TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

desire-us Archive

View 1 posts and 43 comments by desire-us on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

CMVdesire-us/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 09:41 PM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
–

I’m not saying that but in places where Sex work is legal STD transmission is significantly lower than the alternative. Legalized Sex work allows SW to more effectively screen their clients which includes STD testing. SWs themselves have easier access to testing and treatment in countries like The Netherlands and NZ
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 02:51 PM
–

Wouldn’t all these regulations and labor laws come into effect if sex work was legal? It seems like most of the reasons people list they are against SW could be fixed by changing its legality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 02:31 PM
2

It does indicate a message was unsent. Which may be worse if he hasn’t seen/heard it yet? People tend to fill in the gaps themselves and they’re usually very wrong about their assumptions. Here’s the rub, If it’s a voice message I can guarantee you didn’t send it by accident. Which means you meant what you send then regretted telling him. What kind of assumption do you think he’ll make?
/r/seduction20/05/24 01:19 PM
2

Isn’t this just negging?
/r/seduction30/04/24 12:59 AM
2

Sounds like he’s going off “vibes”…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:00 PM
3

Can you elaborate on what laws have been changed/passed due to mild inconveniences on the women’s part? I feel like this is important to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:04 PM
2

I’ve tried this and it doesn’t work out as well as you’d think. It can very quickly devolve into her unpacking all the things past men have done and kills the mood. I’m down to have those conversations but not in the bar…
/r/seduction29/01/24 08:25 PM
4

I like to come up with a ethical quandary that I need an outside perspective on. It works great if you’re out with someone and you need her to be the tie breaker. It can be as goofy or as serious as you want it to be. Some of my favourites, Does Steve Buchemi look like he smells weird? Is it better to be loved and quickly forgotten or hated and remembered forever? What style should make a comeback? Is astrology the female equivalent to sports?
/r/seduction29/01/24 10:37 AM
3

You’ve summed it up quite well. I’d add that we tend to have very rigid and two dimensional boxes for our partners during the honeymoon phase. One of the reasons men aren’t getting the joke is the amount of weight they place on potential relationships. If you’re on your phone listening to a woman say she got the ick watching a man do something innocuous like “run for the bus”, you might become hyper vigilant about your own possible missteps.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 09:40 AM
1

The men who think it’s new probably don’t have many platonic women in their lives. The “ick” has just been more recently defined but it’s not new.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 09:31 AM
1

Depending on what city you’re in look for bar lectures. You’ll find women who are looking for interesting ideas enough to pursue them outside of school. EventBrite has a few but they usually only pop up for a week or so. Once you find a few orgs that produce those shows. Then you go to lectures that you like and you’ll find like minded people albeit the ratio may not be ideal.
/r/seduction29/01/24 05:41 AM
1

Is it possible to be both? I think you’re missing a few things. Men you’re deeming “successful” what’s their success rate? The men that you see with a lot of women are probably trying to pickup a LOT more. If a man takes a woman home every night, it’s likely that he’s hit on maybe 10 women that night. That’s 10%! But from on outside perspective he’s a stud. Now a man willing to hit on 10+ women in a night isn’t necessarily a misogynist but… it’s a solid guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 03:41 AM
0

Iirc the average number of sexual partners in the US is 10.7 but this number is misleading. It’s likely that most people find themselves with much higher numbers or in and around your range. And yes, there’s a significant amount of people who consider sex a fundamental part of a relationship. Sexual chemistry is important and it can be a dealbreaker for some.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 05:45 PM
0

Lol, maybe I’m just a 304. If you’re online dating and getting a decent amount of matches, you’re probably going on a lot of dates. Not every date leads to sex but I might go on 50 dates in a year(not all different people). That’s doesn’t include people you meet at casual events/parties/meetups. I think there’s a stark difference in how people are experiencing sex. It seems like it’s drought or drown.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 05:29 PM
0

In my experience, casual relationships tend to overlap. They’re rarely exclusive relationships. Plus if you meet someone (OLD or IRL), go on one to three dates and it fizzles out. That could easily take two weeks and it’s not uncommon to have slept with each other in that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 05:22 PM
0

I think we’re not understanding at how viable 100 sexual partners really is. If he’s 30 and started having sex at 16, which is average for people not on Reddit in high school. That’s about 7 partners a year. Realistically a big chunk of them would be during your university years but even so. If you’re single for 365 days and only having sex 7 times, is that a lot? I’d love someone to explain to me why this is distribution makes them so uncomfortable. Because it seems like just the mental image o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:39 PM
2

I don’t think women discriminate against virgins, I think they discriminate against a lack of confidence. Whenever you’re in a situation you’re not used(in this case romance), you second guess yourself and walk on eggshells. That’s not an attractive energy. Women may not be able to confirm you’re a virgin but they can confirm that you’re uncomfortable around women, which is basically the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 09:11 PM
1

I see where you’re coming from but there’s more to it. What are men lying about? What impression are they trying to give with their lies? Is it possible just to be those things honestly? I’ve been polyamorous for years and I’m not rich and definitely not a Chad. I’ve met and dated mainly monogamous women who all know where I stand. I tried lying about it and it’s not the better choice! You don’t have to lie if you’re attraction is undeniable. Be THAT guy. Be smart, funny and a good time. Be some…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 06:25 PM
2

Here’s the thing, Lying to women works but it’s shortsighted for a multitude of reasons. By perpetuating a culture of lies, we create an adversarial relationship between the genders. Women want to have sex too but they don’t want to be manipulated into it. These men may get what they want in the moment but they leave a lasting impression on not only the women they’ve slept with but ALL the women connected to them. This creates greater animosity and caution from women when it comes to their inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 06:04 PM
1

Here’s the thing about that. Don’t most women fall under this same category? Writing them off because of an archaic culture tradition seems shortsighted. The truth is you don’t know the men in this category. Now it’s quite possible that they’re all creeps BUT if you’re picking/approaching them you can probably filter that out. There’s also the fact that as long as our current approach culture remains women have to continue dealing with the wrong men approaching them. Men with confidence but lack…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:25 PM
3

The answer’s somewhere between. Women would like to a approached PROPERLY but more often than not that doesn’t happen. SOME women have decided that they’d rather not be approached at all to avoid possible harassment. It’s an over correction but ultimately an understandable reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:56 PM
2

True but they still exists. Unfortunately with the rise of socially anxious people, new spaces have a hard time finding their footing. My experience as an hobby event organizer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:47 PM
4

Ignoring the long “woe is me” list, that’s the biggest red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:43 PM
1

I’m poly, so I wouldn’t consider myself a manwhore but it definitely looks that way from a far. Under 10 seems low, if you’re dating people around your age. That’s less than one new partner a year. Aren’t you limiting yourself artificially?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:56 PM
2

Do you know any fuckbois personally? There’s a lot of sweet words and futurizing. Women who complain about them tend to feel deceived by fuckbois. These men manipulate and lie once they get into contact with the women they’re after, stringing them along so they can get as much as they can from thise they prey upon. But if we look at how they attract women in the first place, we can then have the opportunity to showcase our personalities to the women we want to pursue. Can’t guarantee that they’l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:32 PM
1

Outta curiosity, what would consider the upper limit for you is?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:03 PM
2

Isn’t it more likely that if the 50% looking of LTR most don’t meet the criteria for attraction? Now this isn’t limited to physical attraction but also social competence and chemistry. Say what you’d like about Fuckbois but they know how to attract people. If you watch what they’re doing and strip away the toxic tendencies(lies and manipulation), why can’t more people focus on the elements of attraction and embodying that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:00 PM
4

Isn’t that just Jackass? Guys doing dumb shit, both endangering and humiliating themselves for the entertainment of others. Didn’t they get like 5 seasons and 3 movies?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:53 PM
14

This is why we can’t have an honest conversation about toxic femininity. Because people like OP equate with terrible things. Only Fans and Makeup is NOT a problem! You may not like but OF is used by such a small percentage of women and it’s funded by men across the world albeit the percentage is debatable. Toxic femininity is spoken about, but not in public spaces because bad faith actors turn it into a dumping on women party. Look at at how Toxic Masculinity was co-opted once it was brought int…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:39 PM
1

I’m not at 50 yet either but I can see how that could happen. It comes down to what we would consider a healthy and desirable sexual lifestyle. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, how much sex do you want to be having?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 10:07 PM
1

To be fair, based on your age I assumed you got married and snatch off the market before OLD and “casual” dating took off.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 10:02 PM
1

I mean seriously dating, over an extended time. If you’re not having ONS or flings that’s the only way you’re having sex… I assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 10:00 PM
0

Well the thing is, if you sprinkle in longer term relationships into this scenario the number may reduce to 30 or lower. It doesn’t plummet. If you have two sexual partners a year, you’re looking at a body count of 28. Also “discarding people you’re intimate with” is particularly charged language. Have you never dated someone someone for more than a month only for it to not work out?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 09:57 PM
1

Question: You date 1 person a year, wouldn’t you hit double digits before 30? Most people don’t run into their right person or right now person right away. Also dating doesn’t have to take THAT much time. A single night every other week doesn’t seem particularly difficult. You could realistically do more if you’re doing coffee and park dates that last an hour or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 09:50 PM
1

Don’t the vast majority of most relationships fail? Divorce rate is siting around 50% but what percentage of relationships even get to marriage in the first place? In most people’s ideal world, you’ll only have one “successful” relationship. Everyone before that technically failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 07:08 PM
6

I just did a cursory look but I found a few that support my claim. I Could still be wrong (2018) women in all age groups seem to do more work
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:26 AM
11

The studies agree with you. Women have been doing the lion’s share of “unpaid work” for decades(probably centuries) and that hasn’t changed even though they’ve joined the workforce.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 05:57 AM
1

There’s no solid answer, if that’s what you’re looking for. If they’ve agreed to go out with find some semblance of confidence in that. Usually, I speak to them first, have some drinks get comfortable with one another. I’m a very flirty person naturally so I can usually understand if they’re into me or not. Anticipation is hot. If you flirt throughout the conversation rather than just making it all about that you can build anticipation together. Depending on timing and how long we’ve been at the…
/r/seduction24/08/22 10:05 PM
3

Agreed but unfortunately I think we’re in the minority albeit a growing minority. Most of the “studies” I’ve seen on female organisms in the general population has shown an uptick in the last 2 decades but it’s still dreadfully low. To bring it back to OP, why take a chance on a bad lay when you probably have someone in your phone who isn’t?
/r/seduction20/08/22 07:11 AM
9

Idk. I know a lot of men who think they’re gods in the bedroom and a lot of women who’d beg to differ. Somebody’s lying. More than a handful of women have told me faking it is a great way to end bad sex. Hell, I’ve tried it and it works like a dream.
/r/seduction20/08/22 06:02 AM
2

A problem with “looking up openers” is that it’s entirely possible someone else has already used it on her. I’m not a femme but that would be an instant unmatch in my book.
/r/seduction09/08/22 08:05 PM
157

Lol, literally the way you handle ANY date. Take that night to learn about her and what y’all have in common. You might have more things in common with a younger woman but I’m sure you can find something you both enjoy. Don’t get too into your head about her being a milf.
/r/seduction01/08/22 09:18 PM
10

I turned 28 this year and some of my friends have joked about me hitting second puberty. I think being a bit more established leads to noticeable increase in confidence
/r/seduction30/07/22 07:36 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter