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It’s… it’s the woods. Sometimes nature calls and in nature you must answer. Unless she intends to carry around a portapotty I’m not sure what she’s expecting people to do lmao, it’s just part of being alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 01:36 AM
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That’s definitely not how most of the people here would use it BUT if that’s the intent behind it I can actually see the appeal of the analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:56 AM
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But ultimately there is a lot of luck that goes into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:54 AM
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-compatibility If your partner has strengths that complement your weaknesses, has a personality that meshes well with yours, etc. it’s easier (and more desirable) to work through conflict. -longevity If you’ve been with someone for 3 years, you’ll be more invested in working things out than if you were together for 3 months. -codependency/toxic relationships “I can fix him/her” “I don’t know what I’d do without them” “[insert excuse here]” These are where the really outlandish stories come from:…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:54 AM
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I have to do a similar exercise daily so that my hips don’t lock up. Unpleasant, but necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:43 AM
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I think it’s a strange analogy because drinking saltwater dehydrates you. Among other reasons, of course. That one just stands out to me right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:41 AM
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Me too, fortunately Bonnie is here to be my teddy bear about it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:46 PM
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They would be if Valkyrie (big floof) hadn’t ripped into a bag of jerky last night and given me a scare until I found the drying pack thing 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:40 PM
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That’s incredible!! Genetics are wild The lil black one is a toy poodle and the big floof is a German Shepherd.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:37 PM
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WITNESS ME
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:35 PM
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Border collies are kinda the best tbf, they’ll bias you towards anything
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:32 PM
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I saw it. It was a rant about how if you can do 1+1=2 you should move to an East Asian country to bang hot STEM women lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:07 PM
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Hot
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:05 PM
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It’s hydration time! Drink some water, ya fools
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:05 PM
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Any sort of teriyaki noodle or rice dish. If teriyaki is involved, I’m sold
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:02 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/7lfkc9ci88ic1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=93c5d470ef42df804a59da38052fd16ac3fd641e
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:00 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/cwz8p58b88ic1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ddad9a4faf503d072f66a0426ff1d19b20a13d8c
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:59 PM
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👀
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:57 PM
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yoink
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:56 PM
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Hoe, if you put those numbers onto a calculator and flip the calculator upside down it looks like the word hoe.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:51 PM
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Peach Bellini hearts!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:46 PM
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I approve of this message!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:43 PM
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I got my husband his favorite candy :D
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:39 PM
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I’m not really into seafood but damn
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:38 PM
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Spoken like a woman who hasn’t had Ghirardelli’s crème brûlée chocolate hearts before 😤 Seriously though I need to see if there are any stores near here that sell them so I can get them on sale after lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:37 PM
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If anything I see more guys complain about having to do the chasing/wanting to be chased. Like… people want to feel wanted. Even if it doesn’t go anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:33 PM
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Consider the following: discount candy for like… a week afterwards :D
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:30 PM
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They’re not piloting a ship, they’re living two distinct yet connected lives. It’s entirely possible for both to be at least equitable in how various aspects of those lives are handled. When conflicts do arise, that’s where communication and compromise come into play. Neither person should be making a decision that majorly impacts the other without agreeing on said decision beforehand unless absolutely necessary. I appreciate it when my husband takes the lead for a lot of things because quite fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:34 AM
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What’s everyone’s favorite onomatopoeia? Mine is nyoom
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:14 AM
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Yeah. My sister lets her dog lick up her nose which is a step too far for me though 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:12 AM
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It’s the easiest to get your hands on, especially in large quantities. It’s also one of the easiest to make yourself. Not necessarily well or safely, but making it at all is fairly simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:11 AM
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Wouldn’t have married an Italian if I didn’t lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 03:57 AM
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Yeah… that checks out :/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 03:57 AM
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:(
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 01:41 AM
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I’m not looking to feed your revenge fantasy, I’m just reminding you that regardless of what behavior you think is worthy of punishment probably isn’t worth making everyone else uncomfortable in the process. If you want your fantasies complimented and glorified, post them on an incel forum.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 01:41 AM
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Now go get a drink of water, this subreddit will NOT be dehydrated on my watch
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 01:13 AM
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As much as I roll my eyes at the BMI thing, joking about CSA is uncalled for. There are far better ways to rephrase “who hurt you” than this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 01:07 AM
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Ah. Fair enough, that certainly complicates things. Kinda sounds like the dad is the one who needs to chill out though. Threatening to shoot someone isn’t exactly a healthy response to have in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:49 AM
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If you made it down here, hydrate! With water, ya nasties >:(
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:47 AM
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Ehhh… better to be safe than sorry. Though it sounds like the dad going for a divorce would be a win/win…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:46 AM
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Careful… they’ll strangle you with their beard (in Minecraft)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:41 AM
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Very few people want to sit through random snippets of porn just so someone can cash a check or answer a bunch of questions that were already covered in the resume. On top of that, bank clerks and job interviewers would be put through waaaay more of the porn viewing than any of the actresses, since they might interact with quite a few on any given day. Furthermore, assuming the actress wasn’t trafficked, she not only agreed to whatever was in the clips but probably got paid well for it with the …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:38 AM
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More for me, I suppose
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:28 AM
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So again… really just punishing the people around her more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:25 AM
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IME talk therapy wasn’t particularly helpful for my anxiety. Out of all the therapists I tried, only one was able to actually help. Another one was able to give me a trick that kinda helps but is unusable in social situations… so not useful for my social anxiety 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:24 AM
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While I think glorifying sex to the point that people are encouraged to have it even if they aren’t ready/don’t want to is absolutely harmful and causing problems, waiting until marriage isn’t actually better. There’s a reason abstinence based sex-ed results in the most diseases and unwanted pregnancies: people are gonna have sex before marriage no matter how vilified it is. It’s also not uncommon for people who wait for marriage to get married young for the sex, then find out they’re terribly i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:18 AM
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So you’re punishing everyone in the room for a choice you disagree with? If I did sex work, I wouldn’t exactly be upset by people seeing it—I’d feel bad that they’d have to sit through however much content there was just because I had to make a deposit or something. Most women who choose to go into sex work aren’t ashamed of it. What if she’s been in 24 different hour long productions? Do they have to sit there from open to close until they get through it all? Does it just kinda play in the back…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:12 AM
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While I don’t agree with either, the first thing I’ve at least heard before. Why banks??
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 11:58 PM
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Yes, I’ve met genuinely kind people from all walks of life. They’re far fewer than people who are just nice and generally amicable, but they exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 11:50 PM
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At which point it would be no more real, fulfilling, or attainable than prostitutes now. Possibly even less so. If we go back to ye olde days of fathers selling off their daughters, how many of the men currently complaining about their inability to find a partner would be able to pay as much for a hot wife as the CEOs and their sons paying for multiple? It’s not like the people in power would suddenly feel like applying the new system fairly. It will always be unfair, but at least the way we hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 11:48 PM
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I wouldn’t trust that the cheater was telling the truth here—it’s not like it wouldn’t benefit him to lie about it. I’d give it to the brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 11:31 PM
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In the midst of an opioid addiction epidemic, no less. Like… there are no good options in that situation. Rehab is expensive and it sounds like the whole family was struggling to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 11:24 PM
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I never have, but I know he has a surviving fan base from his time in the spotlight.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 11:13 PM
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Yes, that’s exactly what I meant with the categories. Realistically, (most) blanket statements regarding when to approach do more harm than good. It’s more about either being able to vibe check the situation or just approaching regardless. Generally speaking, if you’re in a public setting like a party or bar there’s not as much to worry about when it comes to gently pushing for a definitive answer. Backing off after an actual “no” or enough negative signals is still the right call, though. Sedat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:44 AM
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Hydrate, fools
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:23 AM
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There’s a difference between respecting a woman’s boundaries and never finding out what her boundaries are, to be fair. Then there’s also the women who say “no” when they mean “keep trying” who need to reexamine their concept of consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:22 AM
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Already more useful and actionable advice than over half the stuff here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:00 AM
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It depends so heavily on the garment that the best way to go about it is ask. That being said, for most bras: cold+gentle wash cycle, hang up to dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:31 AM
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No, Canadian. I’m American.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:16 AM
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It… really isn’t. To either of those things. Long story short we met online through a mutual hobby+friend. I’ll need to fly back every once in a while after I’ve moved there permanently for a medication that isn’t available there though so that would make the whole “running on water” thing super extra useful
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:07 AM
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Damn. I’ll have to get my sister to say it for me, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:02 AM
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😓
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:02 AM
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Current as in “not the one I would be marrying in this hypothetical” I say “I think” because I’ve never been in a situation where I would need to make a choice even remotely resembling the one you’re presenting. As for things I wish he could do better… literal sleeping, but more for his sake than mine. Be pretty cool if he could, like, run all the way from his country to mine so we didn’t need to deal with planes lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:00 AM
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Wait how old is old? Am I currently impervious to those requirements? AM I THE CHOSEN ONE?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:53 AM
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I could just be incredible at tucking and also a master of weirdly specific medical lies, you don’t know :P
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:51 AM
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No. I won’t speak for anyone else, but that just doesn’t appeal to me. It wouldn’t be worth not only losing everything I cherish most, but also the guilt of hurting the person I love most in the world for what? Sex that might be better than what I’m already enjoying? Money? I have an attractive husband who cooks for me, who knows me better than anyone else, and is compatible with me in the bedroom. Logically why would I gamble that away? Emotionally, even if it was guaranteed to be an “upgrade” …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:49 AM
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I’m a stientist :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:36 AM
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I actually left after a series of events starting with me seeing someone sweet get shit on for just being sad and ending with a post saying “inkwells should be put in camps” being 1) left up for too long and 2) getting a very uncomfortable amount of agreement in the comments. Not the majority of comments, but 1/4 is way too much agreement on a post about putting people in camps.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:35 AM
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Not really my type but let’s say he was. Leaving aside the obvious “he could be dangerous” He could be awful in bed, so I might not even get a night of fun. He could accidentally ruin delicate clothing items. He could ruin my already precarious finances. Divorce is an unpleasant, time consuming process. And honestly I’d rather just stick with my actual husband who I have a deep emotional bond with lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:32 AM
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Active?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:22 AM
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There are only two genders: painted toesies and unpainted toesies
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:21 AM
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No? That seems like a recipe for disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:20 AM
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Well I am only allegedly a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:19 AM
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Your primary competition isn’t other men in these instances, it’s the woman’s life without you in it. Ideally, this would go both ways—it’s healthier to be comfortable enough alone to be able to ask yourself “does this person make my life better or am I just dating them for the sake of being in a relationship at all?”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 11:51 PM
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I’m too tired to go through the spiel about why people struggle to leave their abusers, so I’m just going to say this: When it comes to verbal abuse, most people who stay with abusive partners either don’t realize it’s abuse, believe they deserve the abuse, or are manipulated with threats of self harm and suicide. When it comes to physical abuse, what exactly are men supposed to do aside from leave immediately? Lay a hand on her and the cops will side with her. Abusers are often masters of playi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 11:34 PM
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It’s too late I’ve committed (I’ll probably use the symbol next time though ty)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 05:16 AM
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It’s open to interpretation but it’s mainly the following: -PPD is no stranger to LARPers, fibbers, and ne’erdowells -I have been accused of LARPing as one here before for some of my Hot Takes™️ -I don’t really care whether people believe me when I say I am for all intents and purposes a woman -I just think it’s kinda funny to add “allegedly” to the end of an easily verifiable statement
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:55 AM
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Okay I have at least amused myself
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:42 AM
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Wait. I have an idea
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:40 AM
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You know damn well the only responses to that would be “true” or “how dare you” so clearly that’s not going to work
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:38 AM
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I can’t believe automod couldn’t tell I was a woman from my “✨manic pixie autist✨” flair 😭 Now I have to come up with a flair that’s funny AND says woman in it??? This is a travesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:36 AM
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At the risk of sounding like a broken record, I think it depends heavily on the individual in question. I think people here make a mistake in arguing right and wrong rather than compatibility in situations like these. I totally understand needing reassurance when insecurities and anxieties flare up—especially in such high stakes situations. Not everyone is going to be comfortable in a relationship where paternity tests or go-bags are the reassurances needed and I think that’s okay, but that does…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:33 AM
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These are not remotely equivalent. The fear in regards to paternity is cheating, and there are absolutely equivalent AND RELEVANT things you could compare more effectively: -constant location tracking -financial records (child support) -social media+messaging monitoring -device monitoring
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:02 AM
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I think it depends on the person, and my answers will focus on a situation where the woman lies about having a headache because if a man gets upset that his partner doesn’t want sex due to an actual headache then that’s a him problem. Some men are bothered by the idea that their partner would feel the need to lie to them instead of trusting them to just accept that she’s not in the mood. The alternative here is just honesty. Some couples have incompatible sex drives to the point that one partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 02:16 AM
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1) I wouldn’t cheat on or break up with my husband. I don’t expect that a relationship with someone else would be as strong as the one I have with him and I despise cheating so any short term possibilities would be run by him first. Plus our (physically) “perfect person” is the same woman so… that could streamline our process lol. 2) I think the rates would be similar, maybe slightly more men than women. 3) I think the rate of replacers would be higher than cheaters, where anyone who’s cheated o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 09:49 PM
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Realistically, it doesn’t much matter even if we do find a man weaker than us—easy access to weapons means that everyone poses some level of threat in the right circumstances. Besides, it’s not about whether or not we’d win in a fight. It’s about how much we’ll get hurt by the time it’s over.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:18 PM
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It really is and you never listen or accept serious answers as to why.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:46 PM
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First of all, kind≠wholesome. I disagree either way, but admittedly wholesomeness does not lend itself well to being viewed as sexy and igniting sexy times. Kindness, though? That’s one of the more attractive traits. Things like taking care of friends, family, and animals actually tend to increase attraction. It increases stability and longevity of relationships. “Nice Guys” get the capital letters and quotations because they’re assholes who are only nice when they want something out of the othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:45 PM
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Ask stupid questions, get stupid answers ¯\(ツ)/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:31 PM
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Time travel.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:24 PM
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residential college students Who are either working minimum wage jobs or taking on loans for schooling and housing that’s even more expensive than many apartments. It’s not like they don’t still need to pay rent and buy groceries, they just have the option of taking out predatory loans to pay for those things. Even if only 5% or less of people in that age range don’t have the option of living with their parents, that’s still a sizable number of people who substantially lack options if they want …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 07:13 AM
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Key words being if they can. Too many parents either expect their kids to move out at 18 or live too far from a college for that to be a viable option. I absolutely agree that the longer people can stay with parents or roommates the better, it’s just the most responsible option (when available). My thinking is that there need to be options for people who can’t stay with parents for whatever reason. Plus education tends to cost more than rent and groceries anyway so I think my point stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 07:05 AM
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For the college thing I meant while in college, not after. Hard agree on poor decision making if someone makes minimum wage with a BA/BS+ degree. I’m absolutely an outlier medically—having kidney stones that fully obstruct my kidney on top of a totally separate medical problem that required multiple surgeries by the age of 22 is extremely abnormal—but the fact that there’s no options available to people like me aside from being born rich is a serious problem. It do be a ‘Murica problem though an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 06:38 AM
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Keep in mind that the lower the rent is, the further you’ll be from a city center and probably your work. You also need to factor in taxes (12% federal income tax+state income tax). A cheap car isn’t likely to get great MPG and will often need more frequent repairs. And don’t forget grocery costs: https://www.move.org/the-average-cost-of-food-in-the-us/ On top of that, the egregious price of medical care in the US is made even worse by the fact that Medicaid isn’t accepted by 20-50% of physician…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 06:15 AM
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Which one? Take your pick, some of them will make you do the math others do it for you. I did my part by linking them now you can feel free to read them As for the second bit, people don’t usually move in with their partners outside of a serious, committed relationship so women who struggle to get commitment will struggle here as well. Regardless, no one should face extra financial hardship over dating difficulties.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 05:34 AM
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https://finance.yahoo.com/news/rent-minimum-wage-salary-every-090000063.html I’ll refer you to this breakdown in particular. A studio is not affordable on minimum wage in most places and I think you can understand why having a roommate in a studio apartment would be extremely unpleasant. Roommates are a good option but only go so far. It takes 3-4 people working full time at minimum wage to be able to afford to rent a 2 bedroom in most states (as per several of the sources I linked). As many peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 05:06 AM
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https://www.cnbc.com/amp/2021/07/14/full-time-minimum-wage-workers-cant-afford-rent-anywhere-in-the-us.html https://nlihc.org/oor/about https://www.wfaa.com/amp/article/news/local/minimum-wage-workers-cant-afford-apartments-most-parts-of-country/287-eed337be-01b6-4422-8ebf-6682a5ca2ee2 https://fortune.com/2023/02/02/minimum-wage-workers-need-multiple-jobs-roommates-afford-rent/amp/ https://amp.theguardian.com/us-news/2017/jun/08/minimum-wage-affordable-housing-rentals-study https://finance.yahoo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:15 AM
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In America, most people making minimum wage cannot afford rent and groceries if they live within walking/bussing distance of their workplace. Medical care is a whole other story on top of that, and cars+gas are out of the question if they live far enough to need a car. Minimum wage should be based on the regional minimum cost required to afford housing (studio appt or equivalent), food (basic nutritional needs met, if people insist on brand name shit that’s on them but there ought to be some wig…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 03:55 AM
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Yeah I definitely would. I did, more than once—though only one was AMAB. I definitely don’t understand people who are grossed out by it but are fine with pegging or anal sex. Hell, I don’t like either of those and it doesn’t really matter unless a partner expects one from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:47 AM
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Look if I have to clone myself and get into politics with all my clones to fix this, I will find a way. Until then, my future accomplices need to be fed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:24 PM
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Oh it is, he’s got plans—he’s also looking at other options for jobs in the meantime. For now I wanna make sure he doesn’t die, at least until the company bankrupts itself when it’s eventually (hopefully) forced to pay out overtime.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:19 PM
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He’s working 12+ hours each day, doesn’t get any breaks, and he’s low management so if they need extra hands (which they always do because they refuse to hire enough people) he has to show up. Over a week of ridiculously extended, double, or otherwise back to back shifts without a single day off and multiple months of only having at most one day off every two weeks would be hard on anyone I’d think. They also haven’t been paying him for his overtime even though he’s hourly. Hopefully the labor b…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:08 PM
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Oh absolutely. He hasn’t had a day off in over a week. When I worked hours like his I ended up with the same problem, only not as bad because I was part of a union so I always got at least one day off and there was a limit to how much overtime I could be mandated for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:52 PM
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I mean… I’m not single and the person I hear it from most is my husband. A thread on toxic/false positivity inhibiting personal growth could be good though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:24 PM
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That whatever I’m doing/offering to do to help is a big enough deal to make even accepting the help difficult. This time, a friend’s job is fucking him over and he’s working himself sick. He barely ate before work, probably won’t have time to even sit down until after 11PM, and has to open the store tomorrow so there’s no way he’s going to have time to deal with food. I’m gonna bring him food so he doesn’t have to worry about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:22 PM
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How exactly are we supposed to know whether or not a guy is talking to us hoping to get laid? I readily admit that being a woman comes with privileges and very different expectations to being a man. However, I don’t want people being nice to me because they have ulterior motives. That’s not a privilege, that’s a hazard—I don’t enjoy rejecting advances, it pains me to see the disappointment on their faces afterwards, and it hurts even more when they pretend to be my friend only to be pissed later…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:12 PM
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My friends need to stop telling me I’m “too good” it’s starting to go to my head 😅 But also I wouldn’t need to be this good if they would take just care of themselves and I can’t be the one to tell them that because I’d be a massive hypocrite 😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:47 PM
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Yes, but not unnecessarily so. If she asked you if you found her attractive, you should answer honestly. Otherwise, it’s better to just not bring it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:52 AM
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I think there are very few people who could effectively look past her disfigurement and find her attractive in her entirety and I don’t think anyone aside from fetishists could do so without getting to know her as a person but I do think there are people (hopefully like her husband) who could do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:40 AM
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Never made a TikTok about anyone so… no
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:49 AM
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Yes, but it was because of a joke he made afterwards that caught me off guard so it wasn’t mocking him, just appreciating his humor.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:32 AM
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Yes. Yes it is. That’s also the attitude that, when taken to the extreme, can get trans women killed when they pass well enough for her partner to be surprised when she tells them she’s trans. While they don’t have the experiences of a cis woman growing up, they also don’t have the experiences of a cis man growing up. Plus, depending on how early they were able to access gender affirming care, they may actually have had experiences more in line with a cis woman. Also… if there’s anyone who would…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:02 PM
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It’s genuinely just a transphobic lie. People use restrooms to pee and sometimes poop or change a diaper. Oh, the horror.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:53 PM
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Never? Even the most disrespectful ones never amounted to anything actionable if I had reported them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:45 PM
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Poorly. We manage poorly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:37 PM
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Well, you’re an adult and can make your own decisions. If you’re still asking for outside input there’s still room for regret, so I’d say that literally any other option would be better as ending things is essentially the one thing you could do that there’s no coming back from. You’re right that you need more than tiny amounts but relying on another person for any and all big joys isn’t an option. That’s too much pressure to put on a person or relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:40 AM
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The LOTR set must’ve been a wild experience
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:03 AM
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And John Rhys-Davies hit like all of the extras/stuntmen whenever there were fight scenes lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:01 AM
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Aww thank you 🥰 And hey it sounds a lot less psycho killer creepy with context 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:55 PM
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Find one thing, every day, that brings you even a tiny amount of joy. A favorite food, a gentle breeze, a beautiful bug, etc. Those little things are what make life worth living in between the big grandiose successes. And hey, if you can’t live for joy then live for spite. Live to prove people wrong, do better than they ever believed you could. Eventually you might be able to find joy in your successes but even if you can’t you’ll find some level of satisfaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:50 PM
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He asked for one, she gave him 3
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:45 PM
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What??
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:44 PM
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If he hasn’t discovered thigh highs and garters, I know what your next gift to him should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:29 PM
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And yet the 30 minute task is preferable 🥲 send help
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:12 PM
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Okay depression Barbie was also pretty great. But so was the Beach Off scene!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:09 PM
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Some prefer to keep their lower bits, some can’t get surgery, and some get surgeries that aren’t the full experience so to speak. Sex drives and their reactions to hormones differ greatly depending on the individual. I know some trans women who got SUPER horny after starting HRT and some who got less horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:08 PM
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My favorite part was John Cena as Mer-Ken.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:04 PM
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Well then there u go! If we find one more we can form the mythical 666 or whatever 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:01 PM
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I can find more pictures of men I find attractive to link. That riled people up lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:56 PM
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If I had given you a 6 would you have believed me? ‘Cause that’s where I would’ve put you. It’s also where I’d rate myself. People tend to disagree with me on my ratings though lol, that’s more what I meant by not good with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:55 PM
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^
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:52 PM
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It’s okay I’m already married, you gotta chase skirts of single ladies anyway :P
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:17 PM
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7-8. Good skin, funny, goes to therapy. Solid guy all around. Edit: gotta go with 7, he’s too tall for my tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:58 PM
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But they still watch it. It’s also going to be a fairly necessary part for most amateur videos or any “romantic” videos.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:37 PM
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We love a giver 🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:35 PM
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Most do. Interestingly though, while female viewers were still the primary consumers of dedicated cunnilingus videos, the number of men watching them has increased a fair bit! https://www.pornhub.com/insights/yir-2021#Gender-Demographics https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2022-year-in-review#gender-demographics
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:30 PM
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It does turn some of them on, though. Not necessarily even performing it themselves, just watching it. It’s not that uncommon of a turn on for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:15 PM
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I meant because it’s not necessarily there for the female porn consumers either. Different strokes for different folks and all that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:09 PM
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The really ironic part is I don’t find it arousing lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:05 PM
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What if I brought cookies?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:55 PM
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Some men do actually get off on that part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:52 PM
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There are definitely women too, not as many as there are men but the number of women is not insignificant
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:35 PM
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That there would be varying levels of denial that the pretty boy is attractive, and that the more redpilled the person the more bothered they’d be by the idea of women finding the pretty boy pretty enough to pay for pictures of him. So far results are inconclusive, mainly because I forgot to record any of them afterwards 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:52 AM
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I had a hypothesis and I must say I was also surprised by how… visceral? Some of the reactions were. I expected negative reactions but not necessarily such strong ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:39 AM
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Perhaps someday my body dysmorphia will hear you out but today is not that day Until then, my husband agrees with you wholeheartedly
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:31 AM
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Key words: I think :P
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:24 AM
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You don’t need extra estrogen to be pretty 😅 but I can’t deny the added allure of booba (respectfully)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:20 AM
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That’s a lot more permanent than just learning how to apply makeup but I respect the commitment!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:16 AM
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You are babu
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:15 AM
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In defense of pretty boy: yeah but people pay to see him in less clothing so he mogs most people In defense of Squidward: tentacle kinks are surprisingly common
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:14 AM
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Squidward or the pretty boy? Because the pretty boy makes actual money off of his pics lol. He mogs the best of us
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:09 AM
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👿
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:03 AM
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Never 😈
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:02 AM
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And that’s totally fair! To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:52 AM
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Shhhhhhh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:49 AM
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I know he’s not exactly a paragon of masculine attractiveness but he literally makes money off of his looks so if anything it just goes to show that—shockingly—attraction is subjective lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:48 AM
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I have no idea how you rated me so highly tbh. I don’t understand your standards of attraction and I don’t think I want to 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:45 AM
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https://reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/JlQMMrVm6x It’s gotten two upvotes (or lost two downvotes?) since I last checked it but there it be
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:42 AM
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Me neither and usually I sit comfortably at 0-3 on any given comment. NOT THIS TIME. I see it but I don’t use it, I just upvote things I like and ignore (or occasionally write essays in response to) things I don’t like. Anyway Reddit probably borked something again
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:32 AM
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Damn, I wasn’t expecting people to fawn over the pretty boy I posted earlier but I think it’s the most downvotes I’ve ever gotten here 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:26 AM
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Not necessarily. I prefer guys closer to my height, and that preference is far from unheard of even though it’s not the most common. Wide shoulders are definitely not necessary for the goth or femboy niches and are negotiable for dadbod lovers. I’ll give you good face structure, but different face structures lend themselves better to different niches.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:23 AM
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Same here. What matters is that my husband thinks I’m attractive, everything else is either advice to consider or a nice lil ego boost ¯\(ツ)/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:46 AM
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I. Genuinely don’t know what you’re talking about she looks like a normal person to me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:13 AM
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She looks fine to me? Not crazy attractive but not ugly lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:07 AM
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Attraction is subjective. What more can I say?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 12:56 AM
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Feel free, my inbox is always open :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 12:20 AM
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No need to apologize, but if it helps to hear it: it’s okay, I’ll read it anyway :) It might be worth examining why you’re so reluctant to approach at all. Are you afraid of being rejected? If that was the only thing in your way, you’d have a much easier time with just the weed induced brain fog. It sounds to me like part of you genuinely doesn’t want to try, which is far more damaging to your prospects than your job, looks, etc. ever could be. Whatever mental blocks are there stopping you from …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:42 PM
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I mean, he kinda has to. I’m just saying no one is going to have extra energy, so it’s not about attraction at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:17 PM
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I’ll admit I don’t like it enough to be one of the people paying for his content but I definitely see the appeal 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:10 PM
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That’s not what the people paying for his pics say…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:10 PM
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There’s no magic substance or mental routine that has those results for everyone. It sounds like you need to find a way to build your confidence before imbibing anything because as it stands you don’t actually feel the desire to approach in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:09 PM
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To each their own, I suppose. I take it you’re not a fan of femboy fridays?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:04 PM
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That is nothing compared to having the actual newborn. Even the worst pregnancies that leave the woman fully bedridden for 6-7+ months don’t compare to dealing with a newborn. A newborn isn’t going to vomit into a trash can or toilet bowl, apologize if they interrupt your sleep, eat without assistance, etc. There’s a difference between picking up the slack and having a whole new set of responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:02 PM
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It didn’t! I was writing an essay directed at someone else ur all good
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:54 PM
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Hmm. No downers for you, then—have you tried nicotine? Or seen about getting a prescription for beta-blockers for anxiety?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:53 PM
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There’s a world of difference between “I can’t have sex for medical reasons/because I’m exhausted from caring for a newborn” and “I can’t have sex because I’m not attracted to the person” Besides, if pregnancy is unattractive to you I can guarantee that the aftermath (around 2 months for the uterus to shrink back to its normal size, a good portion of which involves the expulsion of what amounts to 9 months of missed periods) would be even worse. Not to mention the likelihood of permanent changes…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:49 PM
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The healthy stuff tends to be more expensive than the unhealthy stuff though so the people trying to eat healthy will be hit harder than people who will gladly buy junk foods with long shelf lives in bulk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:31 PM
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If you can’t you can’t but a not insignificant number of pregnant women get way hornier while pregnant and even if they don’t they’ll almost definitely feel super shitty about the lack of attraction. So while it’s not wrong (you have no control over what you find attractive) it is abnormal and could cause problems if it isn’t communicated before it becomes relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:28 PM
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Definitely makeup. Guyliner is HOT.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:24 PM
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It gives me brain fog as it starts to wear off but until then it makes me very giggly and usually yeets my anxiety for at least half an hour.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:23 PM
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The exact reason I posted it: they think men who look or do “feminine” things are doing something wrong and probably don’t like seeing women drool over him. It also demonstrates a point I’ve tried to make here a couple times but never seemed to get across: there’s more than one type of attractive. There are pleeeeenty of women out there who find more feminine-faced, long haired, prettily dressing men in makeup very attractive. There are also plenty of women who will take one look at the guy I li…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:21 PM
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It’s really not that hard to talk and work at the same time unless you work in customer service. At my warehouse job, the least productive days were the ones where the hardass managers were in and would get on our case if we were “talking too much” Like bro you won’t even let us listen to music while we mindlessly stock 200 boxes of miscellaneous items and half of us have ADHD 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:11 PM
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Weed for some people. It’s definitely worth a try if it’s legal in your area
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:07 PM
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Boundaries? In this economy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:03 PM
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In America it’s fast and expensive, in Canada it’s slow and expensive 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:03 PM
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I… can’t say I disagree with that tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:52 PM
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😈
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:51 PM
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I’m currently in Canada 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:51 PM
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No, but he does have an Astarion cosplay
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:51 PM
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I gotta keep up with fellow PPDers somehow, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:01 PM
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You’re welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:47 PM
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In case y’all were wondering what peak male performance looks like… it’s this. https://www.instagram.com/p/Cxgfo2Gu9XB/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:43 PM
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The main thing I’ll need luck for is finding sriracha tbh. Stupid shortage 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:38 PM
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Imagine surviving what doctors describe as “a medical clusterfuck” just to go down to a couple minutes of sunlight 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:31 PM
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Yep, just gotta eat something so I don’t make a fool of myself and vomit or pass out along the way 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:29 PM
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In this economy? Boi you better be paying
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:29 PM
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I mean I could get the groceries delivered or have my husband go but I’d need to send him some money for it and I don’t want to deal with the fees for that. Plus the exercise and sunlight will be good for me regardless of what my POTS has to say about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:27 PM
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Warm and sunny, which is actually quite bad for me because I overheat absurdly easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:23 PM
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Fantastic thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:21 PM
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If I go to the closest store, under 5 minutes each way. If I go to the cheaper store with more options, much farther and I’ll be carrying back some pretty heavy items.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:21 PM
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Bleh. I don’t wanna walk to the store. I’m gonna but I really really don’t wanna. Someone call me names or something so I can feel motivated by spite
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:16 PM
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Rules as Written?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:09 PM
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“Glad to see they’ve played the ol’ reverse uno here… can’t wait to see where that goes”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:24 PM
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Man’s cackling in his grave I stg
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:21 PM
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I have good news for you: I’ve been nauseated, achy, and tired all day
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:28 AM
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It’s objectifying and not necessarily indicative of dating “success” (depending on the definition). The better off you are in those areas the better your chances will be at attracting people to date/sleep with but they don’t increase the chances of finding a compatible partner to anywhere near the same degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:17 AM
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I’m honestly surprised with how nice man-me looks. I wish they hadn’t re-bushed my eyebrows though… he’s gonna need to pluck ‘em too 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:12 AM
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https://preview.redd.it/khccv44a7ppb1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8f42b807605c8a8ba22a7b66d80cb41a2da4f2df I’d look real good with guyliner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:04 AM
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I don’t pile his bed with pillows to help with my sleep because his cat might pee on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 11:56 PM
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The vast majority of dealerships incentivize upselling and screwing over customers regardless of whether or not they can afford it. Brand-specific dealerships involve less screwing over poorer people on account of their customer bases being wealthier, but used car dealerships are AWFUL about squeezing money out of desperate people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:48 AM
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Thank you 💙
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:32 AM
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The salesman was trying to upsell him under the expectation that he could actually afford it. Car salespeople are genuinely some of the most heartless people out there. Good people just don’t last in that profession.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:29 AM
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It’s mostly that I’ve been with him long enough to know that he hates actually hurting me. For him to hit me out of anger would be so out of character for him that my first concern would be for his health.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:26 AM
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Like, deliberately and without my consent? Not immediately. I’d want him checked for a brain tumor and stuff like that first, if that comes up clear he can either figure out a way to get anger management or yes I’d leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:08 AM
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Genuinely it’s probably this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 02:50 AM
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Happy baking!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:01 PM
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I don’t own any of my own but I take care of my mom’s when she’s traveling. One of her birds (green cheek conure) won’t step up until he’s made you bleed but after that he’s a snuggly lil mango. I love him. I do not want one of my own. Her other bird (caique) is… a little too into me and I have scars on my arms from when I rejected her advances. I love her. I really don’t want one of my own. They like to sing with me though :) and they can be bribed out of violence (temporarily) via banana chips
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:54 PM
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Happens to the best of us. I don’t much care what move gets the job done so long as I give them a Viking burial after.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:43 PM
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Budgies are ADORABLE. Parrots are also assholes. Small parrots are fine, even if they draw blood I’m not getting a chunk taken out of me (usually) but big parrots terrify me and can also definitely smell my fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:43 PM
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Which birds? Are we talking parrots, finches, or full on falconry?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:39 PM
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How does one perform a suplex on a bug using a sandal?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:38 PM
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Gotta live up to my flair somehow, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:37 PM
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I don’t have a stand or hand mixer so I do this all by hand, so if you don’t actually need a mixer if you don’t have one it just makes it easier. For the cheesecake: https://www.persnicketyplates.com/halloween-cream-cheese-swirl-brownies/ It’s that but without the food coloring and you add 1/4 cup of coconut flakes and 1 tsp coconut flavor extract to the cream cheese mix, then when it’s 1-2 minutes away from being fully baked you sprinkle more flakes on the top. For the cookies: 2 cups all purpo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:35 PM
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Hey it’s only a bad decision if I regret it… probably :P
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:21 PM
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I don’t think they’d survive transit 😅 I can send the recipes though, I’d need to type out the one for the cookies since I did the math on paper last time
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:20 PM
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I have so far seen no repercussions for it so perhaps it wasn’t me you saw
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:18 PM
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Coconut sugar cookies and coconut brownie cheesecake
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:11 PM
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It’s not his fault he saw my baked goods
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:02 PM
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Hey, this was where I got introduced to sundresses so I felt I ought to give back :P
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:59 PM
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Was it me?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:58 PM
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Thank you! Here is cheesecake and here is one unedited pic+one with minor lighting adjustments
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:46 PM
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It’s got a brownie crust and has chocolate swirls in it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:32 PM
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When giving a full answer or smile could be interpreted as “leading him on” a lot of us try to be very cautious about it if we’re approached while alone. Not necessarily what happened in your case but it would be my best guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:29 PM
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My cheesecake gives my at least a +1 to put me up to 7
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:24 PM
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Loyalty doesn’t mean anything if it’s only due to lack of opportunity to be unfaithful. Mind you I don’t buy into the “all men would cheat if given the opportunity” thing, I just understand why people who do would have the mindset of “if none of them want to be loyal I’ll just pick whoever I get the most out of” even though it’s a pretty fucked up mindset to have
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:22 PM
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19-25 is considered the “healthy” range, but BMI is also not actually indicative of an individual’s health. Some women start losing their periods due to malnutrition/having a body fat percentage too low at BMIs as high as 23 but it’s much more common at BMIs of 20 or lower. Most women experience interruptions with their menstrual cycle at a body fat percentage of 22 or lower. I won’t disclose my BMI just yet because I’m waiting on Mr. Meaning to guess mine from some pictures I posted. I would gl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:22 AM
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😈
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:17 AM
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Hot
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:14 AM
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Okay seriously do you just have a fetish for seeing women’s ribs? I need to know
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:12 AM
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I think the quote might be from Star Trek. Or a historical text. Anyway, I do think there are plenty of men who are successful in dating and make the same mistake of engaging in that fallacy. No one likes to believe that they’re only successful because they got lucky and were able to make the most of it. I think most people would struggle quite a bit to come to terms with just how little control we have over what we get in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:08 AM
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Don’t fuck with your sleep like that if she’s not at least going to be understanding when you say “I need to sleep” I liked being in long calls with my husband when we started dating but not with the expectation of conversation. We still have calls going while we sleep just for the sense of closeness when we can’t be together in person, not because we have to be engaging all the time. She’s got something funky going on if she’s actually getting upset at you for checks notes needing sleep. At 11p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:03 AM
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Hmm. Religion and politics are extremely important for a lot of people, especially if you’re right wing and going after people who don’t share your views. If I remember correctly, left wing people tend to be far less willing to date someone with opposing beliefs than right wing people. I’d say that going with option a with the church girls might be your best option—with some added steps. Read no further than this if you aren’t interested in that course of action. -don’t start by asking them out,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:57 AM
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As in splitting/covering the cost of things or as in a sugar baby type deal? Yes to the former, no to the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:17 AM
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I think if the woman goes in with the expectation it won’t be casual when it actually is to the man she’s not going to think of it afterwards as her having had casual sex. Not sure what the statistics are regardless but I’m guessing there’d be very different results depending on the given definition of casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:15 AM
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Absolutely. I always try to temper any advice I give with the phrase “to improve your chances” because there’s never a guarantee of success. I also try to convince people to improve for themselves but some people dislike that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:58 AM
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I’m sure some are but even those who aren’t can enjoy the experience if they love the person. It might not end up being sexually satisfying but it can still be a fun time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 10:20 PM
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Oh I absolutely agree with you that it’s an investment. It’s just also what I expect would be considered the most annoying part of first-time intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 10:15 PM
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EXTREMELY different. He’s a respectful equal, meets next to none of the inane requirements expected of men in happy relationships here, and is an absolutely wonderful partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 10:08 PM
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More awkward and vaguely unpleasant depending on the pair. If she didn’t get lucky with biological ease of pleasing and isn’t already familiar with what she likes, foreplay and subsequently the actual sex is gonna involve a lot of experimenting and could still end up not being enough to make the experience enjoyable (possibly for either person). Clinginess probably won’t be an issue for anyone who waits until marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 10:02 PM
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He has told me explicitly that if the opportunity arose, he’d want me involved. I’m the one he chose and he stands by that choice. On top of that, he cares deeply about my feelings and wouldn’t deliberately do anything to hurt me or my trust in him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:54 AM
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Okay, what’s his fashion sense like? Does he take care of his hair and skin? Does he exercise regularly? Is he still friends with the girls he asked out? Do his classmates enjoy his company?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:05 AM
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I’d need more information than that—how well does he know the girls he’s approaching, where/when is he approaching them, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:56 PM
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Once in middle school a group of girls decided to smear shit and vomit on the stalls. We never found out which girls did it but every single class had to get a talking to from their teachers about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:54 PM
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How could you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:25 PM
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FATHER YOU HAVE RETURNED FROM THE WAR
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:49 PM
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At least I’m prepared for the 80 pound German Shepard tackle when I hear the door lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:43 PM
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I thanked my lucky stars for just how small toy poodles are when Bonnie jumped directly into the back of my knee when I was putting a sock on my other foot. As it was I’m pretty sure I squawked and spooked her though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:41 PM
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1: when I want it and he hasn’t already brought it up I’ll initiate. I won’t be receptive if I’m in too much pain, too tired, feel sick, or have obligations early the next day. 2: neutral unless it requires a lot of attention in which case I’ll wait for him to be done before bringing it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:38 PM
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I never realized how important toes were for walking until I broke one 😭 I hope your ankle heals fast
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:31 PM
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Funnily enough, I weighed more when I ate less than I do now that I’m on a medication that increases my appetite to the point where I can actually eat more than one meal each day. Metabolism is wack
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:29 PM
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Long hair Similar taste in games/shows/movies Good cook Shares my hatred of the sun
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:25 PM
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I mean… yeah they should be prepared to do so and most are. No one should rely on strangers unless they absolutely have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:15 PM
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Oh for sure. My sex life suffered worst when I worked an exhausting warehouse job with awful hours. I needed all the extra time I could find for sleeping.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:10 PM
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Shhhh that’s supposed to be a secret 😫
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:08 PM
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No, I just know that every daily thread lasts exactly 25 hours and right now the new threads get posted when I’m not really doing anything else 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:08 PM
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He either wouldn’t want that or wouldn’t do it if given the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:05 PM
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First, but hiding
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:02 AM
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I get it. I’m one of the people who often gets involved even when it’s risky—I more meant that if the only thing you’re comfortable doing is calling emergency services that’s still better than nothing and can usually be done safely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:08 AM
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Not if it’s treated/managed. If they refuse treatment when it’s available for any diagnosed or suspected mental illness then it’s a hard no
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:44 AM
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Idk man… I make a mean cheesecake brownie. I’ve ruined my husband for subpar baked goods.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:12 AM
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Definitely not at a significantly higher rate than particularly attractive couples. Most people like sex, but as sex drives change and life stressors add up it can end up being low priority (especially if the couple has kids). That being said, you know what demographic has a LOT of sex? Octogenarians. Seriously. Apparently something like 23% of them have sex once a week or more. It’s more about free time and responsibilities than attraction, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:08 AM
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I mean… people should take their partner’s comfort into account on most things including this but there’s no reasonable level of modesty that would prevent other men from finding a non-single woman attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:01 AM
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Someday he’ll respond to my request of guessing my BMI 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:53 PM
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First of all, the stuff about orbiters is untrue. Second of all, and I ask partially because it sounds like you have some misconceptions about how bodies work: why are you so obsessed with BMI?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:42 PM
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See, I called my uterus an oven once and I think it took exception to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:34 PM
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Ye, don’t taste like them though!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:04 PM
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I propose a toast (using water because I’m epileptic and you’re underage) to shitty birthdays and hopefully better times going forward! Seriously though that’s rough and I’m sorry. I hope you have friends to celebrate with if/when your family fails you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:49 PM
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I don’t believe in “the one” in the sense that there is one specific person who’s perfect for another specific person. I do believe that no one is inherently unlovable/intrinsically incompatible with every other person on the planet (aside from ace/aros in this specific context). I don’t think everyone will find someone they’re compatible with, or that everyone who does will be able to maintain the relationship, but I do believe there’s a chance for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:45 PM
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Idk my uterus is pretty fucked up. No babies only cookies ¯\(ツ)/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:39 PM
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If it makes you feel any better, my parents took my sisters to the beach without inviting or informing me… on my 18th birthday.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:35 PM
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They’re fully baked already, that’s why they’re all poofy! They’re coconut sugar cookies :D
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:32 PM
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My children… they’re beautiful…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:30 PM
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That’s… not what she meant by that at all lmao?? Like I do chores but it’s not because my husband is incompetent. It’s because I’m a contributing member of the household. I show my love for my husband in other ways—while taking on extra chores is occasionally one of them it’s not my go-to option.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 07:00 PM
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Especially with violin and clarinet. Of all the instrument denominations, reeds and bow+string have the most obnoxious “you’re playing me wrong” noises
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:47 PM
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That’s completely fair. I think my parents had some Regrets when my siblings and I decided to learn french horn (me), percussion/violin (younger sister), and clarinet/oboe (youngest sister) On the bright side my youngest sister actually stuck with it and is good enough at oboe for it to be enjoyable to hear her practice 😅 Anyway, a friend of mine had really good experiences with hip hop classes and I’m sure there are plenty of other options out there as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:37 PM
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I’m grateful for games like Pokémon Go and Monster Hunter Now for giving me extra happy chemicals when I touch grass I’m looking forward to dinner ‘cause it’s curry and I love curry I want to overcome my phobia of cars and get my license. I’ve been making some progress but it’s slower than I’d like. The plan is to take the test to get my learner’s permit by the end of the year though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:30 PM
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It’s hard to articulate this without people coming to the conclusion that the looks bar is entirely out of reach for average men when it really isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:26 PM
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Yeah. I’m 100% for making sure your kid has a dance based hobby but ballet being the go-to has fucked up many a child :/ Hip hop or tap are a lot more chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:25 PM
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The ones who aren’t probably have pepper spray and shit tbf I’m one of the idiots whose fight or flight response is stuck on fight so self defense classes were a must for me 😅 saved my ass hard when a dude tried to mug me and instead of handing over my $5 and shitty phone I panicked and dislocated his jaw
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:22 PM
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I’d recommend other forms of dance unless you have a particular attachment to ballet. My mom’s joints are permanently fucked from doing ballet as a kid/teen and the culture around it is super toxic :( BJJ is a fantastic time though
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:17 PM
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I think that the right thing to do, regardless of your gender or that of whoever is theoretically in danger, is to help as much as you safely can. It’s valiant to go beyond the bounds of reasonable safety but certainly not something that should be expected of every bystander. No civilian should feel obligated or pressured into putting themselves in harm’s way for a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:14 PM
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I’m already on Twitch, it’s just not linked to this Reddit account :P So’s my husband, but he streams way more regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 05:14 PM
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Believe it or don’t, it’s up to you—all I’ll say is that my non-look requirements were a fair bit higher given how much I preferred the gentleness I found with the women I dated. My husband is a genuinely exceptional person and I’m lucky to have him. My experience with the 6’1 girl also informed me that I prefer partners close to me in height for the sake of my neck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 05:09 PM
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I… don’t wanna talk about it, aside from I hope to qualify for the TFT Noxus Cup.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 05:00 PM
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See the funny thing is I kick his ass at chess but I don’t do well with any other strategy game I’ve tried aside from Teamfight Tactics (which I’m highly ranked in)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:53 PM
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Multiplayer: League, Divinity OS2, Minecraft, Fall Guys, BG3, Valorant, Teamfight Tactics Single player but with investment in the other’s playthroughs: Fear and Hunger 2, Wildfrost, Slay the Spire, and a lot of other things that I can’t remember right now and can’t look through my steam library to check because he’s currently asleep on me and I don’t wanna wake him up Edit: OH pretty much all of the Dark Pictures Anthology games. I also forgot Phasmophobia. And Monster Hunter. We played Fortnit…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:50 PM
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What are you talking about? If anything my requirements were higher because I prefer women. The requirements just aren’t rooted in looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:40 PM
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Grand strategy? Probably not lol. FPS games? More likely 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:31 PM
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No, it’s definitely chemistry. If I lined up my exes for you I’d be very impressed if you found a physical pattern because they are: 5’9 brunette white woman with long hair, blue eyes, heavyset, loud and had a passion for music 6’1 blonde white woman with short hair, blue eyes, built like a massive fuckin tank in every possible way, super chill and partaker in the devil’s lettuce 5’1 Korean woman with long hair, brown eyes, tiny and thin as a twig, very sweet and quiet 5’8 very loud and sweet It…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:25 PM
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Oh then there shouldn’t be a problem anyway lmao you layered up
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:14 PM
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No? It means we can play them together :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:10 PM
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The PPD council signed the papers while you weren’t looking
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:55 PM
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To be fair that’s a short hemline. More power to you for being comfortable wearing it but I’ve always been too worried about accidentally flashing people to wear stuff like that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:49 PM
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🗿 I love it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:30 AM
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I think sometimes my husband wishes he didn’t have a nose. I’d still love him but I’d miss the nose boops
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:22 AM
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You know, I think one of the worst responses to “would you still love me if I was a worm?” is also hands down one of the funniest: “I’d love you more if you were a worm!”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:21 AM
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Definitely marriage counseling is the way to go, assuming he wants to stay in the relationship. She had 18 years to come clean about it and didn’t until she had to, over something that clearly mattered to him. She shouldn’t be asking Reddit how to rebuild the trust in her relationship though, she should be asking her husband and accepting that it’s not a quick or easy process. I’m with you on it being a matter of honesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:20 AM
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Considering the number of couples citing financial concerns as their reason for not having children? I’m gonna go with no, “today’s female dating strategy” is not the biggest threat to the birth rate. On top of that, stripping women’s rights won’t fix the underlying issues driving people away from having kids. Enough objectors exist regardless of gender that enforcement of any egregious measures would be a logistical nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 10:48 PM
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Yeah but it mostly happens when I have sleep for dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:23 PM
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Brownies. You can fuck up a lot of things a little bit and they’ll still be delicious. Underbaked/too moist? Congratulations you have lava cake! Overbaked? Dip it in milk! Too much salt? Salted chocolate is delicious!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 07:32 PM
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Oh so you’ll guess at hers but not mine? Rude 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 07:29 PM
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Definitely not more than he wants me to be happy, and he’d much rather I be involved should the opportunity arise.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 07:27 PM
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Once you know what you’re doing with baking you can mess around with recipes a little, but yeah the consistency is what I like most about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:38 AM
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That’s one hell of a friend. It’s a damn shame you’re not into dick
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:03 AM
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She’s chubby but she’s definitely not obese. She’s definitely cute though
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:00 AM
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Jesse what the fuck are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 07:58 AM
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😈
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 06:03 AM
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Thank you I tried very hard
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 05:16 AM
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First? First!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 05:00 AM
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It’s definitely not universally meaningless. It’s flattering to get genuine compliments and such, but there are enough people out there who will say nice things with the expectation of reciprocity that it can make it a bit anxiety inducing to be approached. It’s also not particularly enjoyable or flattering to have a dude DM you (or worse tell you to your face) that you should leave your husband for him, especially with absolutely NO prior interactions. Just the first thing they say to you. That…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 04:29 AM
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There’s a point at which someone is so attractive it can make partners feel insecure. “They’re too attractive for me” is a surprisingly common sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 04:14 AM
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Ye I wasn’t actually worried, otherwise I wouldn’t have eaten them
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 02:31 AM
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Right??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:51 AM
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That’s what I figured. I inspected pretty closely just in case and so far I’m all good
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:51 AM
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In the DMs? Those dudes are in the DMs of any and every girl they can message. Even then I don’t have 40+ in my DMs even if I accumulated a count of all the guys I’ve ever had in my DMs over my life much less at once. In their social life? Most women don’t have that happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:11 AM
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Yes, but he’s also the only one so… there’s that. I wouldn’t trade his looks with any of my previous dating partners either though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:06 AM
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Not all orgasms are equal for women either to be fair. Maybe looking at comparative satisfaction would be better? Like maybe both people orgasm but weren’t satisfied or one/both didn’t but were satisfied? That’d be interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:50 PM
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That sure is correct lmao That being said my body is always looking at me sideways even when it’s the problem so like… I’d do it out of spite on a bad day
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:45 PM
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I’m only allergic to Aspergillus (white fuzzy bois) and there definitely wasn’t any of that in there. There also wasn’t any discoloration or strange smell and believe me when I say my autistic ass would know if the texture was off when I ate it. I also threw out all the other packs that had stuff like rye or dehydrated fruit in them to be safe. I posted this to elicit facepalms, not panic! I will at worst have a terrible time on the toilet for the next week or so but realistically the oatmeal I …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:37 PM
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Hey, it works on outside germs why not inside germs! It’s actually been studied and apparently drinking a sufficient amount of high proof alcohol does somewhat reduce the chances/severity of some bacteria that cause food poisoning! Emphasis on “somewhat reduce” and “some bacteria”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:29 PM
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Oh lord no, I’m allergic to mold and not actively suicidal anymore. It was dry, normal color, still sealed beforehand, and smelled+tasted fine I’ve just got a weak stomach
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:26 PM
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Yeah I looked up how long they stay good for after the best by date and it wasn’t quite within the time frame but pretty close so I decided “fuck it”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:25 PM
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Eh, I survived c diff I can survive another round with food poisoning. Also I’d be more likely to die of a seizure from the alcohol (am epileptic) than the oat demons
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:24 PM
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Yeah and I checked it for mold/smell beforehand. It tasted fine too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:23 PM
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Yeah! It’s a personal record!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:22 PM
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You’ll need to be very, very careful about boxing in the future and surgeries in that region can cause some unpleasant nerve stuff but if the risk is worth it to you then go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:21 PM
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Nooooo I don’t wanna lose my streak 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:18 PM
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I can’t afford that lmao, if it kills me it kills me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:15 PM
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Just ate oatmeal that expired a year ago. Wish me luck Edit: for legal reasons I will specify that it was a type of oatmeal that theoretically stays good up to 2 years past the expiration date and it was still sealed+checked for mold. I’m a fool but not that much of a fool
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:11 PM
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I think it’s definitely a green flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:00 PM
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The good news about baking is it’s a science! As long as you have a good recipe and follow it faithfully, it’ll turn out great :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:54 PM
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That… sure is a take on what happened to women when a tribe was conquered.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:49 PM
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By “can-do” attitude I did specify that I meant “doesn’t take rejection harshly and just shoots all the shots” because there is ample evidence of average looking guys getting laid. Charisma comes down to knowing what to say and when to say it. I’m not sure what you think is “cope” about that, considering how many people lack both of those things. Other people already brought up the monkeys but I’d like to direct your attention to bonobos in particular as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:45 PM
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If you’re 5’10+ just lie to hit the arbitrary number. If you’re shorter than that you run the risk of the date immediately calling you out in person and ghosting right after.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:23 PM
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Eh, I don’t like him but he’s not the worst. I’d say that for me it’d be a sign of incompatibility but not a red flag for him as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:16 PM
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A Pathfinder game run by a mutual friend. I’d been single for around two years at that point, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:11 PM
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Yeah, but it didn’t really bother me. We were already friends and it didn’t make school awkward or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:06 PM
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Hey, if I get back into BJJ I’d be able to contribute.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:04 PM
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I’ve got a theory that he doesn’t actually know what the fuck he’s talking about. My follow up theory is that he has a fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:47 AM
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I’m sure you would’ve been fine. Most of the men were terrible photographers (no offense to them it just makes it hard to actually rate) and the one people in the comments focused on took a good photo and had very nice facial hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:38 AM
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I just commented some pics of myself and I can link them here too so you can gauge the ratings lol. I’d give you my thoughts on Crystal but I’m pretty sure they’d go against the rules here.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:32 AM
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Huzzah!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:21 AM
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Oh boy. I’d love to hear your guess on what my BMI is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:20 AM
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Weird, it loaded for me and someone else. If you look up “faces of PPD rating” in the sub you should be able to find it—it got posted a year ago by figuringmylife
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:07 AM
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I am serious. I’m about to say something that’s definitely going to sound insulting even though I don’t mean it that way but here we go: You are not so unattractive that it would draw attention. At worst there’d be speculation about your package and wealth but it wouldn’t be a social death sentence. You’re not even ugly, let alone disfigured. You just look like a normal guy. I for one wouldn’t be insulted or disgusted if you approached me. Whether you want to chalk that up to my general weirdnes…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:05 AM
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The images or the post itself?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:51 AM
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I think you overestimate how much shit would get talked by friends. You also aren’t hiding your entire appearance from them, just an aspect of it you’re self conscious about. It’s kind of like women who don’t post or send any full body pictures, right? I can see why it would be considered deceitful but it’s not like you’re catfishing them. At the end of the day if they’re interested after seeing what you look like I don’t think it’s fair to assume you’ve made them blind to what you’ve looked lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:33 AM
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I got downvoted for saying there was a rating thread a year ago The downvote fiend is back
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:11 AM
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Is it really tricking someone if they don’t ask or are okay with not knowing? I mean in some situations the answer is absolutely yes but in this one I don’t think it is. Hell, not everyone even experiences sexual attraction before an emotional connection is formed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:10 AM
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Indeed. They also tend to ask after the pickiest of boobs
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:57 AM
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Yeah, they got taken down because of doxxing concerns but the comments are still there at least
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:52 AM
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Cowards, the lot of you. I mean it’s objectively smarter not to post your pics here but if we ignore all the doxxing threats it’s fiiiiiiine
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:48 AM
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Here’s hoping!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:47 AM
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Ah, just the monthly subscription to Lucifer’s Waterfall. Still trying to figure out how to cancel it…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:39 AM
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Awww 🥰 I gotta take pics of a new outfit once my body stops hating me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:36 AM
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I FOUND IT https://reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/C0J6i7ChGL
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:33 AM
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Yeah isn’t that like… all of what blue pill advice boils down to? Prioritize emotional connection over more shallow options?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:29 AM
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I don’t think anyone commented that specifically lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:28 AM
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I’d have spent less time taking the long way home when walking alone. I’d definitely be a lot more comfortable walking alone in general, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:27 AM
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I mean I’ve posted mine before and we had a whole-ass rating thread at one point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:25 AM
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Oh. I mean if you’ve had sex then your face clearly wasn’t a turn off to the women you met up with. Unless you were wearing a balaclava the whole time lmao Regardless it’s not over if you’re not conventionally attractive. Not sure what else to say on that and apparently the autism thing wasn’t actually supposed to be taken seriously so I’m just gonna gracefully exit this conversation I think
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:24 AM
1

Wait I thought that was the issue not how attractive you are I’m confused
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:14 AM
1

I mean you still haven’t said which of your features you think looks autistic so I’m just blindly guessing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:11 AM
1

In my defense, I find softness attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:09 AM
1

Oh… that explains why I don’t find him attractive then lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:07 AM
1

It wasn’t supposed to be an insult :( I thought people found him attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:01 AM
1

Shouldn’t “autistic features” apply to the majority of autistic people or at least at a demonstrably higher rate than in non-autistic people? I’m sure plenty of people with similar features to yours aren’t autistic and plenty of autistic people don’t share your features. Whether or not those features are interpreted as autistic is rooted in bias over anything else if there isn’t an actual related pattern in autistic presentation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:47 AM
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It’s an observation. I don’t know what features exactly you think are autistic but the first person I thought of when I looked at your picture was Dave Bautista since that’s the head+jaw shape it reminded me of, just softer. With more hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:43 AM
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Also, your face and neck are basically soft squares which I think is a pretty distinct combination that when extreme people associate with Down syndrome but in you just looks like baby Dave Bautista.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:27 AM
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What are you talking about, “dude just trust me” is the world’s most trusted source!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:21 AM
1

I’m pretty sure that if you asked a group of people to guess whether or not I was autistic based solely on a picture, they’d just be guessing. Same with pictures of my husband. I wouldn’t be surprised if in a larger study false negatives and false positives occur.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:19 AM
1

Melatonin. It’s the hormone we naturally make for sleep, you can take it in vitamin form.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:22 AM
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Charisma and a can-do attitude. Plus a healthy dose of being in the right place at the right time, of course. Appearance also matters to a moderate degree, but it’s not only mythical Chads or anything like that. Seriously, if they’re not afraid of getting rejected (which they will be sometimes no matter how hot or charismatic they are) they’ll be more comfortable shooting their shot with anyone who catches their eye. Then it’s just a matter of having the charisma to seal the deal with any intere…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 02:10 AM
1

Take lactase
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:13 AM
1

Sweet, dorky, kind, expressive, silly. I don’t want to be guessing what he’s thinking and we gotta be able to laugh together.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:38 PM
1

You’re gonna want to revisit this when you’re 20. There are many times in life I still find myself thinking “I need an adult” but I am the adult ;-;
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:05 PM
1

No?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 05:40 PM
1

Sobbing? No clue. Eyes watering? Adrenaline and endorphin crash.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:11 AM
1

It’d be trivial for me because my family spent like 20 generations naming their sons “Carl” lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:10 AM
1

I have found that the benefits far outweigh the side effects for me. I can guarantee you I would not have survived even another couple of months without being medicated. By the time I got treatment I was beyond the point of lifestyle changes alone being able to help me. Who knows, maybe if I started at the age of 9 instead things would be different but as it stands I don’t just throw extra medications at extra depression that I know is caused by lack of exercise or bad nutrition. I take the medi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 10:34 PM
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That’s good, ‘cause he really is the bestest
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 08:10 PM
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My choir teacher disowned me over my preferred build in WoW, I miss my teachers sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:59 PM
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The lid has to stay down for his cat so it’s never an issue for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:55 PM
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Yes it came as a massive shock to the students because he was, like… the least likely person you could think of (as a kid in his class at least) to have a TATTOO of a FISH on his LEG
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:54 PM
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Whoppers, nerds, and junior mints can come in boxes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:45 PM
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I know how to keep my man. And I have a reasonable track record of knowing what he wants, especially since I am capable of asking him if I’m not sure
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:40 PM
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I think I’m past the point of not calling my husband “husband material”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:38 PM
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Is saying my husband a cop out? Because it’s true and if he doesn’t count then I gotta go with a celebrity like Steve Irwin or Bob Ross or my 8th grade math and science teacher who has a fish tattoo on his leg
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:31 PM
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I’m glad I could help! And yes, definitely talk things over with a professional lol Fortunately for all the bullshit the world has put me through, I’m still kickin’ and don’t intend to stop anytime soon :) Plus, if my experiences can help people it makes me feel less shit about having gone through them in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:22 PM
1

Money. Taxpayer money would be the reason to oppose it. If money wasn’t an issue then absolutely! It’d at least get people out of the house more and see them rewarded for it one way or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:09 PM
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You’re right that it isn’t, but it’s also already being done and not in ways that have the good of the people at heart. I should have specified that you can artificially increase desirability of specific groups of people through propaganda but not necessarily in ways that facilitate fairness.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:08 PM
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Not really. Meeting the needs of your partner in a relationship is a necessary part of maintaining a relationship. Opportunities are created by luck, it takes work and care to seize those opportunities. It goes both ways though—if either partner feels taken for granted or unappreciated they’re likely to grow discontent and leave. A fair relationship isn’t necessarily a cookie cutter 50/50 in all departments one—it’s one where both partners do their best to do right by the other and work through …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:05 PM
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Enforcing a ratio would result in reluctant participation that would never give the dates an actual chance. It would already be extremely expensive to create and maintain but enforcing a ratio would either leave men out or result in significantly more money being outright wasted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 01:08 PM
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11 year old me with suicidal ideation would not have taken that suggestion as well as she did antidepressants and therapy. Everything people have mentioned so far would probably or certainly help but they’re not cures for depression severe enough to require treatment on top of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:56 PM
1

My guy if I cannot find the energy within me to chew food I invite you to try and convince me to go outside
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:53 PM
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I’m pretty sure I was getting plenty of those things when I was 11, yet I still had depression so severe it took over a decade of active treatment to find a way to manage it. I won’t lie and say that I currently get enough of those things, but my genetic chronic health issues and the months I spent literally dying of an obstructed kidney last year didn’t exactly help matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:51 PM
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So? So… that would be the worse option. Less suffering = better imo? You can’t artificially increase chances on a systemic scale for dating, not like you can with employment. That’s the difference—you can’t externally increase the chances of someone finding a person they’re compatible with in a way that actually allows relationships to develop. Government regulated+sponsored blind dating program maybe? It’d probably run into the same problem as apps where the gender application ratio is super sk…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:45 PM
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Not really, no. Employer (company) has needs (job gets done). Employer (person) is in essence just another employee with a job to do: find person to get job done. There are very few jobs where race realistically impacts someone’s ability to do their job. Those jobs include actors, customer facing jobs in racist areas, and Steve Harvey. An employer (person) who turns down an otherwise qualified potential employee over their race is actually failing to do their own job as an employee (finding pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 09:13 AM
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As the comment I was going to reply to was deleted I must simply shout my response into the void… I think brain chemistry is definitely the culprit for depressive disorders, and the widespread efficacy of SSRI/SNRIs suggests that serotonin is involved. If it isn’t, my next best guess is the theory that they work because serotonin impacts how we experience emotions. Whether it turns out people who respond best to SSRI/SNRIs do so because of a deficiency or because our brains need more serotonin t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:09 AM
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Oh trust me I know the feeling of “I’ll take the death, please!” Known it since I was a preteen, actually. Just recently started having to deal with the sheer inconvenience of actually wanting to be alive lol… not something you get warned about in therapy. The medications won’t make you happy when you feel hopeless, they’ll just make it easier to avoid getting stuck in the exhaustion if that makes sense. They don’t replace your regular emotions, just make them easier to regulate. You’ll still fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 06:47 AM
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I mean… it’s certainly not preferable but if the alternative is dead I’d rather take the medications. Modern SSRIs aren’t exactly heavy hitters in terms of long term brain alterations so you’re unlikely to develop a dependency or anything like that. That being said I never got the chance to experience living comfortably off of medications so I never really needed to weigh the pros and cons.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 06:09 AM
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Having had existing depression worsened by circumstances: if you have the money it’s absolutely worthwhile to take the medications when you’re struggling. You can lower the dose or stop the medication entirely if/when it becomes unnecessary (I ended up with symptoms of serotonin syndrome when my circumstances improved so we lowered the doses, it was surprisingly easy to adjust)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 05:31 AM
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I’m going to preface this by saying that YES male victims need resources on par with what’s available for women. Male victims aren’t even getting the bare minimum and that is a huge problem. I also believe that women are just as shitty, statistically speaking, as men are and most variance would be found in what flavor of terrible acts they commit. That being said… do you have a source to back up the claim that women murdered by their partners are the aggressors at a compellingly high rate? Don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 05:24 AM
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Wow. I wasn’t aware of that—that’s horrifying. I’m entirely unsurprised to see the statistic on juvenile victims, as women are rarely if ever punished properly for predatory behavior towards minors (particularly boys) which is incredibly frustrating considering how many people are immediately suspicious of men who go into childcare or pre-college teaching. I maintain that predators exist in similar numbers across the genders and giving half of them a free pass is all sorts of fucked up. The numb…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 05:00 AM
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The concept of fairness is also difficult if not impossible to apply to things like dating. You can’t force fairness—period. People have individualized preferences, types, and needs when it comes to finding partners. It’s impossible to guarantee that they will ever meet someone who meets their particular needs. You also can’t force anyone to feel a certain way about anything—including another person. Even if people were denied the ability to choose a partner and everyone got paired up, the quali…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:17 AM
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Op definitely didn’t think this one through lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:53 AM
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No one would enjoy that without a fetish for it. That’s part of why the general rule about exes for EVERYONE is “don’t ask, don’t tell” It probably wouldn’t break my relationship to watch and/or read all the shit my husband did before he met me but it would be a lot of unnecessary unpleasantness for the both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:49 AM
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There are plenty of untrustworthy people all across the spectrum of physical attractiveness. It’s easy to say here and now that I never would have ended up one of his victims but realistically if I was in the wrong headspace at the wrong time in the wrong place and he knew how to exploit that? Who knows. A lot fewer women end up murdered by a full on serial killer than by an abusive long term partner, though. As for violence that doesn’t result in murder, there’s a fair bit of that too. Even if …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:32 AM
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The biggest fear when dating as a woman is being abused, sexually assaulted, or murdered.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:31 PM
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Nope! Just tasks of similar length.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 09:44 PM
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A task buddy. If we both have to get something done we can both work at the same time and it creates a sort of pressure to stay on task
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:57 AM
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Yep. It doesn’t come up often but when it does it’s really important
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:10 AM
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Respecting my boundaries (especially the inconvenient ones) and giving me food.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:48 AM
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You too, bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:48 AM
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Yeah they consistently commit the majority of violent crimes though so there’s also that. I’m not saying it was justified but it also wasn’t as frequently outside of their control. Wives of men who got executed for things like treason or other particularly severe crimes weren’t exactly let off the hook though—they’d get executed or worse as well. I don’t intend to continue this conversation much longer but either you and I have very different ideas of what a good life looks like, you are very mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:37 AM
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Executions for the crime of stillbirth, specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:20 AM
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Women were expected to do more than just “staying at home” They also had to work the farms, work in factories, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:07 AM
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Infant death generally had more mental health repercussions for the mother than the father, especially when men weren’t expected to have much presence in the home. Additionally, while punishing women for delivering stillborn infants was pretty rare among middle and lower classes, it was far from unheard of for royals to demote or even execute mothers of royal children for stillbirths. On top of that, any incomplete miscarriages were effectively death sentences due to inability to evacuate the ut…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:27 PM
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Unironically based
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:11 PM
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I think everyone does to a certain extent. It’s embarrassing to make a mistake and even more so to dwell on it long enough to properly understand why you made it, how to avoid making it again, and apologizing+making reparations when necessary. Taking accountability is not a pleasant experience so people generally avoid it without necessarily realizing what they’re doing. Everyone has different levels of self awareness and willingness to accept wrongdoing. On top of that, people will have an easi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:10 PM
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Dying in childbirth I assume 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:02 PM
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Ah yes… except for all of the time before modern medicine where maternal and infant mortality rates were so bad they skewed the average life expectancy by decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:01 PM
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So… the crutches/wheelchair comparison actually applies to me. Yes, it is something that is inconvenient for me and my partner but it’s also always been this way for me. My “legs” aren’t broken, they were stunted from birth in this comparison. Made my teen years pretty unpleasant in that regard. I will point out that vibrators used during PIV sex are external. They don’t replace the penis and generally if a woman can’t orgasm from penetrative sex they won’t orgasm from internal toys aside from r…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:55 PM
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Yeah… I also got yoinked by a Canadian lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:08 PM
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Hey! You said I was a rare find and I’m American! not that I think being American is a good thing but that’s not the point
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:04 PM
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I like beards ¯\(ツ)/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:26 PM
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If you see this, drink some water.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:02 AM
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118, just barely a Stacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 07:54 PM
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Oh yeah that’s all totally reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 07:41 PM
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Yoga and several exercises can be done at home :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 09:35 AM
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Depends on what you mean by “lots of personal leeway” but otherwise pretty reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 09:33 AM
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I have been taken to the ground by my German Shepherd once… because she jumped into a ditch after a rabbit I didn’t spot and I didn’t want her to break her neck. I kept hold of the leash and I would never take her on a walk when I wasn’t very confident I could pick her up off the ground if necessary (and it has been before, such as when an off leash dog got up in our business and while my girl was muzzled, the other dog wasn’t) Despite being trained to be a service dog, her temperament didn’t wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 09:32 AM
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“Only do x after y number of dates or else [insert consequences here]” Nah, do things you want to do when you want to do them. The best way to avoid being “used for sex” is to have sex when you actually want sex. Either they’ll stop putting the work in to date you and you’ll be free to move on or they’ll continue on the path to a serious relationship. If they were leading you on and continue to do so afterwards, more dates probably wouldn’t have changed that outcome. There’s no magic number of d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 11:03 PM
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I mean I expect my partner to initiate things when they want something. I’ll initiate too though. Aside from that, no. If things go according to plan I’ll be the one who pays for stuff and my husband will do more of the housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:31 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:21 PM
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I’ve never been able to, actually. And you know teenagers… it wasn’t for lack of trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:59 PM
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Fellas, is it gay to be happy? I mean… linguistically the answer is yes but I digress.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:58 PM
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Say what you will but ladies of the night (be them night shift workers, vampires, prostitutes, or a combination thereof) make good company! Sure, having our drinks of preference on hand is a must but we’re worth it!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:55 PM
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I do agree. If a woman hits someone it should be considered assault and punished accordingly. Violence outside of war zones, martial arts, etc. is illegal for a reason. It’s not like we as humans don’t have ready access to things that allow women to easily inflict lethal damage if violent tendencies go unchecked.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:51 PM
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This is the question. No matter what the answer is I’d be disqualified here but oh well I guess I’ll just have to go cry to my husband about how a stranger on PPD wouldn’t date me because vibrators make everything sex related better lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:44 PM
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It depends significantly on the woman. I prefer partners closer to me in height—the height matters but I want them to be within a couple inches of my height. I wouldn’t outright disqualify anyone for their height but the bigger the difference the more inconvenient it can be. Some women absolutely consider height to be the primary physical attractor (most who do prefer taller but some outliers do prefer shorter), others truly don’t care beyond extremes. My opinion is that short guys can be plenty…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:40 PM
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…what?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 04:39 AM
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What the fuck did I just read
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:42 PM
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Just because they do doesn’t mean they should and it is an incredibly unhealthy way of communicating. It is THEIR FAULT if their fake no is interpreted as a real no. If they can’t accept that then that’s a big fuckin problem
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:23 PM
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Ask her why she said she didn’t want sushi. If she says “you should’ve just bought it anyway” or something like that, tell her to communicate that to you next time instead of making it a guessing game.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:17 PM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:01 PM
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Excite me as in arouse me or excite me as in turns my life into a perpetual rollercoaster? No I wouldn’t be fine with the first one, and the second one would be Too Much and I wouldn’t want that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 06:55 PM
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Imagine Dragons
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 05:28 AM
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Look it’s not my fault I picked the champion who looked most like me and it turns out she fucks up Vayne bot lane. Just go top lane instead ;P
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 04:58 AM
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I do think the “Criminals Apprehended/Catch Me If You Can” passives suggest that we won’t be getting a reconciliation between the two. Riot might remove those though. Honestly I probably wouldn’t know about the passives if I wasn’t a lifelong Cait main so it wouldn’t be the end of the world if they did remove them so who knows! That being said I think the pre-finale Jinx was a fusion between Jinx and Powder, which contributed to her inner turmoil and volatility. I think post-finale Jinx is going…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 04:54 AM
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I’m going based off of what I know from the game, since even though I expect there to be a bit of retconning and such for the game as the show goes on I don’t think it’ll be so drastic a departure that we don’t end the journey with Jinx rather than Powder.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 04:43 AM
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I don’t think there’s going to be a redemption for her per say, because the implication of the finale was that Powder is officially gone. There might be more Noxian champs involved, we’ll probably be getting Blitzcrank within the next couple seasons at most, I expect Camille will be making an appearance this season with the whole power void in Piltover thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 04:35 AM
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I’m super excited! I can’t wait for the Viktor arc to rip my heart out and stomp on it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 04:26 AM
1

Agreed :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 04:18 AM
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Oh for sure. I definitely don’t have the money to try the gauntlet again right now though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 04:01 AM
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I could definitely still benefit from therapy but I’ve hit the limit of what a mediocre therapist can do for me. The vast majority of my trauma is from my family life and medical problems so that probably also makes a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:50 AM
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Fortunately for me I found my person pretty dang quickly :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:44 AM
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Seems like I’m a combination of 4, 5, and 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:28 AM
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Minimum wage isn’t enough to pay for an apartment and basic food, at least where I live. That being said I didn’t realize that’s what you meant—whoopsie.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 02:49 AM
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“If you’re broke just say that” is an extremely out of touch response to “I don’t want to spend that much money on items that amount to money wasting pissing contests” I could be a multimillionaire and not want to spend more than is necessary on a glorified pocket.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 01:19 AM
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“Maidenless? Not anymore!”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 01:12 AM
1

You mean like accents?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:54 PM
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Yeah there’s a lot of trial and error to be had with DND groups. I’ve had pretty good luck so far, fortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:50 PM
1

But have you tried building Sisters of Battle?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:48 PM
1

-1st
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:44 PM
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Yeah, I’ll admit I naïvely gave this advice before I realized that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:44 PM
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Before meeting in person, but I didn’t realize until it hit me like a ton of bricks when we did meet in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:43 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:41 PM
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I think it’s also a fundamental misunderstanding of the advice. Having a hobby in common with someone helps things progress more organically and gives people more time to acclimate to each other before warm approaching because cold approaching relies so heavily on more shallow criteria. Partaking in an activity you enjoy is to keep it enjoyable if there aren’t people there to pursue. Participating in a hobby you don’t actually care about just to hit on women is absolutely going to go exactly the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:38 PM
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Yeah, mostly the neutral ones or ones I’m dysmorphic about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:31 PM
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Ah fuck now I gotta do math… Been together five years, married for two this month :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:28 PM
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I think there are some exceptions but otherwise yeah, now that I think about it in my experience that’s also the case. Interesting!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:27 PM
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I mean… an ex is still an ex. I’m on great terms with most of my exes but that doesn’t make them not my exes. The way I refer to them depends on the context—if them being my ex is relevant I’ll say it but otherwise I’ll just use their name/“my friend”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 09:25 PM
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When you said that if it weren’t for women people would probably live comfortably with minimum wage jobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:47 PM
1

Now go or I shall taunt you a second ti-em!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:46 PM
1

I’d argue that autism is the preferable of the two.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:46 PM
1

Can confirm having a seizure ruins the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:08 PM
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Fortunately all the women in my family ended up with autism too, no BPD to be found.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:07 PM
1

Pan solidarity 💗💛💙
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:04 PM
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It is pretty tasty. I do wish it was a more common flavor
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:01 PM
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Your mother was a hamster and your father smelt of elderberries!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:59 PM
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I’m a woman. I do those things. I have done grueling manual labor jobs for good pay until my body gave out. Women entering the workforce didn’t cause inflation, corporate greed did.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:56 PM
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Emotional sponge (derogatory)?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:32 AM
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Even if it got you Wabbajack?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:31 AM
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Honestly he probably never had reason to examine why that situation would be so uncomfortable for a woman. If he didn’t get scary after being rejected, he’s probably just lacking in the awareness department.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:22 AM
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Ah that makes sense. Like an emotional vampire.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:18 AM
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As long as they don’t make it my problem (catcall me, follow me around, interrupt me, etc.) I don’t care. Checking someone out can be quick, nearly entirely automatic and subconscious, and can be done from a distance. Realistically if I’m focused on something like shopping I’m not going to notice if someone looks me over. Stopping people from doing that would involve thought policing and shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:17 AM
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Damn, you got me… guess I’ll have to eat all this candy in my not-a-basement by myself ;-;
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:07 AM
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In extreme scenarios, there’s definitely a possibility that’s really all you’d gain from the relationship. It’s also fair to say that a lot of relationships are unbalanced in what the partners contribute, but the other guy’s idea that zero other contribution from the woman is the norm is definitely off the mark. I also think that if someone is actually good at being the emotional center of a relationship in a way that improves the relationship (strong sense of how their partner is feeling and be…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:06 AM
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Well the good news is I do not have a basement.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:56 AM
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Oh for sure. I’m lucky that most of my friends (and my husband) are either night shift workers or insomniacs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:54 AM
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Merry birthmas :) I’ll give you a pass on your insults towards night shift… this time
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:36 AM
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Especially when you know for a fact that the chores you did+money you made eased your partner’s stress substantially.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:31 AM
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Except for when we’re splitting the bills, contributing to housework, able to help each other with tasks based on our different skills+experiences, etc. Those sound like benefits to me, but admittedly I’m not a man. I’m also anything but opposed to providing for a house husband since I recognize my lack of interest in cooking makes me a poor option for being a housewife lol. I’d rather pay for the ingredients than do the cooking any day of the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:28 AM
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I will preface this by saying you are an adult and can make your own decisions, but you should make ones like these with extreme caution. You are clearly in a bad headspace and your body image will likely get worse during pregnancy. It sounds like you should see a doctor BEFORE trying for a baby to assess pregnancy risk. Someone else already pointed this out but it bears repeating: the risk of relapse is still high enough in the first year of sobriety that it’s probably worth waiting—plus you ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:48 AM
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I live too far away to hang out with most of them in person, but when we can hang out IRL we sometimes do. Usually it’s just more convenient and fun to hang out online though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:30 AM
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It’s definitely a solid show until it runs out of steam. Most shows that go past their originally intended end point run into that problem though—and this one has a LOT of content before it runs into that problem. It’s not my cup of tea but it’s definitely a solid choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:28 AM
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So here are a handful of things it could be, but unless you are CERTAIN it’s one of the ones that doesn’t require a doctor you should absolutely go to the doctor. Do not fuck around with digestion issues—they’re deceptively dangerous. Food intolerance (lactose, gluten, etc. some of which need to be tested by a doctor) Diet changes (reversible, does not require a doctor but seeing a doctor about why the new diet was causing problems) Stomach ulcers (see a doctor about this) The many possible scar…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:23 AM
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My sister still makes her own pretty frequently! She likes to put plastic dinos in it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 09:18 PM
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My husband and I live in a decently sized city in BC.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 08:43 PM
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I didn’t comment on your options because I don’t know who you’ll meet or what you’re looking for. I do think you could find a relationship based on attraction. I say not doomed because no matter what you look like or what your personality is you at minimum have the potential to be someone’s type—I will never include relationships without attraction as an option for people who want a relationship with attraction. However I also recognize how meaningless that is to say when I don’t know what you l…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 02:06 AM
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It wouldn’t look better at 40, but it wouldn’t look so much worse that you suddenly become utterly doomed. If you don’t think you’re going to succeed anyway, does it really matter whether or not you take a break? Is it worth the damage to your mental health to not take at least month or two off from trying just to have a chance to breathe? Those are questions only you can answer as the answers are deeply personal—the “right” or “wrong” answer isn’t universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 01:21 AM
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Crying might genuinely help. People live like this because it’s the option presented to them as simply sink or swim. A very small handful are so academically gifted that they are able to do it all without getting burnt out, but most people end up needing to cut corners and bullshit their way through whatever they can get away with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 01:03 AM
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The FBI probably does… I hope 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:59 AM
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I’m not surprised and you’re not obligated to be polite about it. I’m not hurt by your assumption that I’d be condescending if for no other reason than it’s not exactly an unreasonable one to make. You’re hurting and that’s understandable. I’m sure your situation isn’t easy or pleasant to navigate. However, I don’t think a debate sub is the right place to go if what you need most is compassion and likeminded people to vent with—not that there are many options for that right now. Until things cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:57 AM
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I said in video game! Besides, it could be caffeine or other legal options!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:40 AM
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Fair point. I think the birth mother should be able to deny the request but I think there being an option to request it if all parties involved want it undone would be a good idea. I could be wrong though
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:39 AM
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Not without a new contract that involves paying any child support that would have been owed, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:31 AM
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Oh that first part is definitely not what I was going for. It’d be entirely up to the pregnant woman to decide whether or not to carry the child to term—the man would (or should, but let’s go with would in the hypothetical where I’m writing the laws) have no say in that, legally speaking. In addition, if he terminates his responsibilities he also terminates his rights to see the child or assume guardianship. He wouldn’t be able to negotiate visitation or anything, he’d be signing away any legal …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:28 AM
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Personal experience as in my own experience or does it count if it’s a friend of mine? Because no, I’m not a 30 year old virgin and that ship has sailed for me. This subreddit is also based rather significantly around debating things we haven’t necessarily experienced but can approach with an open mind regardless. I’m also not saying ✨giving up is never the right decision uwu✨ I’m just pointing out that an eternity of loneliness is not guaranteed. Besides, your original comment was making a clai…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:08 AM
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That’s a reasonable concern to have. I think that if anything like this actually got implemented each state, province, or country would handle that differently. Personally I think that regardless of pregnancy if someone is convicted of rape they should be on the hook for any related medical costs which would include pregnancy costs and if the victim is prevented from obtaining an abortion that should nullify any potential protections the perpetrator has. While the number will obviously be lower,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:42 PM
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I don’t think anyone here will deny that people will get rejected for being a virgin after 30—only the idea that once you pass that point it’s pointless to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:32 PM
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Do drug? (In video game)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:24 PM
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And I generally agree with you, but more importantly you’re entitled to your own opinion and I respect your input.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:23 PM
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I meant it should be her responsibility to figure it out rather than assuming the baby daddy will have it covered. If she wants to have a child, the first and possibly only person whose ability to provide she should be assessing is herself. If she can’t, the government can step in later to assist or place the kid elsewhere, no autonomy lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:22 PM
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I absolutely agree that for an unfortunate number of people it’s about control and punishment rather than anything altruistic. Any possible solution should be a matter of giving men and women equal or equitable options for termination and laws allowing fathers to terminate should be tied to the relevant law for mothers so one can’t be overturned without the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:10 PM
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I think the legal contract would need to be dealt with during the actual pregnancy, when that discussion is taking place. I think that if a woman wants to abort but doesn’t because her partner wants to keep the kid that’s not a great sign for the relationship anyway but at the same time these are risks that already come with the territory. People would inevitably get burned but that’s true of any possible solution aside from creating a true utopia.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:07 PM
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Why not just give SSI anyway then? I think it’s reasonable for men to have a way out—especially if they were too young, deceived, or coerced.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:55 PM
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I think if the woman decides she wants to go it alone it should be her responsibility. If abortion is illegal where they live that’s one thing, but if she had another option and chose not to take it I don’t think the man should shoulder a responsibility he doesn’t want. Yeah, the child’s wellbeing is important… so don’t have one if you can’t provide for them. What if the baby daddy dies? Or is disabled and can’t work anyway? Or can’t/won’t work for whatever reason? Relying on someone else with n…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:46 PM
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I’d rather there be an option for women to carry the baby but the father to sign away parental rights and responsibilities so no child support or anything. Forced abortion would be pretty extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:39 PM
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There’s not always evidence left to collect by the time a doctor is involved. Making an appointment with the doctor to get an STD test usually takes long enough that there’s no biological material left to collect. Doctors will perform rape kits if requested but most of those never get processed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:33 PM
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Yeah, I think society would change pretty drastically if social and legal consequences were removed. There are enough “bad” people that one way or another the “good” people will need to do unpleasant things to stay safe. They just wouldn’t have the luxury of a system in place to deal with it for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:29 PM
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It’s also worth looking at the quality of her friends either way. I’ve known women with a lot of “friends” who only hung out together because they enabled each others’ toxicity. I’ve had male friends confess to finding me attractive but as long as they understand and respect the fact that nothing is going to happen between us I’ll gladly maintain the friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:23 PM
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Because they’re still reported to, say, doctors and therapists—just not necessarily police. I think a fully anonymous survey would be pretty unreliable especially if it surveyed gen Z but I think a non-anonymous survey would give a number that could be used with the FBI data to find a more realistic number. Regardless, it’s naïve to assume that the police are the most reliable source of information for things that they notoriously mishandle. Here are some of the sources used to find the working …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:12 PM
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No, I don’t believe that’s the case. I’ve developed my own sense of morality separate from the one I was raised with—it’s part of being a whole entire person. Besides, there are natural consequences to attempting or committing murder. Even if those weren’t an issue, people don’t do things for no reason so it wouldn’t happen willy-nilly with the majority of people becoming murder hobos. I’m sure it would happen more if consequences were removed but I don’t think that most people would stop taking…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:01 PM
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Even with your interpretation of the data, you need to redo the math accounting for the men included in the 100k. The original commenter also said SA and rape, which is not included in the FBI statistic. Statutory rape is also not included in the FBI statistic. Nor are the many cases of SA/SV that do not get reported to the police OR reports that are made but never filed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:55 PM
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The man makes me tater tots at 1 am upon request, he’s a keeper and by god I’m gonna keep him lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:48 PM
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Hey! I can be two things 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:45 PM
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I think most is a stretch, depending on your definition of moral rules. Don’t murder? I’d say most people don’t need manufactured consequences to prevent them from doing that. Default to carefully respectful politeness in social interactions? Oh yeah, most people would drop that in an instant if they weren’t worried about social consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:40 PM
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I get him his favorite foods, I’ve learned to make his favorite dessert because store-bought options are usually sub-par, I make sure to do things for him that I don’t get anything out of but I know he really likes whenever I’m feeling up to them, I’d get him flowers but I haven’t found a place to get any that are guaranteed safe for cats so instead the last time I had the extra budget I got him a cheese board+special cheese knives (man LOVES cheese), and I wrote+sang him a love song that I lear…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:35 PM
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Yet here’s the CDC data: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/sexualviolence/fastfact.html
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:24 PM
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I have googled it… that’s where I got 1/6.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:12 PM
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Where are you getting that statistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:39 PM
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If there’s no Tinder there’s no date?¿?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:08 PM
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1/6 is still a pretty gnarly statistic. Even if it’s not 1/2 it’s still a pretty sizable number.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:06 PM
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You’re not wrong. I shall amend the comment
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 06:31 PM
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Welp, I appear to have failed step one. And two. Something tells me my husband is less willing to sell our plasma to fund his business before leaving me high and dry decades later, though. Seriously, this post is so far from typical behavior it could feasibly be well written ragebait.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:57 AM
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Man doesn’t know the difference between a monarchy and an oligarchy. For shame. Oh and equating mass shootings to government sanctioned executions… that’s a fair bit worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:44 AM
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With my family? Because direct communication was considered “aggressive and abusive” even if it was just me, as a literal child, asking politely but directly to have my needs met. With my husband? Because I’m still working on breaking that habit and it can be very anxiety inducing for me to ask for things that I know will inconvenience the person I’m asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:29 AM
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It really isn’t that different, or at least it shouldn’t be. Ultimately the assumption that men are thirsty enough only reject women who actively turn them off is both untrue and harmful to everyone. It makes men feel pressured into accepting if they don’t think they have a “good enough” reason and makes women feel like if they get rejected there’s something very wrong with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:21 AM
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I think it’s outdated, especially the degree to which it’s expected. I’ll admit that I generally prefer it when my partner initiates but I’m no stranger to initiating when I’m confident in what I want. Sometimes I’ll get shot down but it’s not like I’m saved any heartache by dropping hints or being vague instead of just asking outright.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:15 AM
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No, if anything the species will be stronger for me having not reproduced. My genes are so shit I wouldn’t wish them on my worst enemy. I can help with (or take on primary responsibility for) raising children I didn’t contribute genes to, which is still a valuable contribution from an evolutionary standpoint. Foster+adoptive parents are important across all sexually reproductive species. That being said, I also don’t really care whether or not I fulfill any biological or societal duties. I’ll do…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:07 AM
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Oh, I will say that of the women who don’t have a specific preference, most preferred to be shorter than their partner even if it was just by a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:44 PM
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Yeah, but the tall vs average preference is a 1 person difference in my rather small sample group
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:37 PM
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I’m 5’6, my husband is 5’8. My preference is within 3-4” of my height in either direction. I know more women who don’t care than women who have a preference for average or shorter, but I do also know a fair number of women who prefer 6’+ so in my own social circle there are significantly more who genuinely don’t care than ones who have a preference at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:32 PM
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I am one of the women who genuinely prefers partners close to me in height. I briefly dated someone 6’1 and realized that it was definitely not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:25 PM
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I’m one of those people who is distinctly lacking in the intuition department. It’s part of why having a partner who is okay with verbalizing things that can be left implied is so important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:48 PM
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In that instance yes I suppose you’re right—but just so you know that’s actually her asking for your consent by being the first to lean in.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:25 PM
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And again I will say that 1) blanket consent can be given, it doesn’t have to be re-given every time in an established relationship 2) it’s not exactly unheard of for people in established relationships to ask to kiss each other (particularly if one of them is in a bad mood or in the middle of something that might be interrupted by smooching)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:09 PM
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And the boys won’t have to worry about losing to me at games anymore so really it’s saving friendships, too!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:52 PM
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Welp, guess I gotta tell my husband no more TTRPGs without me…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:48 PM
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Genetics and parental neglect for me. Got a different genetic depression disorder from each parent, somehow!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:43 PM
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💙
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:39 PM
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That’s so shitty :( I’m not only pissed at the fact that people didn’t show up after planning it, but like… IT IS FREE, DELICIOUS FOOD WHAT ARE THEY DOING?!? Not only are they rude and terrible, they’re also fools. Please let your dad know that this random stranger on the internet would have gladly dropped plans and found a way to get there if it was remotely reasonable to do so :(
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:38 PM
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Mine? No, it isn’t. I also clarified that the consent stuff applies specifically to physical and sexual advances+contact, not verbal ones unless it’s going into kink territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:34 PM
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Reasonable standards? What are you even doing here?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 04:41 AM
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It’s easy, all you gotta do is date a woman who… has no mental illnesses but is ready and willing to help with any you may have, has a low N count but not too low if she’s 25+ ‘cause that’s a red flag, has standards that aren’t too high so you can meet them but also aren’t too low so she isn’t already taken, has built a stable life for herself but is totally willing to become a submissive tradwife as soon as the right man shows up, isn’t overweight or underweight but also isn’t neurotic about fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 01:45 AM
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Those are reasonable desires to have and mourning the common experiences your childhood lacked is completely understandable. I’m genuinely sorry you were put through so much when other people were getting the chance to harmlessly make fools of themselves. Just because what you missed out on wasn’t the best or most fulfilling aspect of adolescence doesn’t mean it couldn’t have been preferable to what you dealt with in its place.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 01:29 AM
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Well for one thing, new relationships are ALWAYS awkward and messy. All relationships require an immense amount of effort and patience as you adjust to each other. But more importantly, it will probably not be the same awkwardness as it was for kids dating as young teens/preteens. That awkwardness revolved more around growing up and trying to manage crazy puberty hormones while ideally your parents do their best to make sure you do so safely.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 01:20 AM
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I think it’s silly that people (read: nigh exclusively men) routinely get criticized for being put off by literally anything. Y’all should be allowed to have preferences and standards, it isn’t anyone’s business besides you and your potential partners unless you actually ask for advice. Berating or degrading a stranger for something you find unattractive is obviously wrong but I think people can get needlessly defensive over people civilly discussing their own interests. Edit: as for getting peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 12:55 AM
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While it’s obviously not universal I think there was a study done at some point that supports that as a very common kink for women to have. Which makes sense, considering it combines things like a display of strength+dominance without actually causing harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 12:45 AM
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It is awkward and messy, though. 13 year olds “dating” usually involves a lot of embarrassment, parental interference, and little to none of what actual adult dating does. Is it potentially valuable experience? Yes. Is it reasonable to be sad if you missed out on it? Absolutely! Does that change the fact that most “dating” from the ages of 11-15 is effectively just glorified playdates? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 12:27 AM
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I try to at least do it before I shower so there’s less hair art on the wall afterwards lol, but unless I’m going out somewhere or need to put my hair up I get pretty lazy about upkeep
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 11:14 PM
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Then no, if what you’re doing works for you then there’s no need to change it. I don’t think many people have the luxury of a partner that easy to satisfy, but if you’re one of them you’re under no obligation to improve. You could up your game further but that’s really it unless you really want a girl who needs the extra effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 11:11 PM
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🤤
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 10:01 PM
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Conditioner + daily brushing helps a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:47 PM
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The laugh is a nervous response. Saying something dumb is definitely a deflection tactic though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:45 PM
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Ah. I missed that. My bad—I also think that calling a hug, kiss, or compliment from someone you have agreed to go on a date with sexual harassment or assault is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:44 PM
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Twinsies!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:41 PM
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I probably won’t learn, seeing as I’m married and everything I listed applies to my husband so clearly it is attainable. In any case, every person has different comfort levels with different things. If someone kissed me on a first date without asking or at minimum giving me a chance to move away then I would not have continued dating that person. I’m sure plenty of other people would be completely unbothered by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:29 PM
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Sure, if you have a lot of options then pick the one who fits your needs the best! If that means the girl who can orgasm once from 5 minutes of penetration and be satisfied, cool. If none of your options look like that though, you’re gonna want to invest in foreplay, maybe even giving her a big O before penetration (or get your voyeur on and have her do it herself if you really can’t be bothered but want to pretend that you care). Not because it’s “your problem” if she gets hers, but because if …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:04 PM
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It is possible to give blanket consent for things like kissing, but is it really that crazy to you that people in established relationships still ask to kiss each other? Obviously not like that, you and I both know that no one asks like that. A simple “can I have a kiss?” isn’t exactly an absurd thing to ask if your partner is in the middle of something or otherwise not already expecting to be kissed in the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:33 PM
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Allow me to clarify: Consent is necessary when it comes to engaging in kinks, physical contact, and other unwholesome things. Explicit consent is not necessary nor can it be effectively given in the context of conversing with strangers. Encouragement is for conversations, compliments, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:17 PM
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Assault. Consent is necessary for things like assault, kink, etc. not conversation. I don’t think so? It would’ve said 22 before, I’m 23 now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:10 PM
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Needing my verbal or written consent to hit me? Not sure why he’d need luck for that but go off I guess lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:05 PM
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No need, it’s how it works in my marriage and it’s how it worked before. The consent stuff applies specifically to things like assault that you mentioned before, not being approached in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:03 PM
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It’s just another way of saying fuck you, but it’s usually said when the guy is complaining about women. “Well if you hate women so much, don’t date them lololol” type stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:58 PM
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Not can’t, didn’t. Edit for clarity: Consent (for physical sexual contact, specifically) must be given verbally or in writing, it’s not something that should be left implied. That’s a recipe for disaster. It also can’t apply to strangers catcalling on the street. Edit 2: someone rightly pointed out that consent to things like kissing can be implied, so while verbally asking for consent is preferred by some people it’s definitely not a universal requirement. Encouraging advances involves actively…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:55 PM
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I definitely try to be. I’ve failed before and have regrets, but I learn from my mistakes and the friends I have say they’re glad to have me :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:51 PM
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Honesty, humor, perspective, teamwork, kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:46 PM
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It wouldn’t be any safer per-say, but it would certainly make day to day life more pleasant. I’ve done the approaching and gotten rejected. It wasn’t pleasant but I knew the risks going in and took it in stride. I do honestly think that more women should take the initiative regardless. I’m also married so it would be all benefit for me if this suddenly happened lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:34 PM
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No, it’s not. It’s another way of saying “if I gave my consent for it or encouraged the advances”—it doesn’t matter how attractive the man catcalling me is, that behavior is an instant no.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:27 PM
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Well I can tell you one thing: better diagnosed and treated than undiagnosed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:54 AM
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I want to preface this by saying that yeah, people generally don’t want to call their partners average (for a lot of reasons, and avoiding hurt feelings is certainly one of them) so I’m not disagreeing in the slightest. Anyway I tend to call my husband a Chad here (jokingly) because so many of the men here think that the only way a woman can truly love and proactively put work into her relationship with a man is if that man is a Chad/way outclassing her. I can recognize that my feelings for him …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:46 AM
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It’s not leading them to be more emotional, it’s leading them to actually express those emotions instead of bottling them up or otherwise internalizing their negative feelings. Healthy relationships with our minds and feelings shouldn’t be restricted by gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:36 AM
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Equal amount of unsolicited attention as the average woman? You’d need to be a minor celebrity. Same or similar number of actually compatible and mutually interested options after sifting through the bs? Successful enough to be comfortably independent and be able to partake in various social hobbies (online or offline) as well as the confidence to approach+take rejections in stride. I say this as a decidedly average, maaaaaybe slightly above average based on looks alone woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:47 AM
1

Big true
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:42 PM
1

I want what they’re having!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:40 PM
1

HRT≠steroids. You’d be quite disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:31 PM
1

speedrun music starts playing at the cafe
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:24 PM
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The two total times a singular man has approached me on the street near my house for a “friendly conversation” it took very few cautious responses before they started making overt passes at me and one of them tried to follow me home. I was under 18 both times. One of them was a man older than my father who I am pretty sure was married at the time and the other was a guy definitely closer to my age but couldn’t take no for an answer (and didn’t live in the neighborhood anyway) so the encounter we…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:36 AM
3

Just put all the self help books into a red capsule ezpz
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:14 AM
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1) like, ever? No you should actually have days set aside specifically to spend with her. All day, every day? That’s definitely too much for most people, and not something that is likely to happen unintentionally. 2) bestest friend≠only friend. Ideally a partner is someone you trust and care about enough to be their bestest friend (with benefits and tax breaks if married). Y’all should still have other friends though. 3) this one is just correct. If you both can’t go out on your own and have you…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:09 AM
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It’s more like this: if your neurodivergence only makes you slightly awkward, you’ll only be at a minor disadvantage at worst. The worse the impediments, the greater the disadvantage (when trying to date NT women in particular). It won’t outright prevent you from attracting someone you consider to be on your level regardless, but in a numbers game the odds certainly matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 09:06 AM
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Yes. The masking isn’t for our partners to like us, it’s to function in society. I don’t mask when I’m at home with my husband, but I have to when we’re out of the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 07:09 PM
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Besides that, masking is unpleasant and draining. As long as you have a working understanding of your own needs and when masking is necessary to baseline function (even if you can only manage it for a very short amount of time) that should be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 07:07 PM
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IT’S A FUN MOVIE
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 06:22 PM
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^
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:33 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:32 AM
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Delaney is a fine name, probably just means they like European names. It’s not a weird newfangled bastardization either, it’s actually a fairly common name. Yes I’m biased, I have a relative with that name and she’s a sweetheart 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:25 AM
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Nah, I’ve had non creepy guys I wasn’t attracted to hit on me. Creepy to me is following me around/trying to touch me or push the issue type stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:20 AM
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Now that I’ve looked at some of your other comments, have you considered that you might just be anti-social/lack a social drive? Not in an insulting way, in a “your brain may actually be wired abnormally” way. My husband has friendships that are important to him without some secondary goal involved. Just mutual enjoyment of the other’s company. For most people a lack of meaningful+fulfilling relationships (platonic or otherwise) causes feelings of isolation, depression, and anxiety. Touch starva…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:14 AM
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Here’s another. Here’s one about physical health. Social support. Fulfilling friendships consistently correlate with lower rates of depression, anxiety, and suicidal behaviors. Unless it’s gynocentric of me to consider that universally important, why wouldn’t that be a strong reason to need/want friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 01:53 AM
1

I bet he made some for Zeus
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 01:17 AM
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Now I’m not saying lying is good, but 5’10 is close enough to 6’ that listing your height as “about 6’” might help. Maybe. Anyone below 5’6-8 or so probably won’t be able to tell the difference.
/r/AllPillDebate24/11/22 01:16 AM
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The face looks more like a penis though… an uncircumcised penis that grew eyes on its balls.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 01:11 AM
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…are we secretly gym guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 01:06 AM
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No, before I lost weight I had boobs that were a bit bigger than average and even that was extremely inconvenient. Also it’s expensive
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 01:03 AM
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Have you looked at the profiles of the people who are succeeding? Did you see any major differences? Lastly, have you tried warm approaching in person? It sounds like you may have more success that way, as people who are sweet and sociable can’t properly convey that online. To use an extremely unscientific term, vibing with people could help a lot.
/r/AllPillDebate24/11/22 01:00 AM
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That’s not what I’m saying, though. I’m aware the needs are different but the need still exists. Platonic social support is important for men, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:48 AM
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You think she’d listen to me? You fool 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:43 AM
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Also… that’s a delicious, relatively cheap meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:42 AM
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Because loneliness of any variety has a large impact on overall mental health
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:41 AM
1

Today I am thankful for how ridiculous a queen conch looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:40 AM
1

Ur welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:33 AM
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It’s definitely not unreasonable to ask. Plenty of people like partaking in stuff like that—obviously kink negotiations would need to happen, and it’s a good idea to set up expectations for aftercare beforehand, but as long as both people are interested in trying it there’s no reason not to entertain it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:31 AM
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Women who slap men assuming (often correctly) that their gender will protect them from retaliation are some of the worst human beings. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:19 AM
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Reality check: I support you doing what makes you happy, but right now it can’t be the only thing you’re doing as we have bills to pay (or something along those lines) Emotional abuse*: you’re shit at acting and shouldn’t continue with it at all If they’re enjoying it, support that aspect of it while also reminding them of their responsibilities. *doing this once is not necessarily abuse. Abuse is generally a prolonged thing, not a one-off thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:14 AM
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This is a debate space, not a blackpill space.
/r/AllPillDebate24/11/22 12:05 AM
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It’s not rhetorical though, because it’s a widely used term that is not specific to being on the spectrum and it sounded like you weren’t aware of just how popular it was. Saying “my brain doesn’t function normally” is way more wordy than “I’m neurodivergent” lol
/r/AllPillDebate05/11/22 07:21 AM
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Nearly a year of complications from getting my wisdom teeth removed really set my head game back ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:19 AM
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It definitely hurt but more in other areas of life. My husband and I were already together before I lost weight, but doctors not helping with the underlying problems causing my weight to be harder to lose suddenly becoming great listeners as soon as I wasn’t 20 pounds overweight was really infuriating
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:50 AM
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It… it means having a mental condition. It’s just a broad term to include people with personality disorders, mood disorders, autism, etc.
/r/AllPillDebate04/11/22 06:42 AM
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Yeah, it’s pretty bonkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:44 PM
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It also hurts a bit for me to see because my uncle (young, fit, healthy) died of covid but had been really excited to be at a point in his illness where it was looking like he might be able to recover enough to benefit from the vaccine. Left behind a widow and 4 young kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:30 PM
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Talking to myself. I’m sure someone somewhere has done a study that found it helpful for problem solving or something that I can pull off the internet to explain myself if the person is weirded out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:22 PM
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Is it vaccine week? Is that what’s going on? It’s really not an achievement to have avoided vaccination unless you live somewhere that can legally give you the poke without your consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:18 PM
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Probably not then, it’d be a pain to explain the situation every time I got ID checked until I got the pic updated lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:13 PM
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Less than two days back in the States and I already can’t wait to leave 😬 I don’t wanna be away from hubby for another 3 months 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:11 PM
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Do I keep my tattoo or do I need to get it done again?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:07 PM
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Cute
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:16 AM
1

Biggestuzifanea
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:10 AM
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Every sperm is sacred, every sperm is great! If a sperm is wasted, God gets quite irate!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:10 AM
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I’m sorry :( that really sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:09 AM
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If you’re reading this, drink some water!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 12:01 AM
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I think Lizzo is attractive, I’ve actually dated a woman with a similar body. I can understand why some people would disagree though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:59 PM
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Lillith and Uzi.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:55 PM
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I’m not just including autistic people in the neurodivergent pool. I recognize that would be horribly unbalanced and leave a lot of men out. ADHD, OCD, and other atypicalities that can present in similar ways to autism also provide a solid foundation of knowledge on which to build a better understanding of the needs of an autistic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:54 PM
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The vast majority of people have some amount of empathy. Being incapable of feeling empathy is an actual diagnosable mental disorder. However, in current western culture kindness has become increasingly performative. In some ways that’s a good thing—more people have the desire to contribute to humanitarian causes. In other ways it’s a bad thing—your contributions and behaviors when attempting to show kindness are scrutinized in ways they wouldn’t have been before. Another aspect of modern wester…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:49 PM
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I’m sorry :(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:40 PM
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Everyone has biases and toxic tendencies and they can be hard to unlearn. Most people have to face aspects of their bad behavior eventually and I’d like to think that most people will quietly adjust their behavior when called out on it but I don’t know. I think the more empathy and desire to change someone has, the more likely they are to reflect on their ideals and behavior in an attempt to better themselves. How many people make that effort, I couldn’t tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:37 PM
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I honestly didn’t have it too bad on that front—not because of my autism at least. Regardless, thank you for the kind words :) I may have struggled with some things but I was cut a lot of slack socially due to my gender and my school was ahead of the curve on accepting and accommodating neurodivergence. All things considered, things could have been much worse for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:32 PM
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I have no patience for social “games” or dropping/picking up on hints. If I’m interested in someone I’ll just tell them once I have the courage to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:32 PM
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No for a lot of reasons, but one I’m personally familiar with is how hard it is to get a diagnosis to show the pharmacy. Endometriosis can only be properly diagnosed via surgery in many cases. If birth control works to control the symptoms without surgery, it’s better to avoid unnecessary surgery. If all you needed to get a birth control prescription was dysmenorrhea then most women would still qualify though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 08:03 PM
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I wasn’t hungry until I smelled food :(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:56 PM
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Yeppers
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:52 PM
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The downvote fiend is at it again, apparently. I agree with you lol, I just don’t have patience for any games so it sounds like my threshold for that is lower. To each their own :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:51 PM
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At minimum a very good friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:04 AM
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You’re really on a roll today. I’ve agreed with you more than I ever thought possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:03 AM
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I probably did when I was a teenager and didn’t realize. I constantly tried to one up the boys on everything because I wanted to feel better about myself. There are some things I’ve never perpetuated (things like “men shouldn’t cry”) but I honestly couldn’t tell you if I did others when I was younger. I’d like to think I haven’t since grade school but I don’t know. I’m definitely more careful about it now though. Edit: wording
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:52 AM
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…self loathing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:15 AM
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Men protected people that way too—it was a terrifying time and there were a number of people who put themselves on the line to help others. At the end of the day, we’re all pack animals. Most of us are empathetic and kind enough to help others when we know we can. A very select few are willing to go above and beyond in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:05 AM
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Being chill and not judging when the ‘tism comes out is a win in my book tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:37 AM
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It definitely depends on the individual, but for LTRs I think it makes a huge difference to have a partner who really understands what’s going on and can actually make handling things easier instead of expecting you to brush them off.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:18 AM
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I think I just had more reason to learn my needs quickly, and have some very specific ones (medical+mental) that couldn’t be compromised on. Then it was just a matter of finding someone who met my needs, was attractive to me, and had needs that I could meet+was attracted to me. Tbh the autism probably helped too lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:33 AM
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Well, I’m married for starters. I also learned how to make my husband’s favorite dessert from scratch since the store bought stuff is usually crap. We have compatible interests and lifestyles, we’re both very invested in our relationship, and we’re both willing to communicate+learn if something goes wrong. I put everything I can into the relationship because it matters more to me than anything else—it’s not the only thing I care about of course, but it’s the one that I care most about. Edit: I k…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:15 AM
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The same reasons people watch sports or movies, plus video games+consoles are expensive so you can make a more informed decision on whether or not to buy it/enjoy it even though you can’t afford to play it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:07 AM
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22, yes, and yes :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:05 AM
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Yikes. Helpmate also gives yikes vibes but nothing in comparison to what she said. Why even be in a relationship with someone you don’t even want to be friends with??
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:03 AM
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Wow. Just… wow. I hope the chemo does its job as quickly and painlessly as possible 💙
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:53 AM
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It’s a Halloween miracle
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:50 AM
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The idea is that the number of women who stay in relationships they don’t want is low enough that the 80/20 figure doesn’t fit. Enough people are satisfied with their relationships that it is safe to assume that most of the people you see out and about aren’t secretly waiting for an opportunity to leave their partner. Edit: now I am the one with the downvotes! That means I’m correct, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:28 AM
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I hope so :) The two strongest relationships I’ve been in (including the one with my husband) were with people who were also autistic. Runner up had an autistic brother and so had a strong understanding of how to handle overstimulation. This isn’t to say no autistic people can be happy in a relationship with a NT person who isn’t experienced—some are and that’s great! But I think knowing your needs+limits is especially important for people who aren’t NT since a lot of people simply won’t be equi…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:59 PM
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Coward. On Sunday you should be stealing the communion bread from a church and eating it on the roof of said church. Edit: for legal admin reasons, this is a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:31 AM
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In my experience as an autistic person, the better option (imo) is to avoid dating NT people anyway, or at least any who aren’t prepared to have a relationship with someone who’s autistic. Faking neurotypicality doesn’t really work in the long term—you will inevitably run into a situation where you simply can’t function the way a NT person does. It’s better to have a partner who already knows about your autism and is prepared to help than try to hide it and just hope for the best, even if it mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:23 AM
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Oh that makes more sense. I misread
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:52 PM
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😱
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:50 PM
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I do the wrong number thing because sometimes the person calling needs to know that they have the wrong number. Best example was when I was getting calls from a doctor’s office about someone else’s appointment lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:50 PM
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I have one
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:47 PM
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No, of course not. First of all it’d be hypocritical of me because I’m bi and second of all why would it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:51 PM
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Don’t listen to them, automod… you count.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:47 PM
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I kinda love seeing people get creative about insulting other people tbh. It’s fun to watch people who are pissed at each other do their best to get that across without breaking the civility rule. It’s a great creative writing exercise!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:47 PM
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Consider: game stores. They’re usually locally owned, have community events, and attract sociable nerds.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:45 PM
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I think the “if she’s not happy with a ring pop” mentality is actually a good one for people who are frugal or don’t have much money. It is a materialism issue and there’s nothing inherently wrong with being materialistic sometimes, but not everyone is compatible that way. Someone who wants to spend a lot of money on a ring probably isn’t compatible with someone who thinks that’s a pointless waste of money. Everyone is going to have to make money related compromises in a relationship, but the mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:41 PM
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Yes, in fact he was actually a fan of the books+games so he put in extra effort to keep it true to the existing stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:27 PM
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Like DNA :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 05:02 AM
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Yes! Multiple, actually. My extended family is Mormon and the smallest family that’s done having kids was 5 kids. My parents left the church but ended up with 3 kids so fortunately I was not raised in a family that big but I have been privy to the “how many children can fit in this bed so we don’t have to buy another mattress? Have we considered telling them that sleeping in sleeping bags on the floor is a fun adventure?” situation more than once
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:58 AM
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It definitely might. I really don’t want to give up my husband, even though I don’t want to give up my hobbies and wouldn’t want that many kids if I could have kids. Option 2 still sounds awful but I think being able to stay with my husband would be worth it to me. Difficult choice though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:24 AM
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Option 1 I guess. My health would not hold up to 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:58 AM
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Nah dude, listen to what you want. I might judge you for it but I’m a weirdo on the internet so my judgement means nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:47 AM
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Yeah… Signed, a person going into psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:29 PM
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If the man can’t pay above a certain amount, tax payers will have to chip in anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:02 PM
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If you’re seeing this, drink some water :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:27 PM
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It’s not unfair, lying is lying. I’d be upset if I was directly lied to like that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:16 PM
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Yeah she’s fucked up. I hope their relationship is healthier than it sounds, for his sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:57 PM
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Agreed, as is any scam artist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:46 PM
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If they divorce due to the child being a product of cheating (specifically if the child is born after you are already married) it looks like most states allow you to alter/forgo child support with a paternity test during the divorce proceedings. If she had kids before you got married though, you’re completely right.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:44 PM
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Fair point
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:35 PM
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The child support happens regardless of marriage though. As long as the kid is yours, your money is on the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:46 AM
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Yeah but the fool deserves to spend their money on something that actually brings them joy imo Aka not her, in case that wasn’t clear lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:43 AM
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No problem! If you find you enjoy it this time around, or that you like the gameplay but not the story, there are some quest mods (and a full conversion mod) that make a difference once you’ve exhausted the base game :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:07 AM
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You’ll need the script extender, which can actually be downloaded through steam. Here’s a handy guide
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:57 AM
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If I were to hazard a guess, she probably didn’t put on much of a performance. She was pretty cold to everyone most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:55 AM
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Not that I know of? I never saw her dates and we were never actually friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:49 AM
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Make sure you download the required mods that should’ve just been in the base game lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:38 AM
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None, but I knew a girl who’d keep it going until they caught on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:37 AM
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Yeppers :D
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:36 AM
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How dare you presumably order coffee
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:23 AM
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🎶my parents passed on some serious trauma and also my urologist almost killed me🎶 Idk I’m not sure that’ll be as catchy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:11 AM
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Fair enough! It would probably do a good job of weeding out non-virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:22 AM
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SO MUCH. I got my damn tubes tied and I still get anxious if my period is late or lighter than usual, even though my periods have always been irregular. I’m less anxious now with the tubal but there’s still that worry at the back of my mind that it’ll fail anyway or I’ll end up with an ectopic pregnancy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:20 AM
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Yes that sounds like social media
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:18 AM
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I would agree and I’m at a solid 1. Most of my friends would (and have, when the discussion came up) also agree and are almost all below 10. I feel like this would lead to quite a few false positives. Attitude towards casual sex might be a better indicator
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:17 AM
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bonk
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:09 AM
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If I was self conscious about that I’d just get shorter heels tbh. That being said I also didn’t do the math because I didn’t care lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:07 AM
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It is for some women but for me the dealbreaker is being too far away from my height lol. I don’t really care about the exact number I just don’t want to deal with the tippy toe/neck cramp shit
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:05 AM
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Yeah, YouAskedIt has for sure and I do it often enough that I could find an example for myself without much issue. …actually now that I think about it, I’m no-pill so that might not count. YouAskedIt could have also been no-pill. I don’t think I see many actual blue-pillers tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:52 AM
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Thank you! I’ve been getting a lot of practice recently lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:31 PM
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Coconut brownie! This is what the last one looked like after it was sliced
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:24 PM
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Not necessarily—just be sure to show/tell her that you are interested and oblivious rather than not interested lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:57 PM
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Once again I must curse my lack of hip mobility
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:56 PM
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I’m going to spend time with my in-laws, does that count? I made cheesecake to share with them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:46 PM
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Probably for the best. Glitter sticks to EVERYTHING
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:45 PM
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Plus they can add to the preselection bonus with “I’m not straight, but if I was…”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:45 PM
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Yeppers
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:40 PM
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Instructions unclear: drowned in glitter
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:38 PM
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Apply vibrator to head of penis ??? Profit (Idk man maybe it’s worth a shot?)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:37 PM
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I wish covering your trauma in glitter was an effective way to treat PTSD
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:36 PM
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Sounds like you need to invest in a vibrator collection tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:33 PM
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Good luck dude… hopefully the updated 5G will help o7
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:30 PM
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That’s gonna be a tough one to break to your wife
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:28 PM
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Yeah, but if the main factor behind the height preference is protection based I don’t see why a visibly strong+physically confident man wouldn’t still be attractive. Again I don’t have a strong preference about height (well I do but it’s close to my height, 4” in either direction) so it’s just my theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:24 PM
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Yeah, every aspect of life is transactional to a certain degree. The thing that makes social transactions different at all is the feelings getting involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:56 PM
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Wild. That sounds libertarian to me tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:49 PM
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Yeah, experimenting with drugs is more dangerous now than it’s ever been. Cutting with fentanyl is waaaay more dangerous than cutting with baby powder or crushed up Tylenol, but people have been cutting everything with it because it’s cheap and potent. Shit’s fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:42 PM
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Idk why people are calling you jealous, broccoli hair looks ridiculous lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:37 PM
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Right now tensions are higher on the right. If there was a recent BLM or similar thing I’d be more likely to assume left.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:36 PM
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If he’s super good looking and in good shape, I wouldn’t be overly surprised. The height thing seems to be mostly about “dominance” and “ability to protect” so if he is imposing in other ways I’m guessing there’s more leeway. Idk though it’s never really been my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:33 PM
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My husband and I missed the memo on this one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:29 PM
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Unironically yes, to the point where both of those already happen. My addict cousin got his (also addict) gf pregnant and their families tried really hard to convince them to abort but they didn’t. The baby ended up dying a couple months after it was born. Then they got pregnant again, this time the kid is still alive but they lost custody so now the grandparents have guardianship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:28 PM
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Shit. That’s awful. My condolences
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:23 PM
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I know what must be done… 0 😈
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:03 AM
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42% masculine, 56% feminine “Casually Feminine”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:57 AM
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I have no idea what percentage of men would fit into my personal criteria. If we’re going based off of men I have met and interacted with, the number for me specifically is much lower than one in five. I also can’t necessarily put into words what someone needs in order to be compatible with me. I think some people would find my husband a catch and others would think I was “dumpster diving” so to speak. To me, he’s a 10—he’s everything I want and more. My priorities are basically 70% personality,…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:49 AM
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Yes, yet some women (like me) still develop strong senses of humor+ defensive humor responses. What interests me is what makes the most difference in the people developing that vs not developing that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:50 AM
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My question then is why only some women develop humor at all, and how much nature vs nurture goes into fostering a strong sense of humor. Humor is extremely valuable for everyone—it makes bonding with other people easier, it makes coping with the shit parts of life easier, it helps relieve tension and deescalate dangerous social situations, etc. I wouldn’t be surprised if the people who have high humor scores had more (statistically) difficult lives than the people with lower scores. Female come…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 03:18 AM
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The link to the statistic you gave about women’s reasons for having sex goes to a book review… it doesn’t actually give those numbers. I definitely experience pleasure during sex, and more modern and human specific research on the clitoris does exist (here’s just one example) Saying that women don’t want sex or feel love is simply not true. Having different levels of certain chemicals and hormones/different physiological responses to stimuli doesn’t mean nothing is experienced it just means the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 03:01 AM
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My husband (obvs)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 02:39 AM
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Interesting. I wonder if the numbers will get closer over generations considering how many/how strongly women select for more humorous partners. I wonder how much of the neurological stuff that goes into humor is hereditary
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 02:35 AM
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I do be an active updooter. The downvote fiend(s?) must be balanced out somehow
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 02:10 AM
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I’m aware of the risk but also too dumb and attention seeking to not risk it tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 01:39 AM
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A determined enough woman could piss off of a building just fine!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:28 AM
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The ultimate flex would be if the automod declared itself the first comment, knowing that no mere mortal could beat it. I am very tired
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:17 AM
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Manipulative and confident people tend to be very good at hiding their red flags compared to other people and are less reluctant to lie outright whenever it benefits them. Vetting them out takes longer than a conversation or two, unlike some dealbreaking traits/behaviors. This leads to them being more successful in the short term.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 02:10 AM
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Or as I like to call it, concentrated brainrot
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:56 AM
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As long as normal flying fast stuff (g-force, impact, etc.) doesn’t hurt me, I gotta go with flight.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:55 AM
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I can’t believe I’ve made it back down here wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:52 AM
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Same…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:39 AM
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A very important clarification. G-forces can do nasty things to your body
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:12 AM
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So cute! 😍 Yeah she’s very chill for a GS, but she does still have a lot of energy and really likes having a big yard to patrol :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:09 AM
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I think the extent to which men will put aside their own wants for some puss is greatly exaggerated tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:03 AM
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Dogs Cat More dogs
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:58 AM
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It’s okay, and I’m sorry I irritated you. Would you like some cute animal pictures?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:56 AM
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I’m sorry my sarcasm was not as obvious as I thought it was ¯\(ツ)/¯ but it’s pretty safe to assume that if I haven’t written at least a full paragraph worth of text I’m poking fun at something. I’m also an idiot who does actually admit when I’ve misunderstood or misread something because it does happen somewhat regularly—this just isn’t one of those times.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:53 AM
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Yes I’m aware. I may be autistic but at no point was I actually taking this seriously—I was just trying to make a joke of my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:49 AM
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That makes sense! That’s neat :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:47 AM
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Well then if sundresses are gay wouldn’t that be a good thing for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:40 AM
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Because I am not straight and therefore would somewhat fit the joke Not the discussion part, just the after I commented part
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:38 AM
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Thank you! Your flair is also pretty good, though I don’t know what’s in the parentheses lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:36 AM
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I would’ve gone with the classic “you are a known bisexual” bit tbh. Tends to land better :P
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:24 AM
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So what you’re saying is that I’m secretly a trans gay man?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:20 AM
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No, but the ones who do aren’t restricted by gender that’s for sure. That being said, is it not reasonable to include personal anecdotes when the question is “should men even try?” or something similar? Success stories show that the statistics aren’t a death sentence to anyone’s potential dating opportunities. If they’re trying to argue that women don’t cheat because their friends don’t cheat, yeah that’s pointless and contributes nothing to the conversation. If they’re arguing that the source o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:19 AM
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No but I’m not sure what sundresses have to do with anal sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:12 AM
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It’s too late, my ADHD has already moved on and dragged me with it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:06 AM
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A tragic loss I shall mourn for the next several minutes at least 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:01 AM
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😭 I thought you liked me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 11:53 PM
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Is that why I like wearing them so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 11:52 PM
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She might not be his type. He might not want something casual. There are a lot of reasons people get rejected
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 11:50 PM
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No! I just don’t have the same interests in celebrities and celebrity culture, plus the rona happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:42 PM
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Have you ever actually punched a woman before? Wait. Don’t answer that, I don’t want to know. Everyone has some level of self preservation instinct that helps avoid just sitting there and taking a full force hit. They’ll try to dodge and if hit, move away from the force to make the impact less painful. Adrenaline is also a hell of a drug and if the women are staying to fight instead of running (which would be required to make this hypothetical work) anything that isn’t a solid hit to the face is…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:40 PM
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Ye I was a Comic-Con girl so I had signed photo ops and posters from those on my wall as well as video game and comic artwork
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:20 PM
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Speaking as someone who has boxed before, it’s deceptively difficult to land solid hits even if you know the mechanics involved to throw a good punch.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:16 PM
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Boy howdy would the posters on my wall give people here a very strange and incorrect impression of the people I find most attractive lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:15 PM
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Then it might be, but as long as you don’t tell anyone the dog is yours I think you’re technically in the clear. If I saw a pet pic on someone’s profile I’d assume they were more than lukewarm towards animals and probably end up starting the conversation by talking about animals. I’d be disappointed to find out that they aren’t actually big fans of animals but it wouldn’t break my heart or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:14 PM
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Yeah, cardio in particular helps a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:07 PM
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Not if you like dogs
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:06 PM
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I believe in u 💙 ily
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:44 PM
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Eat hot chip and lie?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:43 PM
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I like the “PPD Jailbait - [times banned] time felon” one
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:40 PM
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:ahegao:
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:38 PM
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Sounds like you have ADHD, so it just makes you feel more like a neurotypical person. If a NT person takes it, they get an actual high (apparently, my ADHD ass could never)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:35 PM
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My computer
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:33 PM
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I for one support this wrestle orgy endeavor
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:33 PM
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My sister and I can take down our dad if we’re grappling, but we all have basic MMA training lol. I guess it depends on how well the dude protects his face and nuts. If the women coordinate it wouldn’t be too difficult to choose a limb to basically just hang on to for dear life so he can’t use it. Average women and average man, probably 2-3 but add one to that if any of the women take a hit to the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:32 PM
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I will be incapacitated by my horny thoughts, but I will not actually die. Probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:26 PM
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Lift is pretty great, but there’s also magivictus, Skott, E-2, Lulll, Possum, Yuk/Fj (booty boi), SmarmyPapsmears, Bandit, Gaston, shemyheroine, dbz… they’re all good guys and if you take the time to read through more of what everyone says you’d be surprised how few of the people here are actually interested in hurting others.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:23 PM
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Yeah, and there really is no need to try and empathize with people who are preying on or hurting people. People who are just sad about their lack of success and want to improve themselves+their chances are the ones I recommend listening to with an open mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:12 PM
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Oh yeah eagles are huge! And awww babby fuzz
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:01 PM
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What’s the biggest animal you’ve rescued?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:20 PM
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TIL all women who dress themselves are rocket scientists
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:20 PM
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Also I think it’s really cool that you do wildlife rescue 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:18 PM
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I can say with confidence that at least 6 including me are actually women… though some aren’t very active
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:16 PM
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Well, as long as you tried I suppose I can forgive you… more coconut for me 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:06 PM
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That’d be fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:54 PM
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Coward 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:43 PM
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Yeeeee
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:42 PM
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😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:42 PM
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But if you bake it it’s like crispy confetti!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:41 PM
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Another solid choice
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:40 PM
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…oat milk. But you’re not allowed to judge me, I’m lactose intolerant 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:03 AM
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Honey bunches of oats
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:47 AM
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Put googly eyes on it!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:47 AM
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You have good taste! I recently made coconut chocolate cheesecake with coconut brownie crust and it was great
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:46 AM
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Yeah but they’re also essentially trying to make him worry about the strength of the relationship/distrust his partner which I do think falls into dragging people down with them. They’re not upset at the guy but they are telling him that his partner doesn’t actually find him attractive which is probably not true
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:45 AM
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Good point, but I think coconut is the AF flavor.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:42 AM
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Yeah, I actually find it pretty easy to empathize with a lot of the people here. The important thing for me is remembering that bitterness comes from pain. Almost everyone is bitter about something—we are no exception. You come across as very bitter towards the man who is hurting the person you considered a friend. I’m not saying it’s wrong for you to be upset of course, but you seem to be posting here not because you want to debate but because you want to attack the ideology (and by extension a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:41 AM
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Coconut is the best flavor and you can’t prove me wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:14 AM
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A non-zero number of people here don’t have close friends either. Including some of the not bitter people
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:13 AM
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I think she’s taking a mental health break
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:12 AM
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Abortion/reproductive rights, healthcare, and LGBTQ rights are all very personal to me. I can’t talk about them completely objectively because they all directly impact my day to day life. Unless you’re asking about my nipples, in which case I’ll just say they’ve been described as “extremely aggressive”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:11 AM
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It’s not civil. However, people who try to force their bitterness and fear onto others do need to take a break and handle some foliage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:07 AM
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Yes, it is. It’s part of why I (especially with my social anxiety) empathize so much with people who struggle to approach people they find attractive. It’s scary! Rejection hurts! Sometimes people really are as bad as you fear they are! Touch starvation hurts too, though. It can cause or worsen serious issues, both mentally and physically. It can make all the fear and sadness feel inescapable. I just wish that fewer people let that fear turn into anger. Some lonely people really do just need aff…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:05 AM
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Probably but it’s also very relatable!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:51 AM
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A few topics will make me cry pretty much instantly but I don’t like making people uncomfortable with my trauma related crybaby tendencies so I try to avoid them as much as possible offline. Bold of you to assume my nipples don’t contribute significantly to every debate I have though 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:48 AM
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I have seen people here tell guys that his partner would leave him/cheat on him even if he was posting something sweet about his relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:45 AM
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I think I can unironically thank modern feminists for making me seem pretty tame when I do get involved in debates irl
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:42 AM
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Sadly I cannot be included in that group, I don’t usually bring it up but once it’s out I have a hard time shutting up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:37 AM
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Why does anyone project? Because it helps rationalize their feelings. “Oh, I don’t ask women out because i don’t want to be rejected or cheated on” sounds more reasonable than “I don’t ask women out because I’m too nervous” even though they technically mean the same thing. However, that doesn’t stop them from wanting sex/romance so in order to keep believing that they’re making the right decision by not putting themselves out there they also need to believe that they’re in the majority and that …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:36 AM
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If it is, well done by him. I know people who talk just like him offline…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:16 AM
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No girth? Like it’s literally 2 dimensional? That’d be interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:15 AM
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Shared experiences (as long as they end positively) specifically make a huge difference in how much I’m willing to work on a relationship if things start getting rocky. I know my husband cares deeply about me and I know he’s willing to work with me whenever work is necessary. He’s proven that to me and that’s far more valuable to me than anything else possibly could be. So what if a “higher value” man takes interest in me? I love my husband and I wouldn’t throw my relationship with him away for …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:13 AM
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Doesn't go to the gym (but I do work out at home) Doesn't look good (my skin has been waging war against me recently) Plays video games Watches Netflix in their spare time Poor habits Masturbates regularly
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:06 AM
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Damn just @ me next time
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:04 AM
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Very nice! Proportions are good, tone is good, would be silently impressed if encountered in person/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:04 AM
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I think it’s absurd when they only do it to people they disagree with. Especially if they’ve previously agreed with me or someone else who is openly autistic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:58 AM
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Knives Out is really good
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:52 AM
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Considering how many people here have never even been in a relationship, I think part of it is FOMO+hoping that they are missing out less than they think they are. A lot of people regardless of gender develop trust issues and resentment when they’re cheated on. Betrayal tends to hurt far more than being hurt by someone you never trusted. However, if the majority of the stories you see about dating are told by the people with relationships that are the best of the best and the worst of the worst …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:51 AM
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Chill lol, you’re taller than my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:43 AM
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Thank u for your thervice (thinking service)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:36 AM
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What a relief 😮‍💨 I’m glad I have such an esteemed collection of thinkers here to do the thinking for me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:31 AM
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The last one was probably the wrong color anyway!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:30 AM
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That’s the spirit! You’ll be a leftist in no time :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:28 AM
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Don’t be like me. Do what’s right for your sanity and just walk away knowing that you’re right
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:28 AM
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Oh good idea! I don’t know where I left the lipstick though :( I’ll just pet dust off the kittens extra to make up for it :D
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:23 AM
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Yes, and they should be free for prisoners. They should also be free for people who otherwise would not be able to afford them. I’m still not sure where you got confused
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:17 AM
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My head hurts. I think I’ve exhausted my delicate female brain with all the thinking I did today or something
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:12 AM
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Yeah, that’s also what I meant by free. What did you think I meant?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:09 AM
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…wtf do you mean prison meals and housing are free? They’re funded by taxpayers. Private/for profit prisons literally get $150/day/inmate from the government aka tax dollars.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:03 AM
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Cat/Khaleesi
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:57 AM
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No idea. It starts with a c and ends with ope. Mods plz I’m trying to be educational don’t hurt me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:54 AM
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Did you miss the part where I said that if inmates were paid more, they’d be taxed and not eligible for deductions or refunds? People shouldn’t have to work, let alone multiple jobs to not freeze or starve to death. Not only are there more empty houses in the US than there are homeless people, the country wastes enough food to feed everyone in the country who is hungry—that is inexcusable in my eyes. It would cost the average taxpayer very little to distribute those resources. You were also the …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:51 AM
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The person said a gamer incl word that is specifically ban on sight lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:36 AM
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I also argue for upgrades in the lives of non-criminals. I think housing and food (not luxury accommodations, essentially what would be available in prison) should be freely available to people who need them. You clearly do not have any idea what conditions inmates live in. Even if every improvement I advocate for did get implemented, here are some things all inmates would still have to deal with: Having no space of their own No (legal) access to anything that is not either provided by the priso…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:22 AM
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Ye 🥰 you a cutie and a sweetie
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:42 AM
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How am I ducking your points? I’m actually trying to address them. I don’t think you understand that reform isn’t about making prison enjoyable, it’s about making it less exploitative. Getting fed the cheapest food money can buy (with questionable nutritional value) prepared by whichever inmates are most trustworthy around knives 3x a day and sleeping in a shitty bunkbed with the world’s thinnest blanket and no temperature control is not a reward. If it’s cheaper to go to prison for murder than …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:37 AM
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I think rapists serving on average roughly 60% of their original sentence is far worse for women than prison reform. Edit: I read the statistics wrong, please hold Edit 2: okay I fixed it, pay no mind to the fact that I was wrong on the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:11 AM
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15 isn’t federal minimum wage. I specified federal minimum wage. And yeah… I’m not saying what the prisons are doing is illegal, I’m saying it should be illegal. I’m aware of the 13th amendment and I’m saying it should be changed, but thank you for proving my point in that it is the only way to legally own slaves. The food and housing are not free. They are paid for in personal freedoms, human rights, and safety. That being said, food and housing should not be privileges to earn, ever. I do not …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:05 AM
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At best it constitutes indentured servitude—which is similarly illegal. Slavery is when a human being is owned as property, denied freedom, and cannot quit/leave whatever contract exists between them and their owner. The same problem exists in non-private prisons. Earning less than the average person for their work would be one thing—having a portion of their earnings go towards any fines or debt they’ve accrued as well as not qualifying for tax returns while serving a sentence would make sense.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:41 AM
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💙
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:11 AM
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No, they sure aren’t. They’re for profit because it’s the only legal way to own slaves in the US nowadays. Private/for profit prisons are created exclusively by private citizens/companies because they WANT to “deal” with criminals. It is by far the cheapest source of manual labor inside the country. Private prisons also are not holding the “worst of society”—private prisons (especially after the Arizona incident) usually stick to accepting lower risk inmate contracts. Here’s a study on inmate po…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:07 AM
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Not to the same extent. Prison reform also includes just updating prison accommodations (to prevent illness and injury for inmates) and ending for-profit prisons. No one in their right mind is advocating for legitimately dangerous, unrepentant criminals to be put in 5 star hotels with an Xbox. They just shouldn’t be slaves or in constant danger from their environment as well as the people around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:53 AM
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You 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:46 AM
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Okay, well premeditated murder is generally a crime that is least likely to be prevented by improved social structure. Rapists also tend to be less likely to benefit from rehabilitation attempts. Most murderers and rapists would not be included in rehabilitation efforts.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:45 AM
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The solution is turning some prisons/jails into criminal rehabilitation centers, essentially. The centers need to be staffed with mental and physical health professionals, equipped to handle withdrawals, and have education/training options for people who need them. Basically, when someone commits a crime out of desperation there should be a way to help them out of that desperate situation instead of just punishing them. Several European countries have already implemented programs like this and h…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:34 AM
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I’m literally one of the people who advocates for prison reform—it’s nowhere near as simple as you’re making it out to be. Also the sterilization would not be forced. It would be an option made available to her if it is determined that she couldn’t safely parent a child. The other option would be her children being taken away immediately by the State. No one is mad about criminals being punished. We’re mad that criminals who are low risk of reoffense or were victims themselves aren’t able to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:26 AM
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Depends on her mental state. Postpartum depression/other similar problems may be avoidable in the future, she may accept treatment involving sterilization which would negate her ability to reoffend, and while she should face consequences in terms of career options (nothing that involves interacting with children, potentially) in the end it would be up to a judge and/or jury to decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:15 AM
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There should be different options for people who are unlikely to reoffend and are likely to successfully rehabilitate. Someone who committed a premeditated violent crime on a stranger should not be held in the same place as someone who got into an unlucky bar fight. Someone who steals repeatedly despite having the money to afford otherwise should not be held in the same place as someone who stole only what they needed when they were in serious financial situations. One is likely to benefit from …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:09 AM
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The difference is that you can’t choose to be attracted to someone, but you can choose to lie to them. It is wrong to lie to someone and try to manipulate them into giving you something they otherwise wouldn’t give. Women who lead men on or agree to a date but end up ghosting are also in the wrong, but women who reject flat out are not. Women rejecting someone they aren’t attracted to are taking nothing from them—you don’t get the intimacy and connection of a happy relationship if one person isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:00 AM
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That’s definitely not true. They’ll probably be better for their partner than friends but they most likely won’t be good.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 12:55 AM
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If I don’t set an alarm or reminder I almost never remember to send morning messages. I always write them myself but I think the sentiment is similar—making sure that your partner gets the good morning text they want. I don’t think it’s deceitful but I can understand why it might feel that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 12:53 AM
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Ye, they’re pricy but very sturdy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 10:33 PM
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I agree! I just think it’s shit if you do find a pit viper.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:11 PM
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This is the way
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:25 PM
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Luv u too 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:10 PM
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Military surplus stuff is always good.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:08 PM
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BONK
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:59 PM
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I think that’s an awful decision for her to make, considering he clearly knew how to work with what he had. I hope he finds someone who properly appreciates what he has going on lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:57 PM
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Eh, I think if someone actually laughs at you or berates you for asking that’s worse than just being told “no” but otherwise I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:50 PM
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-Yeah, we’re susceptible to most of the same things men are (prostate stuff being the only exception I’m aware of) but the differences can also be pretty crazy. Endometriosis is AWFUL and way more research needs to be done on it. It spreads by cells mutating into what should be the lining of the uterus, except it’s on the outside of where it’s supposed to be. It can also spread to literally any other organ (including the brain) and it’s been known to cause scarring bad enough to obstruct organs …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 10:10 AM
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-I agree! -in terms of just the physical things: my reproductive system occasionally sticks to my other organs due to endometriosis (causing pain and scarring), my right kidney wants to be a geologist but can’t reach the rocks outside of my body and so makes do by creating its own rocks (which recently resulted in an obstructed + infected kidney and being bedridden for multiple months), and some other things that are annoying but not actually dangerous. -that looks delightfully absurd in a very …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:36 AM
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Yw 💙 also I forgot to mention the special interest I have that probably relates most to Gaston! MMA, but since my body occasionally decides that I’m not even allowed the function of all my organs I also got very into medical and anatomical stuff relating to martial arts
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:00 AM
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If you read this, my apologies for how bored you must be
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:43 AM
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No idea, but it definitely depends on what level of disparity you’d consider average vs hot. If there’s a study of married couples being rated separately by strangers it would be interesting to read though. It’s definitely not 0, at least.
/r/AllPillDebate25/10/22 08:38 AM
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PREGANANANT
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 04:02 AM
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It also makes for better entertainment. I’ve probably fed some trolls of the former type, but I don’t regret it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:58 AM
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Gregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:56 AM
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That’s the highest praise you could have given me 🥹 thank u
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 02:05 AM
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Because I’m evil 😈 No it’s because it confuses me when people assume women don’t have body hair or expect them to shave literally all of it. It’s incredibly awkward to shave your arms lmao and hair is more noticeable when it’s patchy than it is when it’s natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:27 AM
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Then go forth and prosper my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:18 AM
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Oh and I should add on to what I said before: before you actually start making contact with anything, make sure you have hand wraps+gloves and know how to put them on properly. I promise that whatever gym you’re considering boxing at has non-judgmental people who would be willing to show you (especially trainers). Wrist support is HUGELY important.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:16 AM
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No I’ll call the police feminists
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:13 AM
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Only if the caveat is that she’s a “born again” virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:12 AM
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And me, I prefer close to my height lol… 6’ is too tall
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:12 AM
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And that’s completely fair. I don’t think that constitutes being lied to, I think that constitutes being broken up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:10 AM
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Someone who is less physically attractive will have a harder time than someone more physically attractive but otherwise identical. I don’t think anyone would argue against that. However, if someone is more sociable they are more likely to succeed socially than someone who isn’t. Dating is a largely social endeavor and if you are confident enough to take the shotgun approach and shake off the inevitable rejections until you succeed, you will succeed faster than someone who has fewer opportunities…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:04 AM
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I actually have advice that might help!! There are some basic boxing reps that can be performed without a partner or heavy bag, just a pair of 3 pound hand weights. One strike with each hand, one hook with each hand, and one uppercut with each hand. It’s also done as a warmup sometimes, but it can be very useful for practicing posture and technique.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:59 AM
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If they weren’t lied to, it is on them for not asking beforehand. If they were lied to, it’s fair that they are upset about being lied to imo
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:55 AM
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Most women have hair on their hands… just shorter and thinner than body hair on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:08 AM
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Mystery solved! Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 10:28 PM
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Fun, but my favorite part as an adult is the discount candy the week after
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 10:26 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/yb7gkb/daily_community_chat_megathread/itfq7p3/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 For your viewing pleasure
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 10:24 PM
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Or addicts. My cousin has mad STDs from getting it on with homeless women in exchange for drugs.
/r/AllPillDebate24/10/22 10:23 PM
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No. He could pay for it, he could be involved in drugs (addicts will do a lot of stuff for discounted or free drugs), or he could legitimately be very charismatic and charming.
/r/AllPillDebate24/10/22 10:21 PM
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Well, the meme-y question is “would you still love me if I was a worm?” and I’ve never understood the purpose of the question. I operated under the assumption my worm husband would be worm sized. I took it to mean that my husband was turned into a worm, but he said maybe it’s supposed to be that he was actually born as a worm. I met my husband through a mutual friend running a TTRPG online, which playing in would require an extremely impressive level of intelligence and physical capability from …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 10:15 PM
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I got high and talked about the logistics of dating a worm with the intelligence of a human
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 09:51 PM
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Damn, my husband just keeps moving up the rankings! First he was top 20%, then top 5%, now top 1-2%? Wild. Look, I’m pretty fucking biased towards my husband but there is absolutely no way that he would be in that category according to the vaaast majority of people. He’s also very attractive to me, which is part of why I married him lmao Also… you absolutely aren’t correct about reproduction that far back. There’s DNA evidence that suggests the numbers are closer to 2 females/male. Today the num…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 06:06 AM
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Yes—but further than that, some treat their partner as a status symbol. I think those people tend to be the most shallow when it comes to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 02:48 AM
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I respect the self burn to strengthen your stance
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 02:46 AM
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That’s better 😇 I forgive u
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 11:05 PM
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How dare u women are wonderful and I’m exempt from all consequences because I have bangs and wear sundresses
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 10:52 PM
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It always bothers me when people push individual responsibility shit (especially extreme lifestyle changes) for combating climate change. Corporations and their factories impact the environment far more than every working class family combined.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 10:32 PM
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Even without a history of addiction I’ve consistently preferred the pain to the side effects and I can’t imagine how bad the withdrawal would be after getting fully addicted. I hope it’s not a choice you ever have to make 💙
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 10:25 PM
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There’s also high dose NSAIDs if you can take those, plus high dose acetaminophen. They will be less effective at controlling the pain but you might be able to take that trade. I’ve only had one procedure that left me in so much pain that I took the full course of opiates, so there are definitely some surgeries that you could recover from without anything stronger. If you do ever need to be on those intense painkillers again, some states/hospitals have options for accommodating and supervising w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:21 PM
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I’ve talked to doctors about alternatives to opiates and it might be possible to request non-opiate painkillers potentially in combination with muscle relaxers if necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:13 PM
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I’ve always been glad that opiates make me feel like total shit. It makes it way easier to avoid overusing them when I have to take them after surgeries.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:05 PM
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This is the way!!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 08:57 PM
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If someone sticks a crusty dildo back inside of them I think they’re trying to have a bad time
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 08:55 PM
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If someone isn’t cleaning their dildos, they’re asking for a UTI
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 08:53 PM
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Ye that’s a big downside.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 02:45 PM
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Oh the answer should absolutely be no! I don’t think I’d be able to love a worm no matter how interesting the worm. Anyone who gets genuinely upset by that answer definitely never considered the logistics of worm dating
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 02:44 PM
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Both more impressive and less impressive. On the one worm hand, worms tend to be much smaller so it would be harder for them to use a keyboard or mouse. Teddy bears large enough to comfortably use a computer do exist and are not particularly hard to find. On the other hand, teddy bears are not alive. If one did manage to become alive, that would be more impressive than a worm becoming sentient enough to play LoL. That being said, if the teddy bear is simply possessed by a spirit, that spirit may…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:11 AM
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I’d always assumed the question “would you still love me if I was a worm” meant the person got turned into a worm, not was born a worm. Apparently other people have interpreted it the other way, which I find to be a much more amusing question to answer. The more the internet was involved in the pair meeting, the more amusing the story would be. I probably wouldn’t fall in love with a worm possessing the intelligence and capacity for communication of a human but boy howdy would I treasure that fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 08:56 AM
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:o I’ve been chosen! My claim is triumphant! Thank you 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 08:33 AM
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I think it’s because we understand the value of recreational shitposting
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 08:16 AM
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That’s fine, I’m not saying everyone should do it my way. I just prefer to talk about it before the first date, but don’t want to dump that information on an unsuspecting person just asking me out, so I decline them. I also don’t know whether or not I’ll be attracted to them right off the bat. I need time to get to know someone before I date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 08:15 AM
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The Weed Age
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:54 AM
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If I was single, I would want to bring my health issues up before a date so that we don’t waste time or money finding out such a fundamental incompatibility. There’s no easy, non-awkward way to bring up my health problems. They won’t just reveal themselves on a convenient schedule (some can be dormant for long periods of time, some are constant) and the conversation can be a hard and tiring one to have. I also would need them to know that biological kids (as in sharing genetics with me) aren’t o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:54 AM
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u/WhyDontYouLuvMe I saw that you SCOUNDREL
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:32 AM
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I don’t want my partner to have to have my epilepsy come as a fun 3 month anniversary surprise or something lol. I’m married so fortunately it doesn’t really matter if I got the formula wrong, I found the answer anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:30 AM
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Dammit, the anonymous downvote fiend is awake 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:17 AM
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It’s also that there are things that anyone who would be dating me needs to know before going in. Some of my health issues would be a completely understandable dealbreaker. They’re also not visible immediately (or at all on a good day) and I don’t like to draw attention to some of them in public so I prefer to just decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:14 AM
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That would be quite fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:05 AM
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I would never accept one but being asked doesn’t bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:03 AM
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I think that would defeat the purpose of the show. He’s supposed to be off-putting so that the show can say “not all unusual things are bad or wrong”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:56 AM
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C diff is one I’m fascinated by after my encounter with it. The fact that it’s actually somewhat common but most people never have symptoms is interesting, as is the reason that so few antibiotics are effective against it (and even make it worse)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:26 AM
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Funnily enough I haven’t been particularly interested in Doctor Who since the end of Matt Smith’s run. Most of my fixations are video game related, but I go through Chess and Sudoku phases every once in awhile. Skyrim was my first big game obsession though—hence my username. I think autistic people like the Doctor because they act weird (doesn’t follow social customs, has strange tastes in food, etc.) in ways that are relatable. Relating to the main character makes a show more appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:25 AM
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Essentially, yes. Their personality shifts a bit as well but morals/memories/etc. stay the same
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:12 AM
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Obviously, if you weren’t a cuck you’d want to fuck anyone who’d have you because something something reproduction something something breeding kink
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:10 AM
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The Doctor doesn’t murder them, though some of them do die. Multiple iterations of the Doctor generally only show up in Christmas specials or when the current doctor is about to die. The TLDR is that it’s bad for the stability of time or something. When the Doctor “dies” they actually just get a new body because alien time magic
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:08 AM
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Eh, more for Jon Snow
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:05 AM
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1) F 2) yes, the one where a Persian army tricked Roman troops into eating hallucinogenic honey. 3) no, I find some more interesting than others but in a morbid fascination way. Some diseases are fascinating but I don’t have a favorite disease.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:05 AM
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Oh honey. There are way more than 7 doctors. There are 13 official doctors and the next one has been announced
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:57 AM
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My fellow defender of Rose Leslie’s incredible beauty
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:55 AM
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The redheads are already promised to ByzantineBoo
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:52 AM
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Aww 🥰 unfortunately for u that right is reserved for my husband and potentially cute bi girls
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:45 AM
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Uh excuse you it’s the sonic screwdriver but also they’re a fake fan because it doesn’t work on organic material Edit: unless they were trying to give you a headache, apparently that is a thing it can do
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:43 AM
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Guyliner is hot
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:37 AM
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You do you boo :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:36 AM
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Perhaps after enough time spent studying here, you will be able to learn our ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:34 AM
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You’d think that but no, softer bed than great-great-greatest-grandma Milthilda could even dream of and it mcfuckin betrayed me Edit: husband just pointed out that I had the opportunity to name her Gilfhilda and I squandered it 😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:33 AM
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STDs are spooky tbf
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:31 AM
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Nothing personal against you either, I’m sorry your team shit the bed. If it makes you feel any better, my entire region shit the bed at this year’s LoL world championship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:30 AM
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Plot twist, that’s the Hebrew translation of Chad and everyone who knows has just agreed to keep the secret because it’s funny and the chad memes only made it funnier
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:29 AM
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No one does numbers better than an autist Also the correct response was “-1”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:27 AM
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I recommend Smile!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:23 AM
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Vasectomies and tubals can also be cheaper in the long run!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:22 AM
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It fills my head with very dizzy bees. And honestly the chronic stuff is mostly fine today, but I slept on my shoulder and pinched a nerve 🫠 the human body is more poorly optimized than it should be imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:21 AM
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Does it count if he’s my husband and we still alternate paying for things?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:18 AM
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I only know one woman who likes what you described, and it’s certainly not me lol. Actions speak far louder than words
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:17 AM
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I bet he never paid child support to Mary
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:15 AM
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But they’re legal¿ explain??
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:10 AM
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Tragic 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:10 AM
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I blame the Abrahamic God
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:09 AM
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That’s why I only take any painkillers when the pain gets really bad. I’ve already gotten to the point where my body riots over NSAIDs so I gotta be careful not to overuse the things I still can. That being said, I also really hate feeling inebriated/high so the lowest doses are generally what I go for. I recognize that’s probably why it didn’t work as well as it could have but shhh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:08 AM
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Nah those fuck me up in a bad way. The nice thing about weed is that I can still enjoy existing and don’t spend the entire time miserable for a different reason than the pain
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 04:56 AM
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Feeling shame towards your privilege is a step too far. People who say they’re ashamed to be white tend to unintentionally paint themselves as a victim of attention being called to the injustice others are subject to. You can feel sympathy and remorse for the fact that you couldn’t spare them the pain, but you don’t have to be upset at yourself for having no “make everyone happy” choice available. Behavior and feelings are two very important things. If you feel bad but act like you don’t, you’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 04:54 AM
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I’m high but the pain didn’t go away, where is my female privilege?¿?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 04:33 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 04:27 AM
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I just think it’s better to be sympathetic than to be ashamed. I also meant that there are men who are attracted to things that aren’t necessarily logical, and that’s okay. It doesn’t have to be logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 04:27 AM
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You shouldn’t be ashamed though. It’s not your fault if you aren’t attracted to them. It’s not “logical” for someone to prefer underweight women to slightly overweight women—a little too much weight is better for pregnancy health than not quite enough weight. Knowing that you have a preference doesn’t make the preference logical. Edited for wording
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 03:15 AM
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And that is the polite way to reject someone. I also try to be as polite and gentle as possible. It’s not entitled to not feel shame over rejecting someone. I can’t control my attraction to them any more than they can to me. It’s okay to just not be attracted to someone without knowing why. I can feel sympathetic towards their struggle without being ashamed of my part in that. To use your comparison, it’s not my fault that I wasn’t hiring. It’s also not my fault if they aren’t a good fit for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 03:07 AM
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Dating in general involves a high rate of failure. If it isn’t immediate rejection, it’s a break up down the road. Even further? Divorce. It’s not a woman’s fault if she’s not attracted to someone who’s attracted to her. The same goes in reverse. Anyone who feels like being rejected at all is a sign of entitlement in the person they asked out needs to re-examine the way they view dating and romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 02:41 AM
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If there’s a well rated hairdresser near you, calling earlier rather than later is a good idea to try and get bleach professionally done. It’s very easy to bleach unevenly and end up with it looking patchy, plus it sounds like it needs to be done very close to the scalp which can get scary if you’re trying to do it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 12:16 AM
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Hmm… overtone or something similar would probably work best for Halloween, it’ll still be hard to get a pastel unless you have particularly light hair but it’ll also be easy to spend a bit of time just trying to get the color right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:38 PM
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Yeah, you may have some trouble getting a pastel color without bleaching first and I highly recommend having a hairdresser do the bleaching part
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:31 PM
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Vacuum, it’s the most convenient
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:38 PM
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Depends on your natural hair tone, but Overtone is good for experimenting with colors to find the right one. Otherwise you’d be best off going to a hair stylist for suggestions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:37 PM
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It was written by a male satire writer.
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/22 10:34 PM
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I think you can, on the basis that you don’t deserve the company of a specific person—you just deserve to feel loved. Just because you can’t (and shouldn’t) force anyone to be that for you doesn’t mean you don’t deserve the experience. It’s not possible to be guaranteed everything that you deserve, but I think this is a need and therefore something that is deserved.
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/22 10:32 PM
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Some people do feel entitled to sex—specifically, sex with people who don’t want sex with them. Men aren’t the only ones, either. They resent people who have sex (especially with a person they find attractive) because they believe they deserve to be having sex with that person. I’m not saying you, or even the majority of incels for that matter, fall into that group. It’s also not exclusive to people who are sexually unsuccessful, as there are plenty of people who will get very angry and bitter w…
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/22 06:19 PM
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Or me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 02:58 PM
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BRB telling my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 02:57 PM
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Completely understandable. It gets less fun and more 😬😬😬 at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 02:38 PM
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What gets me is the desired level of “purity” at the potential detriment of other important aspects. I think it’s completely reasonable to want someone who views sex in a similar way to you—be that “doesn’t matter, had sex” or “my body is a temple and sex is a sacred act of worship” but the more extreme or niche your preferences, the harder it will be to find someone. Obviously it’s extreme to exclusively want virgins, especially if you aren’t one yourself (it makes some sense to want the experi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 08:58 AM
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EYOOOO
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 08:38 AM
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Technically, we will always be second to automod…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 08:12 AM
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Get ur binary jokes outta here
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 08:09 AM
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Awww mods did you ban cuck culture guy again? I wanted to see if he was gonna call science cucked or not :(
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 08:02 AM
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Congrats! Hopefully recovery goes smoothly :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:37 AM
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It’s unhealthy to have a romantic relationship with someone you put on a pedestal. I absolutely respect and love my husband, but I don’t aspire to be more like him or anything like that. We both have our strengths and weaknesses, most of which are complementary to each other’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:26 AM
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Yeah and you can get dysentery from water, salmonella from meat+eggs, mad cow disease from beef, etc. I’m not saying long pig is good for you I’m just saying we eat and drink all sorts of shit that isn’t good for us, this one is just taboo in most cultures (for good reason of course!)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:20 AM
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I haven’t had anyone react poorly to me telling them they’re a “solid 6” before but I also don’t go around randomly giving out numerical ratings—it’s only if they actually ask me to rate them ¯\(ツ)/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:02 AM
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It is in some cultures!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:00 AM
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Everyone loves food!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 05:52 AM
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Yeah, “average at best” is an insult. 6 is above average but believable—7 gets into flirtatious territory imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 05:51 AM
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I’ve always felt that 6 was the safe number. It’s where I’d rate myself (as well as most other people) because it’s slightly above average and therefore not an insult imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 05:21 AM
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Nah dude they just want to capitalize off of the bug ridden reputation to pay developers less
/r/AllPillDebate21/10/22 09:15 PM
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Agreed. Beauty standards are pretty fucked for everyone. Yeppers! My first video game obsession lol
/r/AllPillDebate21/10/22 09:06 PM
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My mom is the muscle car lover and better driver, she’s also disabled so my dad does most of the physical chores (dishes, sweeping, etc.), and both of my parents are very smart but have different favorite subjects so they like learning from each other whenever they can. Idk if that last one is uncommon but it is cute
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 09:04 PM
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Woman bad, I assume lol. The funny thing is I actually agree with people who think it’s kinda shitty for women to operate with a bigger/taller=better mindset. I think if finding out the guy she’s been seeing is 5’11 instead of 6’ bothers her, she needs to sort her shit out. If it’s an attraction thing where she gives him a chance in person, not based off of numbers or anything, that’s just not something she can control and that’s fine. Same for if a man just doesn’t like the way a woman’s body l…
/r/AllPillDebate21/10/22 08:45 PM
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