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So don't date women like that. Melania Trump, when asked if she would have married Donald if he wasn't rich said "do you think he would have married me if I wasn't beautiful?" Some women are explicitly looking for a certain level of wealth. I think she's basically a gold digger, but to an extent this is understandable. Personally, I wouldn't pick a bombshell I have no connection with over a less attractive girl I do, but consider this: If you had 10 women wanting to date you, but only monogamous…
/r/seduction24/07/26 05:59 PM
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Is it over for me? No, not if you put in the effort and make changes. Top comment has some good advice. One thing I think they miss is that you should try to develop a "life." If your whole thing is going to work and going home to play video games that probably isn't a life women are interested in getting involved in or an interesting person to spend time with. Even if you are confident and make yourself more attractive with clothes and grooming. You should have friends and interests and do thin…
/r/seduction13/07/26 08:50 PM
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I think going on lots of dates is a good idea, but saying that on your profile is a bad idea. Women aren't going to decide to go on a date to help you achieve your goal. It's also likely to make them feel like they're just a statistic and unspecial.
/r/seduction15/06/26 01:07 PM
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If you are living with just one parent, date girls that are living with both parents. I can't tell if you're joking, but yeah, pretty much. It's a roundabout way of saying date in your league and your league is whatever you can get, not what you think you deserve. I should mention, usually the homeless couple are junkies, he's not dating a supermodel. But they aren't alone.
/r/seduction23/11/25 08:29 PM
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Date other really broke people living with their parents. Get fit. Set low expectations. There are homeless guys with a girlfriend in their tent, it's never impossible.
/r/seduction23/11/25 04:32 PM
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I don't think this is really the right sub, but the short answer is yes, to an extent. Watching a hot video with a 10/10 girl once is not going to dramatically change your libido and sex drive. Anyone acting like porn is like drinking battery acid is an extremist pushing an agenda. On the other hand if you watch porn all day ever day that's going to have an affect on you. So yes, if you get to a point where you can't get off to any woman who isn't "perfect" with studio lighting and editing, you'…
/r/seduction06/11/25 09:11 PM
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I didn't know either, but apparently it's reversed. But yeah, do they want an answer to their question or what? None responded, so I'm guessing they realized I was right and the answer hurt.
/r/seduction26/09/25 03:46 AM
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They are usually some combination of confident, fun, charming, attractive, and usually have a good social life. You don't need a ton of money to hang out with friends, have some drinks, and make a woman laugh. That night can cost as little as 20 bucks.
/r/seduction25/09/25 09:48 PM
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Idk, what's average, but I know some charge that much for a night.
/r/seduction17/09/25 11:04 PM
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this just a reminder. that its all about location If you mention in your bio that your date comes with a few thousand cash in the US, you will also suddenly get a bunch of likes. Sex workers will always be happy to date you for the local rate, regardless of location.
/r/seduction17/09/25 09:46 PM
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It's useful if you want to get into the poly community, or want to date far left women, but otherwise it's not some easy button. And it doesn't work if you wanna date conservative girls. I think that there are more women who lean left than right so it "feels" easier. And it's an even higher percentage in cities so it can feel more necessary there.
/r/seduction28/07/25 09:55 PM
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Haha, I didn't even read that far, but good point.
/r/seduction24/07/25 02:49 AM
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Or maybe OP is overestimating how attractive they are. He says he got plastic surgery, but...so did Erin Moriarty.
/r/seduction23/07/25 08:00 PM
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/r/seduction08/07/25 04:51 AM
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Stick 'em with the pointy end.
/r/seduction22/04/25 02:23 AM
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I don't see/meet a lot of fat guys who are huge studs, but I have met some fat guys, (think US and rural where most people are kinda fat,) that do pick up women. The women are also usually fat, but that's a matter of preference ultimately.
/r/seduction16/04/25 06:11 AM
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I’m really nervous. Remember that he won't be thinking about his height once you start kissing him. Top comment is right though, do it while sitting.
/r/seduction12/03/25 11:26 PM
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Not much of a story really, I went to a party at a friend's house maybe 10-15 people. I met a girl from my friends college, we talked and drank, we kissed and then she basically led me to the bedroom. She was just down for it right away. Idk if you want to count this, but I met a girl on Tinder, she made it clear she wanted to hook up. So we set a time and we pretty much get right to it, talked for maybe 5 minutes before the bedroom. So I had talked to her for a couple days, but we had sex withi…
/r/seduction22/02/25 05:01 AM
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Haha, I was the ex once, and the main quality for me was being an ex. He didn't want her hanging out with me so guess what she really wanted to do? (FWIW I was not friends with the guy and she came to me. I was not trying to make her cheat.) Women know what they're getting with an ex and found him attractive in the past. Sometimes you miss things about people you used to date. But I would also remind you, it's the type of woman. She was a serial cheater, so I'm sure she's given several guys this…
/r/seduction13/02/25 10:24 PM
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I am gonna quit all social media as part of my self improvement journey. I think this is a good idea. Words cannot describe how resentful I feel about it. I understand, but know this is a dead end road. Be aware when you're getting resentful, and redirect your thoughts to taking responsibility for yourself and your life and thinking about the future. The more you practice, the easier it will get. You can have a better future. Good luck.
/r/seduction05/01/25 10:03 PM
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Very generally, I would say, do more. Particularly do more socially. When your life is mostly consumptive, it's not that interesting. Learn to play guitar and then go find people to play guitar with. Do an open mic night and make friends with comedians. Start a charity and look for volunteers. If you do stuff with people it will connect you to interesting things and people and that will make you more interesting.
/r/seduction26/11/24 01:05 AM
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Haha, I wrote my comment before I saw this and you have it exactly right. I said "I don't really have any tips, they were already into it."
/r/seduction04/11/24 06:03 PM
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If we don't count time talking on a dating app, like 15 minutes. She came over to hook up and we got down to it. Otherwise, same night at a party so like 4 hours. But no tips really, they were already pretty into it.
/r/seduction04/11/24 06:02 PM
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I think it needs to be normalized that people either get together with strong sexual compatibility Sex being at the forefront and being sexually compatible are two different things. Look, you can say just have a trophy wife you don't care about and is basically a live in sex worker. And sure if that's what you both want all power to you. But even that's dumb. If you don't care about a relationship, don't bother getting married. Be a sugar daddy and switch every few years because your trophy wife…
/r/seduction06/09/24 05:51 PM
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I don't think you could put it more succinctly.
/r/seduction06/09/24 04:14 AM
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I think you're misunderstanding the dynamic here, but mainly it's that finances, personality, and lifestyle don't matter so much for a hookup. Superficial charm and looks are enough. And guys do this too. I slept with a coke head once, you think I'm gonna settle down with her? (She's in prison rn.) As for relationships, I wouldn't say that women don't care about looks for relationships, attractive dudes get married all the time. It's just that it becomes a lower priority. Being with the most att…
/r/seduction05/09/24 08:27 PM
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Every time you have sex or like, somewhere in his house? Like it's fine if you need lube sometimes or even every time, but most women I've been with do not expect/need lube most of the time.
/r/seduction03/09/24 02:07 AM
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We can't type sex now?
/r/seduction31/08/24 10:08 PM
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“i won’t if you won’t.” I think that's funny, but you can always find someone who won't like it. I would worry about it unless they are refusing or getting mad after you do, it's kind of a dumb/joke question anyway. You think Ted Bundy's gonna be like "yeah, I am gonna murder you, you were smart to ask first"?
/r/seduction21/07/24 04:12 AM
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Also, even if I could obtain a female, First, I have never met a woman who likes being called a female, just FYI. Second, yes, you could. all of the good ones have already been taken by males higher up than me on the dominance hierarchy, leaving me with nothing in return. How would you even know what a good woman is when you haven't even kissed one? Look, a lot of your mentality sounds incel adjacent and of someone who spends a lot of time on the Internet and not around real people. Don't take a…
/r/seduction14/07/24 11:07 PM
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I would like to put myself out there but I know that I will fail. Yeah, you'll fail, so what? Do you think Lebron James dunked the first time he picked up a basketball? Do you think he has never missed a shot since? Accept your gonna fail and keep doing it until you succeed. You are quitting before you even try and that will never work. And in today's progressive society, this can result in me getting arrested by being the victim of #metoo. This is a delusion you're getting from the internet. I …
/r/seduction14/07/24 10:04 PM
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It's not too late. If you can afford therapy, look into that. You have an anxiety and self-esteem problem. Whether or not you can afford therapy, commit to working on yourself, and accept that it will take time and failure. You have to put yourself out there, have a bunch of women not respond to your messages. And then for the ones who do respond, go on first dates and get turned down for a second. The more you do it, the more you will learn that it's not important. Literally every guy gets reje…
/r/seduction14/07/24 06:32 PM
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Move one swiftly Underrated point. I think a lot of oneitis comes from over-investing yourself. If you find yourself catching unrequited feelings for a woman get away from her and towards another ASAP. Don't spend weeks (or worse) pining over her.
/r/seduction12/07/24 03:35 AM
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It was in a music venue and it was with someone I already had slept with (in a bed), but yeah, I did it in the bathroom there. I don't really go clubbing, but I'm sure it happens there too.
/r/seduction12/05/24 03:40 AM
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If a woman who says she's a lesbian sleeps with you, then she was probably a little bi anyway, or maybe even was just curious. After all, some gay people thing they're straight for a while before realizing they were gay. You can be wrong about your sexuality. Or it can change. Or define it differently. In some cultures there are men who have sex with men, but they don't consider themselves gay because they're tops. I have a bi friend who slept with men, but only ever had romance with women. That…
/r/seduction07/05/24 03:57 PM
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Sure, but if everyone here thinks formulas and tricks are the way, why was a comment denigrating the sub the most up voted?
/r/seduction25/04/24 04:10 AM
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Well my question is, how long are you not gonna be ready for sex? If it seems like this is never gonna change, maybe you are asexual but not aromantic. If you just don't want to have sex on the first date, you can definitely find women who are ok with that. I would say you wanna "take things slow." However, if you're saying you wanna go on a few dates, make out, and bail to someone else, not many women are gonna be interested in that because for one, most want to have sex eventually, and for ano…
/r/seduction24/04/24 11:20 PM
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I find it funny this is the most up voted comment. Does everyone think they aren't the 20 yo incel? Is everyone here just to laugh at bad seduction tips?
/r/seduction24/04/24 11:12 PM
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Is it okay tell a girl you have been having trouble with errections? Yes, the outcome is gonna depend on the girl. I think most women are sympathetic to some performance anxiety, but I'm not gonna promise no bad reactions. do you just ask for one, once she's back at yours? Yeah, you can just say "can you blow me?" It seems to go 1 to 100 with no inbetween. Normally she reaches straight for it when I'm on top of her. It seems like these women are pretty into you if they're moving that fast, they …
/r/seduction16/04/24 12:40 AM
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Is cold approaching ever out of bounds? Yes for decent human beings. You made the right call about Uber Eats. Women definitely complain about that. But you can still be funny and non-flirty friendly, and if they're interested in you, they'll probably make it clearly known. But I would really make sure there's really no other place to meet. People really just go to work and home? No bars or local events/organizations? Maybe you should move.
/r/seduction14/04/24 03:27 AM
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Yeah, she's definitely unusual and it's probably a fetish. The fact she wouldn't respond kind of supports that because it can be embarrassing to explain your fetishes to people.
/r/seduction09/04/24 09:29 PM
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Not really, but it's complicated. I have never heard a woman say she wanted a virgin. I've heard plenty of weird stuff but never that. I'm sure there is some woman it turns on, like some "I'm the woman he'll never forget" kind of thing, but it's not remotely a common turn on and the older women are, the less likely they are to consider sex or a relationship with one. That being said, that doesn't mean no woman would be attracted to a virgin, but they probably wouldn't be attracted because you're…
/r/seduction09/04/24 09:06 PM
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He's jealous.
/r/seduction21/03/24 06:55 PM
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If you truly don't care about looks, and I'm guessing you do since you mentioned it before asking to remove it, you can find someone to sleep with you without much effort. Even if you don't care about looks most people do along with other things (personality, ect) and have various things they're looking for. Just to give an extreme example, a lesbian who loves sex will never sleep with you because she doesn't want what you're offering. That will hold true for straight women too and while you can…
/r/seduction20/08/22 03:27 PM
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hey I thought you were hot Wait why do they have to be hot? I thought men loved sex, do you have some kind of criteria? Why don't you just fuck any woman that will take you? /s
/r/seduction20/08/22 02:22 AM
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Basically act like you don't care or joke like people have said. The point of this is if you get upset it's a creepy expectation and smells desperate. As for psychology, some woman probably don't want to be seen as easy and they like the idea that you don't need them. Makes you seem like a better catch in their own minds.
/r/seduction11/07/22 06:45 PM
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Take time to process your feelings, but try not to take it to hard. Those people are assholes. I don't have any friends who would turn someone down like that. I wouldn't be friends with someone like that. Some people won't date you because of your height, but others won't care. That's true of everyone to some degree. No one is liked by everyone. Don't worry about the people who don't like you, focus on finding ones that do.
/r/seduction29/06/22 04:57 PM
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What's with all the downvotes? I don't raw dog with new people, but when the safety situation is right are you kidding me?
/r/seduction03/05/22 05:13 PM
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What's going through your head when you get hard and then when you insert? Can you stay hard with a flesh light or when masturbating or do you have the same problem?
/r/seduction03/05/22 05:10 PM
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It's the same for men and women, if someone doesn't want you, they don't want you. If you just want an attractive guy, improve the things you can control, physical fitness, personality, clothes other qualities as a partner like stability, sex, emotional support, having an interesting life. Some attractive guy will date you, but nothing will make any attractive guy date you.
/r/seduction01/05/22 09:16 PM
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That's kind of a stark choice; only one woman or never settling down. If you want a more practical real life take, a good FWB is worth more than a dozen ONS IMO. First time sex usually isn't as good as when you know more about what eachother like, and ONS is playing sexual roulette in terms of quality. Variety is nice, but if you're just doing it for body count are you even in it for the sex or to validate yourself to others?
/r/seduction29/04/22 01:12 AM
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I had the same thought, that seems totally appropriate, maybe people will judge, but I dated a 16 yo as an 18 yo senior in high-school and didn't and still don't think that's wrong.
/r/seduction06/04/22 09:15 PM
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that would mean they approached… 800/900 women? that can’t be right If you go out every weekend and talk to 4 women for 5 years, that's 1000. Totally believable. Also means you had tons of practice.
/r/seduction06/04/22 09:08 PM
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Non-native speaker. There are still places where people marry 1st cousins. It wasn't that uncommon in the English speaking world until a century ago. And Rudy Giuliani married his 2nd cousin.
/r/seduction31/03/22 01:39 AM
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I'm not so sure that is true in a larger sense. Like I think many women like guys with an active social life, and tbh it makes you more interesting outside of dating. That being said, if they care about your social media, screw that. Not my kind of woman anyway.
/r/seduction20/03/22 01:56 AM
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If you wanna be friends, be friends, I think this sub is way to opposed to female friendships, that being said, if you're not interested in just friends, say so and be prepared to move on if she really isn't.
/r/seduction16/01/22 06:25 PM
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Nbd, you can try again and find out or not. There are always others. Good luck.
/r/seduction16/01/22 02:47 AM
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Well, maybe she wants attention like these other people said, and that's possible, but are these definitely rejections? People do travel, and she said "we don't have that here." Did you give up after that? You could have just said, "Well wanna get a drink anyway?" If she turned you down after that on another excuse, sure, she's not interested, but idk, it seems like you framed these as rejections.
/r/seduction16/01/22 02:33 AM
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I mean go for it regardless if you want, but if she had said "I'd love to, but I'm busy for the next 2 weeks with getting all graduate applications, but let's do something after the 28th" that's a yes If she just said sorry, can't, I'm busy for the next 2 weeks with applications, and no implication of future plans, that sounds like an excuse. Only one way to find out though.
/r/seduction13/01/22 09:58 PM
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Dude, good, I didn't have a gf until senior year of high school and I know people who didn't date until college. Then I meant a guy in college who didn't lose his virginity until 23. (He was 25 getting his phd) I just dated a woman who didn't lose it until 25. It's a process. Like seriously go for it, enjoy dating and sex as soon as you want, but you're fine at 17.
/r/seduction06/01/22 01:13 AM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction07/12/21 08:55 PM
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You have to remember there are a lot of people in the world. If only 1 percent are hooking up in their 30s for every Million people in your city, 1000 people are in their 30s and hooking up instead of settling down. Have you been on 1000 dates? If not, you basically have an unlimited pool. Who cares what the rest think? You'll never meet most of them. These numbers are completely made up. It's probably higher than 1000. The probability of first marriage by age 30 is 74% for women and 61% for men…
/r/seduction06/12/21 10:06 PM
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Stick 'em with the pointy end
/r/seduction03/10/21 02:44 AM
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Dude, if you're not in a relationship and you aren't having sex and she won't hang out if you don't pay, you're paying to hang out with her. Is she willing to hang out doing things that don't cost money? If not, then she is just using you for money and entertainment. I don't pay (except as presents, ect.) for my female friends I'm not having sex/relationship with and they never ask because it would be weird. If she got a new expensive place, that's her budgeting issue. Figure out what you want a…
/r/seduction21/09/21 03:05 PM
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You can always find someone who loves you for who you are, but if you want to expand your options and it sounds like you do, get in the best shape you can. You can't control your face without surgery, but if your body's great that will open a lot of doors. Looks are also the first info people get about you so you want to maximize that. Wear clothes that advertise that. Also yeah confidence makes you look good, and maybe think more broadly, like how you look and interact with a group. Try to be m…
/r/seduction16/09/21 04:34 PM
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Should I suggest we become friends with benefits? Well can you explain this? I feel like there's something missing here: I have to work a lot to everytime I see to have something sexual happen What's a lot of work? I mean it sounds like she's into it, sending you nudes (unless you're begging for them), but does she want you to take her out? Do you wear her down? I mean, you are basically unofficial fwb already, but when I'm in that situation I wouldn't call it "work," it's like you go hang out a…
/r/seduction25/08/21 04:40 AM
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Same night I met her at a party.
/r/seduction21/08/21 05:29 AM
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No problem! I love hearing about other people's issues. Hope it works out.
/r/seduction09/08/21 01:40 PM
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How do I tell him that I don't want casual/fwb/ no label kinda relationship in a way he won't ask me again? Say: "I don't want casual/fwb/ no label kinda relationship. We are not having sex again, but I want to stay friends. Don't ask me again or I'll block you. Look you may like this guy as a friend, but there are only 2 possibilities, he respects what you want or he doesn't. And whether you like it or not, there may be no way to keep him as a friend and have your wishes respected Try talking t…
/r/seduction08/08/21 05:18 PM
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Haha, well I had a friend tell me I always had this mean look on my face. Maybe find a candid picture of yourself or ask someone what you normally look like.
/r/seduction28/07/21 02:15 PM
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Body language. Some people overthink this IMO, but basically making sure you're not hunched over with a resting dick face.
/r/seduction28/07/21 01:56 PM
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they usually have something to say and not just live life on instagram, at least were I live. I'm sorry, maybe try to find a place with more people with common interests? I found a gaming bar that had a lot more people (including women) that I clicked with. If its bad enough, maybe you can move.
/r/seduction20/07/21 08:51 PM
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Some people don't like cuddling, and some people don't like sleeping while touching someone. It's too hot and/or distracting. I'm with a woman right now who likes to cuddle but wants to stop before sleeping. Nothing to do with you.
/r/seduction20/07/21 07:53 PM
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Dont have friends to go out with to meet new people. First I'd suggest you try and get some non-romantic social life together. Besides it helping you to go out and meet people, it makes you seem more legit and "complete" as a person. You have stories to tell and a social life you're connected to. Maybe become a regular at a bar or volunteer or find a team sport to join (they exist for adults) they basically force people to get to know you and you'll probably get along with some of them eventuall…
/r/seduction19/07/21 10:00 PM
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If you do, you'll look back on it and appreciate it, even if it was hard at the time.
/r/seduction02/07/21 02:41 AM
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Too late? Hardly. Tons of people are single in their 30s. People with jobs and lives, not just "losers." It is important that you work on these problems though and it sounds like you are. I think it's also important to keep in mind that it's going to take you some time to catch up. That's ok, everyone has their journey. But you obviously take things very hard, so I think you need to brace yourself for learning and disappointment. Everybody goes through it. People are more understanding than you'…
/r/seduction02/07/21 02:14 AM
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You should think about therapy, I get the sense you have a self-esteem problem. You're very down on yourself and assume nothing will work. I would bet that you haven't actually made that much of an effort to date or meet people, you've already ruled out online. So you're a social failure, so what? You're can young, you can build a social life. You don't have to date online, but that's going to make things a lot harder for yourself. And I'm guessing you are going to have to do some other things y…
/r/seduction26/06/21 02:09 AM
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Go to nerdy events, there are gaming VR bars in a lot of mid to large cities now.
/r/seduction07/06/21 07:20 PM
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There are always going to be women who won't want someone short, but there are women who don't want someone without a vagina. There are 3.5B women just date the ones who date shorter men.
/r/seduction06/06/21 03:12 AM
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Then reacts shocked Where does she act "shocked?" She says ok and smiles.
/r/PussyPassDenied29/03/20 12:59 AM
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It's great if you don't hate women for you being single, but the vast majority of incels have a woman blaming and hating ideology and are in denial that they can in fact date women, they just have something they refuse to do (unreasonable standards, go on dates, ect) If you say you're an incel there are some assumptions about what you believe.
/r/PussyPassDenied29/03/20 12:57 AM
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