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1	How are celebrities like Zac Efron, Taylor Swift, etc still single and not married in their 30s? Why is it bullshit for women to prioritise their career? We live in the world and we need money to survive, just like men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/23 03:45 PM
2	How are celebrities like Zac Efron, Taylor Swift, etc still single and not married in their 30s? The majority of men and women might date these people, but to say they would alwo marry them seems a bit of a strange way to look at long term relationships. Just because someone is attractive and rich doesn't mean they're marriage material. You'd still have to be compatible with regards to interests, values, sexual preferences, lifestyle etc. Sure, in theory I'd like to marry someone as handsome as Zac Efron, but he is someone who spends a lot of time on working out and probably has a very dema…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/23 01:46 PM
10	Single mothers by choice is extremely selfish and should be illegal It's not punishable by law to not acknowledge your biological child. It is punishable by law to sexually assault someone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/23 04:35 PM
14	Single mothers by choice is extremely selfish and should be illegal It's not illegal. As long as the women doesn't force the father to acknowledge the child he can be legally "not the father" (at least in my country). My father never acknowledged me and so he never had to pay child support or have any legal obligations towards me. This idea that children are better off with a mother and a father in their lives is nice in theory, but in reality there are many cases in which it doesn't apply. I love my dad, and he'll always be my father. I saw him every weekend as…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/23 04:13 PM
13	Single mothers by choice is extremely selfish and should be illegal If you prohibit sperm donation for single women, they'll just have a ONS and that's riskier than donation, with regards to the whole "accidental inbreeding", unknown genetic health risks, etc. You're arguing about a tiny, tiny percentage of women. Barely anyone wants to start a family without a partner, because of the financial and social factors that come into play. If you really cared about children growing up with one parent you'd argue for better financial support for these single parents, a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/23 04:01 PM
–	Do older woman really think older men date younger woman cause they are easier? When I was a teenager I fell in love with crusty old teachers all the time (I even was infatuated with a 50yo teacher). If one of them had made a move, I'd probably feel flattered, thinking that he found me "mature" and "wise for my age" and whatever bs teen girls like to believe. No offense to my younger self, but I really was naive. Lots of teens / young adult women are. I had a friend who slept with multiple men who were 30+. There were several girls in my high school class who had older "boy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/23 06:29 PM
1	Men overly fixated on women's sex lives have other issues Not to forget older people lived through the AIDS crisis and are more likely to associate bi men with an increased risk. Whereas young people grew up knowing PreP is a thing and that HIV isn't the death sentence it used to be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 05:37 AM
3	Men are not a monolith, women are not a monolith. What’s the value in engaging in absolutism? I am a licensed psychologist. So you don't have to explain how psychology works. I've seen plenty of men, women and couples over the years, and the generalisations that are being made on this subreddit are the most ridiculous, pick-and-choose, sexist bullshit I've ever seen in my life, that do not fit one bit with reality or with existing psychological theories. Even if interesting psychological theory is used it's usually very much distorted just to fit the person's narrative that they already …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/23 06:03 AM
1	Men are not a monolith, women are not a monolith. What’s the value in engaging in absolutism? Agreed. OP must not be paying attention if they think the sweeping generalisations come from both sides. RP guys here talk about how "all women want a tall man, someone with status, want to ride the cock carousel, will hit the wall" etc. Just the most generalising and demeaning way to talk about women. Women on here, and some men who are "blue pill" (hate that term but it's what's used around here) mostly try to explain to the red pill guys why they are wrong, and that not all men and women are …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 10:14 PM
10	Lack of modesty is not a good look on modern women As a woman I don't care one bit about "modesty" as some sort of signifier of morals. I don't think someone's worth is dependent on the clothes they wear or how much / how little skin they show. However, I agree with you that it's difficult these days to find outfits that are trendy and still somewhat covered up. When I go to work I have to look casual but presentable, so I want a dress that has no cutouts, isn't too tight, doesn't have a weird neckline that shows your bra straps, etc. I dont min…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/23 06:18 PM
–	Mental Health in America. Actually that's a misconception. You don't get more suicidal thoughts on antidepressants. In the first few weeks while you're building up to the right dosage you might still feel depressed, but you become less passive. This is the "danger zone" in which there's an increased risk of a suicide attempt. Because your thoughts are just as negative, but you become more active so you're more likely to act upon your suicidal thoughts. Anyway, a professional will talk to you about these risks and help yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/23 06:01 PM
1	Do men like plus size women? I feel like you are misinterpreting me on purpose. Note that nowhere did I say that ALL men nor a majority of men are attracted to fat women. I was only talking about the group of men who choose to sleep with fat women (probably a minority, but that's not relevant to the point I was trying to make). These men are clearly sexually attracted to them, otherwise they wouldn't sleep with them. So when we are ONLY talking about the group of men who sleep with fat women (in other words: are sexually at…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/23 10:17 AM
0	Do men like plus size women? Most men don't consciously think "does this women have good genetics to pass on to potential offspring?" when they start a relationship. From a (evolutionary) biological perspective, that's what the sexual attraction is for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/23 05:06 PM
2	Do men like plus size women? Men are not a monolith. Fat women are not a monolith. There are men who find fat women attractive, there are men who don't. There are men who have a preference for fatter women over thinner women. There are men who have a preference for thinner women over fatter women. And there are men who would never ever date a fat woman. And as I said, fat women aren't a monolith. Some are more attractive than others, depending on how pretty their face is, the distribution of fat, etc. So it depends on the m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/23 11:00 AM
6	Do men like plus size women? People here are saying "men will fuck anything" like they just used your friend because they thought her being a fat lady made her "easier" or something. Maybe some of them were, I don't know, but I honestly think a lot of men who date fat women are genuinely attracted to them and would have no problem having a relationship with them if our society wasn't so fatphobic. I think a lot of these men are scared of being judged by their friends and family and that's why they always keep these relation…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/23 10:54 AM
–	CMV: Men today have a massive victim mentality, and it is holding them back from finding success. I disagree. I think a lot of men on PPD have a victim mentality, but most men I know in real life don't. I think this sub just attracts men who have difficulty reaching certain goals in life which they tend to blame on factors outside themselves, externalising blame on women, society etc. Most men I know in real life have their life (relatively) in order and they don't have a victim mentality at all. I do agree that men who have a victim mentality like the men on this sub let that mentality hold…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/23 06:07 PM
1	Women are just as visual as men. It's just that most men don't elicit this type of attraction Well now I feel old.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/23 06:46 AM
2	Women are just as visual as men. It's just that most men don't elicit this type of attraction Well now I feel old.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/23 06:41 AM
6	CMV: Men here don't understand that the age gap discourse is not mainly about the age gap itself, it is about men fetishizing women fresh out of high school Have we normalised this though? As a 31-yo woman it makes me sad to think that every day there are 18-yo women who start doing sex work. They're still young and they should be discovering their sexuality in a positive way. Doing sex work generally doesn't help with that, because it teaches women their body is a commodity in stead of something they can enjoy together with a partner or on their own. I definitely support people's right to do sex work without social stigma or risk of physical harm, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/23 05:49 PM
22	Women are just as visual as men. It's just that most men don't elicit this type of attraction As a woman I really like it when a man dresses in an interesting way. A guy wearing a cool vintage jumper or shirt can really turn my head, or if he has interesting hair (like a big head of curly hair or some other haircut that stands out). I think men in general could do a bit more "peacocking" to attract attention. At the same time I do think attraction is not as visual for me and for a lot of women as it is for most men (although I don't want to speak in absolutes).	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/23 05:41 PM
5	Women are just as visual as men. It's just that most men don't elicit this type of attraction There's actually a lot of erotica that barely describes characters looks. Fanfiction is based on existing characters from books, tv, film etc. so generally it's not necessary to explain the looks to the reader. Sure there are plenty of fics that feature these kinds if descriptions, but also a lot of fics that don't. A lot of what makes erotica erotic is actually the description of certain dynamics between characters, situations they're in and their internal thoughts, feelings etc. about the situ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/23 05:30 PM
5	Who's more aesthetic: men or women? This is highly subjective and is also influenced by culture. Nowadays the "ideal beauty" is generally considered to be a young, somewhat skinny woman with some curves. Ancient Greeks thought young, skinny men were the most beautiful. In the Renaissance people thought slightly heavier women with small boobs were the ideal (see for example paintings by Rubens). Personally I think both men and women can be absolutely beautiful in their own way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/23 05:08 PM
3	Women love one night stands as much as men do Huh it's almost as if men and women are all individuals with different preferences regarding sex and relationships 🤔	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/23 09:47 PM
4	CMV: The most obvious reason why modern dating is broken is because women have too many options because of the internet. Agreed. And this is something both men and women do, so blaming it on women is ridiculous. Men have more dating options than 50 years ago as well, and they can have the same mindset.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/23 04:38 PM
5	Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits. You're completely misinterpreting this amazing study by Ellen Laan (RIP) about female arousal. The conclusion was not "women lie". It was more about how arousal has physical and mental components, and how being physically aroused (blood flow to the vagina increases, lubrication starts) is not necessarily linked to the subjective experience of being mentally aroused. Most women don't feel themselves getting wet, unlike men who can just look down and see their own erection as proof of their arousa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 08:02 PM
3	Anyone who says anything remotely critical about women must hate women. Youre telling me you DON'T go around criticising the haircuts and career choices of every man you don't personally know? Weird.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/23 03:49 PM
9	Anyone who says anything remotely critical about women must hate women. My fiancé wouldn't be able to afford our mortgage without my income, just like I wouldn't be able to afford it without his income either. I'm pretty sure he'd be upset if I would just decide to quit my job and expect him to be the "provider". And yeah, I'm glad he has a good income (just like me) because without both our incomes we wouldn't be able to afford the house we want (the housing market is crazy where we live). This idea that men don't care about the income of their partner is just such…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/23 03:47 PM
1	Q4W: Do you believe/know/think that your grandmothers have never loved your grandfathers? I honestly don't know, all my grandparents have been dead for quite some time. I do know my grandmother from my fathers side suffered from depressive episodes her entire life, and my grandfather was a very strict father who regularly beat my dad. I don't know how grandma felt about him though, maybe she loved him. I think she was very submissive and probably wouldn't have left even if she wanted to. My other grandma had the misfortune of being a Catholic and thus wasn't allowed to use birth cont…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 10:51 PM
20	Obesity has absolutely nuked the chance to go on a date with even regular women That's something a lot of people here don't seem to understand. You can just say "sorry I don't feel a connection / you're not my type / I'm not looking for anything right now / i see you as a friend" or whatever neutral statement you can think of, in stead of "I don't date fat women". Or "I don't find (race/ethinicty) women attractive" It's that easy to reject someone you don't find attractive, without insulting them. And a bonus is people won't perceive you as fatphobic or racist (which seems …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 09:38 PM
11	Do people who end a relationship “on good terms” actually stop being attracted to each other or not? The most perfect example of projection I've ever seen. Freud would have a field day 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 06:40 AM
1	Q4W: Whats your score on the Female Delusion Calculator? Yeah I put in the stats for my boyfriend but I got the result that there are apparently no men in the US who are like him, lol. It's probably because he's 1,95 meter tall (6'4" for Americans) but that's not that rare where I live (the Netherlands). Also there are apparently less than a 1000 women like me, which I also find hard to believe. Maybe it also has to do with height, even though I'm not that tall (1,73 or 5'8")	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 11:53 AM
1	CMV: Pretty women don’t even understand the value of money or how much things cost Lol I can imagine OP goes to clubs to sit in the VIP area and get bottle service. But how do you spend 100+ at a museum?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 07:14 AM
1	Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal imply I think for most jobs it's a good thing. For some jobs it might not be as important or realistic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/23 04:31 PM
1	Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal imply "somehow majority women in industries is not seen as an issue." Gotta disagree. I think most feminists agree that there should be more men in education, (mental) health care, and other women-doninated fields. If only so these jobs gain the respect and pay they once did. But mainly because it's good to have a diverse workforce, to provide healthy role models for school going children, to give people the chance to have a male therapist if they want, to show that men can be nurturing and caring peo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/23 11:36 AM
7	RP men don’t like women, they’re just attracted to them Disagree. I think most women are not attracted to the majority of men, but it doesn't mean we dislike most men. Personally speaking, of all the people I meet there are probably just as many men as women that I think are nice, interesting people. And just as many men as women who I don't find interesting or who I'm not interested in becoming friends with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/23 10:10 PM
2	Why don’t more women like sports? Same, my (male) partner and most of my male friends aren't into watching sports either. Whereas my SIL is a PE teacher and she loves sports. She's less interested in more intellectual pursuits and more of a do-er, she's very extraverted and loves all sorts of thrill seeking activities. My partner and I like to talk about the news, social issues, politics, etc. And watch series/films and talk about them. We're more introverted. I think personality plays a big part, and education level as well. I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/23 06:42 AM
7	“Give an ugly girl a chance, and after a while she’ll treat you like YOU are the ugly one” Truerateme is bs. They rate Emily Ratajkowsi around a 6 or something, even though she's one of the most successful models out there. And I see they rate Steven Yeun a 5.5, which is insane. He's a very attractive man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/23 09:17 AM
3	Is romance dead? "Europe" includes many countries, I wouldn't generalise dating culture. I think people from the South, North or East of Europe all have very different ideas an customs with regards to dating and gender roles. And of course people from the same county can still be very different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/23 10:37 AM
3	Women are rude to men without consequences When I was between 15-25 years of age I would be "rude" to men (the definition OP gives seems to include ignoring men who catcalled me in the streets, which I did from time to time) and there were definitely consequences. Been called a whore plenty of times just for not interacting with someone who called me a "cute girl" or who said "my legs looked nice".. And so were my female friends. It appears that OP just wants an excuse to use not only verbal agression to women (like the men I encountered…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/23 08:12 AM
2	If a guy had 'gay' experiences... Yeah please don't hide this! I would definitely want to know all about it	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/23 04:05 PM
1	“Low libido” litmus test. Precisely. Some physical attraction is necessary, but so many other factors play a part in feeling either desire or feeling turned off. A man could be the most handsome, attractive, beautiful man on earth, but if he isn't interested in me as a person, doesn't do his part with regards to housework, is an asshole, doesn't respect my boundaries etc. then my attraction to and desire for that man would disappear in a heartbeat. Or someone could be the most handsome and be a great partner, but if I'm …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/23 10:47 AM
1	Am I the only one on r/PurplePillDebate that doesn't hate this sub? The idea of being entitled to sex, wanting women to be subservient to men, preferring romantically/sexually inexperienced women, and the resentment towards all women in general that I see on this sub are a dangerous cocktail that (in my experience) leads to not respecting the (sexual) boundaries of women and to controlling behaviour. Which leads to traumatising situations, which leads to PTSD, depression, sexual dysfunction etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/23 09:48 AM
3	Am I the only one on r/PurplePillDebate that doesn't hate this sub? Well, not murder... But I work in mental health care so I see a lot of victims of abuse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/23 05:52 PM
2	Am I the only one on r/PurplePillDebate that doesn't hate this sub? While I do think some women on two x can be extreme in their views, I don't find it as scary as this place. I guess it's because I see the effects of misogyny (sexual violence, domestic abuse, murder etc) daily, whereas hate against men generally doesn't lead to violence. Of course this is a generalisation, there are women who abuse their male partners but relatively speaking they're a smaller group. Most women who hate men generally avoid them, in my experience. But I agree that most women irl …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/23 03:39 PM
6	Am I the only one on r/PurplePillDebate that doesn't hate this sub? I dont hate the sub per se, but I do find a lot of the men here very unlikable. At best they have a very strange world view that's distorted by social media echo chambers and confirmation bias, at worst they're extremely scary guys who I, as a woman, wouldn't want to be alone in a room with. I know this is a debate sub, but the thought that these people are out there in the real world is scary and frustrating. I hope some of them are just trolls, but they can't all be that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/23 02:42 PM
36	Men love whores Yeah it's like working as a chess tournament organiser and then claiming "all men care about is chess, it's the most important thing in the world to them. Women are just not as important to them as winning the game" etc. Of course these people exist but they're not a normal sample of the population.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/23 03:24 PM
0	I’m surprised they allow purge week on the sub when this week shows how unregulated red pill ideas absolutely stomp all over the blue pill There have been lonely and undesirable people (men and women) since the dawn of time. It has nothing to do with society moving into an egalitarian direction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 04:10 PM
2	PPD Women be like A woman's height has nothing to do with the depth of her vagina. Some women just have a lower uterus. Also lots of women have pain during intercourse because of tension in their pelvic muscles. So another reason why lots of women are not looking for ridiculous monster cocks. Honestly, I've never met a woman who's as obsessed with dick size as PPD men are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 01:50 AM
3	If you magically woke up tomorrow as the opposite sex do you think you would easily get everything you are seeking in a partner? Some of the men here think we women are just spending our lives rejecting dudes left and right. Like the second you grow boobs men are just flinging themselves at you. That's just not how life works. Even if you're a so called "ten".	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 10:20 AM
14	How common is this? "I have an amazing career, make almost 6 figures, have lots of friends and family, fit and physically active, many hobbies and talented, but I can't get a single date" This is so dependent on the person you're trying to attract. If that person is a woman who loves working out, living a healthy lifestyle, etc. then your stories about gym workouts and diet plans might interest her. However, if she's a creative who's into art, likes to visit museums and go the local arthouse cinema, you'll probably bore her to death with your gym stories. Or maybe she's creative AND she likes to workout. People can have different interests! Anyway, this is why you should look for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/22 10:12 AM
7	what do men get wrong about women have so many optionn and can sleep with a lot of different men? It also has to do with risk and reward. For women, having casual sex is riskier (risk of rape, risk of pregnancy). It's also generally less rewarding (women orgasm less than men in general, and the 'orgasm gap' is usually even bigger when it comes to casual sex). Maybe if women felt safer among men and were more likely to have a rewarding sexual experience, they'd have more casual sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/22 01:13 PM
3	Is there something about autism itself (absent any deliberate behaviors) that are turnoffs for potential mates? I think this still happens. But it seems to be more prevalent in older generations.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/22 05:03 PM
26	Is there something about autism itself (absent any deliberate behaviors) that are turnoffs for potential mates? I think a lot of men would appreciate women with autism because they generally are more forward, don't "play games" or expect you to know something they won't tell you. (Just generalising here, not saying all women do this, but it is a common complaint by men). They also often have more "masculine" interests (once again generalising). However, in my experience, there are also a lot of older married couples where the woman is very extroverted and the man has autism, and she's the person who runs …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/22 09:17 AM
8	What exactly qualifies as a high n count "bodycount" to people on this sub? A lot of men and women have a phase in their late teens / early to mid twenties where they have more hookups. When they get older this slows down or stops because people settle down. So I don't think this is a good formula, though I understand the logic behind it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/22 04:39 PM
1	How common is it for women to settle down with dorky/unattractive men while fantasizing for more masculine, attractive men? There's a difference between sometimes fantasising about someone else and actually telling your partner all about your fantasies you have about other people. It's just like masturbastion, we both know we do it but we don't tell each other "hey I just wanted to tell you that i just had a great wank".	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/22 10:00 PM
7	What are the silliest/funniest/most ridiculous standards for traits in a partner that you've seen? Lots of cats have a job: keeping away mice. Cats and dogs are both problematic if they're strays. Stray dogs kill other animals just like cats do. And all pets are bad for the environment, because they all consume food and water. Don't act like dogs are somehow superior to cats.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/22 11:54 AM
1	Women, do you view that dating and sexual dynamics are on the decline? I think on average there might be a change in the dynamic between men and women when online dating as compared to more traditional dating. I think both men and women are more critical because there are more options to choose from. So people more easily ghost each other. I don't know a lot of people who use OLD but one female friend told me she was ghosted recently. However, most of my friend group are in stable long term relationships. Most of us are late twenties to early thirties. But that is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/22 08:10 PM
1	Question 4 WOMEN: What is your opinion on traditional gender roles and do you adhere to any yourself? I personally am not interested in living my life according to traditional gender roles. I am not criticising women who do want to live that way either, I think it should be a personal choice. I do think that in our times it is much harder to live according to traditional gender roles. There used to be a time when one salary could take care of the living expenses of a family. These days you really need 2 salaries to do that (there are exceptions of course depending on the job and where you live).…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/22 07:52 AM
3	What responsibility do men have for having relationships with nightmare women? You hit the nail right on the head. Men/women who always fall for men/women with BPD (or another personality disorder) usually have their own personality disorder or at least some unhealthy personality traits. Can be NPD but there are other personality disorders too, that aren't talked about that much, like dependent personality disorder or avoidant personality disorder. People with healthy boundaries, a healthy sense of self, a healthy way to regulate their own emotions, etc. usually notice the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/22 07:18 AM