dempsey1288 Archive

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1	Dating after divorce age gap I make $275K (she’s never worked), married 20 years next month and $6K is what she’s asking. 🙄 Oh, and I have five kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/07/26 03:28 PM
1	To the divorced men who visited a sex worker, what was the reason you decided to see one and how was the experience? But what if getting the “uncomfortable” and difficult to perform scenarios out of the way with a professional is the point? So when the right moment comes you’re better prepared? I don’t know the right answer. I’m coming out of a 20 year marriage. The only woman I’ve ever been with. So pondering some of this myself…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/26 03:53 PM
6	Reconciliation Yes. We reconciled after a roughly one year separation. Moved to a new town. Had another baby. And now we’re getting divorced.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/26 06:50 PM
2	May I ask what led to your divorce? Sounds so familiar!	/r/Divorce_Men	03/05/26 08:25 PM
7	May I ask what led to your divorce? I could’ve written this word for word about my own situation. Crazy. I’m currently reading a book about how to divorce someone with bpd.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/05/26 08:24 PM
2	Wedding ring Same. Unfortunately for me, that was 8 years ago, and I’m only just now in the process of divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/26 05:00 PM
1	20 Years, 5 Kids, Jewish Orthodox . At What Point Is Divorce Actually the Right Call? I was hesitant for these same reasons and it kept me in and unhappy for far too long. It didn’t seem possible to leave when 5 kids and her were all dependent on me. Eventually I just moved to an apartment very close to our house. I just moved out. Out sucked and it still does depending on the day. One step at a time though. I can’t really afford the rent plus the mortgage but it had to be done. Get help from a lawyer. I wish I’d of done so much earlier.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/26 05:27 AM
1	20 Years, 5 Kids, Jewish Orthodox . At What Point Is Divorce Actually the Right Call? Women like we’re describing will operate in a manner we can’t comprehend when they feel threatened or abandoned. I also sought a peaceful split without lawyers and she simply stalled for over a year while I paid for my new apartment and the mortgage on our 4500 square foot home she continues living in. When I put additional pressure on her, she hired an aggressive lawyer and served me with demands far worse than anything I could’ve imagined she’d want to do to me or our kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/26 05:20 AM
1	20 Years, 5 Kids, Jewish Orthodox . At What Point Is Divorce Actually the Right Call? This could be describing me almost exactly. 19 years married, 5 kids, Mormon (though I left my religion 6 or 7 years ago). It is not normal my friend. I knew this deep down but wouldn’t admire myself to accept it. It took me stepping out to truly realize how not normal my relationship was. We deserve better my friend. It seems impossible to leave. One day at a time though. Don’t think of all the steps that have to happen at once.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/26 05:16 AM
3	Trauma of failed marriage (20 years) Feels like a lot of you aren’t reading his entire thread. I’m sorry but if my teenage daughter were taken out of the country and essentially hidden from me…the typical advice of going to the gym and reading the New Testament aren’t gonna cut it! Not that I have any better advice, but it should be acknowledged that this is terrible and I’m just very sorry you’ve had to suffer through something so unjust.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/26 08:48 PM
2	Dating again after divorce and infidelity when living with chronic pain Not super specific to your question, but I’d just say EVERY one of us is bringing some sort of issue to the table when dating post marriage. I have 5 kids for example and so am equally concerned that this will deter women or limit long term chances, etc. They (women) likely have similar issues. If not health related then it’ll be something else to consider. I think we can all ultimately find a match that is less concerned about what ever the particular issue is than others may be…even if it migh…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/26 06:27 PM
2	Help getting started Good job man. I relate whole heartedly to much of this. I stepped out a little over a year ago after 18+yrs and in my mid 40s. 5 kids and she’s never worked. I stayed for years because thinking ahead posed too many hurdles in my mind. Financial hurdles, how will she survive emotionally, mentally, etc without me. The kids, all that. Finally just took the first step though. Like you just did. It’s been the hardest one. Lots of hard since, but committing to that first step was the hardest. Still lo…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/02/26 04:55 PM
7	Nights like tonight are killing me I’ve been there man. I know the absolute, physically ill feeling it brings. The not knowing. In my case, it was what you think it is. When she asks for separation, it’s probably so she can justify exploring other relationships. Also, in my case, it was the wake up I needed to get out of what I didn’t need or deserve. Finally, after so many years… Everything is so much worse at night. The sun will come up tomorrow my friend.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/02/26 05:52 AM
1	What do you do when nothing works? I’m sorry for the way you’re feeling. I share some of the feelings and frustrations. Nearly 20 years and I’m now separated but not fully divorced for a year. Based on your responses to other men’s suggestions, I have no advice. Your only response to anything seems to be, no nothing helps and you have no confidence anything will. It seems you’ve accepted this fate and so I’m not exactly sure what you’re asking here. If it’s to simply be heard, then that is fine. I feel for you and so do the rest …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/26 04:23 PM
1	Told her last night Honestly, I’ve been lucky in that regard so far. I have 5 boys! My oldest was 17 when we separated. He had some idea it was a possibility and so was somewhat prepared, though still upset even the day came. Ultimately he confided that he wants me and his mom to be happy and well support whatever we feel is best. He has offered good support to my younger boys as well. It was quite hard at first. A year in now though they’re seeing that life hasn’t changed nearly as much as they felt it would. I th…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/26 11:46 PM
2	Told her last night This is my story almost verbatim. I’m a year separated now (paying for two household essentially) and working toward divorce. A lot of difficult days in the last year, but I absolutely know it was the right choice.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/01/26 05:17 AM