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I would not base your self worth and understanding of your sexual life on teenage girls 😭 and most definitely not with Kpop Stans of all varieties of teenage girl
/r/ExRedPill25/06/24 07:49 PM
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Most college students are not having one night stands, just FYI. Obviously some are but most are not. It’s an illusion that is easy to get caught up in.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/24 07:43 PM
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For a guy, there’s no such thing as a nose that’s too big. Also you should know the female gaze is sooooo variable. It’s not like the male gaze where it’s stereotypical and clear cut.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/24 07:40 PM
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I notice a lot of incels are actually physically attractive. I think they all just have severe depression.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/24 07:40 PM
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There are extremes in that area. They start off as an idea that makes sense and then they just go way too far. A mix of pain and getting validation/money from clicks because the more polarizing you are, the more engagement you get.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/24 07:38 PM
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Survival. Kind of like how people complain about capitalism on their iPhones.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/24 07:33 PM
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It’s hard because there are a lot of women who don’t like your height but there are women who don’t care or prefer it. I would say like… 10% in the very least. So you just have to look good in all the other areas and swing your bat a lot more.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/24 07:31 PM
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I dated someone I was not physically attracted to. I focused on the emotional/mental connection. But in the end, he wasn’t a good enough partner + he’s ugly so he had to go 😭 I will not date someone I’m not attracted to ever again.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/24 07:29 PM
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I have a friend who prefers short guys. She’s certified hottie (she has that “racial ambiguous” look too that western men seem to love these days) and I think she’s 5’4”. So to her you’re not even that short. She was with a guy your height for years. Yes, she thought he was hot. They started out as FWB.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/24 07:25 PM
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College is one of the easiest ways to make friends and interact with opposite sex your age. Anyone who can get scholarship or afford university/college, I recommend it for many reasons and one of which is the ease of social life. If you’re not in college, you have to make more of an effort to join clubs, have hobbies and find friend groups that are coed. This is how it is for adults. Just takes more concerted effort.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/24 07:53 PM
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I’m an adult. Every adult I’ve ever asked about their love life HAS HAD a love life. Regardless of how unattractive, poor in character or finances I found them to be. We are human beings - linking up is inevitable. Improve your social skills to speed it up.
/r/ExRedPill10/04/24 03:46 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 09:39 PM
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Not for the guys complaining for “help”. They aren’t picked.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 02:43 AM
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No we dont. We actually don’t expect men to care.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:43 PM
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The question is what solution men want… because the people complaining there’s a problem are men. The question is what do they think is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:42 PM
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Women don’t shoot up their town over it though
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:41 PM
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I think they just want us to freely and indiscriminately provide them sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:37 PM
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If her income is adequate, surveys are showing women would rather raise children alone which I find really interesting! I know there are many situations where a man actually becomes a burden to home making and child rearing. I have seen it, but this is the first time I realized money can solve the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 05:51 AM
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I think many men who get their ideas of love and manhood online are confused by the concept that women can exist happily without the opposite sex. I see it as a projection of their own need for women that they wish they didn’t have.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 05:49 AM
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If you have a PURPOSE ANS STRATEGY, online dating and apps are great for women. If you don’t yet know what you’re doing, it’s horrible. To this day, every man I met via app (for LTR) has been horrible. I started using apps as part of a strategy to aid in my preferred method of meeting men by happen stance in real life. Meeting men in real life, IMO, is always superior for LTR. And to the women older than 40 or with kids, good luck ladies! From my view point the app helps give you more options bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 06:01 PM
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A lot of women don’t want to be with a bi guy and don’t examine why that is. But I think how acceptable it is for women to be homo-erotic vs how acceptable it is for men isn’t a hypocritical thing. It’s more a function of gender roles and how accepted it it’s to both genders. Because mind you, other cishetmen also are repelled by the homo-erotic in men, but like it in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 02:26 PM
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If I’m having to treat it like a job hunt, it doesn’t seem easy to me. Your ratio implies your hunt takes you to someone who is attractive and trustworthy, which is a huge aspect of the fantasy/fetish. I don’t see what makes this easier than any man finding their kink. It seems like work regardless. In my real life, the only people I have met who have lived out their kinks just from “their fingertips” (aka posting and responding to sites/apps) have been men. So I guess those dudes have that priv…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:46 PM
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It’s like you skipped the part where I said I’m not going to put the same effort I would put into a job search… a threesome isn’t that critical to my life
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:34 PM
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No, we don't have access to live out all of our fetishes. I haven't met a man who is okay with a 2 men with 1 woman threesome (where the men don't ignore each other). I also haven't met a man who was able to find another woman to join us. I'm not saying it's not possible because it is - there are communities of people who do this. But I was not going to put the same amount of effort into that as I do a job hunt... Because there are communities of people who do this, I figure those who are intere…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:40 PM
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... I LITERALLY POSTED A LINK TO A SEARCH RESULT VIDEO So maybe I was wrong about you. Maybe you're not lazy. Maybe the issue is a mental handicap... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jOncvk-cU0 I'm way too nice. You told me to get rekt so your smooth brain can feel like you had a win for the day, but here it is again in case any on lookers have the same selective blindness to blue underlined text as you do. This is one example of him advising his audience to not sleep with fat women. If anyone w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:21 PM
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Dude, I'm not going to re-watch his 1000s of hours of content to find the exact time stamp I heard him screaming. However, there are ample clips of him stating the philosophy if you literally type the search in youtube... since you're asking for YOUR sake, you can type it... like literally this is the first result... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jOncvk-cU0 and he even chatizes his audience 40 seconds in... So kindly... ever so kindly... please stop being lazy and just search yourself. Not fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 10:30 PM
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He did. He's said it several times in a calm tone, but I happened to be watching one of his livestreams where he was SCREAMING it. I'm surprised you'e never heard him even say it, let alone scream. I'm sure you can find atleast one of these clips. If he's on the phone with a woman, he's saying it calm. If he hangs up on her, he screams (which is why he hung up, he was losing his cool). Either tonality, the message is pretty clear...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 09:43 PM
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If it means that man wants to IGNORE women, then ignore them and there would be no protest or anyone who has a problem with it. but it’s pretty clear they still hyper fixate on women so… lol it’s an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 02:52 PM
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Remember not everyone is so literal that they need that and it's not that serious so I'm not doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 02:43 AM
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You’re forgetting the part where he also broke into women’s houses to kill and rape them… You’re forgetting that he picked up hitch hikers. You’re forgetting that these women were not choosing him to date but he asked if they could help him with a task and they agreed to help with said task because he feigned a physical disability… It sounds like “teeeeechnically” a serial killer will figure out any means to kill… Thanks for solidifying my decision to trash this subreddit…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:25 PM
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It’s sarcasm…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:24 PM
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One glance at a MGTOW forum and they will have you convinced the entire woman population is Amber Heard
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:36 PM
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Yea so instead of blaming the person with mental issues for their actions, let’s blame women in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:34 PM
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So you’re saying basically… because some women fantasize about Ted Bundy, that is the reason men like Ted Bundy exist?… uhm… I’m officially over this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:33 PM
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Everyone dating (assuming marriage is the goal) is finding who they’re most compatible with long term which is hard no matter how you try to slice it. Even if you think you don’t fit someone’s “requirements”, you still have your own requirements. If someone drives you up the wall, you’re not marrying them (it’s highly I’ll-advised), no matter how deficient you think you are, regardless of gender. I think these comparisons fail to put into consideration we are discussing human beings. (Also, I ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:40 PM
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Yea because women don’t have to do any of those things ever. We are amorpheus, uneducated, style-less blobs who exist to be sperm bins. Hint: the answer to your question is still the stuff you listed. Believe it or not, women are humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 06:15 PM
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I’m saying the men in blue pill and the men in red pill still share common personality traits society promotes on men. The pill they are doesn’t remove or add it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:39 PM
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You need to dump someone who doesn’t want to be seen with you in public. They don’t actually like you. You’re basically their closet toy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:44 PM
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Re-read my previous comment…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:27 PM
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I’m saying there is a more accurate way to determine who has a harder time dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 07:13 PM
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I met a guy who swore Nicki Minaj has a real butt and he loved it. He asked “why would someone go out of their way to make it THAT big? It’s so unrealistic that’s why it can’t be fake.” I said “because of guys like YOU???!!!” Lmao so dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:40 PM
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When they say they like no makeup, it’s not true. They don’t know what makeup looks like. Some of them say they have no standards for sex which isn’t true - if you’re not having any sex at all, you have a standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:39 PM
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I would just check the stats. Of the population who does not want to be single, who is successfully finding healthy LTR. That will tell you which groups it’s harder for.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:38 PM
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When I was single, it was because I simply didn’t find a guy I liked and respected yet. Literally that simple. I dunno, maybe you can complicate it. Maybe say I was an introvert so I met less people, I wasn’t in spaces where I was seen as the hottest person so less people approached me, etc etc. who knows and who cares lol The point is, my life is about me being happy so why disturb a good thing (being single) unless it’s for something better (meeting the man of my dreams)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:26 PM
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So men want more than just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:23 PM
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I don’t. This promiscuity thing is not something I’ve seen to be an issue ever in real life but it’s talked about a lot on SM. I think that’s because rappers talk about it and then normal men think they’re the same as the rapper lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:21 PM
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To answer the subject line: yes. My god, yes. I have a friend who is CONSTANTLY talking to his women friends about this stuff to the point that I’m the only woman who will even answer his calls anymore lol and that’s only because we’re in the same work industry We don’t like it because it’s an over simplification. And not necessary. When we go to a different country we say “over here people think Im hot and over in X country, people think Im ugly” Like just use normal language. When you talk abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:16 PM
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As long as you’re a man, you’re gonna have audacity. No matter what pill you take lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:15 PM
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I think my dad set a standard of behavior I accept from men. I’m so so thankful for that. I’m so thankful that I recognize certain traits in men as toxic because I am NOT used to that bad behavior. I don’t know if my dad had those traits — if he did, he knew well enough to never expose me to them. I have no remorse ending things with a man when I see too many red flags. I tend to see men as marriage material when they have certain traits of my dad. Hard working, mentally stable, educated, love o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:09 PM
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There’s also no shortage of women complaining that dating is hard for them. Cest La Vie. Finding your soul mate is hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:06 PM
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Google female gaze. Just because a man thinks another man is a 3 doesn’t mean women agree. In the case of attracting the opposite sex, your opinion as a man doesn’t matter. What men like is also trend driven.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:04 PM
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I only respond to these weird posts because I’m bored lol I have to note that people don’t see glasses as genetically inferior. I can understand how one may see it that way but in general no one cares. It’s not considered a bad thing. Neither is being “skinny fat”. As long as you’re skinny you have a privilege over being fat even if your skinny-hood is not athletic. Also, not rebelling is something I consider a negative trait. Someone who never rebels is not desirable. At least not to me. I want…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:00 PM
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Male equivalent that has just as bad a connotation in the eyes of women looking for LTR? I would say men like Nick Cannon. Children with multiple mothers. Maybe also an F boy which is not just solely how many women you’ve slept with but also your attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:56 PM
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No. It might help if you actually met one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:28 PM
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Gender roles are dumb. Save yourself the annoyance and don’t bother to learn them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 06:25 PM
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That’s what I mean by “one person wishes”. It’s either gender. I’ve only had 1 FWB situation where the guy didn’t want a relationship. Every other one, I had to end it because they wanted more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 06:21 PM
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It irritates me when people say “but you’re broke” when someone wants to date rich. “But you’re ugly” when someone wants to date hot. You should simply go for what you like. There’s this trend of women “manifesting” a good man by obtaining the qualities they want to see in him. It makes no sense to me. Everyone’s personality is different! Maybe you’re bad with money - it doesn’t mean you can’t date someone good with money. Often times, opposites attract and a good partnership will have you balan…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 04:06 PM
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I am with this type of man right now. What he expects of me is a loving partnership. He expects mutual respect. He expects me to rise to his level financially. He expects me to contribute to our future plans. He expects me to not be stupid. He expects to feel love and caring from me. He expects me to share my joys with him. He expects me to want to spend time with him. He expects me to be myself and feel comfortable around him. I dunno - it’s not at all different than being with a man who isn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:56 PM
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There was a moment where I realized me liking a guy isn’t the same as the guy being a good partner. My FWB have been guys that I like their company, I like our sex… but something about him screams not-husband-material. I always saw boyfriend as stepping stone to husband. I know some people don’t. But a lot of guys share your sentiment. Great sex and like her company? Instant girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:53 PM
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FWB can be sticky. Just because someone has had it doesn’t mean it’s what they wanted. I personally enjoyed my FWB and I am in the minority. Most women I know who have done FWB hated it. I think FWB often ends up being one person wishes it was a real relationship and they’re settling for FWB in hopes to win you over. 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:50 PM
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Men do this frequently
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:48 PM
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Quit what exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:48 PM
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Body count is not about how many relationships you’ve had, fyi. It’s purely about bodies you’ve had intercourse with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:47 PM
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I do if they are both actively seeking a mate
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:46 PM
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Make up and clothes and working out and plastic surgery and hair and lash extensions and the list goes on. all things related to women’s beauty is a trillion dollar industry. I really need to know who told you women stay thin and perky with 0 effort like is this a show you watched or?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:44 PM
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You think women are born with some gene that keeps us thin? Lmao You’ve never heard of at-home workouts? Pilates studios? Jesus christ
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:43 PM
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Women also spend years in the gym trying to maintain low body fat. I’m sorry- what world do you live in that you’re unaware of women working excessively hard to not be fat?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:42 PM
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Today I learned every female human was born attractive (and male babies are hideous) and all the girls and women who are teased and harassed for being unattractive just imagined it. All men are ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:41 PM
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My partner and I provide same basic things + whatever our personalities lean us towards. For example, I am more aware of nuances than he is so I point out small issues before they turn into big ones saving us significant cash and headache. I think this may be one of the reasons men with long lasting marriages live longer - their wives are the ones who get them to the doctor in time! I also like to take advantage of deals and “hacks” so I initiated some of our investments. But anyway - I answered…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:29 PM
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Oh if you’re talking about the compliments that they look hot, then yea I would assume people commenting that think it looks hot. Muscle building is a niche community. What they like doesn’t always match what most people like. I was talking about the oodles of compliments you see on those videos of women lifting heavy. They usually aren’t sexual, just awe and congratulatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:38 PM
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Right. Sex is between human beings so they need to understand you’re never entitled to a human being. Either engage with someone respectfully or just pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:20 PM
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It’s female Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:18 PM
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I agree with you somewhat. “Spicy Latina” is the name of a really common fetish but when I discuss this with guys, I have to use that term for them to understand what I’m saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:15 PM
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Yes, some women do that, too. I’m explaining why most women have a period of time they go sexless. I don’t know why you think that means we go sexless all at the same time for the same amount of time with the same frequency perpetually lol. The average for sex partners women have is 6, which includes the numbers of your rabid ones, so clearly - we go sexless at some point. I also had a stage where I was willing to deal with the bullshit for sexual pleasure. I took control of those sexual encount…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:08 PM
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The trench bull definitely can bench press 250
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:07 PM
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My comment is about meeting someone to have sex so that includes someone you found via an app… if you’re talking about my friend, she uses that app and none of the guys actually were willing to meet up with her. The men she was chatting with are below average. I’m sure she could just spend all her free time perpetually on the app and find someone who is not 70 but let’s be real. She has a job and works long hours. She has a family. She has other goals. She cannot spent every waking minute on an …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:05 PM
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Yes and every woman is different. So if a guy thinks he can do something special with his finger just because it was effective for one woman doesn’t mean it will be effective for another. The best way for a woman to ensure she has pleasurable sex is to be with a man who is able to take direction or she being able to take control at some points. Both of which require the woman paying attention to what feels good for her and learning where her spots are. Many women have nerve endings in spots that…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:02 PM
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It doesn’t occur to you that bench pressing is impressive so people are complimenting for that reason? Like not every compliment means someone is trying to sleep with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:57 PM
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It’s as if you asked this question to have women tell you what it feels like to have a vagina because you don’t know only to say “actually you’re wrong because in my imagination that’s not true”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:55 PM
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Just because you’re sexually attracted to someone doesn’t mean you will have sex. Do you live in some kind of jungle? Lol YOU are asking if women go sexless and we are telling you yes, we do. Someone even posted the average woman will sleep with just 6 men in her life time. Clearly, sexual attraction is not ENOUGH to sleep with someone. 🙄 Also you’re completely ignoring whether or not the person is also attracted. I am also not talking about a long term relationship. I’m literally just talking a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:54 PM
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It’s not our responsibility to virtually rehabilitate a community that creates forums about legalizing rape and murder. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:39 PM
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I don't know why you don't comprehend that just becauses he's clean online and nice the first few times you meet him doesn't mean he isn't a bad guy. Have you never met someone you liked and later found out they have some major issues? After a woman experiences that just one time, that is now a risk factor that cannot be vetted out quickly. I think you're probably just young if you don't understand all the biological and personal risks. And unfortunately, school doesn't teach sex biology well. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:31 PM
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Her husband gets on her nerves more and more and the husband doesn't understand that emotional connection is crucial to the woman finding him sexually desireable. So he probably makes it worse. The husband being a "beta provider" is not what's happening. He probably wasn't providing much to compensate for what the wife is havingn to do to maintain the household -- hence she's not sexually interested. She can't even have the mental space to think about sex. She may actually feel something if she …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:21 PM
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I've actually done this and I'm just not interested in trying to cosplay a man. It was interesting to see the type of women my male profile could attract. I have no idea what I would actually be like if I was a guy really trying to meet women. Maybe my lack of interest makes me a bad candidate for doing the experiment lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:19 PM
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Why is "going your own way" still discussing women and how much you want to be with them? Why don't you actually go your own way and discuss the way you're going?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:17 PM
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exactlyyyyy like PLEASE for the love of God, GO YOUR OWN WAY but they are still in OUR way lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:16 PM
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I would respect MGTOW if they actually discussed going their own way, but they typically just make fun of women existing while at the same time lamenting that they want to sleep with them. It's yet another community of men defining themselves by the opposite sex and being mad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:15 PM
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They're an adult on paper, but not by how they actually live their life. It's the idea that someone wants the most naive person they can legally be with that's gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:13 PM
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The thing is, even if she gives a guy "the ick", if she's his type, he will want her regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:12 PM
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Masculine as in she can bench press 250 or?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:11 PM
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We go sexless. For example, I have a friend who is not able to attract any guy her own age (she's a young adult) and the only option that has come her way in the last year was a 70 year old man. No sex is better than sleeping with a strange 70 year old man. I'd wager that men also have options to sleep with people they don't like, too. But it's better to be sexless than sleep with someone you're not attracted to or apparently better to remain sexless than to pay for sex. Even if a woman is able …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:01 PM
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I've never met a guy looking for a serious relationship who will actually end the relationship because of that. Honestly, the only men I've heard talk about how this is an issue for them are men who cheat themselves lol. I guess they don't want a taste of their own medicine?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:59 PM
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He's not hated for that. He's hated for going on rants about fat women and trans people and intentionally appealing to incel communities.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:55 PM
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I would find a way for men to create community with each other that has nothingn to do with women. Find self-worth and friendship without it having anything to do with women and focus on your actual friendship and self. I've seen groups like this so it exists. It's just really popular on social media for men to discuss their self worth as it relates to sleeping with women for some reason. Which only adds to their problems. It's not that women are apathetic to men's issues - it's that we can't do…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:49 PM
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OP is a dude with a p*rn addiction.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/22 01:57 PM
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You’re asking if you can find your fantasy gothic pixie dream girl that also wants to be your housewife. Get to know women as a human being, first.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/22 01:55 PM
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I think tallness is universally understood to be desirable, especially for women seeking a mate, which this graph shows. Even men have less respect for short men for example, in a leadership position. The bar for income is low. The study assumes the average woman makes 40k and the average dude makes 60k. So if you’re making less than women who already earn less than men — obviously that’s not desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 01:49 PM
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Because you’ve implied we aren’t attracted to them
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:29 AM
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I would rather marry a fully autonomous human than an essentially lobotomized one (that I basically caused by marrying them) so… second one. The question is weird and I have no idea what insights there are to gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:27 AM
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I’m assuming you’re talking a guy who sleeps with a lot of different women, right? Not a guy who is dating for relationships? A “popular” guy hint hint wink wink… So what I have noticed is he puts out a sexual energy and shoots his shot significantly more often than other guys (and does not have boundaries as in he will shoot his shot with coworkers even) + high social skills and ability to notice social cues and know how to play into them. Once he attracts the woman, he also strings the ladies …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:55 AM
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There is also a term for kids killing their parents, someone of any gender killing their family, parents killing their kids… etc. they use terms to better describe the act because there is specific motivations and information that create that instance. It’s not the kind of thing where if it’s over 50%, THEN we can create a term. It’s the kind of thing where if it’s different than the majority of something, it makes sense to make a term so it’s not lumped in with information not relevant to its s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:01 PM
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femicide evaporates
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:59 PM
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They’re saying looks don’t matter because there is always someone in your looksmatch to date. Meaning if the goal is to find a partner, you will find one in your looksmatch so don’t stress about it. But usually when I hear looks don’t matter, it’s in reference to someone with a personality that super overcompensates for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:25 PM
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I think it’s incredibly foolish to not experiment with your career purely because you’re afraid of your SMV. If you’re looking for a long term partner, they need to fit your personality including your inclination to experiment. As long as you are fiscally responsible, what’s the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:23 PM
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It’s not reality. In real life you’re not persistently surrounded by age mates on a campus that unites you with a shared expectation of living the “college life”.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:50 PM
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I’d wager you’re not asking the same type of unrealistic questions the younger guys are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:49 PM
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The feelings are valid, but they probably would know the solution or have a healthier/realistic frame work after some life experience. The never kissed 30 year old would have more knowledge of themselves and their environment than the 20 year old. Meaning they can ask more realistic and specific questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:43 PM
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I agree with you. Most posts made by men ask very immature questions like they have a sheltered teenager mind. Then come to find out it’s someone who just got into college or something lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:41 PM
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Comparing yourself should only be for collecting data of what may or may not be normal and cause for concern, not basing your self esteem. For example, I compared how long it takes me to study compared to my peers which helped me realized I had ADHD and sought help for it. Additionally, comparing yourself may not be an accurate way to get that data so always take it with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:38 PM
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News flash - rich people don’t have as many struggles as not rich people Another news flash - even rich people have their own personal issues and struggles Also how do you know they don’t have low self esteem? Having a large friendship circle doesn’t mean they are actually healthy friends nor does it mean you have higher self esteem. Also you’re talking about high school kids - not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:35 PM
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We fear rejection, we do get rejected but we are not attempting as often as boys are, definitely women fear never finding true romance - that’s a big one. Yes, women get friendzoned, made to feel inferior to other women… I mean everything you’re describing is just part of being a human being. Also the smarter you are, the more you struggle with these things and I saw a study that says it hits smart women even harder. I don’t know how young guys don’t see women as humans. I don’t get it. Even if …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 07:30 PM
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As a woman the more attractive you are, the more BS suitors you have to sort through.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:29 PM
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I was told I appear as someone with high n-count when I was a virgin 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:27 PM
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The funny thing is narcissists are experts at appearing to have character and kindness initially
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:26 PM
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Daily lack of autonomy of your own body and all that threatens it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:24 PM
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Some of the women you talked to seem to still have their youthful beauty or never had it to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:23 PM
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I definitely agree. It makes no sense to make yourself poor just to have more dating options which are likely low quality. It’s a crappy scenario, just as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:17 PM
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Maybe fake flirting? I’d be annoyed if all my prospects that I thought were interested were just bored and just filtering through who is serious. But in a way, women deal with that from men too. So that’s probably why I empathize lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:15 PM
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I wouldn’t recommend dating the kind of guy that’s on these type of subreddits to begin with. Also I think most guys here are under the age of 25 so of course they think that’s old.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:12 PM
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It’s up to the individuals what they feel is a fair division of labor. It will look different for each couple
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:11 PM
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I'm just correcting what that person said. My comment is not an analysis of what this is supposed to mean. Of course divorce rates scare people and is one of the reasons many people just don't get married at all. Why would you read my comment CORRECTING someone's stat with this emotional response?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:40 PM
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All they have to do is stop violating the same guidelines everyone else is managing to follow…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 07:07 PM
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I think he may be leaving out some key details
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:01 PM
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😊 Also, he agrees with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:36 PM
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I think the incel complaint is heightened by the fact that community actually praises and looks up to mass shooters
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:35 PM
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Also better than pregnancy, STI, UTI, having someone in your life who is a waste, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:34 PM
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I’m not insulting anyone except the weirdos who were trying to debate me when they agreed with me. I’m not even trying to insult them, I’m just saying they’re annoying and wanting to know why they are like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:31 PM
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That’s for OP to decide. Don’t care that a simple sentence confused you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:26 PM
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??? I told you why I did it. You asked about why people do it and I told you I personally did it because I was engaging with someone who likes it. So if you want to know why someone would like it, ask THAT person. What does you having a confusion have to do with taking responsibility? Take responsibility for your confusion. Yes, I am responsible for what I type… so are you and everyone else responsible for what you and they type.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:22 PM
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And yet you’re still discussing this with me and not the person who may have the answer for you. Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:18 PM
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I don’t think it’s that weird. YOU are the one with the question, not me. I recommend you ask HIM. I think you two have things in common, as well. Also that guy AGREES with me. Reading is simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:13 PM
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I’m not saying you specifically. I’m referring to my OC as I assumed your comment was referring to my OC.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:11 PM
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I made it because someone asked… Do you not read OP and title before looking at comments? Dude… are you okay? This is not complicated. At all. I don’t get why you’re even still commenting…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:10 PM
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It sounds delusional, right? So I guess they’re delusional. If you’re questioning me, you can just see my comment history.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:09 PM
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But what does that have to do with "men ignore women they find unattractive"? Why would somehing you agree with trigger you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:05 PM
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I just did it because Derek did it. I figured he'd like it. So ask him. He might have a good answer for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:04 PM
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Yea but like I said in my comment - they agree with me... So they aren't changing my view lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:04 PM
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I didn't ignore your point because it's irrelevant. I never said attractiveness was a narrow range. I said men ignore women they find unattractive. And you AGREE with me. Seriously, this is not hard... It's not meaningless to the OP who is asking the question. My comment was a reponse to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:02 PM
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Well there's no debate to be had anyway. what I want to know is why are these words triggering for guys on here?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:01 PM
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I'm getting pretty annoyed by the easily triggered guys in here. I said something like "Men ignore women they find unattractive" and these guys start trying to do a "debate me bro" because men find "majority of women attractive" and what not. It's like they see my avatar is femme presenting and just cannot help themselves. Once I help them remove the red from their eyes so they can engage in their logical capibilities they realize they agree with me. Like no shit, everyone romantically ignores p…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:52 PM
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"men engage the majority of women in speed dating events" - men do not find a majority of women in speed dating events UNATTRACTIVE. So what are you trying to refute? My personal belief makes ZERO mention of this whatsoever. Not even implied. You're making the same mistake that other idiot made. Continue reading the thread to see how it ended for him. "By the way, men do ignore women they find unattractive." - So you agree with me. Move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:43 PM
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Depends on your upbringing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:41 PM
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21 isn't grown ass lol. Still basically teenage mentality. Just allowed to drink. Still can't rent a car. Still on mommy and daddy's health insurance. 21 is still a baby in the eyes of actual grown ass people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:37 PM
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My point is literally the answer to the question asked in this thread... YOUR point was worthless and an indicator of lack of reading comprehension skills. Your point was full of projection, conflation and illogical assumption. Maybe a touch of misogny - I think you just see a woman type something and get triggered. Anyways, glad I helped you finally learn how to read. My civic duty for today is done. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:34 PM
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I think you can like and want whatever you like and want regardless of how you look.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:29 PM
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I enjoy a tame version of this stuff. I could never do actual BDSM style.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:29 PM
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They just have to gain life experience to know what is decent treatment and what is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:28 PM
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Sexual liberation was back in the 70s. We're now more educated about the risks. So not surprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:23 PM
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No. I never said anything about normal looking women... I dunno what to tell you. If you can't just read something at face value and comprehend it, you're gonna always be confused like this. At this point I'm going to basically be copying and pasting what I said over and over. I said they ignore women THEY FIND UNATTRACTIVE. So whatever that guy finds unattractive... Guys don't equate "normal looking" to unattractive. I did not say they ignore "normal looking women". I said they ignore women the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:17 PM
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My comment isn't trying to debate. I was adding onto your point. Your OP is about "emotional males" and this is a question for women so I assumed the gendering wasn't an issue for you. So I don't know what you mean about "want to do this"? I'm just a woman who saw a question for women and added some 2 cents on top of yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:14 PM
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I'm not conflating anything with being attracted to most women because I didn't say that at all. I didn't even infer or refer to it. You brought that up. I said they are refusing or ignoring women they find unattractive... so unless you're telling me that guys find EVERY adult woman attractive, you're the one conflating. And when I said "standards" I didn't say they need to be high. I said they exist. They exist because there is a woman unattractive enough to not meet them, thus she's ignored or…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:54 PM
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I thought my comment was pretty in alignment and agreement with your OP but okay then.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:51 PM
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Nope. Every man I've ever spoken to who feels they don't have pull have admitted this to me. You have to make them really think for the to realize they really do have standards. There is a type of woman that YOU would not sleep with if she approached you, even.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:34 PM
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Having to navigate a guy’s triggers requires luck of personality match or emotional intelligence. And most guys I’ve met - what they consider hot is in fact hotter than he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:56 AM
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No. I’ve never changed my mind and trust me, I tried to give some a chance. I’m talking about men I found unattractive initially. So not referring to men I merely did not think about at all like a guy who was an acquaintance first or something. There have been men I didn’t notice and suddenly I found them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:51 AM
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When I started dated I realized I need to not be exclusive with men and let them know I am dating openly (no sex). They seemed to respect it and also step up their game.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:49 AM
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A couple of weeks is more than enough time to see if she likes you or not so that’s not strange. The weird pickiness depends on the girl. Young girls can be as picky as they want because nothing is that serious. They are just beginning their life and figuring out who they are. But also it could be something that has a meaning for her so there is a logical reason she is picky about that thing. Or maybe she just lost interest or has a new interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:48 AM
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I sympathize with how much more trial and error you have to do in order to get with someone to start learning how you are in relationship and learn your flaws, needs and wants. The solution would be therapy and self-reflection or journaling and learning how to meet more people so you have more interaction. Yes I put the onus of this on the dude. He needs to find ways to learn himself. I also feel sorry for y’all that ejaculation inside of a thing is like… such a strong drive for y’all. I think i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:41 AM
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Everyone’s body is different. Even our vaginal canals are shaped different. Maybe another woman has an easy to access G spot. I know my canal leans to the right and curves so maybe my G spot is in a spot that is inaccessible. I haven’t played with enough sex toys to find out haha
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:36 AM
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Yea. Just because you hear a lot of women want hypergamy doesn’t mean they are getting hypergamy. I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:34 AM
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I am C. I have always been C. I never dreamed about my wedding day. And I imaged married life with kids but it wasn’t important to me. It was something I just thought would happen because it was expected. I was imagining it so I can avoid mistakes I have seen others make (ex: marrying bad person, abusing their kids, etc). What I did dream of, though, was finding my true love.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:32 AM
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It’s just that there is this prevalent idea that men are “not emotional”. So some of us make sure to point out when men are emotional to remind people that saying is stupid. Being emotional isn’t bad, btw. It’s a normal human thing. That’s the other piece we want normalized. Emotion is not gendered nor should it be ignored or avoided.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:30 AM
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I don’t get the need for someone excessively taller than you. It means nothing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:27 AM
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I agree with you so… I guess someone would have to CMV too lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:27 AM
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I don’t orgasm via penetration. Lucky for me, I knew that at an early age so I direct the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:26 AM
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I personally believe they are refusing or ignoring women they find unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:25 AM
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Don’t men want a woman better than him? Better emotionally, more attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:24 AM
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Just approach the way you approach anyone you’re being friendly too. You absolutely must also acknowledge and respect anyone I may be out with, too. Just be pleasant but also don’t beat around the bush too much. Make your intentions clear within a minute or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:18 AM
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There are people who are into polyamory but I would say it’s not very popular. I don’t know a woman in my life who would be okay with it. I would rather be single unless this man is just providing me a lot of money unconditionally and even then, I would eventually leave for a monogamous man I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:14 AM
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I’m a woman and I feel it’s a good question to ask other men. As I usually see men shaming other men for their emotions.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/22 02:47 AM
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You can think that women are human beings. Human beings are all different but every human being appreciates being with someone they jive with. So just meet people you jive with.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/22 02:46 AM
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Citation for your claim of what the majority of the population is. And its the way you present your statement and then asked me about fresh produce costs that makes it seem like you didn’t actually read the USDA paper. You either didn’t read it or didn’t comprehend it. Which wouldn’t surprise me because you also don’t want to watch any of the documentaries that discuss what I’ve said which have citations for everything presented.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 04:11 AM
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Citation needed for that, dude. And actually read your citation for that because I don’t think you read the USDA paper.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:09 PM
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We know she is what he is referring to because women of that same size and shape call in and he calls them fat so… I saw a woman who was actually smaller than this, and he said she’s too fat. Usually KS fans rebuttal this with “he meant they are too fat to be married, but men will still sleep with them” But then I retort that KS yelled at his male audience several times asking them to “stop f***ing fat women!” So he’s just a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:39 AM
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Dude, citation needed when I gave you a website that you couldn’t click earlier? When I gave documentaries you said you will not watch that discuss the thing you’re asking for citation on? When you don’t cite anything you say your own self? Sure lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:19 PM
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That’s why you have to consider accessibility (among other things but this reply is already too long). Because if someone without a car doesn’t live in walking distance to a grocery store, they are gonna buy junk food. Fresh produce over time does cost more, but it certainly costs more from gas stations and convenient stores at a considerable mark-up. Even frozen and canned alternatives will cost more outside of a grocery store if they are even sold. The things you’re saying can “just change” mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 07:06 AM
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Obviously it can’t be told to you in five minutes because you still have questions about the basic nutrition and behavioral issues I presented in my comments. If you’re ever actually interested, you now have the resources. Including the Healthy People website which should have a wealth of data about weight and behavioral trends research on public health solutions what is working, what’s not working, etc That website is about solving America’s obesity epidemic at a large scale so it has a variety…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:29 AM
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Yes obviously quit that job and also the boss was a narcissist. His office had shitty results but he at least prided himself in having the “best looking” office
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:20 PM
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I asked you earlier if you wanted a documentary that can explain to you in a way that’s digestible and you ignored it so here are some suggestions: what the health sugar, inc bite size https://health.gov/healthypeople is also a resource of data but it may not be digestible or entertaining to go through for you so I recommended those documentaries. And I said in my previous comment why body composition matters - it affects your shape size and metabolism. Additionally, losing protein (which will h…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:14 PM
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Well, I don’t know if you know this but mental health would still be critical for this situation. I just made that comment to share empathy. My first comment still stands. If those comments affect you to the degree I think it does, you need to focus on mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 02:21 PM
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Auh, yea that sucks. It’s like going through grade school bullying but forever
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 02:15 PM
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What’s interesting is I feel like I always have to push my male SO to speak more about how they feel about stuff. Like they think what they feel isn’t important.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 02:14 PM
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Just as you’re able to observe what kind of men attract women, so am I. Men who get their shit together increase the likelihood. If you think I meant the woman will literally tap you in the shoulder, you might be a child lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 02:08 PM
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It doesn’t matter if you perceive women have more on the line, the same reasons men stay fat is the reasons women say fat. Weight maintenance includes not falling underweight, too. Different age demographics have hormonal, disease and medication shifts that will affect appetite, metabolism, food sensitivities or contraindications, etc. What I’m saying is over the course of someone’s entire life, what used to keep them at a certain weight may not work the same. Also calorie in/calorie out does no…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 02:06 PM
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Her BMI was definitely not in the “normal” range lmao It’s fine that you and KS like “thick” women, but stop lying to yourself. That’s why I feel KS is a hypocrite. He makes fun of the term “thick” only for us to find out it’s his preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 03:12 AM
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Communication as in when you’re already in a relationship. I’m not talking about before then. obviously if someone isn’t replying to you, y’all aren’t together lol My original comment was referring to communicating expectations within an existing relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 03:11 AM
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Freshmen girls and below are girls, not women. I brought up girls to let you know from an early age, women are aware of their weight and trying to manipulate it. I agree that appearance means different things per gender but people remain fat for the same reasons, regardless. Yes, it is tiring to yo-yo diet (tiring to hear about and tiring to live it) but that’s what’s de facto happening for both genders. Life long weight maintenance requires consistent work and sometimes people need help. Especi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 03:08 AM
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Okay... so 31% is not MOST. For something to be MOST, it needs to be over 50%. So the stat is by freshman year, 80% of girls diet or want to diet. That's not proportional to the 30% stat. And why don't they change what? Why don't they change their desire to diet? Is your "they" referring to the children girls or are you asking why don't fat adult people lose weight? Like I said before, the reason an adult woman remains fat is the same reason an adult man remains fat. Statistically, people who lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:58 PM
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If you’re not stable in life and you’re above a certain age, do not date. And do not lead a woman on - be sure to let her know you’re not seeking LTR. You will be very unhappy if you try to LTR while you’re unstable. Just get your life together. The woman will come somewhere along the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 10:10 PM
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I’m a woman. I’ve played around with goes below my league before. These are guys who were below my league in looks, occupation, education status or social status. It started with the guy shooting his shot and me giving him a chance. I was bored and wanted to enjoy myself. I was not planning on being in a relationship with them. Just FWB for me, please. If the FWB went on too long, the guy always wanted to date so that would be awkward. When I FWB with my looks-match, this is not as much of an is…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:56 PM
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I have met more men who monologue than women who do that (but I have met women who do that, too). On a date, usually the interaction is mutual but I definitely have sat through the guy who will not stfu about himself Invariably, the men who talk too much always enjoyed the date lol. So I always get annoyed when I hear a guy say women talk more than men because… I’m sorry, it’s just not my lived experience. Especially men who grew up poor and now they make a lot of money - they will NEVER SHUT UP…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:52 PM
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If you were hot enough, you’d be approached by an attractive woman
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:48 PM
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Approach is still approach. 🤷🏾‍♀️ you just don’t like whose approaching you. It’s just life
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:47 PM
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Yea you’re right, though. If you’re a relative attractive male, you’ve been approached. Maybe even if it’s a woman you didn’t find attractive but approach is approach lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:46 PM
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I believe if a woman is seeking a quality partner, she HAS to approach! I know this new generation are sharing tips of how to give “the look” to a man or other tactics that make her feel like she isn’t approaching him, but the main point is she is still initiating contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:43 PM
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When I was 25 I couldn’t date someone younger than 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:42 PM
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I assume there is appeal in dating someone who is your closer to you in age because you can relate to each other much more and they are more sensible and reliable. When you look at the wives of the richest men (using them as a marker because they have more access to more people they could meet who would reciprocate) they marry women near their age. Like you just don’t see couples like Anna Nicole Smith and that old guy. It’s not common. I’m not a dude but… I can’t imagine the benefit of dating a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:38 PM
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Damn… 80% of men are fucked up?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:36 PM
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Men in these forums definitely need to focus on their own mental health and self-love.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:34 PM
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Well considering that MOST kids are NOT overweight, it is concerning that a disproportion number of girls are dieting or want to diet. If these stats matched the numbers, it would make more sense but obviously women from an early age are concerned about their weight. I only said this to let you know that your thought experiment is actually the lived experience and isn’t novel.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:27 PM
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How would that make a dude lie about being egalitarian though?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 08:18 PM
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You’re offended by the phrase but for the wrong reason lol! The phrase is a bad take because… obviously women are surviving without being married. 🤦🏾‍♀️ A woman can live life without a marriage certificate just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:48 PM
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Wow now it’s an asian woman. At this point you’re as bad as the rumor mill. Asian doesn’t make it better as he believes black people shouldn’t be with non black people. Im surprised the fans don’t circulate some skinny black woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:45 PM
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My name is also on published papers. That doesn’t mean YOU invented anything. I think at this point you’re intentionally missing the point in hopes of getting into a pointless CMV debate. I don’t want to talk about other species or inventions because these topics are irrelevant to the fact that you, as an individual, didn’t do anything nor are you a different species. You as an individual are not worthy of expecting anyone to be inferior to you. Furthermore — this has nothing to do with my OP qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:45 PM
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Alright thanks for trying to contribute, but you didn't help the convo. Have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:13 PM
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I'm pretty sure it was a woman who spearheaded the development of BC. But I don't care and I'm not interested in lgoing back and forth about what men invented vs women. The reason I keep saying over and over that it doesn't matter is because if you're using this argument to explain why you as an individual man are superior to an individual woman, it makes no sense. You didn't invent anything. It's that simpe.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:12 PM
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The average person does not know who Hamza is. I'm in this space and don't even know who Hamza is. Jordan Peterson is barely on the radar for the average person, as well (and Jordan Peterson makes advice and books for everyone, not just men). Jordan Peterson actually wrote best selling books, so that helped his name get out there. Hamza didn't. KS didn't. I think the average person wouldn't know who Kevin Samuels is, either as he gained virality mostly with the black american community. All the …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:07 PM
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I typed it because you said my edits didn't help you. I clarified that I didn't make my edits to help you. If you feel this was cringe you shouldn't have referred to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:05 PM
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I think men struggle with communication in relationships, as well. And I think if everyone improved their communications of how they feel about the relationship and their expectations, there would be MORE amicable, clean break ups. Breaking up with someone who has wildly different expectations is a GOOD thing. I make communication a priority when I get with a man. I am clear about what I am expecting and my intentions. As a result, they are clear back to me. And I have exes. As the relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:02 PM
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Romance is hard to find for many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 08:16 AM
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My man needs loving touch (like neck rubs, not speaking sexually) and words of affirmation. I give as much as possible daily. I need... a lot lol. And he gives as much as he can. What makes the relationship successful is the basic love needs we have are easy for each of us to give or learn to give. We enjoy meeting those needs. And we handle disputes as soon as we can.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 08:15 AM
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yea a lot of women feel insecure about it. When you have tiny boobs or a flat ass or a certain type of nose or eye shape, yes, it is impossible to look like them without surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 08:13 AM
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yea... hes a good one. I'd drop my pants for him instantly when he speaks
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:54 AM
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Zendaya, Andrew Garfield, Sofia Vergara, that girl from 50 shades of grey, the woman who's in ever season of american horror story... you know the one who was in the Bird Box movie but died 5 minutes in, there are some men on my list but can't think right now
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:54 AM
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Direct, please. Because I can't tell when a man is just friendly or actually interested. Like don't have a 15 minute convo with me then go in for the kill. Do your opener or whatever and let me know you what specifically intrigued you (don't be crude... be smart about it -- did you see I was reading a certian book so I must be an interesting woman to get to know or what? Be smart) so I know this is romantic. And also it saves us time if I find you too repulsive to give a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:49 AM
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If I was already interested, I would be more interested. If I was not already interested, it is a toss up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:48 AM
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There is so much but the funny thing is, I don't even trust a guy (online) to explain it to me lol. I just go to stats and research and the men I know in real life. The most baffling thing is how are they so contradictory and how do they ignore how something that negatively affects one groups can also negatively affect them (and I'm not just talking about gendered stuff. Just in general... I notice men fail to see how something is bad for them)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:46 AM
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Yea bi men will have a harder time with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:45 AM
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If I am held to a lower standard in anything other than physical ability, it is insulting. That place does not actually respect me. I have also put in an extra few minutes to explain things to men that they didn't understand so I don't see why you think that's gendered. If you know something that someone else doesn't that is what will happen if you're not stingy with knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:43 AM
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Fat men still experience fatphobia, though. I would say the reason a man remains fat is the same reason a woman remains fat. But what you say you would do if you were a woman is what many women do. By the 3rd grade, 30% of little girls plan to do that and are fearful of being fat or want to lose weight already. By freshman year, most girls have already begun dieting or are considering it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:40 AM
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If you're having to exchange sexual favors for the "free" stuff, was it really free? Aside from not paying for a first date, I don't get stuff free. I guess maybe free entrance to the one crappy club in town if I go in before 9:30pm lol Let me think a bit harder -- yea, the only time I got free drinks were the times I was with someone far more outgoing than I am. And it was usually women who gave us the free drink, not men. But I guess that counts, huh? That's all I can think of that I get free.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:35 AM
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Free say of what happens to your own body at any given time, for one...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:29 AM
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If this scenario were real, she knows very well he left her for gaining weight lol. she's not gonna ask what happened. She knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:28 AM
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It's both.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:26 AM
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No, the man needs to care. Unhealthy habits are highly unattractive to me. Especially considering men die before women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:25 AM
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Yea I don't get it either. If we're just talking about hotness, having a kid doesn't make you suddenly ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:23 AM
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I feel like the guys responding to you dont know what they're talking about lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:22 AM
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No. There are a lot of women who are considered hot who are overweight. A lot of IG models these men follow are medically overweight. Some women are getting surgery to add pounds to certain places that makes them overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:22 AM
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If most people are poor then wouldn't that be average
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:21 AM
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People tend to date who they look like. So if you're fat you will probably date another fat person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:18 AM
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My filter was a vision. Did he have a life vision and where did a SO fit into it. and no, I'm not keeping my body count low for some non-existent man. It's my damn life, when I'm single, I'll live it how I want lol If a man is insecure about body count, he isn't the one. I never know if men mean body count as in intercourse or just anything sexual. But I don't have intercourse willy nilly. Mostly because I don't orgasm from basic intercourse, it needs to be someone who knows what they're doing. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:13 AM
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He did chastise women like that on his show, tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:08 AM
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But he slept with them so... they were valuable TO HIM.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:06 AM
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And yet he sleeps with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:06 AM
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I busted out laughing when I first saw her because one of the first KS clips I ever saw was him screaming into the mic "MEN YOU HAVE TO STOP FING THESE FAT WOMEN!! HOW DARE YOU MEN SLEEP WITH FAT WOMEN"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:06 AM
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So you'll see a few literally celebrating, but most women are not celebrating. They just don't care. Like... if there was a guy who was just unpleasant all the time. You didn't know him personally, but of what you've seen, he was really rude, unpleasant. And you may have even heard him say something that's really gross (you know the clip of him condoning DV and SA is going around, yea?) - would you give a flying crap when he died? It's that feeling. The legacy he left, imo is pretty pitiful. His…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:04 AM
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I don't know what the blue pill preaches at all. I know sufficiently about the RP. Most of it, I hate. Black pill is just god awful. My flair says I'm a normal person. I don't feel I have any views that anyone would find particularly offensive or worth debating unless you're on the extreme of BlP or RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:00 AM
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I think anti-depressants. I'm not even trying to be funny. Lots of dudes who discuss this online are basically writing a "Do i have depression?" symptom list.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:58 AM
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I ponder this, too. Because for a woman to get "more options" she has to some how improve her appearance which largely can't be helped without surgery which... its understandable if someone doesn't wnat to undergo surgery with no guarantee of looking better or suffer side effects. But for a man to open his options, he just has to succeed at doing what literally everyone is already trying to do. Everyone is trying to look healthy, everyone is trying to earn more money, everyone is trying to impro…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:57 AM
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Yes, many women like a body type that men do not find sexually attractive. I'm sorry, I don't know how else to say that. Uhm. There is a homo-erotic nature to how men view other men's appearance. And what men think is "male sexiness" isn't always what women find sexy. So yea, you will find a lot of women Marvel fans who are in love with Peter Parker and Loki more than Thor. There is a wider range of what we find attractive. I myself am a sucker for Andrew Garfield... lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:52 AM
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Well, I know as a woman, I did NOT know men "categorized" us. That was something I had to learn. But I don't get what you mean by "people like stability" as it relates to these categories? Big boobs isn't stopping a woman from being a stable life partner. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:50 AM
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Housework should be 50/50. Unless one person isn't working AT ALL. If both people work and contribute financially, regardless of the income, it should be 50/50. That's just me. Micromanaging house work by hours isn't going to work. There are too many unexpected things and "invisible" tasks. Just do what needs to be done in front of you at that moment. Every relationship is different. The two of you know what feels fair to yall. But be reasonable. This isn't a coprorate policy that has by laws an…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:46 AM
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#1 advice is to have a CONVERSATION about the relationship status. Regardless of how you feel about things, discuss with the other person how THEY feel. It's just the stupidest thing in the world to me when I heard people argue about "You cheated on me" "That's not cheating if we weren't together!" "But we kinda were!" Ugh... let's just skip that phase entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:44 AM
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Sheesh... I don't know if you're young or just had bad experiences! if the latter, I'm sorry! It didn't take 2 - 3 years of dating for me and my partner to have mutual trust and goals. It took as little as 5 months. I know that's not the typical thing, but IMO if it takes more than 18 months, yall aren't really a good match.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:43 AM
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Oy vey, wait until you hear these rap guys discuss their love life. Body count is a top subject and they expect low N with their high N.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:41 AM
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I avoid those men 100%. I've never been with a man who wouldn't give me oral. How can you expect me to give you oral and you won't give me oral? I've been with a few guys who REALLY enjoyed giving oral. Those are fun nights. It's only one or two times I was with a guy who expected me to go down and I had to ASK him to go down on me. In my head, I was over him. it was a one time thing. And luckily, never been with a guy who just flat out refused. I almost went on a date with a guy who said it was…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:37 AM
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Gabrielle Bernstein Marie Forleo Rachel Hollis Nell Scovell Ariana Huffington Danielle Laporte Oprah Winfrey Brene Brown Jen Sincero Elizabeth Gilbery Marie Kondo Esther Hicks Rhonda Bryne Lisa Nichols How many more do you need? I got more.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:33 AM
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Kevin Samuels didn't even take his own advice so I dunno how good of a coach he was. and Jordan Peterson gives advice that is unisex. His book is not just for men, it's written for everyone. But yes, there are women who givev self development advice and dating advice to other women. They don't go viral because they're not interested in making fun of callers or whatever. I'd argue there are more women in the self-help space than there are men. But it's cool to see more men getting into the field.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:30 AM
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I don't know the dudes you watch, so I probably wouldn't know it's RP if I saw it. I just know there is a popular rhetoric in RP that is super toxic and that is a 100% nope. And Dating advice isn't automatically RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:27 AM
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Literally google dude. The day I started actually googling things rather than just hearing people complain of stuff, my eyes were opened. I was like "wow, I bought a false narrative for so long when I have a damn smart phone. This is embarassing". But yea, if a dude files for custody, chances are he will get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:25 AM
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I think this is kind of obvious. It's far easier for a man to detach himself from a child than the woman who had the kid pop out of her literal body cavity. And many women feel bonded to the child because by, what? 3 or 4 month mark in pregnancy the fetus is more like an actual person with a personality and habits living INSIDE of her. And then she has to hold the baby from hospital bed to household. And is trained to breastfeed (and you have to attempt to breastfeed to even find out if you cann…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:21 AM
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I have a friend dealing with this right now. The type of woman he wants is a higher caliber. Not necessarily in looks, just in her personality or mindset or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:20 AM
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I want to make a similar post to this but add "and see a therapist, consider anti-depressants" Some guy private messaged me from this sub reddit and everything he described to me were perfect symptoms of moderate to severe depression.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:18 AM
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I don't look into MGTOW much so I don't know what the culture is. MGTOW on face value means nothing to me. LIke... men going their own way? As in not getting into relationships? Good for you. It doesn't hurt anyone, I don't care. But the issue with this stuff is always the type of content that comes out of it, not the initial/face value purpose. I honestly thing more men should go MGTOW. Not necessarily consume the content, just actually DO IT lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:17 AM
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PPD is a toss up. You don't know what kind of person they are just because they're engaged in this subreddit. All you know is they are interested in man/woman relations. I'd have to actually read the comments. Personally, I find it more attractive when a guy isn't active on social media forums like this. Like, I would find it attractive that he lurks (as in he is reading other people's posts) but doesn't comment. That's just me. I dunno if that's a popular sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:14 AM
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I would love it. There are a lot of men who could use some foundation and concealer, for real. It would make them significantly more attractive. It's just one of the reasons Kpop boy bands are so popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:12 AM
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Just keep practicing. The learning never ends, my friend. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:11 AM
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I'm noticing that in this sub and I'm brand new in here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:11 AM
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No. There are plenty of beautiful people who just aren't my type. I'm sure you're able to recognize someone is attractive without you actually finding them attractive yourself. Unless you're some kind of pansexual "i literally love everyone" guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:10 AM
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I don't feel any way about it. I have also been rejected. And he has rejected women. It's just a part of life. Why would you feel anything for it? It's a neutral thing. You don't just accept every stranger you come across into your life. I would be concerned if he never faced rejection in his life because that would be weird and he'd probably have a stunted mental development from that or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:05 AM
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When I worked in sales, our boss required all of us women to come to the office with makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:02 AM
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When it comes to getting sex whenever you crave it, sex isn't as simple as putting a body part in someone else's body part and it feels good. For women, you want to be with someone who will actually get you off. And some women get a higher libido as they age so their options dwindle when they most crave it. And I don't get what you mean about "I wouldn't touch him but I'd date him" bit. Yea, women want to date whom they find sexually attractive. Is it not the same for guys? Would guys date a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:00 AM
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FDS does not stand. It got blocked, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:55 AM
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I think more people will get together as a way to cope. It favors anyone who is seeking a long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:53 AM
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I'll be getting more active with my vote. Not sure what else to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:52 AM
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I disagree. Most slut shaming I've heard comes from men. Especially as you get older. When you're a young person they can. When you're older, you definitely have more confidence in yourself. But the issue isn't the comments making you "feel bad", the issue is the comments are used to dismiss what you have to say or even who you are as a person. It's used to make you or your points irrelevant. A form of trying to ostracize the person. So having sex with many adults and liking younger women aren't…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:50 AM
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Why does it matter? We aren't "another species". We are human beings. Using human traits is adequate enough to explain whatever you're trying to explain. Why are you explaining this anyway? No one asked. Again, you didn't make any tools. I don't know what your point is. And again, no one asked. Off the top of my head, a woman actually created birth control. But who cares? Why are you bringing this up? Who asked? You didn't have any role in making any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:43 AM
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I brought up the fact we will not have sex because you said that's the only reason a man would talk to a woman. I'm using the fact you're talking to me as an example. You and some other guy made that same assumption so I gave both of you the same example. I didn't say you were the only one who didn't understand my post. I said you were in the minority. My edits were just a reaction and commentary on people like you. I didn't actually edit the body of the post. I didn't make them for your benefit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:40 AM
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No, I don't care about getting the last word. You can have it. I am merely responding to yet another comment you made that indicates lack of reading comprehension. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:10 AM
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Under weird pretenses that were not relevant after a dull attempt to explain why you think you're superior (ironically, you were one of the few who struggled with the post lol) and several attempts to explain the situation to you, sure. You get a cookie. Enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:57 AM
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Pretty much no one? There are several comments under my post of people who actually answered my question or shared similar sentiments so... you're just objectively wrong. People like you who required several responses to understand are in the minority under my post. Learn to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:11 AM
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And what are you doing? You've written at length your thoughts on something. That's the beauty of the internet and these apps. It allows people to say whatever they want to whomever they want without pressure. I mean, it'd be one thing if you've never been in a chat room, forum, discord, etc before, but you're on one right now. You know very well that men and women talk to each other at length on these platforms for various reasons and topics. And maybe you truly believe these online interaction…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:49 AM
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You think I'm hard to talk to because you make assumptions and don't actually read. I was talking to a guy on an app where there are plenty of people to talk to. Part of the culture of the app is to have opposing opinions. The voice chat rooms are co-ed and there is constant flow of people all the time. So it doesn't make sense still. I don't think this thread is for you. Just go enjoy your reddit experience elsewhere lol. This isn't helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:46 AM
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Yes, I wish no-makeup was normalized. I commend Alicia keys for taking a vow of no makeup. To me, it's important because make up can affect you in the business and work world. You look "unkempt" as a woman if you don't appear to have makeup on. Something as little as a bit of lip color and mascara can be enough to pass in business, but it's still make up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:28 PM
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If it helps you feel better, women are not looking for men who look like Noel or Jeff... Jason Mamoa is certified hollywood hunk and I think we all agree he is natty. He is actually way way above what a woman is expecting to get with or looking for. But he is always around 15% body fat ON SEASON. Off season, he adds more body fat and he is still considered a heart throb. Too little body fat isn't actually attractive to women. You should investigate what women actually like and stop putting value…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:22 PM
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It wasn't just one individual man, it was a handful of them. I noticed a pattern and I am asking others about said pattern. If you have not noticed this pattern then maybe this isn't the thread for you. ​ I swear to god, it's like you guys don't actually read the post. you just read the title and type away lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:12 PM
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I think I am missing something here. Do you mean OLD as in people above a certain age?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:11 PM
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There is a reason people of a certain education level have WAY less children than people below a certain education level. Men and women who are highly educated simply date less, have less sex and procreate WAY less even when in married or committed relationships. They tend to spend more time and money on things other than being around lots of strangers and feeling good.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:08 PM
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I don't know. I think it depends who you're talking to. I know guys online - when they say "nice guy" they actually just mean a slightly below average guy lol (below average in everything -- conversation, looks, status, etc) But for myself and other women I know, when we say nice guy, we mean an ACTUAL nice guy. A guy that is nice. People like him. He's not some kind of archetype or anything, just a guy that the average person would find pleasant and is genuinely courteous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:05 PM
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Waiting until 30 is such a good idea. I've heard horror stories of young couples where one of them gets diagnosed with schizophrenia around 25 or 26 suddenly. Also, as you age, you are more certain about your own weaknesses and what weaknesses in others you can and cannot toelrate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:03 PM
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The surveys don't say 7 out of 10 women initiate divorce. They say OF people filing for divorce, 7 out of 10 of them are women. It's really important to properly understand stats. 70% of women who get married filing for divorce (not accurate) is VERY DIFFERENT than 70% of divorves are filed by women. This is why it's different: There are 69 million married women. 70% of this is 48 million. The misinterpreted stat would say 48 million women are filing for divorce. However, there is only about 800…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:01 PM
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I would go to a fun networking event. Something that is enjoyable whether or not I'm approached, but encourages interaction with strangers so it increases my chances of getting approached. And also increases the chances it's someone of similar interests who is approaching me. I tried the tactic of going to restaurants or coffee shops and having "open body language" and it never worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 09:39 PM
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I personally have never seen a woman get physical with someone or with objects due to sexual rejection. That's just me, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 09:36 PM
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Success rate for what? You don’t even know the context of the conversation. I’m assuming success rate for sex? But these convos were not related to getting with each other, there was no possibility for sex. Like how you with your anonymous profile typing to me has no possibility of us having sex together. So success rate of what? The only thing I can think of is perhaps success rate of indoctrination.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 09:01 PM
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No… in referring to the actual explanation of how the convo went… If you read the post, the bullet point list is a list of EXAMPLES of phrases these men say that contradict what they said earlier in the convo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:56 PM
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I know we aren’t those. And don’t say “we are saying”. He didn’t say it, you did. Speak for y yourself, don’t speak for him. Anyway, we are human beings. Why did that guy insist on “if we were another species” when we aren’t? (This is a rhetorical question, sir. Please don’t attempt to answer, just speak for yourself lol) I’m illustrating how useless the thought experiment is by bringing up “another species” as the other guy offered. I 100% disagree that men are more capable of abstract thought …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:50 PM
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I explained it in my OP. Does it not make sense to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:16 PM
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Yes… I brought them up to illustrate how pointless comparing species is in this convo. Why is this hard for you and the other dude to understand? How can I say this any clearer? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:10 PM
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I don’t care about a man who acts superior. You can act however you want. My post is about an actual conversation. Ideas and words exchanged, not how a dude acted other than the fact he lied.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:08 PM
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I got the point and I’m telling you the point is idiotic, irrelevant and actually point-less. Especially considering there are species where females dominate males by nature. Humans are already prey to enough species and thanks to tools we are able to survive. Not even Usain Bolt can out run a jaguar. This line of conversation has no point. That’s the point. That you’re not getting. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:45 PM
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The last convo I had that prompted this post wasn’t recorded. I don’t really feel like going through hours of possibly recorded convos to find the moment a guy flips just to respond to someone with a wolf avatar. So just feel good knowing this is something you’ve never had the displeasure of hearing. Btw the convos I’m having are not for sex and there was no possibility of sex. Just like how me typing to you right now and we both know there’s no possible way we are gonna have sex with each other…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:43 PM
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I don’t know how the subtext went over your head. I thought the “who cares?” And “we are not a different species” would have made that clear… 🤦🏾‍♀️ And yet you still are talking about alligators. Obviously you vs an alligator, you’d likely lose unless you’ve been trained. But who effing careeessssss? Let me say this plainly - it literally doesn’t matter
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:39 PM
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But would you in conversation lie about it? Like when the topic is explicitly fairness in a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:37 PM
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Omg lol I… i don’t get these guys. And it’s so hard to tell if they’re serious or not. Because we know there are guys who truly are serious. If it’s someone going viral on a regular basis, it’s probably for the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:35 PM
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Of course, I'll google this myself, but how do you know that the men were "a good husband"? We know that WHILE married, men feel they are benefitting (financially, socially, etc. based on research and surveys). Stats also say men fall in love more often and harder than women. I just always assumed for men, marriage sounds like a good deal for them. And women don't always feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:32 AM
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Yes, I always ask dudes online what they mean because you never know who you’re dealing with. They always swear they “hate double standards”. But then somehow they let a phrase slip (like the examples I gave above) and when I ask them more about that they tell me about a gendered hierarchy and why that is why a man holds authority over a woman. The convo never gets far enough for me to understand how one can “hate double standards” and also believe there is a hierarchy. Maybe there is some kind …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:14 AM
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That’s why I made this post. I didn’t think the convo was possible and yet it happened 4 times in the span of a month on the app I was on. Why would they even HINT at equality when they don’t believe it? It’s weird
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:46 AM
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What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:43 AM
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That’s my point. The man is saying something extreme but because you agree with a severely lesser version of it, you come off as defending the point. I’m not meaning to target you specifically but in conversation and in media, I hear a similar dynamic happen
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 10:27 PM
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This is why I don’t like this rhetoric going out. People like yourself will defend a talking point as if they are saying the same thing you are. The guy I spoke to the other day said a woman CANNOT SURVIVE without being married to a man. I’m sure your Caribbean and southern parents didn’t teach you that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:55 PM
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But you asked and brought up my personal life. I’m asking why? I don’t care that my education or job confuses you. And no, I don’t forgive men for feeling superior when that man didn’t do anything. Nope. And we aren’t a different species. I’m not going to live life based on an imaginary notion of us being a different species… I mean, why not think about how inferior you are to a tiger or alligator - species that can kill humans? What if we were Praying Mantises and women were biological designed…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:15 PM
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Believe it or not, engineers are hired to just… do things. Like the engineer that made your phone didn’t invent it. Most of my professors didn’t invent things. It is what it is. Most engineers don’t actually invent things, we just build them. This is common sense. But why are you so interested in making it personal? Good for you that you met engineers who invented things. Make sure you remind them how inferior you are to them. And think about how you haven’t invented anything widely used yoursel…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:11 PM
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Yes, doing things that make you feel good is a natural thing to do. Just because doing that is natural doesn’t mean it’s good or bad. Booze is natural. Sugar is natural. Cocaine is natural. Just because these things occur in nature doesn’t necessarily mean they are good or bad. So you get why we say appeal to nature is a fallacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:00 PM
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I am an engineer 🙄 Jesus Christ - how about you stick to the topic at hand rather than trying to guess about someone’s personal life No, let me try it one time What I see is you didn’t build a damn thing. So I’m not cutting you or any other dude online “slack” via inferiority. Why do you want to take credit for what you didn’t do, anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:46 PM
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It’s been fun aside from these type of men! Thanks! Check it out some time if you’re ever bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:39 PM
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I don’t read anything here, I just saw the description and figured this is where my post goes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:17 PM
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The men I interact with day to day didn’t invent anything I use. Why should I be inferior to a man who didn’t do it and why shouldn’t other men also be considered inferior to those men? Why not be inferior to women inventors and builders? Why not be inferior to women who create men? I don’t know if you want to indoctrinate me or something but you still don’t make sense. Ironic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:14 PM
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We know…? Even so men cannot be pregnant. The question is what can women do that a man can’t do, dude. A man cannot be pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:11 PM
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Yes, we have established a sperm is needed. We know that. It still remains men cannot actually be pregnant… so if one gender can be pregnant and the other can’t… that is literally something men can’t do. Yes baby formula is a thing. No one said it isn’t. We were discussing what a woman can do that a man can’t. Men cannot breast feed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:07 PM
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I never said anything of the sort. And how does any of that mean men in general should have authority over women? I was not even speaking in a romantic sense to any of these men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:01 PM
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There are a few of those, yea
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:56 PM
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If you read my post, I said they start out with egalitarian points. I said they say they believe men and women hold equal responsibility for their actions. My question is why lie about that when they don’t actually believe that? That’s not rational to me. This is PPD so if you want to know the rationality in not holding a gender superior, read posts in this subreddit about it. But that discussion isn’t what my post is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:53 PM
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That’s great men feel superior. How a man feels isn’t the same as what is objective. And telling me that there is a gender hierarchy and things are my fault because I’m at the bottom of a hierarchy and a man can do whatever he wants and it’s morally okay because he’s at the top of the hierarchy is wrong. I don’t want to spend time with people like that. So my question is, if he feels superior why would he pretend that he feels equal? Just let me know from the start so I can leave and go be aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:51 PM
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You know what else is natural? Doing things that make you feel good. It doesn’t matter the “ultimate purpose”, it’s still natural. 🙄 The natural thing doesn’t let us know if something is good or bad so don’t use it unless you want to sound bigoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:49 PM
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When a guy says the hierarchy is man then women and uses that to say a man has authority over women, that sounds like “superior to women in every way” to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:41 PM
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I’m asking what the gospel is. I know the subreddit’s description - hence my post.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:40 PM
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They aren’t equally necessary. A man provides a sperm and the woman provides an egg. That’s the only equal part. After that the woman’s entire body is used for several months. The man’s isn’t. The man cannot carry a fetus. And he cannot breast feed a baby. I don’t see how that is “equal”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:37 PM
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You said take PPD as gospel so I’m asking what that is. And I didn’t sign up for male supremacy, no. Have had amazing convos and learned a lot from the app. It’s not for everyone, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 05:43 PM
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I’ve never interacted with them somehow
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 05:43 PM
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Yea I’m talking about child birth. A sperm is needed and then the woman’s entire body is used. Why do you ask for something besides child birth? It is literally something men cannot do. Breast feeding, as well. But I don’t think just because women can do something men can’t that women have authority over men and I don’t see the use in even playing devil’s advocate to argue it. And for the things with differentials, there are studies about “statistically” what women are better at. I don’t care mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 05:40 PM
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I’m asking why when there is nothing to compete for and how can I sus it out sooner so I don’t have to deal with them? Your comment isn’t helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 05:37 PM
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What is PPD gospel? And no, it’s not a place to go for bullshit but bullshit people come in.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 05:36 PM
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I have no issue with men feeling confident in their manhood or their abilities or "being a real man". Nor do I have an issue with women being confident or empowered. I have no issue with Male retreat, female retreats. Scholarships to get underserved boys into college, scholarship to get underserved girls into college. I have no issue with these things. The issue is an idea that one gender is an authority over another. That's what I mean when I say male supremacy. And I don't see women doing that…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:43 PM
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That implies we value the differential in strength more than even things men cannot do at all that women can do or the other differentials women have in other categories. And also, it implies that any of these things should mean one is a superior over another -- worthy of dictating how the other should live.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:39 PM
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Oh and btw, I use "male supremacy" because I think that is what it is. I know it's not a popular term on twitter yet, but I don't know what else to call it. They have an idea that men are superior. Someone told me I should say "white supremacy" because there's this idea that white supremacy also includes, automatically, male supremacy or patriarchy, but I'd rather not use a term that implies race relations. Just want to discuss the gender relations aspect. And patriarchy doesn't sound right eith…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:34 PM
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Oh no no... never going out with them haha!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:28 PM
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It's an appeal to nature fallacy. A basic example of the appeal to nature is the following argument: “Herbal medicine is natural, so it's good for you.” Another example of the appeal to nature is the following: “Antibiotics are unnatural, so they're bad for you.” The word "natural" isn't bad, but the commenter is saying to avoid these type of men with this ideology, if they use that word, they likely are going to use an appeal to nature fallacy and that's a warning flag. For example, have you ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:26 PM
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That's a good dog whistle and I agree with you. I have never heard anyone use the word "natural" to describe people and it end sensible. Almost everything can be rationalized with others without an appeal to nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:24 PM
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Over the course of conversation (these convos are via voice and they are in group settings or one on one-ish and sometimes the convos are even RECORDED and they still do this), as we're discussing male and female romantic relationships, cheating comes up. Views on cheating, what to do if you're cheated on, etc. And yea -- they let this one slip. I've also heard "Women shouldn't be single but a man can be single so he doesn't have to put up with a woman's BS". I've heard "Men are not mature and n…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:17 PM
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This is pretty much their argument once their "truth" comes out. And it's like... okay but no. They get really mad, too. When you say "No, I don't think so" :/
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:47 PM
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Dude, I think you're right that this is their persuasion tactic. It's really gross. And really pathetic that they can't keep up the charade. They have to fumble at the end lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:45 PM
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I so so sooo wish it didn't happen. I'm on an app called clubhouse almost everyday and there are chatrooms with this type of discussion ad nauseum. Let's switch online social habits, please lol I'm envious
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:44 PM
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The cheating thing is just one example of many. But yes, I don't think they will get what they want. I've only spoken to one man of this mindset who was "happily married" and he told me he earns 1.2 million dollars a year. He told me he laid out an agreement with his wife and she agreed to go with it. I told that guy... atleast in real life you were up front and honest. That's all I ask. But I fear they're more like what you're describing. Using deception as a way to insert dominance.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:43 PM
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They say women are “naturally obedient” to rationalize this idea that women have to be submissive in relationships. They don’t actually support this appeal to nature nor do they explain why it matters what’s natural and what’s not and why it’s worth subjugating a whole gender because of it. They also ignore the fact that as many men who are in leadership there are wayyyyyy more who are not. These are the same people who complain of women initiating “70% of divorces” which also doesn’t make sense…
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 10:07 PM
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There has been a surge of articles detailing how female viewers prefer characters like Loki and Kylo Rey. I don’t know if this is the opposite of “tall and masculine” to you, but it is different than what men think women want.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 10:01 PM
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As someone with depression, 100% being in a loving relationship did NOT fix my depression. It did give me a great support system as I got help.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 09:59 PM
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I didn’t say I was granting you permission. I’ve said, repeatedly, I’m calling you out for trying to derail the convo. And I saw someone else responded to you in the thread so I’m flattered your focused on me but people, plural, have called you out. I’m just letting you know why since you’re quite invested. I don’t really need you to be concerned with my friends or the 10 seconds I take to respond to someone on Reddit. It might be best for you to find some friends since your responses are quite …
/r/ExRedPill22/04/22 05:33 AM
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You said you have researched this, so you could give proper context to the original person. Instead, you insist that this is supposed to be describing drug addiction. When someone said "almost like drug addiction" it doesn't mean write a thesis statement about drug addiction. They are not describing drug addiction. They are describing pornography addiction. The statement is ABOUT porn. Rather than talk about that, you want to argue about whether or not you need to talk about drugs. I'm just lett…
/r/ExRedPill21/04/22 10:35 PM
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To my knowledge someone said it's "almost" like drug addiction. Refering to porn. We're talking about porn. You saw the words "drug addiction" and have since attempted to derail the convo. You get frustrated when people respond calling you out on this. Just stop.
/r/ExRedPill21/04/22 06:51 PM
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You want it to be about both but everyone else understands we’re talking about porn. That’s why you’re getting the replies you’re getting.
/r/ExRedPill21/04/22 02:15 AM
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Right. It’s really that simple. Dude listens to his peen and not his head. Has nothing to do with who he’s married to or dating. It’s the man’s problem, not the one who got cheated on’s. And yes, there are definitely people out there who use this as an excuse to tell women to “lower their standards” when it comes to romance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 11:59 PM
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Wow. I just finished watching her make a joke about how she doesn’t want to work and wants to be a stay at home mom so she makes her husband’s lunch and how he went to Harvard business school. Little did I know the roles are actually reversed. And that SHE paid off that Harvard debt? Nnmmm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 11:55 PM
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This is very typical. A lot of dudes will stay with a woman they don’t like until there is a “good reason” to break up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 11:48 PM
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I love her. She’s absolutely gorgeous, as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 11:46 PM
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They are saying being alone is the best because they’re socially awkward and can’t figure out where or how to “fit in” or they had been hurt and didn’t go to therapy to help themselves.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 11:38 PM
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If it makes you feel any better, at 16 much of it is BS or a flat out lie. Think about how much less stress you have to endure and freedom to pursue what you personally enjoy without being involved in unnecessary drama. As hormonal and illogical as teenagers are, imagine feeling a part of your life is being dictated by someone else’s. For the sake of… I guess the experience? Because these relations don’t end up in marriage or anything. Imagine being stuck in a potentially abusive relationship an…
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 11:37 PM
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Do you have a therapist?
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 11:33 PM
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I feel at least 30% of the women who call in are trolling him.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 11:31 PM
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I don’t know what I said that is upsetting you. You claim you have seen the research and I said that’s a great thing… (Re-reads my post) Oh… I said “should be no problem”. Is that phrase triggering or something? I said that because literally there should be no problem. If you feel there is one then it’s just you.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 11:24 PM
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The topic is not drug addiction… the topic is internet porn…
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 11:23 PM
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We know….
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 06:36 PM
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Oh ok so since you researched this then you already know. Should be no problem.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 06:35 PM
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They’re worth it. Psychology today can help you find therapist in your area that provide sliding scale and betterhelp has video tele-therapy for an affordable price when you sign up for their financial aid. If you’re actually below poverty line, assuming you’re in the US, your county has free mental health services to get you started. You will have to google the hotline in your area.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 12:33 AM
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With all due respect, are you not aware that websites (including porn websites) are designed to be addictive? I mean if we were back in Web 1.0, you might have an argument but now that they’re using keen algorithms, it’s very easy for people to be “addicted” to a variety of things online.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 12:32 AM
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A google search will find some evidence. I kinda thought it was common knowledge porn is, at the very least, not a beneficial thing for the mind. Porn to me is like drinking alcohol. You’re better without it. Not the end of your life if you partake sometimes.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/22 12:29 AM
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I don’t necessarily think this is a bad thing, but it depends on you. I don’t know if you journal but it may be worth it so you can explore what this means for you. Because it could be loss of libido, stress related, etc. Nothing wrong with just taking a break.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 02:36 AM
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So I don't know WHICH of those cities you live in. I'll tell you from the perspective of someone who lives in a large city with "okay" enough rent prices that a healthy, regular guy making $30k/year takehome or more should be able to find somewhere to live alone. Living with roommates past your 30s here is REALLY weird to me, as a woman. And for me, personally, if a guy is 25 + with roommates, that's weird to me. Though, I might give him a chance if I see that he's just really great with saving …
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 02:30 AM
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I heard a guy give advice like "Don't think of her like she's a woman. Think of her like you're engaging with another dude." The way he described it made it make sense to me. I mean, if you imagined this lady you're texting back and forth with is just another dude friend, you definitely won't be thinking "she's talking to some other guys!!!!" ​ BTW - if you're in texting phase and yall are not exclusive, she absolutely can talk to other guys. Y'all are not an item yet. If you want to be an item,…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 02:24 AM
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Your face is not chubby, btw. Having hair in your face will make you appear young. Having your hair look intentionally styled (like there is product in your hair) and out of your face will make you look more mature and put together. Your forehead is not large, so I'd take advantage of that and start trying styles with no bang or hair in your face. If you continue to maintain a healthy weight, your face will become more "chiseled" with age.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 02:21 AM
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Do you have a therapist?
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 02:18 AM
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I don't really relate to what you're saying. I don't know if you're referring to low libido or just not enjoying watching porn or what. There's absolutely nothing wrong with not using porn or not liking porn.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 02:18 AM
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Because in some countries, being white comes with the assumption that you're not poor. I hear a big chunk of sex tourism is based on this and it's kinda gross to me. Just the idea of some white guy going to poor areas of countries because he knows he can get sex and pay very little for it or lie for it.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 04:25 AM
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I know from a man's point of view, it really seems different and it seems like it matters. But as a woman, I can tell you that how you dress can attract more eyeballs and attention -- but you're just as likely to fall victim of a predator in a potato sack as in a bikini. So that's the message I think is more important to teach your daughter. Let her know that, with statistical evidence backing it up, it doesn't matter what she wears if she gets assaulted. Of course, I think making sure she dress…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 04:17 AM
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Ugh. I think it comes from this idea that you will make more money as you age and have a better lifestyle that young women will find attractive. I dunno -- maybe if you're Leonardo DiCaprio who makes deals with modeling agencies so his girlfriend can always be between the ages of 21 and 25. But in the real world, that's not what happens.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 04:04 AM
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There is a thing called pretty privilege and it applies to men, as well. But the rest of us mere mortals are still surviving. You will, too lol
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 04:02 AM
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Online, it is a thing. In real life, I don't know. I haven't seen in in real life other than like... guys who are building a brand to get women to buy their e-books and then it turns out they have been cheating on their wife for years.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:44 AM
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So this is what guys think is "nice guy", huh? A nice guy to me was always someone who... after you interacted with him left you feeling like "that guy was so nice". You know, like that guy who breifly chats with you in line at Starbucks saying "I like your shoes, man!" or the guy who enters the room and introduces himself and remembers peoples names. Smiles at folk as they walk by. Stuff like that. Stuff that made you feel like "hm, that was nice". Yea like you ever see a dude by himself and he…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:42 AM
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omg... "field reports" takes me back lmao I remember reading some of them like "dude... just stop being weird lol. Read social cues." You know how cringe it was to read those things and the guy actually could have started something great with a woman, but they ruined it trying to use some weird "tactic" Sometimes, I wondered if some of them were on the autism spectrum and instead of going to therapy and learning skills via professional means, RP just had better marketing and free content.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:38 AM
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No, it wasn't ever good. Even back when there was actually some good takes and good content, there was still a lot of bad ones. It was never good. When I was in the RP, I really had to tip toe.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:36 AM
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I like the phrase, but I guess it depends how you interpret it. To me, the phrase is saying that being in a relationship will not fix your unhappiness. Being with the right person will definitely bring more happiness and joy to your life, though. But it has to be the right person. Some people get a partner just to say to themselves "I have one". And that actually can make both people more unhappy if they're not a good fit.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:35 AM
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Balding is a downside, but it's so common that you can definitely survive in the dating pool. For a woman to be balding, she will have to wear a wig or rock the low cut look (usually need to be great with make up or great facial structure).
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:31 AM
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Could you give an example? I haven't seen anything like that. I just see posts of guys who have an issue that normally would lead them to crap RP views but they want to get a more measured, normal view to their issue. And we help them. I haven't really seen anyone trying to stir a hypothetical debate here.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:29 AM
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He's a life coach now? lmao
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:27 AM
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Have you considered talking to women who are also ugly?
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:24 AM
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Yea, if the manosphere is shilling that being attractive makes you happy, they're lying to you. I also feel the same way about people who say being rich will make them happy. It's great to have privilege, but you're still a human being. You still have thoughts, feelings, insecurities, etc. You can still suffer all the same issues as anyone else. There is also dimishing returns when it comes to material happiness. There are some good youtube videos about it. They're more related to the happiness …
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:22 AM
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It's only worth it if you genuinely enjoy it. If you haven't felt like you're missing anything, then you're fine. You're also super young. It'll happen when it happens. Keep enjoying your youth, dude.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:19 AM
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Yes. We are social creatures so feeling like you cannot have your social emotional needs met will make you feel bad about yourself. It requires a lot of self-care so you don't ooze that onto others.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:18 AM
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Depends how old you are and the circumstance.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:17 AM
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So... I don't think women in general go man-hopping the same way people leave a job to get another job that pays them $5k a year more. As long as you are able to like... pay your bills... you're not asking to borrow money from her... like as long as you're a functioning adult and able to live a good life YOURSELF, then your income shouldn't be a problem. I have exes who COULD rationalize "She moved on to someone who makes more than me" but that's largely because he was not making enough to take …
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:16 AM
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I'm not a guy. So I cannot relate to the importance of a penis to a man. I know it is a thing. I'll tell you, as a woman, if she's with you and happy with you, then she's fine with your penis. We don't think about what "size we deserve". If we like the guy, we like the guy.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:13 AM
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Short answer: patriarchy, misogyny, etc
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:11 AM
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I have the opinion of most people. Sheer stupidity and antics for a wanna-be Howard Stern type of career. At least Howard Stern was actually kinda good at his job. When their target audience gets old enough to have to buy their own health insurance, they'll realize that they shouldn't have taken any of it seriously lol.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:10 AM
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I HEAR YA! Hahaha! I effin' hate it. Also -- don't you just love the examples they use to try to illustrate their point? "Women want to get with a high value man like NBA players"... uhm yea... as if even 1% of the adult women in this country have even breathed the same air as a famous NBA player. Sure, pal. It's just annoying to hear these guys talk so confidently about something that is not relevant. We are not out here marrying dukes, lords and bishops. We are not trying to take our lowly roy…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:06 AM
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I was never really RPW, but I followed some RP media because there were a FEW ideas that I liked (some of the self-improvement things). I started to see more and more posts and content that were really gross against women. Depicting women as like... human beings that are not actually human beings? So like... men are the only actual humans and women need to change our personalities to whatever the man in our lives want (our fathers, brothers, etc)? I just kept seeing more and more stuff like that…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:02 AM
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This is what therapy is for. ​ Also, you'll never find closure when you focus on what happens to your narcissist. We live in a capitalistic society - narcissism is often even used as a strategy to "win". So just... go to therapy for yourself.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 02:55 AM
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Fortunately for you, the beauty standards for dudes are way lower than what it is for a woman. You don't have to look conventionally attractive to find a woman who finds you attractive enough. The main thing is being attractive once you've opened your mouth. Do you have a personality that is attractive? Are you the type of person that someone wants to get to know or get close to? Money and status just makes it so more of the people you meet are willing to keep sticking around you. Another strate…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 02:53 AM
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Exactly. Men want to use women for their entertainment, but the thought of their own daughter being used in the exact same manner terrifies them. It’s unfortunate but you have to use the “what if your daughter…” line on them to make them use their sense and the “logical brain” they love to brag about having.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 07:31 PM
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Men do capitalize on women’s looks already. They own make up and clothing lines. They own adult entertainment companies and modeling agencies. They make video games and movies with a focus on women’s appearance. So if they are allowed to make use of a woman’s looks, the woman herself certainly should do so GUILT FREE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 07:19 AM
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Date of quality. Don’t keep yourself to any particular race. WOC experience misogyny from their own race in a way that you, hopefully, are able to recognize. And hopefully by now, you know it’s not worth it to be “race loyal”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 07:10 AM
1

I can’t support this woman for lying about being from Spain so she can be on the cover of Latino and European magazines. Her name is actually just Hilary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 07:08 AM
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I am SO happy this clip is viral with young women. Because she’s absolutely right - a man WANTS HIS DAUGHTER to have THE BEST husband, finances included. So why can’t this woman want that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 06:56 AM
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And never say it of yourself, either. When I saw the title I instantly thought of Tana Mongeau
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 06:46 AM
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The only LVM I have seen become HVM were men who were single the entire time and relatively young. Which maybe is natural as they are becoming an adult and learning. I’ve never seen a man become HVM while dating a woman. If you’re with a man you’re unhappy with, leave. He is not changing for you. Years down the line, he will hit you up randomly and you will see his life is exactly the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 06:44 AM
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If they are interested at this age but are also afraid to make their interests known, that is a low value person to date. You dodged a bullet. They want to play like it’s middle school - not mature yet. Or they purely want to use you. Be proud they cannot view you as prey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 06:33 AM
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Yes I don’t get why (or okay maybe I do get why) they are hyping sex work in this way. Of course there is a lot of money to be made but most of the time, you don’t. It low key reminds me of an MLM lol (actually I have been hearing that OF acts like an MLM, too)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 06:34 PM
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The young lady is correct. The balding man is morally wrong and factually wrong. You need to pay taxes on OF money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 06:32 PM
1

You're probably doing enough. I would warn against starting to do wife type things when you're only girlfriend status (not even engaged yet).
/r/RedPillWives19/11/21 06:59 PM
1

Wouldn’t be surprised. Governor just signed a law making it illegal for a Texas nurse to change careers to be a travel nurse and work outside the state
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:58 PM
1

Thankyou for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:57 PM
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Date of conception doesn’t matter. Pregnancy is measured by your last menses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:56 PM
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Woah… a man who wants sexual gratification but is “grossed out by vaginas”…. I hope he hasn’t continued to date women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:55 PM
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Why are they shocked? Like they don’t have crazy physical standards themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:49 PM
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It’s funny but I can’t help but think “is your self respect so low?” Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:45 PM
3

He sounds like he is treating you like his guy friends from middle school lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:39 PM
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Girl, you said it. I hope more young women realize that a lot of men who share “dating advice” are touched mentally. Rule of thumb - any many who has to say he is high value is the exact opposite. Never fails that they will be a proven scrub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:46 PM
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I can understand being concerned with your girlfriend making big purchases like a house or a car on a whim (IF -- and this is a big if -- you intend to be MARRIED to her...). But the fact that his last straw was an ear piercing she wanted on her own body... someone please bring me my barf bag lol And yea, he seems jealous that she is able to do what she wants and be successful at it. For someone who "loves" his girlfriend, he sure seems to not understand that not everyone has to navigate life th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:35 PM
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When a man is not doing the things he has said he'd do (ex: "take care of her" "earn more income" etc) and she sees no signs of improvement. That gives women stank face every time she looks over at him in the bed when she falls asleep
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 02:19 AM
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Humans are social creatures. We literally evolved to survive best in social environment. A human being isolated is absolutely detrimental to their health and there are several case studies of this with abused children, adults and elderly.
/r/MGTOW201/06/19 05:00 AM
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Black women more and more do not care about being “race loyal” due to the high smv black men being blatantly race “disloyal”
/r/MGTOW201/06/19 04:56 AM
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I don’t see a reason not to
/r/MGTOW201/06/19 04:53 AM
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I agree. Young men will have to suffer risking being creepy as they figure it out. Trial and error. Same thing happens in sales. But there is a lot to learn from women’s feedback. They should definitely pay attention to it as it will help them improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 11:04 AM
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The OP is so fucking laughable, has to be a joke. I literally lol’d
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 11:01 AM
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Yes because it feels like they are being rejected and patronized
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 10:59 AM
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There is, there just isn’t much of a community for it. The best book on it I could find is a book by Cindy Lu called The 4 ____ Man. Can’t remember the exact name, but I adopted most of her philosophy to find my current partner. I highly recommend it. Also, yes. Being and behaving insecure is a turn off in general and can attract abusive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 10:53 AM
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Yes. After being abused by a guy with rough background, it slowly became a deal breaker the more guys I dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 10:52 AM
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I’m waiting to board an airplane
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 10:45 AM
2

Boyfriend material when I was like 18 had nothing to do with money. But by mid 20s, bf material and husband material were the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 10:45 AM
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Your lack of experience with humans and life stages is showing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 10:37 AM
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Fun is relative. You Can have fun with someone for free because of sex, humor, etc. Edit: if you’re wondering why this has gold, i am just as confused as you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 10:35 AM
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So glad you stopped doing it because it’s super annoying. In a discussion, just talk to the person you’re with. They are their own unique person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 10:32 AM
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/r/Redpillwives Read up
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 06:36 AM
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If she’s RP and the guy becomes her LTR, she’s doing whatever he tells her to do
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 11:18 PM
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No, being in an LTR with what was called an alpha but aka a fuck boy is to a girl’s detriment
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 07:08 PM
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It just depends on how you want to play it. For example, at a business dinner — you Can just have everyone at their own way but it sends a different message entirely if you pay for everyone’s meal. You’ve now asserted yourself as the dominate one in the transaction and the other person will submit to you or have incentive to meet you half way by paying for something next time. Etiquette sends unspoken messages that you want communicated. If you don’t care about that then you go halfsies. It’s li…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 06:56 PM
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No one in this thread ever said there’s anything wrong with that in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 06:53 PM
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I’m talking about getting more involved with him like a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 06:12 PM
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Etiquette is related to tradition but common courtesy is a dash of common sense. If I were merely talking about tradition, it wouldn’t matter who asked who at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 06:06 PM
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Well yea but that doesn’t mean the guy is what this sub calls an alpha. But you’re not wrong that an alpha/fuck boy can have a woman do stupid things that aren’t to her interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:18 PM
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What do the Dutch do? They for real go halfsies? Those Northern Europeans do everything different. I think they’re 80% atheist so they will be totally different compared to America that’s 50% Christian. Note: rough stats from memory, don’t quote me, bro. But the exact and most updated info is searchable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:13 PM
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Yes now and days girls should offer to pay half, but traditionally even if she offers the guy will still pay. That’s how my personal dates go, as well. Why does he pay? It signifies that his intention is to get in my pants. It’s not so much about being the set up for a 50s picket fence relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 12:16 PM
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Are you talking to me? I don't know, maybe because my fiance likes me... I think??
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 07:09 AM
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No, this is actually the traditionalist theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 07:04 AM
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No. Men want to be the hunter. If she initiates, he’s the hunted.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 09:59 PM
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A man who calls the shots. People ask for his blessing. Holidays are at his house. His wife doesn’t have to work, but she’s the kind of woman who does (like Michelle Obama) because he wants that kind of woman who will help him build. He’s “the man”. Not just in his house but his community.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 09:56 PM
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Lol go over to their subreddits and post this. I don’t think most women are actually feminists in that they want complete equity of the sexes. They just want to be themselves, be free, without being judged for it. And there’s nothing to call that so girls just say feminism when it’s really “I just want to be treated like a human being and also have an orgy of my choosing at the same time” I can see how letting you pay feels like they rob themselves of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 07:59 PM
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Omg... to me, what you’re describing is not an alpha (to women). That’s a fuck boy... Sign me up with betabux. I’ll make him my alpha. Whatever daddy beta says goes!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 07:54 PM
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Riddle me this... saying that a man is 50% responsible implies woman have no responsibility .... how?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 07:49 PM
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No, I agree with you that times are a-changing. And it’s polite for a woman to offer to pay (for her half — girls who didn’t ask you out paying for your half too is a keeper lol) now and days. I do that, myself. But I STILL expect the man to pay. If he allows me to pay, I don’t go back out with him (that’s just my personal standard. Now and days that’s not a deal breaker anymore) and if you met another traditionalist they would expect the man to pay even if the woman offers. A man who doesn’t pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 07:47 PM
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What does an alpha provide? It sounds like it’s much better for a woman to go with betabux.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 07:45 PM
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Hot guy doesn’t get benefit of the doubt. A man who doesn’t pay is simply a man who doesn’t pay. And if he shows other signs that he’s not interested in an LTR, he is of no value to a woman other than casual sex or being able to say she has sex with such and such. I think it just sounds cool to other guys for a man to be like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 07:43 PM
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Yes that is the adjective English speakers use in general. We don’t go around saying “I had a let’s fuck meeting last night”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 07:29 PM
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That’s not the norm so I’m not talking about you and your dates, clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 07:28 PM
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I’m appealing to answering the fucking question for OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 07:27 PM
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Then what’s his value? If he has this attitude why would a woman be with him other than just casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 06:52 PM
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It’s not wishful thinking, it’s how it often plays out but now it’s 2018 where the woman could be a man, the man could be a woman, both of y’all could be bi and seeking a polyamourous relationship so who the fuck knows now. Prior to the 2010s, it was normal that whoever asked the other out probably is paying if it’s meant to be a romantic date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 06:51 PM
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So does a man... he can choose who he lets lose in, too... he’s not a victim to his own jizz lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 06:49 PM
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What? Isn’t an alpha a provider? How does it make sense that an alpha has a woman he asked out pay for her food or his food?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 06:48 PM
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What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 05:38 PM
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Wasn’t it his sperm? He’s the reason the abortion is even being discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 05:04 PM
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Oh, I’m sure tinder culture is very different!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 04:47 PM
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Oh, my mistake. By the blatant misuse of the word in your replies, I figured you might have needed some help. Alright then, good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 03:55 PM
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Here is the definition for you: the customary code of polite behaviour in society or among members of a particular profession or group.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 03:54 PM
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That’s not how etiquette works, no. You can take a class.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 03:51 PM
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Your question is irrelevant to the discussion anyway. And the answer can be implied by what I said in my response. No, they weren’t discourteous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 03:47 PM
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We’re not talking about buddies, we’re talking about dating. Are you romantic with your buddies? And I didn’t say you MUST pay fully, I said be PREPARED to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 03:45 PM
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Common courtesy and etiquette.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 03:43 PM
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If she’s redpill, she knows that’s the worst thing she could do to initiate the relationship. As much gender equity as we have now, traditionalism is still in the mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 03:08 PM
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Honestly, there’s no good reason to stay. Good on you.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/19 03:04 PM
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Yes there is a study on it somewhere on google scholar. Looksmatch tend to have better relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 02:30 PM
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Because there are men who have custody. And the man has 50% impact of the child existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 02:28 PM
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No. Culturally a man paying isn’t desperate, it’s typically expected. Whoever invites the other out should be prepared to pay fully and traditionalists will expect the man to pay either way. Continue this until it’s apparent you both like each other and will be going on endless amount of dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 02:24 PM
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Uhhh obviously not invisible because her mom noticed you sooo
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 02:21 PM
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It was an overly simplistic view of the world and gender relations. It’s better to just be a normal person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 02:19 PM
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I told you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 03:01 PM
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I didn’t become a slut, I thought I needed to be one.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/18 02:58 PM
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Again. You’re not OP. You’re not a mod. Don’t have to behave any way you say. And I’m trying to evoke a “okay moving on” reaction. I think we got there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 02:57 PM
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I am just not under YOUR comment. Glad you’re okay. I know it’s stressful when a woman doesn’t submit to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 02:38 PM
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I already told you... to point something out so everyone can consider it in the discussion. Pretty simple. We done?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 02:28 PM
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I don’t have to debate you to still participate in this thread, sir entitlement. You’re not even the OP... Well, if you don’t like my post delete it then since apparently you’re a moderator that needs to control how others interact here. Note to everyone else: prime RP guy I’m talking to, huh? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 02:19 PM
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First of all, I don’t have to debate YOU. Why are you so entitled? I’ve clearly made up my mind on what? That I don’t need or want to debate you? Yep. That doesn’t mean I have no other reason to be here. My Reddit usage doesn’t revolve around you, dear. P.s. pointing things out is also part of discussion, love.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 02:11 PM
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Because I wanted to point out that you left out descriptors and RP is not merely these amazing independent men. I don’t need to debate you to get that across, I just needed to make sure it’s said.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:38 PM
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Ones that you didn’t list. Yes, I’m sure you do already know.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:36 PM
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You seem familiar with the subreddit so I’m sure you already know, hun.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:34 PM
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BPD is something everyone needs to be aware of because if you didn’t know it exists and you encounter it, it will fuck you up. I’m teaching my kids right away how to spot someone with a personality disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:31 PM
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RP guys are not merely described as independent, non needy and successful. There are some descriptors that you’re missing and they’re not all brag - able
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:30 PM
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Yea I don’t see the leap from 1.6% to most women... nothing is THAT undiagnosed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:27 PM
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I listened to Tom Leykis when I was 15 and he really fucked me up as a developing woman. That show made me think I NEEDED to be a slut. That shit is for men in their 40s who have gone through divorce.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/18 12:55 PM
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A surgeon is gonna be in his late 30s or 40s so a 36 year old can pull that or an older med student. A 20 something probably doesn’t want to date the 40 something surgeon.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:03 PM
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Med school and surgeon are totally different realms of “quality”.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:00 PM
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My concern is that she's a Gemini with a kid and only 25 and took a duck face pic with said kid. Nnmmm....
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/12/18 10:00 AM
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25 is too young to use the phrase "years young". She feels she hit a wall because of her kid.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/12/18 09:58 AM
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That is decreasing with time and the wall is still actually about attraction. You guys say fertility as mental masturbation. A lot of dudes don't want kids either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 09:12 AM
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I call BS. Quality men are in short supply at all stages of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:17 PM
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No, it's about general attractiveness. A lot of people are child free
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:16 PM
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It exists but it's much older than what men on this site say. One guy tried to convince me you hit the wall at 28. I'm like wtf?? It's more 35/40. But a woman can still look good and avoid the invisibility cloak. Also the wall is irrelevant if the woman doesn't want kids and doesn't want a man to be the provider.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:13 PM
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Well the deed is done then, so at that point she regrets giving consent. Nothing you can do about someone else’s regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 11:33 AM
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Also the man dies sooner than the woman so why should a woman marry over 40 when she is young? She will live 20 or 30 years with him and live another 30 to 40 alone!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:56 AM
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He’s hot but 5’9” (I think he’d say 5’10”) but guys always add an extra inch. So he’s too short for a lot of women so my mom complains but it’s like why the fuck do I need to make sure the majority of women find him attractive? All that matters is that he boils MY blood.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:48 AM
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Big deal breaker. The size is always a point of anxiety for me before we are intimate. When I see it I’m like “oh thank god”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:34 AM
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If she changes her mind mid-thrust then just stop thrusting. It’s not complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:31 AM
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No, the fertility decline happens more around 35-38 per research on the matter. It’s not correlated by how many eggs are left, it’s how well can those eggs become babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:28 AM
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That... that’s not how fertility works lmao /r/badwomenanatomy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:23 AM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:17 AM
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Can my pussy still get eaten out? I’d rather be the 28 year old virgin. The slut sounds like waayyy too much baggage for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:16 AM
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I don’t have a point, I’m asking a question — what is post wall about 28??
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:13 AM
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You struggle with women because you all still have to talk to mommy and daddy for every little thing and have no interest for planning the future (I’m talking retirement and grandkids future). When you and your peers get older and have a better idea of what you want in life, you’ll feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:08 AM
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Jason Bateman. That’s the personality that turns me on. You Can have a greatttt personality and make everyone laugh blah blah, but I want to fuck a Jason Bateman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:05 AM
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Haha absolutely not. I mean, you can have a GREAT personality but it won’t be the type to make me interested in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:03 AM
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Haha absolutely not. I mean, you can have a GREAT personality but it won’t be the type to make me interested in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:02 AM
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Yes, she really can. It’s not as easy as “hey sir, fuck me in this Starbucks bathroom!” But it’s easy to develop enough rapport with a man that he’ll say yes. I’d say atleast 3/5 men you build rapport with will have sex with you the next day (or same day). The other ones you may have to work on for another week or month. Every now and then you’ll get a guy who is too suspicious or thinks the sluttiness is too gross. But that’s a minority. Even my fiancé can push sluttiness aside (when he was sin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 08:57 AM
1

What is post-wall about 28...? Most 28 year olds I know still look 19!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 08:53 AM
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Yes. She may not have found the right man for her before this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 08:52 AM
1

Might be a woman waiting for marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 08:49 AM
1

I know, I never disputed that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 07:31 PM
1

Read the title
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 07:21 PM
2

Don’t limit yourself. Just talk to women you like. If she’s dumb, stop talking to her. You never know who you’re missing out on.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/12/18 04:24 PM
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That’s another way to say racist
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/12/18 04:24 PM
1

He needed to date an African.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/12/18 04:22 PM
1

Need a source on that social adeptness claim...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 04:00 PM
1

You understand that OP was asking for advice, right?...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 02:46 PM
1

She included non-abusive because there’s idiots online who would suggest she settle for one... you have no idea what her exes were like. Her preference is not bad boys, her preference is a guy who wants to marry her. It’s that simple. I didn’t say have sex with multiple men. You can date people without fucking them. No, I have a low N count. Why is this relevant?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 02:20 PM
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It’s like we’re not even talking about the same thing anymore. I’m saying if you’re ugly, 20 or 30 doesn’t matter. You likely look like your same ugly self. Someone will love you for your personality, instead. In which case, age isn’t your concern until you look elderly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 02:07 PM
1

I don’t know wtf you’re talking about at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 02:04 PM
1

What is “good” personality? What people like is different. And being pleasant and friendly isn’t what people talk about when they say they fell in love with one’s personality. That’s what I’m talking about. Humans not robots. As subjective as attractiveness is, personality is even MORE subjective. So if an ugly person is loved for what she is like, it doesn’t matter if she’s found at 20 or 30. Still relatively young, wouldn’t have sagging cheeks or anything like that. She’s just ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 01:32 PM
1

Just... just read the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 12:42 PM
1

She said she just wants a (non-abusive) guy who wants to get married. So whoever she finds to marry is probably what she’s looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 12:40 PM
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... so you’re saying this woman will not get any guy to marry her because a man who wants to get married is too high value for her age? You know we are talking about an individual relationship, not analyzing the cost of beef and other economic trends. Y’all, this RP shit is getting mind numbingly stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 12:24 PM
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.., what?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 09:29 AM
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Someone around the same age or slightly older isn’t an old hag. Happens often.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 08:52 AM
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Nah, seen too many dudes leave the woman who supported them on their come up. It’s a toss.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 08:51 AM
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And what if the admiral isn’t married yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 08:50 AM
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If it’s about her personality why does her age matter and I don’t know if this hypothetical dude will marry someone first... personality is t really a statistic one can guess at... it’s not a standard that can really be measured
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 08:49 AM
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She said she isn’t looking for a high whatever man. She just wants a dude to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 06:41 PM
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Dating men needs to become a part time job for you. You need to date multiple men and don’t be afraid to make them compete for you. Online dating and mingling is necessary. 32 is still young, believe it or not. This isn’t 1957. You still have options but you need to be more aggressive now.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 06:40 PM
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Aren’t men doing the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 06:36 PM
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N count refers to who she was with before you. I don’t see how it relates to having an open relationship. Why does it make sense to be upset about something that happened before you existed? Now you exist so things we’re different.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 06:34 PM
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If she’s already ugly, how is she getting married?... it has to be someone who loves her personality which isn’t going anywhere at 30. Many people look just the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 06:32 PM
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Sorry, what does her having a family who loves her have anything to do with “women live life on easy mode”? It just means your life is a bit more pathetic than hers and you do yourself a big disservice if you’re telling yourself it’s because you’re a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 06:18 PM
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No. I work in male dominated fields because it pays more money and I have to fight against woman stigma every day. Once you learn how to do it, you get better at it. But in terms of career, nothings handed to me as a woman. In terms of romance, I definitely have things in easy mode. Much less expectation of me as a woman to impress a man compared to what I and my family and society expect of him. But I don’t think life overall is easier as a woman. Different things are easier and harder. But if …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 06:12 PM
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So what’s her tip to getting a man who can afford for me to stay at home?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 06:09 PM
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Someone talking to you unwanted isn’t harassment and it’s not sexual unless the Tate talking about you sexually. If someone keeps pestering you after requesting them to stop, that is harassing someone. Common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:57 PM
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You know it’s not uncommon for a man to leave his come-up woman for another.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:45 PM
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Personal preference
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:44 PM
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The important answer is can you provide for her and a child now?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:43 PM
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She’s bringing raising your kids and caring for your household to the table, wym??
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:42 PM
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My problem is how long until we have $$?? My eggs won’t last forever. Neither will my youth to enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:41 PM
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Man, I just don’t fucking believe a 35 year old is THAT MUCH more unattractive than the chubby, average looking 25 year old who has a boyfriend. People are acting like 30 is the end or some shit. I don’t see it. Most girls in general are not that attractive under 30 and you don’t look that much different after 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:40 PM
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I disagree. 80+% don’t even use their degree in their career. So nothing wrong with someone getting educated and not using it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:38 PM
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You need to do both in 2018 and don’t go exclusive with a man. Date multiple and have them compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:32 PM
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That woman said she is ugly. If you’re ugly, you’re ugly. Doesn’t matter what age.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:28 PM
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Why not just marry the admiral?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:27 PM
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I think we would have raised standards for LTR/marriage but reject less often for casual stuff. There would be so many options that we’d find a way to narrow it down for further improvement. It would be like if all my exes were actually eligible bachelors. I’d need a way to pick one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 02:13 PM
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I don’t think men work that way, but mayhaps a man will chime in. I find men will take anyone he is attracted to regardless of her social status. His male friends also wouldn’t care. But pressure of family support is real. In the Us, it’s not as big of a deal as other countries and cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 10:31 AM
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Chad doesn’t care what profession the big titty blonde is
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 10:13 AM
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She needed a biological basis because SHE was the one WHO CLAIMED to have one. She is the one who brought up biology into her own controversy! You cannot act black, that’s not a real thing and no one uses it to identify their race. When we say someone is acting like a race, we are merely referring to stereotypes. Stereotypes are not social roles. Popular cases of white girls looking black (rather, looking biracial. I have not seen a case of a white girl looking like she has two black parents) re…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 02:43 AM
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There is no such thing as “acting black”. Racial identity has nothing to do with your behavior. Rachel doesn’t act black (not even a stereotypical rendition of blackness which I appreciated at least), she just claims to be black. She was claiming that she is black BIOLOGICALLY. And lied about her parents. Race is a social construct based on ethnic and family line origin and physical features. So in the US an Arab is considered white but in Saudi Arabia, an Arab is something very specific and it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 02:03 AM
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Changing race doesn’t make sense because there is no societal norm for how a race ‘should’ be. Race is just a sequence of DNA code. It’s not just a social assignment. Same with your sex. You can’t change your sex, either. But there ARE gender roles. Gender is a social assignment. You can switch your roles. When you do that, people think you’re that gender. If you want to permanently be that gender, it makes sense to change your physical body to match. I don’t see what’s illogical.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 01:13 AM
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?? If you feel more comfortable presenting as a woman, you get a sex change so you can be a woman. Sounds logical enough to me. It’d be illogical to not do anything about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 12:55 AM
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No, I don’t see what you’re saying. How does “I do not know what men are thinking because I am not a man” equate to “I don’t care”? It simply means I don’t know the right answer to that question. Because I’m not a guy. I would recommend you ask a man that question. I never said only women are entitled to the security in marriage. You asked how does a man feel secure because a woman can divorce, right? My answer is I. Don’t. Know. I can tell you how WOMEN deal with that because a man can leave a …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 09:32 PM
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I said I don’t think about that stuff because I’m not a man. You said that’s pathetic and sociopathic. So whatever have fun with that. Most women don’t really know what men thin about a lot of things. You doubt if I’m invested in the person I plan to have kids, plan retirement, involve with my side of my family and spend the rest of my life with? On what basis? You don’t even know me. You’re weird. So if you asked to marry me, I would then ask you why? Why do you want to get married and why me?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 08:49 PM
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So a red pill woman would just let her man go the wrong way for however long it takes for him to realize? I tried it with my fiancé few times And we both decided it’s better for me to just speak up lol
/r/RedPillWives23/12/18 05:28 PM
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I am invested in whom I marry. I’m just not invested in answering your question for you. It’s not my job. A man can also leave a marriage so it’s not a gender exclusive issue. You have plenty of other people who responded to you who are as interested in philosophizing as you are. I’m not. I want to get married and I would discuss the terms and why with that specific person. Not you, sorry. Unless... you’re proposing ?? The point is I want marriage for assurance and I assume my man wants the same…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 01:35 PM
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Okay? Do you think about “how would a woman feel about this?” Every time you think about what you want in a woman? If you do, that’s cool. I don’t find mental masturbation necessary. It’s not unreasonable to want a man who wants marriage. I don’t need to philosophize on why he wants it, I just need to meet that guy and ask THAT SPECIFIC guy why he wants it which is exactly what I did. Have fun thinking women who want to get married are sociopaths. Good luck with that shit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 01:23 PM
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I am very clingy and the men I date seem to really enjoy it. I’m so clingy, my first boyfriend ever I found out where his dorm was, asked his roommate if I can stay in there until he was done with class and surprised him sitting on his bed when he came. In hindsight, that is incredibly creepy but he loved it. I want to be around them all the time. I want to even follow them into the bathroom. If I dates a girl like me it would annoy the heck out of me but for some reason the guys I date really l…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 10:20 AM
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That’s something he has to work out. I’m not a man so I don’t think about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 07:57 AM
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Hell to the fuck no. Having kids with a man with no marriage is a horrible idea. Marriage is the commitment a woman needs to feel like he won’t leave her and the family on a whim. Even if he is perfect in every other way, no. I’ve met that guy before and I dumped him and moved on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 09:15 PM
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If someone was born a man but he looks like a woman, is obviously portrayed as a woman, or at first glance you thought he was a woman... don’t bust a brain cell trying to inspect his penis, just say “she”. Even Ben Shapiro does it. Same for a female to man. It’s not laughable when it’s just common sense and also not your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 12:27 PM
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RP: the good things are common sense things that don’t require RP to know. Have confidence, etiquette, take care of yourself, etc. BP: strong belief in your autonomous right to live how you like
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:18 AM
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What’s laughable about letting a grown adult do what they want with themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:17 AM
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What’s wrong with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:16 AM
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Yea and they also show that is not a consistent or reliable correlation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:15 AM
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You know people change over time. Its easy to lose attraction to someone as they change and you change.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 04:44 AM
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What? How do you take responsibility for how attracted you are to someone? How does this post make any sense...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 07:27 PM
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It’s not an appeal to authority, it is critical thinking. You read the studies and analyze them for yourself. Peer reviewed means the shitty studies have already been weeded out to save you time. Yes, I would rather than do that than rely on the fallacy of the appeal to random person on reddit. And if you read those Nazi studies, you’d find fault in them in addition to the fact they don’t have a large enough body of research to support some of their ideas. Most of them were inconclusive anyway. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 08:50 PM
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You asked me if I think toxic feminism is a bigger problem (than toxic masculinity). I don’t. Sorry? If you’re asking if everything bad should be eradicated, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 05:45 AM
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No one cares how seriously you take social sciences, frankly. I’m going to read studies in peer reviewed studies rather than take the words of an anonymous person online who doesn’t understand how psychology and sociology experiments and studies work. Your opinion isn’t more compelling than research. Which, if you took time to learn more about it, could easily find something to support your beliefs with. These are theories meaning there’s more than just one to align yourself with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 05:43 AM
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I don’t but you’re free to go make a thread about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 05:38 AM
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Why would a man rape and be overly aggressive? There are studies and professional articles that show that these behaviors are ways they assert their identity as a man. It’s not a cop out answer (I would ask you, answer to what question), it is an actual studied theory to explain those bad behaviors. It’s an actual answer to the question “why are xyz behaviors committed by a large number of men?”. If you have a better answer, great. But you’re not good at debunking this answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 02:50 AM
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No... masculinity is not toxic. Toxic masculinity doesn’t mean masculinity is toxic, it means there is a level of masculine display that is toxic. A lack of masculinity being unattractive is a probable cause for people having a toxic level to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 12:33 AM
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Yes they have SOME of it. So saying Muslim misogyny = misogyny doesn’t make sense. It’s like saying Mcdonalds = fast food when there’s also Wendys, Burger King, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 11:42 PM
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There are multiple forms and actions that encompass misogyny and what Muslims do is not all the misogynistic gestures
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 05:39 PM
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But not all misogyny is included in Muslim misogyny so no, you still don’t make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 06:22 AM
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No, you said Muslim and misogyny are the same. Then you edited your post (or I could have misread, giving you benefit of doubt) to say Muslim misogyny is the same as misogyny which is STILL wrong. That implies that misogyny falls under Islamic traditions and there is plenty of examples of misogyny that doesn’t happen within that religion or culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 11:43 PM
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Open a middle school social studies book, read Wikipedia, or do a simple google search. Or maybe you’re being stupid and “edgy” for upvotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 09:09 PM
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Google the definitions or check your little brother’s middle school social studies book. You’re welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 09:08 PM
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Stamping out misogyny and stamping out Muslims are not the same
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:40 PM
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That’s true. If I were THAT desperate for dick, I can certainly find it. Even if I wasn’t comfortable asking any man I knew, the old solution would be to meet someone which can be difficult — because men you want to have sex with may not want you. But with the internet these days sex is readily available.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 06:38 PM
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It’s easier for a man to force s woman down and stick a hard thing inside of her than for a woman to physically force a man down and stick a maybe-not-so-hard thing inside her. The man has a lot of control of whether or not sex can actually happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 01:38 PM
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Turning a woman on doesn’t mean she wants to or will have sex with you. And a woman can want to have sex with you, even if you didn’t do anything to turn her on. It’s just a choice. And how does a man identify exactly what x y z actions he did that made a woman open to being with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 08:52 PM
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But it's not "Do X Y Z to receive sex" because that implies that ANYONE can dod X Y Z and get sex. Doesn't work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 03:59 AM
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Their virginity is a sacred piece of them TO HER. It's sacred TO HER. Given to who she chooses. Not as a reward for winning the "Swoon me" game. It's not a game that can be won. It's just meeting someone you get along with well enough. ​ Check out the porn website for women, by women. It's not videos of being a sexy damsel in distress covetted by princes all across the land. You're thinking of something women consume when they are even older. ​ It's usually after age 45 that women start fantasiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 03:57 AM
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Date multiple men at the same time. It inspires them to compete for your affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 11:22 PM
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If you’ve ever seen an Igbo person, that’s what I look like. Body very similar to Rihanna. I think we’re the same height too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 10:32 AM
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This is definitely an over exaggeration... like every point you’re making is hyperbolic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 03:51 AM
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If we are getting paid less because we do less work, how is it easier? By your logic it’s appropriately proportional. And I disagree about women not working as hard as men. There is still pay disparity for similar jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 03:42 AM
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News scandals would show otherwise. These “straight” men are being exposed for homosexual tendencies. And there are powerful men gay men. Just because they are a small part of the population doesn’t mean they aren’t there. That’s like saying you need stats on wealthy black people because we make up thirteen percent of the us population and are historically marginalized. You don’t need a source to know there are successful and powerful men who are Gay or secretly gay. You’ve seen them, you just a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 03:37 AM
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But the problems a woman who didn’t “use her advantage” has later in life are precisely because she is a woman. They are problems unique to women. So then it is a question of who has worse problems, men or women? Who has an easier life? A different question than who has greatest potential for an easy life?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 10:37 PM
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That one day is a fleeting moment compared to the YEARS you has been alive prior and YEARS you may be alive after. That point and time is not life. Your life is now. But having the chance to improve your life is something that is happening now. The thing is, this is only true for women for ten percent of their life! That’s not even a majority of their life. 90% of their life does not have this “easier” aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 10:25 PM
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I went to a college where many women have the goal of finding a good husband who will be financially secure. These girls go through great lengths to find a guy who fits their criteria and luckily their parents have the funds to support it. They buy all these relationship books, I know some that even go to seminars. One of them introduced me to Matthew Hussey, a guy who trains women to be good girlfriends and wives for a living. And yet finding love is still an issue for a good portion of them. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 10:21 PM
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Your ability to pay for something is a state of occurrence right now. Right now you have bad medical assistance. By your standards of what a good life is, that means you currently don’t have a good life. How is it useful to discuss life as if it is something that happens “one day”? Life is every moment, including your current state of affairs now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 10:12 PM
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I disagree with it being a small risk. Finding a man you love who also fits financial criteria is difficult no matter who you are. It doesn’t sound like you spend time with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 10:06 PM
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But right now is your actual life. So when we are talking about who has an easier life, we are not talking about who can make easier plans for life but who is actually living an easier life right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 09:19 PM
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Do you spend much time with women? Those women absolutely can fail. Unless she is willing to marry only for practicality and not for love, she can fail and I see it in my personal network. You don’t always get who you want, even if you’re a good catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 09:02 PM
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I disagree with life being “built”. Your life is RIGHT NOW. I used to buy into that “build a life” mentality but when you actually think about it, it doesn’t make sense. You’re alive right now. Your life is right now. Not your supposed future.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 09:00 PM
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Hey I can understand that. What I can’t understand is you saying a woman’s life is easier because she can get a sugar daddy. But if you see multiple ways in which most women on a regular basis has an easier way to build her life realistically and reasonably, that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 04:38 PM
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There are plenty of women that are not and never will be taken care of financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 04:36 PM
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Vetting could take the entirety of the time span she has to successfully land this awesome guy. My point is, life isn’t easier just because a small percentage of women have the chance of this amazing life. Just like it doesn’t make sense to go around saying white men have an easier life because a small percentage of them have the chance of an amazing life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 04:21 PM
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Short answer / because men are stupid. What I mean by that is a lot of men don’t want to commit, even if they found a good woman. Especially if she is great without marriage, there is no incentive to marry her. Meaning her lifestyle with him has no guarantee. She is taking a gamble. Life isn’t easier if you have to gamble for it to be easy. Life is easier if life is ACTUALLY easier. For example, in reality women don’t get killed as often as men. This is I objectively something that makes life ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 04:19 PM
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Being rich is a part of white male privilege. Ok if your caveat is that the woman has to be a good partner... and I’m assuming you have a high standard of what good is considering you think a woman should forgo working to achieve it, then you’re certainly talking about a fantasy when you say women have it easier. Women have it easier if she meets xyz requirements and has the means to meet them. So that means a specific type of woman has it easier not women in general. Yes gay men option is an op…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 04:15 PM
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Statistically 27% of families with children have a partner who is able to pay for someone to be SAH. That is still not good odds to warrant things being easier. This ain’t including families with no kids which I imagine has more divorce. Leaving the woman unmarketable and older in the work field.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 04:10 PM
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That’s not how affirmative action works. And your expectation influences your opinion on who has it easier. I maintain your opinion doesn’t make sense in reality. It’s not reality. And yes I’m sure about the men thing. Personally, I know a few guys who paid for college that way. One was gay for pay. He told me a man who isn’t willing to be gay for pay has too much pride when he can just make money lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 04:08 PM
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That only 5% of men can give them that lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 04:01 PM
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White men are more likely to be rich. So my example still stands. White male privilege doesn’t always get to be utilized. And to get a partner willing to pay for you you need a partner who makes enough money to pay for you. Most cannot. A man has the option of doing the same thing for gay men and older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 04:00 PM
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One, women have to “waste their time” because MOST MEN CANNOT provide for a woman financially! It is not reasonable to expect women to disadvantage themselves in the market place for a 2% chance of finding a sugar daddy. Two, men DO have the same option of being a sugar baby as a woman does Three, men also have affirmative action in Texas because most college students and college graduates are female. Men also receive scholarships in female dominated fields. You don’t hear about it because no on…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:54 PM
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Let me put it this way. What you’re saying is like arguing that there is white male privilege. Because a white man is the most likely to be in a position of power, people generalize the entire white male population as privileged even though most of them are not college educated and make less than 50k a year. Does it make sense to say a white man has it easier in this sense when only 2% get to use the advantage?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:42 PM
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But if 95% of women couldn’t use the advantage even if she wanted to, how does it make sense to say in general women have easier lives when that’s not even the reality? And a man can do the same thing as what you’re talking about, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:38 PM
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Yes you do need to work. Your opinion doesn’t trump statistical facts, dude. And there are men and women who will pay for a young man’s lifestyle, too. So what you’re saying can be applied to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:36 PM
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First of all, the question is about women and you’re not a woman at 15. Unless you’re living in Guatemala or something. Second of all, the question is who has it easier. As in who actually has it easier, not who theoretically has it easier. The truth is what you’re talking about happens very rarely. A woman has a short window of time to compete with her advantages for that lifestyle you’re talking about and very few women, even if she tries diligently get to live that way. Most Americans can’t e…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:31 PM
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Yes you do need to work. The average American household makes $57k a year ... ON A DUAL INCOME. Women have to work. You can just as easily tell a man to find a sugar mama and there is certainly a market of older women with dead husband’s IRA and her own savings, home equity, etc that she’s willing to spend on a guy. People just don’t talk about it because I guess undersireable women wanting sex is taboo or something. Yea it is a big deal because mothers get the brunt of their children’s resentme…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:19 PM
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Yea but if it’s only easier for 10% of her life, is that really enough to say it’s easier?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:15 PM
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Let kids be kids. A teen shouldn’t be pressured about adult situations like that nor does she have interest in it. She’s not even a grown woman yet. So realistically, to you, a woman has it easier but only for about 10 to 15 years. That’s like ten percent of our life spans... so men have it easier for the majority of their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:14 PM
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It’s harder to be a woman for the majority of your lifespan. People don’t want to hire you when you’re pregnant, people treat you like you don’t exist after 40 unless you’re rich, and people blame their mothers for their mental issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:07 PM
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You need to get some stats on that. A lot of powerful men are gay or secretly gay
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:03 PM
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No it’s not... men get paid more and are more likely to get a higher paid position or have his business invested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 03:01 PM
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Not to mention we are talking about young women here. What about women over 50? Do they still have it easier?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 02:44 PM
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Ok, that’s all great and dandy, but what fifteen year old do you know who is even THINKING about marriage? Let’s be realistic here... What you’re talking about rarely happens for women in America. And if a woman were to follow your plan (which some girls do but they start around 20 years old), 30 is too old to find the escape route. She’d need to succeed by 25 or abort mission. That way she has time to figure herself out while she’s still young enough to have kids, compete with other young peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 02:36 PM
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I’m trying to even imagine what this consists of. If she’s spending effort to make sure she’s attractive, that requires she has an income to pay for treatments and clothing. If I could do all the things I wanted to do to look good, I could spend $2,000 a month easy. (And boy do I plan to as I get older and need it more) So she has to have a decent paying job. And then looking for potential partners would have to be done after work. But if you spend time with good looking women who earn enough to…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 02:28 PM
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No. The clueless thing is not attractive in a man. I guess it can be cute... like Tarzan but Tarzan is hot because he is physically hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 08:26 AM
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What about peri menopausal women? In their 40s and 50s, their sex drive goes up
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 08:24 AM
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In general it’s easier to be a YOUNG woman. But financially/business/politics/power speaking, it’s easier to achieve success as a man for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 08:19 AM
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It’s a BIG assumption that most women are able to find a man who both loves her and takes care of her financially... and women spend a shit ton of money, go through pain, and put a lot of effort to look attractive. You think we wake up with mascara and smooth legs?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 08:14 AM
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I would think it’s easier for him to get with the 22 year old
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 08:11 AM
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Uh no... if you’re in your late 20s you typically have ZERO interest in spending time with people under the age of 25 (in general. If we are talking about sex, it doesn’t matter). But we can relate and understand jokes and trends that early 20s like
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 08:07 AM
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When has anyone EVER saying “we’ll play it by ear” indicated any level of commitment??
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 07:57 AM
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I would NEVER date someone who identifies as Mgtow. The whole premise of that movement is to avoid intimate deep relationships with women and avoid marriage. Opposite of what I’m looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 04:28 PM
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For me, I pretty much knew since I was a teen that if it takes longer than 2 years to want to get married it’s time to move on. I started having men propose to me after a year or less and felt very weird about it because I was no where near feeling the same. When I finally fell in love he proposed after a few months.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 04:26 PM
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I found that if the thought of being submissive turns you off, he’s not the one for you. Being more submissive is something my partner secretly loves but he insists that I don’t need to do it. I wouldn’t say it dramatically improves our relationship but it does make it more fun and makes me feel less stressed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 04:24 PM
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Love it
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 04:22 PM
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You know the era that this film is set in? They really believed that women need to stay at home and men are too stupid with household things and need to stay at work. At that time commercials legit would say that. They are alluding to the times, not trying to shame men. And elasticity was in mr Incredible’s shadow... she was and she was ok with that. This movie was doing a gender role reversal that was a bit taboo for its time. (A man taking care of kids and a woman working? Wasn’t a thing then)…
/r/MGTOW05/07/18 05:33 AM
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Please share evidence that leads to your immense confidence in what you just wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 04:00 PM
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One person’s definition of sexy might be another person’s everyday-wear. The goal is to look good. Maybe my dress flatters my body shape — it doesn’t mean I am trying to be sexy, it means I want to look attractive because the alternative is to just not look... good. Why? In business, it matters. It automatically gives the impression you can be trusted. In personal life, it boosts your mood. Makes you feel more confident. And it depends on the occasion whether it’s also for attracting others or n…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 03:56 PM
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Well, what you wear doesn’t really predict if you will or will not be raped. Unfortunately. It is not that easy. You can’t just dress ugly and use that as a guard. However, educating women on how to be safe is INCREDIBLY important. Simple things as not drinking a drink that you had put down, leave when uncomfortable, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/18 01:13 AM
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Roles in the relationship. And respecting the roles. Doesn’t have to be rigid like “Wife do dishes” but every relationship has responsibilities/activities in it (finances, entertainment, etc) they require decisions that determine your lifestyle and how your relationship functions. Much easier when you recognize where your natural role falls and respect your role and your partners role or agree that certain roles are half.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/17 03:01 AM
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I thought feminism was wgtow. Going your own way means doing things typically counter societal norms. Many feminist embrace being child-less, lesbian, unmarried, career focused and other non-traditional ways of female living. And your reasoning doesn't really make sense, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 11:07 PM
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Please do not prevent her from getting treatment for depression... allow her to see s professional... mental illness is REAL and serious. The longer she goes without proper treatment, the worse it can get.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 06:12 AM
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He sees my paycheck as chump change lol. He's asking me to quit my second job now. He sees my paycheck as "we can buy stupid shit" money.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 07:57 AM
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Ah, I said it in a joking manner. We kind of having a running joke of him not admitting when he likes something lol. Wasn't doing it to be annoying or force him to confess, it's just how I mess with him and wondered if it's normal that a guy wouldn't want to admit that or what it might mean in actuality. (Like when someone makes a self deprecating joke and you wonder if they said it because it's true or just as a joke)
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 07:55 AM
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Well he said he would like a housewife but only if that is what would make me happy. He thinks I would be unhappy living that lifestyle. Definitely need to discuss again. I am not sure what life as a housewife is like as I have never entertained it. He thinks I would hate it so never asked it of me or suggested it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 05:03 AM
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Thanks for the effort you put in this because you are very insightful. (The Convo was in person btw not text) I took the 2 best jobs for what I wanted to do with my career and realized later I was unhappy. I did complain about work and also would procrastinate at work. My fiancé just wants me to be happy. He tells me to do things he thinks will make me happy. Last night I asked him to clarify what he wants and he said that yes, he does love it when I stay at home and maintain the home but most i…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 05:53 PM
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Thankyou very good idea. I don't tell him how happy I am to care for the home. I think if I told him more he would feel comfortable admitting he also likes it and telling me more of what he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 05:27 PM
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I don't care either way about it so I never talked about it other than when we were getting serious and I asked him. I never had tried to fill the role either. It's just that I so happened to be cooking and cleaning and I'm thinking maybe we need to explore this more!
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 03:45 AM
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I know what you're talking about. I break up with these guys. I always think we have the same values but something doesn't click. There is something subtle that is fundamentally different in how we want to live our lives. Like, there is a certain lifestyle they are able to tolerate that I cannot. It's subtle. It's not like "I need to shop 3x/ week, why don't you get that??". It's really really subtle. And the fact that you get along fine and not "I'm in love" is also a warning sign to me. My fia…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/17 10:28 AM
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If your bf is actually serious, you shouldn't be feeling left out. I imagine you feel left out because of whatever circumstance that's supposed to be resolved in a year, a part of you fears it won't happen. I'd caution that idea of waiting for a certain life circumstance for marriage. It sounds a bit shaky to me.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/17 10:18 AM
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We would have a main "come over" spot. His place. It would typically be me going to him. Then there was a time where it was mostly him coming to me. We couldn't do 50/50. Easier to do 90/10.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/17 10:16 AM
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Why in the world are you paying college to learn entrepreneurship!? That is so nonsensical to me, no offense. 2 years to go? If I were you, I'd finish whatever the fastest major I can finish with just to have a damn piece of paper as fast as possible and get to work with my business!! Make connections with all the classmates studying entrepreneurship and start working on your ideas. Stay in touch with them as they may be good business partners in the future. This is crazy -- have you watch Gary …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 01:45 AM
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Just give him your number in response and he will call. Piece of cake. 👌🏾
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 01:43 AM
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Unless he suggested you quit your job, this is not even something to be considering. My fiancé asked me to quit my job a month after he proposed. Still haven't quit but I'm in the process. This is something HE needs to bring up. I wouldn't bring it up until you guys are making serious wedding plans.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 01:40 AM
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When I was early 20s it just really turned me on to date men who were 28 - 35. It was just a huge turn on for me. When I was teenager, early to mid 20s turned me on. I still dated in that range. I tried going higher and dated a 42 year old and that was HORRIBLE. Huge bust. Nothinnngggg in common. Felt like I was dating a good friend's dad. Talked to some more men in their 40s and the generational gap is just really unbearable for me at that point. The 28 - 32 was the sweet spot. Found my fiancé.…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 01:37 AM
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Who are women you look up to? Spend time with them.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 01:31 AM
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Yes. I included the "(let's assume)" to note this is entirely hypothetical since the reality of welfare, social security, and other social programs (in the us) does not really meet needs. And even if it did, absolutely, doesn't cure all desires of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 03:16 PM
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I used to go out a lot. I went out just to feel like I was connected to the world and other people. I didn't have commitment issues and I was not interested in casual sex. I just wanted to feel like I was not alone in this world. Was not interested in alcohol or drugs. Was not open to sex. I did have an ex friend who drank a lot and frequent bars for attention. Sometimes she'd sleep with guys. She'd get messy drunk and wait for a guy to help her home, get his number and sleep with him later.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 09:10 AM
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When I think of men raping, I automatically think about India. More men than women. Less access to sex. But I also think it depends on the man. Selfishness, anger, feeling powerless, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 09:06 AM
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If it is fake, how exactly does it demonstrate anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 09:01 AM
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You're saying that when people are on welfare and (let's assume) have essential needs met, there is no desire for other means of more financial gain? Or status increase? Because I don't buy that. I think the premise of this is off.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 08:58 AM
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Most humans don't even know what sjw is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 11:47 PM
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Dictatorship and a ban on all religions
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 11:46 PM
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No, nothing wrong with it. However, you need to definitely learn how to cope with pressure. As a wife, as a mom, as a leader of a household you will face some amazing pressures and you need to be able to be a good role model to your children and continue being a loving spouse through it all. There is still pressure of life. So if the role of housewife appeals to you, that is excellent but if it appeals to you because you hate normal people life, you may be in for a rude awakening when you finall…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 08:27 PM
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Sounds like when he talks, Tou try to add in information instead of agreeing with what he is saying and reflecting back to him what he said. Those are listening skills. Listening skills is not "oh, that reminds me of something I want to add in". Listening skills are when you show that you heard what the other person said. And he may be the type of person who doesn't like the "oh, I want to add this in!" Type of convos.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 08:23 PM
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I am a feminist and I totally understand what you found exhausting about it. I also used to be a very exhausted feminist. Welcome to the red pill. I, personally, don't call my partner my captain until we are married. Maybe I am traditional in that way. Your boyfriend is rightfully if-y about you guys' relationship. You will have to show him overwhelmingly that you've changed. It won't be easy and you will make mistakes. Do have a talk with him and let him know you want to change and you want his…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 08:14 PM
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Hang out at events not hosted by the university. Have a life outside of campus setting.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 08:08 PM
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No. I used to have your same insecurity. It I've found that men don't care. They aren't looking for a woman who's on track to be the CEO of a company. They just want a woman with a good head on her shoulders and their same values. Don't be discouraged that you feel behind. Honestly, the man will not care. If anything, he will be more attracted to you because it's an opportunity for him to become your hero. Help you get a job, get out of the folk's house and feel like he is able to take care of a…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 08:06 PM
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I have your exact sentiments and view point
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 06:57 PM
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Sex with one person at a time.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 06:47 PM
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It's interesting you believe the best you can do is fall in love with a guy who doesn't want what you want. Have fun, but keep your eyes open for what you truly WANT.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 06:45 PM
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I consider myself a feminist and there was nothing about the film I would have censored. I think Cassie did a decent job.
/r/MensRights21/05/17 07:37 PM
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It was too negative. I found it fascinating at first (I'm female) but then over time realized they continuously were focusing on the negative aspects of mentally unstable men and women. Their focus was how to manipulate their own feelings and relationships in a way that didn't seem sustainable. And the redpill women were just as sensitive to any SJW forum I've ever seen. Total bs, imo.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/17 01:27 PM
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I really thought the statistic was more like 1/3?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/17 08:08 AM
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No. A good percentage are fat but statistically most people are not fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/17 08:07 AM
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You sound like you just came back from a Tony Robbins conference, haha! I am very happy for you. Now, that you see that life is up to YOU, you can live it how you want it to be lived! :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 09:47 PM
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I'm in a similar situation as I am working with my fiance. Mind you, I am not married nor have a kid. I want to first of all commend you and your husband for taking on the feat of being self-employed and working on building a true business. When you two succeed, it will change the life of your child for the better :) It is amazingly hard work you do as an entrepreneur and a parent. Please, make sure you love on yourself and love on him for these efforts! So, here's what I think -- as a young, un…
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 10:25 PM
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Actual self-improvement and individualized relationship advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 01:54 AM
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It implies that you had no work ethic so it is likely you still do not have work ethic. It's time to "get real". However, one of my professors was in his 40s in some EDM band. It was something he was doing on the side. He decided to "get real" and quit. Once he quit, the band became semi-famous lol (I think they're called DJ Pretty Lights or something). Maybe he was holding them back :P One of my classmates after grad school became an instagram-famous yoga instructor. No one is Beyonce level, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 04:19 PM
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When I was with the wrong guy, yes. I thought about "doing better". I would secretly wish I'd run into the man of my dreams so I would dump the guy I was with. Never fantasized about cheating but rather dumping him at the moment I am tempted to cheat. With my current guy, I never think about doing better. My current guy is what I consider to be at a certain threshold. That is, if I "did better", I would still be in the exact same situation I am in with my current guy + risk not having the same c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 04:11 PM
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My example is trying to illustrate that it needs to be OBVIOUS that you are working hard (I'd say probably to the level of obsession of engaging in a capitalistic form of your interest). Ambition = work ethic and not necessarily success. Many people equate success to work ethic because they think you HAD to have had work ethic to gain the success. But if you don't have the success but have the work ethic, it's expected that you will eventually become successful. I'm sure you've met someone in yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 04:04 PM
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They are creepy, but I think it's normal. I don't think it's normal to just all of a sudden find anyone 23+ unattractive. That's ridiculous and doesn't make sense/is unseen.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:57 PM
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Some people grow into their looks. I think I did. Unless the sheer YOUTH is the dominant factor in attractiveness, I think I look better after HS.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:55 PM
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I think they would pursue women from age 12 (kinda gross but I believe it) to 35 and as old as they like (some men do prefer mature women).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:53 PM
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TS is fake. She adopts whatever "ideology" will get her ahead at the time. It fluctuates from girl power to victimhoom to being catty with other women. I don't really see her as a mirror of what's going on with millennials, though. She's just ... TS. She is not a representative.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:49 PM
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Some women just don't derive much pleasure from sex. For whatever the reason, though, the EFFORT is not worth the PAY OFF.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:46 PM
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Success within the realm of his interests. There's a difference between a broke guitar player who is doing a gig every other night and a broke guitar player who just does jam sessions with his friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:42 PM
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I disagree with Dave Ramsey (as I often do...). She should dump him before she's tied the knot to this guy. She's dooming herself to becoming a nagging, dissatisfied wife!! You CANNOT nag a man into having ambition. Actually, no one can push a guy to be ambitious other than his social circle (by way of 'bandwagon' effect) and his own intrinsic desires and self-confidence. If he doesn't have it, he doesn't have it. She should either ACCEPT that her boyfriend lacks ambition or move on. BTW, I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:39 PM
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No. I don't think there is truth to that. I consider myself and my circle to be very smart women. Some of us are shallow and some of us are not. I think it's just related to life experience and your personal values and not at all related to intelligence or education level. Also -- what are you considering shallow? Some of the comments are not in alignment with what I consider shallow (giving too much importance to "external" things and judging others based on the same).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:34 PM
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I find that women have more difficulty with the hyper active thing than boys. The reason is this -- for whatever reason, hyperactivity is expected and easily spotted in boys at earlier ages. For girls, it's not as easily identified. The boys will get medicated, the girls won't. Statistically, these girls will instead be eventually diagnosed with depression. Boys will get ritalin, girls will get anti-depressants. What should actually be happening is that each child will get specialized therapy an…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:11 PM
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ADHD chick, right here :P
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:07 PM
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Are you telling us that you believe that countries and regions involved in this meta-analysis are "leaning in"? Are you implying that it is best to assume women are not as good at math because it's your opinion and you have adequate context to explain away these repeated results? This isn't just ONE study. It's a meta-analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 03:06 PM
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Thanks, mom :)
/r/RedPillWives30/01/17 08:39 AM
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Oh, so you're the expert on feminism now. Good to know.
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 10:09 PM
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I don't refuse to discuss what I meant. I DID, indeed, discuss what I meant. You're now changing to topic which is fine, but let's do it in a different thread, perhaps. I am happy to explain and "document" what I originally said, but not interested in hi-jacking this thread to do it. So please, just create another one for us :) I think also you need to speak for yourself, and not for the entire RPW. I'm a member of this place and I don't agree with you, so you certainly don't speak for me. I'm s…
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 09:58 PM
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No... it's not a contradiction. She is OVERWHELMED and married. She doesn't need to work full-time in this case. How is this a contradiction to a single woman not being dependent on anyone to live? Just accept the fact that I don't agree with you at all. It's okay.
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 09:48 PM
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The abusive situation I am talking about are stories from women who are relevant to "culture of 50's and 60s" and "where I come from". I figured that was implied. It's also not what the discussion is about so I did not detail it. "dependency on someone else" = not being able to financially take care of yourself. Needing to rely on someone else for money to live is not in the RPW sidebar. There are very RP women here who work full time jobs. I am not saying that being dependent on someone else AL…
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 05:19 PM
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Ideally, your husband will be making more money than you so that you wouldn't need to work FT or he makes enough to hire a maid or assistance for you. I would NOT be able to handle being "RP" while working full-time. So you're not insane and even if you're a beast at time management, there is something called ENERGY management (and since you have an auto-immune disease, this is CRITICAL for your well-being, dear!!), as well. Unless you LOVE your job, consider going PT. I think it is really the f…
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 05:09 PM
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I'm referring to the increase of divorce after US made divorce easier to access around 60s and 70s era. Considering the domestic culture of the 50s and 60s and women's increased ability to fund themselves, I rationalize that they felt liberated and no longer needed to stay in an abusive situation. This is just my opinion. Call BS if you want, doesn't hurt my feelings. If you are really interested you will look into it, as well. I don't think statements like mine have harmed women in relationship…
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 04:53 PM
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Nah. Disagree with the article. I am glad women are encouraged to be financially independent. Dependency on someone else to be able to live led to domestic abuse and increased divorce rates. It's not the best path for everyone to decide marrying a man will be her financial plan. And being able to take care of yourself is not trying to be a man.
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 07:13 AM
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You can still be RPW. I don't think there is a set number of rules to follow... RPW doesn't mean hunting for a husband in order to become a house wife.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 06:26 PM
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Venting does feel good. It can be helpful when followed with healthy habits that improve your life :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 06:23 PM
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I already figured out what it's about. That's why I avoid it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 05:39 PM
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You misjudge me. I went to MGTOW to find out what it's about. I still don't understand how you figure I am attempting to join MGTOW...? I compared it to neonazi as an example of groups I stay away from. I'm not saying MGTOW are the same as neonazis. Anyway, if you really want to believe that I'm a fresh college grad who's brain washed and is trying to join MGTOW, have fun. I've tried to correct you but what you think of me in your own head is your business. Anything's possible on reddit. I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 04:19 PM
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I don't think it is pathetic, at all. When I first heard of the concept (men not participating or conforming to societal norms of marriage and having children), I thought it was fantastic. I have no question as to why the concept of MGTOW would exist. I'm just saying that what actually goes on in MGTOW is horrible to me and I think it only exists online. I'm sure if MGTOW were something with live meet-ups, it'd appear different (or maybe not, who knows?).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 02:51 PM
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No, I wasn't looking for anything in the group other than to get a sense of what it is. I'm not a "man going my own way" so why would you think I am seeking acceptance? Why do you think finding statements like "All women are whores" odd (and telling) is the same as looking for acceptance? That's great for your cousin and no one here is questioning or asking for your stance on rape culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 02:23 PM
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I wasn't really referring to mgtow view on what happens in divorce and domestic abuse cases and things like that. Everyone will have their own view. I take it it's these things that deter them from marriage and I have no problem with that. I just have a problem with the "all women are whores" "after 30 women just go in the cock carousel" after they just said something like "dump her and find a 21 year old to fuck repeatedly" or "women fantasize about getting raped" (saw that in mgtow and trp, go…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 01:26 PM
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It's not inappropriate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 02:28 AM
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It's used in the context that I chose for that sentence...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 02:25 AM
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It matters to HER... that's what she wants in a relationship. It's not laughable to her because that's the life she wants. How she looks and how her partner looks matters to her. Presentation does affect your life since we live among other human beings who judge others based on first impressions. You may not give a crap about that, but some people do. Doesn't make it laughable just because its a non-issue for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 02:16 AM
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I read things like "all women are whores" which I don't see as a legitimate grievance. There's definitely a difference between griping about your personal experience with women and using bitterness to form an all-encompassing theory about women. I haven't seen subjective, personalized discussions in MGTOW spaces. I see discussions asserting certain things as an objective fact or rule of behavior in similar ways that TRP does, except MGTOW add in an extra dose of misogyny. This is just an outside…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 01:16 AM
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I think maybe guys are easier to please? I am also very picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 09:54 PM
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Think about it -- if dressing well was something that was really important to you, wouldn't you be more aware of signs that someone has poor judgement when it comes to style?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 07:33 PM
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She loves going to the gym, has Serena Williams ass, hair makeup and dress is always in point. She does date often but hasn't been able to find the one yet. The closest one was a Muslim guy who refused to visit church with her even though she had been going to mosque with him so she had to end it. Everyone else has been non-committal or very committed but she wasn't into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:44 PM
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I see MRA the way I see All Lives Matter. A group of people are mad that someone else is getting attention instead of them because they're so used to it after all these years.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 05:22 AM
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I noticed you didn't talk about studies that showed how many women actually give a shit about wage gap and what they're doing about it lol My point is, no one wants a wage gap, but we have a wage gap or you don't believe we have a wage gap or you don't care because there's nothing you can do about it as an individual person sooooo.... life still goes on as usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 05:19 AM
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The worst part is vetting the guy to make sure he's not abusive. Or wasting your time with a guy who you thought would be good and turned out to be a horrible match. Or not finding anyone you like. Dry spells.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 05:18 AM
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Yes, anyone can climb to the top despite social and economic barriers. These gaps are not to say that things are IMPOSSIBLE.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 05:00 AM
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Yes, men still need to be taught what is proper consent. Obviously. They probably wouldn't have touched her if they understood consent well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:57 AM
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I can definitely believe that she was raped and the guys who did it told themselves that she's a slut, so she likes it. Because she didn't want to have sex with some of them. I don't know, but that's the reason you don't have sex with drunk people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:54 AM
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Damn... you got shorties! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:52 AM
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Yes. Definitely. I probably shit test more when he's very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:52 AM
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deep voice is hot
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:51 AM
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Physical: a 6 pack, great smile, nice skin -- that's mostly all I need. Mental: creative, entrepreneurial, assertive, confident, caring, understanding, loves learning, enjoys adventure, crafty, engineering... I can go on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:50 AM
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Her whole life is lived in that damned mall by her apartment LOL She frequently shops at Goodwill to find cheap designer brands. She just told me today that she really needs a white button down. She has 2. I asked "What's the difference" and she told me that the one she's getting has... I dunno what it's called but some sort of fold in the back of it where as her other ones do not have that fold. And apparently that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:47 AM
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Most of my friends consider 5'8" to be short! Actually, I consider that to be a bit short, but I wouldn't say he's a short guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:45 AM
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I think mos tof the time they want a guy who is very much taller. Like at least 5" taller. I don't really have a preference. I've noticed men who are really taller than me, though it is really effin' hot, they are not as loyal as the shorter ones. The shorter ones commit to me very quickly, very easily. The taller ones take their time. Anyway, since I don't have a preference, it doesn't bother me. My fiance is 2 inches taller than me. What I can't stand is if he is shorter than me. And I don't l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:44 AM
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I have a friend in an arranged marriage and she cheats on her husband almost daily. However, she can't divorce because that would be the most shameful thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:41 AM
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The ones who are cool secretly hate you. Just FYI. ESPECIALLY if you take her to America and she doesn't come back... then they all hate you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:40 AM
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Yes, him being white will help him to marry whatever type of woman he wants from wherever in the world she is. Some people will not marry him because he's not-their-ethnicity, but there will always be someone who wants to marry him if only because he is a white man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:35 AM
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Uhm -- it's hard. Arranged marriages work because of family support from both sides. You will have no family support for this. Your family likely knows mostly other white families. So even if they did "choose" for you and the girl wanted to date you, her family would not be on board for arranging the marriage and neither will she. Maybe your best bet will be to figure out the ethnicity or community of people in your area who might do arranged marriages and try to join the community. Letting them…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:30 AM
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That's part of the thing. She doesn't want a guy who dresses overly casually. The most casual he can get is a STYLISH sneaker that was not made for being athletic. She wants a guy who dresses well all the time. Like non-UK European men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:24 AM
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Yes because when he needs something he goes and gets it so I never know what to get him!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:21 AM
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Feminism would impact the lives of most of my family members and also would impact my ability to marry my fiance in the place of my origin. And also would ensure my children are raised in a community where I will never have to wonder if any of them think domestic violence is okay or to be expected. And I would never fear that my daughters are getting fed less than my sons. And if my son is gay, I don't have to worry about someone wanting to kill him. And I'd also be paid more in my particularly …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:18 AM
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I think anti-feminists in general do not have a good understanding of feminism. If everyone understood feminism, most people would be feminists, IMO. Feminism is now represented by tumblr and women they go on bad dates with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:14 AM
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He created a dietary spreadsheet in 5 minutes that details cost of meal, grams of protein, and kcals. I was thoroughly impressed. I'm a dietitian and a geek.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:13 AM
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I still can't tell if he's supposed to be her dad or what?...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:10 AM
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Yea, she only wants to see sneakers if he's going to the gym. And they better not be new balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:02 AM
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In the 48 Laws of Power, it is said that a movement MUST have an enemy or conspiracy element to it or it will have no followers. So the bitterness is necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 04:01 AM
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this doesn't make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:59 AM
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Female, Hetero, South USA, high middle class, to men: at least above average -- to other women: at least average, late 20s So in the long run, I have to say that it has been INSANELY EASY for me to get commitment. I say that because there have been times I wanted commitment and the guy said no, so I stopped talking to him or reduced our frequency of seeing each other -- months later he will ask to be in a serious, exclusive relationship with me. Every. single. guy. I've ever "dated" wanted to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:52 AM
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It's my fault that women millenia ago supposedly didn't procreate with "good men"?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:49 AM
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This is true. Whoever the guy of interest is, I judge everything he does. Sounds scary, but it's natural. Not a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:45 AM
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Sorry, what are you saying? Give an example?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:44 AM
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You can, but shit-testing is fun. Creates banter. Shows more emotion. Feels more intimate. Might show a new side of each other. There's nothing wrong with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:43 AM
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Yes, we do. Women shit test men by instinct and by nature. Just my opinion. I am head over heels in love with my fiance and I caught my self shit-testing him for months. Honestly, I probably still shit test him sometimes now without knowing it. I wouldn't say I push his buttons. I'm not trying to annoy him and I don't think my shit-tests are annoying. They're just cute/silly/conversation. Actually, I don't think any shit test is annoying. "What would you do if I died right now?" "What would happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:36 AM
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Learning how to generate income and plan retirement well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:32 AM
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MGTOW is horrible to me. I've never seen or heard an intelligent discussion of how MGTOW improves a man's life. Instead, I read about how horrible women are and the solution to every problem is to have sex with a woman in her early 20s. Can't take it seriously. I think the "concept" of MGTOW is great. A man tried to explain to me that it's men who go against social norms. That's fantastic. You go, bro! But what I actually SEE online looks like a circle jerk to bitch about women who've hurt you. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:27 AM
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They are. Men will punish other men who have broken the masculinity code.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:24 AM
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It is. 'Tis the reason they call each other gay all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:23 AM
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My fiance is very comfortable with it. Some people blame career-seeking women for their lack of success in romance and put heavy criticism on her ambition, but I think it's something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:21 AM
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Looks are a part of the attraction. Depending on the person, the importance of it varies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:20 AM
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None of my girlfriends have ever said that size does not matter lol. I've never said it, either. When I met my first micropenis, I realized it truly does matter. There is a certain minimum a guy must have. When I fall in love, I get very nervous. Gotta see that peen before I fall too deep lol. Above that minimum, everything is a "nice-to-have" and then there is "too big"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:18 AM
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In my social circle, divorce is devastating and almost shameful. And in my larger circle of influence, divorce DECREASES your status.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:12 AM
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I would not be turned off. Also, I think I'd be able to tell it's make up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:09 AM
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They're saying that these transformations can be done without surrounding yourself with sexism and misogynistic philosophy. But these transformations is why I like TRP. I think men who seriously want to change their life take TRP as a positive thing rather than as a means to bitch about things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:07 AM
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I saw 13, 14 and 15 year olds with babies. Ugh, broke me effin' heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:04 AM
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Hm, no. Having kids is a big deal for a woman even when you take the man out of the picture. A woman saying she doesn't want kids probably means she doesn't want kids. Naturally Feminism and the State are largely to blame for the cultural shift and it still amazes me how easily women are effected by social engineering. You say this as if anti-child is a bad thing...?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:03 AM
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There is no pill...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 03:02 AM
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I deal with people in need of feminist principles everyday because of my ethnicity. There is still a lot of legal misogyny and women being dependent on men out of necessity in our place of origin. (No, not the middle east) The other day, a guy who asked to be in a serious relationship with me also asked in a group chat "when is it okay for me to hit my girlfriend for being arrogant?" (I was assuming he was talking about ME because I was ignoring all of his texts and he was also giving me pet nam…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:53 AM
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Feminism will never WIN an election. The support base for the movement is weak and the focus is scattered. Feminism can mean whatever in the world you want it to mean now. I never would have thought that included complaining about a guy not wanting to date you... but sure. Feminism can now be whatever the heck you want it to be! The issue of the glass ceiling is still discussion-able, but at this point, is an issue that can only be acted upon very individually by addressing the industry-related …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:49 AM
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I'm really surprised that the Holly chick got in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:45 AM
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I can't speak for men, but for women, yes. The entitlement (entitlement to have a guy who does/is XYZ) prevents them from having a dating life at all. It's not the only factor. Mistrust of one's own judgement also comes into play here (people avoiding certain dating situations because they don't trust themselves to weed out bad people).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:42 AM
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I think the two people in the relationship will naturally figure out who is dominant. The degree of dominance depends on the culture the couple wants to adopt. For instance, I prefer a male-dominated relationship. It's a subtle dominance in that I only know he is dominant because I want him to be. Someone from the outside might not be able to tell. My cousin, on the other hand, is living in a different country. Her relationship is male-dominated. She knows he is dominant because her parents told…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:40 AM
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My question is -- did your OPINION OF HIM change over the course of the relationship? I think intimacy dwindles when you no longer admire the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:36 AM
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The article basically says the answer to this question is "no" lol and I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:32 AM
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They hate TRP because they post some misogynistic, psuedo-science bullshit... Not everything they post is bad or shitty like that, but you're guaranteed to see it on their front page. I think MGTOW is worse, but some of these TRP guys are using this as an outlet to say "I hate women because no one will fuck me!" or "I hate women because x years ago, one of them broke my heart!"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:27 AM
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Hey, I agree with you. My fiance knew he wanted to marry me, even when we were only casually dating and I was still going on dates with other men. I think a dude knows pretty quickly. That's why I always tell my lady friends, when they feel that a guy isn't serious to stop seeing him exclusively.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:25 AM
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I'm liberal because I think people should be able to do whatever the hell they want as long as they are not disrupting someone else's ability to pursue decent life. You wanna be able to walk around with no bra? GO FOR IT! You want to be a professor and know that your skin color or gender is not a barrier in achieving tenure? SURE, WHY NOT! I just hate the idea of people not being able to live their lives as they want because of ever arbitrary "we hate X people now" of the era. I think I lean red…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:22 AM
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Or just say the dude is a cool person with great self-confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:18 AM
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I don't think I ever have... I've been with someone who almost could fit that -- nice physique, athletetic, strong, popular, all the ladies loved him -- but he was a hippie who never wore shoes so. Not really stereotypical. I can't say I've ever been with anyone who resembled the obvious love interest in an 80s high school movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:16 AM
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It takes a special guy to be able to turn me on, so I'd say yes. Turn offs are stronger than turn ons. Some of the things are weird. My friend can't deal with a guy who wears sneakers. I get it. I totally get it, but also it's not that big of a deal. But she likes what she likes. The thing is that if he doesn't have the sense to wear nice shoes instead of sneakers, what other areas of life does he have questionable judgement about? Or what else about him would irk me that is really important to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:10 AM
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They assume that you're saying that and meaning "treat women like they're goddesses". Kind of like how people assume BLM means black people should be treated like new born baby Jesuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:05 AM
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When they say "crazy" they just mean "My emotional intelligence is that of a goldfish and my SO is very inconvenient for me"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:04 AM
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Where I come from, usually women are expected to work and also do SAHM duties or the man will leave you. I don't think the existence of women who don't work bolster his claims. The woman is SINGLE just like the user says a dude would be. Their aid comes from friends, family, and gov't.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:02 AM
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She likely wouldn't because he would haven't access to her social circle. If he DID have access to the social circle being a normal redditor, she might have gotten with him. I wouldn't mind dating a cool redditor, myself. We could ask the reverse. Would this dude engage Serena Williams if she was just your local HR lady who played tennis at the YMCA for fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 01:55 AM
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I think my friends like my personality (and thusly we are friends).
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 11:29 AM
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I did crossfit for a few months and I have to say it certainly made me FEEL good -- it made me FEEL like I don't have ADHD or anxiety, but objectively, nothing in my life changed other than me getting bulkier shoulders LOL. I stopped because it really caused knee pain (and also I hate having bulky shoulders and my trainers kept saying "no, they look fine" and "your knees are just getting used to the workouts" to keep getting my money >_> wow, still some resentment there haha). May try again some…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 11:24 AM
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There is nothing that I like about treating ADHD. The least unpleasant treatment is meditation. I've been meditating daily since after xmas (and meditated off and on for several years). I also started doing EFT tapping for anxiety, but it's not very effective (I feel better, but then the anxiety comes back) and yet it's the most effective modality I have found for anxiety (aka, everything else does absolutely nothing for me lol). I don't really know what my friends think of my ADHD because I hav…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 11:11 AM
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I have never taken more than 3 small/minimal puffs of anything. I'm just not interested in marijuana at all after my experiences. I'd rather not smoke anything ever again, even if just for lung health :) and I agree with you about being drug-free. But that is interesting that it's been helping you. That's great.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 10:44 AM
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I don't know what types of marijuana I have taken, but every time I have taken it, I am either totally unproductive or I am freaking out or both so I just stay in my bed and listen to music and fall asleep and then I feel crappy the next day, also... so I've refrained from that stuff for a long time now. How do you mean stimulants ruin your life and mind? Do you have a story? I currently am med-free but considering doing trial and error again. I have read the secret and I actually watch the movi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 09:16 PM
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Oh lord --my friend doesn't think she can fix them, but instead plays up the positives and dismisses the negatives as if she's trying to convince herself to continue pursuing the guy.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/16 09:06 PM
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Yes she is having some jealousy. Her friends are getting engaged and married including her younger sister.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 06:19 PM
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She just turned 25
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 10:31 PM
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Well, I don't know about your experience but the 2 guys who were really adamant about her christian life are walking their talk. I agreed with them when they said that she isn't "doing it" the way they were. Not that she's doing anything WRONG or bad, she just does things differently. I believe it is cultural. I agree that she is desperate!!!!! She is really desperate. That's why I liked everyone's advice about monk time. Maybe it'll help shake some of that off. Well, when I ask around guys seem…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 09:39 PM
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I'm sorry, but this is not really relevant or useful to the discussion. And I am engaged to a "good dude" and "good dudes" have been in a relationship with her so that's not really the issue at hand. We are certainly aware of them, thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 09:31 PM
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I, personally, think she is plated simply because she goes after the wrong guys. Like I could tell after about a week that the guys she was after were a no-go. She just goes after guys that she is just NOT a match for. It's not about her looks or her personality or anything like that that needs to be changed -- really, she's a dream boat. Loving, fit, smart, always dressed to a T. She just keeps falling for guys who are just not that into her because they just have ~different life values~. It is…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 07:17 PM
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I haven't been telling her it's not her fault. I've been speaking to logic and as I noted, it hasn't seemed To help her. Things like "He was not the type Of man you told me you're looking for! You're just upset because he rejected you before you rejected him" or "He is seeing other girls because you guys are not exclusive, it's not a problem. It's unreasonable to ask him to only see you" or "because he did and said xyz it is obvious that he is not interested in a relationship. You basically forc…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 01:44 PM
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I definitely know there is hope for her. She already pursues her hobbies and self-improvement. She's a terrific girl, she just keeps taking unserious men seriously
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 01:33 PM
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That's all.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 01:28 PM
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Hahaha! So this the route my SO is taking with her
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 05:08 AM
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Women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of relationships I never heard/thought of it like this before. Very good point. It's the reason why I don't take a man seriously until HE tells me he wants to be serious. You're so very right and will incorporate this into my philosophy (meaning, I'll naturally repeat it in some way to her lol) I haven't been encouraging monk mode, but I think she would be very receptive to that. thanks again
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 12:28 AM
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When I see guys saying this, there is some anger associated. When I hear women say this, there is some judgementalism associated. It's just people being judgemental based on how they believe society works. It is a bit irritating. I know some women who can be said to have "passed up a good guy" but I think it's weird to be with someone just because they are nice. You want to be with someone you're in love with and it can happen anytime, anywhere. I have passed up on plenty of nice guys because I …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/16 12:25 AM
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It is a personal thing. It would be like asking how often she and her husband have sex. Husband and wife having sex isn't a big deal, but it's very personal and intimate.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 12:12 AM
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His sexual past was important to me only in that I wanted to know that he knew how to handle himself in bed, so to speak. I wouldn't care how many people he slept with because I know he is a responsible man who takes good care of himself. He also doesn't care about how many people I've slept with. It just has never been a thing for us. We do know each other's numbers because they make for some funny stories as we were getting to know each other. I have never lied. I should note that my number is…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 12:09 AM
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Yea so I can't go into TRP because that kind of stuff just really irks me. I can understand the "valueless" thing. Which is really sad, but I have been called an asshole for saying something like "Don't date a girl who's been raped". It is an asshole thing to say, I'll admit it, but being raped tends to lead to a lot of psychological issues that make having a healthy relationship difficult. I think it's crazy to say these women are undeserving of love or to go as far as to say they lack value! B…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 11:59 PM
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Dude, what? Also you're single and in your 20s...
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 11:53 PM
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Uhm? What's wrong with just letting him do his own laundry? What do you mean how do you deal with it? Like -- how do you deal with the fact that he's going to a laundromat? I think it will be okay
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 11:51 PM
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Interesting. I think that people would be attracted to a "transcendent" man, but I think history has plenty of examples of women who feel transcendent, as well. I think it's weird to generalize all women as being incapable but, as you note by implication, not every man can be transcendent.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/16 11:29 PM
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Genuine love is possible and you don't HAVE to be TRP to find it. You do TRP only if that is what you truly like. I love to be TRP with my partner, but he actually doesn't like all the aspects of it and would prefer me to be more modernized. It really depends on the relationship! True love can be for you.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/16 11:25 PM
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I dunno, but I'm so excited for you to tell us :) I'd love to hear about how alpha men are inherently more well-versed in IT business negotiations than a girlfriend ever could be. I really had no idea a girlfriend cannot help an alpha male increase his earning potential. Curious to hear your expertise here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 05:01 AM
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He told me he has felt underpaid for years, so I showed him how to get a raise. I guess I made the assumption that someone complaining about being underpaid would appreciate learning how to get paid more... I also assumed that since certain parts of his home were dirty, he'd appreciate if they magically became clean. I don't tell him what to do, I just try to fit in to the gaps I notice. But I know what you're referring to. I'm sure I've done some of what you're talking about. I plan to read tha…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 05:53 AM
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There have been some good tips so far, girl! :D
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 12:23 AM
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This morning, I actually talked to him about (who'd a thought?... asking HIM is better than asking reddit :P). I got some more insight on how to solve the problem. Similar to what others have said here. Feeling much better about it now.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 12:22 AM
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I think the ADHD is a part of why it is a huge time/energy burden. It's really hard to explain if you haven't experienced what I mean. It's something I am constantly working on, but it's just gonna be a life long thing (the concept of something taking mental real estate affecting other things, even if I have a plan) I'm learning to manage. Definitely need a slow cooker!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 12:21 AM
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These are good questions. And that's a good point I didn't think about. Back then, I was not having to do it all the time. It felt easy and enjoyable because I was doing it whenever I wanted to come over to his place.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 12:19 AM
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Nmm, thanks for this perspective and I will check out that book. I think I'm understanding what you're getting at and I think this paradigm is much better (and I think he, particularly because he has a more rigid personality, will also like this paradigm).
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 12:16 AM
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Well, I'd agree with this, as well!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 12:12 AM
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He knows I have ADHD. He expresses his appreciation very well. I just noticed that I don't cook and clean the way I used to. I brought it up today after I posted this. He said he didn't mind, but we decided to work together to create a better plan.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 12:11 AM
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Thankyou for all this. Will check out the book!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 12:09 AM
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I'm really vague on what RPW means, but I assumed it was a traditional role for women to encourage their husbands and do things that will lead him to earning more money
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 12:08 AM
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I'm your age. I come from a culture that is very RPW. So I have elders to "look up" to in a way but they are soooo... "do as I say, not as I do" and it's just unrealistic for American modern life. But to be around girls my age, I'm lucky to have a friend who is very RPW and feminist -- similar to me. Except she's way better at RPW than I am. She blows me away. I had an old roommate who was very good at RPW. I would ask her for advice all the time. Both of these women no longer live around me so …
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 08:51 PM
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I wouldn't call myself a gamer, but I think I've experienced enough. I do think there is some misogyny there. I think it's the same amount as any other place that doesn't have a high representation of women. And online, there's the added veil of anonymity that allows stupidity to be rampant.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 08:40 PM
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He's romantically unstable in the very least...
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 08:36 PM
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I agree with you. He's still seeing her. And the OP's idea of talking to the ex to make it work with the guy is... I'm just not even gonna finish that sentence.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 08:35 PM
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The best thing I wish someone had told me about dating when I was younger was "If you feel confused or something feels like it doesn't make sense and it doesn't improve after a discussion or even gets worse after a discussion-- leave him." Be honest with yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 08:33 PM
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When I first got into this "stuff" I looked at men in the PUA (pick up artist) community and I wanted a man like that (the guys who are good at PUA) because they typically were looking for a wife (and of course, sex -- but also a wife) and they had the skills of interacting with women in a way that I liked and they were also honest about the status of relationship. I didn't want a guy who wanted to date me just to date me, you know? So I think RP is kinda like a new label for the PUA community. …
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 08:27 PM
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Looking for LTR didn't take too much of my time until I found a guy/guys I needed to vet out. Then it took some time that simply required good time management and letting them know "Hey, I only have X amount of time". Once I fell for a guy, the time commitment was ridiculous because I was infatuated. Yes, some aspects of my hustle started to fall way behind. So it's just up to you. I, personally, find it better to focus on studies and not seek or spend a lot of time with men or have it be very c…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 08:21 PM
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I found a man I was more than happy to "RPW" with and it's the best relationship ever. Well, I haven't been alive long, but it's better than anything I would have imagined. I have a feeling that the relationship will only fail if I stop RPWing him. And spending time in this reddit shows me ways to be better. And the idea of being BETTER at THIS is EXCITING to me (with any of my ex's, I would have wanted to puke first LOL). And before this, I had a friend who RPW'd men all the time. It came natur…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 08:15 PM
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Do you understand WHY he doesn't want to get married? I, personally, have red flags on any man who says he loves a woman and cannot give a non-emotional reason for not getting married. Finances, debt, family issues, etc. I can understand. "Not ready" doesn't make sense to me. It means, to me personally, that it means he is still not sure you're "the one". That's my personal take on it, though. In my experience, I've never been with a man who said he loved me and didn't have a desire to marry me …
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 08:10 PM
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You simply need to develop the habit of reaching out when you start to feel nervous.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 08:00 PM
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Basically as much as possibly without interfering with work, errands and household stuff. So I don't think your partner is seeking too much. I think it's totally normal. And there are guys who want it less often. I think at this age, But I'm having the same problem as you. He feels I say "no" too often. And you'll be SURPRISED by what he considers to be "no"!!! I asked him wtf he was talking about because I cannot recall every verbally saying "no". But he thinks - not initiating = no - not respo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 07:49 PM
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The way I view it is you're a woman who is not easily offended by gender roles and is more interested in attracting the man of your dreams than debating "should I go dutch with him or not?" or trying to convince yourself "I dont need or want a man" or "a guy should accept me just the way I am, I don't need to dress better/look nice/etc" or anything like that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 07:44 PM
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Mkay, so both my partner and I were democrats for this election. He's just generally democrat. I'm just an independent person (I'm supposedly "libertarian" but I think Libertarianism is kinda fake) who wanted Bernie and then wanted not-Trump (Gary is crazy and Jill isn't focused on important issues so... guess who's up for my vote lol). Trump won and I have complete understanding of why he won, why women would vote for him, etc. He didn't. We were listening to a conservative radio show and the g…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 07:32 PM
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When I was your age and in your situation, I honestly just asked a guy I liked if he would be my boyfriend. I didn't even ask him for a date or anything, I just thought "We like each other and talk a lot. Good enough reason." He said yes. We broke up in 2 weeks lol. But then I was able to learn from the experience. Just get out there :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 07:24 PM
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I'm sorry, can someone explain to me what this term is? Plate?
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 07:23 PM
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Some men cannot tell a 13 year old from a 17 year old. It depends on the girl, her maturity, how she presents herself, and that man's perception of young women.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 07:21 PM
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I take it seriously. When you're drunk, it is incredibly easy to make stupid decisions that will put you in a vulnerable position. Just like I would blame anyone for taking advantage of a vulnerable person. You don't tell a kid who's been molested "You shouldn't have let that person take you to the restroom". Sure, you'll teach the kid about it so that it never happens again but largely, you're blaming the offender. It doesn't matter what stupid decision was made, someone took advantage of the s…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 07:19 PM
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I just asked him "What are your thoughts on marriage?" then it got the convo going. Before I asked this, though, I made sure he was in love with me and that he felt we had similar life goals.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 07:16 PM
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I don't see the point in slut shaming. I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to sleep around as long as you practice safe sex as that is a public health issue. But other than that, slut shaming is misogynistic and pointless.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 07:14 PM
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Also, go on youtube and watch Lisa Nichols. Specically the interview titled "Lisa Nichols on Rescuing Yourself, Overcoming Fear, and Finding Success By Serving Others" -- I know if you listen to these two women, you will view life in a totally different way. Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/16 04:15 AM
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Hey, check out a woman named Shanel Cooper Sykes. I think she will really resonate with you. And help you develop a mindset that will solve your problems (you cannot solve problems with the same mind that created them).
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/16 04:13 AM
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Sorry if you feel judged. I'm just pointing out that you are constantly focusing on the reasons why you "should" fail or why its "harder" for you instead of focusing on the reasons why you can succeed and what your strengths are and what is "easier" for you. As long as you are committed to focusing on the reasons you can't, you will feel like you're "behind". No one on reddit can help you with that until you're open to positivity. Not positive affirmations from strangers online, but to yourself.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/16 08:31 PM
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He was mostly a shut-in. He is more open, he listens to me, etc. He's still kind of a shut-in, but at least it is not impossible to get a hold of him. He returns phone calls and can discuss ideas with me now. He still won't tell me he has a girlfriend/boo-thing/fwb/whatever, but I'm just happy he hasn't left our family totally in the dark anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/16 05:49 AM
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Update your post. In glad to hear you left her. People like her (people, it's not a gender thing or alpha male thing) have a mind that doesn't value emotion and don't see a place for it in interaction. It sounds like your experience with her taught you some things and led you to a great relationship
/r/askTRP19/07/16 06:43 PM
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Thankyou for clarifying. I thought this was more related towards personal development and such. I dived deepinto the RPwomen subreddit and realized that it wasn't actually focused on things I'm interested in. Maybe there just isn't enough women active over there, but I was expecting more. I'd like something to the magnitude of what seems to be male dominated but I guess that's just what happens when men literally don't have anywhere to go to talk about their issues.
/r/askTRP19/07/16 12:53 AM
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I think hypergamy is natural. At least for me. I date a guy for a while and realize I need more. Upgrade. Realize I need more. Upgrade. I think I've landed on my fave. I could upgrade, but emotionally I am happy and he has enough of what I've been seeking for for me to totally, effortlessly respect him. Trading up for non-emotional reasons is not worth it at this point for me.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 12:31 AM
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Yes, I have found men love when you wear make up, especially if you are not going out because he feels you are doing it for him. Never trust a man who says he likes women who don't wear make up. They're full of shit lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 12:26 AM
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I love dresses. So much easier to look presentable quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 12:25 AM
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I'm not naturally a control freak, in general. But with my ex, I would correct him. For example, trying to enter a gated community, he'd push the wrong buttons and I'd say "You have to push # first" and he'd get frustrated. He told me that men need to make the mistakes first, then they are open to listening to you. With my current boyfriend, I allow him to make mistakes meanwhile, I am doing the correct thing. I don't even have to say anything. He will see that he's messing up and come join me. …
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 12:18 AM
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TL;DR -- my biggest piece of advice for you is to stop thinking about getting a boyfriend or figuring out your career and put some focus, for now, on just getting your damn self esteem back. Meditate, go to motivational seminars, get a life coach, something -- whatever it takes to become someone who actually loves, respects and BELIEVES in herself. Whatever it takes to be someone who VALUES what she has to offer and VALUES what makes her DIFFERENT. Then the rest will follow. If you were to achie…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 12:04 AM
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Yes, especially brothers.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/16 11:57 PM
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He is probably worried about your health. There are no health benefits to drinking that you cannot get from even healthier habits. And there are more health risks than benefits. Drinking every weekend IS A LOT to someone who is health concious. He has HIGHER STANDARDS than the average person. If you were dating an average man, you drinking a drink or two on the weekend is fine. If you're dating a RP man who cares about health, then he is showing you his standards. Step up.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/16 11:54 PM
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I mean, that is how YOU were raised. If someone wasn't raised to care about that, there's nothing wrong with having safe sex because you're horny. She may be dealing with some issues, but that's for her to figure out. Not everyone handles things the same way you do.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/16 11:31 PM
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I'm sorry about that. Because the name issue truly is cultural. His desire for you to take his last name is HIS culture and you have your own. Why not hyphen?
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/16 11:17 PM
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You're not wrong. A part of me wants to preserve my last name because it is cultural but luckily my first name is also cultural so I'm willing to change if my boyfriend was adamant. But he isn't so dunno what I'll do yet. I have considered a hyphen. So that I can do both. I personally want to go by MRS. husband's last name when I'm out in public, but still be able to maintain MY name (kind of like celebs who get married but their stage name is their maiden name). But you're not wrong. It is easi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/16 11:13 PM
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I feel like an idiot. Its on the sidebar. Thanks!
/r/askTRP18/07/16 11:11 PM
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I'm a woman and I notice I am more aggressive/dominant than people I work with in health care. I try to "tone it down" and be very subservient, but I think its just an energy. I can just tell that I am stepping on toes with my ambition. I do believe, unless you are a medical doctor or hospitalist -- those on "top" of the medical food chain, being passive and "beta" will actually behoove. And you'd be way happier in the job.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 10:55 PM
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The guys IS disrespecting you!!! As a man (I'm not one, but I would imagine), it would make sense for you to take this seriously and request your girlfriend give them a stern "no" and not just a laugh-it-off cutesy response. As a woman, I can tell you it is easy to laugh it off and not deal with how that is actually another man disrespecting her boyfriend.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 10:50 PM
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Being a bomb tutor will absolutely get you having women talking to you and wanting your number haha!
/r/askTRP18/07/16 10:46 PM
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In college, a lot of people would do club promotion which has you meeting tons of people. I was a campus tour guide. Resident Assistant. If there is a new organization on your campus that is funded by the school + another company, they usually have money to pay students to be ambassadors.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 10:45 PM
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Leave her! If you aren't attracted to her, what are you doing? She sounds like she would be a wonderful business partner. But you shouldn't be dating someone who is a good person but you're not attracted to them. Then that is just friend-zone...
/r/askTRP18/07/16 10:41 PM
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I'm sorry, you do not sound like an alpha-male. And there is no one, ideal personality of an alpha-male. I've met plety of alpha-males who are also able to have fun. She acts like a type of person you personally have never interacted with before. It doesn't mean she is behaving like an alpha-male. Her personality doesn't fit with yours and you can't see how you can dominate her. Therefore, she will dominate you.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 10:37 PM
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You can be like this while on your period. Yes, women are individuals. It sounds like she is probably an ESTJ personality type. You probably should break up with her and find a woman you can handle. First, ask her if she's happy with your relationship. She is looking for a man who will improve her life and she sounds like she will clearly let you know if you aren't. It doesn't sound like you do but you didn't give us all the info.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 10:31 PM
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I wrote something and it got deleted? I basically was saying that you sound like Jason Bateman in movies like Horrible Bosses. That personality attracts me SO INCREDIBLY. It just turns me on. Do NOT change your personality. A girl can tell when you're being fake and you might miss out on hot girls who are turned on by your personality. Just be more confident in yourself.
/r/seduction01/06/16 07:34 PM
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testing
/r/seduction01/06/16 07:33 PM
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Yes, guys like that are extremely attractive to me. Jason Bateman usually plays that role and I fall in love with him. My boyfriend is exactly the personality type you describe and I was attracted to him from the get go. Do NOT ditch your persona. A girl can tell when you are trying to hard or being fake. Be yourself and upgrade yourself by getting fit or whatever. Do not change who you are, just become MORE CONFIDENT about who you are.
/r/seduction01/06/16 07:32 PM
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Its natural. You're a human being. The only thing you can do is become aware of when you're doing things for validation and choose something else in that moment.
/r/seduction01/06/16 07:30 PM
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