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| 38 | Make Photographers Are Usually PervertsSo true and also, so many would-be rapist scrotes use “photography” as a ploy to flatter and lure hapless young women. I was approached by at least two different guys when I was 15 and 17 pretending to be photographers looking for models. And by a massive geek weirdo a couple years ago who claimed he liked to shoot “alternative beauties” in boudoir/ BDSM poses. LOL! Fortunately I never fell for it but looking back I fear for the girls who did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 11:51 PM |
| 18 | Dating “inequality” “data analysis”-🤣Lol. As if looking at online dating provides an accurate data set. Men skew the data themselves by swiping on everyone indiscriminately 🤣 they literally buy apps to swipe for them. Meanwhile, over in the real world, half the beautiful women I know have boyfriends that look like fkin sea monsters. This is incredibly stupid and unscientific. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 10:46 AM |
| 366 | Old men and their entitlement to young women (specifically their wombs) are poisoning the dating market for professional women in their twenties.Yes! I know two guys like this, both of whom live at home and one of whom is a literal incel who is obsessed with dating women 23 and under even though he is 34, 5’3, lives with his parents and fucks prostitutes. I live in fear of him getting his hands on some poor insecure seventeen year old who thinks it’s cool he pays her attention and has his own car 😖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 10:59 PM |
| 3 | Netflix series The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On?April: borderline personality disorder Randell: covert narcissist Zay: complex PTSD Colby: toxic narcissist, possible sociopath Shanique: pathologically jealous Madelyn: main character syndrome, addicted to drama Jake: pathetic nextman Rae: massive pick-me at the start, possibly turned out ok? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 10:47 PM |
| 1 | I set the boundary…Welp, I don’t let men choke me during sex. Guess your vetting isn’t so FDS perfect after all. 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 12:12 PM |
| 0 | I set the boundary…So glad you can speak for everyone else in the forum. You sound completely deluded. 99.9 percent of men watch porn. Therefore almost everyone here has tolerated a relationship with someone who watches porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 12:04 PM |
| 0 | I set the boundary…You’re totally misrepresenting what I said. I was saying [IF YOU STAY WITH A GUY WHO WATCHES PORN AND SAYS HE WILL STOP] expect slip ups. My basic point is that porn is an addiction that is incredibly difficult to quit - surely something anyone on this forum would agree with. So if your boyfriend says he’s quit and never slips up, he’s lying. You’re just arguing over nothing and taking what I said out of context to try and score points. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 11:58 AM |
| 0 | I set the boundary…….can you read | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 11:51 AM |
| 0 | I set the boundary…I don’t think you get to be the arbitrator of what is beneficial for women. If you actually read my comment, it was categorically NOT offering advice. Nowhere did I say, do this or do that. So what you’re saying, is sharing any anecdote that ISNT applying FDS to the letter of the law is detrimental and forbidden and harmful to women. Wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 11:50 AM |
| 0 | I set the boundary…FDS is a community, not a cult. Yes I’ve read the handbook, and yes I agree that pornography is VERY, VERY BAD. That is why I asked my husband to stop watching it, which he did. Life is nuanced, can I not share my experience without people interpreting it as a personal threat? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 11:42 AM |
| -1 | I set the boundary…Ok! I’m just sharing my experience, I’m not telling you what to do or what other people should tolerate. The world is how it is, not how we would want it to be. Given pretty much all men watch porn (and the ones who say they don’t are lying), I thought it might be helpful to share how I eliminated the issue in a respectful long term relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 11:32 AM |
| -1 | I set the boundary…I hear ya. But the reality is, in our porn sick era, porn has most likely affected every single sexual encounter you’ve ever had, without you even realising it. People have different boundaries and priorities, and no one should forgive or tolerate something that is a dealbreaker for them. For me, my most important boundary is honesty, and from my perspective, my story with my partner says less about him as a person, and more about how difficult it is even for a casual and infrequent porn watcher… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Bangmaids in fiction: Sally Rooney’s new novel, “Beautiful World, Where are You”I hate Sally Rooney. Her characters are ridiculous, I don’t get what all the fuss is about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:03 PM |
| 36 | We are taught that dating and life in general is easier for conventionally attractive women. I think they have it worse.This is 100% true. My best friend is beautiful (as well as lovely) and she’s a magnet for abusive, narcissistic, awful men. It’s like they know they don’t deserve her so they try to lower her confidence as much as possible to stop her leaving. No wonder beautiful women have to develop bitchy facades, if they don’t they get dragged through the dirt like my friend. I was also once in a four or five year situationship with an ugly but smart and interesting guy who spent the entire time emotionally … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 11:22 AM |
| 8 | Women growing out their body hair IS an act of bravery in western society, insensitive fucktard“Lol growing out your body hair isn’t brave” - Dude 1 “Eww did you see that girl with the hairy armpits? That’s fucking disgusting, feel sorry for whoever’s sleeping with THAT” - also Dude 1 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 11:35 PM |
| 1 | “One third of hookups ends up in marriage.”Exactly this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 11:31 PM |
| 2 | A Man and Sexual Harassment (?), + I'm not crazy right?Um…a guy who is considering getting a tattoo ON HIS PENIS called you childish. Sounds like a classic case of projection to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 11:21 PM |
| 5 | Men Who live With Parents or RoommatesIMO, roommates are totally different from parents (assuming you mean they share an apartment, not literally a room). I live in a big cosmopolitan city, and it’s the norm - house prices are ridiculous and impossible, and cities can be lonely - it makes sense to buddy up, share a place and get way more for your money. Living with other people teaches you respect, how to maintain a communal space, how to be considerate of others…or at least it can. Look at the place they live in - is it a trashed b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 11:12 PM |
| 1 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenMe and my husband use the pull out method, and have successfully for almost 8 years. Every single one of his orgasms is a tiny exercise in self sacrifice and self restraint 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Are beauty pageants empowering or are they a pick-me tournament?Celebrating girls for their looks is never empowering, it is literally the patriarchy propagating itself and rewarding pickme’s for helping them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 11:00 PM |
| 2 | Making more than your SOMy husband loves his job, works really hard at it, does something that actively helps people, and though we earn the same amount of money now, I’ll probably overtake him at some point. Being a HVM isn’t about money - in my experience, a disproportionate amount of rich guys are narcissistic, entitled, shallow assholes. Of course, women have different goals and different needs - for example, if you want to be a SAHM, your partners income is going to be much more important to you, and there’s nothi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?I just got married and I absolutely did not. I can’t understand why anyone would. There are women out there calling themselves feminists and then blithely changing their LITERAL NAME they’ve had all their lives for a man. Totally inexplicable to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:33 PM |
| 4 | Misogynyic ads from "awkward essentials" implying women are responsible for cleanup and only the man has pleasureI Googled it and this is disgusting. Capitalism will never tire of shaming women into purchasing tout by creating “solutions” to perfectly natural “problems”. What’s next, tiny eye hoovers to vacuum up our tears? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:16 PM |
| 146 | FDSers who are married to or dating HVM, what brought you here?I’m FDS because it’s the first community I’ve come across that reflects certain radical feminist principles and puts women first. It has so many useful perspectives and reading other women’s stories helps me understand my younger self better, reminds me why I need to continue to stand with women rather than bow to the societal pressure to be a pick-me and helps to keep me on the straight and narrow when it comes to applying FDS to my own life, whether in my relationship or friendships. FDS is mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 11:12 PM |
| 35 | The "Rising Threat" of Incels - Daily MailJust want to point out that the Mail isn’t unique in covering this story, the Guardian has done extensive coverage of it already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 12:07 AM |
| 37 | Childfree women, have you been able to find HVM partners?Yes, I am childfree and I’m marrying mine in a couple of weeks. I met my fiancé at a warehouse party, so through a common interest/being part of the same scene. I will say though - he wasn’t “childfree” as such when I met him, more indifferent to parenthood, and though he’s fully confident and happy never to have children, he wouldn’t self-identify as being part of the childfree tribe now either. More, he recognised that the decision was mine to make and it is one that he’s respected and embrace… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 10:24 PM |
| 5 | “…he’s choked me unconscious before. I didn’t really mind…” UM WHAT.Great to hear, thank you for updating! Hope she listens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 07:16 PM |
| 27 | “…he’s choked me unconscious before. I didn’t really mind…” UM WHAT.Thanks for sharing OP, are you able to link to the original post or, if that’s against FDS rules, provide a summary of the kinds of responses this woman is getting? I feel extremely concerned for her and would be reassured to hear whether she’s getting the kind of feedback she needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 08:40 AM |
| 4 | The “In capitalism, we all sale our bodies anyway” argumentIf having sex with someone you didn’t want to wasn’t traumatising, rape wouldn’t be one of the most devastating and dehumanising things that can happen to a person. Sex work is scarring and traumatising and many women don’t realise how much it’s damaged them for many years after they’re out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 09:53 PM |
| 9 | My fiancé NEVER tells me he loves me but he pulls the car around so our toddler doesn't have to run in the pouring rain and that's love 🤡😂 wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:33 AM |
| 9 | "In my head, girls are clean"😒Did I say he’s ‘mentally retarded’ or make excuses for him though 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 02:29 PM |
| 65 | "In my head, girls are clean"😒I dunno about this, think you’re giving scrotes too much credit tbh. Most guys aren’t masterminds exercising ingenious control strategies, more likely this guy was a deluded pornsick virgin weirdo who couldn’t handle the idea of a vagina being used for anything other than hardcore sex. I heard enough conversations with male “friends” when I was younger about how repulsive a single female body hair anywhere except the head was to them to know that accepting the reality of women as physical human … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:28 PM |
| 511 | "In my head, girls are clean"😒On the plus side, if he tries anything OP can just fend him off by telling him she needs a shit 🤣 shame all men aren’t this easy to dissuade. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 08:17 AM |
| 33 | Four Statistics on Living Together Before MarriageThe problem with this is, it’s psychologically more difficult to break off an engagement than a regular relationship. If you move in after the wedding date has been set, and then find out your partner isn’t what you thought, you’ve already put deposits on everything, told all your friends and family, everyone is planning their wedding outfits and yeah, the whole wedding machine has kicked in at full force. So much more humiliating and complicated to duck out at that stage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 12:37 PM |
| 15 | Absolutely vile and disgusting that this is being sold as 'normal' and 'empowering' by a mainstream news publicationCan’t even bring myself to read this. I feel trapped between progressive media that spews this kind of nonsense, and right wing media I’d rather tear my own eyes out than look at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 11:17 PM |
| 6 | Translation: “I have no plans for my future but I will abide to yours until I find the next best thing”HOW DO THEY TOLERATE THE SEX?! I’m 31 and 45 year old men repulse me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 01:18 PM |
| 27 | "6. It Doesn't Make Him Deviant" 🙄Men jump through hoops to justify why porn is “harmless” because they want to keep watching it - just like alcoholics who underestimate the amount they drink, or smokers who swear down they only smoke a couple a day. And then women like the one who wrote this article choose to believe them because they don’t want to leave them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 12:58 PM |
| 63 | "6. It Doesn't Make Him Deviant" 🙄What the actual fuck is this shit? Porn causes widespread erectile dysfunction, escalatory sexual deviance and horrific body image issues - just look at the rise of young women getting huge fake lips and asses to try to compete with porn. Oh I guess Cosmo calls that “empowering” because they take advertising money from cosmetic surgeons. I cant believe a magazine that’s supposed to support women is propagating this kind of shit - presumably in the name of “sex positivity”. Irresponsible to the p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 12:45 PM |
| 8 | I know most of us know the pitfalls of pursuing age gap relationship, but would you pursue a friendship with someone in an age gap relationship?Tbh, I would not. I wouldn’t end an existing friendship over it (although I’d do what I could to dissuade her) but it would make me too uncomfortable to be around/hear about for me to want to pursue a friendship with someone living this kind of lifestyle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Once that honeymoon phase wonders off, she will (hopefully) see things differently.Jfc. I’ve never been so relieved to be in my thirties 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 04:45 PM |
| 5 | Once that honeymoon phase wonders off, she will (hopefully) see things differently.Yeah I feel ya - for me it’s the ‘he’s so romantic! In the middle of rough sex…’ that makes this feel fake, just feels like the mention of rough sex has deliberately been contrasted with the ‘he’s so romantic’ bit to be like, lol, stupid women! And that makes it feel like it’s a troll post. You’re right that enough girls fall into this trap that it doesn’t really matter if this individual post is real or not though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:15 PM |
| 3 | Once that honeymoon phase wonders off, she will (hopefully) see things differently.It’s not that I don’t believe these relationships exist (they def do), just that this specific one reads like it’s fake. Teenage girls don’t write like that, still think this is a LARP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:08 PM |
| 4 | Once that honeymoon phase wonders off, she will (hopefully) see things differently.This is clearly fake - probably a red pill/MGTOW fantasy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:05 PM |
| 33 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meHis girlfriend sounds great. What is she doing with this envious troll? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 12:26 PM |
| 16 | The show Sex/Life is full of societal misconceptionsYep, already seen this on MGTOW2. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 09:50 AM |
| 1 | For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok)Just doing my bit to atone for having had to propagate some of those lies myself early on in my career in order to pay rent 🤮 if you do ultimately decide to get Botox, try and wait till you’re more like 50 which is when it’ll most benefit you. In the meantime, sunscreen, skincare and self-love! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 12:18 PM |
| 1 | For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok)I’ll check her posts out, thanks for pointing me in the right direction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 09:47 AM |
| 2 | For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok)You’re right, I apologise. I would really like to see women and feminism in general embrace ageing and understand that wrinkles do not make you less beautiful any more than they make men less beautiful, I hate that double societal standard and that these injections are positioned as “empowering” for women by ad companies, judging and shaming women for that was not the right way of making that point. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 09:11 AM |
| 3 | For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok)Very good point - it’s a hot button issue for me and I made a blanket statement without thinking. Thank you for correcting me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 09:06 AM |
| 5 | For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok)You also make some good points - advertising is a massive contributor to this issue, as is how much time we spend seeing ourselves in HD photos etc and noticing tiny flaws. Part of the reason I feel so strongly about aesthetic injections is because I worked at an ad agency that had a few clinics on their books, I had to work on their campaigns and the industry is predatory and unregulated AF. I saw these clinics target women in their early twenties with total lies (I had to read the medical lite… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 09:04 AM |
| 11 | For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok)I hear you and we’re all human. But honestly, there are two reasons for getting Botox - 1) to preserve your youthful looks because that is what men find attractive and 2) because you’re afraid of the reality of ageing. In both situations, Botox isn’t going to fix the real problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 10:35 PM |
| 21 | For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok)You can’t get more pick-me than cosmetic surgery. Why you glamourising people pouring their money into their face to look young for the patriarchy on an FDS thread. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 09:39 PM |
| 23 | If you say "I pay for my own dinner so that I don't owe the man anything" then you are admitting that you believe women are obligated to sleep with a man if he spends money on her.I’m new to FDS so perhaps still at the start of my journey, but honestly, this is the one FDS principle I’m still struggling with - at least as a blanket rule. I’m not dating right now but when I was, I definitely never thought men were entitled to sex because of paying, or gave a shit if they thought they were - I more thought of it in terms of fairness, and money as power and a way of showing interest. So if I went on a date with a guy I really liked, and we were earning roughly the same amoun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 06:41 AM |
| 1 | “But ugly guys will treat you better and they won’t cheat on you!” No. Countering scrote propaganda:This is absolute gospel and should be spoken about more. I was really nice to ugly/LVM men when I was younger and it resulted in opportunistic sexual assault on multiple occasions. I also dated one and he tried to cheat as soon as he thought he had a chance. Ugly men aren’t kinder and don’t treat you better. In my experience, they are a lot worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 10:02 PM |
| 1 | I struggle inside not to hate women. (i don't want it and i should be better than that)Hey man, I’m a woman reading this thread and I wanted to chip in and empathise with your position. The reason I’m here is because I believe that men’s rights and women’s rights should go hand in hand - every problem either side complains about is experienced equally but opposite by the other gender IMO. Women are expected to do intensely tedious jobs like child rearing, men are expected to work themselves to the bone. Women are called irrational and emotional, men are expected to stay quiet and … | /r/MGTOW2 | 25/04/21 12:11 PM |
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