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I've wondered how much is russian troll farms, albeit in the context of comments
/r/EverydayMisandry22/07/26 07:44 PM
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For those of us who have to squint and tilt our heads to the left to grasp shakespeare?
/r/EverydayMisandry18/07/26 08:56 AM
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All I can tell from the comments is that they are the audience for intrusive paparazzi stuff that has wrecked so many people's lives. Those people, right there, are part of the system that has historically propped up the gutter press.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/07/26 08:57 AM
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Better than mine, nice!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/07/26 07:01 AM
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It is entirely silly. To do my best impression of Epicurus: If society is patriarchal, why do some men have no value? If some men have no value, what distinguishes men who do? If value comes from money, then why not call it capitalism? If women can have capital, then is it really patriarchy? Maybe it needs a little work, but the obvious answer is and always has been the centrality of class in determining outcomes. Women who are working class have wildly differing outcomes (and interests) to midd…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/26 07:53 PM
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The method is one that could backfire pretty horribly: selecting only same sex providers. I suspect if the same method were applied a hell of a lot of professional women would very quickly be out of work. In the UK at least, this is largely illegal, except for "intimate care", with caveats. People truly are wild. I feel sorry for the kid's dad and wonder if he could sue for alienation.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/26 07:38 PM
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Eventually she might grasp class. Depends on whether it not spite or insight wins out in her.
/r/EverydayMisandry14/07/26 07:37 PM
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Interesting that she mentions working in a clinic. I assume she's seen to much, possibly bolstered by people saying things they feel less likely to be judged for..
/r/EverydayMisandry10/07/26 06:01 PM
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Innocent until proven guilty etc.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/07/26 07:15 AM
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I love the study about how women think men won't commit to relationships which was drawn from a sample of 100 undergraduates on a US college campus. I've seen that a few times and it is terribly funny.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/26 12:31 AM
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It fits with stats about divorce following job losses etc. I think realistically there needs to be more of a conversation about women supporting men the way that men support women (I say this having paid for the livings of two ex partners while they completed degrees). Men just don't get this support. Probably in a minority on this one, but celibacy and monogamy are kind of at odds. She doesn't fuck him for two years, but I'd bet he could get laid if he wanted to. Nobody signs up for celibacy in…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/26 02:07 PM
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Once he's completely given up on seeing friends (because those people won't like his male friends either) she can slowly start regulating his social life and then make a virtue of her isolation tactics by calling it man keeping.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/07/26 07:58 AM
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It is fairly complex and multifaceted, also pretty contested. A few of the general ideas are: Teacher bias, as per teacher assessed grades during covid School behavioural policies favour girls due to their (innate) ability to self regulate better from an earlier age Boys aren't encouraged to read as much as girls and fiction at most ages isn't for them Fatherlessness and lack of male role models harms boys disproportionately compared to girls Boys game more than girls and this displaces better a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/06/26 12:59 PM
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Ah yes. Dworkin also claimed that all sex was rape (perpetrated by men)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/06/26 07:06 AM
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TIL, noted.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/06/26 07:05 AM
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I should add, maybe a little more saliently (as my examples were people whose key activities were from the 1970s onwards) that Alexandra Kollontai is a great example of a deeply benign early feminist. Her views on "housewifery" are very powerful tools for understanding some of the "have your cake and eat it" feminist strands of thought today. Key bit is she called housewives "labour deserters" and advocated that women work.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/06/26 10:23 PM
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The two comparators I go to are these: Sally Gearhart, quite possibly the origin of the term "feminazi", wrote a book called The Future Is Female which advocated reducing the world population of men to around 10%, with their lives earmarked for breeding and labour. I've only read summaries, but this book is essentially women-as-master-race. There's a flip-the-script kind of feminism. It also relies upon sexual slavery for men, nonmonogamy and political lesbianism for women. Meanwhile, the work o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/06/26 10:20 PM
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Really bizarre to not make it about all victims. I like most UN bodies and the idea of international bodies born out of cooperation is something I believe in deeply, but this is tone deaf in the extreme.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/06/26 10:04 PM
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Get a second job, lol. Men are just labour. Women who see us that way are monsters. As bad as bosses.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/06/26 01:22 PM
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Fun fact, there is very little relationship between crime and the fear of crime. Crime rates have fallen pretty dramatically over a period of decades, fear of crime has risen. Basic intro: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fear_of_crime This is essentially a cultural weapon to push an agenda. There's still lots to do to help victims of crime, but the idea that women aren't perpetrators is crazy: they're not seen that way because they get away with it, and they get away with it because they aren't se…
/r/EverydayMisandry25/06/26 01:55 AM
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I read it as a complaint that women have to work at all, like marriage should be a meal ticket. The "feminism" of housewives if ever there was one.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/06/26 01:06 AM
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Unclear on the terms you've used, but the key word as I understand it is "gatekeeping".
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/26 06:37 PM
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Culture around paternity is improving too, men in the UK used to expect to have their kids every other weekend in the most common cases. Much more flexibility has happened and we are far closer to equality, although still short of it. Women's role as gatekeepers of children is, with some luck, coming to an end.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/26 07:31 AM
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All fine points which were lost on the Karen feminists, alas.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/26 07:27 AM
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Yep, they're everywhere. I remember a particularly disappointing meeting one day where a motion I liked didn't pass, and I asked a friend "why the fuck did that happen?" and I will never forget his words: "diagnosissplendid, just remember that you don't have to be bright to be in politics" It seems churlish, but fighting the dumbs really is important too. We don't get a good society by letting them win.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/26 11:26 PM
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The left, canonically speaking, is always working class friendly. It is just that there isn't very much of it remaining. Not a very productive nitpick, but I don't want to cede that ground or it'll be impossible to talk about economic leftism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/26 07:49 PM
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It is enormously silly stuff, yeah. I was in Labour in the UK, ran my branch for a bit, etc. A guy in the constituency party was making a point about paternity leave and how it should be extended so that men could spend more time with their kids and support their partners. It was eloquent and he cited evidence from other countries, and personally I did a little whoop as I joined the applause. The next speaker was a middle aged woman who I knew to be "difficult" by reputation whose opinion on pat…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/26 07:37 PM
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Not sure I agree, I think when I've expressed anger in relationships it has broadly not harmed things, but sadness and vulnerability have produced notable changes in partner behaviour to the point where I've really questioned what women want when they express a desire for emotional openness. (I'm moderately sure that people want a specific kind of openness which chiefly serves their own interests and not the other person's)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/26 07:27 PM
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Seems spot on. The absence of any real class politics has been great for middle class women and has allowed them to use everyone else as a punching bag or fig leaf. Alexdra Kollontai, an early Bolshevik in the 1920s, wrote tracts condemning women who were housewives and sex workers for opting out of proletarian life and recreating bourgeois ideas of the family etc. East Germany stigmatised housewives in a similar way and got huge numbers of women into work and education. tl;dr class politics wor…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/06/26 07:29 AM
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Probably my first foray into disagreement on this sub, but those guys are creeps and I'm not sure there's a direct equivalent, which some other comments are suggesting. The bit that makes it misandry is the generalisation, imagine assuming all people of a particular ethnic background perpetrate crimes because of a minority.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/06/26 07:21 AM
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This is an interesting take. I've always seen this as a trap: anger is both prohibited and the only emotion which doesn't emasculate us in other people's eyes.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/26 07:17 AM
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Misandry slop. I immediately think of the 90%+ employment rates amongst fathers in the UK. IIRC single men are around 80%, single women slightly below them, and mothers way below them. Men are indispensable to the economy, and there is an enormous amount of research saying our presence in families hugely improves them too. The left wing critique here should be that women are struggling with the expectation that they ought to be equals, and often find doubling down on femininity (and gatekeeping …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/06/26 04:50 AM
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I've never heard of the author or read the book, but it put me in mind of this post about FtM experiences: https://kottke.org/25/05/on-male-social-isolation That itself is part of a whole genre of stuff like this: There’s a huge sense of social isolation that comes with being perceived as male, because now people are subconsciously treating me as a potential predator. I find it hard to believe that the trauma of an 18 month experiment was what led her to suicide, given the history of psychiatric…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/06/26 04:12 AM
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It'd also be nice if Bert and Ernie could just be friends.
/r/EverydayMisandry10/06/26 08:56 PM
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Weird way to present the numbers. "Atoxic" and "low toxic" alone get to over 50% My guess is the methodology is as shit as the presentation
/r/EverydayMisandry09/06/26 07:14 AM
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I think you nailed it: traditional gender roles are misandrist as well of misogynistic. The de-emphasis on people making their own choices makes it so. It isn't exactly a comfortable thing to have your life devalued, anyway. War is never a good idea, for instance. Conscription lotteries are particularly horrifying. But how I feel hearing about it is numb. It doesn't bother me because it is ever present. It is like asking if I'm bothered by trees because they cause hayfever. It is hard to imagine…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/06/26 04:34 AM
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the left has never cared much about men's issues Really? Times were that the left was dominated by men, during times when men were the main participants in the workforce. The left has tackled housing, wages, working conditions, the creation of weekends, the 40 hour working week, healthcare, etc, all during times when the majority of organised labour and politics were men. Obviously that varies by country, but a lot has been achieved and left wing men were often key to it. What is really happenin…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/06/26 03:03 AM
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Some publications and campaigners often seem to take the view that when women kill, they were always "driven" to it. This is distasteful to say the least, especially relating to these numbers.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/06/26 03:53 PM
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Women absolutely do this, often at extraordinary length. Women who are against us doing this simply want us to be accessories, not people. We are being asked to be as convenient as a handbag Chihuahua.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/06/26 06:05 AM
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Not a double standard. There's always been a minor strand in women's discourse (including but not limited to some feminisms) which has hated men. In the age of social media, thriving as it does on outrage, the angriest takes float to the top. Dehumanising people is something I hope everyone will eventually recognise as being pretty repugnant.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/05/26 04:21 PM
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Statistical illiteracy as a precipitant of actual mental illness was never on my bingo card. Truly, there are more things in heaven and earth than exist in my philosophy.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/05/26 09:27 PM
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Sometimes this stuff is so specific I wonder if they're actually looking for a sex worker
/r/EverydayMisandry29/05/26 10:36 PM
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Yeah fair
/r/EverydayMisandry29/05/26 02:45 PM
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People do starve themselves to look pretty. But.. that's capitalism selling beauty ideals, and women in industry being complicit in producing those same ideals. Also in propagating them by living up to them.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/05/26 06:41 AM
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I've always found being checked out to be one of life's great pleasures. Not precisely on topic, but nevertheless.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/05/26 05:16 AM
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Poor kid. Someone should invite him here.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/05/26 06:13 PM
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To be fair, men also deal with all those things.. indirectly
/r/EverydayMisandry27/05/26 04:32 PM
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I'd quite like a zero gift relationship. As ever, the nature of relationships is compromise (someone pouts until they get their way: leftie edition of this is that the same person talks about the ills of overconsumption)
/r/EverydayMisandry25/05/26 08:16 AM
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Came here to say this. Sharks are unfairly maligned.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/05/26 10:22 PM
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Pretty certain this happened to me when I was pitching articles to newspapers. What's more, the (female) section editor I was trying to get in with penned some conspicuously similar articles less than a month after most of my pitches.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/05/26 03:08 AM
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Techie in the UK here, I can walk most interviews pretty well, I'm decent at the STAR framework, experienced, a reasonably good speaker etc, but if there's a middle class woman on the panel I won't be listened to or hired. I suspect they can smell the working class roots and the ND on me. Middle class men on the other hand just do what they always did, which is largely think "this is a guy I can do business with." Perversely, it has made me really pretty glad to be in a male dominated industry.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/05/26 03:06 AM
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Yeah, somebody needs to tell the girlies that the diagnostic criteria changed radically in 2013 and it took a long time for things to filter through. (Source: diagnosed ADHD, I continue to avoid autism assessment)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/05/26 07:47 PM
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This kind of thing needs saying, so thank you. Masking is either a privilege (because normies are bloodhounds for difference and they hate it) or a sign that whatever it is, it isn't autism. Autism is a set of behaviours and ways of thinking or it isn't anything at all.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/05/26 07:45 PM
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Hilarious idea
/r/EverydayMisandry16/05/26 03:05 PM
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Yeah, many women would do well to learn that their sexual dysfunction is not actually men's fault, especially when people are attentive. Litmus test here is whether someone has a healthy solo sex life (which seems rare)
/r/EverydayMisandry16/05/26 03:05 PM
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Worth examining whether or not that's true, and if it is then hey, let's examine the structural reasons New litmus test based on the above: statements which judge fatalistically are not ideological, they're just bitter. Moral judgement without context or a proposed remedy might be the hallmark of misandry.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/05/26 01:01 PM
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I'm going to come back to this and read in more detail, but two things: Workers rights as men's rights is basically correct in the old days. Interesting that it ended up benefiting women Social/public housing advanced everyone's rights and continues to do so: bigger building programmes would house a lot of men if they were sustained. (Yes, I know women are given priority for housing in many places, but nevertheless)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/05/26 05:59 AM
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At least they had a pop at the Bible. (Imagine a drop of water in the desert)
/r/EverydayMisandry29/04/26 09:10 PM
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"Not like the others, I'm one of the good ones" type sentiments are internalised stigma, where people either believe or are afraid to challenge the belief that the group they're in is bad. Lots of examples of this exist: cyclists are a good example. The classic Chris Rock skit from the 00s where he separates black people into good and bad (with associated racist terminology) is a good example too. The thing I find striking here is that most of these writers are surprised to find that masculinity…
/r/EverydayMisandry25/04/26 06:51 AM
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"You are innately so much better than me, grovel grovel"
/r/EverydayMisandry24/04/26 05:35 AM
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The Sun is an absolutely rubbish newspaper and despite this playing to fears we may have, let's not forget that tabloids, especially Rupert Murdoch's tabloids, make shit up. Male advocate, yes, but also left wing.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/03/26 02:50 PM
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Glorious. I haven't seen anything like this before and it gives me a lot of hope.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/03/26 09:35 PM
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It hasn't been a newspaper of record for decades. I don't care about what the Guardian would report about as that doesn't diminish the point: the telegraph is a rag.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/12/25 01:59 AM
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Protip: if you're a left wing male advocate, maybe don't take your information from the Torygraph.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/25 04:22 PM
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This was the 19th century and we are talking about the catalyst of widespread trade unionism in the UK. It was completely normal for working class people to have a single income (until their kids were of age to work) and for them to be in terrible poverty. Learn a bit of history.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/11/25 02:55 AM
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Because men are primary seen as providers and are discouraged from being feeling beings because that undermines the providing role. Without men - especially fathers - capitalism falls apart, because nobody works harder than somebody who knows they're the difference between a good life for their kids and a bad one. The employment rate for fathers in the UK is usually between 90 and 95 percent - much higher than single men and women, higher than mothers, higher than anyone. We are the elbow that g…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/25 12:25 AM
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Can confirm, have had my ADHD (untreated until my mid thirties) used as a stick to beat me with. Also have another illness (ulcerative colitis) and when I'm ill it has previously been manic flu (actually 2 years of hell) plus weaponised incompetence. Funnily enough she was diagnosed as autistic and used "unmasking" to justify her often appalling behaviour.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/11/25 06:22 PM
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It is just a part of a mosaic. The good ones are picking their battles and have decided the thing that holds them back the most is gender issues, instead of say, class issues. We're doing the same here.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/11/25 12:23 AM
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It isn't sexist, really: it denotes advocacy of and by women on their own behalfs. Historically, men gave very little support. There has always been a split as to whether to aim for advantage or equality. It pays to remember women are just people and that some of them are bad. Offering symmetry with the worst behaviour of advantage feminists is a dark path. Seek peers, not enemies.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/25 01:46 PM
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For me it was a commitment to equality meeting the fairly harsh reality of "feminists" who don't believe in equal parental leave. Then I started noticing things like social housing policies creatively using the term "single" for fathers who don't have sole or majority custody of their kids etc. An abusive partner, and a friend whose wife threatened him with a knife (she got the kids). Tea and AWDTSG groups didn't help. At this point it largely feels like there has to be robust advocacy for men t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/25 08:23 AM
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It is bonkers in the extreme that this is being downvoted. I think it is worth considering that very much the wrong crowd is finding this sub and that the banhammer needs wielding with extreme prejudice. (If you're interested in whether or not my contributions are left wing, please do check my post history: I try to focus on a mix of topical and neglected men's issues)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/10/25 08:03 AM
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I'm in the UK, so a little spoiled, but my take: vasectomies are already available on the NHS, and sperm freezing should be too. Move decisions about reproduction from the bedroom to the doctor's office for anyone who wants to do it that way. Probably the best option with existing tech and facilities.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/09/25 09:03 PM
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Nice try at framing the argument, here's a re-frame though: Men and women should work together and be educated together in equitable environments where their prospects are dictated by their merits and their efforts. They should raise children together as partners if they choose to have them. Their lives should be basically interchangeable except for the few differences created by their bodies, where a decently holistic view is taken on the variety of bodies (including disabled ones) that men and…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/09/25 06:43 AM
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Nice post. Prison abolition for women but not men is probably not going to happen here and I suspect there'd be human rights and equalities issues if so. There's an element of reading between the lines at play too: she was at MoJ while the overcrowding crisis was at its peak and seems to be being rewarded for handling it. The only way anyone can handle that is to release people early, and change sentencing guidelines to divert people away from prison in the first place. This is part of the new s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/09/25 09:04 AM
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The solution isn't to make women do it instead, it is prevent wars at all. Peacebuilding is the relevant field of study. I suppose in lieu of that, national service for everyone isn't terrible, but even a century ago when men spoke to one another about "the war to end all wars", what they referred to at the time was pacifism. Many wars are working class conscripts killing each other. Stopping that is the key bit for the left. Edit: also key is providing safe harbour to deserters.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/08/25 09:23 AM
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Broadly speaking people don't: I'm also semi-regular here and can see some of the posts are, as might be expected, more about bitterness than politics. There's the same divide feminism itself has, between people who are angry at another group of people, and people who are actually interested in the cause. Generally speaking I think the bitter ones (among feminists was well as whatever "ist" we are) are somewhat inevitable. Really the question is directed too broadly: if you see anyone denying th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/08/25 09:20 AM
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I hope you ditched that therapist and fast. Also the wife. Solidarity to you. PS, I don't think minimising it by saying slightly is necessary - if she crossed the line, she crossed the line.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 02:42 PM
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Honestly had no idea: I assumed I wasn't the audience, but that's bonkers. Do you know of any models that describe abuse in a way which isn't gendered in this way?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 05:41 AM
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The double standard is the problem: men doing it are abusers, women doing it are doing "emotional labour" because men are inadequate. Nobody writing for a newspaper would talk about jealous boyfriends having a hard time arranging their partner's social life, or construe the partner as longsuffering and caring.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 05:31 AM
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Creating "no win" scenarios for people and then berating them for not winning is abuse and manipulation.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 05:27 AM
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Honestly I really do think men's smaller social circles are partly attributable to women. I've very rarely been with anyone who didn't respond to me socialising without them by pouting. I think it is an endemic isolation tactic that women would (rightly) question if the shoe is on the other foot. If mankeeping is real at all, it is co-created by partners. It might also be a consequence of employment being brutal too. The person who coined the term, crucially, didn't use it as a slur.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 05:20 AM
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To answer what I realise is a rhetorical question: money, power, and status. I look at the number of women (in the UK) who are mature students (over 60%: 100,000 per year more) and I see a lot of people who are probably having their bills paid by someone who wants to be a "supportive partner" who will never receive any support themselves. I've been that partner. They never help us climb the ladder.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 05:16 AM
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Love languages emphasise service too (acts of) in a way I find pretty gross.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 05:11 AM
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Same. Thought the idea of men suffering abuse was about as likely as a dog with a newspaper, and then I was, figuratively speaking, a dog with a newspaper. We should all speak about this more often.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 05:09 AM
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That experience sounds absolutely terrible, and horribly familiar: I have a friend whose wife used to threaten to kill herself, the kids, and him. She would park the car across the drive to stop him from leaving. The fact that she did this with a knife in her hand made no difference to the divorce settlement. She got the kids and the house. He lived in the basement until he could find somewhere else to live and there was no shelter or any assumption that he and the kids needed one. Call it mothe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 05:07 AM
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Men who are too exhausted from the labour of paying for their households' existence to do anything. Or who just don't buy contemporary norms around obligate gift giving. I've experienced this. It is funny in a way because it started as a term for describing the always-happy behaviours required of retail workers and the like. It was appropriated to describe something that happens in the home but was, as I understand it, about what happens in the workplace.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 05:00 AM
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Yes, that annoys me, too. I'd like to read more into the subject and see if any other tools exist: I'm new to approaching things with tools.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 04:57 AM
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That's domestic violence, so, yes.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 04:55 AM
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We should call it what it is: men are seen as perpetrators and never victims. That's the basis of stigmatising our identity and actually emboldens women whose behaviour is abusive. Not all of us have to speak - I know it can be traumatic - but it is important that some of us do.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 04:55 AM
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Can you explain? I don't know the criticisms
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/25 11:10 PM
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This is terrible and I'm so sorry it happened to you. You're still talking about it like it was your fault when you say you weren't emotionally intelligent enough to understand. We don't get prepared to recognise this kind of behaviour in life and working it out alone is hard. Victims don't need to be perfect, either. I think you're right about underreporting of these things. We don't expect to be believed, victimhood is the cultural property of women, and to an we are taught that women are comp…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/25 09:19 AM
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Belittling partners is an element of control, though. Contemporary discourse here seems to lend itself to saying "you're just like the others [namely trash]" - I've had this discourse turned upon me in the home, being compared to a partner's disappointing ex and father. It is behaviour most people respond to with fawning: if I seek approval even harder then that will solve the problems in the relationship. But yeah, you're right, emotional labour is used much the same. It is a way of normalising…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/25 09:07 AM
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Honestly, I've read more about feminism. My leftwing politics are a little old school and chiefly focused on economics and equality: I can make a decent argument for economic democracy, but the personal has yet to become political, at least in my reading. Mostly I go off experience: the way the law gives men a pay cut for paternity leave (I'm in the UK) while women get full pay and time off, the double standards around relationships, the tilt towards women in education, etc. The extent of my rea…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/25 03:45 AM
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From my reading of your comment, critical consciousness doesn't mean what you've suggested you think it does. It is more an awareness of the forces acting on you rather than criticism-as-saying-that-is-bad. The subject of the criticism matters too: directing it inwards is internalising stigma, a critical outlook is usually about another. Also, stay strong, look after yourself, and be kind. You seem to need to hear that advice - you deserve to be happy.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/08/25 11:03 PM
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Writing from the UK: libel is incredibly, incredibly expensive to pursue in our courts. It probably is elsewhere, too. The traditional answer for lefties where access to something is expensive is collective action. A few quid a month to an organisation that can defend you is probably a good idea. We could have meetings and address loneliness too. Call it MAD: Men Against Defamation. Anyone think this is worth pursuing? The vit that interests me the most in UK is that the rules are for journalist…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/07/25 11:19 PM
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My experience (and that of my cohort of fathers in their 30s and 40s) is that women of youngish kids who are exiting the most intense period of parenthood often opt to go to do higher education rather than going back to paid employment. Given that women get defaulted to as the likeliest full time or majority time carer because of unbalanced paternity/maternity leave in most countries, they already have a status quo at home of a single income, however hard it might be for their partner. The (almo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/25 09:48 AM
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Had no idea this was a thing. I'll write to my MP. Thanks for posting
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/06/25 04:38 AM
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I think they're two sides of the same coin really. Some, like the author of that piece, will have simply given up. The ones who complain the most will have some hope that equality can be (subjectively) attained at home. Neither necessarily grasps the relationship between being the default earner and doing less visible work in the household, but I'd credit the latter group with being more likely to see the dynamic that recreates inequality at home.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 11:32 AM
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On the bright side, look who is saying it: the Spectator's writers are always politicians who hate democracy, rich people who hate poor people, men who hate women, and - because by their own standards they're egalitarians now - women who hate men. It is a gross view, but where it is coming from should be a comfort to us. If you see it in the Guardian, that's when it is time to worry. I will say as an aside that when I heard this view in the Labour party, the person who uttered it was sympathetic…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/06/25 07:25 AM
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