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1	Why do you deserve to know if the woman you're fucking is trans? Really?! You would assault someone you're sleeping with? That seems pretty fucked up. :(	/r/MensRights	13/10/11 02:58 AM
2	Why do you deserve to know if the woman you're fucking is trans? If that's something that bothers you, you should ask. Just like I ask my partners whether they're transphoic and have a problem with me being trans before I sleep with them. I'm not into having sexual intercourse with someone like that. That said, if they didn't tell me they were and I didn't ask, it wouldn't be deceptive of them, it would just be annoying for me.	/r/MensRights	13/10/11 02:49 AM
1	Why do you deserve to know if the woman you're fucking is trans? Yeah, so? I disclose too. I'm not interested in sleeping with transphobic people, so I ask and find out whether they are before sex. It doesn't mean I have an obligation to tell anyone anything. It's merely something I opt to do.	/r/MensRights	13/10/11 02:47 AM
2	Why do you deserve to know if the woman you're fucking is trans? If you're going to treat your assertion as an opinion, you should appropriately express it as one. I was fairly careful to express my view as "I think" rather than a flat assertion. I wish I could relate information that wasn't merely anecdote, but that and my own personal experience is all I have to work with. I agree there is a frustrating lack of studies, but if you look at the incident of violence against trans women, you will find a lot of the cases happen when the attacker does not know th…	/r/MensRights	13/10/11 02:38 AM
1	Why do you deserve to know if the woman you're fucking is trans? Can you please let me know what you mean by a transgendered person leading someone into believing they are cisgendered? What activities specifically, do you think trans people do to lead others to make this assumption? It seems it's just an assumption people make. You're essentially arguing that it's equivalent to deception for someone doesn't go around and suss out everyone's flawed assumptions, see what they assumed and correct them if needed. It isn't... if someone manages to assume the wrong…	/r/MensRights	13/10/11 02:24 AM
1	Why do you deserve to know if the woman you're fucking is trans? "It's a lot less likely there will be any beatings if they are up front about it, before anyone has put any time into the courtship." [citation needed] I have friends with first hand experience that this is false. People tend to have stronger barriers to beating up people they know well. Disclosing before someone cares about you can be dangerous. I think your assertion is actually the opposite of reality.	/r/MensRights	13/10/11 02:16 AM
1	Why do you deserve to know if the woman you're fucking is trans? I'm sorry that people respond poorly when you ask them such a question, but I don't see how that makes it a trans woman's obligation to tell you. If it's your preference, you're just going to have to be careful and get to know someone so you can make sure you have the information you need! Good luck!	/r/MensRights	13/10/11 02:13 AM
5	Anti-male and transsexual discrimination to "protect" women (x-post /r/lgbt) sigh I understand how it could appear that way to you, but as someone who has been dealing with going through this whole thing, I'd like to let you know that it's really not about hating men, it's about feeling and knowing, rather deeply, that I am not. I joke that it took me 22 years to understand men (never had nearly as much trouble interacting with and understanding women) well enough to realize I wasn't one. There's some truth to that. Be glad your body is aligned with your own sense of gen…	/r/MensRights	10/08/11 01:07 AM
3	Anti-male and transsexual discrimination to "protect" women (x-post /r/lgbt) What I am saying is that the assumption of these second-wave feminists that those who are raised as men, regardless of what they identify as now, are dangerous, is inherently misandric. That's a reasonable argument. I think however, that this issue is not so much of a men's issue as an issue where misandry happens to show up. Sorry to get overly semantic about it, I was definitely set off by your post where you stated it was clearly a men's issue. I do think it's pretty important to draw a clear…	/r/MensRights	10/08/11 12:53 AM
8	Anti-male and transsexual discrimination to "protect" women (x-post /r/lgbt) they do not wish to be associated with men(which, in a way, is a form of misandry too) Women who don't call themselves men when they're not are misandric? I'm hoping I misunderstood you, care to elaborate?	/r/MensRights	09/08/11 10:59 AM
4	Anti-male and transsexual discrimination to "protect" women (x-post /r/lgbt) that this is a men's issue. How is one group of women excluding another group of women, as distasteful as that is, a men's issue? Don't get me wrong, I and many others would be more than happy to have another ally in the continuing fight against transphoic nonsense, but I'm really confused on why you think this is a men's issue.	/r/MensRights	09/08/11 10:56 AM
1	As the mod of mensrights, I openly argue for the rights of anyone 'who presently has, used to have, or desires to have a penis.' I'm not going to let you ignore the forest by hiding in a detailed discussion of each tree. You asked me all of those questions... explicitly. You asked me to answer all of those questions... explicitly. I don't see how you can be annoyed when I actually answer them... I mean I thought those questions were kinda a waste of time tbh! I would say that just by virtue of the fact that so many people expect disclosure of it, it is. So it's acceptable to expect disclosure of it because people expect d…	/r/MensRights	10/05/11 03:48 AM
8	As the mod of mensrights, I openly argue for the rights of anyone 'who presently has, used to have, or desires to have a penis.' If I'm HIV positive, can I withhold that information until after sex? No. Public health issue where the result is a catching disease followed by death if left untreated. If I'm a registered sex offender, do I have to say something? No. You should, just like I hope most trans people are open and honest with their partners, (if, for somewhat different reasons... since they're you know, not the same thing) but no, I actually disagree with the legislation that mandates disclosure for registered sex …	/r/MensRights	09/05/11 08:24 AM
5	As the mod of mensrights, I openly argue for the rights of anyone 'who presently has, used to have, or desires to have a penis.' I have plenty of irrational preferences too! I'm not passing judgement on the preference, I'm just saying I don't have any obligation to ensure that you have a chance to trigger yours just as you don't have an obligation to ensure that I know about all the potential things that could make me irrationally reject you. Because seriously. Otherwise I would yell at everyone who didn't tell me they suck at keeping a kitchen clean up front. That's definitely an irrational prejudice of mine and I wish p…	/r/MensRights	09/05/11 07:38 AM
3	As the mod of mensrights, I openly argue for the rights of anyone 'who presently has, used to have, or desires to have a penis.' where people have a right to make risk assessments for themselves? Yeah, and I personally let other people make that call. Not doing so isn't the worst thing in the world though. to act like dating or sleeping with a transwoman doesn't come with consequences that are significant is at the very least naive. Agreed. Another way of looking at it is this; if you wanted a relationship and I just wanted to sleep with you, it would be wrong and immoral for me to lead you to believe I was interested in …	/r/MensRights	09/05/11 07:26 AM
0	As the mod of mensrights, I openly argue for the rights of anyone 'who presently has, used to have, or desires to have a penis.' Sounds like you need a better imagination! To me lying about doing the dishes is a bigger deal. By like a lot. I like to cook and that shit gets in my way and then I have to do it and it's just a constant mess that is always present in my life. The biggest pain in the ass is no one actually even bothers to assess their own ability to do dishes accurately. It's crazy. People really ought to be better about disclosing their dishes habits. I hope you do in all your future relationships.	/r/MensRights	09/05/11 07:20 AM
4	As the mod of mensrights, I openly argue for the rights of anyone 'who presently has, used to have, or desires to have a penis.' they should have the right to make an assessment on that risk before they invest too much time and energy into it See but that's the rub. You want all trans people to feel obligated to give people a chance to brush them off based on surface level feelings without actually giving things a real chance and see if two people have something worth fighting for. I can understand the people who think something like that is rare enough to make that effort, even if I don't and dismiss people who won't acc…	/r/MensRights	09/05/11 07:10 AM
0	As the mod of mensrights, I openly argue for the rights of anyone 'who presently has, used to have, or desires to have a penis.' If I like someone because they're smart, confident and cute and then later I find out they suck at doing their dishes, EVEN THOUGH THAT PERSON LIED AND SAID THEY WERE TOTALLY GOOD ABOUT DOING THEIR DAMN DISHES. It doesn't mean my feelings about them weren't based on reality, even though I didn't know the truth, as you put it, they are still smart, confident and cute, it just means it turns out their job of doing the dishes is totally fucking inadequate. At that point I gotta figure out whether o…	/r/MensRights	09/05/11 07:04 AM
-3	As the mod of mensrights, I openly argue for the rights of anyone 'who presently has, used to have, or desires to have a penis.' The feelings are totally based on reality, the only thing not disclosing does is keep the prejudice away long enough for the person to realize that. But if you're asking me personally, then the answer is no, but not because the feelings aren't real, but because I just don't have the patience to deal with that kind of bullshit. I have better things to do with my life than convincing someone not to pass me by because of their own prejudice.	/r/MensRights	09/05/11 06:42 AM
3	As the mod of mensrights, I openly argue for the rights of anyone 'who presently has, used to have, or desires to have a penis.' So I think we need to separate the discussion of whether or not disclosure is a good idea in a committed relationship for a trans person and worth doing. Which, personally, I think it is... and whether or not it should be something that people are entitled to. It is the latter attitude that bothers me. I suppose I would also disagree with: (1) pre-relationship (i.e. dating) Like really? You don't think people can go on a couple dates before getting around to the whole "be tee dubs, I'm a transse…	/r/MensRights	09/05/11 06:36 AM
0	As the mod of mensrights, I openly argue for the rights of anyone 'who presently has, used to have, or desires to have a penis.' (3) people are still transphobic, nor want to have sex with transwomen. And are perfectly entitled to the latter. Sure. They're entitled to do silly things, whatever, that's fine. But where I'm less okay is when these same people say that trans women have an obligation to give them information, unsolicited, they can use to irrationally reject people they would otherwise be nice to and might like. Myself, I disclose and don't really get relationship dynamics where a women would be at all okay wit…	/r/MensRights	09/05/11 05:56 AM
4	Should a 'Trans-girl' let you know that she used to be a man before sex? Not according to the folk of /r/transphobiaproject. They don't have to justify it. They don't need a reason Sure. They don't have to justify the preference or the reason. But no one has an obligation to give them information they can use to irrationally reject people they would otherwise be nice to. Myself, I disclose and don't really get relationship dynamics where a women would be at all okay with her partner not being outright supportive of her decision. (Fuck dating anyone who would be like that. I can and do do better.) But that's my choice …	/r/MensRights	08/05/11 11:22 PM
4	Should a 'Trans-girl' let you know that she used to be a man before sex? Not according to the folk of /r/transphobiaproject. Yes, and when those couples cross state lines to a state that sees things differently, those marriages are invalidated while they stay in that state. It's pretty unfortunate really. No matter who you marry some states will always revoke your marriage rights if/when you're in that state.	/r/MensRights	08/05/11 11:07 PM