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Discussiondeletbait/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 11:42 PM
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I've been reading more lately and while I have enjoyed the books I've been reading, well with a few exceptions. This experience has strengthened my belief that the stories in games aren't any worse on average then books or movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:59 PM
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Men love dating women who are physically attractive. I don't think men hide this. Alot are openly shallow or even if they aren't shallow will still admit they dated some crazy woman because the sex was amazing. I find that men are just more honest about what attracts them though admittedly some aren't self aware enough at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:49 AM
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Watching people on here defend the all digital gaming future annoyed me quite a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:18 PM
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I've been re-watching high-school of the dead with my gf since she like fanservice so much. Honestly it's better then I remember and it makes me feel nostalgic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:45 PM
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Oh I know it's not healthy I've just learned of a small group of women that do that and also don't sweat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:29 PM
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Can someone be dehydrated for most of their life and only subsist on juice and soda?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:10 PM
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I learned something obvious yesterday. If you’re dehydrated you don't sweat or maybe it's something that only happens when your consistently dehydrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:58 AM
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Yeah speaking from experience I think bi people are just bound to have preferred sexes. Like I prefer women but I'm still attracted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:06 PM
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Eh probably but I think it's worth trying
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:11 PM
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Yeah I don't care if those women are hurting the men's feelings. The impotent part is that there are only 20 people left on the earth and 6 of those 20 aren't fucking. The species is on it's last legs and their over here being picky. I don't if it's the men or the women being picky they're an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:36 PM
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The better question is why we bisexuals are so set on dating monosexuals. For similar reasons autistic men are dead set on dating neurotypical women. Most people are straight and most women a bi male will try to date are going to be straight. Combine this with bi women also having their own prejudice against bi men and it makes dating very difficult unless you're primarily attracted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:15 PM
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I thought it was common for bi people to marry some of the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:02 PM
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I have no issue when bugs land in me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:44 AM
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What are you refering to?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:42 AM
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There was some study or survey I remember reading that basically found that promiscuous women don usually sleep with alot of men. They basically find 2 men they like fucking and stick to them. They just seemingly have to interest in relationships so if one of those men gets a gf then they have to find a replacement.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:40 AM
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Working retail for four years has lowered my opinion of people in general. I used to be confused why companies would always try to appeal to the lowest common denominator of person since I figured your average person wasn't that stupid. If I just go by my experiences at work the average adult is messy, never looks up, is functionally illiterate, and can't do math. Edit: Also there is subsect of people who will shop through any circumstance. We once had a blackout and we still had 4 or 5 people w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:23 PM
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There are easier ways to get sex outside of a marriage. This isn't true. As man who couldn't find a woman to have sex with him for most of my adult life it's extremely difficult to have sex. Hookups and fuck buddies are only accessible to you if your physically attractive, charismatic, have some kind of quality that makes up for your lack of those two. Sex work isn't a viable option in the US as it's extremely expensive (seriously I don't think people know how expensive it is), and very hard to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:41 PM
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When I was single 40%. Now it's 1-2% as my gf is very very clingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:30 AM
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Those women are absolutely options for the average man. What makes you certain about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:17 AM
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Last month my gf and I went to my bestfriends birthday at an arcade. She was confused why I wasn't dressed up and why I didn't have a present. I had to explain that it wasn't some kind of high class event so there wasn't a need to get dressed up and that no one gets my birthday gifts (besides her that is) so I guess I natrually never thought to get anyone else one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:51 PM
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I would think worse of her and my opinion of him wouldn't change.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 10:58 AM
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then do you see how women can think being seen as “wifey” is also not a compliment Maybe though I can't remember the a time I heard some guy say "wifey material" or "Wife material" they usaly only talk about that when a woman ask them about it. From what I’ve heard and read, these are the reasons some ladies think “wifey material” isn’t a compliment: “He must think I’m going to be a bang maid. A cook. A baby incubator. A submissive house elf who defers to his Lordship.”Thoughts? I have quite lit…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:18 PM
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Apologies I couldn't tell you agreeded
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:03 PM
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I mean they're right. Logically speaking you should date in college. It's the most optimal time to do so as long as you know what your doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 02:09 PM
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It works but is faulty and if I was a woman I wouldn't rely on it to keep me safe. 80 - 90% is the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 02:07 PM
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One of my bestfriends who is, in his owm words, a former fuckboi. He has terrible taste in women. He's gotten into his fair share of personal drama and alot of it has been because he was thinking with his dick. Whenever the topic of women choosing better gets brought up I always think of a conversation we had where I told him to try and find what the girls he's into have income and go for different things. I didn't say verbatim he should choose better but the spirit of it is all the same. Men sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:41 AM
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Actually I think men should choose better as well. I think it's fair to say that if a guy keeps dating crazy chicks he should choose better. If you have options choose the best option. If you can only love the worst choice then that sound like a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:21 AM
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Q4A do you believe a black or red piller getting into an actual committed relationship would blue pill them?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:14 AM
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Help with what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 10:06 AM
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If you count sex workers 5 times if you don't count them then zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 07:21 PM
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I have a gf I'm just getting tired of windows
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 09:59 PM
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I had to reinstall windows today. I spent an hour trying to troubleshoot my way through my issues only to have to reinstall windows anyway. I'm switching to Linux tonight.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 05:45 PM
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Is there a problem with the lady? Seems fine to me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:50 PM
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I saw your other reply about your anxiety and height. So when I was 27 I actually did lose my virginity to a stripper so I have experience being in this situation. I've also been with a few different sex workers after that. Right off the bat it didn't completely fix my anxiety. It did help me confirm that my dick did work enough for sex so that was nice and there really isn't anything that holding a naked woman in your arms. But overall the experience is generally hit or miss. I would say that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:14 PM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:03 PM
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Tell me scholars of PPD how do you think we should fix the Gen-Alpha and Gen-Z reading crisis?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:48 PM
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Q4W Can you do 1 push up?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:28 PM
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I think it's a bit disingenuous to say they want to be fucked and are gay. But I don't there are many men who would object to having doors opened for them and have everything paid for by some else. At least I know I'd be down for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:27 PM
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I don't think it exist and it means nothing for me. Even if it did I'm not sure how it would actually effect me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 05:53 PM
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Good I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 05:49 PM
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It's all whimsy and fun until she gets a friend to read her palm and is convinced your cheating on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:34 PM
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This is a personal question but how much do you think you're parents made when you were a kid? That post about class has me wondering about what class people here were when they were developing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:41 PM
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There's been some road work going happening ok my block and so one end of the street is blocked off. This hasn't stopped mail person from delivering our mail but it did stop FedEx twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:50 PM
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Friend's are not eaiser to make and maintain then romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 07:02 PM
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What podcast are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:15 PM
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I would and alot of women do
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 06:48 PM
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While I agree with you overall how is point one a benefit for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:46 PM
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Right? I think they think sex = love in a relationship No, I'm fully aware that a woman lusting over me doesn't mean she loves me. I just have no real interest in being a romantic relationship without lust. Especially now that I've experienced being lusted over in my current relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:40 PM
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You put it better then I could. While friends are nice I would rather just be lusted over as sex is a stronger need for me. Both is optimal though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:26 PM
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Q4A what age did you get your first job? My first job was a summer camp consular in high-school but I don't really mention it if anyone ask. Instead I usually bring up being a janitor at a middle school when I was 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 06:47 PM
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He's talking about a pre-op trans woman not one with a strap-on. I would question the sexuality of any straight man dating a pre-op trans woman honestly. I'm not saying they're gay but probably bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 12:52 PM
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Idk my gf would be angry about this I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 05:56 AM
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My gf sniffs me. I don't mean like she smells me a little I mean she sniffs me similarly to a dog. She'll take one big wiff and then start quickly sniffing other parts of my body. According to her I smell amazing and it drives her crazy. It was one the reasons she was interested in me. She's not talking about cologne, since I don't wear that, she just means my natural smell. It was apparently very distracting while we were talking. The taste of my sweat also drives her crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:42 PM
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Yeah I would say it's harder for others to spark chemistry with me and I have never been terribly charismatic. I've always felt rather alien and disconnected from other people. Plus everyone I know seems to pick up on the same "otherness" I seem to give off.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:52 PM
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Answering your title. Yes I find maintaining interpersonal relationships hard but necessary. Don't exactly get the constant urge to call or hangout with my friends. The only friend I really talk to everyday is a girl I met on discord a few years ago. Everyone else is spotty. This is probably in part due to me just being a loner by nature so I'm used to finding place to be alone. The other reason is probably because this is just how everyone has treated me my whole life. Growing up people rarely …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:33 PM
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In hindsight Idk just total honesty maybe. It would sometimes come up when we were talking about past relationships and I would mention my difficulties dating. But other times she would just wake up in the morning and send me a message about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 09:32 PM
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Yeah in my admittedly limited experience a woman either wants to fuck you and will do so or she doesn't and won't. Anything in between is just an elaborate no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 05:12 PM
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Someone telling you that the food you made is good is external validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 05:04 PM
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Q4A What make someone slutty? Is the number of people someone has slept with? Is it how easy they slept with those people? Do you have different standards for men or women?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 02:25 PM
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I think a large amount of things sometimes they're horrible amd sometimes they aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 12:41 PM
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Can you explain what "Sex is necessary but insufficient" means exactly? If they mean sex is a necessary component to a relationship but insufficient to base a relationship on I would agree but I don't really know since there isn't an explanation. wouldn’t be constantly accused of hating sex because I said “If you’re mainly interested in sex, a relationship really isn’t your main goal”. I personally wouldn't say you hate sex nor have I really seen anyone say that to you. I do think people can be …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 07:09 PM
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While I agree with people arguing that there's more to relationships then sex. Sex is still extremely important in a relationship unless both people are asexual. I mean I'm sure everyone's relationship is complex and varied but if that complex relationship wouldn't have started or progressed without sex then yes sex is extremely important. In my mind if you wouldn't jump into a sexless relationship from the start then you shouldn't be making arguments about how other things are more important. N…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 02:03 AM
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Not really as I don't think polyamorous people are pretty common. I've never met anyone who's polyamorous and I obly run into it online.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 01:46 AM
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Not everyone is consenting since I doubt those guys girlfriends are consenting to their boyfriends fucking a different woman
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:57 PM
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Kinda bored but good
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:36 PM
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And she will keep doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 05:25 PM
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Random thought but I can't say getting into a relationship has made women pay more attention to me. I mention this because there will always be these threads on reddit asking why women pay more attention to them when they're in a relationship. I've been with my gf for close to 5 months and haven't noticed any changes. Not that I want this to change since I already have a gf. I just thought it was interesting how my experience in this differs
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:15 AM
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I do that with women and women irl say not to listen to online women 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 01:07 AM
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Thanks to a thread in askmen I just realized the raise in single parent households means there are alot of women who have little to no idea about guys until that get their first bf. Unless that have a brother, step dad, or male cousin they're close to they're probably clueless.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 08:38 PM
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Some reddit users really should be getting professional help rather then post threads on the site.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 05:01 PM
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Mental retardation
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:38 PM
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I hate to butt in but you made a typeo correct? You meant the guys getting hookups aren't asking right? Which I agree with for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:34 PM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:08 PM
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It's not bait she's just like that I think
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:08 PM
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It’s so funny watching guys here and in the red pill blame victims of abuse for not choosing better and how a lot of single moms didn’t choose better. I don't blame victims for their abuse. Though I will say I do think alot of single mothers situation could have have been improved if they choose better. So you got me there. I woulf say the same is true for single fathers by the way. But as soon as relationship minded women realize they should make sure the guy they’re dating is not a piece of sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 05:22 PM
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I think it cocksicle maybe
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:46 PM
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Proof? Anyone else complaining about that? This is my experience as well. I've never matched with a real person on tinder and I live right next to NYC. And like I start running out of unique profiles in 3 to 4 days.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:33 PM
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sexual moderation/consideration What do you mean by this?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:52 AM
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I have never met an autistic boy who is coddled. I'm not saying it dosen't happen. But with the amount of post I see talking about this I figured I'd run into one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 07:08 PM
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I'm okay just abit tired at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 04:56 PM
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Maybe that trope is why every woman I know that wears glasses thinks they look terrible in them and rarely wears them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 04:52 PM
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Honestly I haven't experienced autistic or disabled men being coddled or given a break because of their disability. So it's strange reading so many threads of people complaining this happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 01:28 PM
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You're replying to a different person. He didn't say love isn't real so he's not lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:35 PM
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Yes I would have taken that drug a year ago. Actually I would have taken it for the last 9 years. At some point I viewed my sex drive as a curse.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 09:07 PM
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Chubby in the right places
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 05:11 AM
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The guys on the sub aren't the ones who edited the picture a random Twitter user did.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 01:50 PM
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What do you mean by enduring the other person? Do you mean you dislike the other person but put up with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:30 AM
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usually sleep with 3-6 new women per year when single and dating. This is highly unusual. Most normie men are sleeping with 1-2 new women a year if they sleep with any or aren't in a committed relationship. But unless people are either getting married super young or only having sex in a committed relationship, I don’t see how the average lifetime partners isn’t much higher. Everyone survey I've seen shows most people don't hookup or do ons. There seems to be a select group of people who are hook…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:51 PM
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Women’s complaints are always going to be about the one guy who was spectacularly clueless, rather than the other 20 guys who seemed completely fine but she just wasn’t feeling for reasons difficult to articulate. This matches the one thing I think I've really figured out about dating. Don't be boring. Which is an obvious piece of advice but I think really that's the problem the vast majority of men have. Women will complain endlessly about the one or two terrible guys they went on dates with an…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:13 PM
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Tbf just because they may want to have 5 kids when they're in their 20's doesn't mean they will later on. My sister is 46 and was done after one and the only 20 something black woman I know who actually has a child only wants three. Class may also play a role. Everyone I'm talking about, expect for my gf, is lower class or lower middle class. So it's possible that everyone from a wealthier area just doesn't want to have children or wants a lot less.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 09:33 PM
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No, New Jersey. I am African American and grew up around other African Americans, Hispanic people, and Caribbean immigrants so maybe that plays a role.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:17 PM
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While I think this is true to some extent since bisexual women are probably more likely to be accepting of bisexual mens attraction to other men. Though I would there are still bisexual women who dislike bisexual men in general so it's not sure thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:16 PM
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This is probably because of area I've livied my whole life. But I don't really run into men who want to have children. All the women I know want kids and have always wanted kids. The only thing that varies is the amount of children they want. Some want 2, some want 3, and my gf wants 6 - 12. Personally I'd be okay with one and I think 12 is way to many.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:10 PM
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Idk all the women I know want more kids then the men I know. The men I know want 1 to 2 kids if any and the women typically want 4 to 5. My gf personally want 6 to 12 and I would be perfectly happy with 1 to 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:04 PM
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Maybe not experience it but maybe know of someone in their community who has been raped
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 07:58 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 07:24 PM
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She's used to dealing with people who always have ulterior motives and are using each other. She had also been cheated on in her last relationship. So she was already suspicious because of her past experiences but my sincerity, honesty both helped and harmed since she figured it was an act.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 04:28 AM
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If I understand her correctly it basically has to be something specific and personal to her. The example she gave was staying in and going through a true crime case and judging weather a killer did a good job at covering up the crime, getting rid the body, and etc... I can tell brunch doesn't count. I specifically told her that I went on a brunch date with a girl and her reaction was to say she probably didn't like me much if she considered that a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 09:01 PM
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Actually my honesty is part of what made her hesitant about dating me. I'm to honest and to sincere so it made her suspicious. She assumed I had to be hiding something or have some kind of secret motive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:32 PM
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She doesn't consider them dates
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:56 PM
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I have never taken my gf on a "date". We've gotten food together, gone to NYC for fun, gotten coffee together, went to the mall, went to the movies, etc... This is mainly because it's difficult to think of stuff that would be sufficiently good enough to call a date. Early on she made it clear that things like just going out and getting something to eat together aren't dates. They have to be more personal to her and her interest. So 4 months in we've never been on a date because nothing I think o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:28 PM
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Tbf sand is a gay masandrist so to him the most physically unattractive woman is still more attractive then the most physically unattractive man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 06:52 PM
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I'd argue that you not talking about a specific group of men but a specific man. You write about the same men over and over again as if you interact with them daily irl
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 02:10 PM
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I’m not really sure why men wouldn’t want to do it that way. Because it increases the chances of rejection which is the opposite of what men want. Also on a personal level I would rather a girl reject me directly and to my face then by just ignoring or ghosting me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 06:42 AM
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670
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:18 AM
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1)Yes, I have been with my gf for 4 months though we've been "official" for 2 months. It's my second relationship and there's been a lot of first for me in it. 2) i consider myself grey pilled I guess. I was never red pilled and none of my black pilled beliefs have changed tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 01:20 PM
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You can still see a post of her getting a leg tattoo. That all anyone needs to see tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:34 PM
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She's not conservative politically, dosen't really hangout with conservative people and is economically liberal. Which is another reason what she is conservative is interesting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:23 PM
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To some extent yes, though she dresses conservatively and has no piercings or tattoos besides ear piercings. I'm not sure she dosen't think of her self as a slut.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:13 PM
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How is that different from a sugar baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:05 PM
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What are you talking about? All the male friendships I know of start just because or they have some kind of shared hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 07:52 PM
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So a sugar baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 07:50 PM
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I'm confused who is telling men then should want to be lusted over by their partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 05:17 PM
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What do you mean by trade in this context?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 05:16 PM
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What did I notice about guys who say shit like that, they despise relationships. They see other guys as beta bucks, especially if they don’t revolve their relationships around sex. However, it’s not really about that. It’s about one-sided validation. As one of those men I can say that I don't despise relationships. I also don't see other men as beta bux. I just meant having a woman truly desire me. My relationship is an example of what I've always meant. My gf desires me and is always talking ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 03:56 PM
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While she can be very naive. In this regard I think she knows what a slut is I'm just not sure what the specifics are for what she considers a slut. Idk if she considers herself one or a former one or if there is a threshold in her mind. This is why I randomly ask her questions like that. She does know I'm okay with her or any woman being a slut or whore since we've talked about this repeatedly. She dose seemingly just not think highly of said lifestyle and the shame she said is in woman's eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 03:37 PM
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No she's hypersexual and very much believes in prematurely sex
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 02:10 PM
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My gf is south american and catholic tho she's not very religious. I'll often be surprised by just how socially conservative she actually is. The other day I asked her what she would do if we had a daughter and she got her belly button pierced and her response was to take her to church because there's clearly something wrong with her. The last thing she wants is a whore daughter or whore gay son. A few days after that she saw her younger cousin's tiktok and screamed 'Hunny my cousins a whore' wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 01:38 PM
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Well is he wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 03:46 AM
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Getting a single response is lucky
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:25 PM
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Chemical castration only has a chance to remove sexual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:18 PM
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My gf said this is stupid they should just join a country club.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:54 PM
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People age their whole life. I specified personally because I personally don't feel like I benefited from aging past my early to mid 20's. I know there's the whole the brain isn't finished developing at 23 thing, but again I personally have no issue staying in that state as it's not super different then how I am now. If there is some physical benefits from being say, 35 you can let me know because I've never heard of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 10:46 AM
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Early to mid 20's I guess but I also would rather stay in my early to mid 20's. I'll soon be 29 and if I could have choosen to stay 23 I would have. As far as my own personal life is concerned I don't think anything good came from being 28. Sure I know more but that's due to time not due to specifically being physically that age. I don't really associate anything good with aging past maybe 21 or 23. I not sure what you mean by take women seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:18 AM
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I know this is bait but it dosen't end at going on a date. He means you volunteerly go raise 5 kids. There are few people who would raise 5 kids that are their's let alone 5 that aren't. If you want to take on that responsibility be our guest.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:59 PM
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Cocaine not even once
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:51 PM
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My gf couldn't do that. She barely pays attention to moives let alone binging a 9 hour show. The only thing she's ever seriously watched was blue eyed samurai. Everything else even with stuff she chooses she's half paying attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 04:53 PM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 08:40 PM
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Yes it's a racial thing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 05:42 PM
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I met my gf's grandma yesterday on her birthday. I also "met" her little sister for 5 seconds. Overall it went slightly better then I expected since she didn't directly call me a slur she just (according to my gf) told my gf in Spanish to be careful about who she chooses to be with because her kids will inherit that person's traits. She said all of that while repeatedly looking at me. I don't know Spanish so she was effectively doing it behind my back. She also kept referring to me as my girlfri…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 03:44 PM
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Most people have no idea how the typical persons n-count is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:46 PM
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That number is extremely high. No shame towards people with n-counts that are double or triple digits but you're average person isn't even getting close to 20. People with counts that high are extremely rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:32 PM
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Sure I can sleep on the pull out couch
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:28 PM
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How is this bi pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 02:59 PM
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She usually takes a break for a few days and come back to post again
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:51 PM
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No getting into a relationship has not changed my opinion about dating and relationships in general. It also hasn't really changed my opinion on how other women who aren’t her view me. Granted I'm no red piller so different from your bf. But I'm aware that by most women's standards I'm what most would call low vaule. So I see getting into a relationship at all as simply luck. That said I understand that my gf does indeed love me and is extremely attracted to me. The reason this relationship hasn…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 09:33 PM
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I didn't approache women because I viewed it as a waste of time. I always think of approaching women as playing the lottery and I don't play the lottery. Sure I could win the lottery but the chances aren't high so I would be better off going to work and if I really need to negotiating for a raise or finding a better job. Yes I could approache a random woman at the park the chances of me even getting a girls number are extremely low. My life has made it abundantly clear that 99.999% of women do n…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 12:36 AM
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It has just occurred I don't need to guess if my gf is horny or wants to fuck. I don't need to rely on subtle ques or hints. This is in part due to her being aware I have autism and finding that attractive for some reason. So she just makes things obvious. But it’s also because she's hypersexual so 9/10 she wants to fuck or has some sexual thought in her head.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 10:23 PM
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Question if a guy is cool with you dating other people and isn't complaining about cheating but would still like exclusivity but isn't sure you would so he's hesitant to pop the question. While I would criticize the guy for just not doing it. What would you do if you wanted exclusivity? Do you just wait for men to make all the moves?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 01:25 PM
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I think the guy from her last post.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 01:03 PM
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Maybe you can explain but what shit did he put her through? It sounds more like he was annoying and disappointing more then anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 06:59 PM
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I did read your post and I have literally said he's a bad guy and I have said he should communicate better. At no point have I absolved him of responsibility. When I was reading your post and the comments you have made it never seemed like you communicated your own desires. Unless I missed something in the post it seems like at no point they the woman go "So what is this relationship exactly because you don't seem to be taking this seriously".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 06:53 PM
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This is quite literally untrue and your male relatives are wrong. I think every man has experiences where he wanted to but either couldn't or just for whatever reason didn't. Also even if that is true this shouldn't absolve any individual woman of the responsibility of speaking their mind if they want a committed relationship. Or tell the man she want somekind of treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 05:21 PM
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I'm probably gonna regret asking this question. But why can't you ask for commitment? Sure he's the bad guy but can women not say "Hey I actually want a serious relationship is that something you would like to try?"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:47 PM
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Yeah I genuinely hate this trend with a passion. It's often selfish and uncaring. Just a bunch of men and women hurting each other because they refuse to be just a little considerate and state they're expectations or just you know not date multiple people at once.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:38 PM
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I don't think Lilith is from the US so this might be a her and her social circle problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:20 PM
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I put this in the off-topic section for a reason. I was gonna go through the post and pick out certain parts and respond. But like I said this seems more like a vent post with alot of excuses for why it's completely okay to hurt another person's feelings. I can agree he should have put a label on things (though I do find this avoidance of relationships unless otherwise stated silly). But I also think you or your friends should also take some personal responsibility and ask people if they want a …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:18 PM
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This is more of a vent post then a debate one
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 02:00 PM
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What do women want from him, label or relationship or exclusivity? I don't think there's much logic behind this. So I think looking for it is pointless. I think it's just an emotional excuse to justify hurting someone's feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 01:48 PM
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It also doesn’t help that there’s a lot of people who genuinely endorse it literally which obfuscates it even more I think the non-extremist who use slogans like that are useful idiots for that exact reason. Yes you don't mean to literally defud the police but that doesn't mean there aren't people saying it who don't actually mean it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:02 PM
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I doubt we'll be able to afford that. She just wants to have alot of kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 06:11 PM
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My gf has had baby fever for 2 months straight. The other day she casually mentioned wanting to and I quote "get six kids out of you" . Her coming from a wealthy family and being hispanic is a problem. At first I figured it was her period but nope she just really wants to have babies with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 03:16 PM
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Not in 10 years
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 08:27 PM
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The options are warm shit or cold shit. No one wants to eat shit so you'll get alot of people opting out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 08:21 PM
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Yes it's one of the main places the sexs meet and mingle. If you remove that and people stop going to other third places then we'll have alot less couples getting together.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 01:37 AM
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And how do u do different activities with your friends if u have 1 social circle. I do activities alone. There's nothing I do that requires a dedicated group for. How do u have friends based on compatibility? It will be too hard to have a friend that's the same as u in all aspects. My friends have never been the same as me in all aspects. Just have 1 aspect of u and make compatibility based on that. My life doesn't really work like that. But how do u network if u don't have many different social…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 09:39 PM
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Lol I've only ever had 1. Idk how you have 6
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:56 PM
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I'm not religious, don't believe in god, don't want to put women in their place, don't want polygamy, and don't want a patriarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 04:44 PM
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When I first started seeing my gf and before we became "official" she would frequently make comments about how I would leave her for a woman my own age. For reference she's 21 and I'm 28. Even though she's explained why she felt this way I still find it odd especially as she got to know me better.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 04:36 PM
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Yup people use friend very loosely and for some reason the word aquaintance doesn't seem to be in people's vocabulary. Often when anyone says they were friends with they're partner before dating they mean they were aquaintances.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 04:35 PM
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But men are not collectively responsible for anything since men are not a collective. I am not being held responsible for the trauma caused by anyone else man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:58 AM
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How would someone who's not responsible for something take responsibility for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:52 AM
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You start a worker co-op?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 03:06 PM
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I blamed the circumstances of my birth more then anything. It's not like I choose to be autistic. So I for the most part blamed the universe and then I blamed myself next.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:04 PM
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I have a gf now but before then I had to pay for an escort to lose my virginity. So I would probably die in all likelyhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:00 PM
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I wish I didn't have to work. This gainful employment stuff is for the birds
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:14 AM
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While I personally don't care about age gaps. The argument the anti age gap side would something like. 'The 24 year old has more life and relationship experience then an 18. They are at completely different stages in their life and the 24 year old could leverage they're experience and income (since they more likely to have a higher paying job) to manipulate and abuse the 18 year old. Let's say the 18 year old needs a place to stay and the 24 year old has an apartment to themselves they pay for. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 05:18 PM
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Companionship and sex. When I was younger I wanted to get married, though I was never sure if I was ever gonna be ready for kids. Now aday I just want a partner to go through life with. Someone who has my back and I have theirs. I'm indifferent about wheater we're married of not. Well unless we're having children then I would want us to be married. I don't look for love since I don't really expect anyone to love me romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:48 PM
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But I like that she's 4'9. I explicitly like short women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 06:16 PM
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The one who wants to kill every male classmate
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 04:42 PM
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I'm decently bitter about my life. Less so since meeting my gf but the bitterness dosen't just leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 04:41 PM
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The other problem I see is guys saying “Well, they didnt think it was bad enough. You should have communicates. You suould have had a serious talk about it” and they dont seem to understand how incredible selfish that is. People have to act like your parent to for you figure out that you should value what people tell you? Treating your friends and girlfriends like you treat your mom telling you to clean your room really shows emotional immaturity. How is this acting like someone's parent? The on…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:46 PM
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Nah I'm certain I'll have girls. It's a weird quirk with my family. For some reason the guys go off and always have daughters. It's an odd trend and probably because of that I have alot of women in my family .
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:47 AM
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We'll probably have girls so it'll work itself out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:45 PM
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This is one of those things that I hope she's being hyperbolic. I'm inclined to believe her since despite her going to down to 1 or 2 cups a day. She starts looking for another cup in a couple hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 07:41 PM
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Q4A who drink coffee. Is 10 cups of coffee a day to many? I think it is but my gf is pretty insistent that it's not since she used to drink alittle over that when she was a teenager. For context she's 4'9 and used to be less then 90lb.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 06:45 PM
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I was always curious where all these women giving dateless men chances.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:22 PM
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Yeah I need to start cooking with my gf to save money.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:13 PM
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I have to talk to my gf about how much time we spend just fucking. I like fucking and just spending time together in general. But it’s eating into my time to study and attempt to improve my life. I had a whole plan before I met her and it's been thrown into disarray. Time management is important and I'm currently not doing that since I spend nearly all our free time either fucking, cuddling, or doing something together. If she really wants a life together I kinda need time to build mine up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:12 PM
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There are people who have never met an autistic person or anyone with a mental disorder seemingly and it shows in the way they talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 02:12 PM
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It hasn't affected me at all
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 08:50 PM
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Because you didn't say anything about women's standards or ideals, you just talked about YOUR standard or ideal. This is what every woman does. That and act like their standards or type is super unique and only a tiny amount of women share it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:50 PM
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Dame what are you gonna do about that insult to your character?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:11 PM
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Massive red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:30 PM
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This is some what complicated. You are right that it has been in grain in her that she has to follow rules and she's never been with a guy as affectionate as me before. Granted all her relationships were either extremely transactional or formed out of petty dislike of a another girl. Your wrong in that it does have alittle to do with me. Not necessarily something I'm doing wrong but about her life, friends, and family. We're different races and her family is very racist. While she disagrees with…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:07 PM
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My mother and sister already know we're together. And they know were sleeping together. maybe her not wanting to kiss or anything in front of your family is because she don’t want to cringe doing it in front of your family. According to her a cultural thing basically. Like I said her family has a lot a rules around this kind of thing. Like I said she comes from a more conservative culture and her family is rich and very traditional. So from what she's explained it would be considered rude and in…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:57 PM
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That's the exact same thought I had as well. It would quite literally look like we're friends. Which doesn't sit right with me. She's like if we do that stuff it'll make everyone else uncomfortable. I try to be understanding to her boundaries here but it can feel like she's trying to make it seem like we aren't together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:19 PM
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I had a weird conversation last night with whom I guess I should call my gf now. She’s coming to my sister’s place for Thanksgiving and asked if there’s anything I want her not to say. Which made me very confused. I had to explain to her that besides the fact that I’m not out (I’m bisexual) to my family there’s nothing between us she couldn’t tell my family. This surprised her since apparently both her family and all the men she’s dated before me have rules. Don’t call them bf or any title conce…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:41 PM
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Thanks I suppose I'll need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 05:24 PM
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Things have been getting more and more serious with my coworker which on one hand I'm happy about. But on the other hand I'm not sure this will work out. I think I'm apart of girls toxic cycle where she can't be stay single for long and just gets with terrible men who treat her poorly. Her friend even made her promise that she would stay single and well she didn't keep it. While I am definitely not a terrible man who treats her poorly. I can understand why her friend would be disappointed she co…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:29 PM
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The other day I concluded that the coworker I’ve been hooking up with did indeed not want anything serious with me. This was a strange realization since I she’s very needy or maybe affectionate is a better word. She straight up just asked if she could come over and cuddle for a few hours and every time it’s just the two of us she just wants to hug, kiss, and cuddle almost all the time. I was sorta sad when I figured out she didn't want anything serious as I do want a serious relationship with so…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:45 PM
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Yeah I know but the original was a classic. Idk it's like not knowing about the Friday the 13th movies to me or the Halloween movies'. I'm only 28 I can't be that old
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:37 PM
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I had a 20 year old ask me what Ghost Busters was. I can't tell if it's because she's young or sheltered. I'm going to make her watch it because seriously who hasn't heard of that movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:25 PM
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It's really easy, be physically unattractive, not charming or charismatic, introverted, and neurodivergent in someway. Being two out of three is enough to do any guy in.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 10:45 AM
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Actually she wants way more then twice a week. Probably all week, 6 times in a row every night. But I need a break.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 11:49 AM
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I now know a hypersexual woman and she actually can't be satisfied. Like she just wants to go all day. I'm not being hyperbolic or anything. My soul is willing but my body is soft squishy, needs food, and water.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 11:18 AM
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I think as long as you stay active you should be fine. Maybe jog or bike a mile more if you're really worried.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 07:17 PM
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I get what you mean. You're talking about the mechanical aspect of sex. Men will have sex with someone they don't like because the mechanical aspect of sex is enjoyable enough. It doesn't seem that women enjoy that to the same degree and they require abit more prep. So the idea of having sex with someone they dislike is a very unpleasant thought to say the least. There is something really enjoyable about not having this metaphorical voice screaming in your ear "get sex" over and over again witho…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 02:46 PM
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Women do enjoy sex, they enjoy it alot. Some can go for hours with barely a brake in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 01:13 PM
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And what is flirting?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 06:43 PM
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No there would still be just as many it just means those men are with those women despite not getting any validation. Wouldn't be the craziest thing on the world. Every now and then there's a thread on a sub like r/askmen asking men do they feel desired by they're wives and gfs. The overwhelming answer is no. The men stick around for other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 06:51 PM
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If she's afraid of being alone she should just get a roommate or ideally date an asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 12:19 PM
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Date though I'm 100% fine with just banging. As far as I'm concerned I have most of what I need. A committed relationship would be like a bonus as all I want is some companionship, physical intimacy, and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 09:01 PM
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I got lunch with the coworker I hooke up with. We went back to my place before I dropped her off at work. We didn’t sleep together or anything just eat, talk, chill, and there was some small level of intimacy like me kissing her on the forehead. It was nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 08:01 PM
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Is this how it is in the area you grew up? For my family specifically it would depend. The older guys in my family 40's+ are put together they have stable jobs and okayish incomes. That description is closer to the cousins that are closer in age to me. In my area in general though it's alot like that. Guys don't really hold down jobs for to long or work alot of hours. They'll work a job here and there but nothing long term. How they live or where their money comes from who knows. It's likely the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 03:26 AM
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Having livid in it I would have rather livid a nice gated community. Granted I managed to avoid alot of bad parts by just being a nerd who was obsessed with games and anime. Well that and my mom intentionally made sure we didn't live anywhere to bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 02:41 AM
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It's always strange going to a family BBQ or thanksgiving dinner. There's always older guys acting like me having a job and driving is a big deal or some accomplishment. It would make more sense if people were more disappointed or unsurprised. I dropped out of college with 21k in debt and am currently working retail while trying to get a certification in bookkeeping. Honestly at 28 I feel pretty behind. I suppose I should keep in mind that most of my family comes from the ghetto so the fact that…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 02:32 AM
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I do and I say sir
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 02:04 AM
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The argument is that all women are hypergamous. So you can't chose none hypergamous women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:27 AM
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No because then you're a 30 year old virgin which is worse. Realistically if you have the ability to date in your 20's you should. I guinually don't think anyone should put off dating when they're younger as there isn't any benefits to doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 09:01 PM
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Option 2 since I couldn't stand a sexless relationship. Option 2 is bad but I'm board line hypersexual I'd go crazy with 1. Both are bad mind you I just couldn't stand 1 and can tolerate 2 at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 03:56 PM
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Yeah you could be picky when you get no matches or signals from women irl. But realistically that wouldn't change anything as far as that guy's situation goes. I can almost agree that men should be more picky and I would say if a man does have options he should also choose better. But I think telling dateless Jonny to be more picky is tantamount to telling him to die alone. Realistically he should focus on getting more attractive and once he has options then he can be slightly picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 06:46 PM
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What I don't understand is what goes through their minds when they write this stuff. Why go online and tell everyone that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 03:17 PM
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That's what I thought since that's the only explanation that makes sense. Well that or a kinda indifference. Like "I'm down to fuck but if it doesn't happen that's not a big deal". The only reason I believe her is because she's told me things you normally would tell someone you met two weeks ago so I don't see why she'd lie about this if she was telling the truth before. Also I guess my brain isn't accepting that she would plan this. Like I can't imagine a woman planning to have sex with me. Edi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 04:41 AM
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I don't know, I'm not even sure what today was. I guess it was just a hookup, but like I said I don't know. I don't know her very well. I like her company enough, I like her overall personality, and she's cute so I'm open to that. But I'm currently in the middle of deciding whether I want kids in the future and I'm leaning towards no so idk how she'd feel. If this happens again or a few more times I'll have to ask what we are. Since there wasn't any talk like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 04:07 AM
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Yes and no. Yes in that it reminded me that my dick does indeed works. It's also the reason I knew we'd need lube. No in that I had some proformance anxiety. I'm always anxious about sex. I'm always wondering if I'm gonna do the right thing or if I'm not carful I'm hurt them. Or the scary one, if my dick will corporate with me. Also just suddenly sex when I frankly wasn't expecting filled me with some anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:53 AM
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Women make it easy for guys they like and since she liked you enough she initiated intimacy and it happened fast too. Always remember this You're right I've just never had something like this happen before. Like I've had sex with a woman in my room before but that was an escort. I've never had a girl that seemed to just enjoy talking to me suddenly be down. Granted of the 7 women I've been with 5 were escorts so I never had a chance for this to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:38 AM
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I don't know if the story is interesting. I orginally asked her if she want to come play board games with me. I guess she thought I meant at my place instead of a café since I forgot to mention it. We exchanged numbers and the next day she calls in the middle of the afternoon asking if I wanted to hangout now. I was surprised since I thought we weren't supposed to met until 6. But I figured whatever and so I picked her up from her place and we got food. We even stopped by the café I was talking …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:55 AM
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I guess feel is the wrong word. I more mean is this what the life of a normal person is like? My feelings themselves are strange. I feel more motivated, like I have to do something and make more money.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 01:51 AM
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I got laid without paying for the first time, well first time with a woman anyway. I'm still processing it tbh. It was the girl from my job who patted me on the head. Like it just kinda happened, I didn't plan for it to happen. Even now replaying the events in my head about how it happened I'm not sure how. The only answer I have is luck. Is this how normal people feel?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 12:17 AM
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Yeah, he'd probably want me to tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 01:59 PM
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Its unrealistic to think you can acquire the car without proof that you'd be able to maintain it later... You can just buy a used car in cash. No proof of income, employment, or insurance needed. Proof of being able to maintain a relationship is not strictly developed in a relationship-setting. I never said they were?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 05:12 AM
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First of all it's not a strategy it's just human nature in effect. Second of why focus on maintaining something you can't get into? If I don't have a car while it would be good to learn about maintenance realistically my main focus will be on acquiring a car and then learning how to maintain it later.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:41 AM
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The "dating stage" is just dating so realistically the men you're arguing with will never get into one. So it's sort of a moot point. Also if we're using personal experience, which I did alittle while ago so whatever, you can know that someone is kind but not how kind. Also again it doesn't create attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:20 AM
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Okay maybe a better way to think acquisition vs maintenance. The men your talking to are focused on acquiring a relationship of some kind or some quality. That's it. Everything that comes after is of secondary or tertiary importance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:13 AM
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Traits that only matter once you get into a relationship don't creat attraction for lack of a better phrase. They are traits that are not immediately observable and it's entirely possible to know someone for years without knowing someone possesses them. Let's say someone is extremely generous and kind. They give to charity and regularly work at soup kitchens. It's entirely possible for you or I to never know about this. They maybe kind in other ways but we will never know the extent of that kind…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:02 AM
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I'm not separating the conversations I'm making it clear that certain traits only matter in the long term. You aren't understanding what I mean. I'm saying that alot of men here are focused on getting into any kind of relationship. Focusing on things that are only vauled while in a relationship isn't going to happen if you can't get into one. This goes for long term and short term. There for the only personality traits that really matter are ones that help get the ball rolling. That gets you the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 03:34 AM
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I think part of the issue your running into is that in these conversations it's never specifically stated which personality treats matter. For instance for most of the arguments that happen on this sub the only personality treats that matter charisma, confidence, extroversion, and sociability. None of the other one matter since they only really come up in a long term context which most aren't talking about as that's not where their problems are. In other words, personality often actually enhance…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 03:07 AM
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Personality doesn't matter unless the woman find the man attractive physically. Because otherwise they wouldn't date them. Now to be fair I'm sure there are extremely charismatic guys who are poor and ugly who are dating models. But they're the expectation not the rule. If you agree that a woman has to indeed be attracted to a man physically at all before she agrees to date him. Then no you do not think personality matters as much as the other treats. Adding on to what I wrote treats you mention…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 02:33 AM
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I don't think sub gets enough traffic to make it there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 11:02 PM
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Same the way some people talk about hookups, FWB, and ONS like there this easy thing to have is alien to me. They live in a completely different word then I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 10:58 PM
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That’s fails to make you cum ? The first time I had sex I didn't cum. It's not the end of the world and there are other aspects of sex that I enjoy. If she has an std then that suck but that's why we wear protection and get regularly tested.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 04:48 PM
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I'm not delusional I just don't have super high standards. Honestly say he's a 4 insane
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 01:45 PM
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No he's right I had a girl repeatedly tell me she had sex dreams about me. She rejected me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 12:06 PM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 02:53 AM
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Eh, I'd say she's above average not highly. But different taste. I think the guy's around her level tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 02:49 AM
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Maybe, idk I think she's attractive like a solid 7 or 8 with a better pic. But the guy isn't ugly. I wouldn't even call him average tbh he's just not muscular. Overall he's a 6 or 7. I'm not that into muscles but I'd say if he put on muscle he'd be around an 8. This maybe a case of people down playing men again.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 02:47 AM
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I mean the average man is also fat so he's still not wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 02:43 AM
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I have been called cute before but I am not a twink Edit: I'm also very much older and taller then her so I think her thinking of me a twink would be odd
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 09:37 PM
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A new girl started working at my job. We talked for a bit about general stuff for a bit and kept running into each other at work so we just kept talking. At some point she was walking by me while I was kneeling down to pick somethings up and patted me on the head and quickly walked away laughing. This was all really confusing to me since this was the third time I saw her and the first day we had really spoken to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 08:53 PM
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Honestly maybe being mistreated by women and men growing up worked in my favor because I don't fall pray to thinking either sex is morally better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:49 PM
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I know dudes here love to see us all as precious little angels No I just don't think women are better moral creatures then men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:47 PM
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There's noting to do outside of asking a girl out which I do and subsequently get rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:21 PM
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There's nothing to escalate. We're always at work doing some work related task or talking about something work related. It just happens in the middle of talking about getting stuff from the stock room or asking about their day.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:19 PM
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Nothing, I act like normal and continue the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:14 PM
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Winking. Lip-licking. I have literally never seen this even from women who was very interested in me. Or who claimed to be anyway. Grabbing your hand (or arm). Complimenting you. Asking you if you have a girlfriend. Giving you presents. I've had women who aren’t interested in me do all these things. The only woman, whose not a family member, who's bought me a present rejected me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:12 PM
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I think the issue is that women who don't want the D also do all those things. Women who don't want to sleep with me also touch my arm or chest. Women who don't want to sleep with me also hold eye contact. Most of the "obvious" signs are just things some women do in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:08 PM
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True which is why religions have an afterlife. It's an incentive for good behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 11:29 PM
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It can be true that academics believe something but the average person doesn't believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 11:29 PM
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I think I might start using celibate instead of single. Single just means "not in a (committed) relationship" which is not what I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 08:50 PM
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No since I've met terrible women
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 06:03 PM
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The specifics might be playing a role. I didn't find it on meetup I just found the place on google maps and went to the website and it's supposed to be queer friendly so there are a disproportionate amount of trans people ( something like two or three a night). Another thing of note though not surprising is there are less women there then men. In a room of lets say 14 people maybe 4 of them are cis women and two of those women came with their boyfriends. The other two might be partnered or might…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:08 PM
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Seemingly most if not all the people at the board game nights I go to on Monday are partnered. The nights are fun it's just something I noticed. Last Monday a guy bought a board game that he made and asked people to play it and test it. I did and it was fun. I mostly just spend my time playing games and chatting with people so I notice people say "my gf" or "my wife". Maybe it's because the demographics for the place skew older mid 20's to early 30's.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:29 PM
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It's okay bro there are other cut monster girl
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:58 PM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:55 AM
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Didn't know meat Poisoning could kill. Otherwise if I didn't have access to food I'd rather choose food poisoning over being hungry. I'd probably space it out a bit but I would just eat something that gave me food poisoning. Also homeless people aren't healthy they're usually high.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:51 AM
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How would it be for my own sanity?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:45 AM
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They normal just vomit or shit their pants
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:30 AM
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Well women seem to be less likely to choose the bad sex. Maybe men should take a page out of that book? Why should men take a page out of that book?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:29 AM
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I would have sex with the woman I find repulsive
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:26 AM
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I mean the homeless man would indeed eat rotten meat
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:24 AM
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Move to the north east of the US, women like that are everywhere. I work with at least 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 02:55 AM
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So he only dates caribbean women or well black women in general. That description really only fits black women. What he needs to do is make more money, put on muscle, and learn to dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 02:54 AM
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Because it's extremely rare for me to be complimented my looks. Especially from women. I've had more girls tell me that they disliked some aspect of my appearance then tell me they liked an aspect of it. I've only really been called cute within the last 3 years and I'm 28.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 02:50 AM
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My first boyfriend has been single since I dumped him. Cool unless he's been single for 10 years or something I'm not to concerned tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 09:34 PM
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Is a few dates a month not enough for a man to find a real life partner by the time you are 25, 26? Judging by the way people complain on r/dating or r/dating_advice I would guess the answer is no. Getting two dates a month is probably not enough. Alot of relationships seem to burn out pretty quickly. People have to go through a few. But otherwise Idk how many dates it would take to find a life partner as I can't go on any dates
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 08:53 PM
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You're framing it as a betrayal
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:57 PM
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I don't think the problem is women grieving a lost friendship. Rather how that grief comes out. The accusations of not being a real friend or claiming that the man is deceiving them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:52 PM
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Yeah no you did miss the point completely. We can all make generalizations based on bad experiences with the other sex but that doesn't make them true or make saying them any more right to say. I say we should avoid making bad generalizations if we can.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:46 PM
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So you missed the point completely?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:15 PM
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And most women are passive gold digger who drain you for everything you're worth
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:38 PM
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Apparently, I am always curious how women find these men or end up in these relationships since it happens perpetually for whatever reason. Which is confusing since every man I know can clean, cook, and take care of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:02 PM
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The loneliness epidemic isn't about men who can date and can't get a woman to settle for them. I would say the majority of the men aren't going on dates at all and if they are it's a few a month maybe. Basically all the domestic stuff women comeplain about has nothing to do with the men complaining since they're never in those scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:01 PM
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Yeah if women said "You're husband matrial not hookup matric. You're so great I would rather date you then just hookup with you". The issue is that the women who use "hookup material" and "husband material" never say it like that. They always make it seem like they wouldn't sleep with a guy whose husband material until their "ready to settle down". The other issue is husband material is used as a rejection, hookup material usually isn't. If it was more common for men to be rejected for being "ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:39 AM
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No lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 04:22 PM
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While marrige isn't something I'm gong ho about. I'm not against the idea of it and realistically an arranged marriage is the most likely way I'd ever get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 04:15 PM
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Q4A Well two questions What does it take for you to consider someone your friend? To give an example I know I have coworkers who if you asked them they would consider me their friend. I've only seen them at work, we've never hungout outside of the job, and I have maybe messaged them 4 times in total. I might call them work friends but I have to add the qualifier of work because I don't consider us close enough to be friends. I'm not against being closer to them, I asked two of them to go bowling…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:43 PM
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Sure why not
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:29 PM
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I would say that's a very disingenuous framing. Staying friends with a woman you have strong feelings for is not for the faint of heart. It's hurts a lot and it's a constant pain watchhing them date and sleep with others. If some guys can take it and eventually get over the pain fair enough but I see no reason to say the ones who can't were never real friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 11:39 PM
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I disagree neither women is more valuable to me then the other. I vaule whatever woman is having sex with me other random woman who isn't having sex with me. Also anyone I know in some personal way and am therefore attached to. I don't really vaule random strangers I have nothing to do with. Also that guy has never met a sex worker lol. No your average sex workers is not financially secure. I've known alot of sex workers and they are not financially secure. Some are but most aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 11:15 AM
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<image> lol if a man told me he enjoyed men in porn I would say he's gay
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 01:40 AM
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The strange thing about Caleb Hammer is how traditional he seems to be when it comes to relationships between men and women. He doesn't seem to be full on trad where he wants a stay at home wife to pop out 3 kids and raise them. But he dose seem to believe that part of being a man is supporting your wife/gf. If a guy isn't working and his gf is paying all the bills he'll immediately go after their manhood. If a woman dose the same thing he'll criticize her and call her a child who leeches off ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:34 PM
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I keep myself shaved down there if I know I'm going to have sex. I don't expect my gf to be clean shaven 24/7 some fuzz is okay but if it becomes a bush it's a problem. When I actually had a gf 12 years ago I would go down on her nearly everyday. She didn't shave so that made going down on her slightly less enjoyable as I would always get hair in my mouth. I still liked doing it but I enjoy it way more when there isn't hair there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:19 PM
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I think they're fun
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:13 PM
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In general, people who are too neurotypical are kind of creepy. Basically there is perfection in imperfection. Are you autistic? Cause I don't think someone neurotypical would think this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:12 PM
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Oh I know, there are just some women on there that I think if I didn't know how bad their debt and spending habits were I would 100% date them. It's only after they start talking about their life and money that they become walking red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:30 PM
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Sometimes when I watch financial audit I have to sural experience where I will notice all of a female guest red flag but find her personality attractive. It won't even necessarily be about their appearance since I'm usually listing to an episode, I'll just find the way they talk or respond to Caleb's personal jabs attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:21 PM
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I've never been friends with a monster
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 01:03 PM
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The lonely men can't be good or bad boyfriends as they can't get into relationships. They aren’t ignoring women naging them since no woman is nagging them. I don't understand post like this talking about how bad lonely men are in relationships when the men complaining aren't in relationship. It's like you're boxing with ghost. The last paragraph is the only one that actually addresses said lonely men. These guys who claim “I dont even get a chance to show my personality” typically did. Theyre ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 12:52 PM
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Well considering that's already my circumstance I would say I'm not ambitious at all. I just want to live a comfortable life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:26 AM
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I think most normies just expect incels and forever alone men to just shut up and cope basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:00 AM
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Something I really had to internalize is that it's up to me to start conversation and keep them going. Sure on rare occasions someone will come up and talk to me but for the most part I have to start 90% (this may be an over exaggeration but I know it has to be more then 60%) of the conversations I have. This can be frustrating because often times it feels like there's a lot of social pressure on me, as if I do not go up and strike up a conversation with that person they won't say anything to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 12:56 AM
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It's cool you believe that but my question was to OP
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 12:27 AM
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I haven't completely given up. I might ask a girl out occasionally but I largely know that it'll all end the same way. Despite how futile I think my efforts are I am still a man that wants to experience love and intimacy. Not having romantic or sexual intimacy guinually bothers me so I seek to alleviate that. There is something deep inside of me that won't allow me to quit. I suppose it's just the biological urge we all have. I'm in the sub to debate topics I can't irl and talk about it with peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:26 PM
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I don't think that's what he's saying. He's just drawing attention to the issue. Which if that is the case I agree with his cause. People are kind of dismissive of this. If your lucky you'll be able to get them to admit dating for autistic men is at best an up hill battle. But even then they'll often do what this post does at the end and bring up the autistic people they know who have found partners. Seemingly downplaying the amount of difficulty the task takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:03 PM
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Yes actually you would be discriminating depending on the reason. If you explicitly don't date men because they're to attractive then you are in fact discriminating against attractive men. Dating is inherently discriminatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 07:59 PM
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So this might be an interesting question but do you agree with the body positivity movement? Specifically when it comes to trying to convince people that someone (a woman) is beautiful at every size.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 07:54 PM
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It is interesting how many people on reddit suggest autistic men date autistic women when autistic women don't like autistic men anymore then their neruotypical counterparts. Also just from personal experience autistic women don't seem to be any easier to date then neruotypical women. They seem to have nearly the exact same standards which autistic men don't meet already.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 07:50 PM
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Why wouldn't blackpillers and redpillers contradict each other? They have completely different beliefs. I don't think the average black piller or red piller even like each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:51 PM
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They weren't just talking about hookups. They were also talking about fwb. One woman literally wrote that she only hookups or is fwb of hot men so that she doesn't catch feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 10:12 AM
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Based on all the comments he shows it seems that no you hookups have to be hotter then guys they get in relationships with. So logically speaking it's not crazy to say that the men those women chose to date have to be less attractive then their hookups. This at least has to be the case for some of these women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 10:07 AM
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When did you come up with the female woman, male man thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 11:24 PM
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Yearning is soul crushing. I'd rather not go through that again
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 04:37 PM
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But I have a job
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:01 PM
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Yeah I'm confused why he thinks she looks that different
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:00 PM
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You uh don't many spanish women I take it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 01:59 PM
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Dame maybe free will really is a mistake
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 10:10 PM
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Why get a boob job and ruin a good thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 10:07 PM
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I mean you're not completely wrong there lol. Though I prefer them on the small side so I break the stereotype to that extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 10:02 PM
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Titties
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:23 PM
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I'm telling the truth, though I think she's 34 now. I would post a pic but I feel uncomfortable posting pics of people I know even if at this point she's basically a public figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:00 PM
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My chest is already my ideal size if I was a woman. So I've achieved my goal!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:37 PM
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lol I've known women with small tits who are adults. I knew a really attractive 32 year old woman who was basically flat.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:36 PM
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I suppose it is odd that I'm a boob guy who prefer small tits. People probably expect the opposite but I don't control my taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:27 PM
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I would personally prefer the 18 year old with A cups. But constantly prefer small boobs so that explains my answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:24 PM
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Idk I would have always preferred to be in a serious relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 02:42 PM
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Whenever I see one of those "my wife settled for me post" I think of the life the husban lead before he got married. The only time the dating or sexual history of the guy is discussed is by the red pill when they call the man a beta. But that's still somewhat indirect and most will just assume you're only talking about physical attractiveness. I think to some degree whats happening in these conversations is this assumption that the man in question has lived a similar romantic or sexual life as t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 01:43 PM
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women are being more careful about who they sleep with and there's less risk-taking behavior? I bet even the guys at the top aren't sleeping with as many women as they used to. I remember a study about teen pregnancy last year that I can't find for the life of me. It found that overall teen pregnancies in the US has decreased and so has the amount of drug use. But the use of contraceptive has decreased as well. Also the amount of sex the boys have been having stayed the same mostly with some sma…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 12:47 PM
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Nothing I guess. When I was first in love that inspired me to write poetry but that hobby died after her and I stopped talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 11:58 PM
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How was I being horny I was just saying it's not inappropriate. A few guys posted gym selfies here and there was one woman here that would post her outfits before she went out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:46 PM
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I think it was last year that there was a trend of reveals. Hand reveals, face reveals, fit reveals, physique reveals, voice reveal. I still remember what a few people here look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:41 PM
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What is a standardized sense if Ryan Gosling isn't considered classically handsom?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:36 PM
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Sex
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:34 PM
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Student loans?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:32 PM
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"single" I mean this is the normie way i.e. someone not in a committed relationship. Though I will add if you live with a "fwb" you shouldn't consider yourself single. "good amount of money" 2 months or more of earnings. Though I will say if say my bar can be pretty low so if you have 1k saved that's better the average person. "saved" Money in a savings account with a bank, or kept somewhere for safe keeping like a safe, I don't like including investments but you can includes stocks. If someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 05:10 PM
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I'm actually happy you made this thread. I disagree but I feel like class isn't brought up enough here. So thanks Lilith
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 02:20 PM
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Q4A Do the single men you know have a good amount of money saved? If not saved do you know if they spend responsibly?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 01:44 PM
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Yes, very few and not super attractive. Mostly average to below average nerdy women. Though that works since most of the men there are of similar levels of attractiveness. Using pill terms there are no stacys or chads everyone is a good 5 or 6 down. Also most women there are either with their bf or they brought a friend and they play with said friend the whole time. There are a few single women but like I said rare. So personally I would never suggest it to a guy trying to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 09:51 AM
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While I'm not entirely disagreeing with you. From my little experience women who like board games are rare. Saying "just find a nerdy gals who likes them" is like telling a woman to find a man who likes gardening. Those men certainly exist, I am one of said men, but they're going to be extremely rare. Like using your dating app example I have never seen a woman advertise she likes board games on a dating app and I live near two huge metro areas. Similar to my dating app experience the hobby grou…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 09:45 AM
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I guess ugly, it's just her face right?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 03:51 AM
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I don't think I'll ever be comfortable at bars. I've been to both and don't like either, plus I hate alcohol. All of which I suppose is fine, I just find places that suit me more. I like roller skating so I do that occasionally and play board games with a hobby group and I can find the time I'll find another board game hobby group. That said it does make all the common advice about bars and clubs useful for me. Most dating advice is about bars, clubs, and ostensibly alcohol. All things I have tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 03:29 AM
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No matter how many times this is repeated they'll never concede it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 02:09 AM
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II think the simplest answer is that the average person both men and women aren't the most frugal nor are they good at saving. Yeah not everyone is in 10k+ credit card debit but I'm willing to bet they're spending beyond their means. It might be if you have a couple thousand of dollars saved up you're better with money then the average person m.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 11:16 PM
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What is the specifics of the curse? Can I learn magic? Can I turn the witch into a house wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 10:40 PM
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I don't think you even need to look at divorce rates. Just ask lesbians about their dating experience. That response seems very idealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:00 PM
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I don't think the last and first guys are ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 01:14 PM
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If some normie guy or girl told me they've been celibate for multiple year I tend to take that with a grain of salt. I usually take people at their word but I've had too many instances of people either outright liying or doing that thing were they say they're single and not seeing anyone but have a regular fwb or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 11:30 AM
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Even if he didn't believe in any sort of "empathy" that's no reason to think someone was deserving of death. I agree but I think the country is long past the point of think people need to die for political reasons. Things have been escalating to this point for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 11:05 AM
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I wouldn't even call it somewhat true but to each their I own
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 04:40 AM
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The meme format it fine it's just obviously false
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 04:21 AM
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I don't remember much of it but I remember disliking it. Was that the one where she suggests incel transition?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 04:19 AM
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Poor bait improve your game
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 04:17 AM
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I thought it was funny
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 02:28 PM
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So you're going to sleep with him... is that why you're showing the pic?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 02:19 PM
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The answer is that they aren't denying reality as it's not reality to them. It's like when guys talk about how they were told looks didn't matter growing up and then when they come on here they have men and women acting like they were stupid for ever believing that or that they're making things up. I don't assume people are lying so it's as simple that's not their experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 12:15 PM
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I mean the immediate and obvious answer is that it's different guys. I've never used the term low vaule or shamed women for their body count. Yeah some men do that, maybe even most, but expecting me to defend the actions or beliefs of men I don't agree with is silly. Though to be fair to the men that say "we knew that women are shallow" they probably mean that they know they just want them to admit it. Which I would personally agree with though maybe that too charitable. And it's actually so stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 12:07 PM
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Idk some of the guys here had gfs so maybe they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 10:25 PM
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Q4M When you were in your teens did you want to get married and have kids one day. I mean was it a goal or dream of yours to eventually get married and have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 10:13 PM
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Not fat but obese and even still they have decently high standards so if your sub 5 it'll still be hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 10:12 PM
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I mean we can start a multi racial cult. We're like 30% of the way there. Now we just need to gather and arm everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 09:53 PM
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But are you saying we can't make these thing? What's stopping us?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 09:42 PM
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Ohh okay that changes things
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 08:20 PM
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Sometimes but most of the time no. 99% of the time what I wear doesn't really effect me at all. No one mentions my clothing choose so I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 07:50 PM
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You can be a Buddhist monk in the US. There's a temple somewhere in the midwest I think
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 07:49 PM
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I'm not sure why you shouldn't
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:26 PM
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I have been interacting with people more throughout these last couple of years. I still can't actively recognize signals when I talk to other people. It's not that I don't know what social cues are or what they mean (though that can be confusing). No it's more like I don't see them. Let's use something like a fake smile. At somepoint last year I realized I didn't knoa the difference between a fake smile and a real one. Yeah I've heard people say something like "his smile didn't reach his eyes". …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:47 PM
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You didn't address the point. The point of the comment was that women dislike promiscuous men and how they treat bi men is proof of this. Then instead of agreeing or disagreeing with that you acknowledged that women are shitty to bi men without acknowledging the overall point and brought up red pillers for some reason. Yeah I'm not a big fan of red pillers either but the whole argument is about weather women like or dislike promiscuous men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:17 PM
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Do you support prostitution? I mean I assume you do but I could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:23 AM
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But she's kinda fun
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:21 AM
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Why did you deflect to how bad red piller treat bi men?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:06 AM
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I'm gonna call bullshit. When she says she was wasn't into him she doesn't mean she wasn't attracted to him. She means that she was kinda attracted to him but not enough. In my experience there's nothing that turns no attraction into attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:38 PM
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You in fact will not change her mind
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:30 PM
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To put it another way. You mean if a mans attraction level is let's say zero all the listened things would do is increase those odd by .5 or 1 if he's really lucky. He would still be seen as okay with that list.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:28 PM
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No he's saying there are no specific things men can do that can actually dramatically change their attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 03:00 PM
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Some people regret sleeping with escorts or being involved with sex workers at all. I don't, if last year I didn't randomly decide to pay a girl to sleep with me I'd still be a virgin at 28 (nearly 29 soon). Did you know being kissed on the neck feels really good? I didn't until this year and I'm happy I did. I am sad about never being loved or cared about in a romantic way but that's just how the cookie crumbled. I wish I had spent my 20's in one or two sexual relationships but things just didn…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 02:04 PM
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A hundred thousand dollars
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 03:26 AM
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Really that interesting. I don't know any new age men. If you don't mind me asking where are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 01:16 AM
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Since patriarchy is unpopular and most abrahamic religions place men at the top of the hierarchy that would make sense. If a man is not the center of your universe how would it make sense to believe that god (often characterized as a man) is who you should be worshipping? I mean they don't have to worship anyone or anything. They could worship nothing and not burn incense to communion with nature or be atheist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 01:14 AM
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: see astrology. That as well. I never see women talk about new age guys the way guys talk about new age girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 12:56 AM
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Like some sort of alternative after getting kicked over by religions Yeah that would make sense. One of the girls I knew like that came from a conservative Muslim family. Though from what I can tell men who grew up in those environments become skepticstm . Like all the atheist content creators from the 2010's.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 12:52 AM
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Q4A Have you noticed women being more spiritual then men? I don't necessarily mean being more religious, I mean more like related to mysticism for lack of a better word. All the new age people, or women who believe in some kind of higher power that's "out there". This might be due to where I live but I've never met a guy into new age stuff. I'm not saying men like that don't exist but nearly every content creator I see talking about how they have psychic powers or saying things like "divine femi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 12:15 AM
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Is that exactly a high bar lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 11:43 AM
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That women didn't behave according to the redpill. That the bluepill was true instead of the red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 10:21 AM
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But I would only have to look at the number of women interested in serial killers compared to the number of women interested in boring but moral men to take the red pill again. I have no proof of this but I think the vast majority of men that women go on first dates with are just boring. Women will go on and on about how terrible the average guy is and how dangerous just going to a public place with a guy is. But most men I know aren't really exceptionally bad or good. Maybe they can be stupid o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:18 AM
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Everyone starts as an armpit sniffing ape. Then they get socialized to believe the blue pill or whatever the soically acceptable ideas around dating and relationships are in that society. Then you have go through life and decide wheater what you were taught was true or not
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:07 AM
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Yeah totally it sounds like a word of sunshine and rainbows compared to my reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 02:30 AM
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Yeah I watched bridgerton for that reason
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 10:50 PM
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No I wouldn't I'd appreciate it. I don't get anyone wouldn't .
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 02:50 PM
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How would that be inappropriate
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 02:39 PM
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I think he's wrong it would be amazing but I'm trying to figure why he feels the way he does. Maybe it's the way it's worded? She dose seem more curt and less caring I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 11:25 AM
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I understand what's your going for here and I kinda agree with the heart of your comment. But there has to a limit to how much your willing to do and sacrifice while expecting nothing in return. People will take advantage of your willingness to do this. I'm always willing to overextend myself and this has gotten me taken advantage of by women. Or putting more effort into effort into a friendship then the other person ever would. I can make my peace with it some what but it would be better to hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:27 AM
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I hate that so many artists use Twitter or will only have a twitter and bluesky account. It's such a bad platform for seeing and artists work and keeping track of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:21 AM
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You're right but alot of people would argue they're both apart of hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:07 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:07 AM
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If you ask a VERY close friend she may tell it to you straight, but for a more casual friendship or even just an acquaintance, most women won't want to admit that sometimes looks can matter. In my experience women who are close to you will give you the same generic advice that women who aren’t close to you will give. Tbf to women men aren't any better on that front either. Every guy I know will give the same generic advice that you could get from some reddit thread on askmen. The advice given is…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:30 AM
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Would
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 12:38 AM
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Realize college is ass, companies don't care about where you go to school, and all that matters is your experiences and who you know. Go find a not stupid sorority girl and become friends with her. Find some way into getting connections with guys and gals in upper society and you should be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 07:47 PM
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I don't hate everyone or women! Thought I am sad and horny...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 06:53 PM
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My friend who do you think made the pyramids? Stonehenge? Aliens obviously, all your seeing their control being spotty in certain area but trust they're controlling everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 03:02 PM
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Ah you see there's your mistake. You see the theater of incompetence and not the shadow organization run by extraterrestrials. You see aliens have been running human civilization since the stone age and UN is just their latest tool to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 02:53 PM
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Women are real but sex is fake All babies are made in a lab run by the UN
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 02:13 PM
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Men aren’t real
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 01:59 PM
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I don't think it's right to mock someone for being fat. While I'm generally the type to believe nothing is off limits in comedy. For you it seems less like good naturesd fun and more like legitimate hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 07:38 AM
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Lol I wouldn't go that far. I've been into a few fat or chubby women. Like I said I just have a weight limit
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 07:28 AM
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I just trust my gut. I don't really care about dating market value or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 06:43 AM
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I am ashamed to say I would not dat an obese woman 😔 I very much have a weight limit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 06:22 AM
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I am now half way done with Homestuck and honestly besides for the bump in the road that was act 5 act 1 and the existence of trolls I have to say it's pretty good. I also now remember why I didn't keep reading act 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 05:21 AM
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Nothing I can't date and I don't trust anyone enough to marry them. So no kids
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 08:49 PM
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No he has a hobby
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 08:46 PM
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Do you view yourselves and other men as "serving corporate overlords" and "being at the mercy of your employers?" Yes but I think this is the same for everyone. I think most people do. Do you bitterly seethe about the unfairness of this position? Not particularly since it's largely not something I care about. I view a job as a means to gain currency and nothing more. There might be people there I like but the job itself is a means to an end. Besides I don't see a real reason to be angry about ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 08:28 PM
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That is troubling
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:00 PM
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Why are you coming at me like I actually stated what my opinion was besides saying what I thought was common medical procedure. I didn't say weather a agreeded one way or another I just said doctors would typically ask the spouse. I looked it up and apparently wrong about that's all. I have fully dodged the question at hand and left it in the hands of doctors.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 07:35 AM
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The doctor is suppose to ask the spouse in these kinds of situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 06:51 AM
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I mean statically some have to be
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 06:22 AM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 06:22 AM
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I'm pretty sure if you asked her she'd say she was
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 02:25 AM
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I think she's a straight woman
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 01:16 PM
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No I'm anything but normal. To list my downsides I'm rather neurotic, I've been depressed and suicidal for most of my life at this point, and I have difficulties forcing on task. I'm also very pessimistic. Looking at it from others perspective I might be clingy which I try to work on but well it's a process. But if I were to date myself I would also always be there for myself. Through the good times and the bad. I would sacrifice time and money for my wellbeing. I will always be there to offer a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 04:44 AM
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Nah, I'm plenty unconfident. I just make a distinction between how I feel about myself and how other people feel about me. I've always had a strong and rather rigged sense of self. I suppose this has had its up sides and downsides. My lack of confidence when it comes to dating at least comes from believing that women don't find me interesting, charming, and attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:25 AM
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I find the question of "would you date yourself" stupid. Even at my lowest point I don't think I would ever not date mysel. I do actually find myself attractive, I like my hobbies, find myself funny, enjoy my own company, and ultimately like myself. Yeah I know my worst qualities but I also know all my best.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:10 AM
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My last first date was last year April. It was bad, it was with a coworker and it was just like talking with her at work. She didn't flirt with me and I tried to flirt with her and got nothing. In hindsight it makes sense. I asked her sometime this year why she even agreed to go a date with me since as I learned she doesn't sleep with coworkers (though according to her dating is fine). Her answer was she thought I was cool and she hadn't been on a date in a while so she did. In the end she wasn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:06 AM
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Well while I personally don't really call myself nice or kind as it makes me feel argent. But we'll ignore that for this comment. My best theory for why "good men" or men with more moral character are chosen over men with less moral character is that the traits that make a person attractive in a long-term sense are different from the traits that start a relationship. Things like charm, charisma, confidence, social ability, the ability to fit in, knowing the right words to say and when to say the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 04:25 PM
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Not really at least from my personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:40 PM
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For the same reasons men ignore red flags. The guy has some traits irrespective to moral character that causes some part of their brain to light up and that makes them care less about the bad parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:39 PM
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Thanks for the link I am once again confused why it's hard for certain women to talk about how great their man's body is and maybe talk about how great you think he is especially if she’s gonna marry the guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:27 PM
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This would assume that the women or men want each other
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 11:17 AM
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Can you link the thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 11:15 AM
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Yes but I prefer small boobs
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:17 AM
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I don't think you're understanding what I want to know lol. I'm not asking how I would feel, I'm not even concerned about that. I'm asking how do other people feel and why they feel that way. Going through experience won't explain other people's behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:18 PM
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I'm not really looking for advice lol I just want to understand people. I'm confused about human behavior hence the questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:12 PM
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Because in dating especially nowadays it’s mostly about vibes and chemistry. If the dates are going well and both people seem very interested and active in seeing each other and planning dates everything will move on naturally to exclusivity, most dates don’t even reach this far to the point of “we’re having so many dates and so much fun” so it’s weird to talk about exclusivity when the dating stage is still moving awkwardly. I'm not really sure this answered my question. From what you're saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 10:47 PM
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Sometimes I find myself asking questions that only make sense when I consider how little relationship experience I have or in this case the miniscule amount of options I have. I was just wondering why talking about exclusivity is such a big deal. I guess my real confusion is why is it so hard to agree to be "exclusive". I honestly do understand why agreeing to be "exclusive" after a single date or a 5 date is a big deal. Of course the answer is I don't have options so realistically no one has to…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 10:26 PM
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What section would that be?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:11 PM
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I've been interested in 4 single mothers I coulf probably answer some questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:54 PM
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Well your objectively wrong since the black death exists. Any man who lived during plague era europe lived a worse live then nearly anyone alive today. Also slaves, they lived a worse life then anyone here has.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:47 PM
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Why flat chest are hot
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:12 PM
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I have sneezed and almost peed my self. It's scary
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:04 AM
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Nah it's great
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 12:12 AM
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It's a total of 8k pages long and I'm like 2.6k deep so far. So I have a good way to go I remember my brother following it for a while. Sorry to hear that 😔 it had to be insufferable. Hopefully he didn't make a trollsona
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:18 PM
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I've been re-reading homestuck and it's pretty good. I'm alittle bit through act 5 part 2 so far. The humam characters are interesting and likable and story does a good job expanding its scope bit by bit to build intrigue. I like that the characters and dialog really dose feel like four 13 year olds in the late 2000's chatting with each other. The meta elements aren't that bad so far, though I remember them getting very self indulgent so we'll see how long that last. My only real complaint are t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:39 PM
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I don't know any happily married people. I don't count people who seem okay in the outside like say my sister. I don't know how she feels about her marriage. I don't pry into her relationship. I do know she's not unhappy because I know what that looks like. But is she happy? Who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 04:12 AM
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I've never had a fat or ugly woman ask me out. Also all the fat women I know are partnered.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 09:05 PM
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I once knew a girl who claimed she could use telepathy. She couldn't demonstre it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 05:07 PM
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What's the pet peeve exactly? Also in what world is liking video games or anime feminine?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 05:43 AM
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With women? Not really no
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 08:49 PM
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Sex without oral is like coffee without a cigarette. When you make oral impossible, you make good, comprehensive and fully satisfying sex impossible It didn't make oral difficult or anything. The girl in question explicitly told me to focus on her clit
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 08:05 PM
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But yeah, men tend to not care much about the opinions of a celebrity. That’s male culture. Women care much more for reasons I don’t personally understand. Yeah I think this is a more likely explanation. How many male fans does Lola young even have? I don't even understand why people here care so much that Taylor swift is getting married
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:16 PM
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...I'm confused how this situation proves your last paragraph. A random artist used an average guy on a cover and no guy noticed or cared. So this some how proves that men only care about stacys like Sydney Sweeney. I guinually don't see the connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:02 PM
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Idk I think she makes enough to get a non-temu clit piercing. So I doubt it was cheap. But don't know her very well so idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 03:55 PM
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When eating a girl out who has her clit pierced my mouth tasted like metal for the rest of the afternoon. I think about that every now and then.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 03:43 PM
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Why is it dangerous?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 03:23 PM
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2025 has be a shit year for me and I can't wait for it to be over.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:23 PM
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I don't disagree with your point. But from my personal experience I'm not "excluding" hoards of women. I'm 28 and have rejected 4 women in total. If 4 over 28 years counts as hoards of women then I think I misunderstand what that word means. So pointing out that I (or well men in general) can exclude or reject women seems almost comical. It's like when other men talk about how men have choosing power. When all they mean is you have the ability to not ask out certain women which doesn't feel like…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 07:27 PM
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I search artificial womb on PPD and the most recent threads were from 3 years ago
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 01:34 PM
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I've never seen anyone on PPD mention artifical wombs nor do I see anyone talking about men wanting to replace women with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 11:44 AM
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Well and that is the point. It is a reversal of a lot of the very shitty posts aimed at women. What post aimed at women?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:17 AM
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On a personal level I'm not sure what I'm even supposed to say to post like these. It's all about stuff during a relationship. Considering I can't get into one it often seems like women telling me to answer for the sins of men they date or trying to help already attractive men become more attractive; which is something I'm not particularly interested in. Seriously what am I supposed to say to women saying men (they choose to date) wont commit? Idk date better men, it's what I would say if the ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:09 AM
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I do, I have a crush and everything
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:37 AM
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OP the problem your having is that your thinking about this wrong. 9/10 if a woman is giving a man dating advice they are giving it already assuming that your in a relationship or are regularly going on dates. They're advice is for men who have trouble maintaining relationships not establishing them at all. Basically your thinking about steps 0 and 1 while most women are thinking of steps 6+.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 12:24 AM
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I think you might just be aromantic
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 07:47 PM
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I mean it literally is a feeling. It's like being hungry. Hunger is a feeling and the best description I can come up with is 'It's like my stomach is eatting It's self'. But that's extreme hunger which isn't the same feeling as regular hunger which is hard to describe. Romantic love feels like being drawn to another person. So much so that you want to spend hours to days to years with them. It's feeling like you need that person, It's a feeling of absolutely safety and comfort in another person,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 05:38 PM
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Do you experience romantic attraction? Actually do you know what people mean when they talk about romantic attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:26 PM
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Physical affection is a big one for me. Holding hands, making out, cuddling, etc... these are not things I do outside of a relationship. I'm a 28 year old man the only times I get physical affection is when I hug my family or bestfriends and that doesn't happen often and I can tell it it's doesn't give me the same feeling as hugging the woman I love. Another big thing for me is building a life together with someone else. I really want to feel like I'm apart of someones life, to feel like a team …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:27 AM
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Where did you get 18 from?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:06 AM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 12:11 AM
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120
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 12:09 AM
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I'm not an expert interpreter. But I think she meant that she doesn't like that average guys can get with 10/10 non-western women. She thinks those women deserve better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 10:55 PM
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I don't know who Travis Kelce is. Am I supposed to?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 07:40 PM
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She's not interested just stop texting her
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 07:39 PM
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I've also seen a couple escorts. What did you think of your experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:11 PM
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Idk what your talking about all the gemz women I know are constantly talking on their phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:08 PM
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No? It's genuinely confusing to me why just saying that I find my husband hot once or twice is hard. I'm not even saying anything about sex explicitly just saying you think he's sexy and maybe include something about his physical appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:05 PM
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You do realize this a really common issue men have with how women talk about this right? This isn't just 'me' thing. Yeah i'm talking about appearance because unless she's talking about being attracted to being treated poorly she means appearance. Hell you can take out the appearance part and it still isn't better. She says instead of going for guy who drops her panties she goes for guys who treat her better. So it's not a far jump to ask if the second guy doesn't drop her panties?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:50 PM
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Okay I'm not saying she not cared for or happy. The isseue isn't that I don't believe this. The issue is she says nothing about being physically attracted to her husband. I feel like you don't understand what the issue is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:41 PM
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They aren't by choice lol. Autistic men are more likely to be hypersexual then neruotypical men. Why would they choose a sexless life?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:27 PM
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It's brutal because the person who treats her well doesn't drop her panties. So she's implying that her husband isn't attractive. The issue is the wording. It's fine if women's priorities change they just need to make it clear they still find they're men physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:25 PM
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Okay you're trolling me. The majority of Autistic men do not have girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 01:58 PM
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All those are things said in relationships though right? Not on a second or third date. I'm not a dater but Wouldn't any of these be a massive red flag early on?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 01:46 PM
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And I'm telling you if someone is both shy and awkward their soical skills are not "good enough". Saying an awkward person has "good enough social skills" is almost oxymoron.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 01:24 PM
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I have never heard someone say a shy, awkward guy has good social skills. Awkward soically usually means poor social skills. Also again "social skills" here are a very narrow set of abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:45 PM
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I think whenever personality is brought up in dating what it mean is charm, charisma, knowing the right words to say and when to say them, "being fun to be around", being funny, being happy, and the ability to "vibe" with someone. It's been talked about here several times. Personality is just a small collection of positive traits that makes women want to be around you. If a guy is shy, and awkward he doesn't have a good personality to the majority of women seemingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:21 PM
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Why would I reject a woman for being to perfect?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:07 PM
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Lol no I haven't
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 02:00 AM
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That could all be true and he could still be shy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 06:48 PM
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Move on to a new topic. Yes women fuck shitty men does that make them hypocrites? Possibly but who cares? Just move on to a different topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:05 AM
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I can guarantee you as long as you're not rude to a retail worker they probably won't remember whatever you said to them by the end of the day. I remember the notable customers. The lady that hugged me when I helped her find a jacket. The guy who told me that I sometimes I have to lie to customers when they ask if I had something. He was talking about his wife The grown woman who got her elderly father to have a stern talk with me about me being rude. The woman who told me her daughter was in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 03:57 AM
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It's not your business or place to comment on how others look. Do you know what sub you're apart of? That's really common on here
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 03:47 AM
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I had a gf 12 years ago when I was in high-school. I forgot what she was like tbh the most I can tell you is that she cheated on her bf with me. She was in special ed but ultimately was congent and seemingly normal besides the playful threats of cuting off my dick. I was infatuated with a girl after my ex broke up with me. The feelings were mutual but we never dated due to my own hesitation from my last relationship and her having a kid. She was very pretty and chubby but insecure, probably due …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 11:47 PM
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But those women aren't magical more into me then the ones who aren’t into those things. The orgianl was a typeo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 10:47 PM
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If you gave the left the rights glasses I would like her more. All people look better in glasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 10:46 PM
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This whole conversation would be helped immensely is certain women would include how physically attractive they find their men. It's really not a hard issue to solve just say something like "I was so lucky to find a guy who's both attractive, and safe, and kind." It's such an easy fix that I don't even understand where the debate is. I understand that in their minds they think they're complimenting the guy but at this point I don't think it hard to understand why a man wouldn't see being seen as…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 10:23 PM
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Some of the people like that do lament that. Women do it all the time. Guys less so
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 09:31 PM
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Not to get too stereotypical, but I imagine a lot of introverted autistic men would absolutely love an introverted, autistic woman. I've actually been interested in women who similar if not the same mental health struggles as me but none if them have been interested in me. I would be extremely open to dating an autistic introverted woman who enjoys reading, roller skating, and playing games. But those women aren't magical more into me then the ones who aren’t into those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 09:30 PM
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I really don't invite people out often. The last time I tried people kept forgetting about the date. They kept saying they'd get back to me and no one did. Now I'm just trying that thing where I do something and tell people about it. I did invite one person though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 06:48 PM
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I have been telling my norime coworkers about the board game meet up I go to every now and then. I even invited one of them to come with me to it. People seemed interested enough and the one I invited seemed interested but was busy that day.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 05:52 PM
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OP isn't only talking about cold approach. That advice is very genral and is given in many situations A guy complains about being unsuccessful with women he's told "Have you tried being nice and talking to women?" A guy complains that all the women he's interested and gotten to know only see him as friends (warm approach) so people tell him Have you tried being honest with your feelings from the get-go? Same guy says that's not working and women are upset he only sees them as romantic prospect (…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 10:25 AM
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How do you think it works?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:47 PM
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She's young and aromantic so she has no dating history. Most of her knowledge about relationships come from anime.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:46 PM
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I've had long conversations with female friend of mine about how just because you treat a girl one way or another that doesn't mean they'll want to be with you. I've explained that all that she and other women I know might point out about me are things women want in someone they're already attracted to and ideally dating. Not a guy they're not really into. But she's insistent that if a guy treat a girl really, is reliable, consistent, kind, etc... then a woman would find him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:25 PM
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Move on and don't be toxic?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 08:08 PM
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Yeah this is the disconnect. A lot of the stuff that makes a man an attractive partner is not the things that makes them initially attractive. The best example I can give is tipping wait staff. A man might like a woman who tips but that doesn't make him want to sleep with her or even go on a date with her. The initial things that sparked the interest are separate from things that make someone a suitable partner. The same could be true for traits that might make a man good bf material. That doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 06:03 PM
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That's silly, I'm not going to intentionally make my life harder to learn a lesson. Who does that? That would be like getting into thousands of dollars of credit card debt just to know what it's like living the debter life. I can just learn from other's experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 01:13 PM
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I don't think I was actually making a point though, that's why I asked the question. It's not something I've ever had to do besides for cutting down on spending $200 or $300 every other month. So I asked people here are more experienced. It's also why when given an answer I asked another question. I would imagine the hardest aspect would be finding some where more affordable to live. You might have to move states to do that. Like I'd probably have to get a few roommates. Other then that I'm not …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 01:06 PM
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It's not about the difficulty I just don't have a reason to. There's also not much I can do at this point. There's really one thing I could cut but I already planed on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 12:55 PM
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Nah I'm good for now
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 12:51 PM
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Oh yeah they both sound terrible but if if I'm forced to choose the answer is graceley
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 12:23 PM
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Aren't you single?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 12:19 PM
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This story sounds so fake. She walks up to a stranger because she just had to know why he wasn’t fawning over her all day like everyone else in school? Tbf I have had girls do similar stuff to me. Like asking me out know where why I'm so quiet or making comments about it when they thought I wasn't listing. Extroverts, especially female ones, can be oddly prosistent when you're quiet. That said I think OP just might be attractive because I've never had many instances of girls playing with my hair…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 12:16 PM
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Yeah everything I read wasn't about the man or the one paying alimony it was about the one receiving it. It's so that the wife or whoever is receiving it can maintain their lifestyle once the marriage is over. Which I initially found odd. I didn't really understand why the court should care wheater a woman maintains her lifestyle after marriage. But I was thinking about 2025 where everyone has to have a job basically and stay at home moms are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:38 AM
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Well what I read was gender neutral in it's wording. Whoever has to pay the alimony is in some cases temporarily responsible for financially supporting the one receiving it. It's so the one receiving can maintain their life style until they find work or find a job that makes enough. As far as I can tell it was made for stay at home mom's in divorce who don’t have a source of income once their husband is gone. Alimony is also separate from child support and it's possible someone is paying both.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:32 AM
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What's something not cringe?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 04:44 AM
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Graceley though I don't think it'll last to long with the "will cry if she thinks you’re looking at other women". I would take that over being tickled my acrylics anyday ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 04:44 AM
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it takes effort to plan out how to cut your budget when you're used to not thinking about it Yeah I guess so and a lot of people think they keep a budget but don't. Still while it take effort to set up, the budget that is, it's easy to maintain the hardest part cutting on spending but that's mostly a will power thing. Which I won't down play, believe me I understand, but it's doable. It doesn't seem like some herculean task. Though maybe I'm taking my own ability to budget and track my spending …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 04:35 AM
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Depends on your lifestyle. If you're struggling as it is, you probably can't downgrade. Unless you're in massive amounts of debt wouldn't already struggling make it easier? You would in theory know what's causing the problem and be able to cut the right things off.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 04:25 AM
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Is down grading you're life style difficult? I was looking into what Alimony is and at some point something about maintaining a lifestyle was brought up and I just started to wonder is it really difficult to down grade your life style? I keep seeing people talk about maintaining one but I never see anyone talk about down grading one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 03:47 AM
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WHY ARE WOMEN CHOOSING USELESS CLANKERS OVER MEN I don't think that would ever happen. That's a different kind of bitter that I don't think we'll see anytime soon. It's the kind of bitterness that requires the man to believe he himself is superior to the machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 01:54 AM
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Your frequent use of male man or female woman is funny. I quite literally never seen anyone do it before. You even included it in the quotation marks
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 01:51 AM
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The description might not be helping since you just sound attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:51 PM
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Which song?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:47 PM
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What do you look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:42 PM
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What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:41 PM
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I had a girl come up to me and compliment me if that counts
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 03:15 PM
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What does sharing in a woman's youth mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 01:26 PM
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Not him, he thinks all women are queens
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 12:18 PM
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I miss the spiritual virgin guy. He made the threads interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 12:02 PM
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If the girl on the right isn't that fat I'd give it a chance
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 12:00 PM
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I mean the women I work with tbh or see at hobby shops.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 11:59 AM
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Cuckoldry
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 11:35 AM
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Then that means they especially want men to approach them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 01:40 AM
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He's right I mean what other reason would woman be walking alone on the streets?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 12:05 AM
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If you have enough money you can get that body
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 12:02 AM
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Something I think needs to be stated in conversations like these is that gay men, bi men, and straight men are all fairly similar in how they approach initiating relationships. Male sexuality is just more up front then women's. This can create problems obviously but the way men are sexually isn't super different between the sexualities. I'm bi and I can tell you men are just like this. Now to you post itself I'm not sure what your even saying. Like it being too close for comfort. What's to close…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:33 PM
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Yeah it was a scammer but it could be a woman. I once was scammed by an African woman I met online. I remember she called my phone number while I was at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:10 PM
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One of the few instances I matched with a woman on a dating app involved me asking her if she wanted to meetup in a park that was close to us. It was 5 minutes away and full of people. We had only just matched but she asked if I wanted to exchange number and I agreeded. I figured it would be better to do something easy and low stack so I suggested the park. She them told me that she was willing to do that but I would have to pay her. I declined and said I'm not giving money to anyone I have neve…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:50 PM
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Isn't paying for a woman's food something you do in a committed relationship that isn't usually given to anyone else? Not him but no I don't think it's rare for men to pay for the food of women he's not dating. I'm reminded of a tiktok where a woman went out to dinner with her friends and husband. Her friends, who were all women, just expected him to pay for their food. He didn't in the end and his wife wasn't angry but the women seemed really certain that it's what he was supposed to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:31 PM
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What did she ask you for your opinion on? If you don't mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:29 PM
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Sometimes I wish I prefered men more then I do women. Currently my attraction to the sex's is close to 60/40. It's high enough that I'd have sex with men but not to the point where I'd actually marry a guy. It's annoying honestly. Though I guess it might mean that if I ever did date a man I'd think he's special. I can't imagine it happening honestly. It's thought like these that makes the fear people have that a bisexual person will leave them for someone of the opposite or same sex odd. I'm ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 01:11 PM
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not sure why it would be a lie… It was a joke mostly. I read some comment from some woman asking a guy if hasn't felt the spark with a woman. I assumed she meant has he gone on a date and not felt a spark. But then I thought about it some more and figured she could be being more genral. Then I thought on it some more and thought that I have no idea what "the spark". So I jokingly thought maybe it's jusy some bullshit normies made up. But, eh, who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:38 AM
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As I have only ever been on one date before I have no idea what sparks are or what they are supposed to feel like. I've like different women but I'm not sure if that's what "sparks" are. If it is then I guess I've felt sparks with several different women but I'm guessing that's not what sparks are. Honestly maybe sparks are just lies that normies tell themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:54 AM
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You could yell at them curse kick trash cans down the hall when they screwed up. Physical meltdowns were acceptable. That wouldn't work on me. How I react to peer pressure and bullying is to be even more obstinate. I don't try to blend in, I wouldn't even know how to, I would just be more of what I already am. Basically I couldn't be bullied into masking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 01:26 AM
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I'd probably need a lobotomy or a cure for autism. Time travel might also work. Go to the past get tested for Autism and ADHD early and learn skills to cope with it. Now logically that wouldn't actually help me get a partner but it would improve my childhood to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 12:59 AM
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I always tell men to choice better. Frankly lots of men need to choose better, hell I need better taste in women tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 12:47 AM
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I figured your comment was directed towards me so I am just as confused as you are. I don't know why your saying I subscribe to an ideology full of rape apologist
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 10:09 PM
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I'm not red pilled and I don't like PUAs. So I have no dog in this race
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 09:55 PM
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You didn't disagree with his characterization of his overall point so you seem to be saying that they're inherently undesirable. "You don't get any success because you're not compatible with anyone, and you can't change who you are"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 08:48 PM
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If I'm not constantly going after 10/10 women am I settling?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:53 PM
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Women tend to straddle the middle of the bell curve for any given trait so there are going to be more women with average intelligence then women who are highly intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:27 PM
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I guess you mean intelligence. Because I doubt you know the IQ of anyone you know. It's not that important. I would like a girl I can debate certain philosophical topics with but ultimately it's not a deal breaker. Though I won't date a woman who isn't financially literate or at least willing to learn the basics of making a budget and saving.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:22 PM
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How have traditional gender norms made your life easier? Never lol All the "benefits" of the male gender role are things like being taken more seriously in leadership positions or having your opinion heard. I have very little interest in leadership positions and even if I did most men don't see those benefits. The only other "benefits" are in relationships and since the last one I was in was 12 years ago I have never experienced these benefit. How have traditional gender norms made your life har…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:30 AM
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Even if I thought it was wrong I have never notice a man staring at a barely clothed woman. I'm not saying it doesn't happen but I don't see it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:55 AM
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No one was gawking at anyone in the clip. It's a woman walking around in an empty street seemingly complaining that men get to look at women in skimpy clothes for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:02 AM
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This has to be a troll. I refuse to believe you're serious about this. Having actually watched the tiktok she doesn't sound self conscious it sounds like she's just mad guys aren't giving her money for a passing glance at her ass. So I don't know why you even used the clip you choose. Men need to be gentleman again and not gawk or stare. Imagine if it was your daughter, sister, mom. You wouldn't want guys looking more, would you? If it was my daughter or sister I would kindly explain that she's …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:00 AM
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Yeah I would ask a girl like that out but well I'm autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:49 AM
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Agree
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 05:51 PM
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Then it's probably not worth it. But I'd use mine everyday. Well except when I'm in a bad part of town.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:08 PM
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I kinda want to buy a poket watch they look cool. I also like the idea of being a 19th century gentleman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:03 PM
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How do you spend that much on either of those?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 02:37 PM
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The gay guy who always post in the discussion threads. His profile pic is of the powerpuff girl villain him
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 01:52 PM
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I'm young man
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 01:50 PM
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Red sand complains about men all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 01:49 PM
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I do always find that position comical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 01:02 PM
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Welcome to the 5% brother. The, I lost my virginity in my late 20's club is an exclusive club almost as exclusive as the Iost my virginity in my 30s club.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 12:30 PM
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As a completely side issue, I’m fascinated that men can even enjoy sex with someone who will only do it for money. Pleasure is still pleasure. I can tell you from personal experience that it's possible to not enjoy yourself but that would be the same weather the woman was being paid or not. A girl faking it or pressuring me will significantly decrease my enjoyment of the moment and I've had both of those happen with sex workers. But when I click with someone it's a greats experience that I other…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:48 AM
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Yeah having known a decent amount of sex workers. They're basically the female equivalent of crypto bros. They see sex work as a solid method for them to make money fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:32 AM
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No progressive women tend to support sex workers. Not the men who participate in it. The two most common positions I've seen are "Prostitution should be illegal because it inherently supports sex trafficking and there isn't away it wouldn't" and "Sex work is real work and we shouldn't shame the woman who do it. But the Johns who see these women shouldn't be exempt from the law." Usually these positions are mixed together in someway. There's also some variation of two that goes "I support sex wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:30 AM
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That wouldn't work for me. Maybe if she's a libertarian that could work but otherwise I'm to much of a degenerate, agnostic to marry or date a right wing woman. I'm also just not very traditionally masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 08:59 PM
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I would argue they aren't the primary people in this sub lol. Plus there are other topics and other groups of guys who post here. I'm just confused why your so focused on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:16 PM
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I don't know what you mean by lying lol. Do you mean a guy laying on the charm and telling a married woman that they'll live a good life together? Because if that is what you meant then no I don't feel bad for the married woman. The guy is a piece of shit but the married woman is also shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:11 PM
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No I'm asking why you continuously post about said asshole. You don't post about klans men or fuckboys. You seem hyper focused on the nice guys and bad boy topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:04 PM
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It does. One is a victim, the other is facing the consequences of her own actions and wants to FEEL like a victim I don't see how either is a victim. Unless the one being manipulated is actively being coerced I can't call her a victim. There isn't any functional difference between someone who manipulated into cheating Isn't that what you are literally talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:53 PM
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Did some "nice guy" piss in your cereal or something? Why do you hate these guys so much? It's what alot your post are about. It's like a guy continually posting about single mothers or whores. I get you hate them but why so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:06 PM
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Now she FEELS lured/manipulated, but are we gonna trust her new man manipulated her? Or can we agree she was a cheater that got cheated on? I would say it doesn't matter wheater she got lured/manipulated. There isn't any functional difference between someone who manipulated into cheating and someone who just wants to experience some new strange. Either way they cheated. Want one sided attention. I think you've said this in a few different post and I'm unsure what your referring to here?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:05 PM
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No I'm unconfident and have low self-esteem. I wasn't over confident since I barely had any to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:53 PM
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I was never overconfident lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:46 PM
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Talking isn’t having a crush? If you are actively spending quality time with one another, having slightly flirty conversations, and feeling out a potential relationship which is what the "talking stage" is. Then I would say you've moved beyond a crush yes. A crush is someone you see, amd maybe talk to in a platonic way. I would say if two people are flirting with each other then neither has a crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:30 PM
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I think there maybe some miscommunication here because I don't think you're understanding my questions. I'm asking what practical things they would be doing to show that they vaule you? What does someone vauling you even mean? To give an example I got a random message on discord from someone. We talked a little but we haven't spoken to each other in a month. By not messaging her am I say I don't vaule her? Since she doesn't message me is she showing me she doesn't vaule me? To give another examp…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:26 PM
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So the answer is a man showing he vaules you is him paying attention to you? Or showing you attention randomly? Is attention unpromoted?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 02:44 PM
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I had a personal situation like this last year. I got really close to a cowoker. We would hangout, go out to eat, went to the zoo, spend hours talking to each other, we even went on an "official" date once. I remember at somepoint I tried making a move and she rejected said advances.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 02:27 PM
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Can you give an example of how a man would show he vaules you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 02:02 PM
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It means they at least saw you as a romantic option - maybe. Having been where he's been they don't in fact see him as a romantic option. If he tried to initiate they would reject his advances.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:59 PM
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Credit cards are a scam so actually they should just pull out the debit card
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:56 PM
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I can't tell if you're being sarcastic. But BRB random hook ups BRB talking stage with multiple guys BRB have feelings for chad at work BRB situationships None of this is behavior of having a crush. Typically having a crush doesn't mean that your actually dating or "talking" to that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:54 PM
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I find it interesting how nobody else is pointing it out though Maybe they don’t want to be offensive. Idk it's tge only explanation I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 10:58 AM
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I don't really get the appeal of blonds hair. I prefer red heads and black hair. I also really like curls, braids, afros, locks, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:08 AM
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They're acting like that because they don't experience it often. I know alot of women comeplain about mothering their bf. But there are alot of men who haven't experienced these things so it seems like a big deal to them. Alternatively they have experienced it before but it's a very rare thing so in their mind it's a big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 09:30 PM
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I'd say liberal feminist are 65/35 in favor of porn, or maybe this was circa 2016. Yeah I'd switch that 35/65. Though I will say I have noticed a very real rise of anti-porn sentiment around 2020.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:36 PM
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We have massively different life experiences lol. Growing up the majority of critics of sexual content in media from porn to sex scenes in movies or sex content in anime has been liberal feminist. Alot of those, if not the majority, of them were women. Heck moving it from eroge, or porn itself. We can just talk about sex work itself and I would say some of the strongest, and loudest critics are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 05:29 PM
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I'm sure you realise how unusual your position is right? Like even on reddit, which is a very liberal space, I would say there are a large amount women who push back against porn and other forms of sexualized content. I would honestly say they're some of most vocal critics.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 05:00 PM
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I find that it's a reference thing. Some men like myself prefer women who are "cute", some prefer a woman who is "sexy". Alot of guys would like a girl who can be either when the situation arises.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:54 PM
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Are you asking for things women don't understand about me or men in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:50 PM
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Dose there need to be a reason? I personally just think it biological. I don't think there's largely anything men could actually do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:25 PM
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You okay bro? This isn't like you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:51 AM
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I'd go, sure I doubt anything would happen so why not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:50 AM
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Now that I think about it I don't think I know any tomboys, I don't think I've ever known a tomboy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:09 AM
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Nah just become a serial killer drak triade max
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 11:24 PM
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Are you the one that told Lilith conservative men like jobless reincarnation?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 11:23 PM
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Sure I got nothing to lose
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 09:48 PM
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A customer said she thought my hair was awesome. I get complimented like once or twice every couple of months. Compliments to me mean alot though I don't vaule compliments about my hair as much since that's my normal. I've had people say my hair is disgusting and I people say my hair was awesome. It's been this way my whole life so it doesn't mean much.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 09:47 PM
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My family or anyone I consider family like my bestfriends. I've known all my guy friends for 13 years no relationship would actually get in the away of those bonds.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 04:18 PM
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I think it might just be makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 04:35 AM
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I'm a soild 6
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 04:07 AM
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Women I'm interested in have never mentioned my voice up until recently. I've heard neither complaints nor compliments until again recently where a girl said she liked it. I have had people say I'm to quiet but that's it really. I guess I don't see a reason to change it. I try to speak louder to get some peoples attention but other then that I don't think I need to. This is probably just a larger part of something I'm dealing with. I was actually thinking about what about my personality did I ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 02:45 AM
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Okay then I don't want to change the way I talk. I like it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:30 AM
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Lol I don't think my voice is the issue. It's mostly the autism that's the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 06:49 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:36 PM
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Did you get tons of dating training from your parents? Nope again I don't think it would be deliberat in any capacity. also the kid living around both parents also has a mom around, Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:35 PM
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I deliberately wrote "since while I doubt it would be the mother's goal to raise an attractive man " to make it clear I don't think women or well even a significant minority would do it. How did this work in your head I think it makes some logical sense that a man raised around women should have been interacting with them alot and should theoretically know them very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:23 PM
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I don't want to work on it lol. I like my voice and the way I talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:08 PM
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I think it makes some logical sense that a man raised around women should have been interacting with them alot and should theoretically know them very well. I would also think that since women at least claim to know what women find attractive they would be able at least accidentally raise men at that attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:07 PM
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An aspect of the single mother conversation that's never brought up in these spaces is that you would expect men being raised primarily by women to be better at understanding and maybe attracting women. But this doesn't seem to be the case at all they seem no better or worse at it then generations of men before them. Which I suppose is kinda iconic since while I doubt it would be the mother's goal to raise an attractive man I would expect to happen accidentally at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:15 PM
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Monotone voice can make even the most interesting thing boring. Some us just have a monotone voice lol. I can be super excited and my voice stays the same or barely changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:49 PM
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I've never seen this happen so I can't give an answer. It's like asking why men cat call. Idk I've never actually heard a woman get cat called outside of maybe one time in the hall of a high-school over 10 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:35 AM
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I guinually personally think I'm average looking. But I think women think I'm not that attractive. I have been called cute by a few different girls but generally I don't get the impression women are attracted to me. So I largely just think women either find me unattractive or uninteresting. Anyway I have no idea what "league" of women I should stick to. I would say I've been interested in conventionally attractive women, and women who are amazing but cute in their own way or just cute to me. My …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:17 AM
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Lol that's most black-pilled thing I've read in a while
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:48 AM
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Like one time i was joking around with a friend of mine and i said that my boyfriend's penis doesn't satisfy me. What was the joke exactly? I was just trying to have fun but he happened to walk i night as i said that. I about cried and had to beg him to come out of his room to talk to us like a mom. It's completely understandable for him to be upset his partner is making fun of his proformance especially a friend of the opposite sex. Afterwards he just said what the issue was and i realized how …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:45 AM
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The evil endings of infamous 2 both the good and evil ones that is. Will always live rent free in my mind. Cole dying in the good ending or having to kill Zeke in the evil ending are moments in games that'll live with me for ever. I will always remember Half as long twice as bright from that game. Sony needs to remaster those games
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:23 AM
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She is indeed an attractive woman
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:02 AM
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It's probably a combation of progressives being dominant in popular culture so kids want to rebel against it and the left having lost its mind this last decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 10:51 PM
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Idk I think I can be the bigger person and I try to be understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 10:41 PM
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How did you learn this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 10:40 PM
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Tbf Idubbbz was a virgin before he had sex and married Anisa so really he got lucky. Well unlucky depending on how you look at it considering they ruined his career.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 03:36 AM
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I've watched Death Note though that was over 10 years ago. I have known 3 mentally ill women so I have some experience with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:35 AM
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I know 3 french words and I can read Hiragana and Katakana. Dose that work?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:35 PM
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Hey as far as we know none of those men like minors. As far as we know
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:28 PM
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I mean it is an ugly mustache and I grow facial hair. If you're going to grow an ugly mustache make it a gun handle bar one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:27 PM
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How do I woo autistic women and mentally ill women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:22 PM
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I mean I think there is a female counter part to me though I'm the spergiest man. I've just never met said female counterpart, all the mentally ill women I've known and been interested in aren't into me, and they still get approached. Don't let it ever be said that I wouldn't date a woman as autistic and mentally ill as myself. I would in a heart beat if they were interested and I was alittle interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:42 PM
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Actually I'm saying no one will come up to you. Personally if I to initiate about 80% of conversations with people who aren't my best friends. I always say something like you need to intentionally interact with people because people won't just come up to you and talk. But no matter how many times I explain people don't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:54 PM
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One of the most fustrating things is trying to explain to people that actually just existing in a space and doing something that makes me happy isn't enough of an action for me to make friends or find a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:02 PM
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USA 🇺🇸 USA 🎆
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:57 PM
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Well my father is dead and died when I was 3 so I can't tell you anything about him. My mom never got remarried so I suppose I never had a father figure and I didn't look for one. I don't think it effects my dating life at all honestly. I do think being familiar with death at a young age affected the way I see death, dying, grief. My mother dose date but it's clear that she also still loves my father which is interesting I wish to one day have someone who loves me that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:35 PM
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Eh, think it's fine to acknowledge he's obviously going to be at a disadvantage from the off set and that the only thing that may help him is some high charisma.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 11:51 PM
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He seems to struggle in getting dates at all
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 11:13 PM
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She's tried her friends but they don't want to because he's slept with one of her friends and they view him as "easy" and off limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 11:13 PM
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Oh I agree but she seems so unaware that him being short and Asian may play any role lol. It's even crazy that she had to come to reddit to be told that being short, awkward, and Asian is doing him no favors.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 10:33 PM
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<image> He’s also just my guy friend and I have a boyfriend. I was never into him because our lifestyles are not compatible and he’s just generally not my type He’s slept with one of my friends actually, which has barred him from that circle. His issue is that he’s simply not confident and is quiet, if he was outgoing I know he’d do a lot better. He’s also apparently muscular just short and Asian. This hilarious to me like she seems so unaware of why he might be struggling Also her friends seem …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 10:21 PM
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Sex is not overrated
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:47 PM
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I like giving head tbh. I couldn't be with that girl
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:32 PM
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Yes I used to think that fairly often or I would imagine myself with my crush
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 06:13 AM
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I'm legitimately surprised anyone else here has heard of whatifalthist
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 06:10 AM
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Having someone repeatedly laugh at what I'm saying feels weird. I'm not sure how to react to this much postive reneforcement. Is this what charisma feels like?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 10:10 PM
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Okay I honestly can't tell what the intent of this comment is. I'm going to assume you're sincere and say that while I prefer proactive women they are incredibly rare and realistically unless I'm some 6'3 charisma machine they're not going to approach me. So I can't "let" anyone go for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:53 PM
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Yeah they'll express interest but won't actively act on it besides in plausible deniable way and will then let the man purse. Unless she's saying something like I want to fuck now it's so passive. Just ask the ask the guy out instead of hoping or waiting they pick up on the interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:37 PM
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Yeah? Though I wouldn't be the same since they're rejecting them for because they aren't available vs rejection for lack of attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:27 PM
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No? Then presumably she would inform men they aren't single.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:20 PM
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No it's the toxic masculinity they like
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:19 PM
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of course theyll express interest but towards who they like, and most (not all!) wont pursue them but let the man pursue. This seems extremely passive to the point if annoyance
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:18 PM
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50% maybe 60% Actually ideal would be 40-50 but 60 would be a nice middle point. With 40-50 it would be a coin toss but that's preferable then it being like playing the lottery.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:06 PM
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I don't think the number would matter. If 4 men approach her a year and she rejects 3 or all 4 that's 75%. That's a high percentage so unless they get approached once a year (which I doubt) they have to be rejecting a decent amount of men. By the way I am talking about social media as well which increases those numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 01:33 PM
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I mean it's the same thing irl. Even if we give you that OLD is harder then irl. Most dudes are going through a lot of no's to get a yes. So it's the same dynamics for OLD but on steroids.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 01:23 PM
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Like they don't talk to 99% of their matches and they think match = success for men? That's the thing that confuses me. Like you’re average woman is presumably rejecting a decent amount of men per year. If I had to pull a number out of my ass I would say they're probably rejecting 80% to 90% of men tbat approach. With numbers like that you would think they'd understand but it's like they're all oblivious to it somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 01:21 PM
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Redditor for Redditor Think of it like Craigslist. It's people, usually men, making post to meet people. This can be for finding friends or hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:52 PM
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People would argue that's different since it's your gf. That's a guy who did that for a woman who's not his gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:58 AM
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Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:50 AM
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You have to ask or make yourself seem like you need help. You could also just hang around men who have money. If you're young and pretty they'll just offer because they want to sleep with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:50 AM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:48 AM
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Why would you pay rent to someone you're not even dating just because they look attractive holy shit I would if I had the disposable income and knew the person well enough. I've never paid anyone's rent but I've bought Ubers and helped with groceries. I'm a bleeding heart I can't help it. None of this is to get laid that would be pointless since that's not how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:46 AM
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Lol no there are definitely female sex offenders they just don't get reported. They're victims are men and the men have to report.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:38 AM
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Then I ask the question in regards to both scenarios - upon learning this information, do you now believe there is now an "increased risk" that she will have sexual interest in you? Yes and no. To some degree I recognize that I'm very vulnerable to abuse and manipulation by women since it has happened to me in the past. But all of those experiences were online so I'd doubt it'll happen irl. There is a possibility she sees something vulnerable in me but I doubt it. I assume that in regards to Sce…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:22 AM
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I don't think the alcohol is gonna help in the long run man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:46 AM
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God speed but usually girls like that aren't...all up there. Not that I'm one to talk since that's my exact type.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:38 AM
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Give her about 3 or 4 years based on averages jodi arias apologist Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:33 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 01:44 AM
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Leave her alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 01:04 AM
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Yeah I don't really get it completely. But leaving for a woman might be for a number of different reasons such as is it because it’s more socially acceptable or is it because of insecurity? I don't know why leaving you for one reason would be better then another. Plus it lights up the insecurity in me that I can never ever be her, while I can be another gay dude and become better, I can’t become a woman tho. You can't be another gay dude. You can only be you. Becoming "better" wouldn't fix anyth…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 01:03 AM
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So I'm bi and I'm confused why this is exclusive to bi people? Like a gay guy can leave you for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:40 AM
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If something happens 80% of the time to everyone else chances are it'll happen to you. Everyone wants to be the 20% exception but most people are not going to be. While it's fine to take risk be prepared for failure when the odds are low and maybe re-think some risk you might take. Has this person I'm cheated in the past? Was it several times? What are the chances they won't cheat on you? If it happens most of the time chances are you're part if that most.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:30 AM
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How are you with female women when they're just afraid the guy will leave them for a man? You're literally what they’re afraid of lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:24 AM
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I think the answer most men would give is yes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 11:41 AM
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I'm not sure it matters wheater they fucked her in the end when it comes to her moral copability. The negative action is the lying which is still wrong regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 11:26 AM
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I mean it is still catfishing if they found out on the date. Everything leading up to the date was lie so yeah they were catfished.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:57 AM
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imagine being used for your time Can't imagine that tbh people can sense that they can get comfort out of you then spend every waking moment of your life making sure to slow you down. they took something you need right now and they have to make you wait to give it back so now it takes fucking forever to do the thing you needed the thing for. imagine doing this for multiple years. nothing is ever where it should be, everything takes 3 times longer. your mind breaks at some point. Also can't imagi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:53 AM
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Seriously who is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:47 AM
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I have no idea who that is
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:47 AM
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How the fuck are you working 3 full time job? If two of them are part time why are you working 2 part time jobs? Why not just work one part time job and put more hours into your full time job? Where's all that money that you're supposedly making going?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 12:49 AM
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Since I'm talking about games. Something that came to mind when I watching a video was that most modern "gamers" probably are guys who play cod, fifa, and madden; then you have women that play match 3 games like candy crush, the sims. If I had to guess that makes up 60% of the gaming audience. The rest is some variation of informed nerd and how nerdy they are is how informed they are. The 60% is unlikely to play something like Castlevania, Spyrp, Mario, Final fantasy, Tekken, Street Fighter, Dar…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:48 PM
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No you're probably right that most capital 'g' Gamers have heard of final fantasy but I think your average person who dosen't play them really hasn't. Plus I did ask women so the evidence is skewed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:32 PM
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Funny you mention that. I asked 3 of my coworkers today. All of them are 20 something women. One of them has heard of it but never played it, two of them didn't. Of the two that didn't know about it one knew what DnD was because of her brother but didn't know what an RPG was and the other one had never heard of an RPG. I also remember have a conversation with a manger of mine and she had never heard of RPGs before. I think she was in her early 30's.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 10:57 PM
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Talking about Octopath got me thinking about how funny the question of how mainstream jrpgs are. If I go outside and grab a random normie ghe chances of them knowing about final fantasy which is probably the most mainstream jrpg is zero. Growing up I was the only kid I knew that had ever heard of it let alone played one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 10:15 PM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 10:13 PM
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Over for anorexiacels Really all they have to do is slide into my dms. I like my girls little on the chubby side or stick thin
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 10:12 PM
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We disagree there my friend. Octopath Traveler is a brilliant series. Do you not like turn based jrpgs? Also it's not made by Nintendo it's a square enix produced and published game
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 07:24 PM
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Is anyone here excited for Octopath Traveler 0 or Have you heard of Octopath Traveler at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:58 PM
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I think what your not accounting for is how picky women are. The algorithm for the app could be perfect but alot of women would still find most of the men it chooses are sub-par. So from there perspective they're still picking 80% ugly men and 20% hot guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 07:28 AM
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Sure I didn't even think I was gonna get into a relationship let alone have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 12:09 AM
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No I love my mother, sister, and nephew
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 12:08 AM
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Is this a good or bad thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:51 PM
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This depends on the context If I some how learn that she's been in 3 relationships he whole life or is some kind of sheltered girl or virging Christian girl saving herself for marriage. Then it's A If it's an experienced woman and literally just met then the answer is B.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:49 PM
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Nah baddies should be 5'0
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:55 PM
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Yeah I understand what you getting at. It would still be a numbers game and such a woman might be more likely to not be single. I'm just curious since women on here keep mentioning women with these low standards and I just wonder where these women are and how is a guy even supposed to know who these women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:53 PM
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I think as a guy who dosen't like alcohol and has not had a good time in bars. Your advice might be a bad idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:47 PM
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No you misunderstand. If she described him as hot, stable, and exciting in his own way there wouldn't be an issue. When guys take issue with this framing they aren't saying they want to be an exciting bad boy. They're saying they wished there partner found them as they are exciting and sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:45 PM
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I think they guinually believe it. I do believe if it was reversed on them they would hate it though. They just never think it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:40 PM
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How do I find these women with low look standards? Are they attracted to autistic men?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:24 PM
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Hot short women are best
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:00 PM
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Yeah while I do think women approaching would improve things alittle it wouldn't be by a whole lot. Maybe like 2% more men would get into relationships but I don't think much would change.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 05:58 PM
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Same I just figure any girll into me would eventually find a different "better" guy. Wouldn't be the first or last time
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:11 PM
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Constantly hating men or talking about men this and men that honestly shows they still put them on a pedestal. I don't follow how dose that men they put men on a pedestal. I feel like there's an extra step in the logic I'm not seeing. Are you saying they put men in general on a pedestal so when they get hurt they blame all men? If so then it's hard for me to imagine. It seems so different then my experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:10 PM
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Seems like women are saying they will stop putting men on a pedestal. Where are all these women putting men on pedestals lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:03 PM
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Like the midriff, but dislike the heels.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:00 PM
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You see you say things like that but I don't experience that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:59 PM
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I think alot of women online blame men for things that have nothing to do with men and just complain about men. But idk when I see center men I think they care about men alot or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:58 PM
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Women center men? I guess some women center their bfs but I don't know if women center men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:23 PM
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Not really mad I just don't see the point I suppose. In my head I'm just thinking "is that it"? I mean I could quibble about the bootstrap mentality but I don't think that would lead anywhere. There doesn't seem to be anything to really chew on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:40 PM
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Well yeah I never said didn't happen lol. I said it dosen't seem to hard for them. I don't even think they need to "level up" they'll just need to face slightly more rejection but otherwise they'll be fine. I think the disagreement is that I don't really believe this is that significant of a challenge for these men or at least the vast majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:37 PM
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Okay that's just rejection. Those men have probably been rejected before they have found other women in the past they will do so again.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:23 PM
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I’d say some fuckboys struggle to be taken seriously or suck at “adulting” so they get passed over by the women they want for LTRs. They’d have to “level up” too. But in a lifestyle and relational way. I don't see that happen irl. Like it doesn't seem to hard for a fuckboy to get the women he wants. Provided he's not trying to date some virginal church girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:15 PM
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I mean you're pov just seems to the 80/20 rule using emoji with the added caveat that the unattractives can always just pull themselves up by there bootstraps and become the top 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:12 PM
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I think the fuckboy category is just another way of saying man who either attractive enough in someway to fuck but not in otherways to commit to or is attractive enough to commit to but dosen't want commit. The issue you and I have is that this dosen't mean that women won't not sleep with and date these men. They often time will and be disappointed afterwards. So from our perspective it doesn't matter how unattractive they are on some practical level they still fucked them which is what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:08 PM
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So if I understand your post correctly 30% 🟡 just have to either get luck or "level up". And the bottom 20% 👎 are either fucked or they have to "level up"?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:56 PM
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I hate soical media so I wouldn't think anything of it because I wouldn't even notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:42 AM
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This is extactly how it works in my head
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:41 AM
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I don’t regard inconsiderate people and I don’t think they’re enjoyable to be around. Yeah I agree It’s the reality: Interpersonal relations that are rewarding and copacetically maintained rely on mutual consideration. Yeah I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:04 PM
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What? No one is implying that. I am simply implying that a dude being “intro” doesn’t automatically mean he’s a “good guy.” Maybe there was a miscommunication here I mean that anyone saying that any group of people are default kind ate wrong. I'm not saying you claimed this. Btw many people temper themselves. That temperance, discipline, and active choice to be considerate is a virtue I admire. And something I actively find distasteful in people who don’t. Especially when they themselves want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:03 PM
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People assuming my beliefs or making assumptions about my past is odd to me. Some user might think I hold men and women to different standards and I just wonder when have I demonstrated that? Or a user saying I love bomb women and I just think, well I can't do that I don't even get dates. I don't get a chance to love bomb women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:54 PM
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Extremely few people are default good or kind. Looking for that would be insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:49 PM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:37 AM
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At little bit of both. Sometimes I would talk to people after the event other times I would just walk to my car.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:31 AM
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Yeah in my personal experience the amount of time is irrelevant it never happens lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:17 AM
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Men are the same. I agree I don't think I ever claimed or implied they aren't. You seem to make a lot of assumptions about my opinions about men when I have never stated anything about them. I guess it's because of experience on here? Either way personally I hold men and women to the same standards. It's just that the topic was about women not men. To clarify I suppse, yes I think if a man is regularly hooking up with someone he is "single" and if he says he's single he's misinforming you in my …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 10:18 AM
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Well one I don't think anyone who gets cheated on is stupid or deserve, or need to take accountability lol. I don't know where you got that opinion from. Two I hold men and women to the exact same moral standards. I don't think I've ever not done so.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 10:05 AM
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No though my therapist thinks I'm on the spectrum. I have no official test my therapist just gave me her professional opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 04:05 AM
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I get not to stress but I have some bad spending habits I need to get control of lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:23 AM
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There's been a few recent post that I see and am just confused why it was made. Like who is OP even arguing with?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:17 AM
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Yeah cause single means not in a relationship, so when there’s no official title, you don’t call it a relationship. What’s so hard about that? I would just call it a relationship tbh. I think normies over complicate things. Also men actually are more often calling themselves single than women in a situationship. This is partially why more men identify as single than women. Notice how I said "(some of these men as well)" so included men as well. I just don't think most men use the word situations…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:15 AM
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Yeah no that's not the case for everyone that's just the case you. Which is fine by the way I just think it's worth pointing out that alot of women saying they are single are in situations I laid out so saying they're single and celibate isn't true.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:04 AM
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I see myself as a person but I feel very alienated. I feel like an alien surrounded by aliens that looks similar to me and speak the same language but are not like me. Another way I think about it is I am in society but I am not apart of this society. Social interaction dosen't help, if anything it just exacerbates the problem as I feel more different and people point out how different I am. Over all I have learned to just accept that to some degree I am always going to be an other and I just de…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:01 AM
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I never said anything of the sort about wheater ugly men are more or less likely to cheat. I guess I did say something like men women find attractive have more options and more ability to cheat. My whole point which I think you agree with is that women want to avoid the inevitable outcome of all them dating the same guy since they are attracted to similar traits. And those traits will lead them to dating the same or similar guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:53 AM
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But they AREN’T. This is the point of all those other posts. I guess you mean I shouldn't believe my liying eyes and ears about what's happening around me. Because I'm just talking about what I'm seeing around me. They aren’t out there randomly picking up men or out there on the apps. Tbf I don't mean they're sleeping with random men. As in they just go on tinder and just have empty hookups with randoms. I mean they get into "relationships" or situationships. I know a girl who would up until ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:44 AM
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What's the debate here? Yes indeed women do not want to have sex with me and chades do exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:28 AM
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I don't think you need to put these men in quotes. I don't mean chads or anything. I just mean men women typically find attractive. these men are just men. I personally never said they aren't these men are just men. women have been told over and over that men are naturally driven to spread their seed and that they are mostly not monogamous. all men are capable of cheating or attempting to cheat. not really sure how else you expect women to go about the nature that men present to us and insist up…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:18 AM
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I mean personally never said women seek out to all date the same men they just do. Sure they make efforts to not do so but efforts like this has always existed and clearly has very little effect because women like these men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:05 AM
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He's right alot of these women (and some of these men as well) are "single". Yeah they aren't in committed relationships but they're getting into causal flings, going on dates, getting into situationships, etc... Edit: Actually I know one girl who's actually single (she's 19) so that's one exception I know. Instead of asking if they're single the question should be are they sexually active.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:03 AM
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Well tbf 90% of the men here are not talking of 35 year old woman so the idea of them opting out means nothing to me personally. As for why I believe that alot of women are sharing top men. Well for one I don't believe women are sharing "top men" I think they're getting into causal relationships with attractive men who are none committal or getting into relationships with men who want completely different things, their getting into "relationships" where if you asked the girl she's in a relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:58 AM
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I don't really got much to add besides that another issue with the building your soical circle level advice is it relies on two things, people inviting you to things and those people having friends they'll introduce you to. I find that those are some huge assumptions. People sort of expect you to say join a run club talk to a few people and suddenly your invited to a party or a cookout. Personally since I only have one friend that plans get togethers of any sort and I otherwise don't get invited…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:43 AM
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I will be doing that yes or at least attempting that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:59 AM
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I feel like an old man looking at my 401k, thinking about how much money I should put into my other savings accounts. I like being more aware of my finances but it dose have the effect that I probably sound like an old man. I am almost 30 so it might just be a part of getting older.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:44 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:41 AM
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I think I get what you're talking about I think the only hitch is the "open to attention" part. But I think this might be where the autism may play a role. Like I don't know what a woman open to attention would even look like lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:36 PM
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You see your talking about this like I'm supposed to have run into a woman struggling with pickme-ism when I was younger when I haven't lol tbf I wasn't exactly popular in high-school so I only really had one female friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:30 PM
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Hey I've been in the room with decently soicalable and attractive women. I've never been their friends but I've seen them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:29 PM
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Whenever I see or hear people talk about women desperate for male attention or women being "pick me"s I'm always very confused. Like where are these women irl? Why have I never run into a women like this? Why is this talked about online like it's this super common thing that everyone has experienced?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:06 PM
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I don't know any of those types. Honestly the way people online talk about them you would assume their everwhere. But I've never met a woman irl desperate for male validation or being "pick me".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:57 PM
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I don't like dude bro types but putting my own bias aside he's clearly in shape and not fat and she is. While I think she's cute in the face I'd need a standing photo to give my real opinion but most dude's would say she's less attractive then him on weight alone. In other words the issue red sand is you like bears and most straight men are not chubby chasers
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:55 PM
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Working retail makes those state seem to low.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:51 PM
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She wasn’t “the most attractive woman in the world” to you when you first saw her. Yeah I would have admitted that and I said I logically knew that. You only felt like that after you fell in love with her… and definitely only AFTER you had sex. We never had sex, I never even saw her half naked, or even kissed. My feelings where sexual but I didn't act on them like that. Men here are demanding that women must treat him like he’s the most attractive man who’s ever lived on first sight. Essentially…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:14 PM
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Maybe it's because I'm bi but I don't really care
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 02:05 AM
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I agree that chads exist granted I don't use that word, but yeah I agree that highly attractive men that get all the things I listed by simply existing well exist. Guy's like that are probably rare, not like I know any, but it's not hard to imagine they exist. One of my best friends is a former fuck boy he's just not your stereotypical chad in appearance but he has had lots hookups, situationships, girls messaging him just to fuck, girls staying around just so they have a chance to fuck, etc... …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 02:04 AM
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I get what your saying but the context for my various experiences are probably different what your imaging. Since I've only been in one relationship and on one date so I don't normally get the chance to behave like that. Anyway good luck. Maybe you’ll find another girl that love bombs too. Thanks I suppose though I've recently decided to step back emotionally. Text less readily, be lway less physically affectionate (unless I'm literally having sex), probably compliment less as well. It's not a d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:54 AM
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Yeah I don't know what his problem with it is besides I guess disliking the possibility of gay men checking him out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:31 AM
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I'm slightly confused are you just not sure why men dislike the look?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:57 AM
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Is it even bait? I think she just rants about her life problems and hits post.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:54 AM
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I think she's just complaining about something that happens to her irl. Since I'm not sure anyone on any of the recent threads said anything like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:49 AM
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That usually takes time, though right? You don’t get that on day one. Alittle time but not that long. I'm like this two dates or a week or two in. Like I said in a comment I'm just like this when I like someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 09:58 PM
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Lol I mean my emotions aren't as strong as in I don't get obsessed with women in the same way. I still compliment women I like, if they're okay with it I hug them, kiss them, hold their hands, cuddle, etc... if you knew me irl you could ask a woman I'm close to and she would tell you I'm still very much that way. In fact it eventually became to much according to her. I am not demanding anything I'm not giving. I know myself and I'm sure if I thought I could be in a committed relationship with a …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 07:46 PM
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But it's normalcy also undermines the idea that only the top 20% of men can get it—that all of those normie relationships we see everyday must just be women settling without any real interest. I don't know if I agree with this since I don't see this irl, but I'm at the point where I don't care about wheater the 80/20 rule is a real or not. All I know is what I want out of a relationship. Wheater norimes actually have it or not is not my concern. What matters to me personally is that I don't have…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:40 PM
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I mean that's how I would be to my gf random compliments, hugs, kisses. She dosen't have to a a Stacy for me to act that way that's just how I am when I like someone
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 02:54 PM
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Men bring up chad because it's the idea of a a highly attractive man who gets everything I laid out seemingly just by existing. It's their example chads girlfriend stands by him, she's physically affectionate, and just affectionate in general to him. She dosen't hide her desire for him she's just open about it. They bring up sex on the first date because in their eyes it's the ultimate show that this woman wants you. Her going on the date doesn't prove that, she could have just been bored and wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 02:06 PM
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they do and they wish their woman had spontaneous desire because they don't like the need to put in constant work to trigger responsive desire. I think I'm in this camp. Yes I know that responsive desier is a thing. But some women are so passive that it's less like they want you to touch them or they want to have sex with you and more like your forcing yourself on to them. It feels like you're negotiating with someone and they eventually accept you're demands.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 01:41 PM
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Of course, average men will prefer having sex with women hotter than them, but they are still sexually enthusiastic for average women. This is probably a big component of the disconnect. I've been in love and felt like the girl I loved was the most attractive woman in the world. Was she? No and if you asked me I would have been able to articulate that. But I certainly felt like she was. I see comments about how if you want to treated like chad look like chad or some variation of that. But the th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 01:38 PM
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Is it you offering your mere existence? Is it throwing yourself on him or is it paying just to take a picture with him? There dose seem to be a large portion of women who feel this way. If they're talking to you, allowing you to touch them, and spending anytime with you. Then in their mind they're showing you that they desier you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 12:34 PM
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So I'm just gonna tell you exactly what I mean when I say I want to be desired and you can tell me if this is wantting to be treated like a sex god. I mean that I want a woman wants to touch me. Who wants to hug, kiss, cuddle, hold hands, etc... who when I touch her it dosen't feel like I'm doing something wrong or risky. I want a woman who seeks my company and dosen't just passively wait for me to message her. She messages and calls me just to talk or see how I'm doing and not just when she nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:56 AM
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Q4All What characteristic of the opposite sex do you hear about but have never actually experienced? I keep seeing women on reddit complain about how much planning they do in their lives soically but I've never experienced this besides maybe my sister who loves throwing social events. Actually my manger do but that's there job. It's probably due to being romantically unsuccessful but I don't really experience women planning anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 07:44 PM
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Women, girlfriends, your mother's, genreally do this for you even if they obviously ain't getting nothing but sh*t back in return. If women wanted to they could give you guys absolutely nothing. This maybe my problem my mother has done things without asking for things in return. But other then her and maybe my sister my experience with other women has been that they don't really do anything for me and occasionally maybe once every 4 or 5 month a female coworker will do something without me askin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 07:26 PM
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The way you know many women have lower "looks” standards is by looking around and seeing all the couples were, the woman is more attractive than the man. Yeah we're going to have to agree to disagree here because I frequently disagree with people about the attractiveness of men. I don't see these vast amounts of couples where women are more attractive. I guinually believe people overplay how attractive women are and underplay how attractive men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 07:21 PM
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I considered just taking my bank statements but they weren't comprehensive enough for my taste and having to manually update the spreadsheet and budget keeps me more aware. It gives me more pause to scrutinize purchases. It also keeps me honest. If I regularly check my accounts I have to confront my spending.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:47 PM
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Example scenario: evil country invades god country. A third country fears that after the good country is conquered they're next, so it supplies aid to the good country to help them win. Now the philosophical question is: does this mean this third country is also "good"? I see what you mean my instinctual argument is that the third country isn't bad or "good" it's neutral. Though thinking amount it logically the third country is as "good" as country one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:43 PM
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A few days ago a girl, I think she was like 16-17 hard to tell tbh, came up to me and said she thought my hair was cool. It gave me a bit of an ego boost and made my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:27 PM
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I think I'm better at keeping track of my spending. I've only been doing it for two months but I decided to make a spreadsheet to track my spending and keep to my budget. I started using rocket money a year ago but I found that there was a discrepancy in how much it said I spent versus what I actually spent. So I just made a spreadsheet and it's been going pretty good so far. I don't think most people irl or on here do anything like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:24 PM
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How is someone being okay looking not being attractive? I say a girl is okay looking and mean that I find her sexually attractive and would like to go on a date with her. Im starting to see its really how “women wont treat us like sex gods!” instead of women having high looks standards. I'm not entirely sure how you came to that conclusion based on what I wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:11 PM
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I know they have high looks standards based on the amount of men they find attractive. Which consistently is fairly low. I've noticed that even women who say they have low standards tend to find an extremely small percentage of men attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 05:37 PM
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Just take a walk to the local bar and look at the old lonely regulars, or even more sobering: a retirement home and the lonely ones just waiting to die with no one visiting or calling. Wouldn't that just be you and I making assumptions about their perosnalities and moral standing based on how isolated they are? How that prove what you said? I would have to know how selfish or selfless these people are to prove that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 05:14 PM
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Selfish people tend not to be alone though. Irl I don't see good people surrounded by others and selfish people alone. But it’s the reason some people are drawn to certain people whose reputations are larger than life. In my experience that seems less to to do with the moral character of someones and more to do with social ability and how neruotypical someone is. It's more to do with your ability to mimic and read typical human behavior then anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 05:00 PM
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Because you guys consistently hang around girls with high look standards. I don't though, I'm sure if you asked them they would say something like you are. That actually they don't have high looks standards and that they mainly care about character. I've never meet a girl who doesn't believe this about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:51 PM
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Okay though I still don't believe people even really believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:47 PM
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Idk what to tell you I just don't have the same experience as you I guess. You asserting that some women have a lower looks standards without any proof so I'm dismissing it without any proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:43 PM
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I'm starting to wonder where the "true nice guys do things without expectations" thing came from. Like I don't think I've seen anyone apply this logic to anything else but dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:42 PM
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The consistent women can have lower looks standards, but will still have higher personality standards. They do not have lower looks standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:39 PM
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I believe you need to ask out a new aquaintance early on before she views you as only a friend. You should make it explicit that your interested in her in more then a friendly way. I don't know if she'll lose attraction or whatever but I do think since reactive desier is so common in women you have to act in some explicit way to get their attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:33 PM
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I'm no red piller and I don't advocate men spin plates. But I'm skeptical that something like tbe tea app or are we dating the same guy groups would even be effective in the way your portraying. Women aren't some kinda of obviously unaware innocent to the world. They're probably already aware that the men they're seeing is dating other women. It clearly never stoped them im the past so why would such a thing stop them now?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:31 PM
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I would argue you can't reach a state where sexual attractionis abated. People will always natrually follow where their attraction leads them. So realistically the tea app would never benefit sexless men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:25 PM
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Yes I would 100% support that. My only real issue is I don't like the government having my DNA on record like that but otherwise yeah O don't care
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:04 PM
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I was kinda envious, I couldn't imagine being that delusional. No one can say he doesn't have confidence that's for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:41 AM
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That Polyandry thread reminds me of post on r/virgin where the op got rejected by a girl at a bar and unironically believed her that she had a bf. He seemed convinced that what was stopping him from getting laid was that all these women are partnered and aren't willing to cheat. If more women where promiscuous he wouldn't be a virgin according to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:20 AM
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Yeah that's never going to happen and like I said the men complaining about lack of success are not going to be chosen to be in woman's harem. The men are unsuccessful because women don't want them in the first place. Why would making women have harems improve their chances?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:10 AM
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Do you think men care about "privacy" when they're telling people they ran a train on a random woman? When you make these comments are you expecting guys to defend this behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 02:29 AM
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I mean I'm black and am part of a majority black community so I kinda know what your talking about. Like there's a fall in birth rates across the western world but from experience the Hispanic and black communities are just poping out as many babies as possible. That said whenever I hear things like what OP is saying I do wonder where this is happening. Like I don't actually see women treat men like a prize. It's very rare to see desperate women seeking male attention and validation irl. It's ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:53 AM
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I'm at the point where I don't really care about wheater the "average man" has a harder or easier time dating. I personally have a hard time dating and that's what matters to me. I think there's vaule in having an accurate idea of the experience of the average person but it's not my experience. I don't live it and I don't really see it. I can't really speak to it besides what men online tell me and the experience of my one friend who was a fuck boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:45 AM
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There is an odd amount of black women on this sub. I do hear black women talk about this kind of stuff but I never see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:09 AM
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I feel like this Sub denies a lot of things that clearly happens quite frequently My denial is because it's not something I've experienced or seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:08 AM
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Exactly I don't know what op is smoking
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 08:38 PM
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So let me get this straight you think that if we somehow getting rid of the stigma around body count will I guess make women want to partner up with more men who are by their own estimation unattractive or less attractive then they would like? Besides the fact you'll never get a majority or significant minority of western men to agree to such a thing. I don't see this improving the odds of men who already struggle with dating. The men complaining about lack of success are not the ones being post…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 08:38 PM
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Tbh I thought she was married or something and just bitter about her past dating experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 06:20 PM
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Another aspect is probably that "be first" rule is kinda impractical at a certain point. Unless you exclusively go after 18 - 21 year olds your not going to be any womans first.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 02:58 PM
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I dont get why men would even be in a relationship if they're obviously wanting sex with sex workers. I mean wanting sex with sex workers is fine. Acting on that desire is wrong but the desire isn't evil. Even worse when the couple is older- just shows the male partners type isnt actually older women like their wives. I...yeah wouldn't it be obvious that they're type wouldn't be older women? I don't think mens physical type changes much as they age. I think it pauses somewhere between the 20's -…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 02:33 PM
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Interjecting can be rude in voice conversation sure, but in text, the reasons why it's rude to interject do not apply. You can write and if you feel ignored or unwelcome, then move along. If you are specially unsure you can just say Hi and get the approval of both to include you in the conversation. Okay If you find socializing unenjoyable because of anxiety that can be a pretty deadly vicious cycle for both why you don't socialise and why you have anxiety. I don't usually find socializing unenj…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 01:56 PM
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What's the point of this post? Just to say guys are just coping about not being hot?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 01:20 PM
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Yes you do. Speaking from experience
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 01:12 PM
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How do you not know when to interject? Because usually it's people having conversations with each other and just adding my input seems rude. It's like two people having a conversation irl and then a random person just adds their opinion. It's rude to do that. I prefer forums and message boards though even on those I still usually don't try to interject in two user argue. Are you socially anxious? To some degree yeah. I usually do better with people one on one not with groups of people. Just leav…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:53 PM
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A friend of mine once gave advice to try joing Facebook groups to meet people. I joined one and lost interest pretty quickly. I hate social media so I wasn't enjoying facebook and the group never had any interesting post. In all my time on internet I've only made one "online friend". I've joined several discord servers and everytime, I try to participate, and then I just never know when to interject or I turn of notifications because the constant vibration gets annoying. Then I forget about the …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 02:33 AM
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What's the point of railing against black pillers if they aren't allowed on the sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 04:57 AM
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It's not really that of a moving event and many don't do it out of genuine joy but to emulate what they modern media tries to dictate as normal behavior. My honest response is who gives a fuck? Yeah some people are doing it for performative reason and sure some aren't. I don't care if some people are being performative the one's who are still as much of men as the guys who don't cry. And actually, most men I know in my personal life don't cry at their weddings. Okay, that's fine I still don't re…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 11:00 PM
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I didn't think there are actually people who got upset for man at crying at their wedding. It should be one of the happiest days of their lives. Crying is to expected, I want no part of a masculinity that shames men for crying at their wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:46 PM
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Personally no but that's because my desire and romantic feelings are strongly tide to my sexual desire. I can have sex without developing a romantic connection but the more "meaningless sex" I have the less attached to my gf I would become.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:24 PM
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I'm not talking about men in none healthy relationships. In that case I understand. None of the people I'm thinking of are in unhealthy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:19 PM
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I think I've seen the exact opposite. I see men complaining about how they don't have gfs and are there for lonely. Even if what your saying is true I would have the same opinion of them. I don't care if you're male or female. If you have an active dating life or are in a committed relationship, have close friends, spend time with family, and have hobbies. I'm going to be very confused as to why you're so lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 07:10 PM
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I get that but at some point I have to ask how are you lonely? You spend all your time with family, friends, and partners. You feel loved and appreciated but also loney?? How is that working? Is this just a mental health thing? Also part of the rants aren't about loneliness it's about going through things in life alone. But then I think that they don't have to go it alone. They could ask for help, could ask for others to be around them but it's like they purposely do so and then complain they ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 07:05 PM
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I get that but at some point I have to ask how are you lonely? You spend all your time with family, friends, and partners. You feel loved and appreciated but also loney?? How is that working? Also part of the rants aren't about loneliness it's about going through things in life alone. But then I think that they don't have to go it alone. They could ask for help, could ask for others to be around them but it's like they purposely do so and then complain they have no one looking out for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 07:04 PM
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It's the only place I can have these kinds of decisions about dating or sex. Everyone else I know is some variation of normie. I do not want tk talk to my coworkers about how while I think the idea of starting as friends with a girl and that developing into something more is sweet, it has never happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 06:06 PM
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Something I've noticed irl is people doing what I call isolation theater. Like they'll go on and on about how lonely they are and how they have no one to rely on. That they are in this life by themselves. They'll be saying all of that while dating someone or venting to a relative on the phone or having an active friend group. As a guy who spends 90% of his time alone, I'll talk to my mom and a online friend but most days if I'm not at work I'm talking to no one, so I find this behavior bizarre. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 06:02 PM
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Something is better then nothing is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 05:27 PM
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I've noticed an increase in the amount of customers using after pay. At this point it's not that different then people using credit cards
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 03:21 PM
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Oh then fair though I will say I think women just receive messages on all platforms for no reason. Dosen't happen to guys seemingly though unless it's the odd bot every 5 months I never get messages from people online.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 01:28 PM
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In my experience Asian men only have success with Asian women. I think I've only seen an Asian man with a none Asian person maybe 3 times.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 01:23 PM
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I don't think that translates to alot of success for your average asian guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 01:02 PM
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Which part is shocking?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 12:54 PM
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What other reason would they be on those subs but to try and take advantage, it’s vile I don’t want to see those pictures these people shouldn’t be on there I mean I was on r/virgin because it gave me people to talk to who had similar experiences to myself so I can easily just assume other guys do the same thing. Maybe they're also inexperienced and they maybe want a gf so an inexperienced guy messaged an inexperienced girl so I wouldn't say that's predatory. Basically I just don't assume negati…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 12:54 PM
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Tbh they probably aren't thinking about that deeply. Wheater it's predatory or not probably never occurred to most of them. Even now when you say it feels predators my initial reaction was confusion. Also appologies if this seems dismissive but unless they were harassing you and sending dick pics I can't imagine the welcome is that bad. Then again I don't get welcomes to subs so I'm mostly just jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 12:27 PM
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Because they got to shoot their shot or they're bored and want to troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 12:12 PM
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Former porn addition but yeah I get your point. Is he ugly? I guess he is but she also seem equally as ugly just with makeup on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 02:54 AM
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<image> What about these two?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 02:47 AM
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Something I think would be fun and of interest to the user here would be getting a screenshot of couples on Caleb hammer. They're all just people with bad debt but otherwise very normal people. So it might be of interest to see what these couples look like. Theres all these arguments about leagues and what not and I think the show would give some insight. <image> His age is wrong he said it's 36
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 02:10 AM
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I honestly didn't know who Pedro Pascal was until 5 months ago and now every movie youtuber keeps talking about him and I keep seeing his name in reddit comments. I don't think I've watched a single movie with him in it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 01:37 AM
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My therapist asked me if I had been assessed for autism and said that I'm totally on the spectrum. So there's that, it's something I suspected for a long time now. It's cool to get a professional opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:29 PM
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This is kinda my problem with the "nice guy" argument. While we might find it admirable to selflessly do things for others expecting nothing in return. Under normal circumstances people would find the idea that someone dose good deeds and receives nothing in return unfair. It's why people will often just say things like "well men who are truly kind will usually have lots of friends and are partnered". They aren't directly saying that man deserves these things but they are indirect implying that …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 04:57 PM
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Maybe it could be said that he didn't meticulously study her before meeting her they wouldn't be together
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 02:28 PM
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What's a long gap?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 02:22 PM
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Man I live in the ghetto and men do not ignore ghetto women. Ghetto women tend to date and have kids with ghetto men. I don't where you live that ghetto women are "ignored".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:35 PM
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it sounds like you’ve mentioned multiple women but somehow only did 1 date. That's just due to circumstances not being right or my mindset in high-school being wrong that and well rejection. talk to multiple people. dont even bother weeding out anyone; as long as you are feeling it, even if they read tarot cards, you can at least keep talking to them. going on a few dates isn’t any kind of commitment. On a personal level that doesn't feel right. Like yeah I have the tendency to hyperfocus on one…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:11 PM
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Trauma never bothered me to much, same with mental illness. Everyone's dealing with stuff and I've been mentally ill nearly half my life. That said I think I need to readjust what I go for.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:00 PM
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If by reps you mean dates and relationships then I would if I could.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:44 PM
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I'm starting to think I shouldn't be or try to date women who have more relationship experience then me. All my life I've basically only been interested in women who have had more experience then me in relationships. Which has never really ended well for me, they either weren't actually interested or were and poof they're gone and I don't hear from them. I didn't think much of them having more experience honestly but I'm starting to believe I need to stick to women on my level so to speak. Which…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 11:47 AM
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You can't sabotage yourself for the future if there is no future. If a man truly believes he will die alone and never have physical intimacy from a woman in any other way the idea that a theoretical woman would condem his actions shouldn't deter him. Who cares what a hypothetical woman would think, they were never going to date, sleep with, maybe even touch him anyway. Edit: A fair argument could be made that this kind of thinking is self destructive which is true to some extent. I would say tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 08:55 PM
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I would argue escorts are the path of least resistance so actually it would be the more pragmatic choice if what you wanted was physical and sexual affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 12:09 AM
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No that guys just a jack ass
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:05 PM
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it means they spend a lot of time together and go on dates but theyre still allowed to fuck other people on the side and if they get angry about it, tough shit. that's essentially what it is. I know that's what it means. I just find it stupid, like just call it a relationship and get over yours. If you want to fuck other people just mutually agree to fuck other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 12:46 PM
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That's just a one sided relationship which is still a relationship. The boundaries of a relationship are whatever both parties have decided. The problem is what the word "relationship" is associated with. When I say two people are in a relationship there's alot of assumed weight there that I'm not sure there has to be. Idk as a FA I just find all the terms normies come up with and the drama they routinely get themselves in really stupid. It just seems like people over complicating things for no …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:41 AM
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I've grown to hate the word situationship. The more I see it the more it looks like abunch of people so afraid the label relationship that they had to come up with a new word to make themselves feel comfortable. Now that thinking about it maybe this is a woman thing since I've never heard a guy use that word and it's rare to see it in online spaces dominated by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:10 AM
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