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It's a change in frame. Don't think: Does she want to be kissed? Think instead: Do I want to kiss her? This changes the frame from one where you're trying to impress her and do the right thing, to one where you're worried about your own desires. Once you do that and think in the right way, and you decide you do want to kiss her, then just do it. A person with confidence would do what they want, right? (assuming it's consensual of course). And we all know confidence is key. So if you kiss her whe…
/r/seduction05/11/15 09:39 PM
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Yeah this. No need for games or lines in my opinion. Not going to get turned down unless you don't have enough attraction built
/r/seduction05/11/15 02:17 AM
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You don't need a line to kiss a girl. You lock eyes, and then kiss her. If you've properly built rapport and attraction, (and don't smell like a dumpster) she'll respond positively. There's no need to use a line to open the door to kiss a girl, the challenge is always building rapport and attraction.
/r/seduction05/11/15 02:13 AM
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Why are you wasting your time? If you're good, you can close with any girl on a date. But that's not the point. You haven't had enough time with this girl to know whether you like her or not. So give yourself a chance to see if she is somebody you like, even if she's on the fence. You may find she's awesome after hanging out with her for an hour, and thus didn't waste any time. Change your frame - it's about what you want, stop worrying about whether she likes you or is on the fence or a bunch o…
/r/seduction31/10/15 07:48 PM
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You're missing my point. You set the stage by being flirty. This shows her you are interested, but leaves a small amount of ambiguity, which is exiting and had the added benefit of preventing her from using excuses. There is no value to eliminating all ambiguity in an extremely early interaction. Why push away any girls?
/r/seduction31/10/15 07:45 PM
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Not at all, a girl should never friend-zone you if you're flirty, confident, and kino well. You need to be flirty in the initial interaction and she will understand you mean date. How often do two people of the opposite sex go out for drinks (without having met before) as friends? Never. If you're getting friendzoned when you're out for drinks with a girl, and it's just you two, you're doing it wrong.
/r/seduction31/10/15 12:28 AM
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Why? Sets the stage for what? If you do your job and are flirty, she'll be expecting a date anyway. Girls are socially aware, they know when you mean for it to be a date, even if you don't say it. Calling it a date has no upside, it only allows her to say no easier. Why would you rather she tells you she's not interested? Peoples interests aren't always black or white. She may be on the fence with you. Sure, if she thinks you're hideous and she'll never like you, I'd like to know she's not inter…
/r/seduction31/10/15 12:26 AM
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Great post, very impressive. I like how you used snapchat validation as a tool to self motivate! A piece of advice - chicks, especially in college, are always going to flake. It'll happen really often, especially if you're trying to go on "dates" with them. The trick is to realize that it's not personal, it's just society. Society says it's ok, so they do it. The other trick is that flaking is an element of abundance mentality. When you have a lot of options for partners, no singular option is r…
/r/seduction30/10/15 07:26 PM
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congrats man! next time give her some context to the invite. talk with her first so she sees you're a great guy, then when the buying temp is high, mention grabbing a drink together. Don't call it a "date". Many girls who aren't seeing anyone but are approached by a guy they don't know reflexively respond with the boyfriend line. If you don't call it a date, they don't have a reason to use the boyfriend line. Also if she does have somebody she's sort of seeing, it gives her plausible deniability…
/r/seduction30/10/15 07:06 PM
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Multiple locations Starting with coffee is fine, but you need to go somewhere else. Drinking is always always always a good thing on dates, it helps everybody feel more at ease in what is usually an awkward situation. Seed the second location by talking about things you both enjoy, talking about cool bars, etc. So by the time an hour or two has rolled around you can smoothly proposition her to go to another venue with you. Sit NEXT to your date, not across from. Confirm the date before with a si…
/r/seduction29/10/15 07:49 PM
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4 years of psychology professors telling me it was bunk? The problem is psychology is a science. Science requires utilizing the experimental method - controlling variables and testing one independent variable to test for a causal relationship. You can't control variables or test for a causal relationship in evo-psych because you can't go back in time... Specifically: http://www.scimagojr.com/journalsearch.php?q=15500154703&tip=sid&clean=0 It's got a 14 in H index (shit) and is in the lower quart…
/r/seduction29/10/15 07:38 PM
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Short answer to your questions - Always always always sit NEXT to. Start by sitting at a bar or something, and then you can do the couch thing at a second venue. Always kiss on the first date. Always. Long answer + how to are already in the book + written :)
/r/seduction29/10/15 07:34 PM
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Great examples, I'll look into those, thanks!
/r/seduction29/10/15 07:32 PM
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Evolutionary Psychology is one of the least respected psychology journals and is a terrible source in general
/r/seduction27/10/15 05:31 PM
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Every time bud :)
/r/seduction27/10/15 05:16 PM
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Nice one! Do you think this will translate well in a book? It's hard to give general advice on this I think =/ I can give specific pointers I suppose?
/r/seduction27/10/15 05:15 PM
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Good call, thank you! That's actually a pretty difficult one to tackle without going too in depth on the stuff covered in books/content that tackles inner game, but you're right it's very important. It'll also give me an excuse to bring up the ideas behind: http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html
/r/seduction27/10/15 03:33 AM
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I think you're taking too much of that kratom shit, it's messing with your brain The stuff you're spewing has absolutely no basis in reality, and is pretty toxic to be honest.
/r/seduction27/10/15 02:19 AM
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Anything with drinking. You should always been looking to seed the second date when you have the first date. So during the first date, your date might mention that she loves sushi, or that she has wanted to go on a specific hike, or see a specific museum, etc. The second she mentions one of those things, you say oh awesome, let's do it! Then you plan it and go do it together, and it's awesome, because it's something she has always wanted to do. For next time ;)
/r/seduction27/10/15 02:10 AM
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His advice isn't red-pilly, it's simply framing it the right way. If you're constantly worried about impressing somebody, you're not going to be yourself. She should want to be with him and enjoy spending time with him as a person.
/r/seduction27/10/15 02:07 AM
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If you're interested, ask her out. There's never an excuse to not ask out a girl you're interested in. If you feel you didn't connect well enough, focus on connecting first, then ask her out. But don't wait, ask her out next time you see her.
/r/seduction22/09/15 09:04 PM
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That sucks man. Here's my advice: I don't agree with everybody that you shouldn't "pedestalize" girls. Once in a while you find girls that are so much better than others. If this girl is really that great though, it should mean you're compatible meaning you're really great for eachother. She's not great in a vaccum - you're either great together or she's really not that great for you after all. Dating is about compatibility, not about individuals. So look at it through that lens, is this girl co…
/r/seduction22/09/15 05:09 PM
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Absolutely 100% problem #1 is not f-closing on the first date. This should not be hard with good logistics. Location 1: Restaurant or bar. Talk about interests, and suggest location 2 Kiss on the way to location 2 & leave her wanting more Location 2: Bar close to your place. Escalate kino Suggest leaving Kiss again. Longer and more passionately. While walking, suggest going back to your place for whatever. Honestly you don't even need an excuse. She says yes! Problem #2: Talking about your inter…
/r/seduction15/01/15 06:33 AM
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Say fuck it and stop worrying. If she liked you and liked the sex, she'll end up caving and show some interest. If not, you'll at least stop pedestalizing her. Also, I think you fucked up your frame... first frame you were very sexual, and then you went to a very basic nice guy frame for a lunch date. So she might not see you as a sexual being anymore. How old is this chick? If she's older, clone9786 might be right. If shes younger, it's your frame and she's lost interest, or she's just being cl…
/r/seduction15/01/15 06:18 AM
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or.... you could just not be a puss and rub her clit
/r/seduction15/01/15 06:13 AM
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The problem that's "destroying dating" is hookup culture, not approach shaming. As the guy mentions, if you're creating attraction the approach will never be considered oppressive. So just approach. With the right level of confidence you won't feel afraid that women will feel that you're being a male oppressor or whatever.
/r/seduction15/01/15 06:10 AM
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Here's the truth. There are some really great techniques in here. This stuff really really works. I know, because I'm juggling around 5-6 plates right now all 8s and above... and the one I'm really infatuated with is the one that's done everything you've listed to the T. It works. There are so many problems with thinking about it this way though: You've turned it into a game where the only way to "win" is to make the girl infatuated/love you. If that's your goal, you're going to break a LOT of h…
/r/seduction01/01/15 04:32 AM
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So what you're saying is the best guys can tell the girls that pull manipulative crap and don't put up with it? It's the same for women as well. The BEST women don't fall for manipulative crap
/r/seduction01/01/15 04:13 AM
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I had the same problem. It's something you'll have to work through, it takes time. Eventually you'll learn to love the beauty in our differences
/r/seduction28/11/14 09:22 PM
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You're nervous because she's an unknown commodity. It's not a guarantee that she's gonna want to see you again, so now you are fixating on the outcome. you're being totally selfish. You ended it because YOU weren't into it. that's not going to change. Stop messing with this poor girl.
/r/seduction28/11/14 09:21 PM
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Disagree. Confirmation is critical to: Remind them that you scheduled a date and to get them thinking about you. If you don't confirm, they might just assume that you forgot or that you lost interest or something. When they get the last minute text saying you are on your way, they'll be scrambling to get ready, or they'll bail because they think they can't get ready in time. Best thing to do is to change the time. If your date was scheduled for seven, text and say you have something until 7, so …
/r/seduction28/11/14 09:18 PM
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come to denver pretty often from boulder.. trying to find more reasons to head up there!
/r/seduction26/11/14 06:45 AM
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yo!
/r/seduction26/11/14 06:45 AM
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yeah for sure, not arguing that. I just think it's interesting because It's probably easier for you to relate to a chicks level of fear now. I think it's always important to remember this element in game, because most chicks carry this fear around with them at all times (rightfully so).
/r/seduction26/11/14 06:31 AM
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Sorry but unless you're gay no guy is going to be giving you the type of support and connection a romantic partner will give. You must be gay seeing how little you think women have to offer...
/r/seduction26/11/14 06:29 AM
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Couple problems: You're still young, and probably dating younger girls. I'm 25 and usually date girls around your age and the majority of them are flaky and uninterested in a long term relationship. Try to find girls that are slightly more reserved, intelligent, older, and more likely to be looking for a longer term thing You seem to be meeting girls at bars and other nightlight places. Definitely not the place to find long term relationships. LTR's to me are all about day game and social circle…
/r/seduction26/11/14 06:26 AM
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Girls have made my life more fulfilling than anything else... not because they have a vagina but because of the mental stimulation, the emotional connection, and the support then can offer. head on over to r/theredpill and go be with the rest of the neanderthals.
/r/seduction26/11/14 06:15 AM
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r/nofap
/r/seduction26/11/14 06:07 AM
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now you know how women feel 50% of the time with guys. This is why a large part of game is COMFORT... aka not being a crazy asshole. Because AFC guys that get rejected often get angry and scary... and ruin it for everyone.
/r/seduction26/11/14 06:05 AM
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maybe it's an ironic "bro"
/r/seduction04/07/14 07:47 PM
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Wrote a big post about this: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/28b6m5/why_the_supply_and_demand_of_dating_is_stacked/ Though my analysis was far from scientific
/r/seduction04/07/14 07:27 PM
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I met a guy last night randomly while opening his whole group of 4 chicks. We ended up signing semi charmed life together at the top of our lungs. I was mostly ignoring his friends (that were all girls). He told me that his friends were all into me, and that I could have any one that I wanted, he would make sure it happened. Unfortunately none of them were really attractive, so I said no, but then he mentioned that there was a really hot one in their group, and that he'd make it happen if she ca…
/r/seduction04/07/14 07:25 PM
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You misread much of what I was saying. The buying/selling analogy only works for the hottest women. Less attractive women aren't selling, because nobody is buying. Statistically, I understand that 5% 20 times isn't 100% chance. That's why I put it in quotes. Obviously you can't quantify this information in an accurate way. Chill out. It's just an example. I understand the theory of investment. I've read models too. I never said luck will get you anything. There are many AFCs with hot girlfriends…
/r/seduction17/06/14 05:11 PM
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I understand your point, but you're wrong. We're not talking approaches here, we're talking how many guys are pursuing her. For every hot girl, theres double digit guys pursuing her, maybe even as often as every month. Look at a hot girls phone and look at how often there are guys texting her. Yes, maybe they don't get approached often, but they have friends, and every one of their friends, their co-workers, and most of their friends friends are into her. Add that to the random guys she meets at…
/r/seduction17/06/14 03:16 AM
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Ok cupid is a terrible sample, and isn't representative of the population as a whole at all. Men OUTNUMBER women on Okcupid, meaning that they'll HAVE to lower their standards if they want to get any messages at all There's much less investment in sending a message, than having sex with. Most men, when in a bar or a bookstore or whatever, are not going to pursue a 5/10. But when online, it's easy to fire off a bunch of messages Men seek validation too. By hitting on the 5/10 on okcupid, at least…
/r/seduction17/06/14 03:08 AM
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I don't really see it as emotionless actually. I come at it from a very emotional perspective/psychological perspective. Basically, all guys are idiots, and we're making it harder on ourselves, and the women in our lives. Most women have a fucking SHITTY time, and there's not much they can do in the way of pickup techniques to help them, unlike men. You can't beat evolution. I think we really need to take a step back and look at our interactions and say, sure, I can't change what I'm attracted t…
/r/seduction16/06/14 09:05 PM
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I would because I used to live there, but unfortunately I moved recently!
/r/seduction14/06/14 09:33 PM
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This is a great point, I guess you can show desire in other ways besides sexually. I'll have to keep this in mind.
/r/seduction13/06/14 01:03 AM
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Yep. I need to work on this more. Whenever I sleep with somebody, I tend to try to be closed off emotionally. I fear their negative response. But really, you've already been incredibly intimate with them, why can't you share your feelings the same way?
/r/seduction13/06/14 01:01 AM
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This is great, thanks man :)
/r/seduction13/06/14 01:00 AM
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This is absolutely true. BUT, only once she's satisfied with your social value. I.e. once she decides that your confident enough, or interesting enough, or good looking enough, then you can express desire. This is why the awkward nerd who professes his love for her get's shut down. He hasn't met her social value standards yet. So how do we show desire then? We can only really show this desire during physical escalation. Eye contact. Kissing. Sex. I know when I express desire (I express desire wi…
/r/seduction12/06/14 06:38 PM
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Last line is gold
/r/seduction12/06/14 04:32 PM
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Hey, met up with her last night for drinks! Went to three different bars, and went back to her place for a crazy night. I'm happy :)
/r/seduction12/06/14 04:31 PM
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If she said that, then don't worry about it right now. It's too early to ask her to move. Build a relationship with her, and have it be "unsaid" that if it keeps going well, she might move out to be with you.
/r/seduction10/06/14 04:40 AM
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You don't ask her, you just bring it up off hand. Something like " could you see yourself living in another city?" you're not asking her to move anytime soon, but you should know if she's rooted or not.
/r/seduction10/06/14 04:06 AM
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If she's really into you, you don't "have" to do anything. You be your fucking self and stop worry about seddit bullshit. That's what I worry about when I just start with a chick. After that, if she doesn't like/love you, it's not gonna work anyway so you're wasting your time.
/r/seduction10/06/14 04:04 AM
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would she move? If neither of you will move then it's not really worth it. If theres the potential for her to move in the future, than go for it.
/r/seduction10/06/14 04:03 AM
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You're wrong. Nobody is "special" but certain people can be "special" to you. Let's say you meet 50,000 dateable women in your life (high estimate). Out of those, only 10% meet your attractiveness criteria. That's 5,000 women. Out of those, only 10% are interesting enough, intelligent enough, etc. That's 500. Out of those, only 50% will like you back. That's 250. Out of those, only 50% will be compatible with you sexually. That's 125. Etc etc. There's a finite amount of girls that are "really fu…
/r/seduction10/06/14 04:01 AM
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It's called having feelings. Embrace it dude. Oneitis only matters when you're picking up chicks. Once you're past that point with a girl, embrace your feelings.
/r/seduction10/06/14 03:58 AM
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25 :)
/r/seduction09/06/14 11:55 PM
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Sometimes I purposely stop talking to make a chick feel uncomfortable. She has to prove herself to me by finding something to say. I'm comfortable enough with myself to not have to talk.
/r/seduction09/06/14 03:37 PM
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This. Don't make excuses, that's what I used to do when I was an AFC. I stopped making excuses, and great things happened :)
/r/seduction09/06/14 03:35 PM
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Thanks! I'll keep you updated. The date is in 2 days!
/r/seduction09/06/14 03:33 PM
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Yes and yes. But that's not the point. The point is the potential for improvement, no matter who you are. I can promise you, with 100% certainty, that If I had approached 9s or 10s when I didn't know what I was doing, I would get shut down.
/r/seduction09/06/14 03:32 PM
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When she said "I'm here with my friends" she looked around and sort of insinuated that she should go back to them. Basically, she was making me come up with a good reason as to why she should stay. It wasn't a shit test necessarily, that's why I said a "semi shit-test"
/r/seduction09/06/14 05:15 AM
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I think the most important part is embracing yourself sexually. So escalation/kino doesn't come from forced maneuvers, but from within, from a true desire to touch the person and be in the moment. I've noticed that my forced kino usually has an ok effect, but when I truly mean it, I have tons of success. Last date I was on, she was blabbering about how she hates people from DC. I was staring into her eyes and all of a sudden I was overcome with an urge to kiss her. Like a passionate up swelling …
/r/seduction08/06/14 10:00 PM
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I think this is still just "being a good storyteller" and having good body language. Phraseology isn't critical, being a good storyteller is.
/r/seduction03/06/14 02:01 AM
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I think it depends on their age. Calling is better for 25/26+, texting is usually better for younger
/r/seduction03/06/14 02:00 AM
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THIS. stay away man
/r/seduction02/06/14 07:36 AM
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Good stuff man, thanks. I think #3 is super important. Doing something out of the ordinary is always the best way to capture a girls imagination. 4 can be boiled down to "be interesting and use good non-verbal cues" If you're talking about interesting things, you're going to capture the attentions of women. It's foolhearty to thing using weird phrases will make women wet their pants like they do for russell brant. The reason he's a magnetic personality is that he talks about interesting things, …
/r/seduction02/06/14 07:30 AM
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I would imagine he's just good looking. I'm pretty good looking and I get approached once in a while (though usually the girl isn't very attractive). It's also about being interesting so they have something to approach you about (tattoos, Nintendo controller hat). Also, looking friendly helps. Big smiles, talking to the baristas (or other employees), upright body language. Don't predicate your game on getting approached though, you should be the one choosing, not the other way around.
/r/seduction31/05/14 05:40 PM
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Yeah it's worked prettttyyy well so far!
/r/seduction31/05/14 01:54 AM
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Not really, pet's are pretty unique in that respect.
/r/seduction31/05/14 01:53 AM
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You're quite the writer. I usually doubt people's ratings of the women their with, because everybody has different taste, but the story was good :)
/r/seduction28/05/14 09:12 PM
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Just tried this last night at 4 am with AWESOME results. I got the # within 4 texts, and we spent the next hour texting, and I'm seeing her on Monday. Thanks dude :) I'll probably post the whole convo on here!
/r/seduction28/05/14 04:22 PM
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It's a pretty simple phenomenon. People like their pets more than almost anything. They hate it when people don't love their pet as much as they do, because, obviously, their pet is the greatest pet ever. However, nobody gives a shit about other people's pets. If you show you love their pet, you're already in a league of your own. You also prove that you can be kind, gentle, and loving, all traits women secretly want. But when you express those directly to women too early, they get weirded out a…
/r/seduction28/05/14 04:18 PM
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Very interesting. I have trouble with this too. Being open sexually with women does a few things: It makes them think of you sexually, and keeps you from the friend zone. It makes their mind think of sex, which will hopefully make them want it more It shows them you are confident and can talk about whatever on your mind.
/r/seduction27/05/14 08:43 AM
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Exciting man, that's really great to hear :) It sounds like you've become a more interesting person, which is huge for being high value. If you have your own independent interests, and can talk about them freely, women are very intrigued. At least mature, interesting women are very intrigued.
/r/seduction22/05/14 12:26 AM
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