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FDS HUMORdressedlikeadaydream/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:56 PM
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My husband would disagree wholeheartedly with that response and would likely say the equivalent is also buying flowers or another thoughtful gesture. I buy my husband flowers all the time actually, and he appreciates it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/26 04:53 PM
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So first of all this is a pretty extreme generalization of both men and women. Sure , standards absolutely matter and women shouldn’t lower their standards out of fear of being alone, and choosing a husband should be about character, leadership, emotional maturity, values, and compatibility, not surface-level traits like age. But the declaration that "women always date older men" or that younger men are automatically a better option isn’t really supported by reality. The reality is that marriage…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 07:16 PM
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im starting to think he just deep down hates women. Trust your gut, girl
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/26 09:13 PM
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The only guys who say this kind of stuff are creeps you don't want anything to do with anyway. Do not concern yourself with the opinions of losers.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/26 12:59 PM
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Yeah I'm with you. From 18 to 21 I grew 3 inches, 2 cup sizes, and lost all my baby fat. I still very much looked like a child at 18, where that was very much not the case at 25.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/26 08:21 PM
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You ignore them, and you definitely do not date them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/26 06:49 PM
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Ah yes the myth of "sexual liberation" in which progressivism sold women "freedom" but what we got instead was disposability
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/25 04:22 PM
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I really relate to this from when I was around your same age. In my early 20s i suddenly felt this huge urge to settle down. I was worried about being inexperienced and I was sick of the kinds of guys I felt I was attracting. Looking back on it now a couple of things were happening. For one, that sudden urge to settle down usually hits women before it hits men your age. Unfortunately a lot of guys in their early 20s are also figuring themselves out. It can make you feel like emotionally unavaila…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/25 06:23 PM
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First of all, congrats! You’re doing so much more than you’re giving yourself credit for imho. You’re in OCIA, you’re healing, you’re improving your health, you’re examining your lifestyle choices, and you’re becoming more intentional about the kind of woman you want to be. The fear part is normal. It means you're ready to be intentional in your pursuit. I don’t know what I’m looking for in a man. As a Catholic woman, consider what the Church teaches us about what a husband should be. A man who …
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/25 03:30 PM
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To answer your hypothetical question, anyone could do anything but I believe a good, Christian man would not leave his faithful wife over this. If anything, he takes this as an opportunity to lead with grace and by example, showing his wife the beauty of God's unconditional love. Do you pray? I don't mean with a group and only when you attend church on Sundays, I mean like in your daily life. Prayer is an incredibly powerful way to grow closer to God in a tangible way. I can feel from your words…
/r/RedPillWives28/10/25 01:33 PM
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Fully agree there
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/25 01:44 PM
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Am I understanding correctly that you're still working? Because there's nothing traditional about pulling double duty while he selectively contributes. Sounds like performative authority without the responsibility. He feels loved when we each stick to our roles and don’t ask for help, while I feel loved when we work together as a team. Unfortunately, right now you guys are doing neither. Practically, I think you have to decide if you are willing to put up with running a household with a man who …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/25 02:54 AM
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More than "somewhat" I'd say. This is a prime example of a walking red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/25 02:48 PM
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Solid advice here, and I’d add that the practical framework isn’t all that different from how you’d approach dating someone with a history of drug or alcohol addiction. Porn addiction is still addiction, and goes hand in hand with negative patterns and traits like secrecy and hedonism. That’s why boundaries are so important. Just like you wouldn’t marry an alcoholic with the hope they’ll “grow out of it" you shouldn’t ignore your own standards here either. If someone is in active addiction, the …
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/25 02:29 PM
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I get it. Even in the west, where mobility and merging across class lines is less stigmatized, assortative mating absolutely exists and for good reason. Your father understands that across the history of marriage people understood that safety was critical, and respect and "love" could be grown over time. He's not wrong, but for a multitude of reasons we now have much more of a say in our partners, so I think it's about striking a balance.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/25 06:47 PM
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Your care in vetting speaks volumes about your maturity and readiness for marriage, I love that for you. In my opinion, marrying a man you respect is more important than marrying one who simply has more money. In fact, marrying "up" in finances but "down" in values, stability, or character is a far greater risk than the reverse. Respect, consistency, long-term thinking, and emotional steadiness matter more for peace and partnership than the flashiest wedding or the fanciest vacations. That said,…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/25 03:14 PM
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For the right man, it absolutely matters. I said as much in a similar comment a while back.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/25 10:47 AM
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I cannot recommend gratitude journaling enough. It is incredibly beneficial for building emotional awareness and recilience. Doing it as a daily practice is even better and strengthens your self-control. All good things for emotional discipline, imo.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/25 04:01 PM
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I think a lot of people misunderstand the view of "hitting the wall." It's not saying women have no value after 30 — that’s a shallow, black-and-white take that insecure men push. You seem to be here over concerns about the opinions of, in your own words, "delusional men." I would advise you to shift your focus. High-value men aren't obsessing over a woman’s age. They’re looking for peace, loyalty, femininity, and a partner to build with. The way I see it, "hitting that wall" for women is about …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/25 09:58 AM
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I responded to your last post from a Catholic perspective and I'm going to do it again. You said you are Catholic and I just assumed last time but I fear I need to ask now, is your fiancé Catholic? You said you did marriage prep, but didn't specify Pre-Cana. And I'm asking now because I cannot imagine that a faithful Catholic would reject the sacrament—and the graces that come with it—over a perceived fear of you becoming less submissive. To deny the legal and sacramental union is to deny the fu…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/25 12:16 PM
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Married Catholic with a prenup here to lovingly encourage you to look at it through the lens of your faith first, and then also from a place of feminine wisdom and self-protection. As a Catholic you should already know that marrying in the Church isn’t just a formality. It’s a sacrament, a covenant before God. The graces that come with a sacramental marriage are profound, and they carry you through the hard seasons. Skipping that in favor of only a private or spiritual commitment cuts you off fr…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/25 03:17 PM
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I've said it before on this sub, but a "redpill" man is not necessarily a high value one. In my opinion, you're better off focusing on a man's qualities and his actions and avoiding anyone who is so wrapped up in an online ideology that they've made it their personality. Most of these "redpill" content creators are grifters preying on insecure young men. Nothing about that is attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 01:34 PM
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Because it all come back to insecurity
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 01:20 PM
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Same exact thing here, my husband was legitimately baffled that there was such a thing called the 'manosphere' and we had a good laugh about it
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 01:19 PM
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In this kind of a situation my mother would say "you'll never regret taking the high road." I'm also partial to the idea that living well is the best revenge. A man his age who hasn't settled down isn't nearly the catch he undoubtedly thinks he is. You're still young, leave this loser and find someone who respects you. Live that good life.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/25 01:13 AM
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The Rules - Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/25 03:31 AM
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I had a pretty long of personal preferences and while they could be somewhat fluid, I absolutely did not waiver on the foundational "faith, family, and finances" bit and I think that worked out for me in the long run. It's a cliche for a reason, imo.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 02:46 PM
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Congrats! Go get a manicure 😅
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 11:45 AM
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No, the person replying to you
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/25 03:13 PM
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You think very lowly of men if you believe that
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/25 12:55 PM
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attracted to this type of manipulation You answered your own question
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/25 12:54 PM
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Oh absolutely you're right about nursing as a career in general. In my particular example I'm thinking of women I know who mostly work at aesthetic and derma clinics and don't actually need to work. Didn't mean to imply nursing in general is a low paying job, I know plenty of well paid nurses in exactly those careers you mentioned.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/24 04:19 PM
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You do see doctors marry school teachers but what you may not realize is a lot of those teachers come from money too. I know lots of women who went out and got "average" jobs that don't pay much (teacher, nurse, personal trainer and life coach seem to be the most popular) and married wealthy husbands because they came from wealthy families and already ran in those circles where they had a lot of commonalities already. As others have pointed out, a lot of it is being with someone who just "gets" …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/24 11:37 AM
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A good read, I enjoyed it when it was originally posted to Vindicta. I've posted there a fair amount about my experience growing up wealthy this post generally rings true. One thing I see those manosphere bot accounts on X get dead wrong is this idea that women only need to care about their appearance and that men don't care about the rest. You'll see the sentiment expressed in some form of "he doesn't care about your job or your education, you just have to be young and hot" which, for wealthy a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/24 01:31 PM
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This is fair and a good point. I still think it's worth a shot.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/24 04:41 PM
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It sounds like you've turned intimacy into another chore, another thing for him to have to manage or else face your disappointed nagging. This is not dissimilar to a wife who laments that she is uninterested in sex because her husband is not pulling his weight and she is exhausted. He is tired, and he's telling you as much with the comments about disrespect and the actions of wanting to be left alone to recharge. The good news is that you recognize this and want to change. So, are you willing to…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/24 03:05 PM
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I think content around self-improvement is fine, but some of these guys who claim to promote masculinity sure seem to have a tough time with their own self-discipline. I'm not a fan of hypocrites.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 08:41 PM
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Do you want to leave? You could, you'd technically be justified, but you stayed last time so... do you want to? Look, only you can decide what you're willing to accept, but if you decide to stay you're going to need to set some clear expectations around boundaries and respect. If you choose to leave you'll need to be prepared to be cut off from your current support system. I know it's not an easy decision but ultimately it is your call to make. I am very sorry you're going through this.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 08:50 PM
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This is my take too. Threatening us with... abstinence? Excellent, I support your movement.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 03:38 PM
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Nah, she's right to be concerned and backed it with very good reasons why
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/24 12:17 PM
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Has to be, it sounds like someone badly cosplaying what they think Christians want/believe. I imagine there are a lot of bot posts following Trump's victory.
/r/RPChristians06/11/24 01:02 PM
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A good question for you both is why do you care about the high body count? You should, but for the right reasons. As others have pointed out, promiscuity goes hand-in-hand with other undesirable qualities (low self-esteem, insecurity, etc.) and so that's really what you should be working on. Coming to an understanding of the destructive reasons behind promiscuity and the benefits of chastity may be a better way to approach this. Finally, I'd caution that a "redpill man" does not equal a high val…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 01:09 PM
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I love this. A man who takes care of his woman this way will always be well taken care of himself!
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 05:48 PM
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Very interesting, thanks for the summary. Like many others yes, this rings true for my husband who was also in his late 20s and had just landed his dream job when he proposed. This also validated some thoughts I had recently on why large age-gap relationships are best avoided.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 05:45 PM
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Try asking him questions with your notes to encourage a response, like "What is your favorite memory from when we started dating? Mine is..." and see what he says. Just an idea!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/24 06:39 PM
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We have a whiteboard in our shared office where we leave each other notes. Also sometimes hiding little notes in places we will find them. Sometimes they'll go unnoticed until weeks later and it's always a nice reminder especially on days we aren't together.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/24 06:32 PM
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Because we know they wouldn't be so "willing" had someone pointed out the red flags. We are trying to warn other women about predators/insecure types, of which there's considerable overlap with older men who pursue significantly younger women. You don't have to be older to know this to be true and point it out.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/24 06:28 PM
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Embarrassing PUAs in front of their friends was was practically a sport when I lived in Miami, because those guys were everywhere. You discerned well that this guy wasn't serious. For me this would be a case where I might have shared social media but definitely wouldn't have given my number. Nice job sticking to your guns and good call on texting your friend for support.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/24 12:50 PM
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Plenty of young women, myself included, know this to be true. It always seems to be the creeps who want to make us believe that it's some "bitter older women" thing though. I've always seen that rhetoric as an immediate red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 03:10 PM
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I am glad the exercise of writing this out was therapeutic for you. I think your husband is right, I think you get anxious irrationally. I mean this gently, because the great news is that this is solvable. Take a deep breath, and get used to doing it because it's a great coping mechanism. This situation resonates with me, I too like to take on the role of "default parent" but my husband is also very very patient which makes him an excellent parent. He also works a very demanding job which I try …
/r/RedPillWives21/10/24 07:57 PM
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Personally I see several red flags with this relationship but you asked for advice not criticism so I'll leave it at that. I think the recommendation of additional vetting via male relatives is a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/24 03:19 PM
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I would imagine that my A list is similar to most others here, which would be things that are objectively feminine: I keep my hair long, wear stylish feminine clothes, am well groomed and just generally care about my appearance. The B list is more interesting imo and for me I would definitely put on that list: my ability to carry a conversation well and with anyone, having valuable and demonstrable hobbies/talents, and of course going back to the femininity aspect, my deep desire to do tradition…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/24 12:56 PM
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I love this, especially the reference to the Magnificat. I think you are spot on.
/r/RPChristians25/09/24 12:38 PM
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Before making the jump to medication, have you considered cognitive behavioral therapy?
/r/RedPillWives25/09/24 12:27 PM
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I second this! One of the best things I learned from going through rush every year with my sorority was how to talk to people and hold a conversation. My first year on the other side our recruitment chair told us to remember that people love to talk about themselves and it's some of the best advice I've ever received. I think you're spot on with the asking open ended questions and definitely amping emotion. Coming across as genuinely interested and entertained by what someone is saying does wond…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/24 11:57 AM
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Good post. I think it's so important for people to realize porn addiction is not different from other addictions, and just like dealing with any addict you need to set boundaries not ultimatums. Boundaries are about your actions whereas ultimatums are about theirs and since you can only control one of those, ultimatums rarely work out. I also 100% agree with /u/VulgarDisrespect that this should absolutely be part of the vetting process. Just like with any addictive behavior, this is best weeded …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/24 03:34 PM
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Nothing wrong with a career, imho. I am (was) in the same boat. Very lucrative career, high earner, workaholic. It was one of the top things that drew my husband to me, and he is the traditional, provider type. I always knew I would dial back my career after marriage and so I am glad that I was so ambitious early, it gave me the stability and flexibility in my career to do exactly that. I went the independent consulting route and while my husband is far and away the breadwinner, I do more than f…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 05:05 PM
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I relate to this sm because I'm the same way. My biggest con with this was while I was single because it seemed to be the cause of men getting very into me very quickly. Just as you were saying, any date I'd go on would seem to "go well" even if the guy was a wet rag because I'm good at carrying conversation but then when I'd break it off they'd end up confused thinking that I was really into it when, sorry no I can just get along with anyone lol.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 12:11 PM
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I know you probably don't want to hear this rn but how lucky for you that they showed their true colors and that you recognized the flags so you can move on sooner than later. I know this is frustrating but don't give up, your discernment will pay off in the end.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 12:09 PM
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I would never put myself in a state of mortal sin for the sake of "submission" and you should also not look at these as "choices" that you have to make. I think you two need a come-to-Jesus meeting (pun intended) to discuss this. I recommend opening it up prayerfully and gently. Your husband may be struggling with making the right choices and needs to be reminded of his faith and commitment to God and what that means to his family. It is the exact situation in which being a helpmeet is so powerf…
/r/RPChristians23/08/24 10:21 AM
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I am so happy you're doing better and very sorry for your loss 🙏
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 11:03 AM
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I second this. Also, can his mom help? My mom and MIL basically planned my entire wedding because I wasn't all that interested and they were really into it. It was actually a great bonding experience.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/24 04:07 PM
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I think there are a lot of men who lurk here who don't understand that our game is different from theirs, and they don't like that. Oh well, up/downvotes are literally meaningless so it doesn't bother me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 07:59 PM
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This is my answer too. It stuck out to me that OP is having to "explain" this to men on dates. I think it's pretty easy to tell when a man has these qualities or not and you can ask the right questions early on to sus this out. I agree with you about the subjects around goals and future motherhood. I would not expend energy on someone you would need to explain this concept to. I also disagree with that other comment that you should try to "inspire" men to be this way either, again a waste of you…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 11:13 AM
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I have to ask, why do you want to change this? Imo nothing about speaking clearly and with confidence is antithetical to being feminine, that's just speaking. I think you may be trying to put gendered labels on methods of articulating which really is not really a thing. What kind of situation do you feel you'd be bested by using more feminine language?
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 06:27 PM
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I have a lot of friends and family in the medical field so I know there aren't a ton of "social events" but that there definitely are opportunities to meet and mingle with other med professionals which honestly I think you have a huge advantage here that you should be leveraging. There will always be men who want to pursue non-serious relationships. This is just the reality. You have to realize that and then use that information to sus out the "right" men in your circles. You have the advantage …
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 08:26 PM
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It sounds like you've been incredibly successful in your professional life, congratulations! How about your social and dating life? Do you make it a point to spend your social time around people where you'd find an ideal partner? You say you're practicing, so out of residency? Good time to use that income bump to looksmax in my opinion. Have you tried networking events? With your career I imagine there are lots of opportunities to meet people in a similar bracket which would be ideal.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 08:07 PM
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I'm with you. I think a major thing people are missing here is that the whole internet is not Harrison Butker's audience for this speech. He is a Catholic, giving the commencement speech at a Catholic university. Many of the women in that audience are proud graduates who will absolutely CHOOSE to stay home and raise their family, and are excited for that. That's all he said. And it's interesting to me, that all the people who claim to be feminists online and "support a woman's choice to stay hom…
/r/RedPillWives22/05/24 01:43 PM
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My vote is for #2
/r/RedPillWives15/05/24 02:30 PM
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Does he open doors for you? Walk you to your car door? Subtly guide you places at the touch of your waist? Check you in at restaurants, hotels? These are just some examples that come to mind for me but what they all have in common is a man tactfully taking the lead. This is a pretty good indicator to me that isn't explicitly PDA.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/24 11:06 AM
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I hate to go that route because I firmly believe that if you have the personality for it you can have a great conversation with anyone, but honestly it did jump out at me how difficult this seems to be for both of them. I had a relationship like that once and it was painful, to say the least. We typically only saw each other on weekends and I can remember when we'd finally get together I'd be honestly flabbergasted by how little we would talk, and I'm a big talker. In the end we just weren't com…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 07:28 PM
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Yeah that's fair, although I would disagree that nothing beats them. For me nothing beats a good workout. But that's very specific to me, I totally get that everyone has their own way of decompressing.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 11:17 PM
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I was going to say something similar. My husband has a very high stress job and it's immediately obvious when he's going through it more than usual because he detaches like this. It's a stress coping mechanism. What we've found works is making sure that we both have time to engage in hobbies that are more fulfilling than the mindless time sucks of social media or TV. We quite literally schedule these time blocks in, and then that ensures the rest of our free time is available for each other. Rec…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 01:32 PM
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Sounds like you're already doing a great job. When my husband is working at home I like to start the day by making him his espresso the way he likes and discuss his schedule so I can coordinate when meals will be served and when he will want snacks and more coffee throughout the day. I also like to make sure the environment he is working in is calm and clean so light housekeeping and a small touch I also enjoy myself is having fresh flowers around.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 06:40 PM
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Reminds me of something Jordan Peterson says about the maternal parent provides safety and the paternal provides encouragement. Children need both.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/24 05:01 PM
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Way too much baggage. Hard no from me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 08:14 PM
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I'm so sorry this happened to you. This man is a predator and a shitty husband to boot. It's not too late to report this and I'd encourage it especially if he still works with children.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 02:35 PM
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Have you listened to any Laura Doyle? The Empowered Wife podcast is quite good. https://lauradoyle.org/marriage-relationship-coaching/
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 03:36 PM
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Just a tip that if a man has to call himself alpha, he isn't
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 04:32 PM
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It's strange to me too, and we signed a prenup. Other than what's outlined in it, our finances are entirely combined. We are very traditional though, seems to me to be a more modern thing to keep them separate.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 10:52 AM
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This! I'd add that next time he's planning a trip, be more vocal about your expectations, like requesting he line up a babysitter that will help out while he's gone. Communication early and often is key, not keeping quiet and then ending up resentful at the eleventh hour.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/23 02:30 AM
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I'm curious, are there specific denominations where it seems to be more common in your experience?
/r/RedPillWives23/01/22 07:52 AM
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Yeah this really will depend on the church imo. I'd steer toward more trad churches and avoid the new age non-denom ones. Otherwise I feel this is a solid suggestion of where to start.
/r/RedPillWives23/01/22 07:19 AM
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No, not really. Of all of them bumble was the best I found because women message first so it helped to cut down on the insane amount of messages you get otherwise but at the end of the day unless you are in an area that has an influx of the type of men you're looking for, which for me were conservative, religious, husband material, you're not going to find much. I second the suggestions of volunteering, and would throw in church events as another option if you are religious.
/r/RedPillWives06/01/22 03:30 PM
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Just stopping by to say, good for you! I love seeing posts like these and it gives me hope for people around our age.
/r/RPChristians06/04/21 06:00 PM
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The tl;dr of this post is that both men and women have lowered their standards due to worldly (secular) pressure. For one I totally agree with everything you've said here.
/r/RPChristians09/01/21 12:35 AM
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So when I first opened this reply I had a "ain't nobody got time for that" moment and closed it and moved on, but now I'm sitting in a waiting room bored and my optometrist is always running behind so I have plenty of time to read it now. I'm glad I did, because I'm mad impressed and honestly flattered that you took the time to read my entire five year post history. I mean seriously, if I had that kind of time to burn I could go back to grad school. Anyway, you're completely right about the insa…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/11/20 06:55 PM
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Well sure but at the end of the day I don't understand why someone else's in/ability to change their appearance has anything to do with other people's preferences. I'm not attracted to short people or people of certain races, none of which can be controlled. I fail to see the issue tbh.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/20 02:00 AM
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I stumbled on this post from elsewhere so I apologize in advance if this seems naive but I actually think posting what you're saying in a dating app bio would be fine. It would only upset people you're not trying to attract in the first place so who cares. At the same time, I'm confused then why so many here readily admit they aren't attracted to fat people but are ragingly upset at others not being attracted to short people. I have a height requirement in my dating profile and get tons of hate …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/11/20 12:56 AM
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It's a fantasy. Those of us who have been teenagers remember how repulsed we were by older men. They just ignore it. I have older family friends who have asked me out and then been shocked when I turn them down because "you always seemed like you liked me" which is them misconstruing me being nice for wanting to date them. Old men are weird like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:31 PM
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If that well known tech company is any of the FAANG companies and he was only bringing home 6.5k then he's probably a garbage software engineer anyway. Nothing of value was lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:27 PM
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This isn't the exact point of the post but goes along with what you're saying: don't ever willingly incur a man's debt. Usually this is through marriage (aka don't marry a man with more debt than you) but even in a unmarried relationship. I have a friend who is paying off her boyfriend's credit cards rn and I keep trying to explain to her why this is so stupid. It is not worth it. Ideally, avoid men with excessive debt in the first place, and never ever allow yourself to go into debt for anyone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 08:46 PM
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Literally every dude in Miami with a car loan higher than their salary and rent that's half their take home pay right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:28 PM
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We're living in this scrote's head rent free
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:34 PM
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Lol bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:11 PM
15

Seriously those subs are ridic. Often when a guy posts I'll open it and think, easily 2, but all the comments are telling these well below average dudes they're 9s, the delusion is so real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:57 PM
3

Lmfao I just saw this on insta and immediately thought of this sub 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:01 PM
86

This whole site is pretty skewed against women and supportive of toxic men. I had been noticing this trend and just today I had commented about how it feels like every time I get hit on at airports the person is married. The comment got some significant attention so I took a screenshot at around 400 upvotes then edited it and changed only one word: "person" to "guy" just to see what would happen. Unsurprisingly that comment has been getting steadily downvoted since. It's like they don't even try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:54 PM
5

THANK YOU So much truth here and I am so glad someone finally said it this succinctly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 05:33 AM
13

This makes me legitimately ill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:04 PM
2

And the there's the "unpopular" opinion sub that's falling over themselves to defend it. Shocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:38 PM
70

Ha nice. I've met men who smugly like to tell me they'd for sure have a prenup if/when they got married, then get highly offended when I would require the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:54 PM
1

Absolutely love this! Nothing cuter than a man who is proud of his family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:17 PM
1

Funny when the ones with the "highest" expectations can't even come up with a single thing to offer in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:27 PM
22

Sounds like he was being intentionally dense and you dodged a bullet. Good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:58 PM
1

The truest thing I've read in a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:44 PM
34

Y'all would be surprised (read: not at all) at the attitude so-called "progressive" men in "tech" have regarding their expectations of their wives/girlfriends, but it's super interesting if you get into the industry how many of these men are in IT vs actual tech professionals with advancement opportunities ans real influence. It's actually a common joke on the Blind app, (anonymous app for tech professionals particularly those in FAANG) that those who make entitled comments about getting laid/da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:33 AM
5

I used to post in that sub a lot before I found this one. I never got any good advice from my posts and got more obnoxious DMs than anything. According to them, dating is easy for women. Thanks for the advice fellas, super helpful 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:12 PM
56

For some reason this reminds me of a story. I was walking home from getting coffee, cutting through the park and I see this group of boys (they were adults but you know the kind) doing something similar to what you're talking about. I see the leader of this group notice me and do that nudging thing to all his friends so I KNOW he's about to approach me (this isn't my first rodeo in this same park). He walks up with all the usual catcalls, asking where I'm headed, can he buy me a drink? I'm usual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:59 PM
147

This right here. If a man even hesitates to spend a measly $10 (on toiletries no less) then DROP HIM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:48 PM
9

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:19 PM
19

Yes thank you! I am glad I'm not alone here. Like I work out for a reason, I expect the same. What is it about men over 30 and "dad bod" being acceptable even (especially!) if you don't have kids!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 07:04 PM
22

So I'm new to this sub, just started lurking, but wow this resonated with me. Just this morning I received a message on meetup from some guy asking what I'm looking for in a man. From his profile he is a divorced, overweight, OLD man. So I responded honestly that I'm looking for someone my age (in their 20s), who share my religious beliefs, and are athletic like me. He replied asking if 45 was ok 🙄 as if he met the other criteria I mentioned. I asked why he would think someone in their 20s would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:02 PM
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