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dulcinea87/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:53 PM
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Wait, they left? What did they say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 05:46 AM
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It's even worse when your mom takes your husband's side when he abuses you or you get divorced. See: Tina Turner's mom in What's Love and Scarjo's mom in Marriage Story ( both based on true stories).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:42 PM
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What a nightmare! Why weren't you able to get half the assets accumulated during marriage? Is it a community property state? Is there alimony after 10 years of marriage in your state?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 08:21 PM
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Ah, totally understand!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:06 AM
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Did you go to his place for a breakfast date or did you visit him and stay for a weekend? Also, do you prefer men who drink low fat milk?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:56 AM
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In 2016, a UK man raped his gf while she was in labor. He was cleared of all charges. In 2017, a Chinese man caused his wife to jump out a window to her death because she was in labor and needed a c-section but he and his parents wouldn't allow it. Hospital staff waited 21 minutes to go out to the parking lot to find her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:33 AM
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There's a big difference between minimum wage and not-rich. Min wage workers who have no outside help are often barely able to survive. Not- rich men usually still support themselves with a modest full-time job without needing their girlfriends' money. Also, OP's guy does have a choice since he is qualified for a normal job but doesn't want one. Society does have an unhealthy worship of money and a cruel attitude toward marginalized workers, but OP's situation is different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:46 PM
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According to your post history, you're planning on going back to school soon. This guy isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:29 PM
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He's an asshole for how he treats you, his wife, his kids, and his pets. However, I don't think he owes anything to your mom. When kids are abused, it's common for relatives to urge the victim to forgive because it affects overall family dynamics, though. Even other victims do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 09:10 AM
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Can you copy it here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:59 PM
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You should be able to get antibiotics from urgent care or ER today. The longer you wait, the worse it will get. If you're in acute pain, it's probably too late for cranberry and d mannitose. If you can't afford ER, tell them you're homeless and don't have any ID. If you cant afford transportation, ask bf to loan you cab or Uber fare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 10:19 PM
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I agree. I f you don't live with him, rarely cook for him, and cooking is a big hobby for you, kitchen stuff is a good gift. I think OP was just trying to state the general rule of etiquette that a gift should benefit the recipient, not the giver.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:27 PM
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Yup. Appalling. Fathers steal breast milk from their own hungry infants. Common in Uganda. https://www.kent.ac.uk/news/society/24309/male-breastfeeding-culture-in-uganda-must-be-taken-seriously "talk about mothers they had seen who had been malnourished and had poorly nourished babies or ripped and infected nipples because of the practice. NGO staff had a similar reaction and consistent stories. ‘Through the research, we found out that the women are not asked if they want to feed their partners;…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:21 AM
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Unfortunately, this was a PUA phrase before FDS existed. Ditto "spinning plates" and "hypergamy." Maybe we should retire those phrases. We have our own! My fave: If he wanted to, he would. That one has really picked up steam across the Internet lately. Edit: added detail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 01:27 AM
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How did he access the account?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:10 PM
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From an interview with private investigators in Los Angeles Magazine : Barbara Wolford: There are always signs. When a man thinks his wife is cheating, it’s a 50-50 chance. A man might notice his wife going out in a nice outfit and he’ll get suspicious. But maybe she is really going out with the girls. When a woman calls, she’s 90 percent accurate. Women know. They have intuition. They are more observant. Like if he’s all of a sudden working out and she’s suspicious, then she’s usually right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 11:12 PM
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Participants were middle and high school students. Most don't have much sexual experience yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 10:55 PM
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Jamie Rohrs was in the 2012 Colorado theater mass shooting with his gf, his newborn son, and her 4yo daughter. When shooting started, he left them all in the theater ( with infant lying on the floor) and drove away. The gf was shot but made it out with the kids after a stranger helped her. The stranger was a brave teen boy. He proposed to her the next day and horrifyingly, she said yes. The part that blows my mind is how he went on TV and told the world what he did, with just a tiny bit of weak …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:51 PM
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Can you write more about your mom's work? I remember that post about that German woman who was a divorce lawyer and it was so informative. I'd love to see more expert analysis like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:25 PM
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Cher's date also asked her for money during the date. Also, her stepbrother put her down a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 04:28 AM
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I remember Rice's erotica novellas seemed very preoccupied with trying to make sense of the random, needless pain and suffering in life. There was this idea that pain was a virtue because it was a path that led you to some kind of enlightenment if you could endure all of its trials. The characters that found happiness were the ones who stopped fighting the mistreatment ( because they had no way out) and just made peace with it. It reminded me of another book: Blow Your House Down: A story of fam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:20 PM
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I really respect your honesty. By having the courage to speak frankly about your situation, you help other women who might feel the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 01:49 PM
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Interesting trivia: The novel the movie is based on is partly inspired by the author's marriage . Anne Rice, the author, was like Louis, and her husband was like Lestat. She felt overshadowed by him, she didn't have much of her own income, she was afraid to drive, and she was a shell of a person because their daughter died. Then when Interview with a Vampire became successful, she leveled up and the dynamic between her and her husband switched. In the sequel, The Vampire Lestat, she identified m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:15 AM
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I thought the same about Tina Fey and her husband having opposite energy, but he didn't rub me the wrong way as much as Jen's husband did. ​ Edit: I also felt that Tina preferred to take the lead, and her husband preferred to follow, but there was flexibility there. Tina was also very nurturing and child-centered regarding her kids, and fussed over and took care of her husband when he was sick. I also got the idea that her husband could be the breadwinner (obviously she's a zillionaire but they'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 05:09 AM
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Educated by Tara Westover. A Memoir. She was born in the mountains to paranoid conspiracy-nut parents and never went to school. She grew up neglected, endangered and impoverished. She eventually broke free and ended up with a Ph.D. from Cambridge. Her book became a bestseller that won many awards and praise from Obama. I remember at one point she decided to stop denying the horrific violence she got at the hands of her brother, but then her whole family told her that she was a liar, that she was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 04:39 AM
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What did you guys think of Jen's boyfriend/husband? It seemed like he had more feminine energy and she had more masculine, which usually doesn't work. I remember FDS posts about " take charge gals" and "masculinas" being a way for women to cope with a life where a man doesn't step up and take care of her, or where she feels she doesn't deserve acceptance if she's vulnerable. But I think Jen is the exception to the rule. She thrived in her masculine energy and his feminine energy complemented her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:52 AM
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Even better: a handsome coworker who wants to treat you to lunch because he is generous and a gentleman. It actually doesn't matter if he's a coworker. Even if it's a male relative, lvm will still feel annoyed and offended if another man treats you better than he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:06 PM
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This happened twice, once in Korea, once in Oklahoma, and the baby died both times. Gamer dad neglects baby. Mom neglects baby to game just like Dad. Dad doesn't change. Baby dies. There's this assumption that he neglects because he knows she will pick up his slack and she needs to put her foot down. You see this advice over and over on relationship and parenting subs. "Just hand him the baby and walk out the door! Don't come back until dinnertime. He'll be forced to step up." No. Don't play chi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:58 PM
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Your brothers are better than this man. He is splitting rent and bills with her now. However, he implies that he might not continue to split when she can't work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:11 AM
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To clarify: She got permission to start the appeal process. The appeal will take place in the future. My heart breaks for her. I hope she gets justice in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:05 AM
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Thanks for the heads up. It's ridiculous that you were downvoted for pointing out a simple fact. My suspicion is that OP read the article and posted about it, then the video was released later. Early press did say that she had dropped the knife when police arrived. Her post made sense at that time, but proved to be inaccurate when the video came out. When we disagreed with her later after seeing the footage, she dug her heels in. It's a common phenomenon when people feel challenged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:07 AM
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Thanks for your reply. I looked it up but only saw how you can block a sender and delete their email, not delete their address from your contacts. You can still see their address under the "filters and blocked addresses" tab in the settings. If you were tempted to email them again, you could look up their address there. ​ Edit: This is in Windows. The Android app doesn't have the option to see the list of blocked senders, I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:06 AM
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Look, I agree with everything you said about racism, sexism, and statistics regarding the brutal way black women are treated by cops. But the slow motion video of the shooting clearly shows her about to stab the girl in pink. The knife looked inches from pink girl's head, neck and chest. It looked too close for cop to have run over to her and grabbed the knife. There are so many verifiable examples of murders of black women and girls at the hands of psycho cops, that we don't need to point to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:09 PM
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How do I do this in Gmail? If I block an address, it has to save the address in the "blocked" list, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:54 AM
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Wow, what a great success story! Big bucks at 23!What is/was your job? Any tips for entering that field?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:13 PM
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He's a fool as well. Several years ago, he made a comment on his brother's AMA. People saw his post history where he made gross, moronic comments on GW and other comments where he seemed like an idiotic braggart. Then when people laughed at him, he posted to a tech support sub asking how to delete or hide things. Then when the tech post was exposed, he made a new account pretending to be an anonymous user defending him. This was 8 years ago. Dear God, have I really been on Reddit that long? Any …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:42 AM
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Me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:09 AM
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I upvoted you, biscuitwolf. I don't hold Kate responsible for William's abuse. Even Meghan said Kate is a good person. I support both women, despite mistakes they've made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:07 AM
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Well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:53 AM
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I saw in your OP that you never said SAHM were stupid, dumbasses, unsophisticated, uninteresting, etc. It was definitely other posters, not you. Though by the number of upvotes of such posts, it seems a popular opinion, even though I know you don't share it. I did say it was condescending, because though most of what you said is hard truths that women need to know, I got the sense that you felt SAHM didn't know those truths. That they SAH because they're "stuck on traditional ideas" or that they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:22 AM
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I don't even really know what your goal is here. You really just have to look back at my comments to see that I never said a lot of the things you seem to believe I said. I don't know why you're asserting the following: ​ No one said staying at home is stupid (OP didn't but others did) I said there's no risk to staying home (never said it) I'm a lucky SAHM who thinks she's smart (never said it or led others to believe that was the case) Conversely, I'm not a SAHM and I took their side just to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:59 AM
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And a few people did say they were stupid for staying home. Also, uninteresting, dumbasses, etc. I know you didn't, but others did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:49 PM
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Can you copy the post you're referencing? The one about no risk/my situation paying off because I'm smart? I really think you lost track of who posted what in all the various threads and subthreads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:47 PM
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Aren't we saying the same thing? Don't call women stupid for staying at home? I think you're confusing me with someone else when you tell me that I defensively use myself as an example of a mom who got lucky and that I called the ones who didn't stupid. I never said that. Also, OP's focus was the risk of SAH, and I want people to know there is risk to being a working mom too. She wasn't wrong, just incomplete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:20 PM
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I meant that SAHMs can be stupid just like anyone, but I didn't mean that the act of being one makes them stupid (or smart or average or any other assessment of their mental faculty). I actually think your question about this was a good one, and merited a clarification from me. Also, " Don't be stupid like me" has to mean, " Don't be stupid by doing SAH." It likely doesnt mean, "I SAH, don't be stupid and use the wrong turn signal." They were warning others not to SAH because of the stupidity of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:38 AM
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I think the OP also sounds condescending, like women whose goal is to stay at home are the stupid ones. Some SAHMs are stupid I suppose, but in reality, the pros and cons to staying at home are complicated, and the OP never considers that there might be smart, valid reasons why a woman would choose to do it. She also never speaks about how a SAHM might actually KNOW the financial risks and still choose to do it because she needs to balance other factors, such as being separated from her babies, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:48 AM
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He is older than you, makes more money than you, has sex with you, gets to live with you without marriage, but still takes 50 % of the rent and grocery money from you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:12 PM
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Good on you for not taking his crap. What kind of contract was it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:49 AM
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There is but it's private. I've seen posts from there, though, and it is super rare to see stories of abuse, neglect, and extreme irresponsibility on their wives' part. Most men talk about issues with jobs, inlaws, friends, etc. They also discuss kid issues like health, behavior, and development. The difference between subs is quite dramatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:11 PM
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But I still don't understand. Why did they date Asian women just because they couldn't get white ones? Like why were Asians their second choice? And why did Korean women accept them? Edit: clarity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:16 AM
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Don't tell them that you have dual citizenship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:07 AM
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Wall Street Journal article
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 10:54 PM
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Once a bf cooked some yummy pasta and meatballs for me, but after a few weeks his place started to stink like a rotten corpse. Oddly, the smell didn't bother him much. It wasn't until he moved out two months later that he realized ithe smell was from the extra meat in the fridge that he never threw away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:38 PM
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She did say it but then edited. She mentioned it in her reply to my comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:21 PM
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Story in the OP wasn't in a "less developed" nation. It was Japan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:28 AM
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I 've been lurking on this sub for a while now. I never had any intention of posting, but your journal writing was too powerful for me to remain silent. I can't believe how perfectly and beautifully you've expressed the very same things I've experienced and felt, that so many women have endured. We think of these things as normal, we think of our suffering for the sexual gratification of others as normal, and worst of all, we think of it as normal even when we are in "good" relationships with ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:53 AM
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