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I was listening to Hank Williams this week and heard it again there.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 01:38 PM
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Embrace your hunger. Your reaction to it tells you something important about yourself.
/r/askMRP28/09/16 08:10 PM
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Right out of the gate, let me state that I got some major help last week from the OYS respondents. I was messing up shit tests like you wouldn’t believe with way too much force and not nearly enough wit. I’ve started at zero and have been as playful as possible when I engage the old ball and chain. Night and day and I’ve found that the change in my behavior brought a massive increase in my confidence at home and at work. It’s like something really clicked and, with all the lifting, the weight lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 06:51 PM
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I got a song for you, "There's more pretty girls than one."
/r/askMRP24/09/16 06:49 PM
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I'll oblige. It's over there ----> Do you need a bib when you're spoon feed, too?
/r/askMRP24/09/16 01:12 AM
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Wise you are, Persaeus.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 06:52 PM
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Then there's some fear and anger in my frame. I'll work on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 05:21 PM
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Dude, thank you. This is it. She eats it up when I respond like this. My problem is overthinking everything and I have one hell of a male hamster I try not to feed anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 05:18 PM
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Thank you. This gets to the heart of my problems (read, my ego investment in the relationship) and I went over this section again and again when I decided I didn't have to keep pulling her out of the emotional and physical exhaustion she finds herself in. By framing this as me choosing whether to assist in problem solving, I am acting from my frame. I'd gotten to the point of feeling run down by always having to pick her up and my deciding not to unless she comes to me grew out of that. But the …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 05:03 PM
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And by the way, this was superbly helpful. Perhaps others will chime in to correct me but it's got me thinking in the right direction. Sometimes my shit test responses work perfectly but I've only had a few responses that did. The rest of them probably come across as posturing and "impostering." The ones that worked came from who I am and seemed almost playful and engaging. She ate it up. I've got to approach this like a comedian - find out what works for me and the audience. I use this stuff on…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 05:00 PM
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I'm on a roll: here's the ones I wanted to think through: *"Only if you..." - Ties desire to outcome = negotiating desire. *"Gold digger" - No amusement or agree/amplify "Why are you so worried?" - Validates the feeling and comes off as defensive. *"You know we aren't exclusive." -Hmmm...this one seems valid if delivered right. I couldn't pull it off but I have tried something similar once or twice.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 04:56 PM
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I appreciate the help. I think I can spot my problem in some of these. The few that are over the top (e.g. "only if you fuck me later," "gold digger", "you know we aren't exclusive", "Why are you so worried about it?" although this last one not so much) could almost have been my response so I'm going to focus on these in particular. I typically don't go so over the top but I come close sometimes. I want to think through these. The rest of the responses are mostly from a weak point of origin and …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 04:51 PM
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Thanks. I should have provided the comfort needed in the moment and fogged my way out of it. I've done it before with success.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 01:54 PM
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Okay, fucked some shit up last weekend. On Friday, I realized that I had withdrawn comfort from the relationship while I upped the alpha. The alpha essentially neutralized whatever comfort I continued to provide. I had done this because I’d identified her as an avoidant-personality type and that I was her emotional crutch who went to her and pulled her out of the emotional morass she gets in. I’d done it since our first days together. And she was my vampire a la MAP. So I was working through tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 11:13 AM
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Ever consider a mediation retreat? Vippasanna or something similar. That will push you to dealing with the fears inside in a structured and safe environment. Plus, it accomplishes your goal of getting away. Only problem is you're left with only yourself for company, which is oddly enough your goal. Along with lifting, meditation is one of the few natural things that can radically improve your life inside of a few months.
/r/askMRP19/09/16 04:39 PM
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I got the finances shit together very gradually pre-RP by about a year. I think me taking that first step was a small part in moving in this very needed direction. Anyways, she fucking resisted it tooth and nail and I made the classic mistake of arguing with my wife (I used to do it all the time). So I just very gradually and fairly quietly started tracking spending and put together my own system that helped me predict spending and figure out what we need to spend versus what we actually spend. …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 02:05 AM
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Keep: *Lifting like a mofo. I've got a new three-way split where I do legs, chest, and back on three separate days and then take a day or two off. It works as I'm feeling jacked as hell but I crashed hard this weekend. Two naps on one day and I was back in the game. Lots of compliments so the changes are showing through the clothes. *Improving clothes. Now that my waist is down, I'm replacing my whole wardrobe and having a tailor take in everything so it's an extra slim cut. *My stamina problems…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 01:56 AM
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Keep *Finances: keep discipline. It’s tempting to waffle every now and then and not manage every last dollar and hold myself accountable. But my plan is a good one and will succeed if given time. I’m reading a few books on personal finance and hoping to keep maximizing my strength with money. *Lifting: I’ve upped my protein intake in a major way. I went from 1g protein/1kg body weight to 1.5g/1kg body weight. What a huge difference it has made! A friend who hasn’t seen me in a couple weeks asked…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 10:30 AM
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Nice work. What dread level have you worked up to?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/16 10:52 PM
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So you had one giant covert contact with your wife, she somehow managed to fulfill her end, and your life is still on track to awesometown. I've got to get some of what you're smoking.
/r/askMRP02/09/16 01:41 PM
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The key here is playful and joking. I've got the kino thing going and actively try to game her but an extra dose of playfulness would help.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/16 03:14 AM
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My app is acting weird - it posted two exact same replies so I deleted one and now I see they both disappeared. Anyways, you're right about porn/fap. Just got to get out of my head. And holy shit, I was apparently giving myself a Barbara Streisand dose of estrogen via milk. I cut that shit way down today. I think just getting the fuck out of my head would get me far along. I got to keep the meditation train going - it's only way for me to still the din. Thanks at any rate!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/16 03:09 AM
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Up vote on what the vets think about her DEERing. This was my exclusive territory in the relationship but now I never DEE and am working hard on not Ring. And it's like she picks up where I left off/quit. This is the new terriitory I talk about in this OYS. The other part is that now she loses her shit when the kids are blowing some situation up but I'm calm and collected. I definitely created the space in our relationship in which this was acceptable but now I see it's not and what she had to p…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 03:29 PM
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Keep *Financial: Working on maximizing savings/investments at the expense of frivolous expenses. Revising financial plans to put us on a path to the point where our money works for us and not the other way around. *Frame: I’ve got this thing going pretty well. I’ve let it slip a moment here or there but it wasn’t back to beta. Oddly, it was like new territory of fuck up. Just not the right response or giving time and attention when it’s not earned, not because I’m beta and needy (still am, no do…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 11:51 PM
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It seems like you haven't read the BPP's book. Your comment about not wanting/ready to move forward with dread is addressed there. My recap of dread for the first levels that don't seem "real" to you: dread gets women's attraction mechanisms moving in your direction. IDFK which direction you are moving with this but it's not the right one. My guess is that you're using RP knowledge loosy goosey to demonstrate even lower SMV.
/r/askMRP30/08/16 08:44 PM
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Well, shit...off to the kitchen to mix up a big ol' protein shake!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/16 03:30 AM
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Point taken. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/16 03:28 AM
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Yeah, in the sack. Seems like I took a few steps backwards when I really started to hit the gym. Stress is up at work, so could be that, too. Thanks at any rate.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/16 03:19 PM
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Persaeus nailed it. Why would you tell her you don't want duty sex? Just pull out half way through, STFU, and go to the bathroom. Opening your mouth about this with the past history is accepting her invitation to come into her frame. I can guess how that is going to go. I am pissed because i finally realize how her brain works... This was me until I realized that, as the male counterpart, I had vastly different but complementary behavior/thought processes to hers that facilitated my own slide de…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/16 10:38 AM
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Keep (doing): *Lifting hard. Had to quit squatting (and with it SLs) due to knee weakness. Using leg press and machines for legs now. I'm sore as hell so that's good. Upper body is coming along - switched to incline squats and other variations for upper body as I've been reading up on gains for tall guys and how to overcome the inherent disadvantages in building bulk. Eating 1g protein/1kg body weight/1 day. Using IF to keep the weight off (16/8 and 2 fasting days). Hard to do IF and try to bulk…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/16 10:29 AM
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Good advice. If you don't know which way the wind is blowing, take your hand off the rudder. You'll then know soon enough and your course and actions will be clear. This shit works but it's a potent remedy that can work for good and ill, depending on the user.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 10:32 PM
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STFU is your best friend right now. AA and AM get all the love and interest, especially from the noobs who realize they've been shit tested into oblivion over the years and just aren't going to take it anymore. STFU allows you to start seeing the outlines of the battleground you've just realized you were always standing on. AA and AM have a place and time and have proceeded naturally from lots of STFU for me. It's low risk, high reward behavior at first and you seem to have it working for you. K…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 08:07 PM
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MAP is covered in Mindful Attraction Plan by Athol. Just take it slow with the theory. Hit the basics and make steady progress. This stuff is starting to click for me four months later and the confusion is lifting and clarity is taking its place. Actions and decisions come faster and they're usually the correct ones. I have the same back sliding process when we're having sex regularly. I try to contain my exuberance when things are good (part of my frame) but am glad I can give her of my time an…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 05:01 PM
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Good advice. I need to grab my balls and get both the positive (chores and other things that build character) and negative (discipline) structures going a little better. At least they listen to me. Ashamed to admit that I'd looked to my wife for this shit as she seemed to know what the hell to do when they were newborns, why not now? Well, now I know better.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 04:51 PM
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Your "get it" comment clarified an issue I had been thinking through. An old buddy from way back used to have no luck at all with the ladies. To be honest, he showed a lot of omega behavior and was pretty ugly, too. But he is smart as a mother, witty, and confident in his own weird way. He has a high status job now, been divorced, and finds himself still single. His latest LTR is miles above his SMV, she's pretty hot. But she's got a kid and is past the wall (so actually a lower SMV than looks w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 12:44 PM
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Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/16 10:17 AM
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I got to the realization, that I am not getting as much sex as I want because ... wait for it ... I do not initiate/ initiate hard enough / bailing out at the first sign of LMR. So it is really me, not them... Funny it took almost a year of reading books (rereading them) and MRP subreddit. I know the feeling. My weekly count started going up once it clicked in my head that no doesn't always mean no and that she sure hell isn't going to initiate so I sure as hell better. I think, however, that th…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/16 03:01 AM
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Keep: *Owning the finances and driving towards our financial goals with determined precision. I got this shit straightened out 1.5 years before I found the red pill and I swear it was what got me pointed on the right path. If the rest of the good red pill habits I'm trying to build become as automatic as the A-game I run on the finances, then things will work out fine for me. *STFU. Due to the mechanics of how my new frame interacts with my wife's, I need to keep studying what works and what doe…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/16 02:48 AM
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Introduce her to Chad - that's golden! You're the prize, or at least you should be. But it sounds to me like you're giving the product away for free. If you truly suspect medical problems but she won't do anything about, your only recourse remains what it always was - take care of yourself.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 12:51 PM
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Thanks, brother. I tried to get by with just the YouTube podcasts and his dread posts. It probably did more harm than good. The book is setting me straight.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 12:46 PM
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The Bluepillprofessor wrote a book with a title much like your post's title. It answers your questions. It's entitled "Saving a low sex marriage: a man's guide to dread, seduction, and the long game". Available via Amazon. Just bought my copy yesterday and have been devouring it. You will probably want to rule out medical issues as well.
/r/askMRP11/08/16 09:12 PM
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I meant to communicate that a lot of what I have been doing is sprinkling alpha on myself and going for a change...in her. I also meant that she sees right through this for the bullshit it is. I got a long, long ways to go but the journey is looking better than the starting point all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 07:01 PM
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Thanks, spot on with everything. I'm buying the professor's book today. No, I'm not ready for moving beyond this. I can sense I need her validation even though I tell myself I don't. Not sure 'fake it till you make it' works here.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 12:19 PM
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I think it really means I get sand in my vagina when I get rejected even though I thought I'd sprinkled on enough alpha to hide my butthurt to my wife. Thanks for calling that bullshit out. It's some of my trademarked beta speak for "I need to be validated because I'm becoming a better man," if not by my wife then by MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 11:51 AM
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WISNIFG is the last book you want to use to keep conversations alive. Any PUA book is a good candidate.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 08:31 PM
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Thanks. I'll have a look. Sounds like something that could straighten my head out.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 05:38 PM
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I do a lot of cowboy and folk songs. It would be amusing to try a Marlboro Man look at some point.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 05:36 PM
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No, I mean how does "if she denies me five times, I do this. If ten times..." I've thought about doing this but when I get there she rations just enough sex to reset my internal pressure regulator.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 03:29 PM
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Well said, brother. I get this now in a way I never did before. I'm finally out of her frame and snapping the lines of my own for the first course of bricks. And you know what? I see now how crappy her frame is and was all these years. It's some serious low value shit and I can't believe I existed in it for ten years. And every ounce of that is on me - there is no one to blame but me. I owe it to myself and my family to be the oak - but I owe it to myself more than anyone else. Another way of pu…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 02:11 PM
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New format for me follows. Keep (doing): *Journaling about my progress down the rabbit hole. *Building a life outside my marriage. I am going to do open mic and have it on the calendar. The Book of Pook reminded me of the power musicians have over imagination (strong guy = safety; musician/creative type = imagination; imagination trumps strength but why not be/have both?). I’d let this important part of me go but it’s what used to be my primary attraction mechanism. *Lifting. I hurt my wrist so …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 01:52 PM
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I'd like to know how the denials ladder works out for you. I'm taking a different tact. I'm simply using any denials to reinforce my good behavior in the right direction and to remember that I can't backslide into beta boy.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 01:11 PM
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Needy = operating in her frame. You need to stop doing that. STFU and disengage if she is less than pleasant when you, the prize, are trying to engage. You still won't be in your own frame yet but at least you're not in hers. This is where I'm at right now. Just laying low and trying to lead on everything I can. The "Getting Started? STFU" post in MRP by spexer is a good starter. Are you lifting? Reading? Cause nothing is going to get better if you're not.
/r/askMRP06/08/16 03:58 AM
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As a noob, it sure doesn't feel like I have any advantages in this chess game. This strategy revolves around covert communications (lead the hamster through the maze to your desired exit). In my case, it's like trying to learn how the pieces move while simultaneously playing a grandmaster in a high stakes game. My wife is a lifelong master at this shit and I'm just opening my eyes to it. The only advantage I have is the wisdom of those who have gone before and the dormant confidence that the iro…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 07:35 PM
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Thanks, man. There are no shortcuts and never were. Funny how I've internalized that to the nth degree at work but at home it's been slow to sink in.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 06:35 PM
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First post but been lurking for four months and following the MRP strategy for about three months with dread 1 & 2. I’ve progressed a bit further but want to go very slow. I've gotten over a bit of the anger and in its place have some OI. What I'm owning: Job: Got a big title promotion today. No raise but the title just makes my fricking day. It’s so much easier to DHV at work now that I’ve gotten the title recognition that I’m at a certain level. Lifting/Physical Health: good God, I see now how…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 07:18 PM
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