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Basic Questiondm-me-fantasyfiction/r/askMRP17/04/24 10:09 PM
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dm-me-fantasyfiction/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 06:20 PM
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dm-me-fantasyfiction/r/askMRP06/05/24 05:46 PM
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So you're saying she can get the equity without the attached liabilities?
/r/askMRP06/05/24 10:37 PM
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Okay but should I cease all further investment in my relationship in the meantime? Or does it not matter how deep you go?
/r/askMRP06/05/24 10:33 PM
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I own exactly $3000 in my car, I have made one mortgage payment, and my business is a job masquerading as a business, in which I am the value and I couldn't sell it for shit.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 10:28 PM
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I will admit that everything I have acquired is just because it was there. I never really gave a fuck about money or being in shape as an end, only a means to getting laid. But there were always people around me who wanted to go to the gym or they wanted me to do something for them in exchange for cash and the money and fitness just happened.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 10:27 PM
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She did stop that recently, but I can't get a good timeline on when I should give up on hormones being a solution. Some say it takes years, some say weeks. So far, weeks hasn't done anything.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 10:24 PM
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She has no drive. I understand that I have to initiate, but all I get is starfish action. On the occasion that we try something new, she isn't into it. I ask her to do things like use her hands, and she will put her hands on me like Lenny playing with the rabbits for maybe 10 seconds and then goes back to starfish. I can dominate but I get no response, it's like fucking an onahole. If I push for anything I'm just met with nothing, not a yes, not a no, just... absence.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 10:23 PM
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I have a book of business but the business has no assets, and has paid out any cash it has to myself, my wife, and my subcontractors. I'm in the slow season so there just isn't shit right now. Maybe $4000 total in equipment.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 10:19 PM
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I have no kids, I probably should have made this clearer in the OP.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 07:58 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 07:39 PM
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Man idk. Since I read Rational Male 7 years ago at 21, I've gone through NMMNG, Frame: A Praxeology, Meditations, 48 Laws, Art of Seduction, Laws of Human Nature, The Way of Men, Preventative Medicine, and whatever else I see pop up in this sphere. I took my business up to the point where money is a joke. Yeah, there's plenty more to go but I have no idea how to give a fuck about financial growth when there's nothing left I want to buy. I'm in the best shape of my life, I've run about 5 of the s…
/r/askMRP06/05/24 07:27 PM
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I went through it before I made this post and most of it was about asset division and children. I don't have assets or children. I suppose it was stupid of me to ask about the legal and financial ramifications of divorce since I don't have shit. Other than emotions and potential, we've only just started to build our lives in earnest. It took a long time to get to ground zero, but that's as far as we've made it. We just crawled out of the financial hole that is being an American in your 20s.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 07:14 PM
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I'll get a lawyer, that seems to be a common thing I'm being told. I'm in shape but I'll keep it up and get more in shape. I have been to therapists, but they keep telling me that all my problems are external and that I don't need therapy, I need to fix the immediate problems in my life. This has happened four times. Idk what I'm supposed to recover from other than "being a complete retard." Yeah, back to the sidebar I go.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 06:59 PM
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And in reality this is all your fault, you should have ended it sooner. Oof, yes, absolutely. So just fucking jump and whatever happens happens. Fuck it bro. So, just send it. Get home from work today, tell her I want a divorce, let it play out?
/r/askMRP06/05/24 06:55 PM
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I threw a tl;dr in there
/r/askMRP06/05/24 06:08 PM
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Yeah that was definitely the reason for me anyway.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 03:33 PM
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I still have to deal with the pain of severing from the one I have now. Plus I have an update for the post.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 03:32 PM
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I think the other commenters are right, she just doesn't really want kids. At least with me, maybe at all, I don't know but it doesn't really matter. And that's important enough to me that I would get a divorce over it.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 01:20 PM
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Man idk, I don't really know what I'm supposed to do with any of this shit if not to create a stable environment for children. It's really making me wonder why I pushed the rock to where it is in the first place.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 01:17 PM
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Well then I suppose it's time to go. My friends are all telling me the same thing.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 01:13 PM
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5'10"
/r/askMRP18/04/24 01:11 PM
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I did ask and she seems opposed to the idea. I have mentioned that this would be the only such condition under which we could use a surrogate.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 06:08 AM
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I don't know. I think it's mixed. I think she likes the idea of having a family with me, but she doesn't want to birth a child.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 06:07 AM
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This is a good point.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 06:06 AM
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She has a really close friend who had a baby about two years ago and has another on the way. This friend loves her children more than anything in the world, and looks back on her pregnancies fondly. However, while this woman is pregnant she experiences all of the downsides that she forgets after the fact. So she talks to my wife and my wife internalizes all of the physically negative aspects of pregnancy that she witnesses.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 06:05 AM
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The only reason she has explicitly given is that she's anxious about it. The concept of children she seems interested to discuss, but the mere idea of being pregnant seems to turn her stomach. She has been going to therapy for anxiety and has made a lot of progress, but this and health anxiety in general are areas where she hasn't seen much improvement. There are no physical problems or medical issues. She hasn't expressed any concern for her figure, she seems to be afraid of going crazy.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 06:03 AM
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The problem is that I was bad at reading between the lines. She's always said she wants to be with me more than anything else, and would agree to pretty much anything I suggested. In hindsight I could have paid closer attention to the body language and general vibes behind what she was saying. We got married in 2021 after the pandemic, I wanted kids then and we got real serious about it right after we were married. Picked names, planned how we were going to afford it, and how we were going to ho…
/r/askMRP18/04/24 05:58 AM
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She says she doesn't think she can mentally handle childbirth. She also doesn't seem to be super into the idea in general. She never talks about being a mom, or "when we have kids." If I ask her, she says she wants kids but is afraid she'll have a psychotic break while she's pregnant. She has no history of psychotic breaks, and no family history in that regard either. It just seems to be how her anxiety for the situation is manifesting.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 05:53 AM
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No I'm actually serious. Do I allow my wife to drag out this milestone that we've been planning for years, do I give her an ultimatum, do I just leave, or is there another option I'm not seeing? Aside from getting pregnant myself, like I said, that didn't work.
/r/askMRP17/04/24 10:39 PM
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I have done this. I did not get pregnant.
/r/askMRP17/04/24 10:31 PM
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It's also worth inspecting which parts of your own beauty standards are actually important to you and which parts have been unconsciously picked up from external standards. For instance, my wife is obsessive about wrinkles. Maybe a youthful appearance really is important to her as a person, but I'd bet money that it's really just insecurity from not matching the stereotypical beauty standards. We can't know for sure unless she has an opportunity to dive deep into what aging means to her and what…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 11:47 PM
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Well, nothing is as black and white as it seems. Plus, we don't HAVE to get EVERYTHING we want ALL THE TIME. Maybe it's a dress-up kinda thing for a special occasion. Maybe it's just not good for you and you find something else he likes. Maybe one night you dress in a frumpy ugly dress and he wears an Aquaman suit or whatever it is that you like. My point is that with most guys, appealing to his internal standards is more rewarding, less expensive, and less effort than what conventional or exter…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 09:45 PM
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Yeah most guys have some certain features and archetypes that turn them on, and these standards are their true measure of attraction in their partners. They also will be attracted to external standards, which we might also call "conventional beauty standards," but not to the same extent that they're attracted to people who match their internal standards. There's something hot about being with someone who is hot to everyone else, even if they aren't really your type. However, the hottest is when …
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 09:31 PM
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Well, it really depends on the guy. I don't really appreciate that look much myself, but I know some people who do. I also know guys that want their women dressed in a snuggie when they get home. It just depends.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 06:45 PM
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Yeah but you can get that kind of attention from your man by figuring out his internal standards, and in my experience and from I've heard from other guys, you can be way more attractive (to your man) than those other women with considerably less work.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 06:43 PM
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All of the women I've committed to were pretty surprised that I wanted them to stop doing things that they had labored over for years because they thought "every guy liked that." I think most women getting into LTRs with men will find that our beauty standards not only vary widely, but rarely line up perfectly with what you see on TV and the internet. Honestly most of the guys I know whose internal standards line up with the external ones are the guys who have no idea what they actually want in …
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 06:42 PM
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We see cleavage and tight leggings every day, so it can get boring for some guys. Most guys I know have two forms of visual attraction, internal (what is actually hot to them) and external (what will make others think their partner is valuable). Women usually get told to work on the external side, which is fair enough since the internal side varies and there's really no way to work on yourself in that regard while you're single. It's an added bonus for a long term relationship: you get to figure…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 02:05 PM
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I think the other comments so far point out some of the best courses of action for you to take. I would like to offer an observation that may alleviate some of your concern. Based on what you've written, it sounds to me like your man has the right attitude and he may even have a solid plan, or at least the beginnings of one. It doesn't sound like he's given you any indication that he doubts his ability to pull this off. If he has a solid family to back him up, he almost certainly will pull it of…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 03:29 PM
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I get where you're coming from, but I don't think I explained my situation that well. I don't have to eat real food. At any rate, I don't want to muddy up this thread with a conversation about myself. You make some very good points but I think I've said all I can say on this subject. Thanks for sharing your perspective!
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 06:10 PM
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I half agree with this. You are objectively correct and in an established long-term relationship this line of thinking is perfect. But I think early in a relationship it's important to give the kind of gifts that make you feel good as part of the vetting process. Give these selfish gifts to determine whether or not you have any level of symbiosis. I don't know how to explain it any better without an example. My wife loves to cook, and her primary method of showing love to me is by cooking for me…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 05:46 PM
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My intuition is telling me that this gift would be better as an anniversary present, it makes more sense and seems less obsessive if you give it to mark a special event. While I personally would never want to receive such a gift, it's important to make sure your man is receptive of the kind of love you want to give, so I say give it to him, but save it for a special occasion.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 03:06 PM
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I only give dating advice to men, since I only give advice on things that I have experience with, but I do try to provide a resource if something outside of my expertise comes up. Thanks for the list. I should probably read some of this stuff at some point.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 08:38 PM
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Good idea. I'm not trying to educate anyone; I just want to let people know the sources are there. I can still see it sounding patronizing to recommend a women 15 years older than me to read something called "The Empowered Wife" or "The Surrendered Single," but I have to start somewhere. I'll give this a go.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 06:42 PM
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Yeah, this is neither RP nor PUA. In either one, you would just start with the coffee shop and stick with that plan. Congruency is important in both philosophies, and if he was going to change venues, he should have done it while on the date. To me it sounds like maybe he budgeted poorly, or he just is incongruent. I don't know how the HVM scoring system works but I imagine this kind of behavior would lose you some points.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 05:26 PM
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I don't instruct anyone to invest in anything, I'm an accountant not a financial advisor. I was simply trying to share the difference in investing behavior between stable and mature investors and guys who are similar to who OP ran into. Even though someone may make a better return with a riskier strategy, it's the attitude and willingness to create stability in one's finances that I think Red Pill Women should look for in a man.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 09:13 PM
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Don't worry, you've learned a lot from this. You'll be better able to see these things and that will help you find a man deserving of a red pill woman. And do try to date in person if you can, both positive and negative aspects of a man's character show in his body language and little actions. I think I've probably said enough for tonight so good luck and don't get discouraged.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 03:52 AM
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You said in another comment that he told you that he could only go to you for money because you were his significant other, not his parents or apparently his friends. He had you doing his homework, and it sounds like you bore the brunt of the emotional legwork in the relationship. He made backhanded comments towards you, and then broke up with you and kept your money. He was manipulative at the very least. You also mentioned he wanted to marry you. I am married, and I think manipulating and usin…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 03:23 AM
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No. This man financially abused you and insulted you with backhanded compliments while he was at it. In my opinion, he cannot be a good man in his current state. Unfortunately, since he learned he can abuse you, he will use you to not learn from his mistakes, and therefore he will not change if you stay with him. Do not engage with a man who signals he will abuse you in any way. You are on this sub to learn how to find and keep a good man. Good men do not punish their partners because of their o…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:59 AM
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Yeah, what you missed here was the reactionary behavior with money. Even if a man doesn't drag you into his financial problems, being reactionary with money means he'll probably be reactionary with you, and your future children, if that's on the agenda for you. There are good men out there with financial issues due to extenuating circumstances. If he plans and is patient, he'll make his way back and be a good provider.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:19 AM
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Yes, thanks for pointing out that it seemed unimpressive. That's an important factor. The guys who are financially mature will seem unimpressive. They'll drive older or cheaper cars despite having an income that would support something sporty. They'll avoid talking people's ears off about how they invest their money (unless that's their job). They'll talk about their financial goals in terms of 5-10 years instead of 1-2. Having a lot of short-term goals will make a man seem driven, but it also i…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:09 AM
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Tips on how to avoid/recognize men with money issues early on? I can finally do some good on this sub, I'm a professional accountant. When it comes to men in their 30s, we tend to be either entering into or in the early stages of our wealth building journey. For a financially mature man, that means we have built or begun to build the base of our pyramid. Owning a home, having a year of our income in a stable investment account, having 3 months of income in a rainy-day fund, and anything else tha…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 12:15 AM
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I appreciate the advice, I've tried that. It hasn't been all that effective. But I'll keep increasing my value and she'll either come around or someone else will.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 05:00 AM
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I do my best, but alas, she is a vanilla girl, and she's anxious, which doesn't help.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 02:38 AM
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I just kind of couldn't leave. It's hard to explain, but I just didn't want to go home, I didn't want to spend any time away from her, I didn't want to see the other girls. The sex wasn't that good, but our personalities vibed well. I probably would have been happier in the short term if I had paid closer attention to how bad the sex was, as the sheer sexual ineptitude has plagued me throughout my marriage. Although, it has confirmed my hypothesis that in my case, sex and love have nothing to do…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:12 PM
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