dudedudedude112 Archive

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0	How do I avoid the friend zone when using the indirect approach? Nothing you said disproves the first thing you quoted. In fact you agree with him when you say awkward or poorly executed cold approaches could fuck with someone's rep. I think everyone agrees that it is 'possible' to be very clear and direct without hurting your rep if you do it right. The problem is that not everyone has good game.	/r/seduction	12/09/17 02:39 PM
3	Should I approach girls on the street? Striking up a conversation with someone on the street is fine; it's not a big deal.	/r/seduction	06/09/17 09:56 PM
4	Should I approach girls on the street? The truth is there is nothing really rude about saying hi to someone in a friendly manner and initiating conversation. The fact that you 'expect' to be left alone is your own issue. You can't take that much responsibility for other people's emotions. If simply going up to someone and saying hello ruins their day, that is their own issue and not yours.	/r/seduction	06/09/17 09:10 PM
1	How were your first approaches? I think both direct and indirect have their place. Being direct can build your confidence of expressing yourself honestly and help you to get used to being vulnerable. But if none of your sets are opening up it's probably a good idea to go indirect or find a way to try to get them to open so you can practice other parts of the process like holding conversations	/r/seduction	24/08/17 02:21 PM
1	How do I start with my biggest fear - approaching? You pretty much have the right idea. If you are unable to do the right thing (approach confidently in a genuine way), then just do the next best thing that you are able to do. It may be just approaching and asking for the time/directions etc, or just anything that is easy for you. Do that a few times, and then push yourself a little harder and after asking for directions or whatever, stay in there and ask another question and converse a bit, and keep building from there. Whenever you get stuck a…	/r/seduction	21/08/17 02:16 PM
2	Mark Manson says the only real dating advice is self improvement. What would be your top 5 tips for someone to improve themselves? It depends where you are on your journey. Always be ok with doing whatever you can at that time. For some, "I just want to get to know a few attractive girls" can be just as stifling as the goal "I want to get laid tonight." Set reasonable goals but if you struggle, own the next best thing. One small step in the right direction at a time.	/r/seduction	19/08/17 04:16 PM
4	Take care of your mind and the rest will follow You have to be careful with advice like this as it can easily lead to someone "taking care of their mind" indefinitely feeling like they are never ready to put themselves out there and approach/make themselves vulnerable etc. "I'm taking care of my mind but the rest isnt following. I still haven't met a woman who I connect with and my relationships aren't really improving. What gives?" Changing your outer behavior by approaching and making yourself vulnerable is part of the process of taking car…	/r/seduction	03/08/17 02:41 PM
3	I seem to be more worried about the social judgment of a cold approach than the girls judgment...? What you said originally was ignorant. If you learn to communicate better it would help you out. Now you are starting to make more sense though. So your point is actually that while approaching on the street works for some guys who are good at it, for the majority it is not successful, and it makes women uncomfortable in the process, so therefore you think guys shouldn't be encouraged to approach on the street. Basically you prioritize women feeling comfortable over a man with good intentions ha…	/r/seduction	25/07/17 10:54 PM
1	I seem to be more worried about the social judgment of a cold approach than the girls judgment...? If women aren't an object to him, he should rethink his stance that there are people out there who approach women on the street who have success with it? That's literally all he said. I would argue that you have to be pretty ignorant to have a different stance on the issue.	/r/seduction	25/07/17 10:33 PM
1	What is the best way to handle a girl who is being super cold? Why do you want to be around a girl who is super cold? Just get out of the interaction.	/r/seduction	24/07/17 02:22 PM
2	How to Be Attractive to Women as Explained by Evolutionary Psychology Yes you missed the boat, and if you were any other animal besides a human then you would be screwed, but because we have volitional control over our behavior to some extent, and are able to rationally think through what the right action is rather than relying on subconscious instincts, you can change your position in the hierarchy by changing your behavior patterns consciously. Of course it won't be easy, but it is possible. You will have to take right action despite your subconscious trying to …	/r/seduction	13/07/17 12:02 AM
3	How to Be Attractive to Women as Explained by Evolutionary Psychology How does it not apply to you though? He goes onto state how you can improve your position.	/r/seduction	12/07/17 11:34 PM
1	How I started approaching girls EASILY after 6 years of AA. And the question to all of you. So you're saying cognitive therapy only is useful. And cognitive therapy + exposure would be useless or negative in impact?	/r/seduction	15/06/17 08:14 PM
2	How I started approaching girls EASILY after 6 years of AA. And the question to all of you. But approaching can change your beliefs about how bad the outcome will turn out when you see that in fact, it wasn't and almost never is as bad as you thought it would be.	/r/seduction	15/06/17 07:00 PM
4	Every guy i know thinks im a good looking guy but no girl seems to I'm sure some girls think you are good looking as well, but unfortunately being good looking alone isn't enough to be perceived as attractive to most women.	/r/seduction	11/06/17 02:54 AM
4	I feel like the whole Mark Manson approach might only work because he's a tall, good looking, charismatic guy. Any average dudes around here try it? You do realize that Mark Manson literally says that when you approach women some of them WILL think you are being a creep, some will be rude, and a large percentage of them will not be open to you. He never suggests all guys will get the same results. The point is it doesn't matter if girls think you're a creep. You keep going until you find one you connect with	/r/seduction	03/06/17 03:04 PM