dookieeatinggrin Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	Fuse is lit		dookieeatinggrin	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/20 04:17 AM
0	Recording verbal abuse (CA, USA)		dookieeatinggrin	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/20 04:31 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Emotionally abusive relationship You still need to leave. Going through same thing and all I can say is the only way out is OUT. There’s no hoping she’ll change or that she’ll magically want to leave you. It’s not going to change until you do something about it and the longer you wait the more your relationship becomes a model for your kids that this is the norm and the more they see you unhappy. The ink isn’t dry on my end but I feel a hell of a lot better and Im coming up on a year since filing. If you stay too long you may e…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/20 04:24 AM
2	Why is this so difficult? Hey man hang in there. Im in the middle of it but what I’ll tell you is from my experience every action I did felt like a weight off my shoulder. I felt better when I filed, more so when I served her and alot better after first hearing establishing a custody agreement. My last HUGE weight lifted was moving out a few weeks ago. If theres anytime to use that saying “the struggle is real” it’s this. Good luck to you and above all TAKE ACTION	/r/Divorce_Men	28/10/20 10:31 PM
1	I’m a retired attorney & new Men’s Divorce Coach. What topics would you be willing to be willing to pay for information on to get you through your divorce process or wish you had help with when you were getting divorced? P.S. I’m not trying to sell anything. Just have 50/50 custody in place. Still need to sell home (i moved with family). Already paying child and spousal support but no end in sight. The other attorney filed some paperwork (discovery) where im now getting a bunch of financial and benefit docs for them I assume to try to get more from me? Not hiding anything income wise so to me its a waste of time dragging things out unnecessarily	/r/Divorce_Men	23/10/20 08:41 PM
1	I’m a retired attorney & new Men’s Divorce Coach. What topics would you be willing to be willing to pay for information on to get you through your divorce process or wish you had help with when you were getting divorced? P.S. I’m not trying to sell anything. Im in California. My attorney I feel I’m am getting mixed messages from. In one aspect he says the court wont consider it, but then says they could if the proceeding went to trial. So I wonder why then if it does have a use and it could possibly be helpful is it not introduced early on? I understand the courts are pressed for time and the hearings seem to only handle one small issue at a time but from my perspective this is serious and I feel it’s something that needs to be addressed. I have doz…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/20 08:07 PM
4	I’m a retired attorney & new Men’s Divorce Coach. What topics would you be willing to be willing to pay for information on to get you through your divorce process or wish you had help with when you were getting divorced? P.S. I’m not trying to sell anything. How to make a case that the spouse is unfit in order to gain more custody and reduce spousal support. Dealing with extensive documented verbal abuse towards children and myself.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/20 01:12 AM
2	The judge has ruled Congratulations!	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/20 04:01 AM
2	Wife would rather watch Netlix over having an actual conversation with me Bro you lucky GTFO	/r/Divorce_Men	26/06/20 06:30 PM
3	Men: A Story Of Hope Thanks thats good to hear. I like that reality show analogy because sometimes when the wrong buttons get pushed pride takes over. I’m gonna keep that in mind and smile for the “cameras” whenever I’m getting shit on. I found that Alimentor app and have been using it for documentation. Its very useful if any of you guys are finding the necessary task of documenting things daunting and frustrating. Look it up. It’s been very helpful so far but I can’t say how much since I’m still in the early stage…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/20 06:43 AM
4	Long & Complicated .... I Need Help I feel for you man. I have to just say to STAY THE COURSE. It may take as long or a longer amount of time that the damage was being done for the damage to be repaired. She might be waiting for you to fuck up for validation or scared of another bad moment, but either way your focus is on your kids. Each extra minute, a smile, or any progress with the kids is a step in the right direction. As far as the pain, keep yourself busy with somethings positive that you enjoy or that will benefit your mind…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/05/20 09:25 PM
8	Need a Lawyer ASAP (LA/OC) I would get back home for your boys and document her behavior. For one, they need you and two, you don’t want to appear to be the one who jumped ship. The next time things get physical hopefully you can document that also and be able to have her taken into to custody. If it happens as often as you say don’t lay any “traps” or instigate a confrontation, just be in the mindset to try to always be ready to get proof because I’m sure you can tell when she’s about to blow her top. I’m kinda in simila…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/04/20 10:28 AM
9	Vegas Marriage You may have hit the “jackpot” my man. Not sure how things would go legally if your current marriage is legally void but you’ve been cohabitating and sharing finances for a long while. Good luck to you though.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/04/20 12:27 AM
3	Shelter in Place while Divorcing Same here even as I type this. And I had that old saying go through my mind this morning and I’m pretty sure if she was the last one on earth I’d take the northern hemisphere and tell her to fuck off.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/03/20 08:29 PM
3	Went to a wedding Don’t go to a wedding until you’re ready to go to a wedding to meet someone short term long term whatever. I’m kinda looking forward to it. But I would avoid for time being.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/02/20 06:03 AM
1	Sometimes you have to stay for the kids Start preparing to leave and salvage your life NOW. I’m out of that phase and can tell you trying to live through that will be worse for you and your kids. They want to see you happy. They are more observant than you think. Stay the course and in the long run they’ll see things for what they are with their own eyes. Good luck to you.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/20 03:13 AM
2	Fuse is lit Thanks man I will be documenting and getting past documentation I can find and get that together. Already heard the “I do all this and all that with the kids what do you do talk ”. I’m involved with my kids and I’ll back it up with proof.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/20 10:42 PM
2	Finally things are going my way.. Thanks man. I really needed to hear that. After supposedly promising myself last holidays were the final straw I found myself in 2019 almost at same spot. Today though I finally got to the last page of the docs (15+ years, house, kids, vehicles, debt, all that). I started it in August. This sub has been inspiring and frightening at the same time, but it’s stories like yours I keep coming back for. Thanks for sharing. Once I hit the first hill of this roller coaster ride I’m about to go on I’ll b…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/12/19 01:25 AM