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Holy shit, nail on head.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 07:26 PM
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Commenting to echo the statements above. She's already got someone that she isn't sure about and is just trying to do the bare minimum to keep you on the back burner without going full force because whomever it is, isn't committing to her yet. Once he does, you'll be sure that she'll file first. Take control of the situation and get the papers filed, stat.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 02:23 AM
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Stbxw is an ER nurse, cheated twice with coworkers. ER is a cesspool of bad humans. I'm sure there are exceptions, but heard many stories. Best to just stay away from nurses, unless you're a nurse yourself. Then by all means, have at it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 06:36 AM
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You're not crazy to think that, but don't waste your time overthinking it. I know it's easier said than done, but trust me when I say that it's a bottomless unproductive pit that puts you in a state of stagnancy and the longer you stay in that thought process, it starts affecting your mental health. Get into therapy, if you can afford it(if you're working, hopefully the company has some sort of EAP- employee assistance program where you can get a certain amount of free therapy sessions) and use …
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 09:09 PM
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Thank you, sorry you had to go through that, but glad you came out the other side and are able to thrive!
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 08:03 PM
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I feel that man, sorry you had to go through it. Hopefully you're in a good place now.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 08:02 PM
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Totally agree, therapy got me through the really dark times in the first couple of months after she finally decided on divorce (when she hadn't yet filed). It also helped me accept and acknowledge my part in the breakdown of the marriage. I should have been in therapy before though, due to her affairs and the passing of my dad. I could probably pinpoint when I exactly should have started therapy. July 2019 when her first affair came to light. Ever since then, I've been borderline depressed. I do…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 07:53 PM
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As everyone echos here, just focus on what you can control now. What can you do now that will serve the best interests of your future self and kids. That could be granular, like atomic habits. Just put one step in front of the other and don't stop to ruminate, as it's a powerful obstacle to progress that can trap you for as long as you let it. Not every day is going to be a good day, but you can start over tomorrow and try harder. When we're in the thick of it, it's hard to step back and refocus…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 10:04 PM
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I'm definitely going to have a listen, thanks! I definitely do see the value of stoicism in these difficult times. Every day is a new day and I get to practice being better at deploying and utilizing the coping skills I learn in therapy as well as the logic of accepting your situation as it is, not as it was, what it could be, what it ought to be etc. Just live in the moment and take it one step at a time, trying to be the best version of myself, accepting that there will be difficult days and p…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 09:52 PM
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Thanks for reaching out. Just a bit of a wobble last night, getting bogged down over stuff I have no control over. It passed thankfully. Onwards and upwards!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 09:47 PM
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Thank you! It takes practice, but I'm working on it. 🙂
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 09:46 PM
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Beautifully said man. Their actions that ultimately led to the breaking of trust in the marriage are not a reflection on me. The relationship never recovered from that, and it wasn't the last time it happened. Knowing that she's now dating the guy she had an affair with a few years ago sucks, but it says everything about her as a classless and morally bankrupt person. There's one of these motivational speakers, Mel Robbins. And this is not specific to marriage or divorce or cheating, but the mes…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 10:59 AM
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