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| 0 | Guys who struggle with dating show a common problem: Motivated reasoning.i am not defending actual assholes that do the “but i’m a nice guy!!!! now show bob and vagene!” what i am trying to say is that there’s a societal level goal / life plan that is imposed on people that the end game is starting a family and having kids. i don’t think that it’s a stretch to say that if an individual is not able to reach that imposed goal, both society and the individual will assume something is wrong with them. sometimes there is, of course, like in your example. but it’s not true… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 12:58 PM |
| 0 | Guys who struggle with dating show a common problem: Motivated reasoning.well, we’re not necessarily talking about the mindset of the lonely guy himself here, more so traditional society’s outlook as “married with kids is the goal”. as a whole, we’re moving away from this (rightfully so) but there are plenty of people out there with this mindset, and will look at a chronically single guy or girl and go “there must be something wrong with them” without context, as OP of this comment thread mentioned. it also seems perfectly reasonable for a guy (or girl) who has been … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 12:26 PM |
| 0 | Guys who struggle with dating show a common problem: Motivated reasoning.there’s an aspect of a patriarchal society that emphasizes heterosexual relationships as a symbol of status for both the man and the woman, and people who buy into that worldview (which there are many, both men and women) are likely to see chronically single people as less than, just in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 10:19 AM |
| 4 | I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women.i disagree with this statement and i find it callous, even if you’re talking about a subset of men that exist on the internet/this subreddit i have two questions though 1.) what would a hypothetical man need to do to “provide value to women”? 2.) in your opinion, what “value” do women provide men? there’s enough men and women in stable, loving relationships out there to essentially disprove that men provide nothing for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 01:28 PM |
| 2 | The gym is meant to be a safe space not a place for men to try to hit on or date themNo one is protecting this behavior. This example is extremely bad behavior and that guy in the OP actively sucks and should be kicked out of that gym for the safety of the women patrons of that business. It’s straight up sexual harassment. I don’t really agree with your “the guys here are getting defensive” response here either. That is both not happening nor is it proof that men are protective of acting like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/26 03:44 PM |
| 1 | A lot of guys think they should be adored simply because they are not abusers, then wonder why women (and men) dont like them.so you just know what every man is thinking about women based on a sample of hateful online rhetoric? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 04:52 PM |
| 1 | A lot of guys think they should be adored simply because they are not abusers, then wonder why women (and men) dont like them.please close tiktok/twitter/reddit and talk to your male friends in real life. i doubt the viewpoints you list are common outside of the internet. i’m not going to “whataboutism” the bad takes and opinions i see women online because the women i know in real life don’t hold those opinions on the aggregate. have you considered that the “men” you speak of that are talking about all other men in this way are grifters, engagement farming, selling something, etc (aka manosphere) and their worldview sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 04:30 PM |
| 1 | A lot of guys think they should be adored simply because they are not abusers, then wonder why women (and men) dont like them.“men actually suck, and here’s a bunch of anecdotes to prove it. if you try to refute them then you’re just being defensive and that’s why you suck as a gender” cmon now. some of your points aren’t that far off for men specifically but quite a few of them are just asshole behavior that both genders participate in | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 11:20 PM |
| 3 | Men place women on a pedestal and in doing so they start to hate women for any show of humanity.this isn’t conducive to good faith discussion. it doesn’t seem to be anything related to the manosphere either, just two people with very different viewpoints at very different ends of the whole dating world (a single young guy and a married woman, according to your flair). claiming his viewpoints are “manosphere” just seems (to me) to be shutting down his opinions and labelling him as the problem. i’m not aligned with his “spark” discourse (i think two people “clicking” is a better way to think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/26 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Men place women on a pedestal and in doing so they start to hate women for any show of humanity.this isn’t conducive to good faith discussion. it doesn’t seem to be anything related to the manosphere either, just two people with very different viewpoints at very different ends of the whole dating world (a single young guy and a married woman, according to your flair). claiming his viewpoints are “manosphere” just seems (to me) to be shutting down his opinions and labelling him as the problem. i’m not aligned with his “spark” discourse (i think two people “clicking” is a better way to think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/26 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Men place women on a pedestal and in doing so they start to hate women for any show of humanity.can you elaborate on the “manosphere” talking points you are identifying in antenonjos’s comments? i don’t follow any of that bullshit either but i don’t think what they’re saying would count as any sort of tate-ism manosphere influenced viewpoints. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/26 04:16 PM |
| 4 | When men say "Men suffer in silence", most of them think that's cool and masculine.the vast majority of men’s issues are usually wielded as a counter argument in this way and it makes me mad. the worst dudes you know keep shouting “the male suicide rate is so high!” or “boys are falling behind in school!” not because they actually give a shit about solving them, but just to do an oppression olympics any time women voice their own problems. that has knock on effects where (a lot of the time) honest discussion of these issues on their own get lumped into manosphere/incel bullshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 03:46 PM |
| 1 | When men say "Men suffer in silence", most of them think that's cool and masculine.to be fair i didn’t know june was men’s mental health month until people started talking about it once the month rolled over | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 03:32 PM |
| 0 | When men say "Men suffer in silence", most of them think that's cool and masculine.from what a quick google is telling me, it’s may. but some sites list it as “women’s health month” in general with a focus on things like pregnancy and women’s specific health outcomes vs purely a mental health month. i’m also seeing may as a more general “mental health month” too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Too many men are obsessed with masculinity when it’s really they’re not acting like adults.understandable i’m not sure how that runs counter to “women uphold the patriarchy and enforce gender roles” but your position is technically “men don’t listen to those telling them to deconstruct gender roles” without specifying who’s saying that i’m not sure how to parse the third paragraph’s first half due to spelling mistakes. i do find that when men tell women to stop entertaining trash it gets labeled as victim blaming (which it can be for both men and women, but not in every case). i do ag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Too many men are obsessed with masculinity when it’s really they’re not acting like adults.i don’t necessarily always disagree with your takes in this sub, but i wonder why you partially reply to comments. generally speaking in the dating world there are masculine roles that are being upheld by women looking for men. there are women that claim to be feminist that still select for both physical and social characteristics that would be classified as traditional masculinity (and even toxic masculinity) and many commenters state this but you don’t seem to respond to this part of their com… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 01:23 PM |
| 2 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overallyeah oppression olympics are stupid. everyone has their own problems and those who are affected by said problems should be able to discuss those problems without someone else being like "uhm actually sweaty, i have it worse!!!!!". with some caveats, of course. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 05:36 PM |
| 1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overalli'm not saying feminism as a whole is perfect, nor am i saying feminist can't hold man-hating beliefs. that's honestly one of my issues with the movement as a whole. i have other comments in other threads on this sub addressing this. i do think that the end goal of feminism (atleast how i look at is as a man) is dismantling patriarchy and that will liberate both men and women from traditional gender roles which is good for everyone. i think a good example of this is when i expressed an issue wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 05:31 PM |
| 1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overallfeminism as a movement is opposed to the patriarchy. that's kind of the entire idea of the movement. if you think "feminists work to uphold the patriarchy" i'm not sure what to tell you because you don't understand what feminism fundamentally is. i will repeat what i've said in other comments in this thread: the patriarchy has no gender, women can uphold the patriarchy by trying to enforce traditional gender roles like "man up and get over it", not all women are feminist, and some women who clai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 05:11 PM |
| 9 | Why is women's popular music so much more sexual than mens?how about blurred lines by robin thicke? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 06:05 PM |
| 1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overalli think intent matters. if there’s a car accident and a man dies, is that misandry? i think there’s an interesting conversation about male deaths and what would fall under gender based intent in a larger scheme of gender roles and expectations, but just blanket statement saying “men die more from all causes, this is misandry” doesn’t seem logically sound. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 05:27 PM |
| 1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overalli think an important thing to note is that not all women are feminist and many do hold patriarchal views on what a man and woman should be in the context of relationships. women using emotions against the men that show them are upholding the patriarchy. the patriarchy has no gender and can be perpetuated by people who don’t identify as men. similarly, those who expect men to be providers in an era where women are now out earning men on average are still upholding traditional gender roles and are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 04:01 PM |
| 1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overalli’m saying that because the patriarchy harms men as well. i think a good example is how traditional gender roles generally tell men that “emotions are for women” and to “man up and get over it” instead of processing emotions in a more healthy way. this can lead to a lack of emotional growth, with men just bottling up emotions until they become unbearable or overwhelming and they snap. this can also inhibit men from forming healthy, deep friendships with their fellow men as well as platonic relat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 01:43 PM |
| 1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overalldouble comment whoops | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 01:43 PM |
| 0 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overalli did not claim that it was patriarchy. what i said was that if you are concerned about dehumanization then you are better off shifting focus to something that is overall more dehumanizing than women being mean on the internet. i don’t think a core tenet of feminism is minimizing male struggle but i do agree that there isn’t much work being done from feminist women to help in that regard. i think that male feminists doing the work to help liberate men from the patriarchal gender roles is the bes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 12:52 PM |
| 2 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overallah. she argued that the definition of rape is based on insertion, so male victims of rape don’t count. i agree this is a bad thing. from skimming her wikipedia article i do think a lot of her work is important, but that specific point needs revised. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 12:46 PM |
| -1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overallyou cut my quote off there for some reason. dismantling the patriarchy would benefit men as well as women. i am a man and i’m very well versed in men’s issues and half of the reason i identify as a feminist is to help men with their struggles which are in part due to rigid gender roles and hierarchies. i honestly disagree with what you’re saying in that copied text from your previous comment. i agree there’s an issue with how some feminists talk about men and i agree misandry exists (which isn’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 12:40 PM |
| 1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overallelaborate please. i don’t know anything about this woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 12:12 PM |
| 1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overallwell that’s just putting labels where they don’t belong. i don’t think any man getting killed for any reason is misandry. can you elaborate on your point? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 12:11 PM |
| 1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overalli mean, if you’re worried about dehumanizing people and people being reduced to inanimate entities that only serve singular purposes you would be much better off fighting misogyny and the patriarchy as a whole, it’s much more prevalent and harmful than misandry and reduces both men and women down to specific gender roles that only serve specific purposes. and no, i get what you’re saying though. it’s a deflection from actual talking points. it’s like “not all men”. i think any given group should… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 12:06 PM |
| -3 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overallmisandry harms but misogyny kills is a valid thing to say even if it deflects from the stated problem of women being shitty to men. men hating women leads to women being killed, women hating men (atleast to my knowledge) doesn’t directly lead to women killing men. male suicide is brought up in this thread a few times, and i would argue that misandry is not the only reason these men are ending their lives. personally i think both men and women need to decenter romantic relationships in general. t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 10:28 AM |
| 1 | The fact that "No you're still centering men!" is such a common feminist response to extreme, intentionally misandrist rants by more radical feminists is a good item of evidence of how ingrained misandry is in feminism overallyou got some examples of feminists in power acting directly to harm men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 10:21 AM |
| 2 | You can't effectively fight feminism without harming interests of womenwell, yeah, but that just falls back to a general issue with social media, that being lacking nuance. i also feel like many people take advantage of the relative anonymity to be mean on the internet without consequences. this is more of a pervasive issue as a whole rather than something that's only seen in discussions on gender dynamics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 08:14 PM |
| 3 | You can't effectively fight feminism without harming interests of womenwhat do you think men have to gain from fighting feminism? i would argue that men have more to gain from being feminist and dismantling the patriarchal structures of society. very few men actually benefit from the system, the rest stay oppressed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 08:07 PM |
| 1 | You can't effectively fight feminism without harming interests of womeni dislike the idea of labeling things as "rage bait" as a way of hand waving away toxicity. it reads like shrodinger's asshole. "oh i was just joking! don't be mad at me!" it doesn't seem to be applied consistently either. women saying "kill all men" is "rage bait" or "exaggeration" but men complaining about women is incel behavior or misogynistic. maybe, like, both are bad? and we should all just treat others like human beings who can make mistakes, be wrong sometimes and learn and grow as peop… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 07:53 PM |
| 2 | You can't effectively fight feminism without harming interests of womeni’m aware of the patriarchy and how it negatively affects men. i consider myself a feminist (or at the very least an ally) but i find myself being able to more easily grapple with how men suffer under patriarchy because as a man, i find those issues more tangible and relatable. if i can do my part to dismantle the patriarchy by talking to my fellow men and helping them be better, more feminist men, then i’m satisfied with my role in changing society for the better. none of this is to say i’m not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 04:54 PM |
| 1 | You can't effectively fight feminism without harming interests of womeni would like you to elaborate on why you think this. i disagree with your interpretation of this quote. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 04:35 PM |
| 1 | You can't effectively fight feminism without harming interests of womenfound a pdf of the text. searched for the words infantile and narcissistic. found one quote “we do know that patriarchal masculinity encourages men to be pathologically narcissistic, infantile, and psychologically dependent on privileges (however relative) that they receive simply for having been born male.” this quote does not support your claim “bell hooks calls men infantile and narcissistic”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 04:21 PM |
| 2 | You can't effectively fight feminism without harming interests of womencitation needed there, chief. she advocates for loving men to create men who are capable of love themselves as the patriarchy suppresses a man’s emotions and connection to those around him. https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/881777-the-will-to-change#:~:text=To%20create%20loving%20men%2C%20we,loving%20males%20for%20simply%20being. here’s a quote | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 04:14 PM |
| 1 | You can't effectively fight feminism without harming interests of womenmisandry is real but it’s not nearly as pervasive or as damaging as misogyny / patriarchy as a whole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 03:54 PM |
| 3 | You can't effectively fight feminism without harming interests of womenyou have a very bad and misinformed idea of what feminism actually is in the modern era. i’d recommend picking up a bell hooks book to actually learn about the movement in the current day | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 03:45 PM |
| 2 | "Liberal feminism" subsidizes extremism, claiming that feminism wants equality is fraudulent, and if you associate all men with violence, you are hypocriticali’m sorry you have to deal with that. that sounds like an incredibly frustrating and violating thing to go through and i hope you and the rest of the trans population in your country can get some justice and equality soon. my point wasn’t that it didn’t undermine consent or it wasn’t a shitty thing to do. what i am saying is that saying a dude who lies to get sex is just as bad as a man who threatens a woman with a gun for sex seems like a bad conclusion to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/26 01:42 PM |
| 9 | "Liberal feminism" subsidizes extremism, claiming that feminism wants equality is fraudulent, and if you associate all men with violence, you are hypocriticali read through this study and i have some thoughts. i think studies like this are important (using different, non accusatory language in surveys regarding sexual assault and rape culture) and there should be more of them. i also think that, generally speaking, there’s a disconnect between what men think is not problematic and what is actually problematic and upholding a pervasive rape culture. i do think there’s some flaws in the study and the takeaways though. i definitely don’t agree with the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/26 01:27 PM |
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