TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

dontforgetclutchin Archive

View 3 posts and 40 comments by dontforgetclutchin on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
6

I have a friend that never goes on a second date if the man doesn’t offer to pay. She holds that exact opinion - why should she when she has invested so much time into grooming, beauty and clothes for the man. I find it entitled, as if you are owed these things just because you’ve tried to look nice (which obviously isn’t really for yourself). Also, this friend I mentioned as an example is a feminist, which to me makes no sense if you are investing so much time and money to look a certain way fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 11:09 AM
2

No I think you have multiple people you could be compatible with, and it also depends on the stage of life you’re at. Someone you may have thought was your soulmate at 30 might not be at 45.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 08:16 AM
2

Yes but for different reasons. Like your mother, mine is a narcissist but so mean and emasculating towards my father. Constantly gaslighting and making him feel like he wasn’t good enough. My dad is a hard working very straight edge type of man and to see him reduced to a doormat at her feet is crazy! Also the way modern feminism treats men is appalling. My MIL has a quite traditional role, although she works and so does her husband she does the cooking and homemaking kinda so it was interesting…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 06:39 AM
17

Not to be mean but my friend has super low self confidence and isn’t generally noticed by men for romantic reasons (she described herself as the ‘fat ugly friend’) so it’s been hard for her to find dates for multiple reasons. She’s 25 and just had her first kiss so that’s another reason why
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 07:01 AM
2

HeyVINA!
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/20 09:20 AM
1

Apparently women like it if they find the person attractive generally. I’m a woman and don’t mind so long as it’s not explicit or creepy (e.g. Your ass looks so nice when you squat, or I want to cut your beautiful hair off and smell it). Not sure about guys, but I wouldn’t have a problem complimenting one. Seems like my boyfriend appreciates them as it means the work he puts into himself at the gym or even getting a haircut is noticed. I can imagine as long as it’s not explicit or creepy (especi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 07:24 AM
2

It’s very tricky in my experience if you are decently attractive. Not impossible. Also depends whether the friend is attracted to you at all. I have one male friend which I trust completely and so does my SO. But other than that, I feel like most of the guys I’ve been around would ‘hit it’ if they could - I know that’s not very eloquent but that’s the best way I can describe it at the moment. In summary, I have male friends only if they are around activities like work or studying and I do not me…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 06:06 AM
1

I do agree with most of what you’re saying - I’ve been in dynamics where they changed when women are around (I am a woman btw). I’ve seen it by working in a male dominated field previously and also by participating in male dominated activities. There can be a subtle shift and I doubt some of the guys are as candid as they would be without a female presence. Plus, sometimes the focus shifts to the women/woman around.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 06:55 AM
1

I agree with everything! I see especially his mum trying to make me coddle him like she does and it annoys me. No wonder he throws a bit of a tantrum - it’s because it has been allowed. She tries to force them onto me by cooking for him but when we’ve traveled together we have equal roles. Neither of us pay rent - he’s actually a lot better with money than me. He’s got investments but we’re both employed. When we move out he will start his career first so I take it he will be the one to take the…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 11:09 AM
1

I agree with this and see how I was inconsiderate about it as well
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 12:31 AM
1

I see what you mean! I do agree I’ve gotten too comfortable in a sense. And he has said I ‘do too much for him’. We are not in an optimal financial position to move out. So some of this is pressure from his mother to cater to him (we live with her) and me trying to do my duty as a guest in her house that perhaps isn’t so good in the long term. The need to pursue me though - is this something that should be happening throughout a relationship? We do have the aspect of trying to better ourselves b…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 11:04 PM
1

I’ve seen two different things in RPW on other posts - a lot say they don’t really have guy friends and some do. If your partner is an alpha, from what I gathered he’s generally comfortable in himself and confident enough to trust you to do whatever with no insecurity or anything on his end right? Yes it’s not new behaviour unfortunately. It has improved but I know it’s not healthy. I guess me as a person I have a lot of inner work to do and so does he to get to a place where this isn’t a proble…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 10:44 PM
1

To answer your question, we are not married. I’ve seen lots of talk in RPW about a wife having different treatment or kind of privileges compared to a girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 10:31 PM
1

Interesting... when you say ‘escalating shit test’, does that mean it will just keep happening and progressing? Basically pushing boundaries? I have never looked into the original red pill values but my SO used to read TRP. He strayed away from it eventually and looked into an author that encourages honesty dealing with women. I know he has done some self-improvement but clearly we’ve both got to split or work on stuff. Also, to answer your questions... Yes, a friend that my SO and I met togethe…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 10:28 PM
12

No cheating on my end, but not knowing boundaries with other opposite sexes in the past. Having guy friends that were clearly hitting on me for one. My SO had been cheated on. We didn’t discuss it any further tonight and now he seems normal - weird! Not abusive, but he has had some definitely controlling tendencies early on. Wouldn’t tell me outright not to wear something or who to see. This is what happens when two people who haven’t figured out their traumas get together I think. It’s not opti…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 02:07 PM
6

I completely see what you’re saying but I guess I thought it was okay because my friend initially invited a girl friend too. Only the girl changed plans last minute. So I really didn’t want to pull out of the plan but I will think more about if the roles were reversed.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 12:58 PM
1

Lululemon
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 11:10 PM
7

I took is as women being hypergamous creatures and so your current relationship is not necessarily permanent since there’s potential for her to leave for something better. My SO used to say this as a joke and I’d get annoyed, because the ‘it’s just your turn’ sounds harsh. He also told me about the hypergamy thing which I didn’t know about or want to believe. I’ll be keeping my eye on this though as I’m not entirely sure it’s meaning. And I agree with what you are saying OP - that we need to fig…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 09:27 AM
2

Yes roughly! We sleep at different times too because he’s a night owl and only has time alone after everyone is asleep. Generally he finishes studying at 11pm so after that we snack, talk and watch something. Also we eat together and sometimes sit in the sun outside before he has to return to study or work. Aside from that, we spend time in small portions - meal breaks, traveling to the gym together and an hour or two before I head to bed. It keeps me happy! Even if we’re unable to go hiking or …
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 07:26 AM
5

We live together but he’s quite busy with his studies. I feel like a few weeks of not having enough designated time as a couple makes me neglected.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 12:32 AM
13

My SO liked ‘models’ by Mark Manson. He said it’s a lot about self-improvement and confidence, plus honesty with women rather than manipulation which is what some of TRP may be.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/20 04:48 AM
2

Mine is mostly skincare and I have a morning and night skincare routine. Also painting my toe nails only because my hands would lose so much colour from hitting stuff and probably picking up weights too. I personally love my callouses from lifting 4x a week, but my hands are dry as (from old jobs and washing my hands a lot) so I moisture with a cream and oil before bed. I wear sunscreen most times when I go for a walk maybe once or twice during the week. As for my hair, it’s curly and I prefer t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 10:30 PM
18

Personally, I love Kali Uchis. I feel she has a great female energy about her
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 06:00 AM
3

I second this point. I wouldn’t define him solely by those things - and if he believes that deeply in mushrooms maybe it’s an intrinsic need to ‘help’ people. But in saying that, you really have to approach with caution. And see if he has any drive in other areas of life like a steady legal job, education etc.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 01:11 PM
13

Wouldn’t say super high value but I’ll give you a contrast. Let’s say 8 or so years ago - heavy makeup, barely any modesty, talked to many guys in a very flirty way (although didn’t sleep with them), attention seeking with not much ambition and education. Absolutely reckless with money. Only hobbies were Facebook/instagram and shopping. Expected money to fall in my lap. Now - low N count (1), modest, trying to get a degree and further my education, have a few hobbies, in shape, in therapy, much …
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/20 10:07 PM
3

Agreed! Especially if you somehow wind up living together beforehand. It’s a shame I discovered TRPW a bit late!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/20 08:01 PM
3

I personally love laser - had really good results on my underarms and Brazilian. Had to go for quite a few sessions, maybe 8-10? Could have been 12. Anyway, I barely grow hair and only recently after maybe 5 years got a touch up. I’ve just started my legs and it’s showing promising results. My hair type is dark, curly but not super thick. My skin is a bit brown too. It works well for me.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 09:25 AM
28

Honestly, it sounds like you won’t get the security you desire in this relationship. He doesn’t sound willing to compromise and the social media account doesn’t sound like a huge ask in comparison to him cutting off his ‘friend’. Sounds like he has more to lose that way... I would not stand for that weird camgirl stuff going on - them being friends when he used to buy her services and him seeing her nudes on her page doesn’t sit well with me either. I’d reconsider my relationship with this man. …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 10:19 AM
1

This is fair and puts it into perspective. So many times I’ve wanted to move out but I know I’ve got it good. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 01:18 PM
3

It’s good to be careful with sunscreen but don’t beat yourself up if you forget to apply it sometimes. I always carry a bit in my handbag just incase. That’s interesting - and by the sounds of it, you’d be an amazing homemaker! Since you aren’t wanting to get married quite young, focus on yourself and hobbies. If you love to cook and clean, excel in those areas :) You have so much life ahead of you, and lots of time to invest in yourself. Self-improvement is always a good thing and learning more…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 06:32 AM
4

Some stuff I knew at a young age... Not to dress too provocatively - I think it affects your chances of finding a quality guy that respects you and doesn’t treat you like a sex object Working on yourself is incredibly important and healthy, especially when it comes to developing your self-respect and boundaries (for example, learning to say no to people) To wear sunscreen lol. It’s easier to prevent sun damage than to try correct it later How to deal with feminists? Happily do your own thing. Ow…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 04:53 AM
1

Not sure if I’m okay with the whole female friends things especially after the final details of your post... Perhaps they are potential ‘plates for him to spin’ in future if he has an abundance of female friends. Yes, my SO has female friends - lucky for me 2/3 are gay and not interested. They do not hang out outside of university. Although I get a little jealous we have set a boundary that opposite sex friends should be confined to things like studies and work and not the type of people you go …
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 12:45 PM
6

I always saw people online making mean comments about Hugh Jackman’s wife and how she’s not hot enough. I think she is 10 or so years older than him. From what I gather on RPW, looking after yourself in all aspects (physically, mentally) and always striving to improve is a highly desirable trait in itself. Maybe that’s what Hugh Jackman’s wife is like? With his SMV he could probably pull a lot of women, his age too. But it’s about more than that. So I think hitting the wall is really subjective,…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 12:32 AM
3

Wow! I’m glad to hear you and your husband were able to work through things and he has the tools to cope through it all (and, was willing to address the issue with a therapist too). This is interesting as well - the idea of it not being about the porn. I do think especially for my generation (I’m 24) they were exposed to more, quicker than some generations before because of technology... I feel like it’s really potentially dangerous. I will head over to the sub and think about what you said. I h…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 01:23 PM
13

I really think you hit the nail on the head about decreasing their motivation and training the brain for instant gratification!
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 11:57 AM
2

I do agree with what you’re saying! My next question would be then, how would I know for sure? I trust my SO, but I can’t actually prevent him from watching it - then it throws me in a loop of suspicion
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 11:55 AM
1

It makes sense if past relationships sounded so toxic - and I can totally understand any reservations about porn because of it. It does sound like you’ve had some very shitty past experiences, but I don’t think you’ll find everyone has an unhealthy relationship with porn. I’m also sorry to hear you got cheated on. That is rough. I guess, how do you know for sure he’s fantasising about another woman during sex with you? Sometimes I reckon it could be novelty - not that it doesn’t feel wrong in so…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 11:17 AM
3

I admit I’ve watched porn too. I have put a stop now on it because I was too reliant. I think it’s definitely something that makes it easier to get off like you said. Don’t exactly know why you got downvoted but thought I’d chime in.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 10:04 AM
3

I used to hate it, and it still makes me uncomfortable as I used to feel like it’s a form of cheating. However, if I don’t see any direct negative effects on our relationship, I think it can be a bit of stress relief for my SO. I just don’t want to know when he’s doing it, or to who. I think if I caught him, I’d be deeply hurt. But I also can’t control him, and can’t have sex with him whenever he wants it so I’m willing to let it slide.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 10:03 AM
11

He sounds like he’s messing around behind your back. Saw someone else’s comment about a previous post of yours - something about saving some chick’s pictures and going through your phone? That is already a no no! If a friend was having the same issues, what advice would you give her? I understand you might love him, but he’s already showing a lot of red flags. Even with any issues you have it’s not worth staying and he’s not the only man that will love you - it doesn’t sound like he respects you…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/20 01:01 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter