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| 4 | circumcision needs to stop!31F, currently pregnant with my first baby, a girl. My husband and I decided we will NOT circumsize possible future son(s) unless medically necessary (which is rare). Circumcision is an issue being discussed among couples having kids, but it's not in the public discourse as much as it should be. I largely think it's because many men had that decision was made for them at birth. | /r/MensRights | 04/09/22 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Do you support a publicly accessible domestic violence offender registry, similar to the sex offender registry?No. IMO, false accusations of domestic violence are much, much more common than false rape accusations, especially in the messy context of breakups/child custody disputes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/22 06:25 PM |
| 1 | In what situation is it ok/ not ok for your partner to have friends of the opposite sex (or whatever they’re attracted to)My husband has 2 female friends that pre-date me by a long shot. One he has been friends with since high school, the other since he was 19 or 20. He's 41, I'm 31. He never dated these women, and they're both married to other men. I am not threatened, because they're amazing people, and I am objectively younger and more attractive than them. It's not a flirtatious relationship, and we are couple friends with her husband as well, have gone on trips together, etc. Depends on the relationship, lengt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/22 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Women, how often have you run into micro vs bigger dicks?I've seen one possible micropenis in an ex bf (I don't know the clinical definition of a micropenis). It was definitely under 3" hard, and the girth was narrow enough for me to assume he wasn't erect. Condoms were an issue, because I have a severe latex allergy, and all of them were so large on him they didn't stay on. Most penises I've witnessed were around 4.75-6.5", with a couple being just outside that range. I cannot say I've witnessed any 12" dongs IRL. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/22 05:09 PM |
| 4 | Are men truly capable of being selfless partners?I would say that a partner getting sick is the last straw for a lot of couples, particularly men. I personally know a couple that recently got divorced soon after the wife got diagnosed with ulcerative colitis (UC), and a form of arthritis in her mid-thirties. The guy was painted as the "bad guy" for leaving while she was down, but... they had been having issues for years, and had been in couple's therapy. If your spouse gets really sick and you run out of craps to give, your marriage is in trou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 05:50 AM |
| 3 | Q4ALL, What is wrong with current dating scene? and why do redpill men believe it's bad for the society?The book Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam describes much of what you discuss in your post, basically the degradation of social capital in the U.S. in the last 60 years or so. The decline of social capital also means that traditional ways of finding a spouse, such as church or social connections, are less likely to happen. However; Putnam focuses on the effect of declining social capital and the effects on politics/democracy/labor unions, etc., versus romantic affiliations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:15 PM |
| 5 | should society support or shame dumping good partner for a better one?This is my opinion as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/22 10:04 PM |
| 1 | pumping and dumping male vs femaleNever been "pumped and dumped", nor do I believe that I ever did that to someone else. It's definitely happened to friends of mine before. I did; however; go on a date with a guy who declined to tell me he was married. I never saw him again once I found out, and, fortunately, I never kissed or slept with him. Felt gross about it, though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/22 12:40 PM |
| 8 | In your experience, what are the signs that somebody is unhappy in their marriage?Signs of contempt, like people making jabs about their spouse in front of others. Yikes. When they're at a party, they are never near one another, and don't seem interested in what the other one is doing. A lack of any kind of normal physical affection: no holding hands, kisses, hugs, hand on lower back as she enters the door, gentle back rubs/heat pats, sitting closely on a couch, whispers in the ear, any kind of playful flirting. Instead, the body language is terse, or oddly platonic. They mig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/22 05:00 AM |
| 6 | In your experience, what are the signs that somebody is unhappy in their marriage?Outsiders don't know if a bedroom is dead, unless one of the partner's says so. Same with money troubles: some people compulsively spend to escape a shitty marriage, but their peers assume their finances are doing great. Weight gain from one partner can be a sign, as it can be a sign of stress, health issues, or fertility treatments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/22 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: In your experience, how many women reach their twenties as virgins and why do they?I was 20 when I lost my virginity. I simply never dated in high school, so having sex during high school would be ridiculous. Conservative parents + religious upbringing + fear of STD's/lack of birth control + I wasn't interested in the drama. I regret never going to prom, though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 07:08 AM |
| 1 | If a man asks you to dinner, is it wrong to accept if you have no intention of having a relationship with said man but instead to get free food?Yes, it's wrong. You are wasting both his time and money. It would be wrong if the roles were reversed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/22 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Question for coupled people: Where did you meet your partner?OLD (OkCupid). I was 23F, he was 33M. Met in 2014, married in 2016. He messaged me in an intelligent, genuine way, and we exchanged messages on the app for a few days. Eventually, I gave him my phone number and we talked on the phone. At the end of our first phone conversion, he asked if he could take me to dinner. We've been inseparable ever since. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 04:49 AM |
| 9 | Do you think that a culture of isolation, individualism and atomization has a role in reducing fertility rate?It certainly plays a role, yes. But I contend that the biggest barrier to the fertility rate is economic in nature. I am a millenial. Most of my friends have kids. A common party question is the "lottery winnings" question. You know what some of my friends would do if they won the lottery? Have more kids. I know a few that stopped at 2, but really wishes they could have 3, 4, or 5. But... money is tight. Daycare is expensive, and they can't afford a SAHP situation. They feel the responsible thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/22 07:07 AM |
| 4 | Men have no problem waiting for sex as long as other men had to alsoMost people don't really know their lovers' past on date 1 or 2. He'll, my husband and I didn't disclose our n-count until we moved in together 6 months in. I have never had a one night stand, and neither has he. There are legitimate reasons for waiting, largely to suss out if the gentlemen you are dating is boyfriend material vs. using you for sex. Or for STD precautions/testing. Or to see if the gentleman is a psycho or not. Or, if you enjoy BDSM sex like I do, to discuss boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/22 01:01 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: why do you want children knowing that science says that having kids makes women less happy?I am currently trying to get pregnant. Trying to nail my diet/nutrition, sleep well, lower my stress, absolutely no alcohol, etc. I want to be a mother, and I am married to a man who wants to be a father. I want to live for more than myself. I want to foster love and joy with a child, and... mother a child? Husband and I live in a 5 bedroom, 3 bath house with 2 people. We bought the house knowing we want kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 09:05 PM |
| 9 | If women don’t want to be approached at the gym, the grocery, the bar or in the dms - where are guys supposed to meet women?This is accurate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 06:51 PM |
| 3 | Men are a lot hornier than women, and this is the root cause of all of the issues in dating and gender relationsWomen dominate erotica/erotic romance novel sales, though. However; I agree with you: most women crave sexual release less frequently than men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/22 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Tattooed men are a part of the elite dating classI dislike tattoos. I don't have them, nor does my spouse. I know a couple women who loooove tats, but they are not the majority. Most women I know can take them or leave them. But, working for a hyperconservative firm (no colored hair, visible tats, gauges, etc.) probably colors my view, too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/22 11:22 PM |
| 6 | FDS and TRP were born and exist due to ugly people who's standards are too highThat is terrible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/22 03:55 PM |
| 3 | What do you think of this couple (attractive woman and disabled man)? Some have accused them of being a fake couple just to get views on Youtube. Is this a reasonable accusation?As strange as this might sound, she might have a fetish. I've heard of people fetishizing those in wheelchairs (typically paraplegics or amputees). I believe the term is called "devotees". Part of the reason I think this is plausible is that Hannah claims to not have had any prior serious romantic relationships before Shane (see article below). Who knows? Article: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-10444771/Inter-abled-couple-strip-underwear-opening-ableist-comments.html | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 07:03 AM |
| 3 | [Q4All] Do high value men use online dating?My husband and I met on OLD, and he meets all of these criteria. However; we met in 2014, so I've been out of the game for a little bit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 02:01 AM |
| 3 | Do you have any realistic ideas on how to solve the rising male loneliness problem?The orgasm gap in straight vs. lesbian women is insane. Not all straight guys refuse to consider their partners' enjoyment, but the ones that don't... Yikes. Sexual compatibility was not the only reason I moved in with/married my husband, but it was a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 01:39 AM |
| 2 | What should be the consequence of false paternityLet's pretend that this child is NOT the gentleman's daughter. While I am sympathetic to this woman's plight--single Mom with crappy career prospects and a little girl to care for--why is her plight her ex's problem, if he is not the Dad? If he is not the biological Dad, he should have the right to walk away and never see his ex or her daughter again. However; if this gentleman wishes to continue visitation and co-parenting of this child without paying child support, well, that's a no from me. A… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 09:15 PM |
| 1 | I feel like paternity tests should be done for every child at birth to prove who the father is or isn't.So, it sounds like your issue is the permitted timeline to contest paternity, no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 07:45 PM |
| 3 | Highest SMV Male CareerAs a accountant, that stings. I never dated a clinical psychologist or therapist, but I respect what they do. I know the graduate program is very rigorous, because my neighbor growing up did it. She's doing quite well, and subspecializes in children and adults on the autism spectrum. Dating a psychologist might make me feel... emotionally incompetant? Under a microscope? I definately view it as a good career, and believe psychologists should make decent spouses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 01:04 AM |
| 8 | Women who married shy/timid/cowardly men, how did it turn out for you both?My husband is reserved, somewhat shy, and introverted, but not timid nor cowardly. If you confront him, he won't cower, but he doesn't seek conflict. His reservedness has not stopped his career progression, nor his ability to love, seduce, and fuck me. Privately, he is sexually dominant, which might surprise people that meet him. In my opinion, it's going well. Almost 7 years together (5 years married), and we are trying to have a baby. Sex is still incredible, and our communication/conflict res… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/22 07:12 AM |
| 8 | What right or privilege do men possess that women don’t in 2022?Your example is certainly not minor. My example is simply an annoying lived experience. If you were ever fired for a minor comment, I am sorry that happened to you. However; getting shuffled between projects for reasons 100% outside of one's control (your gender) gets really old. I can 100% assure you that I have encountered male clients that are hostile to women, not just men speaking in a measured way. Basically, they refused to acquiesce to anything we asked, declined to answer questions, and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 05:13 AM |
| 14 | What right or privilege do men possess that women don’t in 2022?Working for in a small-ish public accounting firm as a woman has been a ride. Both female coworkers and myself have been treated poorly by male clients. Things like talking down to us, calling us "sweetheart", telling us that us ladies "make a fuss of things", or generally refusing to cooperate on the engagement because female CPA's were asking. This is painfully obvious when chauvinist clients direct all questions to male staff who are clearly not running the show. Unfortunately, I have never s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 03:51 AM |
| 2 | Which traits in a potential partner would you be willing to sacrifice?I am by no means a monolith in my preferences. But, it's not a coincidence that I married a man who has been told he has a good "radio voice". Just as some men like big butts/hips, I like voices. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/22 10:44 PM |
| 5 | Which traits in a potential partner would you be willing to sacrifice?I am going to vote height, muscular body, attractive face, and big dick as easy things we don't need to be happy in a long-term relationship. Or, at least, I don't need them to be happy in a relationship. Screetchy voice though? Strong pass. I am all about a good voice. 🙂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/22 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Lack of empathy for the opposite genderTherapists--and even psychiatrists--are absolutely allowed to be cash-pay only, both in the U.S. and in Canada. And there's a shocking number of them. At one point, when I was low, I saw a cash-pay psychiatrist (board-certified MD). Fortunately, I have not needed antidepressants for 7 years now, but he was good. The therapists I've seen in the past accepted my INS (again, this was many years ago), but I've also met therapist tax clients who don't accept insurance. The cash pay model is especiall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Lack of empathy for the opposite genderFirst, I am so sorry that happened to you. I don't doubt that there are rules therapists should abide by, but I've been personally told by a therapist that a nice thing about being cash pay only/established in their practice is they get to pick and choose their clients carefully. And... that many of these therapists choose women. Or cash-pay (no insurance) couples counseling, because it is 💰. 🤷♀️ In the U.S. of A. Sounds like a possible ethics violation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 04:06 PM |
| 7 | Lack of empathy for the opposite genderI don't 100% know, tbh. I don't work in that field. Like other posters have said, safety fears is my best guess. Many therapists see clients in their home, basically coverting an extra bedroom into a dedicated office vs. renting an office space. If that's the case, a disturbed client knowing where you live puts both you and your family at risk. Concerned spouses might be a factor here, too. I know that in the U.S. metro where I live (Phoenix), therapists/therapy groups often have wait lists, but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 03:51 PM |
| 56 | Lack of empathy for the opposite genderBoth sexes deal with different issues, on average, that stem from biological, economical, and sociological realities. Some women have much better lives than other women, and the same can be said for men. I don't think that keeping score of male vs. female struggles is an effective use of our mental energies. Many people live life on hard mode, and it sucks. However; I agree with some of the commenters that the empathy gap is real: society does not treat men who are struggling with the same empat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 04:46 AM |
| – | Is anyone happily married? (longterm)I have been married 5 years, together for 8, so I don't exactly meet your criteria, but here it goes. I am happy in my marriage. We are currently trying to have a baby, so that's a stressor we have not faced together. But I feel like we've planned it for years and are ready. My husband and I are highly sexually compatible, and still prioritize sex (4 days per week, on average), 8 years later. We are also compatible in other ways: financial priorities, hobbies, and goals. We both want 1 or 2 chil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 11:40 PM |
| 3 | If a man asked you about how be more successful with women, what avices would you give him?3 is so true! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 11:46 PM |
| 7 | If a man asked you about how be more successful with women, what avices would you give him?Stop apologizing for who you are, and don't try to change your colors to complement the person you want to pursue. I love video games, and so does my husband. Unfortunately, his exes tried to stamp this hobby out of him. This won't make you more successful, per se, but you might be happier with who you end up with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 05:52 PM |
| 1 | You're now the head of society , you can make 5 laws related to correcting the wrongs you see in the society regarding The so called "Battle of the Sexes". What laws do you pick?I support #1 completely. I don't get why kids aren't tested after they're born. Why is this not routine? #2, 100%. #3 - I agree the spousal support/alimony system needs work. But I question the provability of whose fault the marraige dissolution was? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 12:49 AM |
| 1 | You're now the head of society , you can make 5 laws related to correcting the wrongs you see in the society regarding The so called "Battle of the Sexes". What laws do you pick?Can you clarify the reasoning behind #3? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 12:39 AM |
| 6 | You're now the head of society , you can make 5 laws related to correcting the wrongs you see in the society regarding The so called "Battle of the Sexes". What laws do you pick?I agree. It reminds me of the Ferengi in Star Trek... They have marraige contracts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Which Family dynamic do you think is better overall?This is tough. I personally believe option 2 is better for the kids and the parents' marraige. Having someone who cooks, cleans, takes care of kids, and handles home deletes a source of common arguements for a couple with 2 FT jobs and kids. However; $80k is not enough, for my life. I am getting my IUD removed in March 2022 with the intent for my spouse and I to get pregnant. I'm 31F, and he is 41M. This year marks 8 years of being together and 5 years of marriage. We have put off having kids no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/22 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Which Family dynamic do you think is better overall?I see you've also The Two Income Trap by Elizabeth Warren (and her daughter). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/22 09:02 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themWhat I meant is that her pics match what she looks like IRL. Some people complain about meeting people who are 50 lbs. heavier IRL vs. their pics (super old pics). What I am saying is her pics are accurate to her appearance; she's not unintentionally catfishing people. I agree that she is somewhat shy and is struggling to connect. She was raised Mormon, and left the church after college, so that might be a factor in 'jiving' with others. I honestly think she has no idea on how to flirt and isn't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you think rejection is something only men should experience?Both sexes need to experience rejection, and learn to dish it and take it with grace. What I don't like is watching female friends get ghosted. Most women would prefer men straight up tell them that they're not feeling it. Your office manager is being creepy. You've said no a few times; she needs to move on. If it continues, she needs a talkin' to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 11:04 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI don't know the stats of who she's rejected by and who's she accepted by. She's a woman, so she mostly relies on guys pursuing her. She gets dates sporadically; the guys just never show interest after that. I think she puts forth a lot of effort to read/respond to messages, ask guys out, create a thoughtful profile, check her profile on the regular, etc., and yet does OLD hasn't netted her a much of anything. She's been ghosted many times by guys she goes on 1 or 2 dates with, then no communica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Height increasing shoes morally deceptive or nah?I'm 5'7" and I have been taller than guys on OLD claiming to be 5'7". I don't care about a guy being shorter than me. My Dad was shorter than my Mom. However; lifted shoes reek of insecurity. And I like secure, dominant men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 11:48 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever asked a guy out or made the first move?Two things happen when a reasonably attractive woman romantically approaches a man: a) he is flattered and b) he is suspicious. Men I messaged accused me of being a robot? Some guys view women who message them as being desperate or sexually aggressive? Guys replied, exchanged messages with a purposeful fade out without meet-up plan. One said I wasn't what he was looking for, but I didn't press as to what he meant. Of the guys I messaged, only 2 became a date, both were good men, but we mutually … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 11:40 PM |
| 1 | What features make a guy physically unattractive?This made me giggle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 11:26 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever asked a guy out or made the first move?I have, both on OLD and in-person. It never worked out. I eventually accepted that I was to be pursued. Then, one of my pursuers became my husband. However; 100% of the men I messaged on OLD at least responded to my message, but none of the dates led to anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 11:17 PM |
| 1 | What Physical Characteristics would make Looksmaxing Pointless?31F, (mostly) heterosexual, married. For me, it's the voice. I love a good voice, and married a man whose voice makes me swoon. I can't be attracted to guys with voices I dislike. I also like a man to have some facial hair/body hair. Hairless guys don't do it for me. I have dated shorter guys (I'm 5'7"), balding guys, and slightly overweight guys when the sexual compatibility was possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 11:02 PM |
| 3 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themIn my opinion, she's dated mostly 3's and 4's. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:29 PM |
| 6 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themBut she was on OLD in her twenties, like I was. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:11 PM |
| 7 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than them31F, married to a man I met on OLD since 2016 here. A good friend of mine is 34, single, mentally and financially stable, and a 3/10 on looks. She loves video games and crafts, and is social. She struggles on OLD, and is ghosted a lot. I know that there's someone out there that would be lucky to have her, and I know it's not her standards: she's dated men who make substantially less money than her, even one with a physical disability. OLD favors women under 29 who are at least a 7/10. I don't kn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Importance of father involvementThe foster care system exhausts parental connections before seeking foster parents. That's why they are in foster care, FFS. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 05:05 PM |
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