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DISCUSSIONderpina321/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:49 AM
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#JustLVMThingsderpina321/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:17 AM
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Both sides are paranoid about being used (men for money, women for sex). She was just presenting her view of how dating dynamics should go as the gender that is paranoid about being used for sex, and invited discussion about it. Insert a man who is like "you must be a lesbian if you don't want to have sex with me right away without me showing any effort or commitment to you". That's the equivalent of if she had phrased her post as "you must be gay if you don't show that you value me for more tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 02:28 AM
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Men say this as if it will manipulate you into changing your mind and having sex with them lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 07:57 PM
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Lol that alone doesn't indicate being a lesbian. I know guys who are the same way. Are they gays in disguise? Some people just aren't into casual sex and that's ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 07:56 PM
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Woman here... not sure if I'm welcome here? But it's because all the issues you just mentioned are issues that feminism also seeks to address. For example, men being pressured to be the primary breadwinner is a result of women being seen as too incompetent to do anything other than raise kids and home care. Feminism isn't supposed to mean "women's rights" or else it would just be called that like this subreddit is called "men's rights". It's supposed to mean "equalize as much as you can between …
/r/MensRights11/01/21 07:35 PM
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Perfectly understandable if all they want is to sleep around. :) There are plenty of women who start wanting relationships rather than to sleep around in college/their early 20s too. I had 2 relationships in college and neither of them were with fuckboi energy dudes- they were not conventionally attractive and they were nice guys who treated me well. What I liked about them was that they were smart with cool hobbies, emotionally supportive, and reliable; typical "blue pill" stuff. Most of the gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/20 05:45 AM
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For sure, I can understand the feeling of FOMO but I don't think they are channeling that feeling in a positive/productive way for them and are setting themselves up for a vicious cycle. :/ Also I think FOMO is what leads a lot of people (women too) to try out a casual sex phase before they discover it's not nearly all that it's cracked up to be. People who have never had it romanticize/idolize it way more than it ought to be and don't realize they are not missing much since relationship sex is …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:27 AM
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Thanks for the first reasonable response.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 06:48 AM
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You are 19 my dear. Women are in their most immature stage. You will be more successful with them in the future as long as you don't develop a hatred towards them. I just want to adopt you and teach you about life lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 05:10 AM
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You mean the fact that men are 6 times more likely to divorce a wife when she gets cancer than she is to divorce her husband when he gets it? You need to get out of the dark echo chamber corner of the internet of unsuccessful men if you want to be successful with women. You are holding yourself back, not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 04:51 AM
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It makes zero sense to be envious of that. Girls trash talk manwhores to their friends and adore their husbands. You have it all backwards because of the toxic mentality that doing anything nice for a girl at all makes you a cuck (toxic masculinity). Fix your broken mentality and you'll find a girl who will love you for more than just one night.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 04:17 AM
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Sad state of affairs but to cheer myself up I always remind myself that the darkest and most bitter corners of the internet represent a tiny fraction of what most level headed men/women think in real life. You could argue the manosphere is like that due to toxic masculinity. The men I've dated are "simps" according to them but hey, they get sex and relationships. People tend to not want to take responsibility for what they should improve about themselves in order to be more attractive to the opp…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 02:17 AM
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This subreddit is getting taken over by incels
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 12:20 AM
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Not necessarily. But if you are finding that every woman you pursue wants neither sex nor a relationship with you, you are shooting your shot out of your league and you need to either improve your league (dress better, carry yourself better, develop better social life/hobbies/career, etc) or lower your standards for who you pursue. Women do want sex with the men they see as relationship material but sometimes play it cool because society tells them that's how you snag the commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 11:39 PM
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You clearly hate women and are in a self sabotaging cycle now where you'll never get the sex or relationships you want until you first stop hating women. Good luck my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 09:49 PM
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Is it really that common, or is it just a circlejerk hateful stereotype spread on reddit for men to be able to partake in to take out their bitterness towards women? You can't really prove it one way or the other. It's other guys who are treating men like a chump for it, not the women. I take it you have not been in a serious relationship yet and are pretty young.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 09:42 PM
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Let me just explain how women see it for a sec... Imagine there is a dumbass hoe you know you have no chance of developing feelings for, and a woman you could see yourself raising kids with, but you don't feel ready to settle down yet and just want to have some fun while you're young and carefree. Are you going to do it with the wife material girl or the hoe you feel no temptation to commit to? It keeps it uncomplicated and drama free to spend that "fun phase" with the guys who aren't relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 09:28 PM
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Usually women aren't in both phases of their lives at the same time (just looking for fun vs looking for something serious) so that is probably uncommon. If it is happening, the woman just isn't interested in you and you shouldn't give her your time. But if you are mad that she fucked dudes without commitment at some point in the past, why wouldn't you also be mad at yourself for fucking women without commitment at some point in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 07:33 PM
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Because the men who are better looking and have more status are frequently arrogant assholes that women don't want to commit to
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 07:30 PM
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If free easy sex is all you want, you know exactly what to do in order to get it and there are subreddits dedicated to helping guys act the part for that, but don't expect a quality relationship with a quality woman that way. If a woman is just using a man financially and not caring about the man, then she's not interested and she's kind of a dick. Move on and find someone else who's more worth your time. There are good women out there and I get the sense that you've only had bad experiences wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 05:44 PM
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What do you think women are doing for those men that they aren't doing for relationship quality men? Do you want to be treated with respect and admiration or do you want to used? I think men just can't comprehend that women also use men just for sex sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 05:17 PM
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Only if you value "putting out" as the best possible treatment a girl can give you. Women also gossip about those guys, hold them to a much higher sexual performance standard and are less likely to be willing to teach them, and see them as man hoes basically
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 04:43 PM
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I think what men see as "alpha" and "beta", women actually see as "just a good time" and "relationship material". Of course the bar is higher for someone you want a relationship with versus someone you just want a night of fun with. Men do the same exact thing and hold women they seriously consider dating to a higher standard than women they already know won't meet their standard so they just have some fun with. Edit: why the instant downvote
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 04:39 PM
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Fact. The value of having your shit together diminishes with a man's age because as age increases, we just expect them to have it all together. It's much more impressive at a younger age than an older one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 11:51 PM
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Where are you getting your intel about women from lol. I guess I might be in a minority (?) but I actually do care about a man's n count. Mostly because mine is really low compared to what it could be which is consistent with my values of emotional connection and monogamy, and I would like a partner to share the same values as me
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 07:09 AM
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I personally interpreted LVM to mean men who are abusive/manipulative/selfish or degrading/disrespectful towards women. My 2 experiences with men like that have started to put me somewhat in the "bitter" crowd where you start to think maybe all men are awful (but logically I have to talk myself out of thinking that way). There are narcissistic women too that I assume have made some men bitter too. I've personally never experienced a man wanting sex with me but not commitment/a relationship too, …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 02:08 AM
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Big yikes. Hating women is definitely a red flag in women as much as it is one in men. Gotta surround ourselves with uplifting women who believe in us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:10 PM
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And that's on you both being emotionally mature grown adults. I do happen to agree with AOC's politics but also respect y'all for being mature in your disagreement, something LVM seem to be incapable of. They've set the behavior bar so low 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:06 PM
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When I saw this title, I thought you were going to go on about us expecting nice dates, flowers, compliments, attention, and stuff like that. Definitely didn't expect something this extreme. 😂 If a random male stranger stepped in to save my life when I'm in danger, there's a good chance I'd fall in love with him not gonna lie, but that's mostly because I'd be very surprised by it and definitely DON'T expect it. Biologically it makes sense that women would be more attracted to men who make us fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 12:57 AM
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Saaame. I'm only horny during ovulation, and I can pretty much only think about sex around that time, while the whole rest of the month I'm basically asexual. Not on any hormonal bc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 07:10 PM
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But does it make you last a shorter amount of time? Because most people I've been with have also needed the additional help lasting longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 06:56 AM
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Ok I did try the "pull out" method with one boyfriend in college for a while but I haven't been completely sold on that method since college. I'm not on birth control so other than that one boyfriend, no! My partners have all just had to find a condom brand that they like. Mostly Skyn!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 02:01 AM
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I had no idea this was so uncommon. I'm a 27f (attractive, fit, petite) and have never had sex without a condom. I've mostly had boyfriends and not much casual sex, and all my boyfriends were understanding and down for sex however I wanted it. I don't plan to get an IUD until I'm engaged because I've wanted to save being cum inside for my forever partner ... religious indoctrination still getting to me in one small way, I guess. So far no men have had problems with it.🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 01:26 AM
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I'm a lady and I want compliments lol, but my last boyfriend pretty much had the exact same outlook as that girl so they would have been a better match. My love language is words, so I never felt loved by him and he thought I treated him like a puppy because I gave him compliments all the time but then wanted to do my own thing instead of spending enough quality time with him. I don't think this kind of thing is that gender based.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 01:24 AM
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Uhhh. The last guy I dated was exactly that - repulsed by women who wear makeup, and that honestly only made me a little questionable of him and I continued wearing makeup. I was turned off that he expected me and all women to do something that would appeal to his tastes better. As if that's the only reason women wear makeup. 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 07:45 PM
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Yeah men consistently score higher than women in dark triad traits. It makes sense that they didn't evolve to have as much empathy as us since they weren't the ones nurturing babies from birth. For most of human evolution they were just like fighting each other and hunting things...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:03 AM
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Ughhh this is what I hate most about dating. It's such a vulnerable place to be as a woman. I hate the process of trying to make sure the guy isn't going to kill me later and the fact that I can't really be confident they won't until I've dated them for years, and even then, it still happens to completely unsuspecting women sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:29 AM
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The post doesn't say she wanted him to pay for everything, just that she wanted him to pay his fair share which is probably percentage-based
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:24 AM
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Where did I imply women are helpless damsels in distress?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 05:58 PM
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Women go on tinder for dating/relationships. Maybe you'll find a real profile (and not a catfish) looking for something casual every now and then, but it's a lot less common. The top 5% of men that are having tons of casual sex are probably to blame for the STDs. I know a guy who had a sexual partner count in the 100s, meanwhile the most sexually promiscuous girl I know is around 15 or so
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 06:47 AM
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I could be wrong but I feel like you are getting your idea of how much casual sex women have from incel-like spheres. I would guess that the average attractive woman probably has a short lived casual sex phase (maybe 1-6 partners total) and then wants nothing but commitment. There are women who never have such a phase and immediately get into a relationship that they stay in throughout their 20s and women who have a longer phase. But for women, everything about your ability to get sex depends on…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 06:25 AM
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You're assuming that the ability to sleep with men is something that holds actual value to women in the same way it does to men and projecting men's desires onto women instead of actually trying to understand what it's like to be a woman. Commitment-free sex is worth close to nothing to women. Women value commitment from high quality men the way men value sex from attractive women. So depending on the woman, it can be as hard for them to get what they want as it is for men (depending on the man …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 05:52 AM
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Yeah I don't really notice random men's body parts ever, sexual attraction usually stems from something else non-physical at first for me. Then when someone's my boyfriend, I get turned on by their body parts like their forearms and hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 04:25 AM
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I didn't get any advice for attracting men, I guess my parents felt I didn't need any since I got my first "boyfriend" already at age 12. I also was very religious in my youth so not getting pregnant was never an issue I had to be taught by my parents since I was abstinent on my own accord. My dad never talked to me about dating but my mom gave me lots of advice for evaluating men based on where she felt she didn't evaluate my dad harshly enough, lol. Basically, observe how they handle a rough p…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 07:38 PM
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Seriously, why even bother with marriage if it's that unequal/unfair? The concept of alpha and beta labeling still goes over head a little because I think everyone has some sort of mix of what is considered "alpha" and "beta" traits. My boyfriend is a mix of both and if he only had alpha traits I would find him way too toxic to date. If he only had beta, he'd be too much like me and not balance/complement/challenge me enough. I absolutely expect him to be able to give me the same level of commit…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 06:07 PM
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Have you seen the lines for women's bathrooms though? This is probably because women just use the bathroom way more frequently
/r/MensRights19/05/19 03:22 AM
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I assume this is because they had time to think about it before deciding to go through with it, and that means they had already spent time totally justifying it to themselves through all the mental gymnastics possible to ensure they would be safe from feelings of guilt before it even happens. By the time it's over, they feel they did nothing wrong since that's what they've managed to convince themselves. I've had a married man attempt to cheat on his wife with me before. We went on a date and 5 …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 01:34 AM
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The ignorance here is unreal. Physical trauma is seriously not the only type of trauma that exists. The experience of emotional trauma is subjective to the person experiencing it and not everyone would get PTSD from being cheated on, but it absolutely can happen. Psychological disorders are not something that only develops from a certain defined specific set of possible events. Anything can cause it. You and the commenter above are undermining all of the very real panic attacks and terror other …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 01:25 AM
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