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I know brother.. I used to try to hold her accountable and point things out but it was a waste of breath. Women at this stage they are victims and very vindictive. It won’t work. The woman you’re divorcing is no longer the woman you married
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 09:39 PM
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She’s never going to accept accountability so don’t waste your time and energy. Focus on yourself and your kids. Write everything down. Write down every interaction you have with her.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 06:30 PM
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I can’t wait to end mine soon once and for all.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 06:27 PM
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Amen to this 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 04:31 AM
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This is a move your friend will deeply regret. No woman should ever come between a man and his children. He will regret this. Women come and go but our children is ours forever
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 04:23 AM
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Don’t do it brother. Trust your own instincts not the advice of someone else who did not live through what you did. Take your time. You don’t need hoes to be happy
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 04:18 AM
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She could.. but she didn’t. I’m going through the process right now and now that I’m out she’s saying I gave up on her and turned down counseling.. lies. She’s been gaslighting me and at the same time trying to “win” me back.. FU
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/24 08:56 PM
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There you go brother. All you can do is your part. As long as you do your part and do your best, the rest is out of your control. In the end you can have peace knowing you did your best
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 12:48 PM
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Does your daughters live with your ex? Do you know where they work?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 09:07 PM
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My wife definitely made me feel alone. She thought she compensate her lack of emotional and physical intimacy by “paying the bills” and taking me on cruises.. which by the way included her friends too. It wasn’t just me and her. She never said no to her friends but never wanted to go out with me. Yet, “I never took her anywhere”.. I what you wrote is truly the story of my life minus the cheating
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 08:36 PM
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I kept waiting for her to tell me she does not want to get divorced. Even after she broke down. Never happened. Told me she was going to bed and in case she did not see me again, “good bye”. Still.. no remorse. No. I don’t want you to leave. I’ve always been the one to beg for her to stay. Is she waiting for me to beg? To tell her that I don’t want to leave and to stay with me? I’d be lying if I said I don’t want to do that a little. I truly loved her. But I don’t know what’s like to be hugged a…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 01:30 AM
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She told me I was a “bad investment” an “investment with no return”. Then today told me, she did everything for us. All of her sacrifices were for us. Yet, I didn’t do my part. She told me she never stopped loving me and that I told her I knew we were going to expire before getting married.. NO.. I said she keeps putting expiration dates on our marriage every time she talks about leaving. 😔 Brother, I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to write this message. I’m definitely going to check…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 11:15 PM
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For some women, vows are something said for Tik Tok and likes
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 10:40 PM
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If I ever post here, how much I miss her and blah blah.. please remind me that she thought of me as a “bad investment” an investment with no return.. please remind me of that
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 08:49 PM
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She said I gave up on her.. I can’t even process that right now. I never gave up on her. I went above and beyond.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 08:48 PM
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She just made me feel like CRAP!! Saying everything she did was for us. At the cost of her health and her soul. All she wanted was a future for us.. at the cost of not living the present mind you. I told her we cannot put all effort and pressure ourselves to death worrying about the future and neglecting the present and not letting go of the past. She said.. “you don’t have to worry about me now” “you are the only family I have” and now you’re living me.. “I did not know how you felt”. “I’m a mo…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 07:26 PM
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Let me tell you something that can give you comfort. There’s always someone doing worse than you
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 11:16 PM
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👆🏼 This, find a therapist brother
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 10:55 PM
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Every time my wife would get super upset for the most irrational things. She would block me and unfriend me lol One can only take so much. I have not moved out yet. Will do so this weekend. In the meantime, package after package, after package, keeps arriving from Macy’s every day
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 10:51 PM
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The woman you married is NOT the same woman you are divorcing. That woman is gone. Not coming back. Even if you guys were to reconnect later. She will never be the same nor will you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 10:48 PM
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She was definitely mocking you. Dude, stay strong. You’ll be free soon. My advice, don’t react. Btw, unfriend her from social media. You don’t need that kind of stress
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 10:43 PM
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My wife has gone radio silent for the past two weeks and we still live together. Not a single word. To be honest, I like the quiet and nonsense I had to hear all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 10:41 PM
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Stay strong. You are irreplaceable. Your kids will always need you
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 12:57 PM
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No one gets married thinking that one day they will get divorced. It happened. She’s no longer the woman you married. Now you have to protect yourself from the volatile dragon women become when they want out.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:58 PM
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You got betrayed twice
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:56 PM
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My friend, the woman you’re divorcing is NOT the same woman you married. That woman is gone. What is left if the one that broke your heart. Let her go. You’ll be better for it. There will be a day that you will meet someone who will not let go of you and will appreciate and be grateful that you are in her life. Stay strong
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:53 PM
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Making more money is definitely motivating me
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:39 PM
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Always remember fellas, for every super model out there, there’s a guy who got tired for her shit
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:36 PM
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It’s really wild that dating sites are full of women over 40 saying all of that and in those same dating sites lots of men over 30 living in an apartment paying child support 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:25 PM
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Whaat?
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:22 PM
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Me too! I never ran away from my responsibilities as a father. But know this, women do NOT want to be mommas to someone’s kid
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:17 PM
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People have started to compliment me for losing weight. They have no idea what’s going and that I’m NOT going to the gym or any special diet
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 11:52 PM
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I miss the person who I married and not the person whom I’m getting divorced from. Remember guys. The person you are leaving is not the same person you married
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 11:50 PM
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I asked my cousin what she and her husband do when they wake up? They greet each other, say good morning, wish each other a nice day. I guess I missed all of that in the past 3 years
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 11:42 PM
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Well. The mom of my kids did 🤦🏻‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 04:00 AM
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Duuude. Women are capable of going from 0 to 60 faster than a formula one. Once they cross the line they are no longer themselves. No matter what!! DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR RIGHTS!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:56 AM
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Women nowadays are empowered to run at the first sign of trouble. There is no reward for loyalty and love means nothing if they think they can have a better and glamorous life without you. Women are vindictive and resentful. They are quick to lose it and burn everything around them. They are truly dragons filled with rage and fire when they want out. And they want out for the stupidest of things.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:52 AM
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Yep. She does not bring nothing to the table. 3 kids that are not yours on top of that. If it was 1.. but 3! On top of that, no matter what you do, you’re never, ever, going to replace their dad. Be patient. There are a lot of worthy women out there
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:39 AM
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I definitely do not want that!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:36 AM
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You need to think about yourself first person. When in doubt the answer should always be no. If you’re like this is probably not a good idea
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:35 AM
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I know someone who paid child support for years and years under the table. They then had a huge blow out and she went after him. Telling the court he never paid child support. Kid was 25 when they had this fight! The court ordered him to pay over $25k in lost child support.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:33 AM
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Most of the time we do not see this coming. Eve of there are red flags, we want to believe that things can change and people change. If we knew we were going to get divorced we wouldn’t have gotten married in the first place. Forgive yourself if you’re feeling guilty. This will pass
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:25 AM
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I strongly suggest you see a therapist if you can to help you cope with your emotions. You’re going to go through a lot of ups and downs. Feelings of euphoria and feelings of total defeat. Your best friend right is time. You must give your self time to heal. You’re going to feel guilty. Learn to forgive yourself. Have the strength for what you cannot control.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:23 AM
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The last person they are going to hear is the one they are leaving 😕
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:19 AM
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The 1935 Social Security Act included provisions for Aid to Families with Dependent Children (AFDC), a partnership between the federal government and states to provide minimum support payments for children in single parent homes. Yes. Outdated
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 11:19 PM
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My biggest fear was how I was going to “survive” on my own.. then I started doing math and realized my contribution to our living costs it’s more than enough to pay rent on my own plus more. I’m going to be okay. We’re all going to be okay.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 10:41 PM
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I grief the relationship. To be honest, I feel sorry for my stbx. Her trauma has blinded her and turned her into something I did not sign up for. I hope she opens her mimd and get help
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:50 PM
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It took me two years to be fully recovered from my 1st divorce with the mom of my kids. This time it feels different because I’ve been through worse and I’m leaving knowing I did EVERYTHING I could to keep this marriage alive.. but it’s impossible to do that, when you’re partner is cold, resentful, vindictive, bitter, and a heartless bi&$*. I really think it will not take long for me to move on from this.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:48 PM
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Hang in there brother. Things will get better. I promise you. You’re doing everything you can to keep your head above water. It’s okay to reach out and let yourself be rescued. Your kids are your everything. Keep them close. My divorce is not final either and as I keep reflecting and looking back, this is turning out to be a blessing 🙏 Stay strong. We’re here.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:43 PM
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Never thought that was an option
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 09:55 PM
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I don’t share kids with her. She asked me to move in with her when we got married because she already had a home and we thought it was better that way because the mortgage was only $1400 in a very nice and desirable area. I did pay half of the bills. Including mortgage. My name is not in the deed and it’s not in the mortgage either. When we tried to add me to it the interest at that time was too high. So we didn’t. The only we have that we share our names is my car and I’ll pay it off before the…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 09:52 PM
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I just want to be out already 😣 I’m feeling stuck 😞 I’m feeling like I won’t be able to succeed on my own and be supportive of my boys (she’s not the mom Thank God). I know it’s not true. It’s just the hurt talking. The verbal jabs haunting me. I used to be fine on my own and can do it again. But I’m feeling super defeated right now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 07:22 PM
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I also had my two kids when they were little almost 2 miles away across the country for two years. Only saw them every 6 months because I couldn’t afford more. It was hell. But they are now in my life and I have them half the time
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 01:53 AM
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For every super model out there literally and figuratively, there’s a guy who got tired of her sheet. Remember that
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 01:51 AM
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It can take a good 2 years bro to be fully healed. But each day, each week, each month will feel much better.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 01:45 AM
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I feel you brother. The last years of my farce of a marriage has left me broken and with a ruined credit 😣 Child support at least is not bad. I’m sorry you have to pay alimony. Who the F invented that? We deserve better much better
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 01:36 AM
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It’s killing me brother. You’re not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 01:25 AM
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My wife is extremely reactive. Since Sunday I’ve been sleeping on the couch and staying in the living room close to my home office. I do not acknowledge her at all and she does the same. The best thing I can do is to show that I’m not “afraid” (This is actually a real thing.. not show that you’re afraid of your own wife!! 😭) and not saying anything that will be used against me or escalate. I don’t think she’s raking this approach well but at least she’s leaving me alone until I move out.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 11:51 PM
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This is crazy dude. Can someone else be the one to get the kids or accompany you?
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 11:46 PM
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My soon to be ex, blocked me on social media and her phone.. a tactic that she often used when we were together and got upset with me. Yesterday for the first time in years, she bought a pack of cigarettes and went to smoke in the backyard. This after she told me she hasn’t changed her mind and I said, that’s okay, I just want to sign those papers and be done with it. Women are so vindictive. It’s crazy
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 11:44 PM
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I’ve been thinking about that.. there’s so many 😣
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 04:35 AM
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Oh man!! 32.. What even the point of getting divorce after so much time
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 04:15 AM
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I know I had a life before her and great memories before her too.. but my phone is full of memories that we created. She has those same memories too.. how can she not look at them and not realize we built a great thing. It’s insane
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 06:44 PM
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You need to be close to your children. You are irreplaceable. They need you and you need them
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 01:34 AM
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🫡 Very true my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 09:44 PM
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All issues can be fixed. All of them. It’s just a matter of trying and committing to a positive outcome. Unfortunately one side does not want to fight as hard.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 09:36 PM
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Our kids are our everything. Worth every bit of the fight. Stay strong
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 09:30 PM
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I feel so betrayed.. Wedding vows mean nothing anymore. It meant something to me 😣
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 09:26 PM
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I still remember when the mother of my kids told me that I was worthless, boring, and that God put her ex in her life again because they were meant to be together.. even after she got pregnant I tried reconciling.. only for later coming back and recognizing that she messed up and need to tell me how sorry she was for destroying our family and robbing my kids of two years away from daddy. As you know, when can be cruel and crazy. Today we have a good relationship and we are very amicable for the …
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 08:19 PM
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I don’t want to be here anymore. She used to tell me. I got this house for us.. she didn’t even know we were going to end up together, but convinced me that I should move in. Now it’s her house and I’m a roommate. So I just want to leave. I’m tired of the humiliation and the reminder that I can’t succeed without her. Even though she’s the one who wants to leave!! Leave the state, the country go away.. watching YouTube videos and reminding me, I’m leaving.. then leave!!! 😣 I used to go to the gym…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 08:10 PM
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I hear you bro.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 06:19 PM
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I’m hurting bro. What’s worse is that we both work from home. We haven’t spoken since yesterday. I slept on the couch. She basically has not left the room.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 06:17 PM
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I’m confident that it will get better soon. I’m going to have to go through a lot of adjustments but I’m emerge from the other side better.. I hope so. I’m scared 😔 I just can’t understand how someone can be so willing to throw everything away.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 03:35 PM
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Things really start going down hill after she started making almost 3 times as much as me.. and guess what, I was actually a big part of her getting this job and consistently encouraging her throughout the process. She is ultra hyper sensitive and that’s a HUGE barrier that she refuses to overcome and work on it. Every day is walking on egg shells. But I’m the villain. She takes care of “everything on her own” her favorite phrase. You must be insane.. it’s too much. I love her so much but for ye…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 03:20 PM
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Thank you brother. I’m leaving this marriage knowing I did everything I could to make it work. I was not the perfect husband but I was a good one. I stood by her during her trials, I put a lot of things on hold for her, took on a lot of verbal abuse and threats, and this is my reward. It doesn’t matter if she tries and will portrait me the villain, her worst enemy is herself, it’s not a coincidence that her longest relationship is ours at 5 years. Many more years before we got married. Which I j…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 03:08 PM
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Thank you brother. This sucks big time. I devoted a lot of time, energy, resources, and love to this marriage. I’m tired. Tired of being treated like a second class citizen in my own marriage. And you’re right. What I need are friends. Friends who understand me. She’s going to make me look the worst pos out there. But that’s not true. I lift my head up. It hurts but I know I’m not defeated eve if I feel like that.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 03:36 AM
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Thank you for this. I don’t have children with my current wife so that’s great news. She asked me to move in with her so we didn’t get a house together. The house is in her name and I basically have been paying “rent”. I don’t want anything from her and since she got the house before we got married I believe I don’t need to worry about that either. We no longer share bank accounts a d the only thing we have attached to ourselves is my car which will be paid off at the end of the year.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 03:32 AM
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Yea. We’ve talked many times. She’s determined to leave not only the marriage but the country altogether
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 01:57 AM
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I know. Had we known we wouldn’t up where we are, we wouldn’t have gotten married in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:50 AM
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This really sucks bro. I’m a good husband. I love her. I’m flawed and I recognize my flaws. I haven’t even care if she said sorry and thank you sometimes. Words I haven’t heard for months
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:49 AM
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I feel like the woman I decided not to be with deserves a huge apology for me picking my wife over her
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:38 AM
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She lives in the past with her mind in the future. A past that will never comeback and a future that might not materialize. And I’m here in the present. Shouldn’t be hard to focus on the present.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:37 AM
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You know what!! It’s not my loss!! It’s hers!!
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:35 AM
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Oh it does brother!! Trust me!! My wife is a slave of her emotions and can’t break the chains to free herself. She refuses to treat her past traumas. But not the source of her trauma nor the cure. Women can also be soooo vindictive. Think straight for a minute. I’m not the enemy.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:35 AM
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She has had very little success with long term relationships. I’m her longest relationship. She said she invested in me and saw no return.. What? She’s also extremely bothered by my amicable co-parenting with my ex. Thank goodness I don’t have kids with my wife. But she thinks I shouldn’t have that. I’m so done
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:33 AM
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It’s hard to understand why people will throw what they built with someone else away so easily
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:12 AM
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I’m getting divorced after 5 years.. I feel guilty for letting the one that seemed to truly love me go for the one I’m getting divorced from. I think I’m done.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:04 AM
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