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That manlet makes whiny internet videos to pay his bills so I think it’s safe to say however he may want to present his opinions on the movie, he’s grateful for its existence because it means he can collect more checks off angry men.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 08:35 PM
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I’m a childfree housewife. I cook and clean and all that good stuff. Not all the time, about 90% of it, but he spends weekends doing chores around the home and he’s always done his own laundry, made his own appointments and he does the grocery shopping (online). We have a cleaning lady who comes by 2x a month. We have two pets, and I’m responsible for their primary care. I have hobbies and volunteer. He covers all our living and recreational expenses. I essentially create a happy, peaceful envir…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 03:38 PM
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Definitely not a fan of being catcalled and just walking by a group of men is anxiety-inducing because of the likelihood that they’ll give me unwanted attention. Though, to a woman who hasn’t experienced it before, I can understand why you might feel that you’re the “issue”. Please keep in mind that being catcalled does not equate to being approached, asked out, etc. It’s usually just a sexually charged comment thrown in your direction due to a lack of impulse control, and that’s typically as fa…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 07:21 PM
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You’ll get over it. Have a nice day! :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 10:29 PM
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Hey, not sure what I did for you to toss this word salad at me, but I’d like to clarify that I’ve participated on this sub for a number of years using a number of throwaway accounts. I was single when I joined and now a happily married trophy wife (thanks to many of the original principles and contributors here). In the past, I’ve used other throwaways to share my own positive experiences, but unfortunately I was doxxed on my last account a couple of years ago. My mistake for getting too comfort…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 10:15 PM
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Tbh I feel like I remember reading that and double checking what sub I was on haha and can you read my mind or what?! The increase over the past couple of years with posts along the lines of “What am I doing wrong if my man who verbally berates me, is a drunk and won’t get a job is cheating on me 3x a week?” has not gone unnoticed because it is so widely different from the content that first appealed to me here. There does seem to be an air of desperation now. Then again, many OGs of the sub who…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 09:17 PM
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-Michelle Diaz -Emily de Rean -Milena Ciciotti (especially if you’re of the Christian faith) -Fumi (mahamaven on social media) -Victoria de Vall Just a handful off the top of my head!
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 08:31 PM
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She allowed it. Men get away with what women allow. A feminine woman who appreciates a man’s hard work and loves him accordingly will inspire a man to want to give her the world. A woman who feels the need to compete with her man financially or otherwise will be treated as such.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 08:22 PM
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1000% agreed! A few years ago, I feel like this sub leaned more towards SAHM and housewives. I picked up so many good homemaking tips then, I miss it! I also personally believe there’s no such thing as 50/50. It’s more like 80/20 and not in the woman’s favor. Research has shown that even full-time working moms do more housework than stay at home dads. No thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 08:20 PM
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Oops! Admittedly I’m realizing I initially read your comment as “RPW perspective”! Apologies, I can definitely see how the men’s side of things would use this thought process as an incentive for a man to keep working towards his best self. Congrats on turning your dead bedroom around! May you and your wife experience happiness together for years to come! Agreed on the natural design, not much would get done if we were all out here making do like rabbits 😂
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 07:51 PM
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It’s more of a perspective issue. The chances of being “in the mood” 100% of the time your man is are not realistic. Men experience a consistent hormone cycle in a 24 hour period while we experience hormonal highs and lows over a 28 day (give or take) cycle. That alone will guarantee sexy times won’t always coordinate. Throw in stress, obligations, and anything else the modern world throws at our mental load, it’s more than normal to not always want to when he does. Changing your perspective on …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 07:19 PM
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Idk, I’ve been on this sub for years through various alt accounts and as often as this question has come up, I’ve never seen RPW refer to mismatched sex drives as a myth. The general advice has consistently been that sex is an opportunity to connect with your man. Because it makes him happy, we choose to indulge him, unless sick or in pain or something along those lines. This includes doing it when not in the mood. Another commenter made a great comparison to making dinner – sometimes we make an…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 07:02 PM
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Fortunately, my man and I share very similar values, and we definitely have the same opinion on men who use social media, especially to argue with and attempt to insult women. I’ll leave it to you to guess what that might be 🤭 Have yourself a great day and don’t spend too much time imagining anything with women above your pay grade. Won’t do you any favors.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 04:35 PM
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Milena Ciciotti has some fabulous content on what a marriage led by faith looks like. I don’t think you even really need to be Christian to take her advice to heart. 99% of it aligns with RPW theory. Michelle Diaz is another creator who makes great content about what it means to be loved by a high value man and how women should go about setting their standards prior to committing to a man to ensure the relationship is on the same page from the jump.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 04:02 PM
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Thank you for clarifying what I thought what obvious. OP’s own words are there for anyone to read. Not sure when this sub went from “inspire a high value man to care for and love you” to “well you should try to make it work for better or worse with any old thing you managed to snag 8 weeks ago otherwise you’re the problem!!” OP would benefit from nun mode (anyone remember that?) and reading through older posts here. When she puts the work into herself to figure herself out, she’ll be in a better…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 03:54 PM
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Yeah, like I said. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 03:47 PM
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She has multiple posts on his abusive behavior. You consider a man who reaches out to other women inappropriately to punish his partner to be a committed man? You were asking just 2 years ago why women even go out. My understanding is that advice from men on here should be from men who have been active in the RP men’s sub and are in successful relationships. Does this apply to you? I’m failing to see how suggesting she stay with a man who tells her he’s found a woman to cheat on her with is bene…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 03:19 PM
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I wear thicker fabrics or layers. Uniqlo has an awesome heat tech line and in the middle of a Midwest winter, I’ll do one of their thinnest heat tech tight under a pair of their thicker fleece lined and I even get warm sometimes in the negatives! Another fave trick is a thick pair of flesh colored fleece lined tights under a pair of thin regular black tights because it looks natural instead of bulky. Layers is the key here when you know the fabric you’re wearing is on the thinner side. Most of m…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 02:11 PM
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I wish society would stress the importance of having one’s shit together and working extensively on sense of self before dating. Going through your post history, it’s a bit wild that you’re uncertain whether your bf’s abuse is a normal thing or not, whether you deserve it or not. Relationships are work, but they entail the effort made resulting in benefits for both parties. In a healthy relationship, you try your best to be your best to add value to your man’s life, and he does the same for you.…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 01:51 PM
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Yikes.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 01:47 PM
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None of these justify controlling another adult’s whereabouts. If he has a concern from her past that prevents from being able to move on in a healthy manner with her, he needs to make the big boy decision to leave. Not attempt to alienate her from other people. This also wouldn’t explain why he consistently calls her stupid, nitpicks her body, and DMs other girls. Please.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 01:45 PM
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I’d love to! It’s been years since I’ve seen that movie. I think a discussion dissecting the characters on here would be pretty interesting. Count me in 🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 07:05 PM
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It’s absolutely possible. What you’re looking for is the way I live my life. I stay at home and won’t ever have kids. I don’t contribute to the family income. My man has told me that my money is my money, and his money is ours. He also wants to bring in a cleaning service because he’s been concerned with how much of my days are spent maintaining our home and wishes I had more free time to indulge in my hobbies. All that in mind, finding a true provider is NOT easy. Most providers have contingenc…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 02:29 PM
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If this is a personal boundary for you then whether or not it’s socially acceptable seems pretty irrelevant, no?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 10:10 PM
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What do you think?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 10:00 PM
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You look fine! Not sure that the shirt is the most flattering or maybe altering perception, but I take it that you’re pear shaped? If so and you’re looking to balance your proportions, tops with more volume at the top/bust area (think ruffles, ruching, cap sleeves) will help balance out being bottom heavy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 02:33 PM
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Are you doomed? Nope. Do you narrow down your options within the dating pool? Yup. This is something you have to be upfront about with men as to not waste your time or theirs. I know it’s possible because I stay at home and have never had any desire to have kids and neither has my man. He introduced the topic within our first month of dating by asking what I saw for myself in the future in terms of a meaningful relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 12:19 PM
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I could tell you just from your title alone that your man is married to his mother. You’ve been together 4 years and admit that they’ve mostly not been full of bliss. Still, you want to marry and have kids with this man, why? His sister, for all intents and purposes, is the only other woman in the world who knows him best, and she flat out told you early on that he’s a mama’s boy. Aka his love, loyalty, time, attention, etc lie with her. You already know this info for a fact yet you’re here aski…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/23 05:20 PM
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It is very risky to allow a boyfriend to provide for many of the reasons you’re already living out. He makes it clear that it is HIS money, and that’s not how a true provider provides. He spends frivolously because he’s not thinking of providing for a family, and that’s not how a true provider organizes his finances. As appealing as it seems, a rich man and a high value man are NOT synonymous by default. There are dusty providers, and your man certainly sounds like one of them. A dusty provider …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 11:57 PM
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Red pilled men and red pilled women have different goals. The men are trying to get non-committal sex out of women, the women want to inspire commitment from a man. Plus, many men in the RP community are full of anger towards women.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:22 AM
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You say you’ve lived in a van for a few months before. What were your average expenses while doing this? Full time van life is expensive. It’s not by any means a cheaper alternative to living in any other type of residential property. Do you already own a van and is it equipped for full time living? How long would you intend to stay in it? The appeal of van life has been increased due to content creators, but what those van lifers fail to mention is that they all have high paying remote jobs, tr…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 08:28 PM
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How long have you two been married and what’s the game plan for working through this? Your comment history makes it seem like only 30 days ago you were posting about a boyfriend not getting you anything for V-Day, is he that boyfriend? You also seem to post on datingover40 a lot so I’m just trying to gauge the level of commitment here. Is this an open marriage? A forever boyfriend and a husband are two different commitments. If you two have always pooled your money together, is that to say that …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 01:11 PM
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Personally, I would think a woman who is applying RPW incorrectly would be the woman who isn’t using these resources to become a better woman who inspires adoration and protection from a man, but is instead using these female strategies to manipulate the man she’s with into getting what she wants without reciprocating the value in kind
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/23 10:19 PM
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No. I’ve literally never viewed a person making such a huge life-changing decision to be something I “benefit” from due to them removing themselves from the “competition” pool. I’ve also never heard a single man claim to wish for a war to be drafted into in hopes of surviving to the chance of a better dating pool lmao
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 02:34 PM
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If you’re into podcasts or Tik Tok at all, Victoria de Vall touches on this a lot. I don’t have TT anymore so I don’t remember if her username was just her first and last but her podcast is called Victoria’s Thoughts. She definitely offers an interesting perspective on divine femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 01:17 AM
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No worries! I’m basically saying you’re giving him too much time of day!! I think when it comes to personal growth and changing while in a relationship, the fundamental reason should be to improve one’s self. Not to fit into someone else’s mold. If you work towards becoming your highest quality self, then the right man isn’t going to nitpick your outfits or social media following or worst of all, object to you wanting to improve your health and physique!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:29 AM
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This was an awfully long post for an issue that can be resolved in 2 points: 1. Don’t date men who are still a work in progress. 2. Ask yourself what type of work you still have left to do on you because there was way too many red flags going on here, and a high value woman would’ve quickly recognized them and gotten the hell out of there.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:26 AM
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Girl, I’ve been a metalhead all my life and am as feminine as they come!
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 03:02 PM
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Was your friend in search of a partner? Is she usually open to conversations with strangers? Where were you hanging out with your friend? I definitely don’t think there’s a lack of social spaces given that bars, clubs, coffee shops, book stores, etc exist. But these spaces are going to differ in the type of people they attract, and some of these places create a scene that’s more open to socialization than others. Time is a valuable thing. I’m also the type of woman who isn’t open to conversation…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 01:57 PM
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I’m a real estate broker. I’m my own boss, and I create my own schedules. Clients are usually available evenings and weekends so my weekdays are pretty open, and when I need to take time off, my brokerage offers on-demand assistants so that I don’t need to overwork myself or miss out on family related events.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 11:54 PM
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Go to therapy. Take the time to unlearn the damage that was instilled into you. Find hobbies that make you feel safe and proud of yourself. Forgive yourself for the wrongdoings you committed when you were in a poorer mental state. Acknowledge that your parents were only human, and while you can’t go back and prevent them from what they did, you can accept that you are no longer under their control. Once you reach adulthood, who you move forward to become after you’ve recognized that the people w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 11:45 PM
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As someone who recently cut off her core group of girlfriends (10+ years) for VERY similar reasons, I’d say do it. It hurt my heart like hell for a month or two afterwards as the end of any long personal relationship does, but it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. My days are so much brighter without their toxic energy around, and I don’t have to feel peer pressured into drinking or staying out late anymore. Trust me, they’ll turn 30 and still be doing the same loser shit and asking why they can’t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 02:12 AM
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Altar’d State, American Eagle, Vixen by Micheline Pitt, Nordstrom, tbh there’s a ton of places that you’ll find within any aesthetic! Trendier pieces tend to be in stores targeting a younger demographic but anything meant for women in their late 20s and onwards are pretty feminine without being revealing. r/modestdress can you give you more ideas
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/23 03:10 AM
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Not sure what budget you’re working with but here are some things I do that are low maintenance and can be cost effective. Just off the top of my head: -good quality press on nails (I’ve heard good things about nail wraps too but have yet to try) -always smelling good (hygiene-wise ofc but I also love fragrances) find a signature fragrance that won’t break the bank -clean teeth! A travel sized mouthwash, toothpaste & tooth brush in my purse -I do my own blowouts and the style holds for 3-4 days …
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 07:16 PM
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I’m sorry you were put in a hurtful situation. When a man tells you who he is, believe him. Also please remember that men see value in women who have standards. Forgiving him a first time, then a second, led to the third. He knew he could continue doing it and all you’d do is cry and make up. A single gif as an apology couldn’t be a lazier “fuck you” to your face. But keep in mind, if you can claim that a man who made it obvious time and time again that he didn’t care about you could bring you s…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 06:49 PM
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Women in this sub aren’t looking for men who lack the healthy, human ability to love. If you’re not a troll, then your best bet is to look elsewhere for validation on your toxic views. Either way, seek professional help. All the luck.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 11:21 PM
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With all due respect, you came here seeking advice. To a subreddit where the focus is on women becoming their best feminine self and learning how our femininity can help us attract a masculine man. Many of us, including myself, are in healthy relationships with a masculine provider. You are not. You came here asking for truthfulness and opinions on your standards. The majority of commenters are in agreement that your last two points are unrealistic and harmful to an extent. You double down on wh…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 11:03 PM
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Masculine men want a vulnerable woman. They aren’t generally attracted to women who act like they do. A woman with a lack of emotions is a bit of a red flag. Your mother is masculine in her manner of handling emotions, and it’s clearly influenced you. Likewise “50 words or less a day” is strange at best and a red flag at worst. Men feel inspired to protect and adore their woman based on how wholeheartedly she loves him. I’m sorry you didn’t grow up with a good example of an affectionate, loving …
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 09:35 PM
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Michelle Diaz on IG or TT is good inspo! She’s 23 and has a fun, feminine way of dressing that’s very lady like but not too serious or mature.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 06:37 PM
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How do you intend to move forward?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 10:18 PM
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He’s micromanaging. You know it. Your children will resent him and you eventually, for allowing it. Talk to your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 09:24 PM
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When you say you feel a desire to raise a child, what exactly do you have in mind? Something similar to your experience as a nanny? Because the thing about having kids is that you’re not 100% HELL YES about it, then it’s a no. You won’t have alone time, uninterrupted time with your partner, and you will be extraordinarily exhausted after having a baby for quite some time. That’s part of the experience of raising a child.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 04:46 PM
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The overarching topic is the jealousy you feel towards the platonic female friend and how it’s triggering the baggage you’re carrying over from your last relationship. Your post doesn’t begin to touch the nuanced topic of dating a single parent. If he’s not in a relationship with the mother of his child, then he was a single parent. Co-parenting doesn’t alter his relationship status. Furthermore, why would you want to hang out with his child in “non-girlfriend kind of manner” when you are his gi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 08:51 PM
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You don’t need to submit when it comes to being told you should be alright with having a child rapist around your children. Pedophilia was labeled a mental illness way back when, but current research shows it’s more akin to a sexual orientation than a disorder, which is why there’s no successful way to treat it other than a pedophile learning not to act on their impulse, which is never a guarantee. When you talk about your husband helping to “rehabilitate” his brother, what are you referring to?…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 11:57 PM
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Those posts would be incorrect about SPF being harmful. If the correlation being made is SPF itself is the reason for the increase/cause of skin cancer then that would also be inaccurate. The reason why higher % SPF is associated with an increase in skin cancer is behavioral. The study that proved the correlation essentially found that the majority of people in their random study who wore higher SPF participated in intentional sun exposure more frequently. Aka sunbathing and not only that, these…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 02:44 AM
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It’s a sign of growth that you recognize and take accountability for your previous mistakes by working on yourself. Though I notice that in your post and comment you state that you don’t feel as though you really ever were disrespectful because you weren’t intentionally being so. When this is used as a defense, it just invalidates that person’s feelings. Maybe you didn’t mean to be disrespectful, but it doesn’t change the fact that he felt disrespected. Have you two ever sat down and had a convo…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 05:14 AM
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This has been going on for 5 years?! Imo your man intentionally listening to media that he knows gets him worked up so that he can hype himself up to treat you like crap (or should I say as an “employee”) is some extremely beta shit. You are not his employee, and he is not your boss. Marriage is a partnership, not a business contract. Respect is also earned, not just eagerly handed over to a man simply because he is one. If you two are in a traditional relationship in where he provides and you s…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 11:12 PM
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I’ve read your post and comments, and I think you’ve gotten some pretty good advice from a few of the gals here. I just want to add that a compromise may be honoring your preferred aesthetic in public and dressing sexy for him in the comfort of your home. Additionally, I think you mentioned he was agreeable to the compromise of you wearing a baggy dress with no bra, and I’m wondering if what he enjoyed about that situation was that you did it for him specifically, and unless anyone was directly …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 06:19 PM
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Worth the risk to do what, exactly?? Sleep with him? Because he’s richer than you and turned you on? Yeah, that’s not what this sub is about. The discussions here aren’t meant to centered around “Do you have a body count? What is it?” or “Should I hook up with this rich guy because he gave me the tingles?” It’s meant to be “Am I the best version of myself, and how can I work on myself to become better in my role as a _____?” And “How do I grow in this particular area so that I may hold myself to…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 08:46 PM
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No offense, but your post really needs a TLDR. If everything you wrote is truly in relation to the title of your post, then this is not the place for it. This sub is for women who want to or have put in the work to become high value women and desire a male-led relationship with a man of strong values and masculine qualities. It doesn’t seem like you’re in that realm, but if you’re opening to learning, then check out the sidebar and read through some posts, especially those by ECs. Otherwise, if …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 08:18 PM
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There’s a difference between submitting to your man and co-dependency. It sounds like you’re well aware that you’re in a co-dependent relationship, and that’s fine, but you go on to justify why it works well to be instead of acknowledging that you’re codependent because you want to be. Of course it’s going to be seen as ridiculous that you opt not to learn to swim because you’d rather hold on to your man’s arm or whatever, and of course people are going to view your man as a toddler if he’d star…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 05:30 PM
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Wishing you the best ❤️ I used to read your posts under your mod account and another alt you had when I was under a different account myself. Thank you for all the genuinely good advice you’ve posted over the years and for the work you put into moderating this sub. As others have said, you will most certainly be missed!
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 06:19 PM
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RP rides and dies by the phrase “AWALT” 💀
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 05:33 PM
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I mean, if she’s an otherwise good friend, idk that this is really a reason to unfriend her. You’d do yourself a favor to remember that you’re 27, she’s 21, you’re a stepmom of 5 and your friend sounds like she has one? It’s only natural that between the difference in age and number of children, that you’re interest/energy levels are wildly varied. Have you explained it to her from that perspective? My youngest friend is 23 and I’ll be 30 soon. She pokes fun about trying to get me in the club an…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 05:16 PM
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You need to ask yourself what your ultimate goal is with this relationship and why. Personally, I don’t know a high value woman who would allow herself to be relegated to a “placeholder”. It’s my personal opinion that relationships are easier when you’re a 10 in your man’s eyes. Idk you so it may be that you’re glowing up to become a high value woman and that’s great. You need to ask yourself if your man is a high value man and if he’s the one for you. If you believe he is, then you’ll have to a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 07:32 PM
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Yup! And good riddance 😊
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 10:22 PM
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I personally have not and would not, but it’s not unheard of, and I personally know a couple of women who have. Their reasons either had to do with keeping the family together or not wanting to risk their financial status by leaving their provider partner. I’m not entirely sure if you’re just looking to vent or curious about what the outcome may be, but it may be best to talk to a woman in your life who you see as a mentor if you have one. If you are able to live at peace with your decision then…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 01:31 AM
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I mean, this isn’t really the same as the cohabitation you’ve done research on. Cohabiting occurs when an unmarried couple moves in together and can lead to a lessened chance of marriage because it removes the incentive for it. If you’re living in your boyfriend’s dad’s house into a room of your own, this isn’t nearly the same thing. You said the agreement would be that of a lessor + lessee with you having your own room, then that should imply that you’re responsible for maintaining your own liv…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/22 05:37 PM
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Useful advice: you can’t change a man but you can change the man you’re with
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 09:40 PM
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You married a bully and a weak one at that, and you really need to stop coddling him by making excuses for why he does it and jumping in to distract others who are very aware that he’s a bully. You’re not to change him because 1. Women can’t change men, especially one who doesn’t want to change and 2. He doesn’t respect your opinion, at least on this matter anyway, which is proven by how dismissive he is of you when you broach this subject. He says “I don’t care” because he genuinely doesn’t. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 09:36 PM
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Hi, I’m so happy to hear you’re embracing your feminine energy! As someone suggested, therapy should be utilized to help you overcome your childhood traumas and get to the root of your triggers. It will understandably not be an easy journey so don’t get yourself down if you feel like you’re not living up to your desired feminine nature. Growth takes time. There are some great resources and good advice on this sub. It’s been said again and again, RPW is a toolbox where you take what you need and …
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 04:34 PM
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I mean, I don’t know that I would consider the man in your situation to be a friend in the first place. You said you knew him from college, he “found” your number which means you hadn’t given it to him in the first place, and upon reconnecting, he attempted to flirt with you. His intentions weren’t friendly to start. I have a handful of male friends I made from when I was much younger (childhood through HS) and a couple of them are gay, and one is married. I still speak to them and every so ofte…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 06:47 PM
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Are you currently in treatment? I am someone who also lives with mental illness daily. It took a decade of prioritizing myself and my mental health to get to a place where I am comfortable and content on most days. That said, I won’t ever have kids. I know that the mental load required to be a good mother would probably make me lose my mind to the point of no return. I gently urge you to consider, from a person with a similar mental health history, whether you should be having children. I’ve per…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 11:59 PM
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In my opinion? It would the self-proclaimed “tóxica” who swears up and down that she’s not in a relationship because she hasn’t met a man who fits her high value standards, but she also boasts about checking his phone when he’s in the shower, blowing up if he so much as looks at another woman, hitting the club and hooking up every other weekend, and is overall not what the man she’s delusional enough to claims she’s worth would ever actually check for.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 06:57 PM
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Hell no. When I was single, I didn’t even date men who would think splitting a bill is acceptable. When I met my man, it was a blind date so I wasn’t 100% sure, but he paid while I was in the washroom and told me about a year later that he’d always gone 50/50 until he met me, at which point the thought of accepting half from me embarrassed him because he didn’t want to do a single thing to discourage me from a second date. This really depends on you though because if you’re willing to be in a 50…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 09:29 PM
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You can explain it to him until you’re blue in the face, and it will make no difference to him because his issue is a lack of sexual control, and that has little to do with you. The reason why he can’t get off during sex is because he’s been choking his dick with his hand so frequently. His “toxic” ex sounds like a woman who was desperate to do something about her man’s porn addiction. I personally take it as a red flag when men refer to their exes as toxic or crazy, but you’re already with the …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 09:47 PM
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Unfortunately, plenty of men will stay in long term relationships with women they have no intention of marrying because they want to benefit from what a woman brings to their life, but they don’t want to commit to that woman if they don’t believe she’s the best he can attract. His comments and the follow up about “all men” thinking the same about you screams that he sees you as a placeholder until he finds a woman he considers higher value to put the ring on, but of course, he wants to ensure yo…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 04:01 PM
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Hmm, would you be able to give a little more insight into what you mean by “offering sex”? It’s currently worded to sound like sex is transactional in exchange for getting things or having things done for you. Or worse, as if sex is used or withheld dependent on these things. It shouldn’t be weaponized in a healthy relationship. I personally don’t ever tire of the kind things my man regularly does for me so I’m a little confused by the “start to appreciate it less” because that sounds like entit…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 04:47 PM
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Honestly, you’re going to have to decide if this is a deal breaker for you. I felt for you up until “well he cheats but doesn’t want to share me and that’s very understandable” no, ma’am, that is some silly shit. Ask yourself if you are keen to a one-sided open marriage, particularly one where his focus seems to be screwing old flames(?!?!). Is he or has he even been apologetic? Right now, he very clearly seems to be telling you to let it go and suffer his cheating in silence. Unless you are abl…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 04:38 PM
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A little tidying up is always good for the soul! A clean home is a happy home! 😊 but honestly, it also sounds like a great opportunity for a self-care night. Whenever my man spends an evening with friends, I’ll take advantage of the time to do things for myself that I might put off when we’re together. Like taking a hot bath, shaving, deep conditioning mask on my head. I read a few chapters of whatever novel I’m working on, meet up with friends for a drink or dinner. Or even invite them over for…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 06:12 PM
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RPW isn’t rooted in religion so I’m not sure why you think his suggestion for you to lovingly nurture your kids within your adopted faith is anti-RPW. You made the choice to become religious on your own accord, and he made the decision to live a life without it. If he has expressed that being faith-driven is not for him then the best way to make it comfortable for everyone (per your words, this is your goal, correct?) is to respect his decision and follow his lead when he advises you to introduc…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 03:19 PM
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LOL
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/22 09:28 PM
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The feminine receives. You say you know his financial situation, but unless you’re tracking his earnings and spendings, chances are he knows his finances better than you do. He may also have already checked ticket prices prior to offering. If he was the type to recklessly spend with no understanding of the cost of things, would you be into him in the first place? If you don’t feel like you two are on this level yet, let him know you’d be more comfortable purchasing your own ticket. Be careful th…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/22 09:12 PM
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This is awful advice and does not come from an understanding of RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/22 09:03 PM
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You certainly didn’t go wrong anywhere 😊 it’s wonderful that he’s crazy about you! My man loves my butt, and there are regularly days I swear he just can’t keep his hands to himself! That said, I understand what you mean by desiring to hear a compliment here or there. Do you share with him your hobbies, passions, and challenges? Do you set goals for yourself and share your progress with him? Talking to him would be the first step. Make sure you’re allowing yourself to be vulnerable and coming fr…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 05:05 PM
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Not even a year and a half, but half a year – as in 6 months! Of course he’s all over her haha they’re very much in the honeymoon phase!!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 04:45 PM
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As someone else mentioned, make sure you’re financially protected! I think this is wise advice for any woman, married or not. Being married doesn’t make one a better parent imo but it does offer other societal protections. I see a few comments mentioning the negative effect it might have on your child in the future, but this seems like speculation. My parents were never married, and I certainly didn’t “always” get asked about why not or different last names. Some of my childhood friends didn’t e…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 04:19 PM
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Don’t believe in cancel culture but I certainly wouldn’t be caught dead defending Andrew Tate, who definitely hates women lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 03:57 PM
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Yeah, hi, I’ve got a question – do you normally spend so much time talking at others about subject matters you seem to have very little insight about? If yes, why? And what are some other more productive ways you could utilize that time and energy? TIA!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 05:15 PM
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