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Need Supportdippyshippy931/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 04:17 PM
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Custodydippyshippy931/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 01:15 PM
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I lied while I was married. I talked up my wife and my family was the first thing anyone learned about me. I also more or less worshipped that woman even in private. Idk what else I would have said to everyone else and myself. >“Hey, my wife in an unloving b***h who is more worried about being seen as a good person than actually being one. She told me she won’t want to be around our daughters anymore when they eventually have opinions and don’t offer unconditional love anymore. Oh and yeah, the …
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 06:25 PM
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How old is the baby? DO NOT do anything rash or say anything you can’t take back. Marriage sucks with a baby. At least for the first 6-9 months. Often up to a year or two.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 03:57 AM
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I’m going to have to take your words at face value (ie assuming you haven’t been doing anything truly “wrong). But I will say 3 in a row is a bad look for you, dude. Maybe you’re too needy or something (I will saw I don’t think this would mean you’re “bad.” Women just have a weird and almost universal view on guys who actually want them more than they reciprocate)? The other option really boils down to maybe you have some shitty choice in women? I’ve noticed guys often fall into the “she’s fun/e…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 03:00 PM
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When women decide they are unhappy they’ll figure out a way to make you the problem no matter what qualities you have. There’s a lot of dudes with issues. Cheating bastards, lazy slobs, mean nitpickers, straight up abusers, etc. I know a lot of guys like that due to my old profession (what women say about military guys is generally true). It feels like being good doesn’t make a lick of fucking difference. Many of the cheating, lying, lazy bastards I know still have a doting wife and get to see t…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 03:52 PM
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>GLP-1, followed by divorce. I gotta start a tally in this sub about GLP-1 stories. Seems wayyyyyyyyy too common these days. But on your note, yeah man. It’s hard to deal with the nonchalant bs when you’ve seen the deeper side of relationships. Not weird at all
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 12:40 AM
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I made the mistake of trying to keep it quiet. I’ve since changed my methods to, “if they ask or are actively being shitty/rude to you because the divorce, they get the full fuckin truth.” Don’t give her the opportunity to install the false narrative. It will immediately help your sanity. And cheaters never just go with the neutral explanation. They virtually always have to turn the story into them being the victim. Also, fuck yes to telling his wife. I’d want to know if it was me. That being sa…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 04:27 PM
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I’m worried about this too. It seemed like every random “anxious,” “insecure,” or “untrusting” thought I had in my marriage eventually turned out to be a legitimate concern. I felt like I was some fucked up Sherlock Holmes, cursed to sniff out my wife’s sketchy behavior from the most minute detail, and always end up being right, to my dismay. Idk if I should be concerned about brining that energy into a future relationship or if it’s a useful skill at this point and the only reason I was right s…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 02:13 AM
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Trying. Hard to keep happy go lucky why the kids seem to be being told I’m the ultimate bad guy. But so far I’ve kept my family and myself from talking crap about their mother. Getting pretty sick of the sideways glances around mutual acquaintances, however.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 02:22 PM
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Can’t tell if you mistook the “Borderline” in my title as claiming my ex is borderline or if it was just that obvious from her actions, lol. I wasn’t trying to imply she is in this post, but Ironically every woman in her close family has a cluster b disorder and I have been told by multiple therapist that she seems to fit the criteria for BPD in most ways.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 02:21 PM
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I’ve had people tell me to just tell the kids “mommy didn’t love daddy anymore, so he had to leave.” But I’m concerned they could make the leap to, “oh so love isn’t permanent and mommy/daddy might just stop loving us?!” So yeah. I’m just concerned that she’ll be in their ear so often and for so long before the truth comes out they won’t believe it when it does. And on a much dumber note, are they going to believe screenshots in a decade when they’ve been raised in a world where AI can fake anyt…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 01:37 PM
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Avoidants are just more likely to cheat, are often the “low libido” partner in dead bedroom situations, and are relatively incapable of keeping a close relationship for long periods of time. Not surprising they are over represented in the stories in this sub. (But also pretty much anyone with a fucked up childhood either ends up as an avoidant or a super clingy anxious person, so they aren’t *uncommon*) For men it’s especially frustrating to be in a relationship with a female avoidant, since the…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 01:33 AM
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Look up avoidant attachment, and start checking the boxes
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 12:53 AM
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Mine started with the “same house separated” idea as well. She moved to the guest room. I was desperate to “fix” things. Then I heard her giggling on the phone at 3:00am. Asking to go camping “alone” at some state park there was literally no reason for anyone to travel halfway across the country for. Did some digging. Turns out the “control” I was exerting on her was controlling her ability to sext and plan trips with dudes on discord. She got reaaaaaal mad when I dropped paperwork on her first.…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 08:35 PM
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I was in almost EXACTLY your situation, brother. She wanted a divorce, didn’t have a plan. Just seemed like she was chasing some magical “freedom” that would come with me being gone. Despite me doubting all the guys on this sub, because “my wife is not like that”, that freedom turned out to be the dude she was sexting online. Beat her to the punch with paperwork. You’ll see her true colors come out when she figures out you aren’t just available to string along as a backup plan. Also from a pract…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 06:14 PM
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I know it’s a “redpill” talking point, and I do genuinely get worried about going down that rabbit hole too much. But a lot of women really do lack accountability. Their ego and self preservation is so strong, they can’t even go down the mental path that would allow a, “this was my fault” conclusion. Weird place to put this, but going off your “why are they like this” question: I worry about going down the redpill path, because, let’s just say all the manosphere dudes are 100% right. Let’s say w…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 02:09 PM
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That’s the one, lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 02:04 PM
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Good man. Just for narrative, for anyone else reading this in a similar conundrum: -I bought into the whole “if you were just a better husband this wouldn’t be happening” bullshit the first time. Even had pretty strong circumstantial evidence she at least had an emotional affair with a coworker. Couldn’t prove anything though, and we had YOUNG children. I spent the next 3 years being her bitch. Terrified every time we disagreed on anything. Softly asking for clarification while she yelled at me …
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 03:11 AM
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I don’t want to be that angry dude that’s always in these comments.. BUT: Don’t do it. She did it once she’ll do it again. Especially if you don’t have kids. Obviously no one knows for sure, but it sure as heck sounds like she got dumped or finally “figured out” the true nature of whoever she was trying to move on towards once you were out of the way. Alternatively she got too deep into the instagram/tiktok/etc “divorce=girlpower” pipeline and learned the truth once she had to actually live the …
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 02:42 AM
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My female lawyer has been awesome. One of the top in the area and also straight up told me to be careful of all the things most women are hesitant to admit to (IE: women will often make shit up at this point, so be careful, here’s what to do if she starts going nuts, etc). I was also clearly the “wronged” party, so I guess that might have made her more partial towards me.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 06:27 PM
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I think he’s joking about the idea that women even think having one ex you claim to have been crazy is somehow a red flag. Even if that’s the only ex you claim to be so.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 03:54 AM
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And it’s even worse for those women who spend more time online than with friends. My algorithm (before I deleted insta) seems to think I am a pregnant angry wife. You wouldn’t believe the sort of bullshit some of those “content creators” are justifying. And instagram seemed to sense my marriage was having issues before i even looked anything related up.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 01:38 PM
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I’m sure many of them are, especially given situations such as yours. But most/all the women in situations where they were the ones who acted more like your ex husband are also claiming to be “happier,” even when their lives are irrevocably in tatters and everything is objectively worse for them now. It muddles the water a lot and makes it hard to figure out who’s full of shit or not.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 08:24 PM
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Every single woman I’ve ever seen get divorced tries their absolute hardest to put this face forward. The only part that isn’t clear is whether it’s more to convince themselves or others. Virtually no woman will ever admit they fucked up in a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 05:23 PM
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No judgement, but this might sound harsh: Is there even anything “wrong” with the relationship? You mentioned compatibility issues but don’t go into specifics. Does she have bad money habits? Does she entertain other dudes? Does she have major behavioral issues? Did she just completely let herself go? Sex issues? Unloving attitude? Not saying this is true, since I’m only reading what’s been put into this post, but just make sure you aren’t just going full “avoidant” and getting scared of commitm…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 02:02 PM
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Remember, DONT marry an army chick. Almost every woman in the army is there because they are escaping something or are chasing something. I didn’t follow that advice and now I’m in this sub.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 02:18 AM
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Dating single moms pisses me off too. Just makes me wonder who the poor dad they fucked over was and how I’m over here stuffing some poor dudes wife that he loved and cherished. Makes me feel bad. Of course there’s a lot of them that the dude was the problem or never in the picture to begin with, but still.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 11:29 PM
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