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Thank you, I had forgotten about that rule. Refreshing reading. Also enjoyed reading By far the most asked question on AskTRP: "Should I get back with my ex?". Why the answer should always be a resounding HELL NO. and FR: Always respect Iron Rule #7; know when your relationship is finished, don't dig the garbage. I don't want to get back with my ex. I am not masochistic enough, thanks. That being said, I will not answer her with a plain NO but set my price for garbage-fucking her : she first sig…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/17 10:10 PM
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OYS #2 OYS #1 was a misnamed FR, 8 months ago tl;dr married for 20 years, separated for 4 months and divorce procedure in good progress ; enjoying single life but for major religious obstacle ; and future ex-wife told me yesterday she'd like us to become sex friends ; WTF! Physical 1.86 m (6'1''), 79 kg (174 lbs), ~15%BF, 40+ years old Following diet with MyFitnessPal app (calorie counting). Practicing bodyweight fitness 3 times a week following startbodyweight.com routine ; achieved dragon flag…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/17 04:18 PM
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And I am taking care of the kids when they sleep and their mother goes clubbing. That´s on weekends so I am home and not at work.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 07:53 PM
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Thanks for this nice summary + comment. Really on point. Legal advice given to me : do not separate while working hundreds of kilometers from home buy yourself enough time so that you can find a job closer to home and find it ASAP (done) move back home with new job (very soon) revive daily daddy time with kids (homework and dinner) find a new home for rent less than 30 minutes away from kids school tell your wife you'll move there three weeks later WITH the kids in shared custody ; this will be …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 07:50 PM
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you're rearranging your career to move in order to fix it No, we moved back to big city so that we would not divorce in the middle of nowhere. I am rearranging my career to be with my kids. Rest of your comment is on spot. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 11:54 PM
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Asking for "reassurance" is just about the biggest chump faggot beta move you could pull. This.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 11:52 PM
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List your height/weight/BF Height : 1,86 m = 6' 1'' Weight : 80,5 kg = 177,5 lbs BF : 15% Also, you should know...not think...if you are a 5 or 6. Do you have 5 and 6s DTF right now? No? Then you are not a 5 or 6. You are less than that. I am 5.7 according to https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/37wp7l/male_smv_calculator/ but that's no exact science. And I have no game, anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 11:46 PM
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I can't find anything witty to post as an answer. Shame on me, guys. Thank you for your clarity.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 11:43 PM
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u/dandar4600 's comment was really helpful. I feel ridiculous.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 11:40 PM
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Thank you ! When we married, she told me : " I can't promise fidelity because I cheated on my ex several times but I can promise I'll sincerely do my best. " But that's not the same as thinking " I consciously and positively intend on cheating on you ". I allowed her to maintain that friendship with her ex for years until she tried to have sex with him, 10 years after our marriage. Thanks anyway, TIL about canon law.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 11:34 PM
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Sure. That's what I am considering and preparing for.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 11:23 PM
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Thank you. Ill check Dalrock.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 11:20 PM
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Correct. Telling her I needed them just fed her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 05:37 PM
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Comments ITT sound like a philharmony. You random strangers may be angels and I am rotting in the garbage fire I lightened with my rhum flask. Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 05:34 PM
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I am considering paternity tests. That would make the ultimate nuke if ever. Thanks for the question.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 05:25 PM
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Your comment is the closest ITT to my current mindset. I can shame her in front of her parents, friends and colleagues. And I want more leverage for installing shared custody before legal acts while preventing her to manipulate our kids in her frame (which is dominant). There will be a huge fight and I want to win without hurting the kids alongway. I am accumulating evidence and records I can use on last resort. But are there intermediate steps I can go through before resorting to nukes ? Anyway…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 05:23 PM
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Where did you read the Catholic church will annul a marriage in case of cheating ??? Seriously interested.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 05:06 PM
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That sounds like solid advice. Thanks. The image of a garbage fire will stick with me. This explains why it stinks so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 05:04 PM
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Thanks for caring ;-) Id wish I were a troll but Im not. Maybe just another race of monster. :( For my defense I have to say that she specifically targets one of our kids. When shouting and belittling him started (he was 4), I brought the whole family to the pedopsychiatrist and asked for help. The psychiatrist basically kicked us out saying our case was not severe enough to deserve his attention. I also started telling her to stop whenever her anger would become abusive (insults to the kid or n…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 05:01 PM
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80% of my effort and free time has been on war preparation for a couple of months. I do realize her reassurances would be of low value.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 09:41 AM
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42 toothpicks ! I am definitely an overthinker.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 09:39 AM
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His advices are limited but they do work at stopping divorces. They dont make men better leaders though.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 09:38 AM
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His book was what led me to MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 09:37 AM
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This should have been an OYS post, ok. And I am not that other user.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 09:35 AM
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I think her willingness to make new vows of fidelity is genuine. She fucked someone else only once (2 years ago). And electronic intelligence shows me she keeps dancing Chads at a distance. As if she just wanted to keep having friendzoned orbiters but no fucker (for now). But I think she may eventually hamster her way to cheating again unless I become the most awesome leader at home within the next 6 months or so. Which is a tough challenge given my absence of frame/game/mentality of abundance.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 09:32 AM
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I 99% agree with this. Where I disagree : I can perfectly see this. Despite knowing all of this, I have not left the sinking ship. Yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 09:23 AM
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My immediate goal is to buy time with the kids at home so that I can take them with me every other week if/when I move out. I am still on the edge of trying to save this shitty marriage because : The kids/fear of loosing their custody The inertia of 20 years of marriage My lack of abundance mentality/no game/no frame My christian vows and masochistic pride in sacrificing myself/not surrendering
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 09:20 AM
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Thank you !
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 06:17 AM
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Regarding ONEitis, what I feel when I front of my wife, these days, is a bit of disgust and nausea whereas I felt despair, pain and passion 2 years ago. So I think I am cured from ONEitis. Id rather spend all of my time far from her. But you must be right about the feminine imperatives thoughts and beliefs that still ring a lot to my ears : kids, vows, never-game-a-girls-heart, honor of lifelong commitment. I guess those were ground for twisted lies ingrained by my beloved mother when I grew up …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 10:42 PM
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The relationship looked even worse 2 years ago : wife asking for divorce, saying she never loved me, accusing me of willing to kill her because I was mentioning the concept of shared custody, and her cheating on me. But I did succeed at a 180 and had her ask for reconciliation (thanks to Homer McDonald). This time I think I may be able to do it again. And I dont see how thinking this would mean I cant see beyond the matrix. Quite the opposite on my opinion. Thanks to the red pill, I am OI (I thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 07:44 PM
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Oldest teenager in the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 07:03 AM
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Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 07:01 AM
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Get The what ???? I cannot hear what you say over the sound of my niceguyness ! More seriously, I am studying my real estate, legal and financial options. My exit roadmap is getting some muscle definition. It must be ready for probable action before June.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 07:00 AM
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And her being the first and only woman autistic me ever kissed, things are even worse. That being said she asked for reconciliation two years ago because I had manipulated her into suspecting I was happy to divorce and about to branch swing with some female colleague of mine. But I could not sustain this game long enough and did not know MRP by then.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 06:13 AM
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I remember the day I started leading us into this mess. We had just started living together, almost 20 years ago and I was commuting back home. And I told myself : " If I want to keep her, I really have to be more tolerant toward her psychological mess and remember I will always be walking on eggs with her. " then things went on a smooth downward spiral I kept encouraging at each and every step, while always hoping things would turn around for the best thanks to some providential/divine interven…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 06:06 AM
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Right. Ill start recording some conversations.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 05:52 AM
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I probably cant see this clearly enough when on the field or I would not leave this loopholes open. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 05:50 AM
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I may not have been precise enough when giving her the time of departure. But she knows we are 5 minutes away from the music teacher of our kid and his lesson ends at 10:30 in theory (more like 10:35 in reality). She knew it and was upset I told her I did not intend to drive twice from home to the music teacher/train station so she had to be ready on time. Then I fucked up by doing the opposite of what I said and driving her to the station.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 05:43 PM
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Sorry, I don't get if you are being sarcastic or not when answering to my doubt about covert contract. For the sake of my learning, let's suppose you were sarcastic and you mean that changing my mind was some sort of covert contract. I believe that covert contract is when you do a chore (driving her for instance) because you are expecting a reward (sex or attention for instance). In this cas, I felt guilty of not driving her because she is kind enough to drive me from the station every Friday ev…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 05:36 PM
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You are probably right (see other answer in this thread about my bluepillish small hope you are not).
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 05:29 PM
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Her vagina may be used by others. But for sure it's not been used by me for months. :) I have practiced smart (or I hope so) snooping but that tends to drive me crazily anxious. Still useful for accepting the reality of her lack of respect though. Snooping showed me no obvious current cheating proof but there's a 70% probability she cheated more than once and is getting ready for some more in the near future. Regarding her suicidal tendencies, you are right, that is mostly manipulative, especial…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 05:28 PM
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Correct. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 05:22 PM
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I call it sci-fi but I love sci-fi ! Even more when that's anticipation of real science and technology (and sex !) to come under my reach. I fully intend to start learning about to game once I reach the corresponding dread level. But I am not there yet. Regarding divorce, I started to audit our finances, to document and backup everything, to open a personal bank account and to study our budget. One challenge for me is that she has organized our finances in such a way that I may have trouble leav…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 05:21 PM
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Yep. I will probably not attempt A&A again before I first master negative assertion and negative inquiry.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 05:10 PM
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I 100% agree this is how I should see things. But there this 10% part of deep bluepillish catholic optimism in me that says maybe she will follow me in the end because she is such an anxious materialista, so she might stay long enough for me too change and her to accept my leadership. But this 10% part of optimism pollutes the clarity of my thinking because of the risk of covert contract and so on. When counting 1 month of MAP per year of marital life, that leads me to reaching dread level 7 dur…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 05:05 PM
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Roger that.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 09:31 AM
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You're 100% right. This is exactly like when dealing with the kids. I should have thought twice before defining the boundary and then stuck to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 09:31 AM
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Correct.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 09:29 AM
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I dont think changing my mind was any sort of covert contract. I expect divorce to happen soon enough. But that was definitely guilt driven and then poor execution of the WISNIFG techniques. I indeed have to read WISNIFG again and NMMNG again.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 09:28 AM
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I read NMMNG and am about to re-read it and follow the "breaking free activities". I also read MMSLP, WISNIFG, The Book of Pook, The Game (which sounds like science-fiction to me, I have zero game and that relates to my autistic implementation of STFU, too) and just finished reading Practical Female Psychology for the Pragmatic Man. But reading is not the same as interiorizing and applying properly I guess. Other actions I made since September : diet (from 87 kg down to 81 kg) with myfitnesspal …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 09:25 AM
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I do have an autistic implementation of STFU. I have read WISNIFG. I need to practice negative assertion and negative inquiry. Truth is that I am still sometimes afraid of my wife blowing up and I need to get rid of that. My AA attempt did piss her off. But I enjoyed feeling that I did not care that much (which is new). I see how changing my mind in the car was inconsistent and a bad move. I would be surprised if I don't divorce before next July. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 08:56 AM
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In case of divorce emergency, read and apply the "stop your divorce" pdf by Homer McDonald. You can buy it online or download it illegally on some torrent sites. It saved my marriage and led me to swallowing the red pill. Best of luck to your kids.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 10:24 AM
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"Stop your divorce" by Homer McDonald is short enough (about 40 pages as far as I remember) and so much relevant to its current priority that he may read it. It was key to letting me turn my divorce (and life) around. It opened my eyes and led me from deadbedrooms to the pill. It´s mostly a condensed version of marriedredpill for emergency "walk-away wife" situations.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/16 11:37 PM
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