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You're smooth
/r/seduction20/04/22 02:56 PM
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Well played, I totally agree!
/r/seduction20/04/22 02:53 PM
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Did you ask her if she is single? What did you tell her when you changed phone numbers? That's a good place to tell her what you want: "You're nice. I'd like to meet you again and have a beer." or "I like you. Are you single? Can I have your number?" Usually when you ask her number it means that you're up to something. If she gave it to you then it means you're doing quite well. > How do you make a transition from such polite formal talk to a real no bullshit interaction with these types of girl…
/r/seduction20/04/22 02:47 PM
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Nope. Looking like 32 isn't a bad thing. Going bald isn't a bad thing. It's natural and it happens to many men including me. Just accept your hair as it is, go to surgery or buzz your hair away. My gf (9/10) told me that my bald head looks good in her opinion. She also told me that I would look really handsome if I shaved my hair off. Don't worry about it.
/r/seduction20/04/22 02:38 PM
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Be ok with the fact that some girls don't like it or some girls don't know if they're ready for it or don't know if they like you in the start. Hit them with your line, then talk a bit with them, pass the shit test and then the good ones will stay with you.
/r/seduction20/04/22 02:34 PM
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You can disagree with her. Having your own opinions vs trying to simp her by agreeing with everything is not cool. Back to the main topic. I have had tons of dates with platonic discussion. We both are a little bit nervous, we both are inexperienced, not sure how to flirt, a little bit tired of work etc. You need humor, a little bit of alcohol and a common interest to get the mood right. It's frustrating to talk with a girl if you don't find something you have in common. Or if you're a really go…
/r/seduction20/04/22 02:32 PM
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Lol amazing stories! I wouldn't call any of these failures :D
/r/seduction20/04/22 02:29 PM
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Thats perfectly normal.
/r/seduction20/04/22 02:26 PM
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I believe in wide build in the dating game. Do daygame, nightgame, meet girls via your friends, do tinder, bumble. Have a wide variety of options and it doesn't mean anything if you fail on tinder. Tinder can be extremely dangerous for your self esteem. Both getting a lot of matches and getting none matches at all.
/r/seduction20/04/22 12:20 PM
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I didn't. I never did. But I've gotten 9 lays, a 10/10 gf, lots of good and bad dates, lots of action and fun with women. I'm scared every time. But I just try to deal with the fear. I force myself to say the first 'hello' and see where that takes me. I am not afraid to tell her 'I'm anxious' or 'I'm nervous'. She's also nervous and that lifts the pressure off her. Just accept that it's part of the game.
/r/seduction20/04/22 12:18 PM
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Don't take it too seriously. She maybe took your comment seriously / in a bitter way. Just try different openings next time and experiment what works the best.
/r/seduction21/09/21 04:54 PM
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Just move on. You have other options than sticking with one flaky girl.
/r/seduction21/09/21 04:53 PM
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Yeah I've been thinking the same. I was out the other Saturday. I was home alone, I didn't have any luck on Tinder, didn't have anything planned and didn't feel like calling my friends and meeting them so I just had a shower, shave, dressed nice and headed out. I didn't even know many bars because I just moved to new area so I was walking down the streets, checking some hotspots from Google Maps and even was able to talk to a woman on the street. However, her husband arrived later there and I ju…
/r/seduction21/09/21 04:51 PM
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I think going to her place is always 10 times harder than going to yours but it's possible. Just escalate with her and tell her that "we should go somewhere private" or "we should go somewhere else" etc. Just don't ask it out of the blue and you'll be ok. At worst if you just ask if you could go to her place she rejects it by saying "why?", "let's not", "let's go to your place instead", "let's stay here for now", etc. Try to get your own apartment as soon as possible, not having my own place dra…
/r/seduction21/09/21 04:33 PM
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The reality is that you'll seldom have nights like this. However OP carefully prepared the stage which sounds like a good idea and patient game.
/r/seduction21/09/21 09:23 AM
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Ok, there's your problem. Your strategy with tinder doesn't sound like I would recommend it to anyone. If you stick to nightgame you'll be cool. Good luck!
/r/seduction21/09/21 09:20 AM
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Perfect. Those are some good goals. You must do something about them every day and eventually you'll get there. It took me 6 years to graduate from uni, then 2 years of hard work to land a high-paying job and buy an apartment from the city centre and live the life I always wanted. For that I had to do something every day of those 8 years of my life to get into this state. So what are your first steps?
/r/seduction21/09/21 09:19 AM
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Just ask what she's doing on Friday & if she wants to grab a drink with you. 99% of the girls who want to meet me are ok for drinking rather than going on a dinner if that's what you mean. Even the girls who don't drink alcohol usually come for drinks if I take us to a place where there are some good non-alcoholic options. There isn't any magic words you should include to your conversations. Just lead the discussion on logistics as soon as possible.
/r/seduction20/09/21 01:23 PM
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There are a lot of girls who share your passions. I don't know where to find them though because they're in their pajamas at their home and trying to avoid human contact. Is your goal to have fun, get progress in your life or get girls?
/r/seduction20/09/21 12:13 PM
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I could write you a 500 word essay on this topic. Be yourself, be confident, have spontaneous fun with people and be genuinely interested in connecting with them. There are so many fake people out there that having a 5-minute genuine conversation will be valuable to people. Don't be afraid to test, take a risk, do trial and error. It may take your whole life to get there but have fun along the road.
/r/seduction20/09/21 12:11 PM
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What are your goals? What are your strengths and weaknesses? I think it depends person to person. When going out I think you have more mediums for seducing ladies. Not just pictures. You also can screen the girls much better than online. Most guys are too lazy to go out, too, so you have much less competition. I think you should definitely go 1-2 times a week out on your own without your friends. You also sound like you're frustrated. Have you had much luck in online dating apps?
/r/seduction20/09/21 11:56 AM
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"Is this a good way to approach this woman" Yes, just any approach will take you closer to your goals. If you don't get her number or can't take her to date / to your bedroom you will still be one experience richer. However, I'd just ask her number and ask if she's free on Friday for some drinks. Good luck.
/r/seduction20/09/21 11:54 AM
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This is oversimplification and it loses some information because of the nature of oneliner advice.
/r/seduction20/09/21 11:52 AM
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I think this is such a big topic. First, 90% or so of your communication is nonverbal. So if you only concentrate on what you're saying, you're missing out on the beef: the how. I was also an introvert and I was also interrupted always because I was shy and overly polite. But what you explain also sounds like you're talking to people with highly technical terms. Most of the people will not understand technical jargon. You have to explain rocket science to them like you would explain to kids. For…
/r/seduction20/09/21 11:51 AM
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Congratulations! You have already more than many men do: you have her number, you have her attention and she already likes and trusts you. Next step would be asking her on a date like you planned and escalating things further from there. Remember: she's super nervous if you like her and you must show it to her on your date. I'd not message her "Hey neighbor" but "Hey Linda" or whatever her name is. Just a small detail to make it more personal. Neighbor sounds too casual to me. Just an opinion :)…
/r/seduction20/09/21 11:34 AM
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Just ignore flaky girls if they do it over and over again and move on to next girls. There are plenty out there. You are not dependent on every single girl who wants to chat with you. Instead of ghosting you can say "I didn't take you for the flaky type" which will make her defensive. Then just say "I'm into meeting people into real life rather than just chatting. I'm trying to set us a date here. Do you still want to meet or are you just wasting my time?" Just talk straight or unmatch her & del…
/r/seduction20/09/21 11:22 AM
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Thanks for posting this! #1 comes from actually doing something about it every day and not giving up #5 is motivating, too. It means you can't blame your genes #7 means your and her biology are not against your odds #12 is true: because you're constantly developing yourself you're already better than 90% of the population #15 is also true: we are seldom using 100% of our capacity anyways Thanks for the motivation. Now instead of merely chanting these go and do some concrete action that takes you…
/r/seduction20/09/21 11:18 AM
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It sounds you're quite confident. Also if you were able to make many approaches and still get good results with this one girl it must mean you can't be that inexperienced, right? Experience brings confidence. Confidence does not bring experience. I don't think you should worry girl finding out that your body count is not that high. They don't care. For some girls it's a source of jealousy and even a turnoff. The heck, there are many inexperienced girls out there so they aren't expecting you to b…
/r/seduction20/09/21 11:14 AM
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Answer to your question: you don't propose anything explicitly. That would be weird and maybe even creepy. Actions speak louder than words. My tinder profile is quite aggressive at the moment. I have some pics with skin and muscles. I also make it quite clear in my bio that I'm not looking for a wife. So every girl I match already knows that I'm just looking for fun and I'm not a "Mr. Nice Guy". Also I'm not chatting with them much. As little as possible to meet them for drinks. I always tell th…
/r/seduction20/09/21 11:06 AM
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Both men and women have pressure on how they look physically. This is something that's good to acknowledge. Btw I asked my last date if she cares about the height. She said no because she dated a short guy earlier. But that's only her. At best I can prove that girls like that exist. I think I'll ask this question from some girls I meet just for fun and research. Many smart girls think that it's shallow to judge guys only based on their height. Similarly to guys dating only girls with big boobs.
/r/seduction20/09/21 10:48 AM
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This is something I have to practise to get better. But I've already moved up from never being able to touch the girl or get physical so that's already progress. Thanks a lot for your advice!
/r/seduction20/09/21 10:44 AM
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Have you ever asked the girls afterwards why they don't want to meet you again? Just ask an honest explanation. I have gotten one many times after I've assured the women that I don't mind them telling the truth and it will help me develop myself if they tell. > It just seems they used me as I’m above average looking guy. Yes. Men aren't the only people who use other people just for having sex without any strings attached. Women also do that and they have the right for that as much as we do. Mayb…
/r/seduction18/09/21 03:26 PM
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This sounds harsh but I agree that if you have what she's looking for she will definitely not let you go away that easily. It could be something else than bad sex too though. Women have many other turn-offs / red flags than your skills in bed.
/r/seduction18/09/21 03:23 PM
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> Only catch is it’s one of those yes’s with the caveat that they just got out of a relationship so they aren’t really seeking anything out right now. If you're looking for hookup/fwb this is perfect. If she said she's just got out of relationship and she's not seeking anything it means that she's into the same things as you are. Right? This is her way of saying that. > When I asked her out I made it clear that it was a date and she never contradicted that, but I’m aware that this is an uphill b…
/r/seduction18/09/21 03:21 PM
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There are girls I only meet for sex. Then there are girls I meet for sex and afterwards we talk, watch movies, go out etc. Then there are girls I meet for all the other things and maybe after them have sex. Just have both of your expectations meet and it'll be alright. But I think you should just be open about what you want. Having to spend dates with her that are not fun in your opinion to "earn" sex doesn't sound very healthy for me. If you only want her for sex then make it clear for her. If …
/r/seduction18/09/21 03:17 PM
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I used to ask girls for activity dates earlier. I even approached a girl in the bouldering gym and told I could train with her some time. We never met again and she just answered my messages like yours: "I'm busy." Then I learned that this is a very bad way if you want to get her to your bed. Activity dates give a friendly vibe too easily. Not a romantic one. They are nice, they just have the wrong tone. Just ask girls for a drink if you want to have sex with them. If you're looking for hiking/w…
/r/seduction18/09/21 03:13 PM
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+1, I always hug my dates at least twice: once when we meet, once when we part. For me it's nowadays a thing I don't think much but at first I was very anxious to do it. Hugging is a great way to show her if you have a nice cologne, get a bit physical, let her feel your warm body close and just set a nice vibe right from the start.
/r/seduction18/09/21 02:54 PM
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I think that makes sense. It also sounds like you have the upper hand and you're not needy / pushy about it. If her friends are around kissing could get a lot of bad attention and maybe even her friends dragging her away. Do you always have to escalate in any other ways in public before taking her home? I mean that it's weird to get physical at my apartment if I haven't escalated in any way before that. That has happened to me many times. I've had problems with having a platonic conversation and…
/r/seduction18/09/21 02:49 PM
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That's true. There are always girls shorter than us. Taller guys just have a larger pool where to choose from in that sense. Many girls have told me that it doesn't matter to them but I don't really believe what they say. I think it's more subconscious how they feel about tall men. I just think that short guys still have more than zero options and they should definitely try to improve their looks, wear shoes that make them taller and go for it.
/r/seduction18/09/21 02:10 PM
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I understand your point. Maybe that's the thing in some cultures. However in some cultures if a girl doesn't want to kiss you in public she will definitely not want to have sex with you in private. I agree with the point that one should maximize the number of lays, not the number of girls kissed in public so it makes sense. Some dating coaches say that you really don't need to kiss the girl before taking her home to succeed later.
/r/seduction18/09/21 02:05 PM
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Inspiring. I should do the same to start fixing my AA.
/r/seduction18/09/21 02:02 PM
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This is important. I think mask will ruin the chances. But this differs from place to place: I live in area where masks are used in public transport and inside shops etc where you wouldn't hit on girls anyway. Outside nobody wears them. You see, you shouldn't undermine the importance of facial expressions in building trust. Besides bank robbers and sexual assaulters hide their face and you don't want to be profiled as one before you even open your mouth.
/r/seduction17/09/21 12:42 PM
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I actually have improved in this a lot by just practising. I force myself to look at her eyes, even for one second before looking away. Then increasing it to 3 seconds, then looking at her _the whole time_ she's talking etc. It's very powerful. Same goes for facial expressions, relaxing your body, using your voice etc. So you're on the right track: you won't learn these things on Tinder. You learn them by doing cold approaches.
/r/seduction17/09/21 12:39 PM
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Maybe you will have better success if you try it. OP at least tried and shared us the stats :) we cannot know much more details about him, his appearance, his charisma etc. We can only know he's brave and took the effort. This post cannot be one more reason for lazy guys to not start doing cold approaches. Just get rid of that mentality where you let statistics tell you what you can or cannot do without trying.
/r/seduction17/09/21 12:37 PM
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I was actually thinking at some point that approaching groups is a waste of time. Reality: the girl feels more safe in a group. You just have to speak everyone in the group - not only the girl you're hitting on. That way you build "status" in that group, everyone likes you, the ugly girl of the group or her best friend are not as likely to cockblock you because they start to like you too.
/r/seduction17/09/21 12:35 PM
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Nah, I think those are good for experience. If you approach just anyone and try to have a genuine connection only good things can happen in the long run. In the short run you should approach only DTF girls and have close to 100% K/D ratio.
/r/seduction17/09/21 12:34 PM
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So 140:1 is more than 0:0 anyways. I think OP is on the right track whatever the stats are and they have noticed some progress anyways and had genuine fun
/r/seduction17/09/21 12:32 PM
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I have had problems with the same thing. How I arrange dates usually: I ask them for a drink (beer/wine) near my place around evening (~7pm). The later, the better. After we've finished our drinks (which usually takes about 1 hour) I'll just say her that "I live nearby. Let's go to my place" or "Wanna see my appartment and grab a beer/wine there?" or "You're super fun/cute/nice. Wanna go to my place for another round of drinks?" I think escalating physically, going for the kiss, escalating verba…
/r/seduction17/09/21 10:01 AM
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> You don’t need to kis +1 I totally agree. However it helps to release the tension and show her that you're into her. For me personally it's super scary to kiss a girl in the public because I think she is concerned of what other people think about PDA. > you just look for a reason for you both to go to your place or room If you're into her and she's into you then it's obvious. You don't need to come up with an excuse or lie about it. Just tell her that you want to hang out / chill at your place…
/r/seduction17/09/21 09:46 AM
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+1 for breaking the tension. It's a big thing. Especially on a date the girls have a lot of expectations but also pressure. They are anxious if the guy likes them, if they look good, what their friends think about it when they tell them about it afterwards etc. So you have to make her feel comfortable, attractive, feminine, accepted. If you show that you want her she will feel really confident and reliefed. But of course the art is how you show it without crossing any boundaries.
/r/seduction17/09/21 09:41 AM
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> She did the whole "oh I didn't expect this" ...5 mins later she's naked I just had the same experience this week. They say those things because the girls never want to come as slutty or too open towards casual sex. And that's acceptable. The girl I took home was super into me. But when we started making out she said that she's not sure if she's ready for that on the first date. Then I just said to her that I'm not expecting anything from her, let's just have fun and vibe and see what happens. …
/r/seduction17/09/21 09:39 AM
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I disagree. It depends on the situation and there are no general rules about this unless kissing in the public is somehow demonized in your culture. There are many occasions of people kissing in a bar/club without changing any words. Just chemistry, vibing and dancing. Besides it's really hard to hear anything because of the music. You should kiss the girl when there's the perfect time and place for that. But because we don't have the perfect knowledge of what's going in her mind we should take …
/r/seduction17/09/21 09:35 AM
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Just ignore the game and nonsense. If you're into her and she's into you, you will meet eventually and have fun together. It's easy to miscommunicate through text. If she reschedules another time or treats you disrespectfully just ignore her entirely or tell her assertively that you find that disrespectful. Maybe she has had some bad experiences in the past and she's afraid that will happen again. We can never know.
/r/seduction17/09/21 09:31 AM
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Yes. We should not stick to the bs we tell ourself why we will not succeed. Instead we should concentrate on why we will succeed. In my opinion as a tall guy shorter guys gain muscle easier and I've seen tons of good looking short guys who get a lot of attention from the ladies because they have a good style, good hygiene, fashion clothes, nice hair and beard, tattoos, a dog etc. Not to mention their confidence. I'm getting bald for example. I used to be let down by that and I had that as an exc…
/r/seduction17/09/21 09:27 AM
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I agree on not hitting on women when they are in public transport, working or doing something else where they can't escape from easily. But I also think that you did the right thing by approaching her and putting yourself out there. If you're polite you're not doing too much harm by complimenting a lady, listening to her answer and then letting her carry on.
/r/seduction17/09/21 09:23 AM
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> tall attractive guys have to put little to no effort to get girls chasing them Nope. Height is just one attribute that we have little to none control over. Attractiveness is 200 attributes most of which we have control over.
/r/seduction17/09/21 06:23 AM
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Anywhere you live - even Vegas - 99% of the guys wouldn't have pulled off the same because of approach anxiety or whatever. Maybe there are more adventurous DTF girls in Vegas but I wouldn't say it's easy mode. The audience is just a bit more receptive. All people have sexual needs. So a girl with her sexual needs not satisfied will respond positively to a guy she finds attractive regardless of the location. I just want to say that yes, you should all travel there to experience it but it doesn't…
/r/seduction17/09/21 06:18 AM
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