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So like when "loyalty" comes into question it can be subjective. I feel like the person w the f buddy is being transparent about her sexual history which is good and they both seem to be on the same page about what stage in the dating phase they are. The person who wanted to be in an established monogamous relationship is also communicative about his needs, so I think that can be taken as a form of loyalty. I think its about intention, if you wanna be with someone in the gf bf sense transparency…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:54 PM
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Nah downvoting is just fun, Dopamine go brr
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:10 PM
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He does know about my other sexual encounters in detail lol, because since ya know we started out as best friends, I'd tell him about them like when they happened. Its weird you assume he doesn't know. He's also told me about his flings and stuff, they didn't lead to sex for him but he basically did everything else. It doesn't matter to either of us because he didn't sit around like an incel and wait for me, we genuinely started out as friends, lived our lives, developed feelings and got married…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:09 PM
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Lol sounds like...insecuritiy. Also why would I even remember sex w other people its not like both of us actively sit there and obsess about how many people (men and women) ive slept with. 10 years is a long time to lie to oneself, and frankly we have better things to do, like enjoy our marriage and work on our careers. You're insecure and you're immature, and maybe the reason you're complaining on this sub is because of that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:35 AM
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In the 14 years I have known my husband, and the 10 years of romantic relationship we have committed to, neither of us gave a single iota of pathetic insecurity toward my past sexual partners and his past dating history, we have met some of each others exes and yeah still goin strong
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:09 AM
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I mean I'm married and my husband knows about my sexual history, I was the one who took his virginity lol. Also as long as the person wears protection and gets tested I didn't care about hoeing it up, and frankly neither does my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:54 AM
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Let's not put ideas in this creeps head about pursuing minors
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:50 AM
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Yeah listen I wouldn't advise an 18 year old to commit to someone pathetic enough to care about something as trivial as sexual history
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:49 AM
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Oh I'm not giving you advice. I'm telling you a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 10:53 PM
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Uh yeah they aren't attracted to you, I expect good communication out of everyone, doesn't mean you're attractive. Also emotionally distant people are great 1 night stands because you literally don't have to see them again. Maybe instead of being whiny work on yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 08:19 PM
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I'm always down to learn, find me a legit study that accurately defines a failed relationship and then shows that 90% of overall romantic relationships fail
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:53 PM
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Lmao 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:32 PM
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Oh so "you have class and can't find the time to link studies" but I me not wanting to waste my time at work is a lack of understanding of data lol k bruh if you want my labor then you gotta pay me at a researchers rate I don't do shit for free
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:32 PM
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Then don't marry a woman who is into that like its literally that simple, there are women with other kinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:30 PM
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Just because someone likes being dominated doesn't automatically make it a rape fantasy. Maybe you need to actually have sex first before you explore this dynamic. Also a fantasy and fantasizing doesn't mean you want it in reality. Like I fantasize about living in the shire all the time, but realistically id be bored and miss modern society and access to wifi, but ill still listen to the lord of the rings ost and imagine living there for like 20 min. It doesn't mean inma leave my job and my life…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:48 PM
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Then maybe gasp that's not your kink. My husband can tell the difference between sexually fooling around and how to treat someone with respect
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:41 PM
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You can't generalize the idea of a "failed" relationship since that is subjective. Assuming that a successful relationship would result in a long standing marriage, the divorce rates among millennials is actually lower than that of their predecessors I'm enabling your stupidity by doing research for you. Do it yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:39 PM
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Wow what a way to reveal that you're terrible with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:35 PM
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They are ashamed of it because they find the object of their desire to be subhuman. People who engage in dom/sub dynamics don't treat it like its something shameful and are pretty open about it. Bdsm done right is all about open communication and boundaries as well as aftercare. So your entire thought process of how people who like to be submissive in bed and identify as feminists is flawed. Also feminism doesn't mean you can't be submissive in general, its about having the ability to make choic…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:34 PM
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Actually all people are emotional, just because you have a y chromosome doesn't mean you're immune to it. Also emotional intelligence is important in the brain's ability to make decisions, which directly ties into logical decision making. Repressing emotions and not being intuitive about how you feel is directly related to being illogical. Hence why so many men are dumbshits :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:30 PM
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The whole idea that the dom/sub dynamic is taboo is the thing that makes it sexy, its not like they actually want to be abused its role play. Since its being done with someone they feel safe with, its something a lot of people like to explore. Like the context matters here, my coworkers should respect me as a person in a nonsexual context. Just because being called a "dirty slut" by my husband makes me turned on doesn't mean I'm gonna have the same reaction if you do it or if anyone else does it…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:28 PM
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Weak
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:20 PM
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Built on paternal anxiety? So like a lived experience which most women go through is invalid because its an inconvenience to you? A woman having a "shitload" of sex just means they like having sex, everyone has different reasons for having sex, like my husband has less sexual experience than I had, but it doesn't matter because that's his experience, as it doesn't matter that I've slept w more people than him. How high the number is doesn't really matter to normal people who don't hyperfocus on …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:18 PM
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Stats you pull out of your ass don't count
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:58 AM
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Its perfectly acceptable to have specific preferences, but its different when women are literally raised to not be sexual people, a lot of us are raised to be "virginal" and the majority of men are told to prefer women who don't have a high body count. People can have different reasons for not dating a guy who maybe watches porn or doesn't make them feel safe, but you can't expect a whole demographic of people to not engage in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:52 AM
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Not really sex isn't that big of a deal for me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:25 AM
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I am neither a soda or a car. Also why would I feel special sleeping w a dude that doesn't have enough confidence in his masculinity to be ok with the fact that I had a life before him. Like my husband doesn't give a shit about the number of sexual encounters I've had and he knows that I've had sex more times than him and started earlier. Honestly I've been with guys without experience and I've been with guys with experience, the only thing that gets them laid is that they didn't view me as an o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:42 AM
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Be genuine in your friendships with women, I actually have an easier time setting up my single male friends when they haven't hit on me particularly. Having a genuine group of female friends tells other women that you aren't just out for pussy or a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:09 PM
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Jokes on you, i have adhd and respond to everyone in 2 to 5 business months
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 12:12 AM
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Nice smile, dad bod, tan, taller than me, almond eyes :3 Personality wise: kind, open minded, leftist, can cook, gamer, likes anime and manga, likes long discussions about random shit, good sense of humor, cuddly, likes dogs and doesn't want kids
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:54 PM
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Lmao bye friend group of 15+ years, guess you weren't real
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 05:01 PM
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No I'm just asking what you're issue is. If someone knows there's a chance they'll be yelled at if they cold approach someone thats not inviting, why do they have the right to complain? Girls might be receptive to attractive people but at the same time there's an equal chance she may not. Thats literally the risk of cold approaching
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:54 PM
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And why shouldn't they be physical attraction is a thing, just because a woman finds someone attractive doesn't mean it'll result in sex or a relationship. Men do the same thing to women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:47 PM
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I have friends who are girls a lot of us share similar experiences of rejecting guys that were conventionally attractive. I also have friends who are girls who don't want a relationship and want to have a casual relationship with people they are only physically attracted to, its based on context and how each individual is. Not all girls operate the same way, people date based on how they've grown up and what they like. Maybe you're just not it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:42 PM
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Context also matters it doesn't matter how attractive a guy is why would i go out with him. I've broken up and rejected people I thought were physically attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:39 PM
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Feel like hotness is pretty subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:36 PM
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Because I feel like women make it explicitly clear on how we don't wanna be approached
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:35 PM
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Maybe we just define it differently at the end of the day its up to your own interpretation. But I can see what you mean in terms of feeling good about relationship milestones being accomplishments thought I wouldn't word it as such I understand and agree w what you mean
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 06:08 PM
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Nah dude I just didn't go into life thinking that normal shit like relationships were a must have. I was in a relationship with someone and I was gonna break up w her and be single for a while because I truly was just not interested in her and I didn't know the person I actually liked was interested in me too. So when I broke up with her he asked me if it was OK to go out and talk and we did and things just fell into place. Even if it hadn't not being in a relationship isn't like doom n gloom. R…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 06:07 PM
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Uh of course I value my relationship i just don't consider it an accomplishment, like I didn't have to do anything to be in the relationship nor do I have to do anything outside of my norm to sustain it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:58 PM
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I would say then its less of a performance based accomplish than a circumstantial one, like you have to be compatible w the person and attractive to them and also want to be in a committed relationship. Idk I never thought accomplishment was the right word for it, I always felt like it was just being in the right circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:52 PM
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I've felt this way about men I've had sex with, but I usually made it apparent to them prior to having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:49 PM
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We've both talked about it before and we agreed that relationships are things that just happen and are better when they happen without people looking at it like an accomplishment. I didn't accomplish anything because someone loves me and vice versa, I was literally just myself as was he and we started out as friends first.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:43 PM
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No really don't I think accomplishments are things I have to work for, I didn't have to work for my relationship like I didn't have goals to meet or hoops to jump through I asked him how he felt about me and the rest is history
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:38 PM
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Lmao I've been on the internet too and most women don't say that shit, can't say for online dating because I've only done it once and it was annoying. Also a white collar daddy provider? Both my husband and I work in public service lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:27 PM
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See maybe thats the issue, my husband doesn't consider our marriage an accomplishment its more something that we agreed to do. Our relationship wasn't an accomplishment either, he didn't have to jump through hoops or do stuff to get me to go out with him. So yeah treating it like an accomplishment feels disingenuous
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:16 PM
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The person I commented to just said to do all of the things women repeatedly tell people not to do. So I said "k you can't really complain if we reject you". I think you're just trying to find a reason to be offended lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:15 PM
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Guess I gotta dumb it down So if women don't want random men approaching them or joining their interests specifically for a date And men keep doing that anyway, they have 0 right to complain about it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:11 PM
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So women are just accomplishments to yall?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:03 PM
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I mean then he can't complain on the internet when girls reject him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 04:37 PM
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I was raped by my ex in college too im sorry :(
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 12:44 AM
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I don't care i value how I look and I don't wanna deal with physical and mental ramifications of pregnancy. Also how do you know what an abortion feels like ya lard, the fucking embryo doesn't have a nervous system so it doesn't have pain receptors. You need a brain to send signals to specific neurons which manifest the feeling of pain. Can't do that when the thing literally doesn't have the organ system to qualify as a living being. You kill single cellular bacteria all the time which is consid…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 09:40 PM
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Lmao I don't need constructive criticism from someone who doesn't have a healthy outlook on how men and women's relationships happen, especially seeing that I'm happily married, I think I know how it works better than you. Also I've dated women too and it still doesn't work the way you believe. In normal relationships you support each other sometimes financially other times emotionally. Like my husband supported us while I was in school then we switched and I supported him while he was in school…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 04:52 PM
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Lmao looking for good genes? Right the governments taking my right to abortion and im a worried about genes lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 04:51 PM
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Yeah you're not entitled to women loving you, and none of us want our partners to die for us. Maybe try treating one like a human being and n mot putting them on a pedestal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 04:25 PM
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Your point was women see men who play video games as weaker and I think I did refute it seeing as nerd culture is attractive to a lot of women, as well as the majority of women don't wanna be dating some hypermasculine chauvinist. But I think you're just too sensitive since I called you a walking headache which I mean you kinda seem like you are
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 04:21 PM
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Because since I'm a woman I probably relate better to people of my gender than you. I mean the majority of women just seem to not like men like you in my experience and I've dated women which is why I said I don't think I'd wanna trust the judgement of a walking headache that's biased. You have trouble with women not me, so clearly the problem lies with you. There are plenty of men who play football and maintain relationships where they can give time to their relationships. There are plenty of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 02:29 PM
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Gender roles are dumb, and I do what I want regardless of how feminine or masculine it seems. This is essentially why I used to have a hard time finding people to date prior to getting married, they all tried to impose certain roles to me and whined when I didn't comply
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:38 PM
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Ah makes sense! I was so confused
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:55 PM
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How's that a lack of empathy? He doesn't mind it, that's just how our dynamic is, we talk to each other while doing our own thing and then go back to doing our own shit. Ive never had a problem w it and neither has he like its our favorite afterwork thing. He games, I draw, we both smoke and talk about our day
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:32 PM
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Guys who play football are pretty lame imo also idek man you sound like women don't come within 20 ft of you lmao, so I can't really trust someone's judgement if they sound like a walking headache like you. I play video games and I have friends m, my husbands been a gamer longer than I have and he has friends, the friends he plays with have girlfriends....soooo idk maybe you feel that way because you need to justify the fact that you're not attractive to women, and I get it like I wouldn't come …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 11:33 AM
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I mean I'm married to a normal.person that doesn't flip his shit when he loses, also we like hanging out together
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 04:18 AM
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Bro its not that complicated hes had several serious conversations while I've been drawing. If its that serious I stop and hear him out, or I ask him if I can finish up before we talk. Like literally all you have to do is communicate
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 04:00 AM
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I get that, I also kinda don't get it because I started gaming as an adult so it was more stress relief for me and not as much competition. My husbands always been a gamer but he only really plays with the same dudes he used to play with when we were in high school. But I can get how like insecurities about putting so much labor into something can get in the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 03:47 AM
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Sorry I couldn't really think of another word lol like I guess maybe tunnel visioned is probably a more accurate term
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:30 AM
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For me and my husband we tend to do like our non shared hobbies in the same area so like us talking is more us like acknowledging each other, like sometimes he will pause between games and show me a funny video or like ill stop drawing to show me whatever artwork I'm working on. I think stuff like that goes a long way but also allows you to do your own thing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:29 AM
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Yeah I feel ya my husband and I can both get like that when we game, just gotta make the time! Hope it works out for ya
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:03 AM
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6 i feel like its pretty difficult for a lot of guys because a lot of them can't relate to the women they want to date and treat dating as a set of steps to get a reward which is either a relationship or sex. I feel like a lot of men have emotionally matured to understand that relationships are dynamic and so is sexuality. But several men especially the ones not in relationships just wanna date to not be alone which isn't a good reason for dating someone
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:17 PM
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My husbands a gamer but he has other hobbies too! He got me into gaming but I'm not interested in playing some of the stuff he plays but I love hearing about why he loves it. We usually play smash together which is the only game we have in common thats multi-player. I think a lot of women don't like it because 1. Some people do have addictions and 2. Some guys are kinda mean even when their partner is interested in learning more. My husband and I have full on conversations while he games and I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:17 PM
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I think awareness is key because if we aren't talking about how 1. Abusive cycles work 2. How it affects men and women differently and presents differently The problem could really be tackled. Abuse in men doesn't always mirror abuse in women and its never talked about
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:07 PM
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I'm not disagreeing with that i am explaining why that trend in wanting toxic relationships exist. A lot of men are the same way too and will seek out relationships that mirrored their childhood environment. Another reason why people stay in abusive relationships is financial dependency. My super abusive ex was okay paying for everything but would bitch about it, and if I got a job he would essentially pick fights the night before interviews so I was in a state of anxiety and sleeplessness durin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:34 PM
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The reason why is usually if you've grown up in a household like that you assume thats the behavior thats acceptable. The first year of my marriage was a shitshow because my husband was just so normal, he didn't manipulate me, berate me, hurt me, try to make me jealous I basically thought he hated me. It took so much fucking therapy to realize what actual love looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:07 PM
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I'm intrigued, why wouldn't he let me know, if he was unhappy in this marriage he'd totally leave he always had that option, so I wanna see some like empirical evidence on that :). Also I've been in what I consider a really successful relationship for years, its not that hard to be w someone you care abt lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:32 AM
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Lmao wouldn't the person who's actually married and been in a long term relationship be able to answer that better? My husbands had like 14 years to walk away from me, from when we were friends to dating to now and im pretty sure he's still willingly and enthusiastically here judging that he's like making chicken nuggets or someshit. But yeah sure he clearly is dying from how hard it is to maintain me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:16 AM
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Sorry I'm like super high rn I meant to say some people are really insufferable at times
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:09 AM
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Because she left because something about you is not cool w her. So you getting to know yourself and doing the work on yourself is your job, not your exs
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:59 AM
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Move tf on and not bother your ex. Like sometimes people Remember insufferable and you gotta break it off with the least amount of backlash.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:58 AM
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No I do what I want :3
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:58 AM
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I think everyone's kinda high maintenance, but I love my husbands quirks and he loves mine so it works out
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:54 AM
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You mentioned if he eats at 5 star places alone, so uh thats why I said that would be super ridiculous. And those are all viable solutions, its a 1st date so measuring your expectations is probably a good idea
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:44 PM
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Again who takes their 1st date to somewhere expensive, first dates are supposed to be about getting to know the person. I've been romantically w my partner for nearly 10 years and we've only been to a super fancy place once lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:38 PM
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Lmao you take dates to 5 star places......thats probably the issue. And he's definitely eaten at sit down places by himself we both have, like lunch breaks are a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:34 PM
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That just sounds like a you problem, my husbands eaten alone in restaurants doesn't seem to phase him. Actually plenty of men eat by themselves I don't even think most ppl notice. You might be projecting your insecurities on people that probably aren't even thinking of you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:29 PM
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I just don't let ghosting bother me lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:26 PM
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I love eating alone, and tbh no one in public thinks about whether or not you got ghosted. And shit comes up like I have literally forgotten to message people I actually do care about for months. Everyone's got their own life and their own priorities, unfortunately a romantic relationship doesn't always fall in the top priority for a lot of women. I think in the past a lot of women were told to pursue romantic interests but its also because we weren't allowed to do a lot nor were we afforded the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:21 PM
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Well because I feel like women have a higher risk of getting hurt and ghosting by comparison doesn't seem as bad. Someone once told me that my life is more important than peoples hurt feelings. Saying yes to a date can sound like a good idea one day but then you do think about potential catastrophes. Talking to some online isn't as dangerous as meeting them
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:08 PM
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Regarding what that the trp is necessary? Or that you have to plan for someone ghosting? Also I wasn't contesting the ghosting thing, I was saying it's not a big deal that it happens. Also most of the men I ghosted were people who seemed a little redpilly over the conversations, so idk if thats a contradiction or not to whether trp is needed, I just find men who follow it super unattractive Like the reason men make changes to themselves to see what would attract a women isn't really them being a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:28 PM
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Move on, smoke a blunt, hang out w a friend, go out for coffee on my own, pet my dog, watch a movie, finish my reading list, I don't really base my entire worth on whether other people wanna date me. Like if I wasn't married I'd probably be ok single too
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:23 PM
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Its just so amusing though 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:21 PM
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I don't have an issue w your opinion I just feel like men take all this 1st date bs way too seriously. Like its not like they left you at the alter
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:20 PM
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Actually it was more my lack of effort. Also you said I was triggered which is something most people can tell by tone or intent, then again idk who is more triggered because you're really stuck on the Grammer <- that one was on purpose fosho
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:19 PM
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With me guys have gotten clingy after I've said yes. Also I'd like someone who I was going on a 1st date with to treat me like the stranger I am, if they are literally talking about it and getting hyper over it after I've said yes it makes me not wanna go. Like I'm married now so thankfully I don't have to deal with this, but when I was dating my husband he knew how to be normal and not turn into a desperate spaz at me saying "yeah let's get a coffee" .
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:17 PM
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They could but its really cool you can hear my tone through the internet, is that a new super power? Or do you just not like it when people make fun of you for being a Grammer nazi
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:14 PM
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Lmao I don't expect my husband to be the sole provider or protector. But most men that say women want those things can't even front half the rent and im no ones mom
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:13 PM
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For a 1st date if a dude is getting that excited abt it its kind of a red flag to me. Like I've literally had a person over a course of a week just incessantly talking about how "great it was gonna be to meet in person" and its like if you can't chill tf out at the potential thought of "let's grab a coffee and chat" then its weird. Like ghosting on someone you know is horrible, but ghosting on some dude that seems way too eager is probably smart since that just sounds clingy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:09 PM
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Not my circus not my monkeys. If ppl have an issue they can ask me to elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:06 PM
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Nah, thats a lot of effort for being on my phone
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:04 PM
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Again I don't see anything wrong w it, its like yeah you got ghosted just move on. Thats what I've done and I don't really care if they ghosted shit happens and its not my shit to worry abt plus if every girl is ghosting you then I doubt its the girls, its probably you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:01 PM
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Lol you're the one who commented, maybe don't do dat if you don't like the answer
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:59 PM
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You know people change their minds right? Plus I don't really owe it to someone to be that communicative if its just a first date
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:58 PM
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You for got step 5. Decide whether or not its worth going because no dick is worth potentially being killed. Thats mainly why I used to say no to dates or ghost. But then I just stopped dating in general and didn't really worry abt it til I realized the person I was into was also into me and now I don't have to bother dating ever again
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:54 PM
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Lmao im happily married and I meant the guys baggage and ignorance regarding relationships not my own even with my husband there were a ton of things I had to explain to him in terms of what its like being a woman especially someone who came from a horribly sexist family. It was worth the effort with my husband but tbh if it wasn't him I wouldn't put the effort in for another guy. I'd either stay single or date other women. TL;DR a lot of guys are emotionally immature and we are tired of putting…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:49 PM
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We have other meaningful relationships also there's a lot of baggage when dating dudes that you either have to continue explaining to the guy til he gets it or he doesn't, and tbh most people don't wanna put the effort into that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 08:44 PM
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And how is that our problem? Again I don't see a lot of women lusting after sex because sexually satisfying yourself is better than being potentially assaulted by a dude or getting disappointing sex. There's a pretty small chance that a guy is good in bed, not dangerous, and meeting the unique needs of what individual women want in a relationship. Most single women find emotional fulfillment in friendships and pets, not saying men can't be fulfilled by that stuff but a lot of men are socialized …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 03:38 AM
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We don't owe you emotional connection either
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 06:08 PM
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I think is more that we can sexually satisfy ourselves and don't need men to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 05:06 PM
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Yet you're on a subreddit whining about how you don't get fucked because uwu women bad lol. I guess be right while the rest of us get laid lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:49 PM
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Also I live in Arizona
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:45 PM
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Nah I'm good w you leaving i don't give enough of a fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:45 PM
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Did you include data regarding how masturbation is generally frowned upon in women, the region where the data is from because places that lack comprehensive sex education is also a factor. Its your own faults that men are seen as sexual creatures in society, can't satisfy a woman because women are told to be virginal. The only reason I ever got off was because I sneaked myself sex education that my religious parents never gave me. Most women can get themselves off, or just get a vibrator to do i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:35 PM
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I mean just sex is boring. And this isn't applicable to all women or all people but I personally just fucked men for the fucking not like the guy themselves, same with dating. I didn't really think I was attracted to men til I dated my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:27 PM
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Lol we can make ourselves orgasm and its not like a lot of men are good at it even after we tell them. I've dated people that suck at having sex, all of them were dudes. Another woman was able to make me come just fine, according to you if all women are different then another woman would require the same communication to get someone to orgasm. they don't need nearly the coaching men do
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:25 PM
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Ooooo glowing lmao I don't think men that are good at sex need to brag about it. And I think if I was solely selecting a dude based on sexual attraction it would be how they flirted whether or not I found that sexy. And then if the actual sex was good id hook up with him for a while before I got bored
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:22 PM
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When I say kicked out I don't mean literally kick it was more "yeah I'm bored now you can go" men that I have personally been with really did not know how to pleasure women and seeing as other women have the same complaint in many places its easy to assume most dudes kinda suck at fucking
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:15 PM
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It has its own drawer :3 my roommate back in college used to leave hers on her desk but you couldn't tell it was a sex toy it looked like a random paperweight
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:14 PM
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What you think I didn't tell them lol I literally stopped in the middle of most of my one night stands and kicked them out. The only man that has been able to sexually satisfy me is the one I'm married to and thats only pertaining to straight people. I've been with women and its not the same in LGBT relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:12 PM
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Lol prove it, i have a higher sex drive than my husband and I am a vagina owner. Its not my fault that half my one night stands didnt know how to find my clit and the other half treated it like a pencil eraser lmao. Women are horny all the time, but a good dildo usually does the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:02 PM
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Sex isn't a meal btw men can go without sex too. Also I've fucked my share of ugly men and kicked them out at 3am just for the sake of fucking. Trust me its not great when some dude comes in 2 min and is pleased with himself, that's why we are sexually selective, since a dildo can do better and bonus it won't be sleeping in my bed lol lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:14 PM
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He had female friends and he was able to be in a romantic relationship. Women felt safe around him and trusted him, and also I was 14 when I met him. Boys are already super creepy at at that age and he wasn't. I knew him for 7 years and we fell in love with each other and then dated for 2 more before we got married. 7 years of not being creepy to women makes him worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:33 PM
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Not really most women know you don't just approach a man that you don't know well since there is that risk. It's the answer to why don't women approach men, and I agree with the caution they have its a legitimate reason to not approach a guy at the bar or not approach that classmate that seems ok but a little weird. I get the thought process behind it. Me not being single has nothing to do with that, if men like my husband exist or like the men I've made friends with then women don't really have…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:32 PM
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I said I don't approach men at all because of the risk, and that many women do the same. Its usually the top reason why we don't approach you. Also I don't need your backstories I just need the red flags so if the dude starts reiterating shit about "pills" and high value women then run for the hills. Also you can't have a viable relationship without a solid foundation. My husband has a ton of platonic female friends I used to be one of them. He never hit on me or tried any weird pick up artist s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:24 PM
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You said to go about ignoring the "stats" in this sub on autopilot why should I care about the stats on this sub if they are mostly made up and don't apply to me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:18 PM
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I didn't say stay away from all men. I said stay away from men that treat dating such as this sub. I'm pretty cool w men who can maintain friendships and relationships with women, but people here not so much there's a reason why people don't wanna approach you and I agree they shouldn't. Most single men complaining don't usually have female friends they don't immediately sexualize, and most of those men are bitching and moaning on here anyway so its really easy to see the type of men that we sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:16 PM
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Cared enough to comment and make assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:10 PM
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I care about other women and as long as yall are miserable its a bonus
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:09 PM
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Also I don't need to care about these trends im happily married
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:29 PM
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Wow you do project a lot, also its not my fault that women in my life have taken my advice it was their choice. Like do you really expect im gonna tell my sister whose like 18 to be like "oh see those desperate weirdos that try to equate relationships to numerical values and bitch about why they are single...those are the real catch" yeah fuck no. I'm pretty sure other people with my experience and there have been many people who have been assaulted do the same. We've been doing stuff like this …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:28 PM
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Lmao women aren't less sexually thirsty, we are sexually selective. Aka most of yall don't meet our needs
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:11 PM
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Lol its the norm for a lot of women and also what makes you think I haven't gone to therapy for this bs. I've done regular therapy since 2014 when this happened to now. Also I'm not venting I have people to vent to, im simply letting you know my reasons for not trusting single men and why people like you don't get approached. Treating dating based in terms of high and low value, and marking women who are older as offering no profit in a relationship isn't gonna get you tail. I do actively warn w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:05 PM
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Rape isn't equivalent to abuse. I've been in abusive relatio ships and its not the devastation you get from being raped. Not only did I have to deal with it there was also the chance I could've been pregnant or get an std. You can't use your eyes and ears to judge a rapist and its not paranoid to point out that if a single dude doesn't have platonic relationships with women its a red flag. I wouldn't go near many of the dudes in this sub or tell my friends to. Like its specifically these types o…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:50 PM
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Have you lost your bodily autonomy? Have you been sent to behavioral health centers wrongfully for trying to escape your rapist? Clearly not. I have men in my life who are amazing and its provable because their female friends and their partners can vouch for their character. Am I gonna let some single guy in my circle absolutely not. Maybe if dudes weren't rapey and weren't treating dating like some stock market things would be different. The problem doesn't lie with me or other women, it lies w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:33 PM
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Yeah but why should i or anyone else approach some guy who either might be a potential date that may or may not work out or a potential abuser. Being single is way better than taking on the hassle. Tbh all my guy friends have significant others, long term ones and that's how I know they are safe to be around and confide in, otherwise you'll never see me just talking to a single dude even though I'm married. Talking to single guys is a risk for us, and I get why women ghost and don't approach sin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:22 PM
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Suuuure and how many rapists have you vetted because mine was my boyfriend of 1 year at the time. You can take your shitty victim blaming elsewhere, because maybe I just don't want guys close to me seeing as I would like to not be assaulted, pretty sure other women feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:07 PM
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As someone who has been raped before of course I fucking know that. But its more likely it'll be someone you know than some random. Not that I need to approach anyone for a date now, but even when I was single that would be a dumbass unsafe thing to do
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:59 PM
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Why approach something that can potentially threaten my life. There are more male rapists who assault women than there are female ones, im more likely to be raped if its a dude thats interested in me, so yeah I ain't fuckin with that. Like when I was single I either dated people I knew well and didn't date frequently, if I needed to have sex I had fwbs who I knew. I wouldn't ever approach some dude I thought was cute or knew for a couple weeks, its dangerous af
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:35 PM
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Nah id rather not get raped or want other women to be assaulted
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:00 PM
1

I think it should just be normalized to express yourself how you want! Wearing make up is fun but like not wearing make up is less effort and allows me to touch my face without worrying about racoon eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:22 PM
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No I really don't. I've blocked, dumped, and ghosted every dude that introduced themselves to me and tried to get to know me just to be in a relationship, that sole fact made them unattractive no matter how conventionally attractive they were. Relationships grow organically. The only time I haven't turned someone down was when I was physically attracted to them and just wanted to have sex. But those dudes specifically told me that they wanted to have sex and didn't try buttering me up for a rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:02 PM
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Well how do you think you get in the door. Because i personally hate it when people message me with the intent of a relationship even when I was single
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:42 PM
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Its kind of a no win situation then. Like be mean, you're a bitch. Be nice, you're still a bitch. Block them you're still a bitch lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:35 PM
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If all those things didn't matter people wouldn't be in relationships. I didn't meet my husband because he fell out of a tree, I had to actually talk to him and get to know him, and most of it was outside the intent of a relationship. Sometimes the fact that people try to get to know you for a relationship as a main goal is kinda offputting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:33 PM
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Maybe learn how to socialize or realize that you may have compatibility issues? Relationships need 2+ people not 1 uninterested person and 1 desperate person willing to date for the sake of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:29 PM
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Why is instantly blocking so bad? I do it like all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:27 PM
2

But a larger amount of men also have partners and social lives.. so again its still limited to younger guys or men that don't know how to socialize
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:24 PM
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And your observation seems to be isolated to men who probably meet your demographic. I'm just saying if this was as huge of an issue as this sub makes it out to be you'd hear/see about it in person
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:16 PM
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People outside of reddit exist, and they seem to have normal lives with their partners or with their friends/family.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:50 PM
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I mean the same thing still stands. If someone doesn't want to talk to you when you dm them how attractive they are compared to you shouldn't matter. Like if I never met someone I consider to be attractive enough to marry, I'd just stay single because that's better than being with someone just for sex or the sake of not being alone
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:49 PM
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I never felt like men I've talked to are more or less attractive than me. They're attractive in their own way, like I can't stand next to my husband and be like "oh we are the same level of attractive" because we look nothing alike. Like I find him attractive compared to other men but I can't make that comparison with people who aren't the same gender as him. But then again I don't measure attractiveness in the same way most ppl here do
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:47 PM
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Imagine finding a desperate little dm from some stranger and then when they hit on you and make you feel uncomfortable, to the point that you have to ask them to stop, you are suddenly the bitch. If these women are less attractive than you, why approach them? Clearly they don't wanna date you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 12:36 PM
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I don't think most men struggle with dating, I think its just the men on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 12:30 PM
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Ohhhh ok I misunderstood then. Judging tone online is hard haha
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:34 PM
2

I actually agree on that one, I just don't think taking anti depressants make you anymore productive, nor should women take them for the sole purpose of housekeeping.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:20 PM
2

Good for you, still a shit opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:14 PM
4

I found my ideal partner 🙍‍♀️ 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:08 PM
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Yes 100%. I dated around a bit before I found the one for me, and each and every one of those relationships were exhausting
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:08 PM
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Have you ever figured that when we get approached we are busy? I feel like the people who do cold approach people have to deal with being told no a lot. I personally hate being approached in public by any gender, so I like using headphones or a book, and I still get dudes trying to be all "what are you reading/listening to" and its super annoying. Like do you and approach people but also know that most people don't really like taking to strangers and ma age your expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:39 PM
1

Why have a draft at all. People shouldn't have to fight a war they don't believe in
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:47 PM
1

Hes a psychologist not a physiologist, and tbh neither of us care that much about income as long as our bills are paid and we have food n something to do. It he was concerned about being in psych for the salary I wouldn't be with him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:52 PM
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Yeah I wouldn't date businessmen I find them.pretty insufferable. I'm married to a psychologist and I like his passion for helping people and the conversations we have, if he had an obsession with money id leave
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:27 PM
1

I'm not into hustlers I find them insufferable
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:22 PM
1

Douche bag* was supposed to say "just the douche bag you described"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:17 PM
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Doubt it. I grew up with the guy I'm married to, he's not that insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 11:48 AM
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Im not into hustlers...I like chill guys who don't need a guide to be a in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 11:03 AM
1

It just sounds like someone who earns 10k a month with personal and professional networks is just some corporate toolbag.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 10:13 AM
1

Oh no just the double bag you described
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 10:12 AM
2

This sounds insufferable as a partnet, thank god im not dating that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:51 AM
2

Small peepee energy doesn't mean you have a small peepee it means you're insecure and you make it other peoples problem
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:21 PM
1

Its not that hard to figure out, most women don't like redpillers. The mental gymnastics aren't necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:48 PM
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Marriage for me is a partnership and of its with the right partner feels amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:30 PM
2

"Females" cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 11:17 AM
1

I find red pilled men and women kinda repulsive...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:51 PM
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I love this thread because all the trashy guys pop out of the weeds bitching and moaning. I've met several dudes in person who feel entitled to women. I've lost friends because they hit on me even though I'm in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:23 PM
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Neutral about it I don't really care as long as they don't cheat on me or abuse me. I'm married now and I don't regret it but if my husband didn't want to be married I wouldn't push for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:58 PM
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I wouldn't (if I was single). I don't want kids and I don't wanna take care of someone else's
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:54 PM
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Who tf would have an issue in their relationship because their friend was attractive...like there were probably issues to begin with if that really caused a rift. Also most women don't friendzone men, the men who believe they are in the friendzone aren't really our friends....they're people we try to avoid
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:39 PM
1

Why would we worry about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 03:41 PM
5

I mean my job is gonna entail me working w kids forever so I specifically made the decision to be childfree so I can devote attention there
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:27 PM
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Situation 3: we both make 80k and have 0 kids
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 02:56 PM
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I dated an abusive dude, after going to therapy is usually because you don't wanna accept the fact that abusive people are attracted to you, and when you get abused especially long term child abuse or spousal abuse it often makes you think you're the problem. you try to prove to yourself you arent, and also the minute you get with a nice person you also misunderstand whether or not you get abused. i am married to the love of my life and i still think hes gonna hurt me when he does nice things fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 06:32 PM
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