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Not only doing, but raising your awareness. Stepping out of your thinking, becoming present, raising your consciousness all allow you to transcend the mind patterns and emotions that control you.
/r/seduction14/11/12 10:26 AM
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I think its great that you've at least identified the problem: low self esteem. I think you should take it one step further, and really take a closer look at what exactly self esteem entails. I strongly suggest (as have many PUA forums have - thats where I got the recommendation from) The Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Brandon. He takes a far more in depth look at self esteem than any seddit poster could provide you with. I have got a lot from this book. My knowledge about self esteem (…
/r/seduction13/11/12 10:09 AM
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You need to work on your self acceptance and your self esteem. That's ok - so do I. You and I are the same, we are too overly invested in the opinions of others and are not secure in ourselves. We both lack confidence in our own self worth and right to assertiveness and self expression. Just think, if you were confident in, and secure in your self (and that includes your sense of self), would you react so easily and quickly to the behavior displayed by these men? Think of a confident friend, who…
/r/seduction13/11/12 09:55 AM
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That's a terrible oversimplification. The content of his thoughts reflect a huge amount of internalised beliefs and premises. Its also about self concept, self esteem and self acceptance. A number of things contribute to the symptom of overthinking.
/r/seduction13/11/12 09:30 AM
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Yeah, totally agree. You have to start being for yourself, and not for others. Its not that you're against others, its that you're simply for yourself, independent of "the other". Also, you can't be "for yourself" in order to get the other, because thats just a sneaky way of being for the other. You are an ends in it self, you are NOT an ends to get the other. Your standards are yours, for YOU. Not for her appreciation, and not for her attraction. Live by your own standards. Own your own standar…
/r/seduction20/10/12 06:30 AM
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You need to weigh it up: will keeping her in your life stop you from taking new romantic opportunities? You need to be brutally honest with that one. Is keeping an interesting person in your life worth all the stagnation you'll have because you are still a little bit hung up on her? My feeling is that you'll keep her at arms length for years and then wake up and realize you've missed so much of life for nothing. My advice: Do #1 until you are completely over her. Then if you want, get her back i…
/r/seduction07/10/12 07:01 AM
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Looks less passive aggressive this way. Seems like you are still living your life through her, or at least her opinions. Who cares what it looks like to her? Its done, its over, you need to do whats best for you, not whats best for her opinion of you.
/r/seduction07/10/12 06:54 AM
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I'd say the best thing to do is to mentally prepare yourself. Tell yourself, you're gonna go into an unavoidable situation with your ex, and give yourself as much warning as you can that a whole bunch of emotions are going to arise and possibly take you over. Be as aware and stead fast as you can. Then afterwards, reflect back on how things went. Look at how suddenly you had all these deep anguishy, lonely, needy emotions and notice how you weren't feeling them so deeply 5hrs before you went int…
/r/seduction07/10/12 06:52 AM
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It really is a good metaphor that I have found has given me a lot of leverage to change my life, and stick to that change. Its tough making clarity when you are so deep in shit. This metaphor has stuck with me though.
/r/seduction04/10/12 10:52 AM
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Quick question: why would you insinuate that you would embarrass her? I feel like you are framing yourself as a lowly grovelling beggar?
/r/seduction03/10/12 12:12 PM
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...or failed enough.
/r/seduction03/10/12 12:07 PM
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Tyler did a video for hard case newbies. Its not about the approach, but its more about the wider life situation for people in deep social anxiety and depression. I actually got a lot out of it, it resonated a lot with me. Please do watch it. http://youtu.be/GGp25fn25Cs
/r/seduction03/10/12 12:00 PM
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Attachment causes suffering and it causes thoughts that create suffering.
/r/seduction29/09/12 02:17 AM
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Get off the haterade
/r/seduction26/09/12 11:46 AM
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Dude, any PUA material is meant to be supplementary to MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF ACTION. You should never have expected Blue Print or any RSD material to turn your life around. That comes from action, and only action. No other way to put it.
/r/seduction26/09/12 11:26 AM
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Approaching is indistinguishable from death, because you are putting your whole ego at stake (and historically / evolutionarily, your physical existence as well). Your mind is programmed to be completely unable to distinguish between actual death and approaching. That's why you got to learn the true / factual distinction by actually approaching. This is nothing but reprogramming. Hard wiring takes hard action to reprogram. There are no short cuts.
/r/seduction22/09/12 12:12 PM
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This is nothing but a congruence test. She is trying to find out if you are really this cocky type of guy or if you are faking it. Put it this way: she wouldn't be testing you if she didn't think it was a trait worth testing for. Figure out something to say to show you are not bothered by her questioning it, and show her this is who you really are. If you are not phased by it (or show no reaction to it) then you pass. Of course, you may actually overly cocky - too much of it can be a bad thing (…
/r/seduction22/09/12 12:06 PM
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How much of pick up do you think is related to self acceptance?
/r/seduction20/09/12 07:37 AM
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A few things... Tolle actually acknowledges you would feel a sense of satisfaction and fufillment when you are lost in thought. Thats the whole point of the teaching, that your constant compulsive thinking allows you to escape from the unsatisfactory now. But, he says, if you look closer, it is only the mind that thinks the Now is unsatisfactory. If you step out of the minds perspective, the Now is extremely satisfying, and extremely peaceful. Also, Tolle repeatedly acknowledges that thought is …
/r/seduction20/09/12 06:22 AM
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"Its not lying, its flirting" - Mystery.
/r/seduction20/09/12 03:04 AM
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I suggest reading A New Earth. I am a massive fan of both books, both have changed my life. They are different though. The Power of Now is a very distilled teaching. That is where it draws a lot of its power from - because it is so simple and straight forward it really cuts through layers of mental resistance. This can actually be a problem for people who pick up A New Earth, because they are expecting this same sharpness and power. Thats the main difference in structure of the two books. As for…
/r/seduction20/09/12 02:58 AM
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In what ways has your personality changed since entering the community? Would you say that your personality has become similar to Mystery's and Matadors?
/r/seduction19/09/12 09:46 AM
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No schtick. For those that think in don'ts.
/r/seduction16/08/11 06:05 PM
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thats just hilarious!
/r/seduction16/08/11 05:59 PM
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Wow, thank you so much Tofu for linking this, I have got a lot out of this. Fuck, I think I need to do something like this. (Shut up and take my money)
/r/seduction25/05/11 06:30 AM
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Yeah he does sound bitter. I think he's trying to highlight how the scene is a bubble of reality that is based highly on superficiality. It does not correlate to normal life and isn't relevant to normal life. Maybe thats why he is sick of how the scene tries to make itself seem all important, when it is not. This is the illusion that he is trying to point out.
/r/seduction24/05/11 01:57 PM
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Yes I've said it before: Don't value scan. Just don't. This is the first indicator that you are a low value, that you're looking to take value from other people. Yuk!!! Even just talking about it makes me sick! To avoid: Always add value Be self amused Don't be externally validated Don't seek yourself in other peoples reaction. Know who you are for fucks sake. Any others?
/r/seduction28/03/11 10:16 AM
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Nothing gave that impression. It was my old conditioning projecting onto it, so I felt the need to write about it. I was just saying, you might get the idea that girls are less partial to sex than what they in reality are. What gave you the idea that I thought you were taking anything from her? I was saying the exact opposite.
/r/seduction27/03/11 11:24 PM
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There is a subtle under-frame to this field report. I get the feeling that she was very against any sexy time. Readers, please do not project this frame onto girls in general. Your frame should be that she wants it, you want it, and everybody wins. Its not a zero sum game. You are not taking anything from her. You are giving to her, and she is giving to you. Both are adding value. Women, if anything, want sex more than men.
/r/seduction27/03/11 02:28 PM
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That is an interesting take on it. I can't find much to argue against you though. Love is blind, so don't expect much from OP!
/r/seduction27/03/11 02:23 PM
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What?? Just replace the concept of algebra with another skill or talent, lets say being good at torture, and re-read your paragraph. You get the Dave Silverman face for that one. Any why are you turning this into a superiority / inferiority complex? I simply don't value AFCness, and I have reasons why I don't value it, nor respect it. Whence did I say it made me superior? You sir, are projecting.
/r/seduction25/03/11 09:39 AM
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I'd probably dot your eye from the start, not ask questions. This is acceptable behavior for you? WTF is wrong with you?
/r/seduction24/03/11 12:44 PM
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Why should I respect the AFC? I don't. Am I to start believing in God because someone said so, even though I don't? How can you make yourself believe if you don't? Sure, AFC's are people too. I get that. But I don't respect the conditioning that is the AFC. The conditioning is not the person though - he is hidden behind it. He has mistaken the AFC for himself. Respect the person, but don't respect the condition and all those behaviour patterns and attitudes and reactions. When someone brings tha…
/r/seduction24/03/11 12:42 PM
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Something that has been a bit of a realisation for myself that I think applies to you as well is this: Do things as an ends in itself. If you're always doing something FOR another, you become outcome dependent. Make friends for the sole purpose of making friends. I ask you to try this. It may feel totally weird at first. But I insist that everything should not be turned into a means to an ends. That sort of dehumanises things. It turns people into an object - which is not ultimately true. I can …
/r/seduction24/03/11 12:33 PM
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I would support this idea. Perhaps we should start one? Sedduction was NEVER meant to be a for a comercial ordiance.
/r/seduction24/03/11 12:29 PM
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Thank you for sharing this!
/r/seduction19/03/11 01:34 AM
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Don't know why you got downvoted for that. I feel the same, I just wanna break away form all my friends. Every one of them. I guess thats why I'm going to Europe in 3 months alone.
/r/seduction15/03/11 11:53 AM
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Have you ever dealt with self-sabotarge? Sometimes it is difficult to discerne when you are sabotarging yourself, so I'm wondering if you've got any tips for dealing with this issue.
/r/seduction26/02/11 11:20 AM
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What methods do you recommend to get yourself out of your head? Proactively, and reactively.
/r/seduction26/02/11 11:11 AM
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I think to get to that place of not giving a fuck is a process. First become aware of why you give a fuck. You care because you're constantly dragging around a sense of self and self image. You constantly nurture it with other peoples opinions and reactions. How fucked up is that? Your self esteem is in the hands of some girl in a bar? Thats so arbitrary. It just shouldn't be so damn arbitrary. You should be the master of your self esteem and self image. The master should not be who ever by comp…
/r/seduction13/02/11 08:24 AM
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Get a journal. Seriously, this has been one of the best things I have done. So many realisations are ahead of you. They'll come and go, and writing them down will allow you to nut them out and make them permanent. If you're looking to fix yourself quicker and efficiently, get a Journal. You don't even have to put field reports in them. Don't even give your journal a purpose, that almost seems too ridgid. Think of it as just a place to write something down thats in your head. You'll have realisat…
/r/seduction24/01/11 01:20 PM
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No one is saying that words are of zero importance. Of course they matter. But in a relative scale of things, they don't. Words are just the surface layer of comunication. I think you have logiced yourself into false understanding.
/r/seduction24/01/11 12:56 PM
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Dance, but be self amused. Don't value scan. Its an instand DLV, and a big one.
/r/seduction24/01/11 12:51 PM
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Once you've watched all of the blueprint, I'd suggest getting The Power of Now. It sounds like your mind is going nuts trying to convince you that you're a worthless person. This book will allow you to disempower this horrible habbit. It will empower the part of you thats fed up with all this bullshit way of living. Good luck, and don't ever give up!
/r/seduction24/01/11 12:47 PM
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My first thought was to harshly IOD her (reward good behaviour, punish bad behaviour). But thats kind of reactive. Would that be a DLV? I still kind of think she has to be put in place, and the boundary set up. Which is it?
/r/seduction24/01/11 12:37 PM
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Sorry pal, attraction is not a choice. We don't make the rules for what we are attracted to. Its not the girls fault she lost attraction for you because you failed a shit test. She's equally at the mercy of her emotional circuitry as you are. You really have to think about this concept. You are being the unreasonable man. Don't expect the world to conform to your wishes, by virtue of them being your wishes. Wishing that girls should be attracted by some other more fair and rational standard is f…
/r/seduction24/01/11 12:19 PM
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Its a big deal cause guys who pass shit tests get laid.
/r/seduction22/01/11 03:02 PM
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If nothing else its a hoop to see if you'll jump through. It would be very beta behaviour to take the purse (the whole behaviour stinks of trained dog frame). I guess, the test is to see if you'll comply and act beta. Also, if you do comply, its a good indication that you view her as higher value than yourself. Imagine a bum on the street asking you to hold his bag. You'd tell him to quit dreaming. So why would you consider doing for the girl? Cause your mind wants to trade status for approval. …
/r/seduction22/01/11 12:52 PM
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"I've seen better." Edit: this test is really just a test to see if you'll get sexually excited about it. Remain unsexual, and unfased. Frame it as no big deal, nothing out of the ordinary. Remember, you're already selected - you're living in abundance, and petty sexual displays mean nothing to your completely enriched sex life.
/r/seduction22/01/11 12:35 PM
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From an evolutionary stand point, words cant matter. If word were all it took, then every guy would just string a sentence or two together, fool the female and successfully pass on his genes. Females who looked at only the surface value of words mated with chodes and got their genes weeded out of existance. Females that looked at the subcomunication, body language, vocal tonality, facial expression, micro expressions etc etc, stood a higher chance of selecting higher quality genes and resourcefu…
/r/seduction22/01/11 12:23 PM
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Are you some kind of player? Say yes. You can do anything if you're congruent with it anyway. I remember Brad P saying its a good thing to be seen as a player 'because players are in short demand'. There's no need to be all serious and super-well-intentioned (at least to the point of making a show of it). Be fun. Being a player is not generally a deal breaker.
/r/seduction22/01/11 12:15 PM
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"It's OK to be a man" I love this. It is one way society has gone completely wayward, and now us guys have to unlearn that shit. Thank you for reminding me. It will be one of my mantras from now on.
/r/seduction22/01/11 12:10 PM
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12950 spectators, superfans
/r/seduction25/12/10 04:41 PM
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you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
/r/seduction01/12/10 12:02 PM
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Well said. I'm sick of hater threads popping up and getting 150 upvotes, meanwhile we all get sucked into defending ourselves. If any subscribers find anything offensive here, unsub and don't peek back in.
/r/seduction01/12/10 11:57 AM
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Can I ask, how do you address the problem raised by the authority frame that that therapy provides? As in, you give the psychologist authority over your self esteem and beliefs, or rely on him to reinforce your self esteem. A lot of inner game material I've read tells you to be the authority on yourself. Self confidence and self belief come from within. What do you say to people who raise this criticsm? Note: I am not trying to be a jerk. I have never been to a psychologist so I have absolutley …
/r/seduction03/11/10 02:20 PM
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I bet everyone else in the crowd was thinking "I couldn't do that, what would people think of me???" Looking around though, everyone thought he was awesome.
/r/seduction03/11/10 01:36 PM
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you could benefit from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Yes, I just started reading Intimate Connections on advice from another Sedditor. Im about halfway through it at the moment and it has already helped me out. It deals with a self talk which is a major part of anyones inner game. Every PUA guru has mentioned self talk or self love at some point. I haven't finished it, but I'm sure this book would complement some cognitive behavioural therapy from a professional. I'm actually considering go…
/r/seduction03/11/10 01:26 PM
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^ Assertion with out reasoning.
/r/seduction03/11/10 01:05 PM
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but ballsy.
/r/seduction01/11/10 01:59 PM
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the key thing is make eye contact But don't value scan. Value scanning is where you look around the club trying to see where all the hot chicks are or anything else of value. NO. You are the party. You're having fun. The value is you, not somewhere else. If someone so happens to catch your eye, then give good eye contact and initiate (grab hands / make her twirl / high five). Act like you're the one with value. Act like you just got a blow job 15 minutes ago - all your sexual needs just got fufi…
/r/seduction01/11/10 01:52 PM
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Once, I was on the dance floor having a good time. I turned around and saw two reasonable attractive girls right next to me. I made eye contact, and BAM! One of them pulls the finger at me and pretty much tells me to fuck off. I was pretty amped, and was focussed on building and mantaining my state. I laughed. I laughed so hard. It was fantastic - her trying to pull me down was a state pump. I stood my ground and felt great. How did they react? The other one got attracted. I had passed a shit te…
/r/seduction01/11/10 01:35 PM
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nice kino escalate at the end
/r/seduction31/10/10 08:41 AM
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The important thing to note here is that she now sees you as high value. Keep this in your mind set at all times. You are high value. Believe it, and all your microbehavious and way of being will follow.
/r/seduction29/10/10 04:22 PM
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did you do this yourself?
/r/seduction27/10/10 10:50 AM
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Well, I gave this a try... Bull shit. You've never once contributed anything to this community, except to hate on it. Google search and reddit search proves it. You are blinded by your hate and ego. It is insanely obvious that seddit is helpful to a lot of people.
/r/seduction25/10/10 11:14 AM
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Bootcamp!
/r/seduction25/10/10 10:52 AM
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I guess the big problem here in seddit is we are talking about pickup in front of too many nonPUAs. In a way, we're only making it harder on ourselves, by publicizing our techniques. We need support from our community, but the actual community of PUAs is only a tiny minority amongst 10k people. I agree 100%. Seddit is not 'the seduction community'. Look at the votes on this page. So really, I don't know why I bother posting here.
/r/seduction25/10/10 10:44 AM
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So, what do you really think willl happen if you show this post to a newbie to seduction. Will your rant solve all his dating problems? Will he be able to man up and get results? Show this post a 1000 newbies and tell me what proportion you expect to get a date that night? On a side note: I'm seriously suprised at all the silent haters. 116 upvoters? Do people feel threatened by this comunity? WTF!
/r/seduction25/10/10 10:31 AM
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Doesn't matter. Keep plowing.
/r/seduction25/10/10 10:23 AM
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Looks are only important if you don't have game. If you've got game, it doesn't make a difference.
/r/seduction23/10/10 12:37 AM
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I don't know why, but it's surprisingly often an attraction killer in my experience. I reckon its because a) You become the 'reacher' in the relationship and b) A billion other chodes eagerly friended her and predictably coment on every status she writes... especially when she very attractive. Puts you in the same category as them - you become just another boring guy that resorted to facebook.
/r/seduction19/10/10 11:02 AM
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This mentality also applies to push/pull. If she pushes you away, don't try pull her in. That will only make her push you even further away. Meet push with push, and pull with pull. Does seddit agree?
/r/seduction19/10/10 10:22 AM
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Don't give women any attention. Make them want your attention by ignoring them. No... its more like give them attention when they've earnt it. Don't do her any favors. That makes her think of you as a doormat that dispenses favors, rather than an equal. More like "Don't supplicate" Ie, don't do anything to her any more than you would someone you weren't romantically interested in. Again, let her earn your favours. If you do supplicate, it conveys you percieve her value is higher than yours and t…
/r/seduction18/10/10 09:53 AM
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WTF has this got to do with seddit? that guy was an opportunist and a cunt bag. Definitely not alpha.
/r/seduction16/10/10 04:53 PM
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MENERGY!
/r/seduction16/10/10 02:27 AM
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Yeah, his post was pretty damn vague. He couldn't name a single example of what he was saying. Pure assertion. No value added IMO.
/r/seduction15/10/10 04:13 PM
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It basically conveys that your wingman doesn't have faith in you and has to over compensate for you. You come off as low value. Tell him to STFU.
/r/seduction13/10/10 11:44 PM
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Don't reward bad behaviour. You might think she was joking with that last line but personally I don't. If she was joking, she'd have put a smiley or a lol at the end. At the end of the day, you've shown interest without knowing her much. Thus you have come across as low value. If all it takes is someone you don't know to commet on your status to get you interested then it conveys you live in scarcity, which is needy, low status, and low value.
/r/seduction13/10/10 11:39 PM
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"...A common problem is attempting to display a willingness to commit value before demonstrating that you actually have any value in the first place. (That is, trying to go right into the connection phase before attraction). For example, it is cliche in our society to start a conversation with a women by offering to buy her a drink. But this is too early in the conversation. You have not yet had enough time to demonstrate value, and likewise she has not yet had the opportunity to win you over an…
/r/seduction13/10/10 12:58 PM
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Tell her she's gonna have to see you in person to size up your hands. Theres so much cocky-funny to be made with this one.
/r/seduction09/10/10 05:30 PM
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Anyone gonna try this? I would rather use this later on in the interaction. lol.
/r/seduction09/10/10 05:17 PM
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Plus, there are more girls so you can play the jealousy card I think OP should go open minded. What if there is a way cooler hotter HB there? Could miss out.
/r/seduction09/10/10 05:14 PM
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A thought though: If someone is breaking up with me, I want as much closure as possible. Thats why the 'why' questions comes up.
/r/seduction09/10/10 04:58 PM
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Wow, you got invested pretty quick. Stop idealising the woman, and stop idealising the imaginary relationship you're playing out in your mind. (Advice from David Deangelo)
/r/seduction09/10/10 07:16 AM
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What if you've had some truly in the moment crazy high chemistry-ridden moments together? She's just gonna say "What about that time when X?". I think you're better off saying I don't feel the chemistry anymore. Which is ultimately true - you are breaking up with her after all right?
/r/seduction09/10/10 07:10 AM
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Why do you feel the need to put us in a box? This applies to pick up too - don't try put the relationship in a box. Just let it happen. I think it was Lovedrop who said this.
/r/seduction09/10/10 06:54 AM
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Thats far different from what you first wrote. Don't hate the criticsm, learn from it.
/r/seduction30/09/10 12:36 PM
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You're talking about being self less, or experiencing 'no-mind'. Thats different. Introversion is usually borne out of a fear of how the self will be judged. Shyness is about being afraid of criticsm. Edit: also, why did you post this 2 months afterwards?
/r/seduction26/09/10 03:46 AM
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Is it really okay to just...decide my own worth? Yes, absolutely. It is the most empowering thing. Of course you can decide you're own value. You can decide other peoples value (to you) can't you? You do this with out conscious choice. Even if you didn't wan't to decide other peoples value, you still would end up doing it. You can't help it. So why can't you decide your own value? You decide others. I must admit, this whole discussion does get a bit tricky - how does one consolidate the fact tha…
/r/seduction25/09/10 07:54 PM
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You need to start talking to yourself in a better way. Start by making a list of 10 things why you think you're an attractive person. I know that right now, you don't believe it, and you're negative mind will find a million reasons not to pick up a simple pen and paper and do this exercise, but please... burn 20 minutes and do this exercise. 10 or more things about you that makes you in your opinion, an attractive, valuable person. Its only 20 minutes, you seriously have very little to lose. You…
/r/seduction24/09/10 12:00 PM
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Sounds a bit defensive, and a bit resentful to the friend. A better vesion would be "ohhhh I'm sure she'll learn that in no time" and smile.
/r/seduction18/09/10 04:04 PM
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yeah... I personally wouldn't touch her with a barge pole. No offense, she's just not my type.
/r/seduction18/09/10 03:08 PM
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Girls like trouble. You could have said "That's an understatement", or anything that shows you know you're trouble, you like it and you wish you were more trouble, and frame it that she loves trouble. It would come off as bad boy :)
/r/seduction18/09/10 10:29 AM
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to make us do whatever they want. That's why we distrust their advice Maybe for you, but thats not the case for me. For me, I only trust advice that has a solid backing in either evolutionary phsychology, social dynamics or is field tested. Not social conditioning bullshit you get when you ask women or AFC's. Any advice you get from them is corrupted by social conditioning. On top of that, 'attraction is not a choice', it happens automatically. You don't get a say in who you're attracted to. Peo…
/r/seduction23/07/10 01:22 PM
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Day one here. Lord give me strength.
/r/seduction16/07/10 01:05 PM
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Dork.
/r/seduction16/07/10 01:03 PM
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nice try mel gibson.
/r/seduction16/07/10 01:02 PM
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unless YOU have a problem with it.
/r/seduction02/07/10 11:48 AM
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social proof. Lots of social proof. I've had it happen to me.
/r/seduction02/07/10 11:47 AM
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I did follow you link, I just presumed your sarcasm was limited to your speil about relationship_advice. Cool story bro.
/r/seduction27/06/10 08:25 AM
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I never said 100%. If you haven't read the game, then you need to because there's a lot of context you've missed out that the wider community is familiar with.
/r/seduction27/06/10 05:54 AM
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I like your metaphor, and it feels true in my experience. My attitude right now is to be social in every situation I can - "if I can't say 'yo' or 'hi' to the guy walking past me in the street, how am I gonna approach the more serious sets?". So I do say hi, and make small talk, and I've found my confidence has increased, and my AA decreased. And damn that feels good! Your metaphor will only add to my momentum. Thank you.
/r/seduction27/06/10 04:17 AM
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I'd say 95%+... I thought this post was a joke when I first saw it.
/r/seduction27/06/10 03:46 AM
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I said every women. You are talking in a localised sense. Hence nothing to do with what I said. You are changing your argument. So what do you propose then when dealing with a 'high value woman' who won't give you the time of the day. What would you do? Tuck your tail between your legs and walk away and then bitch about guys who actually approached and stood up to her? Come on, lets hear it. What would you do?
/r/seduction19/06/10 12:28 PM
1

thats got nothing to do with what I just said.
/r/seduction19/06/10 12:10 PM
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to know what percentile of hotness you'd have to be aware of how many other girls are hotter an not hotter than you. You don't have that type of data, they don't, no one does. So you are wrong. There's simply too many women to know. i can't be bothered arguing with you anymore. if you want to believe the power is in the woman's hand, then do it. See what kind of evidence that produces you.
/r/seduction19/06/10 12:02 PM
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ok, at the risk of being further trolled, I will point out why you're wrong. There probably is a bell curve. It doesn't make much difference. Girls arn't precisely aware of what percentile of hotness they stand in. While it may be objectively true that shes in the top 10% of hot girls, that means very little. It does mean that she's gonna be relatively hot. That means theres still gonna be thousands of girls equally or more attractive - so there is still an abundance. Also, the value differentia…
/r/seduction18/06/10 11:45 PM
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Her henchmen, however, rented with money, or with hopes of fucking her, easily can and will. So you best watch your neck son. TROLL! lol you were trolling all along
/r/seduction18/06/10 11:23 PM
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anyone got a mirror? youtube says its blocked on copyright grounds for my country.
/r/seduction18/06/10 11:21 PM
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SOI - Statement of interest. Well an SOI works similarly. You demonstrate you are unafraid to tell her straight out what you can do for her sexually. Most guys don’t do that. They are timid. They try to sneak her into bed. They hope that rapport or kino will be enough. Well some times it is, but many times it is not - you have to put the picture in her mind. You have to get over the avoidance of risk. Instead court risk. She needs to see that you can work around her anti-slut protocol. She WANTS…
/r/seduction17/06/10 11:56 PM
1

I thought you were saying that there's only female selection. My bad.
/r/seduction12/06/10 01:25 AM
1

yeah sorry, I realise now I was projecting on to your post. I 'read' into your post as saying that she will dump his ass real quick. I need to fix my inner game :)
/r/seduction12/06/10 01:23 AM
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it must never stop or she will dump his ass. I've seen a lot of couples put up with a lot of bull shit before they finally break up. Pair bonds arn't easily broken, and emotional investments are not so easily retracted. Thoughts?
/r/seduction11/06/10 02:45 PM
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according to the votes we have 7 beta males here. Edit: I think I enraged their passive aggression.
/r/seduction11/06/10 02:42 PM
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In a general sense, thats true. But all the women are competing for a very select few high value guys. Think tribal times, where theres only a handful of the Tribal Leader and his 'leutenants'. Have you ever had a woman chase you? Any genes that dissallowed a woman to chase the real high value mates would have been weeded out. Long ago.
/r/seduction11/06/10 02:32 PM
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Dude, no one wants to get the girl because of some lies or tricks. That would only make you feel more lame than ever.
/r/seduction11/06/10 09:42 AM
2

I can't even read your posts ay
/r/seduction10/06/10 04:13 AM
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if you lay 500 girls, then you're probably qualified to teach boot camps for lotsa $$$
/r/seduction06/06/10 12:11 PM
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Perth Australia
/r/seduction05/06/10 07:30 AM
5

I may go to my local book store to pick up a wing man. yeah..........
/r/seduction05/06/10 07:22 AM
6

rather than invest in the outcome, invest in the mistake.
/r/seduction04/06/10 06:28 PM
0

I like your post. To be fair, women are more likely to complain about a guy's wussyness though. I agree that if you're realistic about our species, you shouldn't expect a hot women to think guys arn't attracted to her. Having said that, don't discount men's ability to put their attraction aside and enjoy a solid friendship. Learn to do this!
/r/seduction03/06/10 09:52 AM
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if heats an issue, replace them regularly. They aren't that expensive. Edit: or just get laid more regularly.
/r/seduction02/06/10 04:25 AM
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No I have to disagree. You may think you have to have a miniscule amount of validation, but in reality you don't. Look around you.. is this moment any different from all those other times you didn't need/want validation? No. Your neediness is mind made, and not necessary. Also, just because something is conditioned, doesn't mean you can't do without it. Many people are conditioned to believe in god, or follow this or that doctrine. Yet we see many theists convert to atheism for life. In any case…
/r/seduction31/05/10 10:40 AM
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Got any titles for us?
/r/seduction30/05/10 01:00 PM
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I have to disagree... It is not essential to seek or have validation. This is what enlightenment is about. The problem is that the ego wants validation, and the ego is considered normal. The ego is not necessary.
/r/seduction30/05/10 12:44 PM
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lies and bullshit. If you DHV enough, they try seduce you. So STFU and learn the game.
/r/seduction29/05/10 06:33 PM
1

It does look painfull.
/r/seduction29/05/10 12:22 AM
1

The more you push, the more she pulls.
/r/seduction27/05/10 11:45 PM
2

Yeah, and its hard to use the 'break raport' strat when you've got a massive grin on your face.
/r/seduction27/05/10 11:43 PM
2

If smiling was all you had to do, we would have evolved to be a bunch of smiling goofs. Don't over-estimate the value of a smile (and don't underestimate it either), but don't rely on smiling. Don't rely on anything, flick all her attraction switches if you can.
/r/seduction27/05/10 11:42 PM
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likewise, you are such a great PUA you can fuck around behind your wife's back, or find a new mate who is of higher value. But you're not gonna do that, are you? For the same reasons why your wife won't. Pick your wife wisely, and don't under estimate love.
/r/seduction27/05/10 11:38 PM
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I see what you mean. The value of the males goes up because it can, yet the value of females don't because that's largely pre-determined by their looks. Thats alot of generalisations tho.
/r/seduction27/05/10 02:22 PM
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The more options someone has the harder it is to stand out as being an option worthy of considering. Just because she has a heap of high value guys offering to her doesn't mean she's not gonna choose one of them. And there will be heaps of other females choosing 'one of them' too, so I see no reason to adopt your scarcity mindset. And anyway, PUA's don't offer themselves. You don't enter a relationship with a chick as soon as she decides 'yes' for you. Maybe you're not so sure about her, and you…
/r/seduction26/05/10 01:14 PM
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I re-read your comment with the voice in my head doing exactly as you said. I think if I did this with every post I read, it could be an innovative way to internalize the above information. HMMM.
/r/seduction24/05/10 10:34 AM
2

I find your response hilarious :)
/r/seduction24/05/10 09:58 AM
2

You just made the Naturalistic Fallacy.
/r/seduction24/05/10 09:58 AM
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I hope you're right. How do you know this? I am greatly intrigued!
/r/seduction23/05/10 04:35 PM
2

I was interested in your take on it. It seems you are not familiar with the concept of the ego which is a shame. There are some really good books on ego and enlightenment. In retrospect, I asked that question because you seemed to be talking through the ego. Based on your response, I highly doubt you have mastered attraction and seduction.
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:15 PM
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Cheers dude! If you could find that article it would be greatly appreciated, probably by more than just me. Your response leads me to a next question: What do you think will happen when "The Game The Movie" comes out?
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:09 PM
2

I was being serious! Surely you have some understanding of how the ego sits in all this? I see it everywhere.
/r/seduction23/05/10 01:48 PM
2

What are your thoughts on the ego, or lack thereof?
/r/seduction23/05/10 12:17 PM
3

How would you reccomend going about telling AFC friends about the seduction phenomena? Would you recomend it at all? My biggest problem right now is I don't have anyone to game with. Right now, I desperately need a friend/wing whose long term 'game goals' align with mine, so I'm thinking of either telling a friend about the community, or joining/contributing to the local lair. Do you have any pointers? Also, thank you for this AMA.
/r/seduction23/05/10 11:55 AM
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He doesn't buy into her frame.
/r/seduction22/05/10 10:11 AM
1

Yeah... any ladies reading this should go research "the marriage squeeze".
/r/seduction21/05/10 11:47 AM
2

I LOL'd when she said "Do you like horses?" hahahaha
/r/seduction19/05/10 11:43 PM
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I think this is how some girls feel when surrounded by AFCs. Hence, the bitch shield.
/r/seduction18/05/10 11:52 PM
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Woah, your grave just got deeper. keep digging hahaha. BTW, you appear misandrist because you called someone an asshole, not because you defend women who 'put up these assholes'. Your defensiveness is also indicative of this.
/r/seduction18/05/10 10:13 AM
1

It is fair, I believe, to refer to you as a hypocrite at this juncture.
/r/seduction18/05/10 04:27 AM
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Tsk tsk, more frame control.
/r/seduction12/05/10 10:46 AM
1

Wow, you stood there for 5 minutes? That was better than tucking your tail between your legs and running for the hills. Why did you ask to sit anyway? Shouldn't you sit down, and open as if nothing out of the ordinary happened?
/r/seduction07/05/10 11:51 PM
1

A better suggestion would be to approach her politely, ask if she has a minute and if she doesn't, shrug and act disinterested. I refuse to do this because its almost apologetic. Its like, 'give me permission to talk to you'. It lacks balls and its wussy.
/r/seduction07/05/10 11:49 PM
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+1 for Power of Now - you cannot go past it. Its been my biggest break through. Also, read his follow up A New Earth.
/r/seduction06/05/10 11:44 PM
1

WHERE DO I GET THAT OIL?
/r/seduction06/05/10 02:43 PM
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Get her drunk, and ask for a sensual massage.
/r/seduction04/05/10 11:11 AM
3

Not long term.
/r/seduction04/05/10 11:11 AM
1

Social proof is not limited to the attraction arena.
/r/seduction01/05/10 05:44 AM
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but who cares about the actual friendship right? :)
/r/seduction01/05/10 05:39 AM
1

Aside from all the physical stuff here (gym / hair / makeup), one of the best things a girl can do is project a high energy vibe. Displaying positivity and energy conveys youth. Youth conveys reproductive value. Also, be kind. This, IMO, conveys reproductive value too.
/r/seduction28/04/10 11:47 PM
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a fuck close with a 6 beats a kiss close with a 9 DAE agree? I don't, I'd rather kiss a 9.
/r/seduction27/04/10 11:34 PM
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Cheers for that tip by the way.
/r/seduction27/04/10 11:09 AM
0

Excuse my ignorance, what is OEC? Why is it $10 000.
/r/seduction12/03/10 11:07 AM
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