TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

dober88 Archive

View 0 posts and 188 comments by dober88 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

With me just thinking she was great on paper but not listening to my gut
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/26 07:28 PM
2

The real answer. OP, he doesn't owe you anything. If it's not to your liking, you're perfectly allowed to end the relationship for whatever reason you like. I'd recommend you start asking him instead of strangers on the internet though -- relationships being built on trust & communication are a thing.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 07:04 AM
2

I don't know OP from a bar of soap but that line to me screams that she's projecting. She thinks that because if she were in his shoes, she'd do that.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 07:02 AM
8

It worked. It worked very well in showing us how she wanted her demands met at the expense of mine. How princess always got hers first and if she was happy, she’d then consider me. But if I suggested looking out for my needs first, I was a selfish asshole and not doing relationships properly
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 09:44 PM
7

Live your life.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/25 11:10 PM
9

Let her live with the consequences of her own decisions. You focus on your life and don’t let her waste your time.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 10:21 PM
11

Very close people to me were telling me it's a bad idea. My own gut was telling me it's a bad idea. I was a dumbass who did what he was "supposed" to do like a good boy instead of doing what I wanted to do.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 09:34 PM
1

I've been looking into it very recently but the increased risk of prostate cancer has me ambivalent about it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 05:45 AM
13

Don’t ask us, ask him
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 04:42 AM
3

If you’re getting pressured for marriage when you’ve explicitly made it clear previously that you don’t want it — she ain’t the one, chief
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 02:07 AM
6

Don’t let fear stop you from living the life you want to live. There are literally millions of women out there
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 07:15 PM
2

It's fucked up that fathers have to fight to be able to get 50/50 custody.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 10:11 PM
5

Stop excusing physical abuse. The longer you let this shit happen for, the more of it your daughter will pick up and turn to in adulthood. Don’t let your fear of this woman run your life.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 07:55 PM
2

Depends on the jurisdiction. The biggest advantage nowadays is that it prevents the process from stalling. If you leave, you still have to maintain her lifestyle while paying bills for your own, too. It’s in her best interest to just dick around and delay the process as much as possible
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 07:55 AM
1

This. You know it’s a manipulation tactic, OP. Ignore that shit. It’s just another weapon in her arsenal
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 11:48 PM
4

I hope the biggest lesson here is for you to stop being a doormat.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 03:32 AM
3

Once the glass shattered for me, it became so easy to tell whenever she tried to bullshit me for her gain. When she gets worked up and throws exaggerations in an attempt to get me to do what she wants
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 09:02 AM
7

That's done for. Lots of advice to you, like stop still treating your ex-wife like a current wife. You don't owe her shit. Besides parenting and the divorce talk, she gets nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 01:02 AM
8

He didn’t ruin your marriage, she did.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 09:49 AM
6

Trespass this "friend". It's just as much as your house, she can go suck on a brick. Don't feel like you owe your wife pity or concessions. You've already given enough for little in return.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 12:07 AM
24

You don’t. You can’t (shouldn’t) control people to want to be with you. If she chooses to believe her single friends more than her husband, then she has made her own bed. Just prepare yourself so you don’t get fucked as badly as you can be.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 10:34 PM
3

Mine as well, I was literally planning to do the exact same thing as you. When I feel like it's fully dine, I will throw the token of 10 years of troubles into the sea. Let the sea claim it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 01:59 AM
8

Give her what she wants.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 03:42 AM
11

Someone who wanted me for me, instead of what I could make happen for them.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 12:36 AM
3

Because she hates him more than she loves her kids
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 01:13 AM
2

Very possible she is cheating on you. Look out for the signs
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 09:26 AM
3

But what about all that time you’ve lost with them. Especially at such a critical phase of their lives?
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 12:03 AM
3

Then you’re just being manipulated. Try and pretend as if you’re a 3rd party observer looking from the outside-in. What would you say about the situation then?
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 03:23 AM
3

It’s your house, which means your rules. Don’t let people trample on your boundaries. If you don’t want her there, it’s fine. If you do, it’s fine. Just make sure you’re not being played for a fool again.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 02:29 AM
1

Do you know before 12 what the rules are with custody?
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 06:16 AM
1

Sounds like old mate has the basics covered. Was it difficult for you to get 50/50 parenting time and responsibility? Also, I heard spousal support is quite rare, did you hear the same during your process?
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/25 09:09 PM
5

Don’t feel too bad. Just make sure you put in as much as you get out.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 08:50 PM
12

But the topic of what you linked is: “would you get married again?” Most of the top answers in that post say: “no, not worth the headache and cost” Pretty sure if you asked the same question here, you’d get the same answer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 12:47 PM
9

Let’s be real though: read the top 10 or 20 comments, and I think most of us would say the exact same things. Just swap genders around where necessary.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 12:25 PM
1

A tale as old as time. Never let the partner stop working.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/25 08:06 PM
3

There are billions of others. Think of somebody as "the one" is a big mistake. Staying together with someone every day is a choice, not an obligation.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/25 03:35 AM
3

I’m glad OP posted here, but I’d also be very curious to see what the responses on /r/Divorce would be. It’s definitely more biased in favour of women.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 07:21 AM
8

Concise explanation that's easily worth the watch
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 08:28 PM
2

Do you want another child? What benefit does a child’s parents bring in a legal marriage confer them that the same relationship, but without the certificate, does not?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 05:05 AM
6

Ask yourself if you want to get married because it brings something very valuable to your life that nothing else does, or if it's because you've been told it's something you should do after a while...
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 04:48 AM
15

Marriage just isn't worth it. What do you gain from marriage that you wouldn't have with a committed, long-term relationship?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 04:21 AM
1

You should look at her as a stranger with wishful thinking. Not as a wife with any say.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 07:57 PM
19

Fuck me for trying to include her on a family trip it’s not like I forced her at gun point. I only invited her because she complained about me having a lot more custody than her recently and was trying to smooth things over a bit. The key is to remember that no matter what you do, they will never be happy. You can only lose. She's not there to make things better for all of you, she's there to use you as an emotional punching bag.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 12:08 AM
6

Mistakes happen. Knowingly repeating them is just idiotic.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 08:52 AM
2

Get out into nature. Exercise (gym or otherwise).
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 03:26 AM
3

Marriage is a covenantal promise not only to your spouse but to their family and most importantly God. It was. Religion has been dying in the west, it kind of makes sense then that marriage has shifted from a religious concept to a tradition concept. men have the authority whether one gets married or not The design of a bait-and-switch is that you can't predict it. I'll definitely own my share of blame in ignore the red flags due to rose-tinted glasses and all.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 06:00 AM
15

Not when you get bait-and-switched into a celibate marriage with her constantly angry or resentful about something, no matter how much you try to give her what she needs. Sadly most people omit the: "look after each others' needs, physical and emotional" part of the covenant nowadays. There's a good reason marriage is a dying institution, and it's not because most people are somehow 'stupid'.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 12:52 AM
7

In the same vein, it can be said that there are no good women out there either. You’d think a woman who isn’t all about what she is getting out of a relationship and what a guy can do for her would be drowning in good men but here we are.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 09:13 PM
11

Don’t sign anything. Paternity test. Lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 08:14 AM
2

Fair enough. With rose-tinted glasses, all red flags look pink.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 09:13 PM
2

She is loving, caring, supportive and everything I had been looking for the first time around but obviously did not find. Happy for you but be careful, ours were all like that before we put a ring on their fingers
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 07:57 PM
6

You should've filed a police report for kidnapping. No one has the right to take your children away from you unless under a court order.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 01:45 AM
1

And most likely will either look for another man to move in with (bringing my children with her part time) or simply won’t leave. Sounds like there’s a 50% chance you have the solution
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 07:03 AM
1

Doesn’t matter what society “allows”. The kids still see it firsthand
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 06:58 PM
2

You did right by your kids and that’s all that matters. They’ll remember that you helped them make an effort
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 03:28 AM
12

Do what you think is the right thing to do. Your wife being petty is ultimately only hurting her relationship with her kids. They’ll remember that dad helped them put in effort for their mom’s birthday but their mom didn’t do the same
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 11:06 PM
11

sacrifice and prioritize them over your well-being Biggest red flag
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 08:05 PM
4

It’s also on men to not let anyone emasculate us though…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 08:02 PM
1

My guy, send a message if you ever need to talk. It’s pretty hard to find a healthy identity as a young man — for everyone.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/25 01:16 PM
2

It’s true. That’s what makes it brutal
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 04:58 AM
1

I can understand teenage virgins being swayed by it but not men with extensive life experience. From a young age men are shamed for not being able to get with girls (both by men and women). Repeated conditioning usually causes an insecurity. Couple that with a high sex drive and it leads to a toxic cocktail. OP, I would imagine your ex hasn’t been with many sexual partners or feels that their experience isn’t enough?
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 03:45 AM
1

You’re now making the case for redpill… which one is it?
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 03:37 AM
1

I think you’re the bad boy
/r/ExRedPill03/04/25 07:02 AM
2

Remember, women are a lot more about feels than logic, compared to men. In a group context, it’s about making each other feel better rather than telling ugly truths.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 05:31 AM
1

That's just how things work. Women's looks fade faster. Either go for the demographic that most pleases you or decide if other aspects can make up for lower physical attraction (they usually can't).
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 12:25 AM
5

It’s not the law, it’s the woman who is too busy thinking of her future with her new guy and just wanting to get the last chapter closed ASAP
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 05:47 AM
4

Like they say: A woman is the oldest teenager in the house
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 08:06 AM
7

Do the thing you will regret the least.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 07:24 AM
9

So why go through the effort of breaking no contact with me at least 4 times in the past 6 months and be completely dishonest with me? In case the new dick dumps her ass
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 07:32 PM
9

Time to let it go and focus inward. Your #1 priority should now be you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 12:28 AM
1

OP, important to know why: Besides just being plain unfair (equality and all), it makes it easier to argue that you abandoned your daughter and increases your chances of getting less-than-equal custody.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/25 07:09 AM
1

Fair enough then
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 09:27 AM
1

Interesting. So you would’ve done e it just to spite him? Am I correct in thinking that your hatred for him was stronger than the oath of monogamy you made?
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 05:26 AM
2

I can certainly tell you I wish I did Why is that?
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 07:51 PM
4

folk telling to tell bro that his STBW is a deplorable scumbag. I do not know who these people are. I was shown a photo on Instagram. It’s out my hands OP, the reason we are in this situation is because bitches share everything and look out for each other (even if it’s with sly intentions). We men just keep quiet and let our fellow guy learn things the hard way. And then we wonder why there are so many feminised men droning about in IKEA. Tell the fiance, even if it’s anonymously. If you were in…
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 07:48 PM
3

You need to stop being so emotionally affected by her. One of you needs to be stable and rational. It’s a lot easier for the man to play that role than the woman.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 07:43 PM
19

No wife, happy life
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 06:45 AM
2

This. She's doing the hard work for you. Make sure your bases are covered and she can in no way claim that you have forced her out or that she has a right to take the child.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 05:19 AM
3

Your kids don’t care whose name is on the mortgage. They see that daddy left.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 08:13 PM
2

I married a South African woman as well, OP. This shit might be normal there but it’s not in the rest of the world.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:47 PM
11

Sad but true. OP, grow a pair and tell her to fuck off. She has your balls in her purse and she got you to look after another man’s kids.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:46 PM
4

If you play along with this shit, she’s guaranteed to start using you as the bad cop.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 07:33 PM
11

It's a tool magnified by social media to avoid accountability and consequence. Steer clear of anyone who throws that accusation around like candy.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 10:08 PM
7

The concept of honour is nowhere near as important to them as it is to us. They understand it, sure, but it doesn’t mean a fraction as much to them as it means to us. We were continuously brought up with it and learnt the (physically) hard way what it meant to not uphold it. Women are mollycoddled and never under any real physical threat for being dishonourable. Look at women in strong Islamist states or other places where there are serious consequences for being dishonourable and you’ll notice …
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 07:27 PM
5

This. You now have to choose whether you have respect for yourself or not. The trap is that if you give her what she wants, then she will definitely never respect you again.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 07:18 PM
3

Don’t take a woman’s every emotion seriously, look at her actions. Hell, even they don’t.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 07:37 AM
6

Ask yourself: if the tables were turned, would she do the same for me? If the answer is no, you’re being too nice.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 07:48 PM
6

‘Implicit agreement’ is where you messed up. This is the ‘lack of communication’ most people mean when they talk about marriage issues. You did things for him earlier on and in your own mind expected him to do something later on without telling him. Now you resent him for not sticking to his end of a bargain that only ever existed in your head. Either you chalk this up as a lesson or you can’t get past it. If you’ve both sat down and rationally discussed all the aspects of this — and he has made…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 07:45 PM
4

Or “was she hot?”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 10:52 AM
1

Did anyone even know it was men’s day? Was there a Google doodle? Some HR person at work post a cheesy message thanking men? Nop, nop, nop
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 07:37 PM
9

They also find men who wear dresses fascinating as well, yet here we are… 😉. Enjoy mate, all the best.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 08:12 PM
3

It's there before marriage but well-masked. Usually you'll see hints of it but not the full-blown thing (e.g. not speaking for 15 mins or an hour). Then you think, it's ok, just a short while, people get upset. Later on you realise that it was a very light preview of the full deal. Ask me how I know...
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 08:41 PM
3

Yes. They just give you a dirty look. It’s very childish and immature. We need to stop enabling this shit
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 07:43 PM
1

Then you done fucked up. You give it your best to try and fix it but you can’t make somebody do something they don’t want to do.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 07:41 PM
3

The guilt will quickly wear off once you realise she was cheating on you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 04:56 AM
3

Fuck me, sounds exactly like mine.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 07:58 PM
1

No worries, mate. As long as you do what you know is right by you, the that’s what matters.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 04:27 AM
1

You need to man up. You sound like a simp. Don’t tie your self-worth and emotional well-being to her flimsy desires. If you don’t respect yourself, she will never respect you
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 02:07 AM
5

I want to be the husband she deserves and wants. Don’t fall for the Disney bullshit. Be the best version of yourself. Do what you think is right for you. If she doesn’t want any of it, her problem
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/24 09:08 AM
3

(and they always do) then he automatically disqualifies himself from my time and attention By that logic, you're saying you spend time with no men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 12:25 AM
0

I don't think OP is confusing statistical dependence. Let's assume that each time they fail, it results in a pregnancy (for simplicity, even though that's definitely not the case). If there's an 85% chance of non-failure, over a large enough number, the ratio of pregnant women would converge to 15%. If it's normally distributed (chances are it will be due to CLT), then if most men slept with 50 women and did not commit, then yes, they would get around 7.5 women pregnant on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 12:23 AM
4

The whole point of self-improvement is that it leads to self-worth and self-respect. You do it for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 11:14 PM
–

Also, campaigning on women's issues gets a lot more votes than campaigning on men's issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 11:02 PM
2

One tip I had my boyfriend try (it works so well) is pretend to be a FtM transgender Emasculating oneself isn't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:57 PM
1

Blame the loveable, useful idiot husband stereotype portrayed in films & TV along with the new fad of gassing up women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:49 PM
1

This sub is literally about gender wars.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:46 PM
3

This is the Disney bullshit we were brought up with -- the sooner it dies, the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:42 PM
–

Why don't we raise men to have accurate expectations of what women are actually looking for, rather than comforting lies that will lead to disillusionment later? Because fathers are frequently out of the picture when raising men (for whatever multitude of reasons, voluntarily and involuntarily) and we live in a society where the number of participation trophies & guard rails have never been higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:13 AM
2

It's just for a lot of men, even when they know rationally that you were not as into your casual sex partners, it won't stem the feeling they have that they're inferior to your ex partners. It's not that they're inferior, it's that they're being taken for a (figurative-only) ride. "See those other guys, yea, I let them in to my most intimate space on the first day I met them -- you, I like sooo much that I'm going to make you wait and jump through hoops before you can get into my most intimate s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:57 AM
1

his mom just let him quit because he found it hard, You need to stop this shit. If he learns that it's OK to quit when it stops being comfortable, he'll struggle so much more in life. Spend time with your kids, do what you think is right by them, not what others might. Your biggest pride or your biggest disappointment will be your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 01:48 AM
1

They've been raised weak, and emotional and just don't seem to have the backbone needed to make it in this life as a man. That I agree with. I wouldn't be surprised if a missing/inaccessible father during childhood is a significant cause to this. But most importantly, men don't need women to make them strong or 'right' them. Society keeps leaning on this BS that a man finding the right woman will set him straight. If the male role models (usually fathers) checked out or were forced out in their …
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 11:45 PM
6

I think it’s a good thing. We older men were brought up with marriage and kids being a duty, something we must do. I’m glad younger generations are seeing through the bullshit and treating it as something optional and extremely risky.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 01:27 AM
3

Checking in
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 01:25 AM
1

A verbal agreement is as good as the paper it’s written on
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 01:24 AM
1

Given there are billions of people on this planet, “all answers” are virtually guaranteed to contain one that confirms any viewpoint. There are people out there who like to eat cake and there are also people out there who like to eat toenail clippings. The majority of men would not change their view of a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 09:41 PM
2

https://youtu.be/BESx4mO7XX8?si=HclfJiy10IODFX7B
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 04:28 AM
1

Stay strong and separate the subjective from the objective. Listen to your gut. When making a decision, try and think of what it would look like if you were explaining it to a stranger.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 12:03 AM
3

Yeah, she’s manipulating you
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 08:54 PM
1

Highly doubt it but it’s easy to remedy if it gets to it. No need to be scared of what-ifs.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 07:54 PM
2

Separate your income and give her 6 months to find a job. Alternately, if she’s going to sit at home all day, she does all of the housework
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 07:43 PM
5

Grow a pair and set your boundaries
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 07:36 PM
10

Read “No more Mr nice guy”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 08:59 AM
29

Happiness is a choice. Fuck this gaslighting bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 09:21 PM
1

Yes, and you resent him for that. You have a view on how he should be behaving and acting. He has his own that's vastly different. If you respected him (now you just accommodate him), you'd accept that difference and try to make it work. You don't though, so you feel he should change. You both have to decide whether you can find a working middle-ground for your expections of who he should be vs who he wants to be. This swings both ways -- I'm sure he has some expecations that you're not meeting.…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 04:01 AM
1

Investing time into someone doesn't necessarily mean you respect them. I'll admit I do give me a hard time sometimes about going out. I just like spending a lot of time togetger. Im obsessed with him (lol) This sounds to me like you see him as an accessory to you rather than an individual with their own autonomy.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 03:46 AM
5

Sounds like he lost his balls ages ago and you’ve lost respect for him.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 03:18 AM
3

Right, I hope you’re more realistic rather than idealistic with the next one. 🤞
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 11:55 PM
5

Out of curiosity, what were the reasons for your 2 divorces?
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 08:43 PM
5

Stay strong. If she can’t have a relationship without a marriage contract then she values the marriage more than the relationship…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 07:38 PM
2

Why apologize? It's objectively only positive for an overweight person to lose weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:15 AM
2

hoe_math explains this quite well actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:15 AM
1

It's not just that, a woman's womb is core to her biological identity -- her "womanhood" just as we refer to men's genitals as "manhood". It's one of the few organs they have that men don't. It'll definitely fuck around with one's own sense of worth and self at a fundamental level. In a similar way, if a man lost their bits they literally and figuratively lose their "manhood"
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 11:19 PM
3

created by men to trap women into sexual enslavement I know your ex is crazy because we know that a ring on the finger turns the sex off after a few years.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 11:09 PM
11

Find happiness in yourself, you can't rely on others for fulfillment.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 11:05 PM
15

This looks like some ChatGPT shit on "how do I save my marriage?"
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 10:53 PM
5

how valuable of a commodity female attention is Valuable to whom? If you find female attention to be something of significant value, you need to work on yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 08:31 AM
2

Why didn’t you run for the hills earlier as well?
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 06:29 PM
6

Women rarely make major decisions objectively. It’s more often about how it makes them feel. If most of her friends are validating her for cheating or pushing for a divorce, then the promise of good feelings and validation will push her to action those things.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 05:01 AM
3

This is the result of girls being brought up with “you’re strong and independent — you don’t need a man for anything”. They grow up like that but realise that their nature still calls out for companionship and kids. This causes a cognitive dissonance and so they only truly respect the partner when they’re giving them what they need rather than the person as a whole
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 04:50 AM
7

whoever asks out the person, pays for the date. Yet women expect men to ask them out the vast majority of the time. 50/50 or go home. Women want equality, then give them equality in all aspects. To OP, congratulations on finally opening your eyes. Put yourself first and drop the 50’s mentality of men owing women something. The world has moved on, about time we (men) do as well.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 08:06 AM
1

It’s the repeated characters that give the thots away
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 03:52 PM
2

Never said every woman is a hoe. I said don’t try and save women.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 04:02 PM
2

Don’t be captain save-a-hoe.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 04:11 AM
0

How much are you paying for her not to suppress her sexuality and be a ‘whole person’?
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 05:55 AM
1

If you’re in a no fault state, pointless. The truth will appear eventually. Very good chance she has been getting new dick
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 03:45 AM
4

I don’t think any of us here would pick divorce over a stable, healthy marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 04:23 AM
4

Sounds like new dick syndrome
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 07:41 PM
9

Everyone gets pushed the “men are evil users” and “patriarchy” bullshit nowadays (you can directly thank feminism for that). Hence they see men as a necessary evil. Once they get the necessary (money & assets), to them men are just evil. Why do you think they’re suddenly good to men again once the money has run out?
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 07:55 PM
11

Nothing, move on with your life. You shouldn't give a shit.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 05:40 AM
5

OP, you’re about to play yourself because you’re doing things the way others want you to do them.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 07:57 PM
1

Fuck the ceremony then
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 07:54 PM
3

No one is forcing you. There is no prison time for not getting married
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 07:53 PM
8

Who the fuck cares what anyone else thinks. Drop the mindset of doing things to please others
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 07:49 PM
8

Have some fun with it. Congratulate her on finally being her true, hoe self. Let her know that you're happy that she has found the only thing she's good for and ignore her when she gets triggered.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 08:40 PM
6

She is manipulating the fuck out of you. The gloves are off, protect yourself and your access to your kids
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 07:38 PM
8

OP, stop being a simp. It’s still not too late for your kids to learn what a man with self-respect looks like
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 07:21 AM
4

Apologise and let your actions do the talking. You can’t control how someone else feels about you, you can only do what’s right by you and live your life in the way you think it should be lived
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 07:31 AM
9

Did you tell her to kick rocks? 2. “Has no emotions”/‘emotionally unavailable’ is code speak for “not susceptible to emotional manipulation “
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 07:46 PM
-1

This isn’t a sub for trigger warnings and snowflakes
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 08:07 PM
3

“Well, if that’s the case, don’t mind if I lay down. No point in both of us suffering “
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 08:13 PM
7

Also the oldest story ever told.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 03:43 AM
7

Stop fucking simping then.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 07:57 PM
5

Wouldn’t be surprised if she has to borrow money from her ‘friend’ in the near future.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 08:30 AM
9

This is how women always have been. You just had the mask on phase before the ring.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 07:44 PM
1

Because with women, it’s all about her
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 03:20 AM
3

You must be new here…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 06:51 AM
6

There is, it’s to not play into their shit
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 08:03 AM
23

Never simp again, OP. Gone are the days when women appreciated these efforts, it’s now just table stakes so that you have the privilege of breathing the same air and not embarrassing them.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 07:07 PM
3

Listen to your friend
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 07:38 PM
15

She has new dick (or TikTok dreams) syndrome, you have naïve simp syndrome. Stop placing her first.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 06:22 PM
1

Do yourself a favour and watch this first: https://youtu.be/o5z8-9Op2nM?si=6DwqZt2dXtVzqoPp
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 07:51 PM
-1

You know most woman, won't go for that. Stop thinking that, it’s as much your choice as it is theirs. She want to be legally tied to me. Sounds like she loves the concept of marriage more than she loves you. That would be a big 🚩.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 07:48 PM
11

Cool, then they have no rights to bitch about men not being romantic or “emotionally unavailable”. A man isn’t an object you purchase and contributing to the house and kids doesn’t entitle her to his time and affection.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 07:57 PM
3

Agreed. But for women it’s a higher probability since they get chased rather than doing the chasing. I.e. the average woman has had way more opportunities than the average man. Once they get to their late 30s, they either have to drop their standards (since they passed on the best one earlier without realising it) or they maintain them without acknowledging their reality (I.e. delusion)
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 11:19 PM
7

Fair enough. Let me rephrase: all the good ones are gone by their late 30s. What’s left is divorcees and crazies. We can either complain or make hay.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 08:54 PM
4

OP is looking for a single, childless, put together woman in her late 30s. These are rarer than hen’s teeth. He needs to look for younger women
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 08:46 PM
18

Sure, but actions will always speak louder than words
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 11:01 AM
4

For sure, glad for you. Just always make sure you don’t repeat the same mistakes again.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 07:23 PM
6

Mate, you’re 3 months in. Great that you’re happy but check back in at 3+ years. It sounds more like infatuation
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 07:18 PM
3

Call those bitches out on their shit
/r/MensRights28/05/24 07:26 PM
0

Aka basic bitch shit
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 07:20 PM
1

Barman needs to grow a pair and stand up to his wife.
/r/MensRights24/05/24 02:23 AM
4

Women don't respect a man they can control. No one does.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/24 03:41 AM
6

Yes, "princess" as in spoilt and sheltered. If you're coming to the internet for advice on how to handle your own emotions, you have a lot of growing up to do. I don't know you from a bar of soap, so I have no care or incentive to feel any emotion towards you, whether that's animosity, compassion, or anything in between. I'm just giving you some genuine advice.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 09:07 PM
10

Princess, you’re going to have to start making decisions for yourself in life. Either that or you’re going to be in for a rough ride.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 07:37 PM
2

When I say equality, I mean they’ll get their responsibility when it is due to them. No more coddled princesses who have simps at their feet.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 07:33 PM
2

Let the bitch vent but fuck no on taking responsibility just to appease her. We need to get rid of this “happy wife, happy life” shit. Women want equality, women will get equality
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 07:24 AM
1

Some of us only opened our eyes after it all happened
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 07:19 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter