The early ideas of democracy were probably something laughable to many old monarchs because they justified their rule by claiming they were chosen by God or descended by a God or another legendary figure So if you question them or the rule then you are basically questioning God Obviously that wasn't true but for so many people who were in the ruling class for so long to hold that belief ,of course they are going to hold some type of practices to …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/10/21 08:38 AM
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Part of what you said is also the problem Numbers just do not show that most men are such a danger that most women should be super vigilant Now that being said despite what feminists will tell you men and women are vastly different in terms of our biology and I can get why a lot of women will be wary of men since most women will be tinier and less strong than a man I would imagine both men and women are not meeting people who would be more incredible to them off this basis alone How many videos …
/r/ExRedPill16/10/21 11:41 PM
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This this is also what I figured as millennials have had less sex in previous generations and according to statistics most people including men and women will probably have less than 10 in their lifetime That excluding the partners men will up play or lie about because it's expected that man should have more experience and that of course also means that women will probably lie about the partners they had but they'll probably State they pay at least because of the same reasons But I have always s…
/r/ExRedPill16/10/21 10:50 PM
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As I get older I'm starting to think this too and it is really telling because I imagine this is how a lot of men probably do end up older without dates Cuz I've got an older I have realized that women now and in the past have showed interest in me but I was either not paying attention or focused on something else or did not believe them Combine that with the fact that women don't approach then of course you're going to have a bunch of men who feel like this Right now we need to change is that w…
/r/ExRedPill16/10/21 10:41 PM
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They were explaining what makes a good personality but I think that itself is subjective Are you the amalgamation of your traits and if so who decides which traits you have. Some physical and emotional traits are self-apparent but others aren't. Most of time people see me is probably at work where I'm usually very cheery. At home though might become more Stern. If someone called me cherry or Stern it would be accurate but it will only be so in both individual context. Dating itself is chaotic an…
/r/ExRedPill16/10/21 01:22 AM
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And my biggest question when pertaining to all of this is that who gets to decide who is holding which traits and if so how accurate and consistent are they Two people can look at one person with a very different lens When Jimmy's around Tommy, Tommy sees him as disciplined and having empathy But when Jimmy's around Michael, Michael sees him as lacking empathy and being lazy Both can be true at the same time and both can be false at the same time. So I wonder when it pertains to this conversatio…
/r/ExRedPill15/10/21 08:09 PM
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Ironically not to take women so seriously Which has been working a lot more in my life because when I was a feminist I wasn't crazy but I did feel like I have to be extra cautious around women especially being a big black guy but that was silly
/r/ExRedPill15/10/21 01:50 PM
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I used to be a male feminist. I used to hold these same beliefs you have After time and experience and getting exposed to more than one source I didn't realize that the things I grew up learning were indeed not true Most of the stuff was already in my face for years but I was ignorantly always thinking that the woman was always the victim and that's men do not experience the same types of bias but that was ignorant of me because that was wrong I have just as many good studies that you do confirm…
/r/ExRedPill15/10/21 12:54 AM
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The idea of emotional labor itself is silly but the idea that it is somehow a giant mental load that is warranted enough to actually give out articles and studies is what silly You notice how there's no articles mentioning the housework or who has to clean the gutters or who has to cut the grass or who has to repair things or who has to go out in the middle of the night and protect or search out whatever is harming or may harm the family The men standing outside that barbecue most likely were th…
/r/ExRedPill15/10/21 12:41 AM
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It's actually because of sexist norms is why that a man spending time alone with his kids is perceived as outside the norm Because of the equally sexist notion that women are more naturally attuned to be child rears and caretakers But yes the fact is so many men do get that type of comment is actually pretty sexist because we already attribute all of those traits to women because of the women are wonderful effect And no on average it does not before women because we do not know that for sure Oth…
/r/ExRedPill15/10/21 12:29 AM
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Now we're moving to go post because I really can't see the difference between mental load and emotional labor since they go one in the same. We are infinitizing women by keeping this type of narrative going by saying that they somehow extend more emotional labor. Emotional labor and physical labor and sacrifices and all types of things going relationships in both men and women contribute to those things You think a man working hard at a factory doesn't have a mental load or doesn't have to deal …
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 08:26 PM
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Right now everything you typed out can be attribute to men as well especially since the vision of Labor is also no longer like it used to be You're trying to make a case then makes it seem like women are just giving out more during relationship and I'm telling you that's just silly Like men do not have to remind women or other men or other family or friends to do things I'm 24 of my grandparents and even I have to remind my grandmother of certain things But I also don't think of it as some type …
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 08:25 PM
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It doesn't matter I could use billionaire or some other example but you probably would still disagree anyway It is that difficult because it does matter where you get it from and it does matter how it is perceived and I hate when people do not recognize this A super confident plumber versus super confident lawyer Who do you think is looked at more favorably? If 100 women have the choice between this confident plumber and confident lawyer with all other traits equal who do you think they would ch…
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 03:10 AM
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I just had two dates in the last 2 days I'm pretty sure that the girl I went out with saw some type of confidence or whatever you can call it in me but it's just not something that I would call myself myself And I'm sorry but you should have said your second paragraph first because that sounds completely normal and that's actually what I was trying to argue so we are in agreement on that I will admit that I by no means perfect and I am by no means perfect and who I pick as well. It just seems li…
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 03:03 AM
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I can easily say that about women Look deeper and stop looking two men as a scapegoat for your own sexist problems And it's a logical fallacy just to keep blaming men in the patriarchy and saying that it somehow men's fault. So long as there are women who do expect and even demand traditional roles from men and whether it is subconscious or not a lot of women still do The blame should really be given to all society as both men and women attribute to gender roles and other societal nonsense all t…
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 02:17 AM
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They make their wealth through already being connected to other billionaires and millionaires who are already in circles in their lives Once again exceptions do happen and there are tons of examples of self-made but those are way too far in between They are a perfect example of why I think it is all bs We set the standard that this is somehow the perfect person to be and all we need to do is follow their steps and be like them but if that was true then everybody would do it and everybody would g…
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 02:15 AM
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Millionaires a crude well through already having a connection through other millionaires and billionaires and I get tired of this narrative being passed around We all would love to think that if we lived in a just world we all worked hard and just did all the right things in the right outcome would happen but as someone who was that type of person you just typed out it's just not true You just describe 98% of both men and women Even the most highly functioning people and successful people I know…
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 02:08 AM
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Being universally successful in dating in life is not the same as being confident Confidence comes after chasing goals and not by succeeding necessarily but by surpassing certain fears or practicing enough on certain things and then there is the feeling of competence or I guess you could say feeling all right but I cannot for the life of me understand how this correlates to success in life and dating Some of the top billionaires in the world did not become billionaires because they work hard and…
/r/ExRedPill12/10/21 11:57 PM
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Honestly I think that's just holding me back is the fact that it is kind of a race Your teens and 20s are supposed to be the best time for dating because it's an opportunity for you to learn about yourself and other people but no one expects a young person to have it all together at such a young age so all of the focus should be on the soft skills of dating instead of the material but with how things are I kind of see it as the opposite now Ex girlfriend was a virgin just like me at the same age…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 04:31 PM
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I can easily say that to you my friend
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 04:12 PM
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With all things considered I do consider myself confident But I at this point even doubt that it really helps unless you have some type of social status already I have been continuously put in leadership positions since I became an adult even to the point where I did not want them. Even without the outside validation that right there tells me that other people see those traits in me. I have had dates and I have been on dates but I hate to use those as a measure of success or confidence also beca…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 04:12 PM
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And I'm telling you I have been through so many versions of what you just said I don't have any particular mindset of what you're speaking of but I am giving you my experience based off of averages and actual actions and actual reactions to what I have gotten I have pretty much all of one through seven down to a t and I know I'm not perfect but I also know who I am and what I like and what my interests are. That's what makes it so frustrating because you are replying with even more and yet it is…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 03:13 PM
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Everything you just said I have heard before And no lack of confidence isn't a turnoff in everybody and it depends on how you view it. I don't think I ever really judged a girl based off of how confident she appears or seems and even within this conversation I even doubt some of the women that have liked me in the past judged me on those metrics And judging by your logic I should be doing may better since I did come into my own and find my own confidence when I was younger. And if what you said …
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 02:44 PM
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Honestly when I was in Middle School this is exactly what I did because of everything that you said And I think that's where it manifest it's so strong is because we were all in the middle of puberty and the behavior really did show You are right because there is this weird conundrum to wear so many women obviously thrive off of male attention yet if they don't get it they will start tripping and complaining about why men are looking at them but if that does happen then they can also say how cre…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 02:27 PM
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At this point in my life I really question if it does help out or not And I wish everyone will stop saying that it is not going to be a magic bullet because no one in the right mind ever expected confidence to be a magic bullet and right now on my understanding this is exactly why I am frustrated because SO MUCH OF OUR DISCOURSE ON WHAT TO DO WITH DATING PAINTS THE PICTURE THAT IF YOU JUST FIND THIS MYTHICAL CONFIDENCE THAT YOU'LL BE ALL RIGHT BUT THAT CANNOT BE TRUE BECAUSE A LOT OF DIFFERENT P…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 02:23 PM
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I'm glad you said that and of course there is no magic bullet and that goes without saying But my problem with these advice is that it is spoken to someone as if it is supposed to be a magic bullet and it's also spoken as if confidence is somehow unique Despite popular belief most people are confident but what I think most people are describing with confidence in dating isn't just the fact that you have to trust yourself or be okay I really do think it is just a synonym for social status at this…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 02:20 PM
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And yet even as neurotic and insecure I am I still seem to attract women. No one on earth is 100% confident and most people are filled with crazy insecurities. I do find this crazy hypocritical because I have literally dated women who have tried to save logic with me while these women not so long before will give me entire Bible passages about their life story and all of their emotional You say it's a foundation to be built upon but I don't even think that is true because that suggests that if a…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 02:12 PM
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But the fact that people somehow expect this to be a magic bullet kind of proves this not to be true right If a guy objectively knows he is confident and has metrics that prove that, and still somehow end up dateless, then it really isn't just the ultimate key that people think it is but it also shouldn't be something that should just be stated in advice columns or stated as gospel when it comes to attracting women I don't think any man ever thought it was going to be XYZ but I do think what fru…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 08:36 AM
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You have to understand especially in the last couple of decades a lot of guys get paralyzed with this type of thing I always tell people that feminism was needed for the men who won't listen to it. Basically the men who need it aren't going to care at all, but the men who do care are going to be ears wide open and sometimes that does more damage than good The reason why I stated that some girls may not like it when you try to out something new because they may think you're getting at them is bec…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 08:33 AM
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Ironically in my experience I have had a bit of a mix of both I am very surprised with the amount of success I've had in spaces that were not nerdy spaces and I think that is because I can pull off socializing with these types of women because I'm super tall and just conventionally attractive enough and just socially savvy enough to survive No doubt when I have revealed that I am a visual artist some girls do get turned off. And it's always telling because before they meet me they usually expect…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 07:47 AM
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Something that helps me with my own misanthropy of people in general is that I got to remind myself that even though people may seem like they are better or have it together Almost everyone especially young girls just like young boys have crazy immature, wild, and downright nonsensical beliefs and insecurities about themselves in the world around them I remember giving a girl a compliment One Time by saying that she was cute in her reaction was so adorable but also very humbling and comforting S…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 07:20 AM
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I think I'm having some type of identity crisis or moral conflict over this because as I get older I am starting to wonder this myself I'm the son of two drug dealers and so far I have not followed down their footsteps but I have been surrounded by them in other drug dealers my whole life So far I'm still broke without a car because I am honestly trying to work honestly and slowly build my way back up to go back to school Just up the street. There is an entire trap House in all they do is move w…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 07:15 AM
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I do believe leagues exist but I also believe our own individual perceptions play a role as well I bet a bunch of men and women have probably passed up someone who is probably compatible or someone they are even attracted to because they have some type of perceived lack in a value that they hold dear For example I do enjoy an attractive woman. But if she cannot hold a conversation or can be decent to people then I just can't be with her. Now that has come from experience with dealing with both t…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 07:11 AM
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And even still if you do match a woman within these things or even surpass in some of these things, if you lack what she perceives to be valuable even if it's in one variable, I do believe that you would be discounted You do not know how many girls have literally said that I am too smart for them And it's hard to take it as a compliment because it's like a soft rejection because it's they're saying that even though I am intelligent and well spoken I still lack x y and z I literally went on two d…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 07:08 AM
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Unfortunately all of this is happening because it's not a proced reality Right now in our community the man that the women are picking is not only the men counter to what they claim they want but it's literally the man who has the most destructive capabilities Especially within the black community, as we are doing horrible in poverty and education and housing and economics And of course all of this leads to the drug and Hood culture Men know that they are not valued unless they are providing som…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 07:03 AM
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I was raised by nothing but single black women on both sides of the family Except for a few all the men they chose we're literally the worst toxic examples you can think of a black man And as cliche as it sounds I was the oldest boy and I was the only one who had the nerve to stand up to any adult so I got the brunt of most of the abuse and they're bitterness and resentment did transfer on me And it is not all their fault as the men have blame as well but this is something that I have noticed an…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 06:54 AM
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That is also apostles and I'm tired of getting perpetuated There are tons of men who value straight monogamous relationships and who do value a woman for more than just her body but those men are looked at as corny or weird or any other negative stereotype I have had some visceral reaction from women when I told them that I would rather be monogamous and I have been penalized for not gawking at beautiful women by both men and women
/r/ExRedPill10/10/21 08:44 PM
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The wage Gap does not take into account the types of jobs women choose to take and how many hours they work and etc
/r/ExRedPill08/10/21 10:01 PM
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I kind of feel the same way but I am getting slowly better Before I met my abusive exI actually was able to finally accept all of my traits and my emotions and after that I was pretty much swimming through life But after dating her and then going to red pill to try to figure out what I did wrong I didn't started to feel just like I did when I was in elementary school It makes you feel like everyone else is figured out some secret code and you're still stuck trying to figure it out meanwhile the …
/r/ExRedPill08/10/21 01:54 AM
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I literally just said that maybe what we were all taught was possibly wrong Believe me I understand what you're talking about and I understand the people give rejected and called names all the time but it is crazy for me to think that somehow black women are the most unattractive because........ Well I'm a black man and I have been attracted to tons of black women XD And I don't want to make it seem like it's not a big deal because I don't want to be insensitive but I just think that is a silly …
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 03:13 PM
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Finds me about supposed support or feminine subs is that they themselves believe so hard that they are fighting for equality and the idea of being good and yet whenever they encounter something that goes against what they think They turn off all their empathy and immediately going on the attack and it makes you wonder if they even believe in the things they are fighting for
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/10/21 03:04 PM
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This is how it's different Young black boys face the brunt of America's brutality because we are looked at as hyper-masculine and ultimately a threat despite the fact that we have given and benefited America in many ways and the stereotypes persists to the point that black men face danger in walking in different public areas Young boys are not allowed to just be young boys because now they have to face the brunt and weight of being a black man and if their father is out of the picture then they …
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 03:02 PM
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Maybe it's because a lot of things we were all talk electively may have been wrong You know intimate partner violence is 50/50 right and pretty reciprocal That's exactly how my home situation was. They did not come after my younger brothers but both my dad mom and stepdad came at me and abused me because I was the biggest and oldest and the only one who would actually stand up to them My mother has cut my stepdad twice without provocation My mother has cut me on both hands because she was trying…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 02:56 PM
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Or I was trying to be open and knowing that I am not perfect also I try to understand and relate instead of being combative like hell every man is told they are supposed to be Keep in mind I was 18 and 19 at this time and it was my first relationship I doubt you had it all figured out and could understand when you first had your first relationship And believe me these are the same things I tell grown men and women. If you keep coming across the same type of person maybe you need to evaluate your…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 02:51 PM
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I agree with that notion also but this is something someone else told me on this sub They called me something and I told them just because they say it does not make it true they respond to me with "You don't get to decide what your traits are other people see that in you" I mean look at how nice guys are criticized If a man told you he was just a good man or a nice man or a hard-working man or a non-toxic man do you think most people would believe him Believe me for years people said I was going…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 02:50 PM
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It's not about getting laid and it never has been It's really about forming a connection and nowadays A lot of people are more into hookups than traditional dating and I bet that's how most relationships for connections form in the first place I'll be honest I'm really not the type of guy that wants to mess around with a lot of women but so far in my experience a lot of women around me are doing just that and it does feel like I have to keep up to be a player in this game And I know a bunch of w…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 02:36 PM
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I think that's a little unfair because just like how women don't know if a guy is genuine or not until they meet him it's kind of the same thing for us but a little different Like if a man sees potential in a woman and can look past a certain thing he will probably put in more effort naturally because we get rejected way more often and even when we do get accepted we still have to be the forbearers of actually putting an effort in the day and the relationship And sometimes you get caught up in a…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 02:23 PM
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To be honest you kind of sound like one of those people just judging off your reply Toxicities are pretty easy to spot and you say that you do not know what a toxic person is like because you repel these people because you are not toxic Now I'm a big advocator of not letting anybody define you but I have also heard that you should not just attribute rights to yourself because other people are supposed to do that for you So I asked you how do you know that you are toxic unless someone has told yo…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 02:19 PM
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And see your reply is exactly why it's BS First of all it is an absolute lie that men do not get criticized in bullied and bash like women Ever since I was a kid if I even raised my voice or even made an attempt to defend myself against anybody male or female they will get threatened I'm a big black man and you do not know what it is like from the time you are young to be looked at as some type of threat or troublemaker We attack men over everything and how they looked to what they believe to ho…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 02:15 PM
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I have never donated money to any content creator and I don't think I will in the future And that is not the only reason why because I also try to gain some type of knowledge from him And once again some of the stuff he says is crazy and sometimes I do watch it just for a laugh but that is not the only reason why I watch him The way he describes relationships seems a little bit transactional but it does make me think about the future and what I should expect from myself or future wife A lot of t…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 02:08 PM
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I understand you guys get criticized but nowhere near the level into the much visceral that we do I was getting ear fools of speeches from teachers to parents to family members alike about behavior that somebody in their own past did that I did not even do And this happened from a young age on. Until you live your life as a black boy in America please do not tell me anything And regarding your number 2. It could be easily argued that a lot of radical feminists have this mindset or at least think…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 02:05 PM
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He has criticized men plenty of times
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 03:08 AM
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And how many feminist articles or videos are talking points also do this exact same thing to men Take men's problems in deepest darkest secrets and somehow twist them and make it seem like these men are super evil or ugly and then laugh at them How many times are short men told that they get rejected not because that they are short but because they are somehow bitter or evil for not accepting that they are short And I say that as a man who 6'6 He's doing all of that because that's exactly what i…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 03:07 AM
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It's not an act they just want to act like it's all stupid or that he somehow just evil because they cannot accept the heaps maybe telling somebody the truth or something that can help For the last four decades Plus men's voices have been silenced And the ones who say they are the most Ally to us really aren't helping us The black community is 70% children born at a wedock and that is most likely to single mother We as a community think we have all the answers and speak on what we should do but …
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 03:05 AM
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Who are you all to get to decide who's a man or a boy It is so crazy and ironic in such a subreddit like this to think that we're now policing who is supposed to act like a man or not It's just a sexist as anything you think Kevin does
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 03:03 AM
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Believe in any pill but so far to my knowledge I do know there is a perfect pill debate Right now with all my beliefs pertaining to both men and women you can say that I am purple I still want to be me and I still advocate the people should be themselves and fight for it even though they may not fit into our society but I am also a pragmatic person and I know that sometimes you do have to go with the flow a little bit Believe me ever since I was a kid I hate it feeling like I somehow had to be b…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 03:01 AM
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Believe in any pill but so far to my knowledge I do know there is a perfect pill debate Right now with all my beliefs pertaining to both men and women you can say that I am purple I still want to be me and I still advocate the people should be themselves and fight for it even though they may not fit into our society but I am also a pragmatic person and I know that sometimes you do have to go with the flow a little bit Believe me ever since I was a kid I hate it feeling like I somehow had to be b…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 03:01 AM
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Honestly instead of seeking a healthy masculinity I will try to find a masculinity that pertains more to you as an individual Everybody and their mother and cousin will have a different answer about what a man should be and in my opinion even entertaining some of these answers is not what we would describe as manly and my own personal growth never exceeded itself until I actually started living for me and for going anything resembling something that would be masculine or feminine So basically do…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 01:47 AM
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So I do realize that this can extend to everyone right. Don't get me wrong I know there are tons of amazing smart educated go-getter women who have amazing lifestyles and hobbies but a lot of these things are things a lot of people already do and shouldn't really be seen as something amazing Also that is like this there are at least three more who are completely absent of any type of intellectual or artistic or even athletic pursuit I've been guilty of this. But if we are all agreeing to the not…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 12:51 AM
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See my problem with this type of rebuttal is that men can say the same thing about women pertaining to what is supposed to be like and accepted I'm one of those men who actually do care about women's intellectual pursuits and hobbies but ironically the same women don't seem to care about mine nor see them as a positive like I do So I kind of agree with the op and even though I know it's not every woman and everybody's different but for the most part a lot of women, do put in low effort and think…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 12:36 AM
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I've had some experiences like that and I have been on both sides to where I have dated a girl who was all into me but super clingy
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 12:17 AM
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That's the thing though even the normal and well-adjusted girls who are not mean or antagonistic or steel falling victim to ideas that are harmful I've caught many of my friends doing it And these girls are not me and they're not sexist but it's so easy just to subscribe to the idea of feminism and girl power because it's what's popular and trendy and no one ever questions it I don't even subscribe to any pill anymore because I'm trying to learn more how to just live for me again but all of this…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/21 11:25 PM
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I'm sorry it's just hard for me as a man to really take that seriously because so far it seems like a lot of women just want their man to seem better than them Like I read one story that a woman divorced her husband because he makes like 20,000 less than her Keep in mind she makes $600,000 a year Objectively it wouldn't make sense because doesn't matter who's making more especially if she and her husband are making so much money and not only that but the similar amount of money Or is it just nat…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 10:41 PM
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Like seriously how many times have women or feminists use their experiences or anecdotal experiences to shut down the conversation or to excuse their bad behavior "Well that's always been my experience with men" "Me and other women experience this"
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 09:41 PM
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Once again all of that could be attributed to the feminine side as well And the thing is I did not want to like Kevin Samuels when I first heard of him because it seemed like it would be another stereotypical alpha male guru but he's also giving other knowledge and skills besides dating especially pertaining to our community which is very important The black community would like to think we have helped in the Democrats and with the left leaning side of politics but the truth is we don't A lot of…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 09:40 PM
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Everything you just said can be implied to girl power or feminism or anything like that and as a young black boy he was also brainwashed I'm glad I was able to get away from that Right now the narrative is that black men are just evil and trashy and that's why so many black women are single but the numbers just do not add up That can be applied to just men and women in general In high school I had a friend who was everything a young black girl should at least emulate She was on the debate team a…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 08:59 PM
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Believe me as a guy I actually wish the girls would go more slower when it comes to sex but the type of women I attract literally have some type of BBC p*** fetish and think that black men are supposed to be ready to go all the time So believe me everyone has a different experience when it comes to that so that right there I know can't be true about the sex thing because I am a man who also shares the same sentiment What I'm trying to say is a lot of these things we think are bare minimum or the…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 08:54 PM
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I think he's popular because he actually says what a lot of men which they could at least get across but because of our current culture it's like a powder keg because a lot of people cannot differentiate criticizing women's behavior and demonizing women You got to realize that young men get demonized from a young age even before they have the ability to even become the villainous men that society thinks they will be When I was younger a lot of my family members tried to shame me into thinking I …
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 08:44 PM
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If you want to help people in the radicalize them maybe use some language and ask questions that don't feel so antagonistic and judgmental A lot of the reasons why a lot of young men go to the red pill is actually because so much common advice that's already given either doesn't work or makes things worse How many nice guys were the actual genuine nice good and hard-working individuals before they got way too many rejections or got played too much. I am doing way better about it now but the reas…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 08:38 PM
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All of that sounds nice and easy but for every woman who says this there's another woman who does believe that a man needs all these flashy things The question was social status not what type of money he makes or if he's working or not
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 03:00 PM
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They already do but because of a combination of women being seen as more favorable and more deserving of empathy men are viewed as the opposite It's already expected from young boys to be self-serving self-sufficient and to have self-reliance and not to rely on anybody and if you show any emotion outside of what is considered the correct masculine social script and then you're deemed as weird or inferior I hate when people say this because it's disingenuous because there's no right answer and it…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 02:54 PM
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Sometimes you can have all of this and still become bitter because it's just that different for us I was raised by nothing but women and I'm pretty conventionally attractive but I still get better because of just how different it is because girls are so fickle and can reject you over something as stupid as your shoes or the color of a shirt It's too unfair and too disingenuous just to say that we can judge a guy based off his attraction levels and then somehow assume if he is emotionally mature …
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 02:48 PM
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If you take a set of twins. One a boy and one a girl. By the time they are 18 that twin girl will have way more opportunities for love or romance then that boy will because she is not going to have to learn how to walk up to a group of men and learn how to socialize with them and escalate and seduce and sweet talk them into a relationship or sex or whatever Don't get me wrong it does happen when the woman does lead sometimes and not every 18-year-old boy is just a lost cause but it's just that b…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 02:44 PM
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That's asking the wrong question because whether it's because of biology or society most men are going to have to look at it from a scarcity mindset and I doubt most women actually care in real time I don't think any of my ex-girlfriends actually cared about my struggles or opinions regarding this type of thing
/r/ExRedPill05/10/21 02:40 PM
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It is I don't agree with everything he says as a man and some of the things he says just sounds kind of arcade but I'm glad he does bring a lot of women on and ask him challenging questions so men could actually see how these women think about them Whenever a lot of women describe men it's always in the air of negativity And I get it as I have had some bad relationships but when so many women talk about so many men and negative like I have to question whether getting their criteria from because …
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 04:05 PM
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Look at you see how this is bad for everybody because there's no incentive to actually be a good person or to be stable especially considering the fact of so many women when they young like the rebellious guy but then later want the stable guy and as a stable guy a lot of us are not finding this attractive or something good and would rather not date than just to have a woman who seemed adamant on dating the wrong man only to give up on that when she's older and then choose a more stable guy This…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 04:02 PM
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I don't really subscribe to feminism anymore as a black man because there are just as many sexist notions crimes biases and things that just should not exist that exist for men too so instead of feminism it should really be called egalitarianism And you also are short-sighted into thinking that everybody is just ignorant and doesn't think beyond what they are taught or shown and for the most part I see that changing but you also have to remember not every man and woman does this And just because…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 05:16 AM
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Also when you are literally a big black dude who year after year has been told by people of all ages that he needs to do X y and z because he's big You do start to question and analyze gender roles and why people act the way they do People for years always treating me as if I was older more dangerous and more physically able and that does make sense given our culture Black men are looked at as bigger older and stronger than the wider counterparts even when they aren't I know me and I know I'm no…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 03:52 AM
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Of course we follow the patterns but that is something that I will say I'm confident in breaking To give you perspective I am a big black dude from the hood but I'm also a big black dude who enjoys art in history and poetry and draws and paints on the side It took me until I was 16 to actually be comfortable with myself because young black boys and boys in general are told that anything that resembles emotion or frilly things or anything outside of what's considered manly, well is considered unm…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 03:48 AM
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It still happens post high School believe me
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 03:43 AM
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I'm a young black dude from the hood so a lot of that was going to be inevitable because it's intermixed with our racial politics Most black men are raised by black women which means a good portion of men in America are raised by women so you can imagine these subset of men probably heard this time in and time out But look at the black community and you will see not every relationship is healthy and a lot of our relationships end up breaking down and the children suffer in the end Right now ever…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 03:42 AM
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Some people do see past it but that doesn't mean it actually helps them When I was a kid I figured all these gender nonsense was BS but I still grew up in witnessed all types of men and women still living up to feminine and masculine roles and I still saw both men and women get socially penalized for not living up to those roles I'm still very much a feminist in my heart but I don't call myself that because it's very different from the academia or television or media driven definition of feminis…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 03:37 AM
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Or they have spent time around women and find that the things they were taught or the things that were said to work aren't working so they go to the red pill I was a feminist and I was raised by nothing but women on both sides of my family but after I got to college I noticed that I was still treated badly whenever any social Norm pertaining to my masculinity popped up and this happened from even the most progressive and feminist women so I had to start questioning whether feminism was right Now…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 03:34 AM
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It's not patriarchy I'm not an MRA but I also was a feminist so I'm more in the middle now but a lot of these things whether it be patriarchy or anything else are never as simple as just stating them Every single woman and man will have different experiences and interactions that will all be different from the rest A man is still expected to act like a 1950s version of a man and that is basically to always pursue and be stoic and never show emotion but also seduce and attract and escalate with w…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 03:31 AM
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Because whether it is biological or social or cultural men and women are treated different and very different metrics in society whether it be socializing or your job or in this case dating Men already know that women are people but men are also still expected to pursue and seduce and be bold and to lead interactions with women and that's where we get a lot of this frustration When it comes to intersexual Dynamics especially when it comes to socializing it's hard not to see the difference in how…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 03:28 AM
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And that's one of the most disingenuous things I get for most people and including this sub because nobody wants to actually have an honest conversation about that that does not go into blaming men somehow Like I stayed in my other reply 18 year old women do this to 18 year old men who have the same level of maturity and experience they do but because they are women they somehow get a social pass because of that. This is the type of thing that compounds on itself because while virginity doesn't …
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 01:13 AM
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Well I guess you could say my room is a little cluttered right now as I have everything on my table Now that is very reasonable and I'm not saying that is a bad thing It's just every time I hear somebody rattle off this standard it's always the same person who never lives up to it. I'm not saying it's you but I just find this behavior in too many people Somebody wants somebody emotionally strong yet they are not Or somebody wants someone who is financially stable when they are not Heck and just …
/r/ExRedPill03/10/21 02:16 PM
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I did it's just that a lot of answers seem to disappoint me because it seems so cliche and it seems like just a talking point that gets repeated because it's popular right now Right now The stereotype of the stupid sitcom dad seems to permeate culture and a lot of people seem to believe it in real life Last night at my job I read off some of these answers to a female coworker and she disagrees with a lot of them I asked her if she thinks that most men are useless and only do the bear minimum and…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/21 02:11 PM
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Virgin shaming is real and it's probably one of the most glaring hypocritical examples of men still being held to a certain standard despite us living in a feminist world where we're supposed to be breaking down gender roles and not being so judgmental on these type of things but it still happens To give an example I was virgin shamed by my first girlfriend who was also a virgin I have been virgin shamed from the age of 12 by other 12-year-old virgins Even other virgins will do it to other virgi…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/21 02:07 PM
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Virgin shaming is real and it's probably one of the most glaring hypocritical examples of men still being held to a certain standard despite us living in a feminist world where we're supposed to be breaking down gender roles and not being so judgmental on these type of things but it still happens To give an example I was virgin shamed by my first girlfriend who was also a virgin I have been virgin shamed from the age of 12 by other 12-year-old virgins Even other virgins will do it to other virgi…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/21 02:07 PM
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And see this is where I have to disagree because I can get what you're saying but there is a difference between guys making moves and guys making moves and succeeding Most guys already do this but because of the fact that dating is chaotic not every guy wants to take a chance and put themselves out there even if there are obvious cues Example there is this very nice Latino woman who I'm pretty sure is into me. And she's just my type but I still have so many unknown variables before I have to go …
/r/ExRedPill03/10/21 02:39 AM
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I get that but what I'm saying is I'm questioning the one behind the statement I'll give you an example of my own personal life that should be taken with a grain of salt but I see this type of behavior in a lot of different people as well I have a family member who talks non-stop about cleaning up but never seems to get around it and every time they do they only replace one area of the house with another one The same family member installed new cabinets and got a new table and within 2 days it w…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 10:20 PM
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Honestly I think one of the biggest reasons is because of my height and size and that's probably the first thing women notice but a lot of women have made it known that they do fine my race attractive but even with those women I got a vet because there's a difference between finding your race beautiful and then fetishizing your race . Of course there may be other things but that's the first thing I can think of. I haven't told I am very kind and a good listener and funny and all that stuff but I…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 10:13 PM
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I kind of get it but at the same time I kind of find a crazy because when I was younger I kind of thought the opposite in that if I had a bunch of material things but no knowledge or skill set then I would be judge harshly but now I kind of feel like I'm in the opposite state of life These past couple of years have not been good but because of those years I feel way more wise and mature. People frequently tell me that I have an old soul but that could be taken with a grain of salt because I'm no…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 09:39 PM
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And I already do that I think most people do that but there is a select few people who seem to love being disrespectful and it's hard to discern from them as I get older because it comes in layers This is something I argue a lot about with personal family members because we were all raised up on these values but talking about it and speaking about it to children is different from actually walking the walk and doing it yourself
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 09:22 PM
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That is putting effort in All those things are called being a minimalist That broke person moving out in going into some old persons room and renting it out is making progress but once again what people really mean by making progress and putting effort in is basically looking the best and having the best things
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 09:17 PM
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It's bad advice because it sets itself up as a guarantee And it also assumes that most people aren't already doing some version of this advice Do not keep saying that all women want this X y and z because of that is true then all the guys that exhibit XY and z would not have any problems Woman on the monolith North are men and that goes without saying but this makes me so frustrated because so many young men take this type of advice to Heart.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 09:12 PM
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I completely agree and I think this is really something we all should recognize My idea of a compatible life partner is going to be very different from the next dudes and I also know from being a person who did not start out so well in The game of Life, that everybody has issues and hurdles. Absolutely nobody is an island and there's not a man or woman on earth who has not succeeded without any sliver of help Something that is good and everyone should know because it's supposed to be humbling bu…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 09:05 PM
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There is almost a near female equivalent of this list you rolled out and most of this really has to do without being socially aware and having any humility It's mostly women that do things like talk about their standards all the time. I have turned down women for trying to use me for sex so it is not just a female only thing
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 09:00 PM
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See my problem with the whole standard that women won't respectful men but not pushovers is that if that was true the most men would be in relationships Despite what common discourse or the culture says most men are not idiots or worthless and most men do try their best. Granite not every man is going to win every battle all the time and you can't fight and win against every other man all the time so I do think that we need to ease up on our expectations of men especially when we're thinking in …
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 08:59 PM
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What I am saying is the standards are subjective in themselves and what could be lowered or raised up is also subjective I want a a smart and compassionate woman but my idea of smart or compassionate may be different from what you are probably thinking or what is the common definition But to a random woman she may feel like she has all those tricks already but even though I don't recognize it as so that does not mean that I should be able to take away those traits from her just because they don'…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 08:54 PM
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And that's the hardest part about falling in love or getting a relationships is that we want to be balanced and let our partners be themselves yet at the same time we don't want to be disrespected I find all of this crazy because I thought the relationship was supposed to be a team ever type of thing but our modern dating makes it feel like our significant other will potentially be another enemy or someone to hurt us and I really don't like that. And I'm sorry and I apologize if I seem like I am…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 08:51 PM
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That's a sign of the abuse because all those negative emotions and behaviors are mixed up with positive things like love and respect I do not respect nor love nor want my old abuse of ex back and neither should you but everybody's situation is different
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 08:42 PM
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Most people already do that and in my own opinion a dirty house should not be on the top five of things on most people's concerns but that is just me but I have my own history with that type of thing I grew up with a mother who cared more about how the house looked than the actual people in the house and even still it never stayed clean because of how frantic she was By also was the oldest son and my brother was autistic and that does not make cleaning very easy And I can understand your whole t…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 03:31 AM
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Exactly and I say that as someone who has worked on his confidence and went from being mercilessly bullied to being called a leader Hell I would argue most people who you would think as losers still have some confidence But there's a difference between being a lower class and having confidence in being higher class of having confidence and I think that's what most people mean when they say men should have confidence And by confidence I really think that's just another substitute for social statu…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 01:46 AM
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Let's see you don't have to Nobody no matter what is old respect or thoughtfulness or anything and you could be the best person ever and still be disrespected and not thought about We'd like to think that respect is something that is supposed to be given up front but that is wrong as you don't have to respect anything Respecting something just because you're supposed to or told you supposed to is not respect This is the same problem I have in my own personal life with my father and other adult f…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 01:04 AM
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The biggest problem I see with all genders and all forms of how we all relate or fall in love is that we all seem to think that we're all masterminds of the universe and that we can somehow play this mystical game of chess and end up a winner and not get hurt while playing the other party The crazy thing is though these are relationships we're talking about where you want the other person to actually like you and love you for positive reasons and not anything crazy But so far all I see is both m…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 12:14 AM
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But you can understand that having this point also kind of reinforce the idea to not be able to trust in relationships if you have to get yourself to the point that you have to be okay with somehow being cheated on because then at that point then it is not worth it So far I've been cheating on twice and on the second time I am still surprised at how well I took it But that's the most heartbreaking thing to me is that you should not have this feeling be normal nor should you have to treat relatio…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 12:05 AM
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I don't understand anti-feminism part We all should be egalitarian to but feminism is not that
/r/ExRedPill01/10/21 09:36 PM
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