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| 24 | "Horsegirl" is a feminist issue - why girls benefit from handling horsesI think horse girl signals "high maintenance girl in low maintenance coat" because technically she's outdoors with this large animal and all kinds of dirt, hay, splinters, and smells, and she likes it, but at the same time, she probably has money, confidence, standards, discipline, and class. When she's on a horse, she's literally above you and she's used to being at that stature. She knows she's capable of taking care of an entire living thing, how could she possibly be impressed by a boy who c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 06:15 PM |
| 18 | A mantra that might be helpful for when we fall back into old ways of thinking...I was doing a journaling course and one of the exercises was to come up with a mantra. I couldn't think of one, so thanks for this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 05:26 PM |
| 51 | Another example of how men will only be decent to women they find attractivemore like 7s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:56 AM |
| 13 | Sometimes it just makes me want to cry.*slams entire hand down on the report button* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:52 AM |
| 10 | Woman Has Removed Over 300 Hooks From Sharks' MouthsBack in the day there was an April Fools story about a female great white becoming very friendly with a fisherman that saved her (which I only found out was an April Fools article when I looked it up just now) but at the time it made me wonder if it were really possible that sharks with their cold dead fish eyes could really recognize individuals and have gratitude. Turns out it's very possible: https://www.vox.com/2015/7/6/8900069/shark-week-2015 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:51 AM |
| 2 | This is how women are silenced today - so afraid of being called "that lady" aka the K word that she's afraid to send an email to her kid's school!I guess it depends on what you're experiencing day-to-day. I'm in the asian community, so I see more news about racist attacks and more comments about karens harassing asians or calling the cops on blacks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:31 AM |
| 9 | This is how women are silenced today - so afraid of being called "that lady" aka the K word that she's afraid to send an email to her kid's school!As a woman of color, I see calling racist white women karen as comparable to calling a pickme a pickme. Especially after nearly half of white women helped vote in the pussy grabber in 2016. I do see internet trolls calling critics karens to get a rise out of them, but internet trolls are like that with everything. Other than that, it's been consistently a label for racists. I have not seen a headline calling a black, asian, or indigenous woman a karen. The reason that karens get a special label … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:50 PM |
| 15 | What kind of dumbass neckbeard neggs Azealia Banks online?! LMAO!It's the anti "begone t h o t" and it's beautiful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 04:01 PM |
| 22 | Tell me about the time you were the “dream girl”He proposed in elementary school. Walked me to my locker in high school. Helped me study for Chem ostensibly to return the favor for my mom helping his dad find work. Made 2 attempts to convince me to go to prom with him. After college, dropped hints about wanting to try my cooking (he said it in a weird way that rubbed me the wrong way but I don't remember exactly what it was) or work together in a private practice (ahem family practice). I got tired of him doing everything to position himself … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 09:09 PM |
| 49 | my therapist "not all men'd" me"HVM will understand" this is true. I remember reading an article by a man for men on not being a creep that was basically trying to drill into his readers' heads that they need to understand the woman is taking a risk and if a man wants to date her, he needs to anticipate her safety concerns and put her at ease (e.g. don't offer to get water for her because that's what a creep would do to slip something into her drink). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 06:48 PM |
| 22 | Why are scrotes allowed to steal women's photos to makeup shame?I think someone else mentioned that some of the pics were for wedding makeup. Also, some women like makeup and some don't. Just like how different women favor different styles of dress. To say that she's covering her face up because she doesn't realize she's naturally beautiful is to assume she must be doing it to please someone else. Maybe she is, but let's not assume that, there are already men making those kinds of assumptions and we are better than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 06:04 AM |
| 6 | When you finally get into your FIRST healthy relationship...This was me almost 5 years ago!It's not the video guy's voice or it is? I get that TikTok does that lipsync thing but when it's not a super meme-y vid and more of a skit, it just seems like ripping off. Not that I care about Rahul, he clearly has issues from how he keeps casting himself as a super perfect boyfriend in a way that is oddly reminiscent of virtue signalers, but it's weird to me that someone would lipsync an entire skit so closely and even use the same head towel schtick to represent the girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 05:47 AM |
| 27 | When you finally get into your FIRST healthy relationship...This was me almost 5 years ago!Isn't this Rahul? I mean different guy but that's Rahul's schtick and probably his voice too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 09:25 PM |
| 33 | From the same post I shared earlier, in the comments... Pickmesha back at it again with the promoting painful and degrading sex acts for men's sake.I agree. Please disengage with LV people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 09:13 PM |
| 31 | Dating for the first time in a while and need adviceIt's important when dating that you are able to trust your own judgment. If you aren't, that means youre still experiencing the effects of abuse and have healing work to do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:30 AM |
| 24 | Posts about male/female privilege on popular sub. TW: horrifically misogynistic, racist and hateful. This *really* is their perspective; and it's frightening AF.Same, I feel like I should be offended but instead I'm just confused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:28 AM |
| 8 | Article on Vice about FDS is laughably inaccurateI already have them blacklisted from my news aggregator feeds from when I heard about the Naomi Wu incident. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 12:28 AM |
| 34 | "Would you punch a woman in the face for 1 billion dollars?"Yeah, I'm pretty sure they started out with the dad making snarky comments when she sang pop songs or something | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 04:30 AM |
| 34 | OK Groomer: M(37) Wants to Marry Girl (19F) He Used to Take to School.At least the husband is doing something about it and reaming out the pedophile instead of oh my, what to do, how to be supportive?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 10:08 AM |
| 9 | An Ideal relationshipI'm reading this as "funny girl partnered with non-narcissistic boy" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 06:48 PM |
| 24 | Imagine playing the cool girl for a guy who talks about you like this. This is not an appropriate Valentine's date and I hope she leaves before they get marriedI saw that too! I was like, excuse you, WHAT? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 11:19 PM |
| 32 | I found this thing called MDS.I may be am optimist but this is what I think: Honestly, if a guy actually follows this, like if he actually starts cleaning up his shit, cooks, works out, and levels up his friendships, and actually keeps that up, it's going to turn things around for him by a lot. And when he sees how well it works, sure, some guys might feel like, "ugh it sucks that we have to perform all this to get respect," but some guys might realize, "all this time I spent feeling sorry for myself with my old friends when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 11:15 PM |
| 10 | Organised Religion is the patriarchy’s weapon. The tenements are written by men for men, to help keep women under - and we willingly bow our heads and slip our own necks in the yoke. Look at the things you are taught criticallyIt's really stupid that the story is being taught this way because Nathan the prophet clearly rebuked David, not Bathsheba. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Organised Religion is the patriarchy’s weapon. The tenements are written by men for men, to help keep women under - and we willingly bow our heads and slip our own necks in the yoke. Look at the things you are taught criticallyThe Bible often makes exceptions because it's not really about the rules but about living in faith and striving to honor the values God has at heart. Religious teachers have a habit of emphasizing the rules that make them look good / that are easy for them to follow, and de-emphasizing the virtues and principles and priorities that God actually values. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 10:43 PM |
| 5 | You ladies need to watch this movie! So chilling, so triggering, so relatable and so so so well done but also heartbreaking!! This is why FDS is important! They also shaded libfem with the whole men wanting a good girl and anal. 100/10 must watch!I would say so? It doesn't depict rape but it does show the Nice Guys who take home Fake Drunk Cassie and what they try to do to her, and it was disturbing to watch, although it was filmed in a way that made it look awkward and gross and unsettling instead of how most movies sexualize assault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 07:15 AM |
| 5 | You ladies need to watch this movie! So chilling, so triggering, so relatable and so so so well done but also heartbreaking!! This is why FDS is important! They also shaded libfem with the whole men wanting a good girl and anal. 100/10 must watch!I feel like a far better ending would have been her dumping the guy, showing up to the wedding blasting that video to everyone, I have to categorically disagree. If she did that, it would be an insult to Nina to be used as just another tool for Cassie's revenge, and it would also drag Nina's family into it. Yes, the only party that should be ashamed are the groom and the bystanders but imagine if it went viral and Nina's mom was going about her business when suddenly her feeds and the news she f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 07:11 AM |
| 15 | I watched " Promising Young Woman " last night, has anyone seen it? Would love to discuss *Spoiler AlertI disagree, I think Emerald Fennell intentionally went for the justice limp dick, because the whole point is that nobody wins, because predatory men and enabling culture forces a situation where you can't win. After watching Taken too many times, I started to see the revenge fantasy genre for the lie it really is. The male revenge fantasy is for weak Joe Schmo's to live vicariously through hyper masculine antiheroes. The female revenge fantasy is just useless escapism with an individualistic mes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:49 AM |
| 2 | Went to see Promising Young Woman. People were laughing, and by “people” I mean women.I'm so confused, people laughed during that scene? That's so strange. I'm not even sure it's pickme-ism, like you'd have to be really disturbed. I'm thinking maybe people who find extremely dark morbid humor funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:34 AM |
| 3 | The Rule of Fuck Yes or NoI would start with her book. And, I won't say that you have to do this but the way her system works, you're supposed to start with your home, and with your clothes, because the first step is learning to listen for the spark or thrill and for most people, it's easiest to recognize with your clothes. Also, she believes it's important to do this in daylight, and to be mindful without distractions, which I think she's onto something, especially because sometimes it's hard to recognize the difference… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:11 PM |
| 4 | This New York Times article might have confirmed my belief in the patriarchy. Are you fucking kidding me.... there is NO SHORTAGE OF SPERM!!!It was so creepy yow he squeezed past that one couple into their house. Also, that he sometimes does "natural fertilization," he said half the time but looking at him, I doubt it 🙄 I'm horrified that women are letting him do this to them at all. I also have… questions… about the couple that has several kids. Only two adults and a whole brood of toddlers between them? I have concerns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 11:10 AM |
| 23 | She's strong on her boundaries, but asking reddit for advice is asking for pornsick losers to chastise her for having themOK, but just to be clear, that's not the FDS way. It's considered a waste of a HVW's time and energy to try to "teach LVM a lesson". I can concede that an argument could be made for sometimes it being difficult to leave without a final Take That, or I've heard of women using cheating to get herself dumped (so that instead of him coming after her when she tries to leave, he leaves her willingly). Of course the most important thing is to do what you gotta do to get yourself outta there. But in ter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 09:04 AM |
| 7 | Really?What the, it got removed for being untruthful? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:08 AM |
| 37 | She's strong on her boundaries, but asking reddit for advice is asking for pornsick losers to chastise her for having themI actually disagree. i think should just leave. He knew her policy and he couldn't live up to it. It's her turn to put her money where her mouth is or else he (and she herself) will know her standards are unenforceable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 07:47 AM |
| 25 | The Rule of Fuck Yes or No"konmari, but swear a little" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 07:43 AM |
| 25 | Yang Li, a stand-up comedian in China, tells jokes about men and their egos, suggesting that some men had an unwarranted confidence. “How can he look so average and still have so much confidence?” An attempt to censor her followed.Link, if you understand Chinese: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8JgWQIE4p3g Imperfect attempt at translation below: 0:09 "Just like last year, I'm still single. Isn't this too long to be single?? I feel like after this, life for me can be said to be worse. I really don't understand why I would be single for so long! I feel that maybe a lot of men misunderstood me. They feel like I'm just talking onstage all day every day, they get the feeling that I'm very savage, as if I really enjoy roasting … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 01:32 PM |
| 14 | "He knows if you're the one within a day/week/month of meeting/dating you." Propaganda or reality?This actually makes sense to me. In 2019 I started noticing that I could tell from a gut feeling what was going to happen with a date. It helped me with some of my issues with physical touch (I once accidentally dodged a hug that I had actually given explicit permission for). Actually there were like two parts to it. There's one part that feels almost psychic, where a thought pops into my head about how long I will see the guy, which I can't really explain away as subconsciously reading body lan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 10:41 AM |
| 69 | The men who police women's spaces then get their boxers in a twist.Wasn't/isn't it a thing where men would post shit like "Women can have equal treatment if they're OK with men being allowed to hit women" like bro you're not even supposed to hit other men, why is this the first place your mind goes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 10:22 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on this?I agree that she's on that cusp. Like she still thinks it's technically possible for a man to change for a woman, but I think with "if it's not you, it's not you" she's trying to say that there's no point in trying and making an effort to be The One. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Porn is empowering though, right? Of course a lot of comments say NTA. I feel so sorry for the cousin's kids.I think OP stated that the kids weren't there. Not that it makes OP not LV and catty but she didn't expose the kids to the situation. She could've done one better and snapped back in private later on but idk, I feel like the cousin deserved to be slapped in public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 07:36 PM |
| 19 | Porn is empowering though, right? Of course a lot of comments say NTA. I feel so sorry for the cousin's kids.Op's pornsick older brother came across it 10 years ago and thought it'd be soo funny to share with OP | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 07:28 PM |
| 10 | Porn is empowering though, right? Of course a lot of comments say NTA. I feel so sorry for the cousin's kids.I checked the post and comment history and it looks legit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 07:26 PM |
| 25 | I really hope his gf leaves him over this. How is she not supposed to take that personally? Of course he won't answer the question.Miss 27F dodged a bullet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:38 PM |
| 18 | His comment may be satirical but it doesn’t sit down well at all!The caption does kind of recolor it as satire, for me, but it's so poorly executed and, well, good satire leaves you feeling like, "YEEES CALLED OUT, IT NEEDED TO BE SAID," and this left me feeling like, "… ok but was this necessary? what's the message here?" Like if he added a line e.g. "meanwhile, I [insert description of embarrassing and possibly hypocritical behavior]," it might have been salvaged by sharpening the focus on calling out self-hating racist assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:33 PM |
| 20 | This one speaks for itself...He's LV. First, he makes it clear in that first paragraph that he's not willing to act on his self awareness. Second, people always act how they think other people behave. For him to say that most men are unwilling to change, even though what he says is true, the fact that he believes that means there's a strong chance that he uses that to excuse himself from being better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:16 PM |
| 25 | All the pick me’s in the comments agree.. meanwhile I can’t be bothered to raise a grown man. NextI mean, it's true that LVM don't appreciate wifey level support | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:07 PM |
| 25 | A bad case of pickmeisha disease!I take that back. I think she's parodying posts by women who describe what they think they deserve from a man, based on the bit about the haircut. So, still a pickme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:04 PM |
| 26 | A bad case of pickmeisha disease!I get the vibe that she's parodying pickme posts too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:02 PM |
| 9 | Let men do lots of things for you and don't feel bad about itIf you pay a HVM back, he takes that as a hint you're not interested and will back off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 11:02 PM |
| 11 | Where is the lie?Darn it, this rings a bell but not a very loud bell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 10:32 PM |
| 6 | Friend and I are going to have a distanced Xmas and watch movies together over a streaming app. Any good recommendations for movies that feature awesome women?The Post. The Heat. Elizabeth. Or actually anything with Cate Blanchett (including LOTR—not a lot of women but the ones who are definitely got a powerup from the books). Shrek. The 8th Star Wars film. The Spy Who Dumped Me. Devil Wears Prada. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:50 AM |
| 10 | He was a translator on a trip. I met him only once for a few hours and we spoke on the phone once. This is the 4th man I have met while travelling that has professed “feelings” in hopes of financial gain. It’s getting predictable and disgusting to see that men try to use women/me this way.I would've started getting curt with him as soon as he dropped that "behave good". It's such a twisted way to act cute. Like excuse you, I'm the money. You're the one whose job is to behave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:21 PM |
| 8 | What are our thoughts on social media?I think if a guy is currently active on social media, he should change his status (fb) or casually mention as appropriate. He doesn't have to go out of his way to show me off but he should clearly refer to me as his girlfriend. None of that "This guy! / This girl!" vague nonsense where people manage to simultaneously show off their relationships and be vague about whether it's platonic or romantic. If he's not active on social media, then that's also good, maybe better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:03 PM |
| 9 | What are our thoughts on social media?I'd probably push it back at least a couple days after going official, so (hypothetically) we would have time to tell our good friends first. It's always kinda weird to find out things from social media from somebody you thought you were closer to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 09:54 PM |
| 6 | every time"You joke, but also this definitely literally happened" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 02:54 AM |
| 10 | I struggled to hold my dinner.."Hey TikTok, I heard your algorithm bumps down ugly people, and I just wanted to make sure you were aware of this one" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 05:58 PM |
| 51 | I’m not sure if this was posted already, but no one seemed to think this was sick.As if it were a man period or something | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 05:29 PM |
| 31 | KiNkS dOnT HurT aNyone!!1 🤡I know, it's like, if it's sooo hard for you to stay sexually faithful when we're not even married, then what, do you expect me to be in a marriage where I'm just supposed to look away while my husband uses other women for his kinks? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Don’t give men your time when they have nothing to offerMy God you're right—she has another video where she straight up uses an LA girl voice, and other videos where she starts out talking with almost no accent before she gets into it. I think her mom is Russian though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 08:33 PM |
| 5 | Results of my informal Online Dating studyYou might be surprised how many of them think that they can just say "oh I forgot to update that" because they feel their foot is already in the door | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 09:08 AM |
| 178 | Don’t give men your time when they have nothing to offerYeah. Well, maybe she means that Russian men don't bullshit with the "I'm just being nice" and they're just straight up aggressive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:52 AM |
| 4 | Results of my informal Online Dating studyIt's the stupidest trick in the book, because obviously women will find out that he lied WHEN HE TELLS THEM and they'll unmatch. Like bro what did you think was gonna happen?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 11:15 PM |
| 19 | After yesterday’s brain cancer post, where are all the men calling him selfish for wanting to abandon her in her time of need. Their double standards are so fucking transparent.This post is gonna give US brain cancer eugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 05:13 AM |
| 13 | We got a pickme, we got an agegap, we have a scrote who leaves parenting to the mommy bangmaid-this one has it all!I'm guessing she uploaded the wrong screenshot | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 05:11 AM |
| 27 | So many d***s on AITA today (they're OPs or dudes mentioned in the post). Have arranged from least terrible to the worst of the worst. Six posts and I had to take a break. Why are these men even in relationships??? Break-down of each in comments.6 "right now I'm friendless" Uh, form a squad with the other ex-girlfriends. Boom, friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 01:29 AM |
| 24 | This libfem meme directed at us so-called SWERFs makes me sad. :(A lot of these aren't even things we say on FDS, like I've never seen anyone in this community say, "get a real job," in reference to a prostitute. We don't glorify it, but we don't shit on abused women either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 01:06 AM |
| 11 | A man thanks the wrong author for writing his wife's new favorite book even though her name is clearly written on the book coverYeah, if he had sincere intentions to try to show his appreciation, he would've taken that extra half second to get the author right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 07:26 PM |
| 9 | how do you deal with your own ‘imposter syndrome’ while dating?You need to question your ideas about what makes someone worthy of a relationship, and your ideas about what being in a relationship says about someone. Society feeds us a lot of invalid theories about relationships, and when we try to twist the observed facts to fit those theories, it messes us up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 07:20 PM |
| 13 | What an amazing story!Thanks for the link | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 06:29 AM |
| 150 | bUt THaT woULd bE AwESoMePetition to add fuckzoned to FDS terminology (and wait for it to be picked up by TikTokers, and spread through the internet). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:44 AM |
| 61 | Guy continually pees in bathtub or shower instead of toilet, tries to blame adhd, gets angry at his girlfriend for calling him out, and doesn't even say sorry for it. Just things scrotes do.On the left, we see a boy with a unibrow, neck stubble, and possibly lip incompetence. On the right we see a doppelganger of a younger Elliott Page from their Juno days. How do these things happen? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 11:52 PM |
| 10 | Since it’s my cake dayI hope you laughed in his face | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 08:29 PM |
| 3 | This is a great gestureLike it's one thing when it's the receiving party that posts it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 07:46 PM |
| 16 | This is a great gestureIt's kinda weird that he turned it into a social media thing though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 06:02 PM |
| 63 | They don't care what you wantDon't teach your standards to men, just enforce them. Otherwise you got Mr. Passive Aggressive there going to pretend to be HVM at other women and tricking them into giving him the time of day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 08:55 AM |
| 171 | Guys need to stop being comfortable about things that don’t affect them....🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:59 AM |
| 42 | The guy “friend” who secretly likes youYeah, not a friend 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:51 AM |
| 7 | A small one, but a red flag nonethelessThis has happened to me and it never occurred to me before to to flag that! And you're right, he was an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:06 AM |
| 3 | She did the right thing and she's doubting herselfTrue | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 09:04 PM |
| 28 | She did the right thing and she's doubting herselfThe boyfriend is sus (history of cheating on past FIANCEE, big age gap, on top of this event) but the best friend is probably just dumb. The fact that she posted it on social media, which she must have known OP would see, makes it sound like she wasn't thinking how this would look. Someone in the comments mentioned "groundwork" and I can definitely see an older man with a history of cheating putting the moves on the friend before the friend actually developed any interest. All he'd have to say i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:52 PM |
| 19 | Hi Queens👑! This is the 3rd baking I am sharing here! Made a cake for myself to outgrow all the birthdays my absent, narcissist father never celebrated throughout these 21 years, as my therapy of nearly two years is coming to a smooth completion this year.If this is "not your best", your best must be off the charts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:07 PM |
| 9 | Men as always excusing their objectification of women by claiming they are "visual creatures"Just last week a guy friend in his mid 20s told me he'd like to date an older woman if she'd let him. Old man, just because you don't appreciate women your age, doesn't mean that's "just facts". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 07:04 AM |
| 15 | Do most men even know what love is?I think people on dating apps in general talk more about what they want, but for different reasons. There was an earlier example someone posted where a woman on Tinder had all her rules listed on her profile. I think women are trying to avoid the people they don't want to date, while men are hoping that the app will spit up a list of women who meet their dream specifications. That said, I do want to say that there are good ones out there, however rare they may be. When my dad's friend started da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 07:01 AM |
| 6 | Saw this on twitter - Hinge date puts woman's pictures through an analyzer online to "check if she is actually attractive," tells her her "forehead is too big," then tries to secure a hang out next weekPM me too please | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:54 PM |
| 10 | Geographical dating advice?Columbus Ohio had the highest rating by women last year. https://www.apartmentlist.com/renter-life/best-metros-for-dating-2020 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 01:57 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Go with your gut on it. I think there are situations where it could be platonic, but you should never risk it, not when there are more men out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 12:32 PM |
| 21 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020She deserves the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 12:19 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I'm not a fan of how this dreamboat is giving you preferential attention. If I had to say, he's the one being wishy-washy here. Clearly he's not compatible with his girlfriend, yet he's being "loyal" to her, yet he's giving you perfume and stuff (why does he have it if his gf doesn't wear it?), which sounds really odd to me. I don't really know what's going on with you but my gut thinks you could use a closer look at your happily married situation. Your husband seems to have some issues with hyg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 12:16 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Have you tried a social media cleanse? Of course on reddit, you have FDS, but you clearly also have all the LVMs on reddit and that's really not what you need right now. On the one hand, it is super hard to deal with it alone, if that's how you would feel without reddit to vent on, but on the other hand, it might be even harder to deal with, with the LVM horde in your DMs hitting you while you're down, with their worthless opinions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 11:48 AM |
| 11 | This is a fresh look compared to the horrendous bios written by LVM’s.Well, it's not like they can't see everything else on here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 11:42 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Since every situation is different, all I can say is don't try to force it and make sure you're creating room for other thoughts about other things. As long as you have that, it will come with time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 11:38 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020What is the FemaleDSVerified sub / what is it for? (e.g. mod discussions?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 11:32 AM |
| 27 | Have you ever experience having disturbance in your monthly cycles with you were with an LVM/NVM?After I broke up with a toxic situationship, my cycle went off the rails for a few months, a super short one followed by a suuper long one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 09:58 AM |
| 82 | Seriously can anyone explain why so many women put up with this toxic male bull shit?She's… joking… right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:41 AM |
| 366 | This is a fresh look compared to the horrendous bios written by LVM’s.I get why she's doing this but to me she's kind of teaching LVM how to perform. And if she thinks this is going to stop LVM from matching with her, ha, most of them don't read anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:55 AM |
| 5 | Sister let her bum druggie bf scream and insult me unprompted and she’s defending it. Am I over dramatic in wanting to totally disown her?Maybe you got confused by the double negatives but u/Pitiful-Implement is saying she agrees with you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 11:42 PM |
| 42 | He mad as hell!!! LMFAOOOOThis makes me laugh because flexing designer stuff just goes right over my head. I have little knowledge and therefore no appreciation for luxury items, and therefore can't be impressed. Even if I did appreciate luxury, I have a MVM friend that's the kind of rich that ACTUALLY DOES get gold diggers trying to latch on. Watch or belt? LMAO, my boy here has several luxury cars in multiple countries and a personal assistant that's on call 24/7, and you don't see me chasing him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 08:17 AM |
| 8 | A hidden benefit to firmly slapping down LVM behaviorIt seems like he was originally "seemingly nice" so what I'm wondering is if your sister really knows that he's more respectful now or if he's taking an interest in your sister and trying to preempt her finding out from you that he was an asshole. That whole "Idk why but your sister seems to hate me" line sounds like he's setting up for an "ohh, I didn't know she thought I said that about her, I never said that, someone must have made it up" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 07:13 AM |
| 3 | I'm sick of media normalizing huge age gapsHey now, one of my good friends was my grandma-aged English professor. We hit it off because I was interested in pre-vet studies and her husband is a vet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 07:03 AM |
| 43 | When you give all that wife energyseriously! Take a hint and take a hike, he's not going to come around | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:14 AM |
| 16 | Oh my sweet brainwashed summer child… Communication is not a vaccine against catching feelings from someone who wants to roleplay being a boyfriend without the commitment.Gag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 02:30 AM |
| 130 | The tradcon guide for the modern womanI cleaned up after a party once, but the only opinion I cared about was the birthday girl's mom's. I didn't see anybody else (cough, dad) around to help. I don't remember any straight guys there worth any of my time during the party, never mind after 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 01:31 AM |
| 46 | A piece of my soul died knowing she hasn't even considered leaving this shitbag.I keep telling Google News I want to see "Fewer Stories Like This" but I still see them in my feed sometimes. I know I'll be happier not knowing about this stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 01:14 AM |
| 45 | Dating is like a box of chocolatesWhy you gotta do those chocolates dirty like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:19 PM |
| 30 | Pedophile is angry his victim cheated on him and tells her mom. 11 year relationship starting when he was 18 and she was 12!😂 literally so far from each other on the keyboard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:33 PM |
| 13 | Dating is supposed to be funI think for me, if I feel like, ugh this sounds like a drag, or if I'm just vaguely unenthusiastic, then it's one of those things. But if I feel nervous or hesitant, then it's the person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:28 PM |
| 10 | 14-16 was when I got catcalled the mostUgh. When I was 12, I attended a summer program at a nearby university, and during one lunch, what looked like a team of student athletes jogged past my cousin and me. They called out, "HOW OLD ARE YOU?" I wasn't going to respond but my cousin rounded up our ages to "THIRTEEN!" so I bellowed, "TWELVE." Then they hollered back as they , "YOU'RE TOO YOUNG FOR US" as they left. I was so steamed, I ranted on Xanga about how it was no duh that we were too young and how could college guys possibly be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:17 PM |
| 23 | Always trust your gut instinct. It's not snooping, it's basically confirming your suspicions. Once again proved men ain't shit. A HVM will give you no reason to snoop. You'll always feel safe and secure.The logic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:03 PM |
| 5 | Does the number/sex of siblings a man has make a difference?I know you're saying that he looks good on paper, but even a LVM fronting as a HVM needs to temporarily act high value to even get the quotation mark "HVM". You describe this guy as refusing to empathize with anyone that he's not professionally required to be nice to, that sounds like he's a manchild more than 50% of the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Does the number/sex of siblings a man has make a difference?That's not a HVM, that's a wealthy, educated LVM. Being rich isn't in itself a HV trait, it's an indicator that someone might be financially responsible and conscientious which tends to run with high value people. But look at Trump—if his family hadn't been crazy rich to begin with (and if he hadn't had income from The Apprentice to cover his losses), he'd be bankrupt. And he's an entitled dickhead with no integrity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:39 PM |
| 11 | The Holidays are Coming: You dont need to buy him a Gift or show up with himI saw this post from a group I'm in: a girl literally bought a bunch of Pokemon toys and turned them into a Christmas bouquet for her bf. It was really cute but she didn't say anything about how he treats her so I have unspoken questions… I don't want to assume, because loads of people like the cutesier Pokemon without playing the actual game a lot, but the question of whether he puts this same effort hangs in the air. Also reminded me of one time I learned about this tradition from my parents' … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:15 PM |
| 154 | The comments on this are so sad...That last one… She knows what to do, she's just worried that she won't be able to find a better one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 09:03 AM |
| 27 | To barbara the builders this is your future, the minute he is better off you are disposed off as used cumrag for whatever reason.*and muster the audacity to do what I wanted to do but was scared to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 09:02 AM |
| 56 | To barbara the builders this is your future, the minute he is better off you are disposed off as used cumrag for whatever reason."thank you to everyone who validated my opinion so I could feel less bad about being a judgmental dickhead" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 09:00 AM |
| 23 | Love when men stalk your reddit profile just to comment abusive stuff on all your posts because you post here. It only further proves our point!LMAO I JUST LOOKED AND HIS CHOCOLATE FOUNTAIN COMMENT REFERENCES BEING A FLAT EARTHER . I bet money he doesn't mean a single word he's saying and shitposting comments is just how he amuses himself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:57 AM |
| 28 | Love when men stalk your reddit profile just to comment abusive stuff on all your posts because you post here. It only further proves our point!Foodology LMAO there's no way he doesn't know she knows he's trolling Unless he IS that stupid, in which case tell him he better ask for a refund because he got scammed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:54 AM |
| 12 | A tale from the vault: The one time my narc ex ate poisonous berries right after I told him they were poisonous and he blamed me when he got raging diarrhea 🤦♀️Ohh gotcha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:05 PM |
| 111 | A tale from the vault: The one time my narc ex ate poisonous berries right after I told him they were poisonous and he blamed me when he got raging diarrhea 🤦♀️Girl, don't lie, you were already laughing when it was happening 😂 It has never been and will never be not funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:30 PM |
| 3 | Made me roll my eyes, more like 🙄🙄🙄Not a man, a pick me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:26 PM |
| 23 | 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄In general, a woman would have to be remarkably stupid to level false accusations because victims get a lot of blowback, speculation about what they were wearing, bullying from the rapist's friends/fans, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:57 PM |
| 4 | Best thing I’ve seen all weekEarly last year, a date took me to a bar (for a concert), and while we were waiting for the concert to start, I felt something strike my bum. I'm not totally sure if it were on purpose or not because there WAS a large crowd milling around but no one said sorry or excuse me. It took me a second to react and think to look around, and I didn't see anyone look back at me, so I'll never know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:07 AM |
| 10 | The Labor of the HolidaysI would argue the opposite, that it can't be socialization because your father clearly tried to socialize your brothers to be like him and failed beautifully. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:44 PM |
| 15 | My ex asked me for a divorce for bullshit reasons that prove exactly how low value his priorities are. I filed the petition, and now he's not sure he wants it, when faced with being alone and losing my assets + income. My response included, and his first "breakup" text.For a hot minute I forgot what boxing was and thought it was some kind of volunteer activity like gift wrapping for Operation Christmas Child | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:33 PM |
| 6 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Some of us just have that energy. Guys throwing themselves at me have been few and far between but that doesn't mean they didn't want to, they were scared. I'm not just saying that to twist the facts to suit the theory, either. One man told me that if it weren't for our mutual friend (she kept setting us up with the good ol' invite-and-ditch maneuver), he never would've dared to ask me out, because I gave off really strong rejection vibes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 12:02 AM |
| 8 | This is hilarious. She took the opportunity and nailed it.Yeah, it's a good thing. LOL She snapped back using a men's hashtag, which as I'm sure you know, is usually used to try to invalidate the voices of Me Too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 10:12 PM |
| 6 | This is hilarious. She took the opportunity and nailed it.You see at the bottom where it says, "You are an enemy to all men"? She responded with "Not all men." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 10:04 PM |
| 3 | How my dogs made me realise some guys suck.Oh my God that ending. I thought you were gonna say your staffie growled at him or something but no, he decided to be gloriously extra. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 05:01 PM |
| 10 | How my dogs made me realise some guys suck.He wasn't always that sassy, though. Like one time when I was really tired studying, he asked me to follow him (by whining, taking a step and then looking back over his shoulder). I said, where do you want to go? And then he led me to my bed, sat, and pointed (with his nose). I don't know if your dog will be like this, but mine used a lot of meaningful eye contact and nose-pointing to talk to me and let me know what he wanted, so that might be something to keep in mind. I've never had another do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 05:50 AM |
| 15 | How my dogs made me realise some guys suck.I hope your doorknobs are actual knobs and not handles because mine would use his teeth to turn them. He also had what us asians call princess disease. "I'm tired of this food. Buy me a better one." "I'm not stepping on wet grass to relieve myself. The fact that it's raining is your problem, not mine." "This is an interesting movie but you know what's more interesting? My handsome face." *Hears camera shutter * *Sprints up the stairs, lies down next to the other dog and—I can't make this up—pose… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 05:22 AM |
| 75 | How my dogs made me realise some guys suck.It's not just the protection. A fair number of dogs have a great instinct for people and will tell you things about their mental state that you might not realize yourself. I had a handsome white shepherd that kept trying to, ah, forcibly evict a housemate who turned out to be a real asshole. -edit- pets, not just dogs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 04:05 AM |
| 37 | My heart broke reading this. Stories like this are why we vet ruthlessly, and why we block and delete at the first sign of disrespect. I cannot imagine wasting 30 years of my life with a man who would risk letting me die because he's too lazy and selfish to take me to the hospital.A few comments tried to gently call her out on her hypocrisy of telling others to get out while refusing to allow anyone else to say the same to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 03:38 AM |
| 55 | LVM: the “poor me, I fucked up, I feel so bad!” Routine!Reminded me of this tumblr post where the users discussed how it was a manipulative tactic in different ways, and how they've addressed it. Whether he's wallowing or being sarcastic, he's trying to shift the focus off of his responsibility for himself and making it a you problem. One user shocked her ex by telling him that yes, he was being a bad boyfriend (and implied that he shaped up, but she broke up with him later over something else, so feel free to skip straight to the breakup instead). L… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Law enforcement declines to charge women for killing a man that was attacking their daughter/sister.Right up to the question at the end, that was my understanding of the comment. It's just that punchline that threw me off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:19 PM |
| 72 | If you haven't already heard of this, I thought you might be interested. "She is not your rehab."This is super cool. LVM use childhood as an excuse for bad behavior, HVM use it as inspiration to fight for a better future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:54 PM |
| 24 | If it isn't working out, a true HVM will break up with you swiftly and respectfullyI feel kind of sad about things not working out with HVM but I think instead of saying that it's a pity, the mindset should be that we should be surrounding ourselves with HV people, men and women, so that HVM are just normal to us and not a rare commodity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Law enforcement declines to charge women for killing a man that was attacking their daughter/sister.But that's like saying, "Between an apple and an orange, which one tastes more like an orange." I'm not sure what point is being made here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:27 PM |
| 2 | Law enforcement declines to charge women for killing a man that was attacking their daughter/sister.I'm confused by this. Did you mean which world would be less oppressive for the victim? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:20 AM |
| 7 | Is it just me or there’s something off with this post? It gives me major pickme vibes. Like how can you feel this way about a guy you’ve known for two seconds??Yes. With a past situationship, towards the end I was constantly on edge and it's only now I recognize that it was my body telling me he was a dumb, unattractive POS. I was in an elevated state, always a step away from spiraling into an anxiety, sometimes even unable to tolerate my parents talking to me, for over a year until I met my ex. With my ex, I had some initial anxiety after our first date, but after talking to him a bit longer, it completely resolved, almost as if I'd never met the toxi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:39 AM |
| 9 | Thoughts on this?? I feel like he could’ve easily went to a bathroom at a restaurant, store, or gas station? People in the replies say she should give him a chance.One time, I suddenly got hit with that feeling that I was going to have diarrhea on my way to a date. I pulled into a mall parking lot, found a parking spot, half-ran, half-hobbled into the building, and relieved myself in one of the restrooms on a toilet. I don't know what this dude is on, but he wasn't trying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:36 AM |
| 6 | How to juggle menAdding to this, it's not like you're on a date with a committed relationship, so "friend" isn't really a lie. I think we've all been introduced to a "friend" at one point or another that was actually a date that hadn't gone official yet, it's really the polite way to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 03:59 AM |
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