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Both parents decided when they engaged in sex. Did you think this was a gotcha moment? Yikes..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:27 PM
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Again, you’re missing the point. MOTHERS commit more abuse towards their kids than FATHERS do, largely in part to the fact that fathers aren’t around as much. When both mothers and fathers are present, the gender divide between child abuse is a lot smaller. Additionally, when you look at present parents, fathers are more likely to be physically abusive vs mothers who are more neglectful and are over 90% of the perpetrators of sexual abuse towards their own children. It’s only a woman’s issue bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:17 AM
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….you’re completely missing the point and misunderstanding how stats work. Good luck with people who consider you worthy of an adult conversation, I’m no longer one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 07:55 PM
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I do understand how statistics work AND I have lived a life that accurately reflects the statistic that 1 in 6 women are victims of sexual assault in their lives. That number jumps to 1 in 3 for young American women attending college which explains why five of my friends were raped just in my freshman year. It’s not some rare and irrelevant 1%. Do you understand how statistics work?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 07:31 PM
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You do realize that mothers are more likely to commit abuse against kids because FATHERS are far more likely to be completely absent in their child’s life at all?? When you compare the rates of abuse of mothers vs. fathers who are actively present in a kids life, and not just women vs. men, you get much more equal comparisons.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 06:30 PM
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Because the topic is phrased like it’s a -one-sided issue when BOTH genders have plenty of people who take rejection poorly, and one gender is significantly worse at handling it than the other (hint: it’s not women)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 06:27 PM
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Honestly, this one of the dumbest posts I’ve seen on here in a while. Tell me, when’s the last time you heard about a woman going on a killing spree because they have bad luck with men? How many resort to date rape compared to men? Which gender is much more likely to stalk the other gender? Some people, both men & women, are awful at taking rejection. But women handle it by leaving the dating scene and men are more likely to handle in dangerous and aggressive ways. Trying to frame this a woman’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 06:23 PM
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….Do you really think women are the only ones attracted to him? Are y’all just forgetting that gay men exist and objectify the hell out of hot celebrities whether they’re straight or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 01:47 AM
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Why even have interest in women at all if you believe this? Your reductive assumption doesn’t apply to plenty of women out there. Most of the guys I’ve dated were well under 5’10, including my ex of 7 years who was 5’7. The last guy I dated previously was 5’3. Height isn’t a big factor to me at all. And being attracted and preferring to date good looking people literally applies to everyone, like so obviously that it should go without saying?? I didn’t include ugly dudes in the example, I was ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:16 PM
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Ahh, okay, good to know about the race thing. But you’re still SUPER oversimplifying and limiting yourself with that age range. There are still LOTS of women over 30 with no kids who would date someone a few years younger if that man had their life together and were looking for a relationship. Like… a lot a lot. I’m 32 and the last guy I dated for a bit (before the 36 year old I’m seeing now) was 27 and owned his own home. Age had nothing to do with why we weren’t compatible. Just saying, you ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 10:20 PM
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I think I know what site you’re talking about and that data is literally skewed to make you feel hopeless because it’s trying to get you to sign up for their dating service. They intentionally count EVERYONE, including people under 18 and over 70 in the pool so the percentage of eligible people around your age seems tiny by comparison. But also, you do have a very narrow age range. Idk how old you are but 5 years older or younger is a safe range for people who will have a lot in common with you.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:50 PM
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Because the likelihood of a man being good in bed is similar whether he’s good looking or average (while ugly dudes probably have a higher rate of being terrible). But it’s way more appealing to take your chances with the hot guy who might be good in bed vs. the average.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 06:03 PM
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Thanks for completely ignoring the last sentence that completely disagrees with you? Are you being dense on purpose?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 06:00 PM
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You’re intentionally downplaying how looks and attractiveness are inherently linked.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:59 PM
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Have you considered fucking other men? Because for a lot of women, sleeping with a man they don’t like is just as appealing to them as a dick in your ass is to you. You probably have better chances getting attention and sex from other lonely guys so what’s stopping you? A lack of desire for that at all?? What a coincidence, that’s how women feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:39 PM
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Aww, this is so sadly incorrect. The best way to practice sex is with a consistent partner. People like different things, women have different preferences. Improving means focusing on the partner and not just trying to but as fast as possible. Attractive men who just sleep around and have casual sex have little incentive to improve over just moving on to the next woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:35 PM
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“Ugly hot” is just womens way of saying a man is attractive VISUALLY in a non traditional way, combined with charisma and confidence. But there’s still a strong visual aspect to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:32 PM
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Omg… how sad that you actually think this. Attractiveness doesn’t guarantee enjoyable sex AT ALL. Hot guys can still have microdicks or horrible rhythm or boundary issues or ED. A nice face and body accounts for less than 10% of a great sexual experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:29 PM
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Imagine you were dying of thirst but had unlimited bottles to try, 98% of them filled with pure vodka. Other people would gladly drink it so how dare you complain that drinking it would literally dehydrate you further and make you puke. Value is subjective. Casual sex has a much, much lower value to women not because they’re taking it for granted, but because a majority of men offering it have no appeal whatsoever. They’re a shot of warm vodka in a hot desert.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:25 PM
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The only men who think that most men would get into a relationship with any woman that is nice and moderately attractive… are men who have trouble getting dates at all. The men who have options are just as picky and it’s nowhere near as easy for women to get into a relationship with them. I’m not just talking about tall, gym bro chads either. Sweet & sensitive nerds, chubby yet funny guys, shy and artsy men with a history of LTRs, they are all able to hold out for “chemistry” that is rare to fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:20 PM
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Not gonna bother clicking that, not gonna bother with ever talking to you again.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:54 PM
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I had a seven year long relationship where we lived together and split chores and finances. I consider that a healthy and equal balance. Where exactly did I ever say women just deserve to get & get & get? I’m advocating for an EQUAL balance where both adults live together and share equal responsibilities like chores. I’m literally just saying women don’t want to act like a parent to their partner and you’re misogynistic ass just sees “OH so women shouldn’t have to do anything outside of sex then…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:52 PM
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You are fucking insufferable. You have a disturbingly condescending way of going “No, you a woman, actually have no idea what YOU want or like” and it’s bullshit. I could not have less interest in engaging with someone like you. Have a blessed day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:48 PM
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Cooking is an exception, I consider food a love language. Everything else? No. If it’s not fun to do for ourselves, why the hell would women enjoy doing it for two adults? Cleaning after and organizing someone’s life like a parent when you’re supposed to be in an equal partnership is NOT desirable or just naturally in a woman’s nature. You’re a grown man and you SHOULD be able to do your own laundry, keep your own appointments, and clean up your own messes. Women don’t want to be your fucking mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:50 AM
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There is a wide gap between affectionate support and being taken for granted as a servant. No, most women do not express love by picking up after themselves or their partner. Outside of being a full time housewife with no kids, most women do not want to take the lion’s share of household chores and errands like doing dishes or scrubbing toilets. If they’re both contributing financially (including saving on daycare if it’s a stay at home mom) then BOTH partners should be contributing effort into …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 01:35 AM
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….And none of that negates the fact that it is beyond idiotic to say most women want to mother their male partners simply because single mothers exist. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:31 PM
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I don’t have this issue, I’m just pointing out the ridiculous logic in saying women want to coddle their male partners like children if they also happen to want actual children of their own. It’s just a dumb response all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 10:33 PM
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As a woman in my early 30s who looks great for my age, I am delighted to see that I’m not even on this guy’s radar. He sounds like a total douche.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 10:01 PM
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Bro, what an absurd way to completely miss the point. Women don’t want to act like a mom FOR THEIR FULL GROWN UP PARTNER. That has nothing to do with the biological drive to have kids, it’s more about the fact that nobody wants to act as a caretaker for an adult that’s entirely capable of doing their own laundry or dishes or other errands.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:55 PM
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I’m not wishing anything on you, I’m saying that keeping this toxic mindset that men do so much more for women in relationships will keep you single. If I had my wish, you’d wake up and stop blaming women for random stuff that only applies to some people (of either gender). You’d listen to other women about approaching and wooing women instead of other lonely red-pill dudes who think anger is the best solution to their misery. I’d wish you a sweet partner who proves that women are more than capa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:04 PM
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That’s such bullshit. You see a couple extreme examples on TikTok and think that represents the majority or even a significant fraction of women overall? Women expect romance and there are plenty of known ways for men to accomplish that. If men expect romance, that’s great, but that hasn’t been as traditionally defined for as long so don’t get pissy with me or random women when they have to ASK what kind of romance they expect. But if you’re really out here trying to say women never do sweet, ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:32 PM
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Yeah dude, it’s quite obvious you’re single and probably will be for a while with that shit attitude. Y’all really out here claiming that women never do anything sweet for their partners like cook for them or make them feel validated? Super loud proof that you have very little real relationship experience and are faaaaar from gaining more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 02:53 PM
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Yikes, bro, don’t direct your bitterness at me, I’m (gratefully) not your apathetic wife. I was legitimately asking but your only response is men shouldn’t have to ask, women should just know ?? Good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:43 AM
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“Your lack of curiosity is a filter” You thinking anyone should be curious about someone who can’t even be bothered to make a decent profile is beyond entitled. What the hell makes you so special that you think people would want to find out more when there are hundreds of other profiles that provided context and effort? I’m sorry but if you think people should be more curious about basic, bland, barely says anything profiles then you deserve whatever dating hardships you’re facing, that’s just w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 12:11 AM
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That’s so stupid. Putting nothing or low effort responses can be used against you just as much as saying something that might not resonate with some women. If you’re going to put nothing to avoid the risk of saying something dumb, you have absolutely no reason to expect anything but total silence on dating apps. Do men seriously waste their time thinking this is a better strategy?? P.S. It’s also quite easy to screw up and say something off putting even after attraction is established. I’ve gott…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 11:33 PM
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I’ve had the complete opposite experience as you. Bi woman here and I ALWAYS get ghosted after a couple of messages if I ever find them attractive. Girls that don’t really do it for me physically are more receptive but I don’t wanna waste my time on something where only one person is feeling attraction. My issue seems to be that I’m a lipstick lesbian type who’s only into other traditionally femme lipstick types so both of us want the other to take charge and plan a date. I usually end up steppi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 08:50 PM
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I can also pull up anecdotes about people you don’t know where it was the exact same situation with genders reversed. Where are you getting the info that men in general do far more romantic gestures for women than vice versa?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 08:46 PM
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What are romantic gestures that men would like to receive? Men don’t really ASK for romance, they ask for sex and moral support. Why are you getting mad that a majority of men aren’t getting what they never asked for?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 08:41 PM
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Literally who is saying that men have it easy in dating? (Besides the obvious traditionally attractive men who get success because they are rare) Men don’t have it easy at all which is why it’s infuriating and puzzling to see SO MANY LOW EFFORT ATTEMPTS FROM THEM. If I had a dime for every dating profile I saw where a guy didn’t fill out bio info (“I’m an open book, ask me anything” is the worst) or just had lazy, unsmiling selfies in his car or bathroom, I would literally have hundreds of dolla…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 08:36 PM
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You don’t understand female friendships then. If a friend was consistently cockblocking me out of jealousy and ignoring my signs of interest in a guy for her own agenda, I’d cut that friend off. OP is projecting a situation that is extremely rare as common when it really, really isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:51 AM
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Can’t argue with someone who is dead set on believing everyone is just hopelessly shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 09:41 PM
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So you’re saying everyone who claims to love someone that isn’t physically attractive is just full of shit? You know so much less about humans than you think, it’s sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 11:38 PM
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Have you never seen a decent looking women with a dead beat boyfriend? I assure, they are quite common. You’re kidding yourself if you think the only average dudes scoring pretty partners are also rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 05:03 PM
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Idk what to tell you, you can still be tall, rich, and very odd looking. Or you could be giving off vain vibes. Or you could be totally decent and just living in an area where people are flaky and don’t use dating apps as often. I’m sorry that you had that experience though, I think dating apps are getting progressively greedier and trying to incentivize people (especially men) to spend money to access profiles they should see automatically.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 05:00 PM
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I’m agreeing with you. Women are naturally more attractive than men so of course fat women would be naturally more attractive than fat men. Women also have a better biological reason for storing fat than men do. Boobs and asses are just fat deposits but you don’t see a similar adoration for fat pockets on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 04:56 PM
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Assuming that a woman just means superficial, surface level qualities when she states she’s looking for a good man is shitty and demeaning. You’re saying that you know her better than she knows herself and doesn’t actually value qualities like compatibility and loyalty over looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 04:51 PM
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….. what? This is the dumbest response I’ve gotten. You think there isn’t a fucking TON of average looking men with partners in poor or middle income areas??? I can’t reason with a point that awful
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 04:49 PM
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Okay, and there are dozens of women who ended up with fat guys so again, your anecdotal view of the world is not a good summary of all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 04:47 PM
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Your anecdotal experience does not summarize the wants and standards of all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 02:21 AM
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They want both. Some value personality over looks, or there wouldn’t be the common stereotype of gorgeous women with average looking dudes. All women are more complicated than you are giving them credit for dude. But keep thinking that looks are the only thing women don’t like about you and let me know how that goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 02:21 AM
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For hookups? Sure. For a relationship? You couldn’t be more off.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:19 AM
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I’m looking for a guy at least three inches taller than me (I’m 5’2), who makes around what I make financially (75k), 5 years younger or 10 years older (31) and has a decent face and similar sense of humor to me. I couldn’t care less about a muscular body, dick size (except if he was too big), jawlines or whatever else the incels here are convinced all women today are seeking. So a funny guy who is at least 5’5, making 75k and is kinda cute. That’s it. And that guy? He’s fucking RARE AS HELL. He…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:17 AM
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Women can have stupid opinions too. (See above)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:09 AM
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Easier =/= EASY. It’s hard for literally EVERYONE these days. Men are dying of thirst in a desert and women are dying of thirst in a saltwater sea. Complaining that you have it harder and having zero empathy for people having a slightly less rough time is pointless and bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:09 AM
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And according to you, women are just superficial and shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:05 AM
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Why do you even want to be with a woman if you think this little of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:04 AM
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Loyal, kind, thoughtful. Good with kids and/or animals. Cares about his friends and family. Oh wait, no, sorry, according to all the men here, I’m a woman so of course I only care about a big dick and six figure salary 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:03 AM
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No duh, there are waaaaay more women that men would find attractive and dateable than men that women find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:00 AM
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How many of these men are actively pursuing women they would deem ugly and beneath their league? Would you really be HAPPY with any woman that accepted you, even if you had zero sexual attraction to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:58 AM
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Nah, I’m just looking for someone cute and funny but most men are nowhere near cute and a lot of them think a sense of humor is just “liking the Office a lot”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:54 AM
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Men on dating apps reflect on themselves even less. I can’t tell you how many empty profiles I see of boring looking dudes with blurry selfies in their car or bathroom offering NOTHING interesting or of value besides their existence. That same guy will complain about his lack of matches and how shallow and vapid women are these days. A lot of women are just looking for a good guy that they are also attracted to and despite a lot of options of men in general, finding a good match that you also wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:53 AM
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You’re an idiot. You are too dense to understand even the most basic counterpoints and it’s entirely not worth engaging with someone at this level of petulant stupidity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:42 PM
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Again, the ONLY benefits you mentioned for the second option was rich and handsome. YOU failed to describe any aspects beyond shallow ones for this stupid example.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:41 PM
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…..handsome and rich were literally the only benefits you listed for Man B, what the fuck else am I supposed to focus on? You argue like an absolute knob, I don’t believe for a second that you’re doing well with women while presenting absurd hypotheticals like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:25 PM
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From the dismissive way you talk about women, you seem like the opposite of a catch. You also said elsewhere that you were broke and you’re complaining about how all women would choose the sucky option if he made enough money. Not hard to connect the dots, little guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:56 PM
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….No? You can not observe a hypothetical, it is a scenario you made up in your head. And you’ve made up the imaginary results to go along with this dumb imaginary scenario and declared the “results” as fact. Literally anyone can do that. Woman A: Loyal, sweet, hilarious and adores you but is ugly and obese and only gets paid in corn on the cob. Woman B: A total bitch with big ol titties who has an OnlyFans and calls you “Darren” because she can’t remember your real name. I can confidently say me…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:52 PM
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OP is horrid at forming a basic argument. They heard about a couple of books with a rich, douchey love interest and let it fester in their brain until they were convinced that women are a shallow, gold digging monolith. I’d pity them if they weren’t so obnoxiously bad at making a single, reasonable counterpoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:45 PM
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You picked one niche genre (that is famously ridiculed online for being cheesy and an abusive relationship) and decided that this reflects what every woman wants. You know not every woman read or liked Twilight, right? Please tell me you realize that half the world isn’t going around lusting after this pasty creeper fantasy just because he’s got money…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:42 PM
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Lo-fucking-l. Have you maybe heard of Hallmark Christmas movies? Where 90% of the time, the main love interest is a down to earth dude who runs a Christmas tree farm or bakery or something? No? Okay, how about Jim Halpert or Ned from Pushing Daisies being popular love interests with women? Who did Rose pick on the Titanic? The hot millionaire or the hot poor guy who was affectionate with her? You’re cherry picking your media to support your personal view on the matter when there are DOZENS of fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:39 PM
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I would say that you are immaturely trying to assign shallow stereotypes to most women to make yourself feel better about your current lack of dating options.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:31 PM
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Your personal experience of observing a small few other women’s lives and opinions from an outside perspective does not supersede the opinions from actual women. You could read as many statistics as you want and you’re still never going to know more about women than women. So arguing back by saying “Um, actually I have heard that you are all like this and I know better about what you want than you do” is just pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:29 PM
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Your personal experience of observing a small few other women’s lives and opinions from an outside perspective does not mean you suddenly understand most women and can declare what they find attractive. Especially when replying directly to a woman telling you that no, this ridiculous scenario OP made up doesn’t actually reflect the opinions of most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:27 PM
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It’s not women’s fault that now that they have options, they found that the vast majority of men they encounter are less appealing than ending up single. Plenty of obese, autistic, and ugly women out there too so if MEN are supposedly the ones mainly suffering from loneliness, why aren’t MEN lowering their standards to go after those women instead of complaining that women they’re actually attracted to should change their own standards? Seriously, what do men want from women when they keep bring…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:52 PM
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We’re just talking about sex fantasies here, not actually healthy relationships. Neither of those characters are idolized for their emotional intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 11:11 PM
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Yeah, data from one site isn’t a good reflection of the many ways porn can be consumed. I feel like women are less likely to have registered accounts and are more likely to get their media from hopping around different spots rather than a dedicated subscription to bangbrosXxX or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 04:15 PM
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Hmmm, you mean the stories about extremely attractive and wealthy men who both emphasize the importance of consent? Christian Grey was a kinky narcissist but he immediately dropped everything when he heard a safe word. The Italian guy kidnapped the main lady but makes a biiiiig point about how he’s not going to touch her until she wants him to. Neither of those stories feature rape by the romantic lead. The danger isn’t the sexy part, it’s being able to control it and turn off the situation when…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 04:11 PM
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