di3_b0ld Archive

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1	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. Many women are in the situation of not enjoying sex, sure. When you add the conditions that they love the partner and are attracted to them, those that still dont enjoy sex under those conditions are much less. Regardless, notice your blame going straight to “attentiveness” of the partner. Like 50% of the responsibility of one’s pleasure during sex is one’s own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/25 09:10 PM
1	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. Men wouldn’t want to have sex if they didn’t orgasm from penetration Like 10% of women ive had sex with, it hurt them too much for me to go vigorously enough to orgasm. Another 10% it didn’t feel good enough for me to orgasm. Another 5%, they came too early (and didnt want to continue) for me to orgasm. So roughly 25% of instances, I did not orgasm from penetrating the woman. Even if that number were 100%, I’d still have sex because it was pleasurable regardless. Many women don’t orgasm from pen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/25 09:07 PM
4	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. Yes, everyone knows this. But you said you don’t get pleasure from sex. Not getting pleasure and not getting orgasms are different things. It’s wild to not get pleasure from sex with someone you love and are attracted to. It’s ALSO wild to not get orgasms either. Just because you don’t get them from penetrative sex doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get them at all. Something is wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 04:56 PM
6	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. The wild part is that you don’t get pleasure from sex with someone you love and are physically attracted to. There’s a problem there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 04:19 PM
3	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. If this is directed at me, and not the general “you”, then please rest assured that my wife is well satisfied. I try to be quite attentive to what she responds positively and negatively to, and to her credit she is no wallflower — she will be vocal about what works and what doesn’t, and she will not settle for sex without orgasms. If your comment is instead directed at the general “you” (men in general), my response is that this is great advice, but men already do this with much more frequency t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 04:16 PM
10	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. That is my entire point. The woman’s thrust is not nearly as much as the man’s movement. First of all, you are still describing what’s typical without realizing that I’m making an injunctive inquiry here. In other words: yes, we agree that men do most of the moment. The question is does it necessarily have to be that way? My response is: No. Women could conceivably offer thrusts, they could grind their hips, they could squeeze their walls, etc. They could conceivably offer just as much physical …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 04:09 PM
18	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. I would limit the slack to “the first time” only in scenarios where the woman has communicated (or clearly indicated) her sexual needs and preferences after the first time. Like I said, many women don’t even know what gets them off, and they’ve had their organs their entire life. A man in that case could get slack even after the 10th time, as far as I’m concerned. Other women are too uptight or too old-fashioned or too entitled to even deign to specify what pleases them — even when they know. Th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 03:47 PM
13	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. He already feel pleasure This is the assumption underlying all women’s lack of effort — the idea that a man automatically feels pleasure from sex. This is not strictly true, and it’s a step-out-of-the-matrix moment for me to realize that this is just assumed by women. It actually takes some effort and directedness for a man to generate pleasure for himself from thrusts, which can be heightened by a woman’s efforts (grinding, squeezing, “thrusting back”, etc). Additionally, if a woman communicate…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 03:36 PM
9	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. If this is someone you love, and are attracted to, then the idea that you “only do it for his pleasure” is pretty wild to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 03:05 PM
32	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. But there’s also no doubt that it’s generally more difficult for women to experience pleasure during sex, just biologically This is in some regards an argument for why men should be cut more slack. There are lots of women who’ve never even made themselves orgasm. Yet the expectation is that if a guy doesn’t make it happen for them he’s “bad in bed”. By contrast, its relatively easy for most men to orgasm on their own, but for many men its harder to orgasm with a female partner than alone, becaus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 08:25 AM
18	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. “The man does like 70-80% of the movement in most common sex positions” Sure, but you realize this is OP’s point, right? There’s no reason why this has to be true. Even in the most “vanilla” position, Missionary, the woman could also offer a thrust with every thrust the man delivers, if she were so inclined (mind-blowing concept, I know /s). The fact that this is so uncommon that it didn’t even occur to you is pure validation of OP’s post.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 08:19 AM
1	I feel like a rapist in my relationship Nothing she described seems like he has an “issue”. It seems like you’re problematizing experiences that are within the natural, normal range of experiences. It’s simply the case that they aren’t always on the same page because they aren’t in a rhythm that works for both of them. They simply need to have a chat about what such a rhythm would be.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/12/24 01:50 PM
15	Making women feel safe around you is apparently the biggest factor in attraction? You guys are missing it… the top comment didnt say the dude should be safe, it said the dude should make her feel safe. That might mean someone who is protective; someone who is responsible; someone who is considerate, resourceful, and attentive; someone who nobody fucks with; or anything in-between. Making her feel safe doesn’t mean you are boring and safe… she might not even feel safe under those conditions because you may not come across as someone who can handle things. Rather, it means that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 06:36 AM
1	Women are dishonest about what they are attracted to in men Its not a dogwhistle, but you’re right that there is also a racial hierarchy to preference that also varies by gender. So as a WM a lot of women will give you a premium, but being tall still matters too (because a taller WM would do comparatively better than you, all else held equal, for instance).	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/22 05:32 PM
–	College men are increasingly shifting right, while college women are shifting left. Why do you think that is? It’s not Sociology specifically, but (on the topic of gender) Gender Studies. There is a lot of (well regarded) sociological research that forms conclusions which are not necessarily aligned with the popular narratives on Race/Gender/Class. But disciplines and courses like Gender Studies seem to have much more consensus on who in society is victimized, who is an “oppressor”, and that such a dynamic even exists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/22 10:59 PM