disposablady Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
24	Introduction from a Literal Alpha Widow	FIELD REPORT	disposablady	/r/RedPillWives	17/04/16 12:34 PM
9	Is it always ill-advised to initiate contact?	ADVICE	disposablady	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/16 02:03 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
18	Help! Getting engaged in a few days, am I just PMSing and having cold feet, or are my fears valid? A man who is in love with you will want to be around you alone, and make that a priority, without prompting. He has told you that he doesn't value being around you alone, which is how most people feel around casual friends, not life partners. It doesn't sounds like you're just being emotional; on the contrary it sounds like your intuition is warning you this may not be the man for you.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/04/17 12:52 PM
3	Sex is Trust Interesting post! What exactly, though, do you mean by "trust"? For me with a man I am dating, trust and commitment go hand in hand, in perhaps a chicken/egg kind of way. What is trust without an exclusive relationship? What is an exclusive relationship without trust? They're two sides to the same coin, in my experience.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/16 12:48 PM
12	Married friends jealousy, anyone experienced this? To reiterate a couple of comments here: friendships with straight men are absolutely best avoided. It is perfectly natural for a woman not to want her husband befriending a single woman in her prime! Just as, when you are in a relationship, it is perfectly understandable for your SO to feel uncomfortable with you being friends with single straight men in your age range. Focus on being and making friends with women.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/16 12:44 PM
4	Ending the date first Not an important thing, no, but I think it's a more extreme extension of a simpler truth (like most of the advice in the book). I remember reading in the book the counter-example of the woman who prolongs the date for hours, coming up with new ideas of things to do on the date, because she's really into the guy and wants to keep it going (natch!). So I think the approach most of the ladies here would take, or those Laura Doyle devotees (like myself) is toward moderation: stop trying to control t…	/r/RedPillWives	28/04/16 12:30 PM
3	Introduction from a Literal Alpha Widow I am definitely open to men who make less than I do (most do, and that's OK), and am also totally open to divorced men, and/or older men (though, truly, I don't find myself attracted to men later than their mid-40s). Thank you for your advice and condolences.	/r/RedPillWives	18/04/16 03:04 AM
2	Introduction from a Literal Alpha Widow Great to read this :) Thanks.	/r/RedPillWives	18/04/16 02:46 AM
3	Introduction from a Literal Alpha Widow Hahaha! I picked the moniker quickly years ago and then ended up liking it. A rose by any other name, though... I appreciate the advice but I'm stickin' with it :)	/r/RedPillWives	18/04/16 02:46 AM
2	Introduction from a Literal Alpha Widow I definitely hope I'm not in the "sucks" category, though I do bring with myself some weird baggage of my own. Thanks, Skylar! (and your namesake gets a too-bad rap, btw ;)	/r/RedPillWives	18/04/16 02:31 AM
3	Introduction from a Literal Alpha Widow Really interesting advice - thank you Suzanne! One thing I truly have to figure out (like, asap) is if I would rather a) wait for my best possible partner or b) have children as soon as possible (tick tock!). Honestly, I flip flop between which is more important to me, I guess because I've been working on the assumption that they would have to go together. I will be mulling over this a lot in the near future.	/r/RedPillWives	18/04/16 02:26 AM
3	Introduction from a Literal Alpha Widow Thanks, PhantomDream :)	/r/RedPillWives	18/04/16 02:22 AM
3	Introduction from a Literal Alpha Widow Thank you, Tempest :) For probably two years after J. died, I measured every man against him--not men I would have been interested in romantically, just EVERY MAN. "Oh, he has eyes like J" "He's smart in the same way J. was"; "That's the complete opposite of what J. would have done"... etc. It was obviously wildly unhealthy, and it's only been the past year that I've been able to readjust my expectations and to avoid comparing other men and situations to my past husband and life situation. On my…	/r/RedPillWives	18/04/16 02:22 AM
2	Introduction from a Literal Alpha Widow Thank you, Stingray :)	/r/RedPillWives	18/04/16 02:15 AM
2	Concern about SO drinking You say he never "seems" drunk, and that his behaviour doesn't change when he's drinking. If this is true, then that is a good sign. Has he ever been in trouble with the law over the drinking (i.e., a DUI, cited for public intoxication, etc.)? Has he ever had to miss work because of his drinking? If the answers to those questions is no, then that is also a good sign in that it is somewhat under control. In that case, I would suggest leading by example, and cutting back your own drinking. You say…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/16 12:58 PM
1	How do you working women balance the longer parts of your self-care routines with your schedule? I ran into a time management thing with my workouts as well, and just learned to play around with my workout routine. A little while ago, for example, instead of working out 6-7 times a week, I cut it down to 5 times a week and just had longer/intenser workouts 2 of those days to make up for it with a rest day in between. It was actually a better move for my endurance. A lot of my runner friends who train for races, etc. run only 4-5 times a week, and get the same cardio benefits as someone who …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/16 01:23 AM
0	Boyfriend's female friends You should have a discussion with him but frame it in a way that's not you controlling him. We should never try to control our SOs. Keep it focussed on you and what you need, without giving an ultimatum. There's a difference in saying "Stop hanging out with these women or I will break up with you" and saying "I need to know I'm with a man who respects my boundaries and will not be emotionally intimate with women with whom he's had a complicated past." By framing it in the way of the latter state…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/03/16 02:14 AM
8	Boyfriend's female friends This is concerning and worrisome. Unless this is the very early stages of your relationship, this is inappropriate, just as it would be inappropriate for you to be surrounded by men for whom you used to have feelings. BF discusses our relationship intimately with them during one to one lunches This is especially worrisome and completely inappropriate. If he needs to talk about your relationship, it should be with male friends or a close family member. I would suggest you have an honest non-confr…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/03/16 10:35 AM
2	How do you ladies stay slim, what are your tips for self-discipline and weight loss... I don't have too many tips or tricks per se, but I did realise I had to make my fitness and body a priority when I kind of woke up one morning and realised I was about 15 lbs heavier than I wanted to be. I began by keeping a very strict eye on my calories, and made sure to keep it around 1400 per day, which took a lot of effort at first but then became second nature. Cutting out things like desserts, non-water beverages with meals, and eating smaller portions may or may not take a lot of will po…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/03/16 01:56 PM
3	Do you have a clean car? Hahaha! I love this question :) I no longer own a vehicle, but I'm ashamed to admit that when I did it was often pretty unclean, even when my home was spotless. There can be a huge disconnect between how clean a person is at home and their car. When I get my next car, though, I'm going to keep it sparkling though... really....	/r/RedPillWomen	22/03/16 07:05 AM
2	Hypothetically, if there are two equally gorgeous looking girls- which kind of personality goes a long way for guys? sweet, generous and accommodating girl(pays 50/50 on dates, do nice things for guys) vs girl with sass/sexy/seductive/charismatic attitude? The comments above are pretty much on point. Just to add, though: First, a woman can be generous and also allow a man to treat her on dates. Similarly, many men feel (either consciously or subconsciously) mothered by a woman if she’s always “doing nice things” for him unasked. Second, though many men prefer “sweet and nice” girls, a man, especially a highly intelligent and educated one, can easily get bored if the woman in question is lacking in substance. Generally speaking, though, masculine m…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/03/16 06:55 AM
2	Simple Questions I wouldn't sweat it too much, really. Some men like to take things (really) slow, especially if their lives are hectic or busy. If he keeps initiating to see you, that's an absolute a good sign. Practising patience is important for this approach to dating as well - use this as an opportunity! Being patient is not being a doormat. That said, I would recommend definitely staying busy, and remaining open to other offers -- after all, he's obviously not REALLY serious about being exclusive at this p…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/03/16 01:28 PM
1	Is it always ill-advised to initiate contact? Well, here's an update! I did hear from him after all last week. He actually seemed rather eager to meet up, so we made plans to go out a couple of nights ago for dinner and a couple of drinks. Though I had a really great time, and he seemed to, too, the way the evening ended and our subsequent texting told me that he's really more interested in sex than anything, unless I really misread things. Disappointing. :(	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/16 03:24 PM
5	Caring too much about those outside of the relationship. I’m sorry you’re suffering like this. You seem to have a lot going on, and a lot of issues you need to work through. You've framed the main issue as a need to get validation for all aspects of your life, but this seems to be a symptom of a complete lack of self-confidence, which seems exacerbated by other major aspects of your life seeming out of control. And, well, since you came here for advice, I'm going to throw a whole lot of different advice at you! The good news is, it seems a lot of thes…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/16 10:17 AM
1	Is it always ill-advised to initiate contact? Our mutual friend is quite literally on the other side of the world right now and will be for a few weeks... but thank you for your input :) I am not going to fret anymore!	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/16 01:08 AM
1	Is it always ill-advised to initiate contact? I have noticed I get a LOT more active attention when I've been in New York or LA compared to, well, almost everywhere else. It kind of shocked me at first.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/16 01:05 AM
1	Is it always ill-advised to initiate contact? Hmm... slightly different perspective here. Thank you :)	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/16 01:04 AM
1	Is it always ill-advised to initiate contact? now he thinks of her as a desperate sexual prospect Ew! OK, message received. Thanks :)	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/16 01:03 AM
1	Is it always ill-advised to initiate contact? It was fairly vague; we just figured out what day(s) could probably work for us.. Thanks for your input :)	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/16 12:29 AM
1	Is it always ill-advised to initiate contact? Thank you for that :) Do you think it changes anything that when my friend asked him if he was single/looking/dating, his response was that he was single and looking for a relationship, not really into casual dating?	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/16 09:40 AM
-1	Following the Red Pill Path I thought your "(clueless)" bit was a little more poetic. It's apparently been a mix of up and downvotes. I know - I'm surprised too!	/r/TheRedPill	17/01/15 10:51 PM