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Strangers on the internet can't possibly know the reason. Maybe he's embarrassed, cheating, doesn't see it lasting long, wants to look single online etc. You just have to ask. You're not being unreasonable or needy for wanting to know.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/25 04:02 AM
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You haven't asked a question here so I'm not sure what it is you want. Have you talked about this with him?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/25 03:58 AM
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Fascinating interpretation. I would love to know how you came to that conclusion.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/25 05:53 AM
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It's not what you do, it's how you do it. You can clean in a feminine way, but the act itself is not inherently feminine. There's nothing feminine about a pissed off mum/wife aggressively throwing laundry into the washing machine while swearing under her breath that no one helps around the house. The same applies to angrily vacuuming, or scrubbing the dishes in a rushed, resentful way. I'm not saying you are guilty of any of this, but it's just to paint a picture. You're post-partum. Focusing on…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/25 06:28 AM
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I see that you need to vent and get this off your chest, which is perfectly fine, but I'm wondering what it is that you would like from this post? Is it advice, or simply someone to hear you out?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/24 10:48 AM
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I'm sure he's a lovely man, it doesnt answer my question though. I'm not sure if you're familiar or a fan of Laura Doyle, but she strongly recommends against doing "all the work" in the relationship. Let your husband know you trust him to figure out how to deal with this, thank him sincerely, and focus on your own needs. As a husband and father, he understands that both you and his young children's needs are the priority. You cannot care for yourself, a baby and toddler with google translate in …
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/24 10:38 AM
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I hear you, it's putting you in a tough situation. In what way is your husband accommodating your needs as a mother of two young children, with a FIL you can't communicate with? Do you think you could you show up as your best self to your husband, children and in-laws if you're resentful, frustrated and exhausted?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/24 10:27 AM
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Sounds like your husband needs to step up. He either accepts his role as a translator, and that means being woken up at 4am if your FIL starts talking to you, or being clearer with his father that he needs to take on some of the burden of the language barrier. Typing stuff out with a baby and toddler is ridiculous.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/24 10:12 AM
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You asked why she left it so long, but she expressed her boundaries within 3 weeks. Maybe that was the time it took for her to figure out how she felt about it. It might've been nicer to find out earlier sure, but 3 weeks seems like a very reasonable time frame imo. Unless she came into the relationship knowing from day 1 that she wasn't going to approve of drug use, in which case it seems a bit unfair, but at least she didn't waste too much of your time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/24 11:48 AM
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Okay. Phew, thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 04:10 AM
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Yes, that's true. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 04:10 AM
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I don't have much knowledge on men. All my friends and family are girls. A part of me is inclined to believe that some level of infidelity is inevitable. I have this feeling that even if I start a new relationship, it's going to happen again no matter what. I'm not sure why I'm telling you this. I think it's the biggest concern I have about this and ending it for future relationships. Do you have any opinions in this?
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 02:57 PM
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Wow. This was a tough read, but very sobering. Thank you so much, as much as it hurts.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 02:50 PM
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Trust is a two way thing. If it's not being reciprocated, what do I get out of not checking other than being the 'bigger' person? I'm not the one being disloyal.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 12:44 PM
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This sounds about right, unfortunately. Thank your for the insight.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 12:43 PM
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I disagree. There should at least be a ring and engagement before pregnancy. The wedding ceremony may come later, as I agree if this is the man you want to father your children then this needs to be addressed asap. However I do not think it is worth having his children before establishing how committed he actually is. He might be delaying an inevitable break up and that needs to happen before ending up a single mother.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 10:18 PM
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First of all, get off social media. Clearly it's not helping. At the very least, disengage from that type of content by unfollowing accounts/not engaging/or flagging them as 'not interested'. You say you want your husband to be the provider and you're worried that he feels he's not enough. At the same time, you said he doesn't appreciate the domestic things that you do around the house. Why not start with the latter? If he wants you to have a career and earn money, who's going to be doing all th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/24 03:27 PM
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If he wasn't fit from when you began dating, it seems a bit unfair to expect him to change. It'd be more understandable if he was fit to begin with then became less interested. Best way is to get him involved in your athletic hobbies, and choose healthier places when eating out/cooking together. But I would recommend managing your expectations too. He may have no interest in those things.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/24 09:43 AM
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I'm not sure I agree. I don't feel like any of the RP advice towards women discussed here recommends that we accept abuse or mistreatment in any way. The sentiment that I have taken from RP is that if we are dissatisfied in our relationships, before blaming the other person or breaking up, there are steps we can take to reflect on ourselves to improve it. If we bring the best version of ourselves to a relationship and it's not reciprocated or the relationship doesn't meet our standards, we simpl…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/24 05:18 AM
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Family calendar is a great idea! I think it's a bit of a stretch for his family to agree to as they seem to 'go with the flow', but I think it's something he could try on his end and share with them, thank you. And yes! I'll stay quiet and wait until he brings it up again, thank you. I need to work on this. To answer your questions at the end, it's a bit of both. They're both poor communicators so they'll tell him to come home without any consideration that he might be doing something or have pl…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 01:46 AM
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Yes, that makes sense. In the grand scheme of things, I agree I could have bigger problems to deal with. Thank you for putting this into perspective and sharing your experience.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/24 03:08 PM
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Ah, this was the response I dreaded but needed to hear. Thank you for your insight, I think you're right. Before I finally (try) and let go, do you think there are any ways I can inspire him to stand up for himself? He admits that he feels completely disrespected by them, but can't see a way to tackle it. Thing is, he doesn't communicate his plans or let them know that he's busy, so they have no reason to believe they're being much of an inconvenience. Likewise, he always goes so he doesn't know…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/24 02:32 PM
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Yes you're right, unfortunately I think he finds it more comfortable to bend over backwards for others than figure out what would make him happiest. We did address the longterm, he thinks that once he gets a good job and we start a family, he won't have to rely on them financially and will be able to do what he wants. I pointed out that not only do I want to wait several years for this miraculous change, it's also unlikely to happen that way. He's very receptive and we're mostly on the same page…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/24 11:05 AM
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Thank you for this, you raise a good point. I have a great relationship with my family, but we're very independent so I think I have a bad habit of projecting that onto others. And I fully agree, a part of what draws me to him is his close relationship with his family. You're right, some key information I missed out was that they'll often call him home, say for dinner, expecting him to travel 4 hours within one day (if he goes and comes back) but then eat dinner without him before he reaches hom…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/24 10:09 AM
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Pearl may speak about RP content but embodies very little of it herself. For starters, she works non-stop and never shuts tfu. Whatever podcast is harder to generalise bc they have so many different guests, and it depends whose side you're on when watching it. Again, a lot of the guests talk about RP but don't fulfill the values themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 08:50 AM
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Neither of these are RP, just pure misogyny.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 07:40 AM
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Not sure how this will be taken, but Esther Perel's "Where should we begin?" is an amazing podcast for discussing and resolving couples issues. It's not RP, but she is extremely open and understanding of all relationship dynamics including traditional ones. I presume most people know her, but in case you don't, she's one of the most famous and respected couples therapists out there. I feel like I'm getting a free therapy by listening to her counselling sessions.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 07:40 AM
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Great suggestion, love reading books together. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 10:14 AM
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Thanks! I read it a while back, should probably have another flick through again
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 10:14 AM
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Thank you! I do remind him, but somehow he struggles to put himself first sometimes
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 10:13 AM
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This is great, exactly what I needed to hear, thank you. I have a habit of trying to talk him out of situations when he's complaining - need to just let him deal with the consequences of his own actions lol.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 02:12 PM
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Then this is a great time to have a serious chat about how you both, especially him, plan to finance this new step and see how he suggests to step up. Good luck :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 03:19 PM
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I think you can have a neutral conversation about this without masculinity coming up. If you're off for maternity, it's only natural the financial burden will at least temporarily fall onto him. This goes for all couples, RP or not. Does he even want kids? If he does, then having a conversation about how you're going to manage costs and raise the children is not only a natural way to bring it up, but also completely essential. If he doesn't suggest himself any long-term plans on how he expects t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 10:22 AM
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Good to know! thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 11:12 PM
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Aw they're not available in my country apparently. Thank you for the links though!
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 10:42 PM
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I can only see the podcast on there, not the audiobook. Could you send the link or direct me on how I could find them? Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 08:09 PM
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I'd recommend setting boundaries so you don't get dragged along for nothing. If he's not sure or not giving you straight answers, let him know you're looking for a committed relationship and move on. If he wants a relationship, give him the opportunity to demonstrate how the two of you can overcome this with some actionable steps. Again, if it's vague or wishy washy, move on.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 07:21 PM
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