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dumbell81/r/askMRP03/11/23 12:56 PM
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dumbell81/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/18 03:08 PM
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OYS 3; UPDATE !! 42 old on my second marriage. 12 years. Now. 4 kids in total. Mission Be a strong loving man who lives from abundance. Lifting Solid week of lifting. Workout 6 days and did my daily cardio at 6am. A few old injures are bothering me but I do manage to get my workouts in. Sidebar. Current re reading no more Mr Nice guy. Book of blue pill professor. Rationale male. Athol Kay. And this forum of course. Mindset; overall my mindset was good. Last week i was feeling better and more foc…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 05:20 PM
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Oys The journey becomes more clear. 42 old on my second marriage. 12 years. Now. 4 kids in total. Mission Be a strong loving man who lives from abundance. Lifting Solid week of lifting. Workout 6 days and did my daily cardio at 6am. A few old injures are bothering me but I do manage to get my workouts in. Sidebar. Current re reading no more Mr Nice guy. Book of blue pill professor. Rationale male. Athol Kay. And this forum of course. Relationship. It was a week of internalizing. I a focused on l…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 07:37 PM
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I posted my first own in marriedredpill
/r/askMRP18/11/23 06:49 AM
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Oys #1 Where to begin. 42 old on my second marriage. 12 years. Now. 4 kids in total. Mission Be a strong loving man who lives from abundance. Physical. Been working out for more than 25 years now. Former semi bodybuilder but had to back off the heavy weights. Tor my peck off the bone and had a hernia in my back and neck. But still lifting every day. 10% bodyfat. Sidebar. Current re reading no more Mr Nice guy. Book of blue pill professor. Rationale male. Athol Kay. And this forum of course. Rela…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/23 06:47 AM
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I again want to thank you for your comments. They are really helpful. I just finished nmmng and started re-reading once more. There is some much in there that gives me the needed insight. I also listened to Rian Stone. Also really good. i come to realize that i dont operate from my own frame. I always think about the kids, the wife etc. I started letting go and started doing this just for me. I go out to the gym more often an night and basically trying to STFU more, quit DEER and focus on buildi…
/r/askMRP17/11/23 05:57 AM
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So true. Guilty on that part as well. Really hard to look back at my mistakes on so many parts. I always find it hard to reset every day and start over. I am finally starting to realize that I am only sabotaging myself even more when i do that
/r/askMRP07/11/23 07:08 PM
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I red your post five times. Really amazing. It super helpful. Especially the Becky anology is awesome. It's gives me so much insights. I will internalize it and go to work. I feel a lot lighter the last couple of days After some amazing feedback. I also gained a lot of insight on te reading nmmng. I feel like a have a lot of work to do. But see it a a chance to become a better version of myself. But this time for me. A version where I am in control and not the dancing monkey.
/r/askMRP07/11/23 02:24 PM
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Thank you very much for reply. This means a lot to me. I think you are exactly right. To much in here frame. The validation part is hard for me. Also rejection. The last couple of days hit me hard. Always playing a covert contract in my mind. Being angry etc. I gained a lot of insight. I also started re-reading NMMNG and starting from scratch. I am really focused on everything I do wrong but doing that also puts me in here frame. So I really have to shift gears and forget about here all together…
/r/askMRP06/11/23 01:50 PM
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Thanks for the tip. I Will look in to that ! Perfect. So true about the hints. I am tired. I really had a bad night. My neck hurts etc. And the dumbest part is that I engage. So useless. The more kino I seem to do the less it works. I really need to stop reacting or doing something to expect anything. Covert contract all over the place. I have to fix my self and do it for me. It’s a hard road. Especially being fun and engaging and expect nothing in return. I can be stuck in my head and full of a…
/r/askMRP04/11/23 06:23 PM
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Thanks for your insights! I will re-read nmmng. I still have covert contracts sometimes. Or the feeling she owes me something. But what always gets in my way is anger. It’s like she knows when I want to have sex and all of a sudden she is tired, and her necks hurt etc. Playing it cool or OI for me is hard after 2 weeks of no sex. I just have to let the expectations go. But when I do that I lose interest in game or kino. Why game or kino and be nice if nothing is coming back in return? She is nic…
/r/askMRP04/11/23 06:02 AM
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Thx for the insight!
/r/askMRP03/11/23 07:13 PM
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She wasn’t really initiating sex. It’s was just a cuddle. I think because I was distant all day and here hamster starting spinning
/r/askMRP03/11/23 04:39 PM
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To clarify. My problem is not my physical appearance. I was a semi bodybuilder. I have been working out since a was 16. So 26 years. I benched 140 kilo, squat was 180. But had to downsize because of a complete pec rupture. And a hernia. I still manage to lift 5 times a week and 5 times cardio. Lifting is my temple. The problem are internal. I know that and own that. I am just wondering what to improve on communication, kino, interactions and beta traits. I find that the most challenging to do. A…
/r/askMRP03/11/23 03:38 PM
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Thanks for the tips. Good one. There is to much tension in bed at night. If we do have sex it’s not that great. I think it’s better to stop initiating at bedtime. It’s going to be a bit difficulty with the kids and work etc but something has to change. I know she likes sex but I just have had such a bad strategy and some bad validation issues and butthurt behavior.. that’s she freezes when I touch here at night. I also need to work on my kino skills and initiating skills during the day...
/r/askMRP23/06/18 02:21 PM
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Last night i initiated sex but my wife felt pressured so I backed off. She was tense and felt guilty. I played it cool and turned around en we went to sleep. It’s the result of our last argument about sex. It’s like the normal sexual tension is gone and the pressure to have sex is killing the vibe. Any pointers on how to tackle that ?
/r/askMRP23/06/18 05:45 AM
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Thanks ! i find it hard to focus my attention to something else in the beadroom at night. If i get up then she sees it as butthurt and when i turn around i start thinking.. any tips on that ?
/r/askMRP22/06/18 12:47 PM
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thanks for the insite !
/r/askMRP22/06/18 12:45 PM
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Thanks for the insight faggot ;-) ! Good response !
/r/askMRP22/06/18 05:35 AM
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Thanks a lot ! This is really good stuff. I will start to make a list this weekend for things to do for myself. I think that can really help me a lot. Also I have to find something to do at night because that usually the time sex happends or not. I still find it hard to think about initiating sex. A part of me is still angry and fed up. I need to let go of that..
/r/askMRP22/06/18 05:34 AM
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I guess that’s a good point. Just need to put the pressure of things. But do you keep initiating sex ? Because i don’t really feel like that right now..
/r/askMRP22/06/18 04:50 AM
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Thanks a lot! I’m still to much thinking about the outcome of sex and getting stuck when I am rejected. I need to find a good strategy for something better to do when that happens ! Start thinking more about what matters to me !
/r/askMRP22/06/18 04:47 AM
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I have to become abundance to here I some way. I depend to much on what she thinks. What worked for you ?
/r/askMRP21/06/18 05:00 PM
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Thx for the response. How did you reach that point ?
/r/askMRP21/06/18 04:58 PM
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Pfff that’s tough...! Divorce ?
/r/askMRP21/06/18 04:53 PM
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I makes sense in my head but I hold on to much to the rejections. I do flirt with other woman and I know that I can get other woman but I am committed to my wife. I just want to kill the butthurt part
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/18 03:33 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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