divorceddad2019 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
89	2 very long years!		divorceddad2019	/r/Divorce_Men	09/12/20 10:27 AM
9	Playlist for ex's wedding		divorceddad2019	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/21 11:41 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	First full weekend with my son since moving to my new place. We kept it simple for dinner Enjoy it, mate!	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/21 08:09 AM
2	Playlist for ex's wedding Ha ha! Good stuff mate. I actually thought of this one yesterday morning when I took my dog for a walk! It’s on the list :)	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/21 03:49 AM
2	Playlist for ex's wedding Getting 50:50 after almost being squeezed out was a relief. I'm glad that I am resilient and that I stuck to my guns. I've maintained my relationship with my kids, and that is all I need. The rest is just having a laugh :)	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/21 05:41 AM
1	Playlist for ex's wedding Yep ... you're never really free. It's hard when the kids make progress and then you have to start again the next week. Definitely moving forward though.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/21 05:39 AM
2	Playlist for ex's wedding Thanks mate! The playlist needing a little country and western.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/21 05:38 AM
1	Playlist for ex's wedding Hey mate. They're getting better. Still working hard with them. I'm 50:50 now, and they are seeing a therapist that specialises in alienation/alignment. They've come a long way, but still have a way to go yet. Just gotta keep moving forward, and not look back.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/21 05:37 AM
1	Playlist for ex's wedding Thanks mate ... I'm already doing that.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/21 05:35 AM
2	Playlist for ex's wedding Thanks mate ... yep it was just some fun. My partner and I thought it up when we were having a couple of drinks and sharing a laugh. Thanks for your suggestion ... it's on the playlist :)	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/21 05:35 AM
7	Q for Divorced/Separated parents. If you could go back and time and not meet the person you separated from and gave you your children,would you? Even though that would mean you would of never have had your current kids. No. We definitely had some good times, and I love my kids immensely. I would have taken my lawyers initial advice, but I got there in the end.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/04/21 06:57 AM
1	2 very long years! Thanks mate. Love me some warm, non urinated water!	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/20 01:46 AM
1	2 very long years! Thanks mate. I’m lucky to be back in my home city, amongst friends and family, and the crew I work with are really cool too. My focus is now helping my kids to settle. Coparenting with a trouble maker is impossible. Parallel parenting for the win!	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/20 01:45 AM
2	2 very long years! Definitely is made! Yes, Dobby is free!	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/20 01:43 AM
1	2 very long years! Yeah. With kids and property, it takes some time. But, my ex dragged it to the end. Then she wanted it done quickly. I’m guessing she wants to lock down the new bloke ASAP 😂	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/20 01:42 AM
2	2 very long years! Yep ... I had this one planned in advance. It’s a wonderful feeling to click the ‘post’ button!	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/20 01:40 AM
1	2 very long years! Cheers mate!	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/20 01:39 AM
3	2 very long years! Ha ha! No way! In a great relationship now, but we’ve no plans to marry. Onwards and upwards now!	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/20 01:39 AM
2	2 very long years! Yeah mate. Lots of hurdles along the way. Definitely was a marathon. Glad it’s finished now!	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/20 01:38 AM
1	Not sure how to deal with alienation and a narcissistic ex. I could use some advice. Yes. Definitely. There is a fair bit of research on this. If the psychologist isn’t aware of the situation, they can actually reinforce what the alienating parent is doing. It may cost a bit more, and the wait times are longer, but its worth it in the long run to get a good psychologist who knows what they are doing. On your point, the best you can probably do is ‘parallel parenting’. Co-parenting with a narcissist will never happen. Hope you guys are doing ok!	/r/Divorce_Men	29/04/20 04:56 AM
2	Not sure how to deal with alienation and a narcissistic ex. I could use some advice. Hey. Yep, seek therapy from a child psychologist, but one that has expertise in this area. Not a random one that you find on google. Many therapists are ill equipped to handle this, as it’s a very specialised area. You wouldn’t see your family doctor if you need a heart transplant. I get what you are going through. I’ve just got my family review back from a psychologist, and she has recommended that my kids be removed from their mum’s home, and a moratorium on her contacting the kids while they …	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/20 11:46 PM
3	To all my brother on this sub Amen, brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/20 01:37 AM
2	Financial Spreadsheet for getting back on track after divorce. Hey mate. This is really great! I’ve been trying to work up something like this also. I’ll use this as a bit of a template if that’s ok? I’m Australian, with two kids and probably going to be 30:70, increasing to 50:50 hopefully down the track, so there are some strong similarities. I’ll have to make an extra spot for Kayo though! Cheers.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/20 10:52 PM
21	She finally called the police This is good. You stood your ground, she upped the ante, and the police didn’t want to be involved. You’ve now taken that avenue away from her. Good job, mate. Lawyers are expensive, but it’s the only way to deal with a narcissistic STBXW.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/10/19 01:02 AM
2	Parental alienation is very real Sorry ... I miss read it. I’m not sure of their specific situation, but here in Australia 50:50 is very reasonable, and viewed favourably by the court, all things being equal. I’m lucky in a way, as I’ve been making notes of conversations for months now, and pretty much all of conversations are on email. It can be hard to prove PA, but we’ve already had mediation, and the child consultant who reviewed my kids accused my STBXW of if. This report will flow into the court proceedings. Buckle up and…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/08/19 07:59 PM
5	Parental alienation is very real Hey, it's very real. I'm going through it now. I like the fact that your bro is going for full custody, and a month where she can't see the kids. It'll take some time for them to come around, so he'll need to be very patient. How is he going? It's been brutal for me. I've been so thankful for my family, friends and work colleagues. My STBXW is getting papers either this Friday, or Monday next week.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/08/19 10:25 AM
1	Parental alienation Hi mate. DO NOT GIVE UP. It’s is going to be a very long haul, but if you give up now, you will never get her back. I know that you already know this, but a daughter’s bond with her dad is so important for the rest of her life. Keep on telling her that you love her, and be there for her as much as you can. It’ll hurt like hell when she rejects you, but don’t stop. How old is she? I guess she’ll need some therapy to help with the transition anyway. Some of the things that she's doing will come up…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/19 04:30 AM
1	Trying to be reasonable with an unreasonable person is unrealistic. It’s a foreign language to them. Try as you might, they simply can’t understand your attempts to be fair, they assume you are playing them somehow because that’s what they would do. Mate, you’ve hit the nail right on the head. I hope you get enough kudos for this post. I’ve printed it out, and I am sticking it on my fridge door!	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/19 09:52 AM
2	Silver lining Amen, brother. Buy yourself something instead.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/02/19 04:27 AM