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8	How do I not internalize "all men are trash" content online? Yes. Both extreme “feminist” content and extreme red pill content float to the top of feeds because it’s what drives engagement and emotional reactions.	/r/ExRedPill	17/06/24 07:43 PM
7	Decoupling sex and intimacy They are not conflicting drives. Sex is naturally a very intimate act. And in the context of a healthy relationship, it’s part of how intimacy is built. Separating them turns into Madonna-whore complex. The problem is seeing sex as just a physical act of a penis going into another person. Sexual intimacy is about connection and includes things like affection, non-genital touching, and tracking what a partner likes so we can do things that person enjoys, rather than just getting ourselves off. It…	/r/ExRedPill	26/05/24 03:57 PM
9	Suddenly feeling empty about my partner after leaving TRP. That's what I was thinking. You brain is used to getting shots of emotionally-arousing juice straight into the vein. You suddenly quit that. Compared to TRP rage, porn, and the initial thrill of romance, simple day to day stuff feels empty and not exciting. Time, good diet, exercise, the outdoors, and staying social should also help.	/r/ExRedPill	29/04/24 11:17 PM
3	I haven't seen any proof that physical attraction is subjective in any meaningful way It is absolutely possible for someone to be attracted to BOTH the 6'0 and 5'5 man. It is possible and common to be attracted to BOTH conventionally hot people and not-so-hot people. I think Ryan Gosling is handsome, but I also think being really unique and good at one's craft is attractive, and I'd fuck Paul Dano or Phillip Seymore Hoffman (when alive) in a minute, especially if I can spend a few hours before and after having some deep conversations. Attraction isn't always either/or. It is wide…	/r/ExRedPill	27/04/24 07:51 PM
92	I keep seeing the sentiment on this subreddit that "women are taught they have inherent value, men are taught they must earn their value." This is bullshit. I think often because men find women desirable, they confuse the value they are assigning on their own to women with the value women are taught they have. We are not necessarily taught we have value beyond our looks, youth, and fertility… which paradoxically is also a common red pill trope, so the ideas are contradictory out the gate. I was given very strong messages that without a thin body AND academic and financial success, I was not worth anything. I also have had a long road trying to accep…	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/24 05:22 PM
4	Ugly = Creepy Get away with, meaning… people will let it slide if a hot guy does gross things? I think it would be worthwhile to think about why you want to be able to “get away with” doing stuff to women they do not appreciate. Friendliness and courtesy are likely to get a positive response no matter what you look like.	/r/ExRedPill	04/04/24 05:26 PM
8	Women like me now This guy sounds like he's 14. "I listen to women" but then I discount what they say because it takes the observing eye of an uninformed, inexperienced man to figure women out.	/r/ExRedPill	27/02/24 10:43 PM
3	I'm beginng, how do you get girls to like you? Aside from the valuable advice already typed here, I’ll tell you something else: stop looking for the magic bullet. Stop looking for that one magic nugget of advice that will make you more attractive to people. Attracting others and finding relationships is a slow process of trying and failing until you get success. There will be awkwardness. There will be people you want to date who aren’t into you. There will be rejection, and slowly getting to know people only to find out you don’t match well…	/r/ExRedPill	29/01/24 06:10 PM
3	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off This may blow your mind so you may want to sit down… But people are attracted to a wide variety of things. People you find unattractive may very well be attractive to the next person. People can also attracted to both conventionally good looking people AND ones less conventionally attractive. Don’t project your own preferences on the rest of the population.	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/24 09:34 PM
2	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off If it makes it any simpler: the more I care for someone and they care for me, the more that caring enhances my physical attraction to them. Their face and body are a physical form representing all the love and caring they give me. That makes me excited to connect with that body. That makes me more excited about their face and body than any “hot” stranger. If you’re looking for an excuse immediately as to why this doesn’t “count” as real attraction, check yourself. We are telling you how attracti…	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/24 09:28 PM
5	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off When a woman is telling you it’s attraction and your interpretation is that it’s really convenience, you are not really listening, and you are using your own emotional reaction, which comes from your own baggage, to decide what’s really true. It’s dismissing and unhealthy. I do not pick partners based on how good of a roommate they’d be. I pick them based on a holistic picture of who they are as people. And being attracted to them is a must. But what stokes my attraction isn’t just physical, and…	/r/ExRedPill	27/01/24 07:39 PM
11	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off It is entirely possible to be attracted to someone the rest of the world finds unattractive. Did you have a sense she didn’t find him attractive? Or did she name his physical attributes for the purpose of illustrating that these exterior qualities had no impact on her attraction, because that’s what the other commenters were focusing on? Again, there’s an assumption of settling on her end, but I think she was very much trying to communicate that to her, this is a high value man she was happy to …	/r/ExRedPill	27/01/24 07:32 PM
2	I'm failing to see how the idea of AF/BB and the 80/20 rule aren't real Yeah and somehow when women do it it’s AF/BB. When men do it it’s just… being men I guess?	/r/ExRedPill	14/01/24 07:42 PM
5	Is escortmaxxing a good way to deal with emotional pain, have fun, and be adventurous in life whenever I’m feeling lonely, will it ruin my chances of finding a long term relationship, and will bragging about it on social media make the women who know me jealous? I’ve had a few friends who did sex work and a significant number of male clients were really lonely and wound up emotionally dumping on them. It was awkward and weird. You need therapy, not an escort. Or at the very least start working on building up your social skills with women. Healthy, adult romantic relationships are the way to heal loneliness and find fulfillment. That takes a lot of time, work, and often times rejection and difficult experiences along the way. Those are a necessary part o…	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/24 06:15 PM
3	Are there options for my affectionless and sexless marriage besides divorce or living with it? It sounds like she's got deeper stuff going on that she is unwilling or unable to discuss with you. That doesn't make her a bad person, but it's having a huge impact on you and your marriage. You obviously need affection, love, and physical intimacy in a relationship. Most of us do! If this relationship isn't meeting your needs, you have a right to decide you can't stay in it anymore. I can't tell if you two actually made it to couples' therapy and it didn't work, or if she shot it down. I love …	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/23 08:35 PM
2	Why are specifically male suicide rates so high ? lol feminists banned male gatherings? Who is this mysterious powerful cabal of feminist overlords? What laws exist to keep my dad from going to poker night with his buddies?	/r/ExRedPill	20/12/23 08:06 AM
2	Should I break up with my boyfriend when I turn 30 because he believes in the wall? Some people are jerks. People hurt each other and leave each other a lot, but it’s not a certainty. And often it’s not for a younger woman at all. Women looks absolutely beautiful in their 30s, 40s, and beyond. Most people find their attraction aging with them. I am 40 now and I am super into people 30-50. People in their 20s feel way too young for me, and that’s also true for most of my friends.	/r/ExRedPill	13/12/23 08:42 PM
16	How do I let go of hateful thoughts I have towards women that started when I learned about red pill content? Ever thought about how many different kinds of weird and gross foods have been in a person's mouth over their lifetime? And yet, we don't think of people's mouths as dirty if they've had a lot of different food items, flavors, textures, etc in there. When our mouth is empty and teeth brushed, we see it as clean, right? It's just a mouth, full of its normal regular juices, not permanently changed by all the food periodically entering it. So why would a woman's reproductive parts be tainted if the…	/r/ExRedPill	29/11/23 12:23 AM
1	Severe anxiety/depression running out of options for treatment. Suggestions? BetterHelp is like the WalMart of therapy. Their pay is crap so they tend to attract people who are either inexperienced or otherwise not doing well as therapists. You really need to look for a therapist for a long-term engagement who specializes in things like social anxiety and depression (which are very common, so many do.) You can find them on Psychology Today, your insurance's website, or google. You could also look into support/therapy groups for men or people who have social anxiety. Ther…	/r/ExRedPill	10/05/23 01:15 AM
1	I bought into the 'male promiscuity is good' lie and it burned me I get cold sores which is oral HSV1, and once I started noticing how differently people reacted to being told that VS people's reactions to the SAME EXACT virus being on someone's genitals, it just started driving me crazy. It's entirely about how judgmental we are about anything having to do with sex. I take valacyclovir if I feel my lips tingling and it's truly a miracle drug in preventing outbreaks or cutting them short.	/r/ExRedPill	18/04/23 07:57 PM
14	I bought into the 'male promiscuity is good' lie and it burned me Even people who find someone special and remain monogamous can wind up with HSV or other STIs if their partner has been with other folks and is unaware of their status, or cheats, or is sexually assaulted. You can’t judge yourself as some kind of bad person for catching herpes. STIs aren’t a punishment for “bad” behavior - that’s a seriously unhealthy, outdated, moralizing way to look at human sexuality. You could have found “the one” and still caught an STI, we don’t have a crystal ball and you…	/r/ExRedPill	16/04/23 11:25 PM
9	I legitimately hate men now and am heartbroken You say you hate men, but I hear what you really hate is the situation you are in and your experiences. They sound painful and traumatic. If all men disappeared tomorrow, that pain would still be there, the experiences would still be eating at you. I’m not trying to invalidate you - I know how toxic and harmful our experiences under patriarchy are. I understand the anger and revenge fantasies. Right now that idea feels empowering when you are in a profoundly disempowered place. But I also think …	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/23 12:40 AM
18	Why are people so scared of being single? We are primates. We evolved to live in social groups. We also have an evolutionarily-programmed desire to connect to romantic partners called attachment. Since humans are pretty darn helpless through most of pregnancy, childbirth, soon after, and from infancy to adolescence, evolution had to create a way for us to be motivated to bond and take care of each other. Attachment and a strong desire to partner is this mechanism. The US and many industrialized “Western” nations value independence and a…	/r/ExRedPill	20/02/23 11:10 PM
14	(21m) Do I need to self improve? You need to improve your mindset around women and get off the porn. Women are human beings. They are not objects to use for sexual gratification. Honestly this might be "go see a therapist" territory. You will find it very difficult to create the sense of safety and trust for women to want to date or have sex with you if this is the vibe you give off.	/r/ExRedPill	15/02/23 07:23 AM
29	Is it true that on average women have less dating options once they are over 30 while men have more dating options as they gain wealth and status?? To me, a higher quality man isn’t going to drop interest in me to chase a college girl. I have no interest in someone like that and I’d be glad they showed me their true colors.	/r/ExRedPill	31/01/23 05:33 PM
33	Is it true that on average women have less dating options once they are over 30 while men have more dating options as they gain wealth and status?? I have noticed that going over 35 seriously decreased the amount of street harassment, creepy unwanted behavior in bars/clubs, sexually explicit messages on dating apps, etc. OK Cupid had these stats years ago on their blog how the majority of men of all ages are shotgunning messages to 19-21 year old women. So those guys? Yeah, you will get less of them. Here is me throwing a party to celebrate it. As far as actual serious dating options with worthwhile people? Still there. So yes the supply mi…	/r/ExRedPill	31/01/23 05:30 PM
5	A lot of red pilled dudes seem to think women are into bad guys, but they also forget if you're an average or ugly looking, fat neckbearded dude using asshole behavior to compensate for in the looks department, that will be just as off turning as being a shy timid nice guy A person who is polite and presentable but a bit timid is way preferable to someone who is a jerk. I don’t care what someone looks like, if they’re mean and rude, I won’t give them the time of day.	/r/ExRedPill	07/01/23 05:27 PM
18	I (20M) can't stop thinking of women in a negative light Women can sense desperation and resentment from a mile away. Your attitude is highly toxic, so I’m glad you recognize it, because it is probably coming through and putting women off. If you can get any sort of therapy for the resentment, I’d recommend that. But I think more important is getting more experience interacting with women without the goal of a date in mind. You are still very young, so try to keep a perspective that you have another good 60 years ahead of you. Spend 6 months with a go…	/r/ExRedPill	27/12/22 07:51 AM
1	Height preferences I’m two inches taller than my husband. Couldn’t care less.	/r/ExRedPill	15/12/22 11:56 PM
2	I don't know how people can recommend dating apps for men Thanks for the links. This was a great bit of data to note, esp in this sub: "Christian Rudder, a co-founder of OkCupid (one of the less appearance-centric dating services, in that it encourages detailed written profiles), reported in 2009 that the male users who were rated most physically attractive by female users got 11 times as many messages as the lowest-rated men did; medium-rated men received about four times as many messages. The disparity was starker for women: About two-thirds of messa…	/r/ExRedPill	01/12/22 08:27 PM
1	Redpillers constantly say that women are "attracted to guys that are willing to walk away." RP absolutely encourages it, it's a specific tactic I have seen mentioned. I think it may be called dread game or something, but it's alternating hot and cold and making a woman think the dude may be losing interest so she chases harder. And yeah that's manipulative.	/r/ExRedPill	30/11/22 03:22 AM
5	Redpillers constantly say that women are "attracted to guys that are willing to walk away." There are a couple different ways to take this. One is that people tend to like someone who gives off a very independent vibe, like they don’t need but choose to be in a relationship. The US especially is a very individualist society and we tend to find that vibe appealing. It can certainly give off an appearance, accurate or not, that the person has their stuff together. But another way to interpret it is that there’s a way to manipulate people, which RP encourages, wherein a person drops hints…	/r/ExRedPill	26/11/22 11:17 PM
16	How the fuck do TRPers spin plates? You have actual human feelings, like guilt for feeling like you led someone on and attachment to partners you spend time with and have sex with. Lots of these guys are emotionally repressed and stunted. They don’t feel affection or guilt. They talk about women falling for them without reciprocation as a point of pride. That’s how. It’s nothing to be proud of or emulate.	/r/ExRedPill	29/07/22 12:09 PM
2	Can people not just admit they have no luck when it comes to dating You said she wasn’t interested and that you “failed” in the same sentence. But that’s contradictory. If a woman isn’t into you, there is no level of suave flirtation that can undo that. It doesn’t really say anything about your skills. Second, you were doing this bc your friend pressures you into. Things we are pressured into are rarely fun and we tend to not come off as relaxed and natural. Which kills effective flirtatiousness. Don’t give into pressure if you really aren’t into doing this. Bot…	/r/ExRedPill	28/07/22 07:04 AM
1	Where can I go in real life to prove my life experiences with women wrong? Every comment you make arguing against the advice given here just underscores the point: your attitude sucks. People can sense the chip on your shoulder. You’re mad women won’t look at or talk to you. Guess what, women don’t look at or talk to 95% of strangers they run across. We are generally trying to avoid unwanted attention from strangers. What you need to learn is that it’s not about you. It’s not because you’re ugly or have RBF or whatever. They’re treating you the same way as 99% of every…	/r/ExRedPill	27/07/22 08:20 PM
10	Where can I go in real life to prove my life experiences with women wrong? Every comment you make arguing against the advice given here just underscores the point: your attitude sucks. People can sense the chip on your shoulder. You’re mad women won’t look at or talk to you. Guess what, women don’t look at or talk to 95% of strangers they run across. We are generally trying to avoid unwanted attention from strangers. What you need to learn is that it’s not about you. It’s not because you’re ugly or have RBF or whatever. They’re treating you the same way as 99% of every…	/r/ExRedPill	27/07/22 08:20 PM
36	Rich COOPER DESTROYED MY MARRIAGE. I HATE HIM AND I HATE ALPHA MALES/RED PILL Oh honey. </3 This breaks my heart. This is not your fault. You don’t deserve this. You deserve love, respect, and to have your needs met. Remember - this is not about you, AT ALL. It is entirely a reflection of who your husband is. It doesn’t matter if you’re a feminist or traditional or anything else - people deserve to be treated well by their loved ones. You should be waking up knowing no matter what happens, your partner has your back and you are in this together. I’m so glad you have a fri…	/r/ExRedPill	26/07/22 07:41 AM
3	Dating Coaches…? A “coach” is a fake title anyone can claim. There’s no certification or exam or degree. It’s the poor man’s licensed psychologist.	/r/ExRedPill	04/07/22 02:51 PM
19	Why redpill’s whole idea about men being attractive to younger women because they’re “fertile”is bullshit… Not to defend actual gross people, but there’s a biological phenomenon called nonconcordant arousal, which means a physiological reaction that is functionally like being turned on, but is missing the actual mental turned-on part. You can read more about it in Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. The body can seem turned on when nothing sexual is happening in the mind of the person.	/r/ExRedPill	01/07/22 12:23 AM
1	More Self Compassion Wonderful post, thank you.	/r/ExRedPill	24/06/22 07:33 PM
10	trp doesnt understand physical attraction,so they give men bad advices They also don’t understand that many people (men and women) have a range of people they find attractive. Many of us are attracted to conventionally pretty people (although I would agree huge muscles are not attractive to me) but we also become attracted to perfectly average, ordinary people. I tend to find men repulsive if they have a nasty personality, no matter how handsome they are. And I can become attracted to someone unremarkable-looking I meet whose personality, values, voice, and way of …	/r/ExRedPill	04/06/22 06:14 PM
10	Walter Weekes of Fresh&Fit on Sugar Daddy Website Seeking is a dating website for people who want a sugar Daddy/baby. He just has a profile on it. It’s like any other dating site. They used the Ukrainian flag colors to show support for Ukraine I guess; he didn’t put it there.	/r/ExRedPill	30/05/22 04:09 AM
11	Insecurity of girl leaving for a "bigger" dude Who is “a lot”? Where are you going to collect data on that penis size women want? 7.5-8 is on the larger side anyway. Women are all different. We are built differently, we value different things. There’s no way to make a blanket statement like “it’s all about big dick” or “it’s all about personality.” It’s always a combination of a whole bunch of different things. But I can tell you I’ve NEVER heard any woman say, “I loved him, he was great and we matched so well and the sex was fun but then th…	/r/ExRedPill	29/05/22 05:35 PM
3	What do you think of guys who believe girls are turned on by creepiness and aggression like randomly choking, rape or forcing make out(RSDTyler/Julien fans)? They do not think of women as human beings in the same way that they are. We are toys or props in their own sadistic fantasies. They are garbage.	/r/ExRedPill	29/05/22 04:51 PM
6	What do you think of guys who believe girls are turned on by creepiness and aggression like randomly choking, rape or forcing make out(RSDTyler/Julien fans)? No woman can truly consent to sex with a man? What? We have agency. Many of us love having sex. Many of us love having power exchange sex. It just has to be talked about and boundaries need to be negotiated. It’s sad that so many women participate in sex as a performative act, and there’s a lot about culture that needs to change, but that doesn’t mean we cannot consent to sex. That’s utterly infantilizing.	/r/ExRedPill	29/05/22 04:50 PM
2	How can I stop feeling resentment and jealousy towards women? The fact that you are aware of it and working on it already puts you way ahead of the pack and I commend it so much. Thanks for putting in this effort.	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/22 04:28 PM
3	How can I stop feeling resentment and jealousy towards women? Doesn’t that mean those women are just lucky too?	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/22 06:04 AM
14	How can I stop feeling resentment and jealousy towards women? Women want this too, and most of us also struggle to find it, our struggle is just a little different bc rather than being unable to attract any attention at all, we struggle to attract attention from men who respect us and treat us like human beings instead of commodities, and who share our values. Getting 1000 dick pics or guys who do everything they can to get in our pants and then bounce isn’t better than getting nothing, it’s just different in its awfulness. It also makes us feel alienated …	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/22 06:02 AM
23	So, what's worse, having no value, no attention from women, or being desired, but for shallow reasons? If women set up a space to talk about a problem they face as women, and the purpose of that space is just for that, then it feels rude and intrusive for someone who’s not a part of the group and who doesn’t even share the physical characteristic discussed, to intrude and start taking about their issue. It would be fine in a general body image forum, but the example you have was a space created specifically for a certain purpose. This also follows a certain experience we women have with men somet…	/r/ExRedPill	26/05/22 04:02 PM
17	Boyfriend has gotten into Fresh and Fit the past year... can this be undone? I found the man of my dreams at 30, married at 34. 30s are a fantastic time for us women - careers are going, we know who we are and what we want. Don’t waste that on someone who will suck up your energy and only return disrespect.	/r/ExRedPill	23/05/22 06:22 PM
15	Men are willing to take the "redpill's harsh truths", but refuse to accept any other truths that counteract it. Why? That’s another red pill myth: that before 30 are a woman’s “best years”. As to the other part: go to a college campus or mall or somewhere where a large population of people in their 20s congregate, and look around. You will also see a wide variety of couples.	/r/ExRedPill	21/05/22 11:53 PM
3	I have trouble accepting a womans sexual past It sounds like you feel you don’t deserve monogamy, but you deserve to have whatever relationship style you need to be happy. If you feel monogamy is the right relationship style for you, then express that to her. If she agrees, then that is the relationship model you will have. Anticipating what she will want years down the line to try and steel yourself for it is not a good use of your time. You have to trust that if she says she wants to be in a monogamous relationship with you, that it’s tru…	/r/ExRedPill	18/05/22 04:57 AM
34	Is porn actually that bad? If you periodically masturbate, you’re fine. Even masturbating daily, it’s normal and natural. The porn is the issue, for all the reasons laid out by a previous commenter. Try wanking without porn.	/r/ExRedPill	17/05/22 03:56 PM
2	Would there be fewer incels if society was more honest? Therapy was absolutely not invented for dealing with the problems of rich men's wives, what. Counseling has many, many applications, from helping people with day to day stressors, the kinds of issues brought up on this sub all the time, loss and grief, trauma, eating disorders, addiction, other pathologies, post-traumatic stress disorder.... That is a hell of a reductionist view of psychology. Therapy has the potential to help anyone and everyone, but it requires a view of it as helpful and the …	/r/ExRedPill	15/05/22 08:24 PM
10	Befriending women has made me less misogynistic but more red/blackpilled. Your post makes it sound like you believe your female friends are intentionally going after these guys because they have a high body count, but somehow I doubt that’s true. You overheard one small bit of conversation about some of your friends’ exes, and from that you extrapolated that women go after chiseled Chads best of the best who all have a high body count (presuming these guys weren’t lying to their gfs.) How much of this is supported by reality, and how much is you deciding that’s what m…	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/22 03:20 PM
18	Do women really trade sex for money, security, and safety? Where did you get “a lot of times”? I have sex because I enjoy it and feel attraction and affection for my partners. Same as all my female friends.	/r/ExRedPill	06/05/22 03:56 AM
5	Stop looking up "research, studies and statistics" Tbf, going entirely on anecdote, using three people in your life to extrapolate to the entire global population, and layering your biases on what you see to draw the incorrect conclusion, isn’t good either. Some reading on psychology and sociology can be beneficial if it’s from reputable sources, like licensed mental health professionals and clinical researchers. But I would recommend books.	/r/ExRedPill	22/04/22 03:39 PM
7	I have unhealthy thoughts about women Lol my first bf was 6'5 with like a 9" penis and a handsome face but he could not satisfy me in bed or emotionally for crap. Which is why I left. I enjoy my 5'5 husband very much.	/r/ExRedPill	19/04/22 06:20 PM
9	I have unhealthy thoughts about women Big dicks get all the hype in part because that's what MEN think women prioritize. But like, how often do women get boyfriends entirely bc they have big boobs? Sure it happens but it's not how 99% of people find a partner, and it does nothing to keep a relationship long term. Read REAL BOOKS on dating and relationships from actual psychologists like Gottman, not trash posted by random reddit users. Maybe some anatomy education would be helpful, bc every woman, while varying to a degree, has a li…	/r/ExRedPill	19/04/22 06:18 PM
4	I have unhealthy thoughts about women As they say, if you're not doing the weird ass and creepy stuff mentioned, then they're not talking about you. And OP did say he specifically wanted anecdata that dating is also horrible for women (which I think is not really productive, but if he wants that, there's tons of it out there...) Mostly what's useful is seeing regular every day women post about regular every day stuff, seeing how different women react to it, etc. Don't assume anyone posting anything to the forum is always right - wom…	/r/ExRedPill	19/04/22 06:10 PM
22	I have unhealthy thoughts about women Holy assumptions Batman. You are drawing a lot of conclusions based on random stuff you read online (which I can safely assume is not sociological research but random online postings and rants by every day people?), your one friend and the one guy she started dating, and all sorts of ideas you have about what women’s experience is like. You assume most women like dark features or Black men (lol no - there is no universal preference ALL women have, and y’all need to stop building up Black men int…	/r/ExRedPill	19/04/22 03:24 PM
5	How does female attraction work, or rather how does a man become attractive? Dude lots of women are single for 5+ years too. I didn't get my first bf until I was 21 and then my next actual serious boyfriend at age 30. It's hard to find compatible people, and it's going to be next to impossible when we women can smell this kind of defeatist, desperate, resentful attitude on a dude from a mile away. It takes working on yourself and finding security with who you are, plus luck and perseverance.	/r/ExRedPill	14/04/22 01:21 AM
1	If you're ugly do you really have to make up for it with wealth, success, and personality? Good advice.	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/22 02:04 AM
5	I like who I am but it feels like women can't People in general are more instantly attracted to fun outgoing people. That’s natural. Being quieter and more reserved means it’s harder for people to get to know the real you. But that doesn’t mean women won’t like you, it’s just a little harder to communicate who you are right off the bat and make a connection. So instead of trying to do that at a big party or club, you’d be more successful in a quieter small group or one on one setting. Lots and lots of people are on the quieter side. And thi…	/r/ExRedPill	05/03/22 04:45 PM
5	I think about going back to blackpill because I'm circumcised. That’s wild bc it’s uncircumcised penises that I’ve heard women having issues with, not the other way around. But the majority of us don’t care at all?? Why do you think that’s anywhere near the top of a woman’s concerns with a potential partner? Literally never think about it.	/r/ExRedPill	14/01/22 04:56 PM
14	Older women and dating Hahaha no. It will depend on your location and the type of relationships you are looking for. But as I near 39, I am having more fun than I did in my 20s, with men over 10 years older or younger. My bf is actually 10 years younger than me.	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/21 04:45 PM
2	If red pill is not the answer what is? Fantastic advice.	/r/ExRedPill	10/12/21 03:53 PM
1	If red pill is not the answer what is? You feel you are worthless and undeserving and you are attaching yourself to people who don’t respect you and treat you like crap bc you believe you won’t find better. You stayed with these people way too long. And while they were obv shitty, people can usually tell when someone doesn’t respect or like themselves and they are more likely to treat that person poorly. I say a lot of this from experiences (and I’m a woman btw.) People who are kind, confident, and considerate tend to be attracted to…	/r/ExRedPill	10/12/21 03:51 PM
9	Girlfriend broke up with me. Randomly ghosts me for a week then sends me this. Says she still wants to be friends. Did she find someone hotter and is just keeping me on the backburner or is this real. You’re making up a story about this guy and how he’s so tall and somehow better than you so maybe that’s why she left. But you have no way of knowing that. It’s a story you’re making up.	/r/ExRedPill	31/12/20 07:04 AM
2	Women here who've said that women are pickier than men: why and how do you think women are picky? Wear clothes that fit well. Have some nicer pairs of shoes. Put some thought into your outfits. Get hair cut in a semi regular basis. If you have facial hair, keep it neat. That’s real basics.	/r/ExRedPill	16/10/20 02:46 PM
1	Why Do Serial Killers Get Love Letters From Girls? Pick-up artists and red-pillers do.	/r/ExRedPill	16/10/20 02:38 PM
2	An alternative take on hypergamy “ They will actively avoid going on first dates with men who seem like they don't get as much attention as they'd like or who seem needy for validation as to not hurt the man's feelings and discourage them from continuing trying to find a relationship if they don't end up liking the guy after all” Neediness is really unattractive, but I don’t go out with lots of men who aren’t needy; I’m just not into them. It could be looks, it could be personality, it could be horrible attitudes toward women o…	/r/ExRedPill	16/10/20 02:36 PM
42	Ladies of exredpill, do you like the strong, sensitive type of man? Intimacy and deep connection is only possible with vulnerability. Some people are terrified of opening up themselves and connecting in a deeper level, so they run. I absolutely want partners who can identify and express emotions, and who can show vulnerability and sensitivity. Cold macho attitudes are a huge turn-off.	/r/ExRedPill	16/10/20 02:21 PM
3	How to get women to approach you Wtf dude lots of guys like yoga and makeup is a skill you can actually make a career off of. Just because it’s a “women’s” hobby doesn’t mean it’s not a hobby. And plenty of dudes have zero hobbies. Lots of boring, aimless people out there.	/r/ExRedPill	01/10/20 05:50 PM
4	Is it true that women love differently as compared to men? No and no. Vulnerability is what forms strong connections and intimacy. Disrespect and being closed off means I walk. This stuff works to manipulate women who are afraid of intimacy, most likely who in early life saw very unhealthy relationship modeling (for example abusive father) and are recreating what is familiar to them. That’s human attachment theory.	/r/ExRedPill	01/10/20 05:43 PM
3	I think we should normalize the idea that people have standards when it comes to dating. Looks do matter and attraction is necessary on some level for romantic and sexual chemistry. And there is a narrow type that a LOT of people find attractive. But that doesn’t mean they don’t also find all kinds of other things attractive. It is entirely possible to be attracted to a person who is not, by any objective standard, or by popular opinion, attractive. But something works there for ya. And sometimes people ARE exclusively into something most others aren’t - very tall women, very fat wo…	/r/ExRedPill	01/10/20 05:34 AM
1	I have misogynistic views and I want to change Only you are the expert on your feelings, but if I had to take a stab at interpreting this... You put these imaginary studs on a pedestal and feel inferior to them. You lose sexual interest in women with a history because you imagine they must have banged guys you are inferior to, that the women will judge you and make it obvious they think you’re inferior, too. A virgin is safe because she has nothing to compare the experience with you to, therefore the utter terror of being found inferior is r…	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/20 08:03 PM
5	Is the wall real for women? If you’re Gen Z you’re young. Younger people tend to have a higher ideals and bigger blind spots to where those ideals and what drives them and how they act don’t match up. Sorting through all that is part of the process of growing.	/r/ExRedPill	09/08/20 04:00 PM
49	Looks matter definitely Because people mix up a few things that are all true simultaneously: Looks matter - people generally have to be physically attracted to someone to be interested in a romantic and sexual relationship with them. There are certainly physical attributes that the majority of people find attractive, and are considered objectively attractive. But... People are also attracted to all kinds of people, at the same time. People can be attracted to many different types and looks. Only a narrow range of peopl…	/r/ExRedPill	08/06/20 01:47 AM
13	Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Red pill is awful but posting something adding shame to STIs doesn’t help anyone. I know someone with the molloscum issue he mentions; it’s a skin condition (and in his case it came from a wetsuit most likely.) HPV is impossible to test for in men and can only be diagnosed with a Pap smear in women. People whose partners cheated on them, who have been sexually assaulted, or who dated people whose partners have, can catch these even if they only do monogamous relationships. A disease is a disease…	/r/ExRedPill	03/05/20 04:06 AM
17	I'm 21 (M) and I dont have experience with women I would recommend the books Attached, Hold Me Tight, and anything by John Gottman. But this will all be hard to understand theory without actual relationship experience. Hate to break it to you but the only way to learn good relationship skills is to date, have relationships, make mistakes, and learn from them. Having crappy experiences is part of the process and you cannot avoid them. Putting dating off or reading books will not prevent this.	/r/ExRedPill	29/04/20 09:28 PM
22	I think people realize you can go through years of self-improvement and still end up with nothing. “All they care about us the end” The end of what? How do you have data on what 100% of women everywhere think? You’re single until you’re not. You’re unsuccessful until you’re not. You don’t get to the end of self-improvement (which I have no idea what you think it is besides earning money to buy things?) and win a prize. Self-improvement is a constant process that is life-long, and committing to it needs to be done for yourself, not other people. And the self-improvement you seem to need most w…	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/20 08:51 PM
1	Is anyone truly capable of love? It’s based on the fact that we are social primates who evolved to live in social groups where we are interdependent on each other. Forming bonds assures that. If you’re out foraging berries and break a leg, you’ll need help or you will be left behind and die. Sue Johnson researches and writes about adult attachment; you can find more info on this if you look her up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/20 06:45 PM
1	Is anyone truly capable of love? It’s based on the fact that we are social primates who evolved to live in social groups where we are interdependent on each other. Forming bonds assures that. If you’re out foraging berries and break a leg, you’ll need help or you will be left behind and die. Sue Johnson researches and writes about adult attachment; you can find more info on this if you look her up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/20 06:45 PM
1	How would you explain that average looking guys are able to date beautiful women? Nuance is not the opposite of objectivity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/20 03:55 PM
2	“Men prefer debt free virgins without tattoos”. Post-secondary education.	/r/ExRedPill	13/02/20 02:15 AM
1	Is it true women lose interest/attraction once they feel they have you? Underneath our feelings and thoughts, there are two near universal fears we’ll struggle with: “I’m not good enough”, and therefore “I will not be loved, and will be alone.” Check out the books Hold Me Tight and Gottman’s 7 Secrets to Making a Marriage Work. Or anything from Gottman.	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/20 04:00 AM
1	Is it true women lose interest/attraction once they feel they have you? Bam, on the money.	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/20 03:56 AM
5	Why some PUAs believe their method works on all women despite some rejections they've been experienced? This is a kind of selling/brainwashing technique common in MLM schemes and cults. They hook you with some obvious, simple truths (like work out, become more social and confident), then sell hard on “the system”. Then, if you’re having no luck using it, it’s obviously bc you’re doing it wrong. It’s all your fault. When it does work, that’s obviously the system working!	/r/ExRedPill	01/01/20 09:08 PM
16	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. You have mountains of work to do on yourself before you try for a relationship. This chip on the shoulder resentful attitude towards women, as if you’re owed sex and romance, and if you’re not getting it it’s bc women hate you for some reason, and you just wanna be with someone “hot”.... guarantee we women can sense it and run the other way. That attitude ranks on the level of raging BO in terms of attractiveness. There are many men and women with your level of sexual and romantic experience out…	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 05:48 PM
3	How do you get over a Madonna-Whore complex? There are very deep issues here around your view of sexuality in general which probably need some professional guidance to untangle. If you can, I would highly recommend finding a sex-positive counselor or therapist. If money is an issue, interns are a good place to start, or any local MFT schools that have students doing practice sessions. FWIW, I was a girl curious and preoccupied with sex and physical intimacy and affection from a very young age. I did have some bad experiences along the way,…	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/19 06:38 PM
3	Woman who is sinking to red pill philosophy. Help. Stop dating for a while and work on yourself. Try to meet new people who have empathy and integrity, with the goal of learning from them not dating. Read books like 7 Habits of Successful People, Thinking Fast and Slow, Hold Me Tight, The Gifts of Imperfection. There are crappy people out there all over the place and they date each other. If you don’t work on yourself and expand your social experience, you will wind up stuck with them. Good, smart, empathic, loving people gravitate to others lik…	/r/ExRedPill	25/12/19 05:42 PM
16	The fear of turning 30 as a woman really messes with me I don’t love getting older but holy shit have my 30s so far been so much better than 20s! Better sex, better relationships, better self-esteem, better knowledge of myself! It may sound trite but you seriously don’t want anyone in your life who believes crap about women having some kind of expiration date. It may narrow your pool if you cut out shallow people but the quality shoots up. Also 30 is nothing, it’s like the best age for the intersection of physical health and maturity.	/r/ExRedPill	15/11/19 11:06 PM
7	Brainwashed by RedPill and its opposite I’ve had guys do that to me in various ways. Like “we both like women so we should both be able to sleep with other women, that’s totally fair!” Please know you’re not alone. And that feelings you have aren’t actually sex-specific, no matter what red pillers tell you. Women also struggle with feelings of alienation, loneliness, sense of self worth, and self-image. Many more people do than we realize, even those who on the outside look like they have it together. It is a human experience. You cou…	/r/ExRedPill	04/12/17 02:04 AM
6	Concerned about MGTOW...could use advice First off, kudos for sharing all that. It’s not easy to be vulnerable and admit you’re struggling and questioning all this to a bunch of Internet random. All of these extremist forums start out with a few kernels of truth. In this case: your worth as a man and human isn’t tied to having a romantic relationship with a woman or being married, and it’s ok to be single, even for life. It’s important to cultivate your own interests and hobbies and be your own person. But beyond of course is all the c…	/r/ExRedPill	28/11/17 09:07 PM
2	Another Perspective on the Wage Gap If you're comparing supermarket vs contruction/oil rig, that's a difference in skill and risk, so I would expect a difference in salary. Warehouse vs cashier I'm less clear on but these specific comparisons aren't really what I was talking about. There's a much broader discussion that's missing from this shitty comic. When we have these conversations, we tend to set up criteria that obvious favor men as an excuse for why they get more benefit - eg men are stronger and can lift more, so that gets…	/r/PussyPassDenied	13/04/17 03:58 PM
-3	Another Perspective on the Wage Gap Where's her "second shift" saddle?....	/r/PussyPassDenied	13/04/17 06:52 AM
1	Another Perspective on the Wage Gap This is what I was about to post and I wish this was higher up. People in this post keep talking about men being paid more for taking more "dangerous" or "physical" jobs. I'm sorry, how is investment banker more dangerous or physical than an ER nurse? Social worker? Daycare worker? Middle school teacher? Do you know how physical a job as a live-in caregiver is? Is construction somehow more vital than knowing how to care for children? These jobs take skills and stamina. Many require schooling and…	/r/PussyPassDenied	13/04/17 06:45 AM