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It is not horrible to say/feel relief. Abuse is...complicated. My mother has borderline personality disorder. And, while I am incredibly sad for her I have learned that no disorder or circumstance excuses any abusive behavior. Abusers are not always actively abusive which can make it more difficult to seperate from them. But I sounds like you are in a good place and I honestly teared up a little bit reading your response. I hope you continue to take care of yourself!
/r/MensRights13/10/18 01:37 PM
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Are you currently getting help for these feelings? It's not any of my business but I would think the fact that she died would make it worse or, at least, more complicated because you may feel like you were cheated out of closure or are surrounded by people who are actively mourning your abuser. The fact you recognize what she did as abuse is such an important step and I hope you have a strong support network who can help you feel safe and loved.
/r/MensRights13/10/18 10:33 AM
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You don't think it's a little strange to call a woman a "whore" because she doesn't want to sleep with you?
/r/seduction12/02/18 12:00 AM
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safety > class I think YOU'D be surprised with the results. Do you really think most women don't know how men take rejection? Like just about every woman has tried being polite when they were young and learned quickly why it isn't always the best to be straight forward. I used to be a waitress and people who ask me for my number all the time. Customers that determined my pay for the night so I had to be as tactful as possible. Honestly, the best were when men would just leave me their number on …
/r/seduction11/02/18 06:27 PM
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"This girl doesn't want to sleep with me, what a whore!"
/r/seduction11/02/18 04:27 PM
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He visits her though. He comes to her college out of the blue. He shows up at her nude music show while he's on leave. They reunite serendipitously at the Vietnam rally. She only contacts him twice, once when she showed up randomly before he started his running journey. Then again when she is dying and she wants him to meet her son. She exploits him how? By asking him to raise their son after she's dead? I think you need to rewatch the movie. EDIT: and honestly, would you critisize a man for hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 10:12 PM
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She uses him how? She never asks for money, not even to raise their child. He never takes her anywhere. She doesn't keep coming back, he keeps going and finding her while she's trying to keep herself away from him. He's filthy rich and would buy her anything she wanted but she asks for nothing. She buys him gifts and keeps all his clippings in an album. She's been watching him from afar for years and clearly loves him. She has absolutely nothing to gain in this scene from him other than that she…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 09:55 PM
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She very much is attracted to Forrest though. She has sex with him twice even though she knows it's a bad idea and thinks it makes her a bad person. Imagine if the genders were switched, a mentally challenged yet amazing woman with a childhood friend who keeps popping up. She pursues him and while he is affectionate toward her, he stays away knowing he's a wreck and feels that he is advantage of her. She's rich, famous, and completely in love with him while he is unsure if she is even mature eno…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 09:46 PM
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Jenny thought her attraction to a mentally handicapped man would be bad, just like her father did to her. She didn't want to be with him even when he had money and fame because mentally she felt she would be an abuser and he was incapable of consenting to sex with her. She had a fucked up life and made bad decisions. But she wasn't the villain.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 09:04 PM
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I want to have kids but I can't forsee them any time soon. I'm at a weird age.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 05:56 AM
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We'd probably enter an allowance into a joint account. Both contributing the same yet having completely separate spending money. I know many long term married couples who have done a similar system. I never want him to ask me if it's okay for him to buy something. He probably doesn't need his fourth car but, if he can afford it, he should do it without me nagging him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 03:57 AM
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Never date a tennis player. Love means nothing to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 03:48 AM
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It's not important to me to be filthy rich. I live a median wage too but am pursuing another degree to bump myself into upper middle class. I don't care what my partner does. My boyfriend is terrible with money and has hobbies he can't afford. Doesn't matter to me one bit as our finances will remain forever separate. That way he can buy whatever shit he wants without guilt or having to ask. It's his money to do whatever he wants with as long as he pulls his weight with bills and such.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 03:16 AM
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Hipsters are incapable of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 03:14 AM
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Well I'm dating one and most the guys I work with are in relationships with women they really like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 11:10 PM
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Very few men are overweight because of muscle. Every guy on Reddit is convinced they are the beefcake exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 10:06 PM
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Skin and hair is face though. >_> Edit: really? You don't think acne or wrinkles has any effect? Sebaceous filaments? Blotchiness? Bald men can rejoice I guess, hair doesn't do anything that important. So women can all stop plucking their eyebrows, dying their roots, shaving their upper lips, and balming their chapped lips? It won't do anything big for their attractiveness? I think you are so unaware of all the stuff the average woman does that you have no idea how much these little things matte…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 07:00 PM
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The attention I am getting is from men. Dude, all I'm saying is to moisturize your face once in a while and actually give a damn about your appearance. Most guys do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 06:45 PM
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I think you are vastly underestimating how much white teeth, clear dewey skin, full bodied well groomed hair, smooth skinned moisterized legs, plucked eyebrows, and a well fitting blouse can have on attractiveness. I can leave the house in frump mode and not get a single oogle. Full shower with blow out, face cream, and heels will get me plenty of attention though. No makeup needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 06:38 PM
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But besides makeup women do a ton of other things guys don't even consider trying to improve on. You're really stuck on make up and ignoring my point about skin, hair, and style. If women didn't use makeup, they'd still be doing by and large the majority of self care and appearance improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 06:30 PM
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http://kff.org/other/state-indicator/adult-overweightobesity-rate-by-gender/ https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/Pages/overweight-obesity-statistics.aspx Men have higher overweight and obesity rates. Again, not about makeup. Women in general care a lot more about their appearances than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 05:56 PM
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I didn't say makeup. Skin care, hair care, and wearing flattering clothing is huge. Also eating right and exercising. I see a lot of "unattractive" men walking around with shirts and pants that don't even fit them. Their physique is lost in a frumpy clothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 05:44 PM
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I refuse to ever date people I work with too. Some of the guys I work with I would have never given a chance online if just given a few pics and a bio. Yet a lot of them are actually pretty cute. Personality and mannerisms make a big difference and that is all lost online.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 04:54 PM
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I think you guys put too much emphasis on status. You can maybe get a golddigger partner but actual companionship has little to do with money. I met a guy on a dating website that had more money than he knew what to do with. Dated him for about a month because he was nice. But he really didn't have a personality and I couldn't connect with him on any other level than two people being nice to each other. Looked him up recently and he lives in Palo Alto with a really impressive job title. Still no…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 04:47 PM
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They'll question it because gay men tend to give a shit about their appearance. If a woman thinks you're gay because of your fashion sense, take it as a compliment. When a new bartender started where I worked, all the girls kept spending an unusual amount of time waiting on their drinks. Then it turned out he had a boyfriend and they all collectively went "goddamnit, of course" and grumbled away. There are a lot of hipsters where I live and they men are collectively better looking because they t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 03:49 PM
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Anecdotally, I never initiated for two reasons. a)I got so many messages that after sorting through them all at the end of the day, I didn't have the emotional energy to send any of my own. b)If a guy ended up being a creepy stalker, I would feel like I invited that behaviour by initiating contact. It's one thing for a guy to message me, be a creep, and I can easily ignore them. But for me to start the conversation and now they have targeted me? Ugh, they'll just be more persistent in their cree…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 03:45 PM
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I don't wear a lot of makeup in my day-to-day because I don't enjoy being hit on at work and it oftentimes leads to skin blemishes (I have sensitive skin). But, back when I did, only other women seemed to be able to tell that I was wearing makeup. Guys would always comment on how great I looked but were completely oblivious to the reason. Makeup is as enjoyable as drawing. I was a tomboy for a long time and avoided the hell out of it. But eventually came to really love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 03:38 PM
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I don't know why you'd walk away from half the people on the planet. Most of my friends are male. My boyfriends have all been wonderful men. If you have a problem with such a large, diverse group of people, it's probably you that's causing the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 03:30 PM
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Again, I don't know very many men who would teach their kid that violence was the answer. Most of my boyfriends had very intellectual fathers who shunned the hell out of that behaviour. Only one of my ex's had ever gotten in a real fight and he viewed it at as a deep personality flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 03:15 PM
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Meh, I hate pictures. I don't think I've ever taken a real selfie. And I'm not talking make up. While I really enjoy the art of makeup, I have a crazy skin care regimen and put more work into my figure and hair than I think most guys realize. You have to look amazing and also make it look effortless.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 03:12 PM
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I can never imagine swearing off all men or even generalizing like that. I've been screwed over by a shitty guy or two. But, that man in particular sucked. If I heard a woman being so dramatic as to swear off all men, I would assume she had a lot of things to fix about herself, atm.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 10:02 AM
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A father will teach you how to break his arm Lol, I don't know a single man who would give that advice. And, if I did meet someone like that, I'd tell them not to have kids because they'd be a shitty dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 09:58 AM
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Honestly, I feel like most women put so much effort into our appearances and most guys just kinda show up and expect to date the most attractive women. My boyfriend is pretty darn attractive. Part of it is bone structure and all that. But, if you look at his high school blunder years, he had the same bone structure yet didn't look nearly as attractive as he does today. Care about your skin, hair, and clothing as much as the women you want to date care about their appearance and be amazed at how …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 09:49 AM
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Withholding sex is not healthy. You should only have sex when you truly want to but using sex as a tool to get what you want is immature. Find a better way to communicate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 09:25 AM
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I got lucky with boyfriends when I was young. I was never pressured by them to have sex. If anything they tried to stay away from the sex hungry stereotype. They were all very self aware. I dated a handful of guys in my teens but lost my virginity in my twenties to a guy who would have been fine waiting until marriage. It took a long time to see myself as attractive to grown ass men though. I still saw myself as being a kid, so it didn't click until they made a move on me that they saw me as a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 09:23 AM
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