dirtyblondetea Archive

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1	Advice for a 37 year old virgin Also some kind of therapy along this journey would never hurt but only if this therapist and you get along and such. They won’t try to get you laid as much help you deal with your personal hang ups, which is always good! Sometimes insecurities bubble up as overly talkative and avoiding looking for moments to connect with the other person. Talking at someone vs with someone has a very different feel, and maybe a therapist could offer some more incite on social cues and such. Also there’s nothing …	/r/seduction	25/09/22 03:48 PM
2	Advice for a 37 year old virgin That’s amazing! Good for you! Therapy is a life saver in soooo many ways! 💜💜💜💜	/r/seduction	25/09/22 03:17 PM
1	Advice for a 37 year old virgin Yeah also this	/r/seduction	25/09/22 03:16 PM
1	Advice for a 37 year old virgin Well you might want to open your experience by not looking for a gf. That’s a lot of pressure for any girl to take unless she really likes knowing you’re inexperienced. Maybe get on some apps and lay out that you’re looking for a relationship and get to know a number of people. Build your confidence by looking for the moment in the conversation where things are feeling good conversationally and maybe your food is finished or drinks are draining and let them know how you’re feeling “I’m having a …	/r/seduction	25/09/22 03:13 PM
4	Had a great first date, now I think I'm being ghosted Man up is the most idiotic phrase that has stood the test of time. You’re allowed to feel your emotions, you’re allowed to be frustrated but like previous responders said “crying after a single date with somebody” shows how invested you are in a brand new connection. My recommendation is to try to make several plans at once like a ton of dates/plans/self care, it’s easier to feel less invested in any one specific person right off the bat when you’re socializing and meeting new people and making …	/r/seduction	22/09/22 02:14 AM
1	(28M) Dozens of matches on apps. Couldn’t get a single girl to meet up. Maybe try being upfront when you start the conversation and ask her what she’s looking for from this app. I do that in every conversation before proceeding to schedule a date or switching off the app. Cuz I don’t want to waste anyones time or waste my energy talking to someone who isn’t a match in our dating goals. Once some banter or good conversation gets going or even if you only get to hi how are you, throw the “what are you looking for” question at them to show you’re actually looking to fi…	/r/seduction	20/09/22 06:35 PM
2	Girl not responding after a passionate night Uuuugh always always ALWAYS have condoms on you if you have a penis or plan to be with someone with a penis. Nothing is worse than having a great time with someone and finding out they don’t have condoms on them when you want to escalate things. So I almost always have supplies on me or at home but everyone should have them always. But also just chill and wait for now and go stick up on condoms ✌🏼	/r/seduction	19/09/22 11:10 PM
2	How to be less needy 🫶🏻	/r/seduction	19/09/22 11:03 PM
3	How to be less needy Have you considered joining a writing group or another group that focuses on being creative in another way. Finding meetup groups are an option for meeting new people and having new experiences, which can cause the brain to build new pathways/new memories in the brain. I’m a big believer that art has the power to empower and heal, and provide a safe outlet for processing trauma. Plus if it’s a group activity that will surround you with people who might have similar interests or maybe similar exp…	/r/seduction	19/09/22 09:44 PM
1	Is intelligent conversation generally a turnoff? I blend these topics all the time very comfortably. And men are almost always impressed I speak so openly about societal standards to childhood upbringing to sexual suppression to exploration and education to personal liberation to self care and sexual healing through masturbation.	/r/seduction	19/09/22 03:57 PM
2	Is intelligent conversation generally a turnoff? Agreed. It’s also one thing to ask a woman what her knowledge is on a topic and discussing based on if you’re on the same level versus talking facts at her. Talking facts at anyone is always going to shut someone out. But discussing something should be engaging and bridging both parties experiences and knowledge. If one person knows a list of facts the other person doesn’t, it’s going to feel like a lecture real fast and less of a conversation for your intelligence to shine.	/r/seduction	19/09/22 03:55 PM
2	How do you get over women that reject you? If someone is a mismatch and one of you recognizes that then you’ve saved so much time and energy. Not everyone is a good match and you want to reserve your energy for someone who reciprocates in ways that match you. So a way to think of the rejection is that it was a mismatch and you’ll find someone who is a better match.	/r/seduction	19/09/22 02:26 AM
21	What is a good response to "You could be my son" when approaching an older women than me? Well said! I have younger men coming at me and I just have a preference that I stick to for my interests sake. But I have zero issues with dating younger or older for myself, honestly when people are adults and are attracted to each other they should be free to explore a connection. Period. But if someone is using the age gap to manipulate or control the younger individual that’s predatory and gross. If the older woman is concerned about societal appearances maybe she has some societal deconstru…	/r/seduction	18/09/22 02:08 AM
1	I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt... That’s getting into emotional intelligence basically. Which you can pick up through many signals 1) body language do they seem open and turned toward you or closed off and maybe a bit distant, 2) how much or little they are laughing and if it’s humorous or nervous, 3) eye contact or do they seem to avoid your gaze, 4) does the conversation flow between you or is one person basically interviewing the other, 5) do your connection goals align or are you on different pages (I love asking what kind o…	/r/seduction	15/09/22 02:32 PM
2	I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt... Someone who shows they take care of their mental and physical health. Someone who knows how to take responsibility for their actions but does not beat themselves up over it. Someone who is knowledgeable and passionate about something but also enjoys learning about the person in front of them. Someone who knows what they want but knows how to read the room if the room is not interested or the room wants to take their time or the room is ready to get down and dirty. Someone who is autonomous and n…	/r/seduction	15/09/22 04:41 AM
1	I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt... People who are looking to submit to someone will hopefully have some standards about the type of dom they are looking for. Either way, boundaries have to be discussed and agreed upon. And the ways subs want to have boundaries pushed, all have to be clarified before engaging in any ownership of anyone. It’s not common knowledge that females like being owned, that’s highly misogynistic possessive old school garbage. But if it’s consensual and discussed beforehand then that’s perfectly fine!	/r/seduction	15/09/22 03:28 AM
1	I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt... I’m very picky who I decide to be submissive with. Because there are far too many men out there who claim to be doms and they are potentially just into manipulating and controlling women. I never submit initially to anyone. That is something that is developed over time and with experience. If the OP is finding women submit easily after a handful of encounters and no boundaries are discussed prior, those women sound a bit inexperienced/naive. Which also makes this seem slightly predatory.	/r/seduction	15/09/22 03:23 AM
1	I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt... Well said for dating many sub women. Being a switch, I’ve definitely had my share of taking initiatives with dates and that applies to both men and women. But typically I have to take the lead with femmes and can share the lead with men.	/r/seduction	15/09/22 03:11 AM