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dontremindme6/r/askTRP11/06/21 04:27 PM
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I do agree that women like men that are the opposite of women e.g. bigger. However there's definitely attraction that goes beyond being physically "manly". I know dudes that are chubby, not particularly tall, and generally average looking and they get more women than friends that are clearly gym rats Women like men that are interesting, confident, and not clingy. Interesting enough to hold a conversation and have fun things to do with her, confident enough to approach her and not constantly seek…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/22 10:54 PM
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I've never heard anyone describe Navy Pier as a party spot. I do agree Mag Mile has a good mix of locals and tourists out shopping. The Bean is almost exclusively tourists, people from the suburbs making their annual trip downtown, and/or families, wouldn't recommend that one. Biggest thing you're missing is the beach. Oak street and North Ave beaches have tons of young women, mostly locals because tourists don't come to Chicago for the beach. On the weekends a lot of people go there to day drin…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/21 01:04 AM
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Doesn't matter what you say as long as you say it confidently. That advice applies to many situations outside of this specific question. You're one of the few consistent, quality posters remaining here. Keep the content rolling.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/21 02:10 AM
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First of all, if someone's a true friend they wouldn't get upset over some text conversation like that. Second, it sounds like you want her to be more than your friend. You're better off not thinking about her for a while and talking to other women. The chances of being anything more than friends after 8 years is incredibly small.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/21 05:04 AM
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Honestly it doesn't matter what she is doing. She doesn't owe you anything and you don't owe her anything. Believe me, keep working on yourself and talk to more women, and you'll be on the other side of this situation. Then you'll understand that you can't always be on call for all the women in your life.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/21 06:54 PM
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I give you credit for trying, but my point still stands that you haven't met this woman and deleted her because she didn't respond within a day. And yes I do ignore messages because I have other things going on. Woman do the same thing, especially with guys they just started talking to an hour ago. I've asked a woman on a date and she responded 24 hours later saying she's interested. If I blocked her then I would have missed a date. You're on the right path, just don't get discouraged if she has…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/21 06:38 PM
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Let me get this straight, you sent a message via Snapchat to a woman you have never met and deleted her because she didn't respond within 12 hours on a Friday night? I routinely ignore messages when I'm out because I'm enjoying the moment and not on my phone. I agree you shouldn't get sucked into a texting game where you just validate her and never meet, but you're really jumping ahead here and taking it to the extreme.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/21 05:51 PM
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You're getting dates, so just keep working on it. Don't get psyched out by previous dates that didn't go well, it's just practice for the next one. Also, don't just assume they aren't interested because they didn't kiss you on the first date. Try again and see what happens, especially if you weren't escalating prior to the kiss the first time.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/21 04:09 PM
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Sometimes it ends with a kiss but it's rare to be honest. Thinking about it, I can usually tell that's not what she wants at that point which really says all you need to know. I'm not building that kind of attraction/mood during the date.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 09:51 PM
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This is very thorough, thank you. I'll definitely work on setting up a couple different places to go on a date, I've heard that from a few people. I also like the kink question as a good transition to more sexual topics after establishing a good vibe. I definitely need to work on establishing a flirty sexual vibe and not just two friends chatting.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 09:00 PM
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Interesting, it sounds like that's walking a fine line. I need to build enough interest first before pulling that off.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 08:50 PM
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Yes that's a good way to put it. I'm trying to figure out to make it more of the latter.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 08:49 PM
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Any suggestions? I'm in the middle of a city, so there aren't a lot of outdoor activities here.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 07:53 PM
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It's definitely a balance. You want to actually establish some connection first if you can. I think 5-6 messages is a good target. Only one time has someone said I asked too quickly. A few times she just won't respond when I ask, but that's actually rare. Now plenty of women end up cancelling the plans, but at least you have her number and ocassionally I'll actually get her to reschedule. Any attractive woman will have an insane amount of matches on the app, you really need to get the number asa…
/r/askTRP11/06/21 07:52 PM
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A simple thing I do is get a conversation going about something, could be hobbies, traveling, music, doesn't matter. Then before the conversation ends tell her "we should continue this conversation over drinks, are you free Thursday?" Or whatever day you want. Doesn't matter if she isn't free that day, get the number either way and set up a day that works.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 07:36 PM
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I'm not going to share because it's unremarkable. I'm able to get a handful of women per month to match and actively respond that are not fat/ugly. Hinge has worked the best for me. Tinder is trash and bumble has limited success for me. From there I've learned to move quickly and get their number. Make plans that are 2 days away max, so you minimize cancellations. If you aren't free to actually meet, wait to start the conversation until you have free time soon.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 07:29 PM
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Thanks, this was a good playbook. I don't think I'd do exactly what he does, but I like the idea of playing little games to make it fun and give excuses to touch and escalate.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 07:22 PM
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It could be something more subtle. I don't think women go home after a date with me and tell their friends "this guy was ugly" or "he was a creep". More likely they say something like "he's alright but Im going to keep looking". I'm pretty sure my problem is I come across as someone she would be fine with being friends with, but not someone she wants to date or fuck.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 05:41 PM
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Thanks for the advice, I'll try to lead interactions more often.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 05:36 PM
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Drinks at a bar, typically an outdoor space where it's easy to have a conversation.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 04:53 PM
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I agree I definitely need to change my approach, looking for advice how to do that.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 04:45 PM
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I've been listening to Black Phillip recently, so I immediately thought of Patrice too. He was basically preaching "alpha confidence" over a decade ago, he just didn't call it that. Something he said multiple times was he would imagine his girl getting fucked by other dudes. It allowed him to not put her on a pedestal because she was just like any other woman.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/21 04:07 AM
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What's the best place to meet people these days? Bars near me are partially open but you have to stay at your table, so it's essentially for people who already know each other. The major park near me seems like the best bet on a nice day, tons of people are there. Curious what other people have found success with in the age of masks and distancing.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/21 02:48 PM
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After attractiveness, I think social improvement gets the most bang for you buck. Improving your social life by finding like minded people who enjoy similar hobbies makes it so much easier to meet women. It also is better for your overall health to have good friends and a quality social life. Meeting women is just part of that benefits Women (and men too) like what is familiar. The stakes are much lower when it's familiar, especially for women (as men we don't think twice about a women approachi…
/r/TheRedPill03/02/21 12:58 AM
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I can really relate to this post. I've had the same thoughts of comparing what I did because I "loved" someone to being intoxicated. In hindsight the things I did and the actions I took seem absurd. The most difficult part for me is I don't get many girls showing interest in me, so when they do I tend to fall in the trap of being too emotionally invested. I don't do the most egregious blue pill behaviors, but I end up emotionally hurting myself.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/20 01:24 AM
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Exactly, and if you are below top 30% you're getting no quality matches. Tough game.
/r/TheRedPill18/11/20 07:31 PM
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If you are top 10% in looks you can say whatever you want. But I think you are thinking too hard about referencing a detail in a photo. It takes 5 seconds to look at a picture and understand what's in it. As someone who is not in that top 10%, taking a little time to make an actual conversation starter is far more successful than saying "hey".
/r/TheRedPill18/11/20 05:32 PM
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Most men have been there. The concept of "oneitis" is very important to understand, yet difficult for many to avoid. The worst points in anyone's life are when they are out of options. Many people feel that way when they break up with someone. They need that one person for companionship, love, sex, etc. And when that one person leaves, it's devastating. The difference between men and women is that women may feel that way too, but they quickly find their perceived lack of options is not true. Or …
/r/TheRedPill12/11/20 06:10 PM
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A difficult truth to learn for me is that there's always another guy and AWALT. I learned a good lesson recently when a girl I was casually hanging out with / banging cut me off. She said she had to clear her mind, but of course it turns out that meant banging other dudes. We're back to hooking up sometimes, but now my head is in the right mindset. I know she can leave at any moment and can have (or likely already has) plenty of dudes to take my place. The most difficult part for me was not hear…
/r/TheRedPill11/11/20 08:47 PM
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Yeah that's a good point, I think the "only text for logistics" mantra could be good advice when you've already met in person. These days its difficult to meet anyone in person (my city closed bars and restaurants, and everyone has to wear a mask anywhere in public), but I hope to work on that in the future.
/r/TheRedPill11/11/20 07:24 PM
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You're right, this was a bad example. I think it matters more before you meet, and texting a little can help avoid her bailing on the plan after it's made.
/r/TheRedPill11/11/20 06:25 PM
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You're right, I chose a bad example because it was the most recent. I've had many other times where the girl flakes after setting up the date. In these cases, I try to set up a date fairly quickly after I start the conversation (this is from apps). Then I get the number, confirm the plan, and stop talking to them until confirming on the day of the planned date. So we've really not talked much at this point, typically we just found one or two things in common then I make a plan to meet. Its these…
/r/TheRedPill11/11/20 06:22 PM
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There's a big difference between initiating a conversation too often and responding to her. You don't want to be the guy texting her good morning every day, but if she starts a conversation you should at least respond a couple times.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/20 07:37 PM
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I've limited my texting and I think it holds me back. I had a date recently and it seemed like she had a good time. I texter her a couple days later to set up another and she said she didn't feel a connection. Now maybe the date wasn't as good as I thought, but it's also likely she had other dudes texting her and building a rapport while I was just a guy she spent 2 hours with. I think there's a middle ground here between never texting and being an orbiter texting her all day validating her with…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/20 07:29 PM
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