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FDS RESCUE MISSIONdrunkenwithlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:13 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONdrunkenwithlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:05 PM
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Im sorry I was not there to punch them and protect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:55 AM
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So basically, I'm gonna move there. 😌🤞🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:54 AM
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Too true. Look at the fits they have about women only gyms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:43 AM
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Good news everybody, rape is over. You can all go home now since prostitutes exist. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:54 AM
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Oh hell, can you IMAGINE a women only pool!?? A place I can go to not get gawked at, photographed, hit on... Or assaulted? Sign me tf up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:39 AM
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I may have, but I got banned from the sub for being associated with FDS. RIP me! She was very brainwashed and it was sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:25 AM
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That's beyond disturbing. I've been told to "chill" all day today because I had the audacity to suggest a man's porn addiction was causing him to avoid sleeping with his wife. I lived through that myself but hey what do i know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:24 AM
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Omg. Did you see the one about my husband only wants an-l with me? Commenters were straight up pointing out that she's being r-ped and she's defending him. Hooooo boy. That's enough reddit for one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:25 PM
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Oh man, I would've been to the courts yesterday if that were how much!! And right!? It was her firstborn too. I feel for her, really. He is her problem now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:39 PM
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I believe in my state ~$400 😔 It's definitely on my priority list and the people around me support me, so I suppose that's all I could ask for! Will be hard explaining it to kids anyway. My son's LVM dad just named his newborn a name that was on our short list that I didn't care for. I wonder if the mom got a say in the name at all, I am hoping she did...oh, and it's very similar to his own name. Who knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:26 PM
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I'd like to change mine too. I heard it's complicated and costly for us Americans. My name was picked out of the phonebook by my NVM sperm donor. Why the fuck should the lowest value person in my life get to pick my name?! It should be easier. Congratulations and I love that name. Once Upon A Time made me love it more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:30 AM
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I've had trouble getting through the depths of my dark past. Here's what my therapist told me, and I think her words extremely helped. It was something to the effect of... stop trying to understand why it happened to you. Accept that it happened. And sometimes there is no reason why, or it's a perfectly shitty reason. Understanding why it happened won't heal you. Understanding that it did and you didn't deserve that, does. You probably experience trauma and flashbacks because you're traumatized.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:28 AM
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That's an excellent way to dissect this trope. We can reframe forgiveness of others to acceptance of ourselves that we made a mistake in our judgment of trust. We don't have to live in the past or let it define us, but like hell I will ever forgive men who have assaulted me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:35 PM
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Oh hell no! No, no, no. Forgiving a human, who understands morals and righteousness, who had every opportunity to Not Do The Shitty Thing, is inconceivable and unnecessary! It has potential for ruining your own growth. Were you vocal about it being complete nonsense? What's their bullshit reasoning, "can't invite love into your heart while holding onto hate?" The hell I can't. I love my fuckin self. That is more important than scrote forgiveness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:31 PM
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I hate it because if I'm not forgiving I'm a cold-hearted bitch that holds grudges. I dont have any siblings. I stand up for myself. Forgiveness isn't given, it's earned. Besides, the opposite has always been true for me. The madder I was, the better I learned my lesson. Fool me twice shame on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:26 PM
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Ooh yes! Asparagus, raw carrots, bell peppers...well, almost any kind of pepper really! Celery, broccoli, spinach, and sweet potatoes for me!! I lucked out, my man likes as many veggies as I do, and eats them all the time with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:46 PM
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Oh shit, that makes perfect sense actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:18 PM
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No but his mom said it to me one time, three months into us dating because he messed up with me. I stayed for like two years 🤡 Lesson eternally learned...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:13 PM
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Ooh, another one- doesn't avoid underwear completely because his jeans are too tight. Mf asscrack was always peeking out. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:00 PM
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I have dated two separate men like these and they were awful. Anger management poster child car guy and BMW driving narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:58 PM
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Oh the long hair one is a good one. If I look at a man's nails and one of them is too long or they're all broken up it can be very telling. Also if the nails are so short their fingers look like vienna sausages. I feel like this gives away nail biting. My NVX would relax on the couch, arm over his head with his hand resting around his face to gnaw his nails off. He affectionately referred to this as the dad stance. I understand nail biting because I have complications from ocd, but biting your n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:56 PM
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Or Lips of an Angel 🤮 you know they're daydreaming about an ex when they hear that song
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:50 PM
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Kyles are the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:49 PM
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The name I avoid is Jeff lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:46 PM
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The way the show treats Meg, a literal child, always bothered me for some reason, I get it that it's a cartoon but I just don't find child abuse funny I guess..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:43 PM
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This. This is exactly what I was gonna say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:25 PM
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I couldn't even get past the second image. This is sick and disturbing. Anyone who thinks that's funny is legitimately depraved. I understand reddit has a general sense of perverse humor but this is taking it too far. Sick people indeed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 07:47 AM
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Ngl I want an excuse to don the parasol. Maybe get me some dainty black gloves while I'm at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 07:40 AM
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I also have no idea but this made me think of a thread where undercover agents have had full on lives/families with women on the side of their job and never disclosed it to anyone and just get away with it & are free to ruin peoples' lives because tHe jOb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:34 AM
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OMG I'VE HEARD THAT TOO! Or the "so you're just using me then?" Like.... I thought we were friends with benefits? Are..we not.. both doing that? 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:37 AM
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Oh! I have also had FWB try to convince me I had feelings for them, when I've explained I do not. Casual means casual. That foggy oxytocin afterglow isn't a formal invitation for a romantic arrangement. Even when they admitted feelings and I denied it being mutual, I was still gaslighted by closing arguments because they couldn't wrap their head around me not falling over myself for them. How dare you not like me back!? Thanks for reminding me of how ridiculously fragile men are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:10 PM
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I hate it. The only time I had a FWB he treated me like his girlfriend. It's mental gymnastic commitophobia to not call me that. That was a long time ago btw, and he ended up blocked. Because he couldn't make a decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:02 PM
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Idk why but this is such a pet peeve of mine. There is literally NO good excuse to not having your real age on your profile. No young hot woman is gonna message you, your hairline gives you away 💩 I skipped niceties whenever men did this. I go straight to "why is your age xyz" then block them that way they know what they did. I had a man contact me once even though his preferences were below how old I was. So I'm like why are you messaging me even though your preferences say nobody over 25? He l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:27 AM
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I do try to put myself in their shoes. But I still don't get the passive aggressive tongue wagging just because the flair says pickmeisha. If I get labeled as a pickme I would probably think it's a good thing bc FDS has every right to high standards. I need to hold myself to them; my fellow queens need to hold me to them— that way the same is done for any man in my life. It's positive influence all around. The women who mod this subreddit are literal goddesses! I don't think I could do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:13 AM
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Me too! We are here now and that is important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:09 AM
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Maybe you didn't have a flair yet, that's just to protect the community
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:36 AM
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I see women negatively reacting to a flair that they don't like, I can only imagine how they are when they get banned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:35 AM
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Ooh I'm glad you asked! LVW get the honest truth because their actions were intolerable and given that we were friends at one time, I feel the honesty can possibly help one get better. I had a woman ask me to come pick her up in the middle of the night, leaving my toddler at home alone. Then call me selfish for not doing it. This was years ago but it was something along the lines of "I really don't deserve the astronomical expectations you have of me, I don't wish to hear from you again. Take ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:23 PM
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I have never regretted blocking someone. It's usually when I feel I've exhausted every avenue of making the friendship or relationship work. But the first time I did it, the relief was intoxicating. I blocked so many LV friends after that. Thinking back on it I kind of giggle, how ridiculous I was to be vulnerable in front of them. How foolish to bare my soul. No more of that. I'm done giving little pieces of me away to everyone til there's nothing left I'm in the tribe of "oh, yeah, I blocked y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:23 AM
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Motorcycles here. Always men. Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:38 AM
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I hate that so much. Like, could they have any less of a concern for others?!? I speak up when this shit happens. I'd rather take my chances walking thanks. If they have nothing else they sure do have the audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:37 AM
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I don't have road rage but I have a nasty habit of uttering swears under my breath when someone's driving like a dick, because I have children in the car it makes me super nervous.. but therein lies why I gotta stop muttering swears 😅 I'm reading a book right now that says "let them have their accident somewhere else" any time someone cuts you off or makes u mad. Your priority is your own safety, so, get away from that person and let them have their accident somewhere else! 🌈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:35 AM
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Omg this is so important. Back in my teen years I dated a guy who seemed HV, even taught me how to drive stick. Had it all together, the works. Then he casually mentioned one day that he got so enraged at a person's driving that he followed them to their house and parked outside for a few minutes. I swear I narrowly escaped death dating that man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:31 AM
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Anyone here listening to Marina? HVW Queen shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:02 PM
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I cant remember my old username and it breaks my heart! Simpler times, yall...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:53 PM
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Me too! Her laugh is contagious. Chaotic good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:57 PM
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Girl I gave up on sexy undies SOOOO long ago. I was sick of feeling weird down there, here I find out even the comfy, mildly butt ugly VS panties I had were made from inexcusable synthetic fabrics. That shit should be made from cotton, PERIODT. I resigned to a couple of packages of Fruit of the loom hipsters and have never looked back. Comfortable and healthy is the sexiest panties. Doesn't matter the size. Butt floss into the Trash 🗑🚮 Bonus that my man loves them but I don't give a shit if he d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:27 AM
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Omg, same! What people(men) don't make the connection about is that even Gwyneth Paltrow in a fat suit is still society's conventional beauty standards. What about us women who look like bridge trolls? Don't we deserve to be loved too..? Here this movie was supposed to be teaching us about inner beauty, but they still used a tiny supermodel-gorgeous actress because you still have to be pretty to have worth. And the film had the audacity to put childhood burn victims into it. RIP the shit I enjoy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:21 AM
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I never liked her to begin with because her music doesn't resonate with me. What grossed me out this week is Ryan Seacrest's 46 year old ass dating a woman half of his age, and of course she's a swimsuit model and influencer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:51 PM
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I don’t even want to get married, but from now on, to unlock God Tier Girlfriend out of me he’s going to need to give me everything: his friends, his family, access to his bank accounts, and a fat-ass wedding ring. Until then, he gets Girlfriend Lite™️. Omg this is one of the best things I've ever read. You deserve it!!!! I lost my whole friend group when I separated with my kid's dad, which was devastating since we all graduated together and were friends beforehand but because they are men and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:03 AM
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Porn sick limp dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:17 AM
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There's an extremely heartbreaking post up from there now that I'm just.. smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:09 AM
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This is a good thing. We are consumers, and we're done consuming brainwashing, porn inspired, male gaze attracting bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:58 AM
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To add onto that, I've always gotten the sneering "you're young, eating like that will catch up to you when you're my age" if i had the audacity to have a single dessert or drink for myself Bitch who tf asked you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:49 AM
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FDS women should be producing movies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:47 AM
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carefully, she's a hero...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:11 AM
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This, so much this. I got a promise ring from my LVM BD. I still don't know what to do with it. It probably isn't a real diamond anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:30 PM
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I was sitting here trying to pronounce Brittani different ways wondering why I wasn't getting it. Thanks for pointing it out. I was suspicious that she noticed her napping at all -- a man wouldn't have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:08 AM
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That's disturbing 😔 Thanks for sharing. I'm guessing that's too much power for a single person. It goes right to their heads..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:54 AM
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Holy crap this gave me chills. Post-pickmeisha days I was assaulted by a guy in school for engineering. This post is accurate. I also wanna nominate EMS. (No offense to any heros here. I have met...a LOT...of narcissists in the field. And some downright sick bastards.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:29 AM
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Hvm doctor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:20 AM
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It honestly sounds like he has ground her identity and self esteem to bits. Abuse will do that to a person. She's trying to apologize to her sister. She should let her have the first look at the divorce papers. Maybe grab her some Starbucks while she's at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:50 AM
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At least we're all alone in this together. It's not preferable, but it's a beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:39 PM
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Birthdays! Turning 40, turning 50, etc. Getting promotions! (OP if I was your friend I totally would've come) and bonus holiday parties(I've always wanted to have a Halloween party). You could also celebrate dumping a man #HesNotTheOne2021 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:29 PM
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That is maddening. Did this chucklehead really think you'd say OMG YES!? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:49 PM
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He wants her to be interesting and good at conversation while he has the personality of an uncooked spaghetti noodle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:10 PM
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This is SO disturbing, I am so sorry that you were subjected to that nonsense. As if you're little more than an object being displayed for purchase!? You're a person!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:58 PM
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Holy crap, that is horror movie material! I'm appalled at how he tried to play every sympathy card to you to get you to accept his new apprenticeship as a manbaby. He didn't have much but he sure did have the audacity. Ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:43 AM
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If I have to floss when I go down on him, so should he. /s but still!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:38 AM
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It's telling by the way a lot of detail and effort was put into the kid's toys vs how much effort was put into the woman's leg breaking posture. I get that everybody has a style but, as a fellow artist, ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:04 PM
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I had to go look this up because I hadn't heard about it. Demi needs therapy like yesterday. Bigg Chill is woman owned so I hope they made it out of her privilege ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:32 PM
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Thank you for your kind words Queen. I hope I can get there to that level. Sadly I do have a small circle of trusted supporters, and I'm still so affixed to the flaws of my hairy body (I'm Italian, so it's very dark and thick) Makeup tho? Pshhhh. I'm already covered in tattoos. It's like a temporary tattoo to me, and I feel zero pressure to wear it. Unlike shaving...and I have stepdaughters that look up to me, so I have to reverse this indoctrination carefully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:53 PM
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I find it multitudes harder to leave the house without shaving than without makeup. My societal pressure in the conditioning of "hair = unhygienic" runs SO deep and I beat myself up about feeling like a servant to it often. It doesn't matter that I know the reasons behind society's embrace to shaving. It doesn't matter that it destroys my skin painfully. It doesn't matter that razors are $20 a month. I'm so fully brainwashed by the razor companies that I fight, I struggle, I resist, but ultimate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:38 PM
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I would actually go to the gym if we had one of these... not kidding, I'm 5', around 100lbs. Going alone to a male dominated space bothers me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:59 AM
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Bed crumbs 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:57 AM
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Love it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:56 AM
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Vetting. Never stop Vetting. I'm not just a wife who bagged a HVM, I'm a woman who survived very traumatic experiences with very disgusting NVMs beginning with my sperm donor. I'm processing and healing with the help of my fellow queens. I used to get hung up on closure in my pickme days. My therapist told me that a lot of people don't heal if they don't understand why they went through their pain and the point is that sometimes you don't get to really understand why. Sometimes life is just shit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:51 AM
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I've screenshotted this too. Basically this whole thread. I have daughters... they're going to learn about all of this very soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:36 PM
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That ain't the flex you think it is sis 🤪 Also interesting how every tweet is about oral, what is the fixation? And the engagement ring thing? Yikes. That's exactly what FDS doesn't tolerate but go off I guess, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:11 PM
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Omg this is an INCREDIBLE watch. I have seen nearly all of the American movies and had a love/hate relationship because while they're classics, They All Gave Me The Ick and I couldn't pinpoint why. Stunning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:16 AM
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That pickme is in for a rude awakening when all her male fRiEnDs catch feelings for her and dump her like a turd when she doesn't reciprocate further. (Or worse.) Are they really your friends, Becky? Really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:22 AM
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My reddit app got yeeted because it's garbage but here's a great FDS post about this topic, https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/itcn3t/if_a_guy_vehemently_hates_cats_run/ I'm sure there's more but this is the only one I could dig up! I feel like we had some great discourse on this here in the sub relatively recently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:17 PM
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I'd venture a guess as to that same naivete and innocence these males are pursuing is more damning to a woman's intellect and stature. I'd be interesting in hearing others' thoughts on this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:13 PM
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This is so terrifying. I can't even imagine having to live near this person. I'm just super glad you are OK. Dude sounds like a ticking time bomb. I've also been on the other end of this. I'm "not like the other girls" yet "a bitch like all the rest of them". Which is it, scrotes? I can't be both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:07 PM
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Or "clothes and accessories" 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:12 AM
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Love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:08 AM
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Holy crap, I'm 30 something years old and I never understood how to articulate this until now. Wow, mind blown. Thank you. I think I mentioned something about it before but before I came out about being bi, men used to ask me top 5 female celebrities you'd date or whatever. And I thought he would follow up with his top 5 male celebrities, so I joined in. Nope. Masculinity too fragile, instructions unclear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:11 PM
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I literally don't know which is worse, help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:01 PM
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I thought it was Sherlock lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:47 PM
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Underrated comment, thank you for your insight into this content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:46 PM
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That's disgusting! 😔 How deep will their depravity go!?! Rape is never a fucking punchline. I'm terribly disturbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:02 PM
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That's 100% true. I used to avoid looking at the TV when this shit would be shown. Now I just turn whatever it is off and watch something else. Softcore porn in films isn't worth my attention. It's sad that it took that guy's disavowed (I'm assuming?)addiction to look at media in a more objective way, but it's a conversation we need to all be having and I'm thankful. And on that topic, kissing someone in the middle of her speaking isn't fucking cute, it's a gross trope that needs to die painfull…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:40 AM
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Same. Horror movies are almost as bad IMHO. That last part you said is super important and I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:55 PM
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Welcome!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:02 PM
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OMG and you know what? Your comment made me think of something. I thought I didn't like comedy genre movies. Turns out I just dont like the rampant misogyny and sex! 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:01 PM
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🤢 this is so fucking weird and gross, I must not be funny since i don't get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:03 PM
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A lot of good potential probably gets wasted in comedy clubs because their industry is so narrow and male dominated. I think about this so often. It's also not exactly a safe scene for women, and we have so many hilarious ladies here that'd be great comedians. One of the few reasons I survived so many horrible times in my life is because I appreciated them with some dark humor. I wonder how many feel the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:02 PM
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An acceptable response to this is "good, you should know" or "that's why I told you!" But a boy will say "well, youre not that attractive" when you don't say it back to him 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:40 AM
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When they broadcasted this shit to me I felt the exact same way. And then I promptly reported it for being offensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:39 PM
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That's exactly what I meant! Morgana deserved better BuT you're right about the end part there. 💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:17 PM
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Hahah I loved that show. I don't really like what they did to the female characters but it definitely isn't as bad as Supernatural.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:31 PM
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This! I never realized just how lucky I am to get one of the good ones since he often appreciates and cracks up at my jokes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:08 PM
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I wish for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:16 AM
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Turns out he's human 😅 Your story made me smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:51 AM
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You have a strong stomach, thanks for sharing. There's an incredible amount of good information in this post, and thank you OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:35 AM
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Omg, this was amazing. Do you have a blog? I would read religiously!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:28 AM
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He is probably going to end up dead if something doesn't change. Well since you already fucked up by marrying him, I hope you at least got a hefty life insurance policy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:00 PM
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Idk if I could watch it if the man ends up happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:54 PM
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Lol HELL no! My man and I are still leveling up financially and he still bought me a huge beautiful ring because he knows I deserve it. The comments were just infuriatingly stupid so I skipped reading them after I saw that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:53 PM
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I'm 5'1 and I dated that 6'5" guy 😂 I had to pick him up and didnt think much of it but I'm pretty sure he lost his license or something 🥲 Even the TaLl gUyS are useless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:55 PM
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The person who responded "give him a week" was probably him. The newest COD is free to play this week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 09:18 PM
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OMG YES!! I didn't have a dad so my mom's pickmeisha ways are all I ever knew, well into my sad destructive adulthood 😭 ▪︎ only dates men from the bar because where else can she meet men? ▪︎ caretakes shitty abusive men who live in her house and pay nothing because she's lonely ▪︎ chooses men over her only child frequently ▪︎ never made it to a choir show because WORK but would come home from the bar later on. (I guess she taught me priorities!) ▪︎ got used and abused by men, I was 6 when I firs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:35 PM
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You're going to be the love of someone's life now -- YOURS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:17 PM
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She could be our mascot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:24 AM
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This is so wholesome I got chills! Love those furbabies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:24 AM
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Wow. Just... I'm speechless. This whole video makes sense. I feel like I've been ADD since I left my NVX. Feels like my brain just doesn't work right anymore. The last part hits the hardest. That explains everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:28 PM
9

I bet he is alienating her from her friends to further drive a wedge between her and rationality. It sounds like her best friend was already weirded out. These master manipulators are good at what they do. Oh and the "mature for my age 🤡" shit is tired. Give it up little one, you ain't convincing nobody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:22 PM
6

It is said to be """empowering""" LOL where!? I'm disgusted and disturbed! I couldn't watch the tiktoks, just no on so many levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:18 PM
9

This is so sadly true. I was in my late 20s when one day I was like *wait a minute... * All that abuse comes flooding back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:14 PM
11

OMG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:12 PM
9

I didnt. I realize now I probably should have asked her permission to post her story 😔 I'm still learning reddiquette and yes she so absolutely deserves to hear about FDS. She is already a HVW!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:16 AM
8

Yes! I do a little bit of baking soda and a small amount of dish soap but I too am having trouble with the rusty water stains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:49 PM
26

I would have appreciated this so much 😭 I only dust weekly because I can't find the time between 3 kids and 4 pets but I'm doing my best! This video made me physically ill, one single grown man can't even clean up after himself sis wyd!?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:46 PM
19

That's some badwomensanatomy shit and also I cringed 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:43 PM
28

I'm probably the worst at articulating on this entire subreddit but I wanted to point you in the direction of the handbook because it answers this question to an extent. FDS also discourages living with a man out of wedlock because woman deserve control of their own clean space which they won't get while paying a grown man's bills. To answer your question personally, I didn't care for marriage and I was anti-marriage for many years but that may be because sexual trauma resulted in me being anti-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:35 PM
27

These are very good points you made and valid concerns that the other commenter brought up. What I will say on the matter is, in my experience, after 3 years I usually knew what I was getting into. Unfortunately it did not take 3 years for the LVM to reveal themselves and I was a fool for thinking I could stay. On average, 6 months to 1 year their audacity crowned. 3 months in one case! (Luckily my relationships subsequently grew shorter and shorter as I learned my lesson on this.) I think 3 yea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:27 PM
50

This was a green flag for me too! I'm happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:19 PM
42

This is so ridiculous, period blood is way less gross than the smegma he probably has chafing around his dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:08 AM
10

It really is, in a sad cringe kind of way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:04 AM
14

I got the ick just reading the post itself but this was eye opening for sure. You nailed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:03 AM
38

She seems really mature and self aware for her age. So sad her time was wasted on these scrotes and superficial friends. Edit: unnecessary word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:57 PM
130

He still gets to keep all the gifts she got him! Cause unlike shitty men, we don't ask for gifts back..or present a receipt 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:04 PM
134

Right!? I just wanted to reach out to her and be like, you're coming with us lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:02 PM
71

Outside is cleaner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:55 PM
176

How does a shower get that dirty? There's really only one explanation... shower shitter. I hope it isn't a thing, but I'm guessing it is a thing 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:54 PM
180

It was "good enough"???? 🤢 It's a yikes from me fam. I love the last commenter, she nailed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:40 PM
40

I feel seen! My NVM sperm donor left when I was 2 and I stumbled through life into my teens wondering why he didn't want me. Now I'm in my 30s and it's like... who cares? He wants a relationship with me now but boohoo. I'm awesome, he missed out, level up, end of story. That chapter never even existed. Also what is it with men caring when they become grandparents but not when they're parents?? Smh.. I should really print out your post and carry it with me. I didn't hurt all those years for nothi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:37 PM
134

Omg queen 😭 I could listen to her forever. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:30 PM
19

I had a very wonderful therapist that suggested to treat my parents as "sick" people because they were mentally ill after all. Unfortunately my pickme mother is a little too ill for me and I've gone the NC route. I too healed before therapy. I gained a ton of self awareness and found a family within my network of female friends in public school. It was only once I had a child of my own and noticed toxic behaviors and micro aggressions that echoed my own mother's that I needed the help of therapy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:28 PM
48

Male birds assemble healthy nests for their young. Male humans however assemble trash piles that they hurl themselves into and become one with 👹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:23 PM
38

Needed to hear this today, thank you, he is a king
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:57 AM
6

You have a way with faces!! Gorgeous work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:38 AM
23

I'd so fund this. And the man slaying heels. Need a FDS store.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:36 AM
4

Yes!! Why were they discontinued in the first place!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:20 AM
7

Thank you for the translation 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:15 AM
124

This is disturbing. Why can't people be fucking normal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:14 PM
19

Does his nest count?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:36 PM
59

I'm sorry you had to witness that, I have a NVM sperm donor myself. It is interesting though how the woman intuitively avoided your father. Even tho he genuinely needed the help, it's better for her to be safe than sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:30 AM
32

I wish other subreddits would stop calling this a hate sub. Just, no. No. It's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:00 AM
65

Your paranoia and anxiety may keep you alive one day, I believe you should trust it. Not to say live life afraid -- I like the term aware, because you can weaponize it. If I'm alone and walking to my car you better believe I got a death grip on my keys that would honor Wolverine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:44 AM
7

This is a sobering comparison. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:25 AM
3

Tw violence. Today I received an amber alert on my phone about a monster that took his child after m✱rdering the child's mother and grandmother and it left me feeling so hollow. Why did he k✱ll the women and take the boy? I just do not understand men's hatred toward women. I'm gonna do the same as you and read the comments and appreciate all the support we have here. Edit: formatting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:05 AM
36

I've got one -- he cheats? She must not be putting out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:57 AM
98

Prioritize your skin care routine, not men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:57 AM
43

YES!! If I'd followed that advice I would've avoided 99% of my ex scumbags. Queen wisdom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:45 AM
24

You're right.. it was such a freaking traumatic time. Even when I was about 26 I was dating a 23yo (he is now my HVM husband) and it felt weird to me!! TW.....I remember being 14 and my "friends" blamed me for being raped by a 20yo man. Like, wtaf??? Yep internalized that until I was in my late 20s. Until it finally landed me in therapy. I'm lucky to have a community of queens such as yourself to lift me up. Thank you.. I'm so grateful for fds. And everything I learn here I teach to my children …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:15 PM
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Former prey thanking you too. I was 14 or 15 when I was aiming for 21 year olds so they could buy me alcohol. Jfc I wish someone had stepped in. I had no idea wtf I was doing, I just knew that boys my own age behaved insufferably and hated it. Still what I did was absolutely unacceptable. And no grown adults tried to protect me. I know you don't even need to hear that you did the right thing. It's comforting for me to know there's people out there doing this heroic work. I'm in my 30s and have d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:02 PM
3

Thank you for being so kind 👑, I need to learn how to do that for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:16 PM
4

I recently uncovered a letter from my ex detailing how real what we had was and practically asking me to "be sure" I chose my new man over him, who emotionally cheated on me and dumped my stuff in my mom's driveway on my 22nd birthday...to cause a scene in front of my friends. Also it was raining. It was pathetic, he described his cheating as "should've been a bump in the road" yet I don't even think he said sorry. Reading over it made me absolutely enraged, which I hate, because I'd rather feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:47 AM
42

They should just date each other and leave women out of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:40 AM
35

Would you happen to be a fan of the castration fetish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:07 AM
58

Me too! I'm reading a book right now that kind of says "shitting our pants is natural but we somehow learned not to do it." I apply this to the porn argument any chance I get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:05 AM
3

Omg. TRUTH RIGHT HERE! THAT'S ALL FOLKS!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:27 PM
18

YES yuck I'll pass. I can't believe that was actually suggested. Wtf movies are you watching.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:37 PM
31

LMAOOO #MOMOFTWOBOYS IM DEAD!!! You slayed me 😂😂😂😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:29 PM
32

"I just calls the bullshit when I sees it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:08 PM
69

Formerly known as white knight.. They always have an insult 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:41 PM
9

What's really distressing is, I think for me, having since been in FDS and learning men's deceitful ways -- it's almost like they're banking on us actively trying to avoid this. That piece of garbage wanted you to crumble and bend to his will. He was betting on wearing you down after so much time. But you stayed strong because you're a queen. I've also had my experience with that type of person. We had lived together and there were downright violent, scary moments where I feared for my life. Sor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:26 PM
8

Same! Dresses are more comfortable anyway, and if I don't get a "wow you look amazing" then that sets a precedent for any type of relationship that might happen. We know better than to settle for that shit. I love what you said!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:04 PM
14

I wish I didn't have so many 😕 I went on a date with a guy that went well. He was funny and seemed interested in me. After he left I sent him some flirty messages while I was getting ready for bed. He took them the wrong way and asked if he should come back. It ruined it for me because I thought he wasn't after only one thing and blocked him. He also forced me to kiss him in the car before he left even though it was the WRONG time. Yuck. Blocked without explanation. Then there was the 35 year ol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:46 PM
2

I agree! It's heartbreaking how both of you women were treated.. but the way you leveled up is so inspiring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:26 PM
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That's so interesting that you brought up your dogs! We have a rescue that barely knows how to dog properly, but when the kids want to run, she runs with them, with the kids slow down, she slows down with them. Nobody pulls on the leash, not her nor my kids. Even an unsocialized domestic pet is more considerate than typical males. Your first paragraph made me tear up. Your siblings are freaking amazing. I'm 5'1 so I'm rather slow when walking with people and I'm so used to just being left behind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:36 PM
1

Damn right. It's like our society needs a newsflash, women are working and independent now, and we don't even make as much as the chodes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:32 PM
9

I actually suspected it from your post and I am here for you. Making these realizations when we're older and we "know better now" is exhaustingly painful and troubling. It carries a weight with which I'm intimately familiar. You deserved better from that person. I hope you have a peaceful night
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:02 PM
21

I hope you're doing okay now, that's such a heavy burden of conflicting emotions that a lot of us women have to bear since we're so used to being shoved into a box of "emotional/insane/prude etc". You are not alone ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:00 PM
9

This is SO important. The way men didn't engage with or interact with the children in my culture in the 90s is so normalized, and it didn't even happen that long ago. What LVX is doing is the minimum and dare I even say it should be expected!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:54 PM
9

Imagine being such an inconvenience to men that they'll prioritize their dog's needs over interactions with women 🙁 "OH yes the way he picks up his dog's shit and puts it in a bag is so romantic.." then again I suppose it's better than the chodes who leave it there. The bar is dismally low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:55 PM
16

I wonder if it's the same guy who made his date sit in the back seat while the dog sat up front
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:50 PM
38

This hurt to read and hits close to home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:46 PM
18

"Bedding" more like donation pile in a dumpster 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:41 PM
26

That was alarming to me! The OP explains "he hasn't invited me over" for three years maybe I have massive trust issues but I would personally be alerted that something was up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:35 PM
30

You're not wrong! Instead of telling other men to do better apparently women are still to blame for their treatment by men 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:12 PM
48

That fills me with rage! WTF? Dude doesn't need to be a fucking food hurricane holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:09 PM
9

Quality content and I love this song
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:07 PM
43

I saw that and I wanted to direct her to fds. I'm really really hoping it was just ragebait. Sadly none of us can be sure. 55k is enough for someone to feel like they make a lot, therefore maybe being comfortable with this kind of arrangement. But it's expensive bullshit. I also just read a post where a woman was fighting a brutal battle to get her salary up to where her male coworkers' salaries are, and posted her unsatisfied results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:06 PM
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The part about "too clingy" especially. I decide what the right amount of cling is for me, tyvm. Pretty pathetic if you're so insecure you can't handle when a woman is interested in you. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:52 AM
56

No you're right, I don't think most addicts willingly hurl themselves into the rabbithole, sometimes it just happens that way. Fight the new drug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:47 AM
11

I think I'd subscribe. Feature real couples and hvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:44 AM
12

This shook me to my core, thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:29 AM
19

Like she's some pretty little piece of furniture or an ornament? Disgusting. I hate it. I wish she sees this post and puts some thought into her life choices rather than staking up with a toilet seat of a human. Then again toilet seats are useful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:01 AM
8

And she stayed with him. Wtf!? I know she loves him... but damn......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:09 AM
6

Oops I thought it was spaghetti.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:30 AM
11

Oooooh THAT is good. You're awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:03 AM
5

OH JEEZ lmao Yea, no buddy, u/Spittens is good, it's everybody else that sucks rn 😂 I agree with you and I have dwindling hope for humanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:05 AM
9

Exactly! Society needs a do over. Men-- the cons kinda outweigh the pros on a massive scale....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:09 PM
27

I'm new to FDS but I feel like we're more the "I like this planet, YOU get off!" response to that meme 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:29 PM
59

I can only imagine the amount of hate this poor woman is getting. It breaks my heart bc she totally 1000% right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:09 PM
23

I gave the quiet nerdy virgin a chance. What I got was: lied, manipulated, guilted and physically abused. We would get in arguments and I'd try to leave, to go on a drive in my own car, and he'd lay on top of me to try to get me not to leave. He wasn't much bigger than my 5' ass, so I struggled away and locked myself in a room. Had to call a friend to rescue me. In my own apartment. UGH. That relationship didn't last long even in my pickme days. I still had to live with his dumb ass. I feel bad …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:09 PM
12

Wasn't marital rape only banished in the 90s in America? Disgusting. We've been property for so long. I hate that this happened to you. I also wished I'd known this shit in my teens. It brings me to tears how much of my body I shared with shitty grimy men. Young women, take note. Keep yourselves safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:21 PM
3

I love dogs, I have a spoiled frenchie. However dogs have scientifically been proven to have evolved over time to please men. We women will not do that. We will probably still get called bitches tho!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:51 PM
25

It's sad that women are reduced to what they can do for a man versus what they are... immovable goddesses. I hate this post so much, hopefully it is made up and there's no poor wife somewhere feeling this insecure and disrespected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:49 PM
5

YES!!! I want to shout this from the tallest nearby mountain and simultaneously yeet my exes off of it!! Proud of you & this community 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:15 PM
98

Your grandfather is gold. Thanks for sharing this perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:10 PM
2

Eh at least after V-Day comes 'chocolates on sale' day. Thank you for reminding me, or no thank you considering my jean sizes have skyrocketed 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:57 PM
120

I'm enraged by how accurate this is...holyyy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:53 PM
3

I didnt either and I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:05 PM
16

Can confirm, ovaries currently resemble a pentagram
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:03 PM
16

Hell even if he ain't ugly he is lame and cringingly boring. Desperation wafts through the doorway of any room he enters like chicken grease BO. I would have a nicer conversation with my wallpaper than this scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:38 AM
15

So many women let scrotes walk all over them and for what? Bad sex and more chores. I love your entire comment, but I love this the most. Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:58 PM
8

Me too. You deserve respect, you're entitled to demand it when it isn't offered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:56 PM
35

What's nagging me is the fact that that comment has 4.5k upvotes. Yikes. So basically there's roughly four thousand people out there who leave dishes piled in the sink but make sure to wipe around the piles once in a while?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:41 AM
7

THIS. It is indeed just to get a reaction and it's rooted in control. We should come up with an acronym for low value semen. Wow congratulations, you can get yourself off at record speeds and to women typing words. Is that supposed to be attractive or impressive? Is it supposed to be anything besides goofy and boring? Yawn. Who gives a shit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:35 PM
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