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1	According to a 2020 study, the rate of 18- to 24 year old men who had no sex in the past year jumped from 18.9% in 2002 to 30.9% in 2018, while women's respective rate only went from 15.1% to 19.1%. This confirms the recent trend that women are having more sex with the same men. I think this is a self fulfilling prophecy as men who have more sex, become more desirable and better at the process. I think this is the way it’s always been for the most part but with a couple caveats that have changed things. OLD, has put this whole thing mentioned as well as the discrepancy in top males getting bulk of females has been amplified tremendously. Likewise this concept spreads beyond OLD and into social media and technology in general then causes this same mechanism to stretch ou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/22 12:06 AM
0	EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the difference There is so much nuance needed in this take and it really hinges on the crux in difference of perspective of almost the same thing. From one perspective you have two frustrated, bitter and untrusting partners. The same exact thing with a shift in perspective equals “in love”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/22 04:31 PM
2	For the regulars that debate here and often lock horns, Why? Great question. One that she be posted in a ton of threads at least once a week. I want to learn and be corrected when my views are off. I want people who have ignorant biases in either direction to embrace nuance and improve their perspective. There is a reason that all of the red pill/blue pill/purple pill/black pill/fem/lib/incel groups have taken off. People are frustrated. People want and need truth and clarity. Iron sharpens iron. And ultimately I want to help people. Not see my views nece…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/22 03:13 PM
1	Why do modern studies show that men have more sexual partners than women. Because men and women lie about their sexual experiences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/22 06:47 PM
2	Women fuck emotionally distant men, and keep "good communicators" in the friendzone this will be my last response, and we can simply agree to disagree. and if any man reads this and would like some help or advice, free of charge, dm me. Only caveat, is that I will not argue with you. If you are stuck in your beliefs that things are not attainable for you or some and are attainable for others, than you can simply stay where you are with that belief system. For women, the line is blurry between "resource attraction and sexual attraction" and while I sort of agree that they can be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/22 12:26 AM
2	Women fuck emotionally distant men, and keep "good communicators" in the friendzone Again, wrong. Sort of. Truth is, everyone is attracted to different things. People, aside from parent/baby relationships, are transactional and conditional in nature. That is ok. Not right or wrong, simply is. There is a difference between gold digger types and womens biological nature to be attracted to a man that can provide resources for her and her offsprings survival. You or this hypothetical "he" would be better served at instead of being resentful of others. Whether it is men who are gett…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/22 11:47 PM
2	Women fuck emotionally distant men, and keep "good communicators" in the friendzone negative pessemistic ghost rider. He can make himself attractive enough to attract strong desire in an attractive female. *As long as he is not being unrealistically idealistic. Even then, most dudes can catch way out of their league with a little bit of work. (Mindset/body/controllable appearance)	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/22 11:15 PM
1	Women fuck emotionally distant men, and keep "good communicators" in the friendzone Status/Stature (fame, confidence, social status, physical stature) > Wealth (or potential for wealth) > Charisma/Charm > Looks (can include hygiene, style, etc.) *NOT limited to natural looks, but moreso presentation -Muscles, good posture, ability to fight or look strong or tough fall into both stature and looks, and will likely positively affect the other two categories. So go to the gym.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/22 10:29 PM
0	Women fuck emotionally distant men, and keep "good communicators" in the friendzone disagree. I believe ANY man, who is willing to do some work can make himself "attractive-enough-ish". Fortunately for men as opposed to women, is that women are more attracted to arbitrary vague features. Communication is one of those features. But it is NOT female communication. It is male/female intersexual communication, which can be learned.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/22 10:17 PM
-3	Alex DatePsych deconstructs the idea that women are liars and will try to completely hide their wild sex lifes due to social desirability Read the thread and the guy does the same thing as redpill. He takes the data and then lists off a bunch of assumptions. ie (paraphrase) "men have higher libidos so are more likely to cheat in a perfectly good relationship" So will women for other reasons. I will dig more into his stuff, but on the surface, looks like he is just trying to cash in on a new contrarian market. But I didnt see much in this thread that disproves the concept in the subject line.	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/22 03:00 AM
3	Swiss Cheese Masculinity and The Romantic Ideal The issue is not wether they are cut from the same cloth or not. The issue is that someone clever came up with the term toxic masculinity. Masculinity is not good or bad. It is energy, demeanor. It can fuel positive or negative behavior. It’s amazing how the same people that want gender to be a concept also want to label what is acceptable and unacceptable in terms of masculinity. There is toxic and positive behaviors. Attaching the concept of masculinity to it is an effort to dampen the natural…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/22 11:56 PM
2	Is redpill really that bad? Not something to necessarily be bugged about. It just comes down to finding a partner that is self aware, which in today’s society is extremely difficult. An element of truth from red pill and hypergamy is that people generally men) want to be loved for who they are, being themselves. But the truth is that love will get you destroyed because it will be temporary at best. We literally have hormones that makes us see with goggles that wear off after a certain amount of time, both sexes. Where red …	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/22 02:03 PM
1	Is redpill really that bad? Not exactly. There are elements of biological evolution that make it much more cold and complicated than what you outlined. And that is where redpill gets it right. But how it’s presented and the responses to that truth is where tenets of red pill get it wrong.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/22 01:53 PM
2	Is redpill really that bad? I agree. Hence why I’m here. Still valid. And still something to contend with.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/22 01:51 PM
-14	Is redpill really that bad? Hypergamy is a real and valid thing.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/22 04:08 AM
1	How do some guys get laid or dates without having to make much effort or doing anything special? 100% I’ve had so many women basically “fall in love” because I’m standing there talking to them, sweating, stumbling over my words, trying my best to make eye contact, etc. but still just standing there and doing it. It says “I’m obviously terrified and/or inexperienced, but I find you valuable or attractive enough to face my fears and continue to try whatever I can” This communicates (even without money/muscles/looks, etc) that, “I am a bad ass m’fer that is willing to be embarrassed and go aft…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/22 02:25 AM
3	How do some guys get laid or dates without having to make much effort or doing anything special? To those who are giving all of the rebuttals to the woman offering a solid perspective: listen. Listen to not only what she is saying, but also listen to your own replies and the replies of the other people making excuses. Things you can’t change: not much, outside of looks, but even those you for sure can bring up. And women are less visual than man. Not completely, but less so. Things you can change/skills you can learn: -improve your physique/mindset/discipline/health by choosing to educate y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/22 02:10 AM
3	This trend of women feeling entitled to a man of much higher SMV will end up with a lot of women getting cheated on and/or replaced. What I have noticed is this: (Very anecdotal with many generalizations) -as many have said people who cheat are all across the board and aren’t really equivalent to SMV or anything like that. However what is happening is really natural biology & sexual evolution on steroids. So the women are able to get date/meet & hook up much higher up. But it usually will not go much further than that. Because men are also realizing this dynamic they are simply “playing along” and getting the easy interaction…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/22 05:13 PM
8	The online popularity of redpill is just weird and kinda creepy The main problem is that red pill kind of like “feminism” is too vague of a term now and includes too many different view points. There are elements of red pill that are simply facts. Wether through evolutionary biology or psychology, there are just certain “truths” that contradict culture and many peoples behaviors. That and the element of a lot of young guys and solid women are noticing men finding self esteem and masculinity and as such, healthy polarity. The problem, is it is being picked up…	/r/ExRedPill	18/08/22 02:22 AM
8	My boyfriend loves my legs more than me... For me there is a fine blurry often overlapping line between the visual attraction and emotional connection attraction. I can’t speak for your man, or other men in general, but even if I find a woman really hot that waxes and wanes based on the connection of the relationship. In other words, the closer and more connected I get to a partner the more visually and physically attracted I become. Personally, I think that’s healthy and natural. There would be some exceptions for others though, if a ma…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/08/22 11:30 PM
2	Would things really be "better off" if women were more brutally honest about what they like/find attractive? (*for the most part) Women want 2 different things at 2 different times. As a result of this biological imperative and societal expectation, they are left with internal cognitive dissonance. So for the most part they cannot even accurately describe what they want. And if a women is self aware to this fact, and aware of the attraction mechanisms of both, she still would not disclose it as it would hinder suitors from both types.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/22 04:00 AM
1	Redpill and ex-redpill both need to lose their relationship with the just world fallacy. I 100% agree. And I believe this is a massive problem with current humanity at large, in almost every topic/issue.	/r/ExRedPill	12/08/22 02:18 AM
2	Redpill and ex-redpill both need to lose their relationship with the just world fallacy. Here’s some nuance. All points can be true to varying degrees. The 2 perspectives you said that were based on fallacy: unfortunately there is enough merit to them (in median and generalizations) that they are proven by results but often interpreted one way or the other on the biased eye of the beholder. The more dogmatic/realistic point of view you present is also valid, and does happen in the real world. And is also healthy. But unfortunately is also outlier based.	/r/ExRedPill	12/08/22 01:43 AM
9	A Male Perspective: Why to stay away from porn sick men This is an issue and sub issue affecting a large population of the culture at large. I have found the more I grow and heal in my attachment style and view towards relationships/sex/intimacy, that making a deep romantic connection with another person is harder and harder to obtain. You can have different levels of all sorts of things, but when you try to dig deeper people generally wall up or run. It is not to difficult to have surface level/casual or even fake intimacy. But on an encouraging not…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/22 03:24 PM
5	Women really dislike autistic men Personally (as someone w/Aspergers), who has put in a lot of work in the dating realm: I’m not saying your experience is wrong, but I think it’s that way for a lot of men (regardless of spectrum) w/ a lot of women. Our modern dating culture + feminism + normalization of narcissism and bpd traits, has caused a tidal wave of expectation mainly female facing male (hetero). Where hypergamy is amplified and rampant. Speaking with many neuro typical male counterparts, their experience is very similar …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/22 07:43 PM
7	Stoicism - What it is, what it is not, and how it relates to frame 1 thing you can do for frame is meditate. Meditation will bring self awareness. And self awareness will allow you to perceive when you are out of frame. From there it is a constant choice/practice to re-center frame or weaken your ability to do so.	/r/TheRedPill	09/08/22 02:15 AM
13	Fiancé’s hygiene could be better Tell him nicely and directly. Give him extra attention when he is up to par, and likewise establish a boundary (kindly) when he is not. He sounds very similar to me. While I am very intentional with hygiene, etc. For me, if I was on the road, I would just be often exhausted and caught up in the not knowing where to sleep/next shower was coming, and would clean up when I had a chance. That bled into “the real world” when I would be caught up with work and life demands and that mindset, of “get wo…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/22 11:47 PM
2	Women only play hard to get with men who have no options, dating her is easy when she's actually interested It’s just practice, observation, repetition. Reading up on subconscious body language. Looking for micro expressions. People are often very truthful with their body language. From there, it is a process of “taking risks” and recalibrating. For example if you think you are being shown interest, approach/speak. Women are often passive but willing to go as far as they made up their mind they are willing to in any given moment. Your job is to believe that. Then proceed if that’s the case. But like I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/22 01:52 PM
2	Women only play hard to get with men who have no options, dating her is easy when she's actually interested I agree with this generally. But often times a female who is very interested will play a little hard to get simply because it makes her feel good, feminine, validated. Most, if not all, women want to be wanted by a higher status man. But simultaneously want to feel pumped up by being made to feel like the prize worthy of pursuit. It’s a tricky little thing. But I do agree for the most part. If she is interested it won’t be games or overtly difficult. The whole thing gets very easy for men when t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/22 12:28 AM
8	Being "a good listener" made me prone to being 'friend zoned' A lot of people are emotionally unavailable and subconsciously attracted to emotionally unavailable. As a result when you show genuine care or start to make a genuine connection a lot of people will lose attraction. It takes either a healthy attachment style or a person who is self aware and open and willing to be present emotionally as well as receiving emotionally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/22 04:11 PM
2	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? I think I look like a normal middle aged white dude. Bald head/beard. Blue eyes, 6’ 200lbs, fit. A couple arm tattoos. Nose is a little crooked and I’m missing a couple teeth. Very awkward at times, extremely charming at times, withdrawn introspective a lot. Sometimes mumble, overly stare to compensate for shift eyes. But I don’t care about any of it. Good or bad. People are people. There is much to connect with. That’s the truth of the matter. Have fun. Talk, show interest, be kind. Be clear wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/22 02:16 PM
1	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? Also totally didn’t mean to hijack OPs thread with an impromptu AMA. But I do feel I have a lot of experience that can help a lot of people who are having difficulty in this realm. So much of it is simply shifting perspective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/22 02:53 AM
1	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? I’ve been told that I’m better looking than I give myself credit for. But I don’t think my looks are better than a 6 or 7 on a scale to 10. I’m 42, bald. I do workout and am usually in decent shape. I have kids from a previous marriage and have a bunch of child support so not rich by any means. But I am musician (guitar/rock). I try to be kind to people and learn about them. I try to be always here honest, including my intentions in any relationship. I also have a pretty decent sense of humor. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/22 02:52 AM
2	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? I’m 42. I’ve had 3 long term relationships and tons of casual relationships. Right now I’m in an entanglement that I’m not sure which direction it will go. But I know a whole lot about dating. Personally I think it’s fun from our perspective. I’ve studied a ton of psychology, especially in the realm of male/female hetero dating and mating. To the point I want to figure out a way to help others & make a semi career out of it. I think I have lots of insights that would be beneficial to people on t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 11:24 PM
1	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? I took a generic questionnaire with my GP and the. Followed up with my therapist. Both were of the same conclusion that I’m definitely high function/Asperger-ish/on the spectrum. But both also communicated that it is also difficult to diagnose adults. And that the tests simply shine light on what is most likely. Because I’ve adapted so many “normie” behaviors, there really isn’t much in way of treatment, etc. At this point it is simply about understanding myself and how my brain functions, which…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 10:27 PM
1	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? Yes/no. It depends or maybe better described as complicated. I wrote out a whole deal but then deleted it. I can be too candid at times. But maybe I ask why you ask and then can follow up with a more appropriate response.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 10:19 PM
0	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? Not exactly. In your example nuance would be needed. Because sometimes is/sometimes isn’t. But from what I can tell in how you’ve represented yourself, I’d say the shoe fits. It does appear to be that you are a miserable person because you are a miserable person. I could be wrong though, you may truly be more afflicted than anyone who has ever lived.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 08:38 PM
0	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? It means you are not a victim. Life is what you make it. Regardless of your challenges. Autism is not your biggest challenge, your attitude and perspective is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 07:02 PM
1	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? About 6 years ago. I was struggling with ADHD, low T, among other things and was going to therapy. Couldn’t figure out why I kept repeating certain patterns and had certain struggles in areas that seemed like other people didn’t have. Took some tests with my dr and 2 of them indicated a was in the 96th percentile of Aspergers. Which is pretty high considering overall I’m very high functioning. But it made me understand myself and my growing up dramatically. It helped me increase my self compassi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 06:30 PM
1	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? It’s your choice how you deal with your situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 06:23 PM
2	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? I doubt anything will make you feel better, you have made and are very dug into your choice on how you want to feel and see the world.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 06:11 PM
1	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? I’m not saying your situation isn’t challenging. But it’s simply that a challenge. You listed off a lot of things you can’t do and where people aren’t. What are some things you can do and where people are? You think there are no romantically happy autistic people in this world? Do you think there are people in this world with greater challenges than you that have found love and dates? There are lots of people out there that are not autistic, that have money and good looks and are making excuses …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 06:05 PM
1	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? That’s not what I’m saying. OLD is one thing. But you can educate yourself about that process as well and spruce up your presentation to stand out. But let’s say you are super ugly, and no picture would work. Ok. So OLD is out. What next? Lay in bed with yourself? or find a social group/environment. Or class to enroll in, dancing, photography, whatever Go the gym, learn a martial art. Do something, anything to better yourself and force yourself to be around other people. If you do this, I guaran…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 04:18 PM
2	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? Lol. Gee whiz, what pics would you like? I always wonder how candid I should be in my attempts at offering help. I’ll say this. No matter what you look like, how weird you are, if you are bold, confident and take risks you will have higher value. Also, friends and romantic interests alike, will likewise respond positively to those who are giving them positive encouraging effort. Like attracts like, it takes being a friend to have a friend.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 04:11 PM
3	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? This is good to hear. I think we are fortunate to not be diagnosed until later in life. It just made us seem different as opposed to a label with connotations, both from others and us internally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 04:06 PM
3	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? Unfortunately for you, you are believing negative false narratives instead of looking for what is possible. This is ego protection. You will get what you want when it hurts more to stay the same than it does to take the risk to get what you want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 04:04 PM
19	Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world? I have Aspergers. I also have a very high notch count (triple digits). I have often been told “you are the weirdest person I’ve ever met.” I’ll tell you a little of my experience and maybe there is something you can take away. But 1st you have to identify what you want: love, sex, family, and/or some combination of those. Then educate yourself on those processes, dating, romance, etc. let it become your special interest for a while. For me, I moved around a lot as a kid and was undiagnosed, so I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 02:11 PM
1	Why are single women more likely to be happy being single then single men? Options.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/22 04:27 AM
1	no teasing or push/pull I agree that words/language are very important and I also share the sentiment of the value of intimacy. Maybe it’s simply a difference of opinion around semantics. But maybe not, maybe it is a little depersonalizing, but not necessarily in a bad way. If I’m talking about a specific demographic with generalizations, I’m not holding them all to the degree of intimacy. Not they don’t all have unique value and worth, but in the subtext there isn’t that correlation.	/r/seduction	02/05/22 02:19 AM
1	If girls see that other girls they know/associate with are interested in a guy then they themselves will be interested in that guy (not always but I’d say frequently) even if they initially did not think that guy was attractive themselves Fair point. Still an interesting observation of the comparison mentality and how it affects behavior.	/r/seduction	29/04/22 06:09 PM
20	If girls see that other girls they know/associate with are interested in a guy then they themselves will be interested in that guy (not always but I’d say frequently) even if they initially did not think that guy was attractive themselves I had an inverse of this opposite experience. I was with a girl that many other girls saw as “a threat”. We were together for a few months and it was bumpy. When we ended, she was clearly upset, but told the other girls that I was “really nice, but emotionally immature and they probably shouldn’t sleep with me because I’ll get clingy”. This wasn’t true, it was simply her flakiness was hard to wrangle and eventually caused the deal to end. But as she went around telling the other girls, it was li…	/r/seduction	29/04/22 01:32 AM
0	no teasing or push/pull No reason, other than they are females. Sometimes is the best descriptor when describing generalized male/female dynamics. And usually when I’m referring to men or guys it’s a reference of my hetero point of view as “us”. When describing generalizations of females/girls/women, it is more often referring to “them”. And I use them interchangeably, with not much thought other than using females as a larger generalization of female behavior that would encompass both girls and women. I’ve seen commen…	/r/seduction	28/04/22 11:53 PM
1	no teasing or push/pull If you can tease a girl (or anyone in any setting for that matter) and allow them to understand it is playful. It will be successful. Especially instantly. And I know that and I don’t even do a lot of teasing. I just know how effective it is and why.	/r/seduction	28/04/22 03:27 AM
1	no teasing or push/pull I’m not talking about fear in sense of danger. One thing most men don’t recognize is for a lot of females it is worse to be not seen than it is to be ogled. And when they are approached their first fear is if they are pretty or funny enough. Most girls even though they can come across as confident and have much more experience with the exchanges, are more timid than scared shitless men.	/r/seduction	28/04/22 03:25 AM
0	no teasing or push/pull The way teasing works is like this: 1st you have to understand that almost every male/female interaction starts with the female being more afraid than you are and her judging her own self worth (until you prove to her otherwise in either direction) 2nd, you have to think when you as a male were young and hanging with new male friends and one of them made fun of you, but you all laughed and were really close after -what happened there? they pointed out an insecurity or something to make you vulne…	/r/seduction	28/04/22 02:39 AM
7	If you were cheated on in your marriage what were the signs your wife/ex wife gave before you found out. She sounds like garbage. Go through the hell, pain of break up. Figure out co-parenting as amicably as you can. Rebuild your esteem. Re-Find yourself and be true to that. You are worthy and you will make it to the other side. I believe in you. It doesn’t matter if she’s having/had an affair or not at this point. You deserve better and better is out there longing for you to find her. Love you dude. Big hugs. Be better than she has made you feel. Be better than you are now. Be a beast.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/22 02:56 AM
2	This idea that women are racking up high body counts at a young age is greatly exaggerated, most women have fewer than 10 sexual partners in their entire lives I’ve been pretty engrained in two polarized social communities. The more liberal leaning I would say the average n count of females in their 30s is easily between 40 & 50. The more rural conservative community I would say leans more towards 10-20. The problem with these types of surveys is you have a lot of honest women saying their n count is between 2 & 6, and a lot of dishonest women with n counts of 60+ saying it is between 5&20.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/22 03:24 AM
4	Why do people use the term "deserve" within an entirely free social dynamic like dating? I had a causal relationship where the girl wanted more than I was offering, as it was ending she said “I deserve better” my reply was, “no, you want different.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/22 07:47 PM
1	Do you care about a guy's "number" if so what ranges are do you prefer? I see this question asked often. And the answers are mostly 1-10 ish. But I would argue, very few of those who respond with those #s. Would turn down the opportunity to date Leonardo DiCaprio or Brad Pitt Or a famous musician or professional athlete. I’ve had an opportunity to be around some of these types of individuals and I have also seen every single female morph into a brain scrambled little girl in the presence of a dominant, charismatic and usually wealthy and/or handsome and/or athletic …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/22 02:53 PM
2	I'm very new to all these pills but red pill seems very convincing. Can women in this sub refute the following claims ? This is a problem with red pill. Not red pill in itself but the community and the ongoing thesis. There are a few fundamental agreed upon staples. But a lot is conjuncture anecdotal opinions. There is much truth in many of these opinions, but the generalization of them makes the messages lose the audience. There is a need for nuance. Instead of cherry picking a few points it would be much more productive to state a theory that seems to be reliable based on biological initiatives as well as a mou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/22 02:43 PM
0	Now that women have been sexually liberated, most men will always be sexually frustrated I think there is some truth and good points here. However, like a lot of things there is much more nuance that goes into this type of overreaching statement. This is more a reply to some of the similar binary responses I’ve seen here. Women will date up, they will fuck Chads. Even if they default to “their league” for monogamy, there is a simple formula when it comes to female behavior in regards to dating and mating. It is: what is the absolute best I can get right now, what is the absolute bes…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/22 06:31 PM
–	I feel like paternity tests should be done for every child at birth to prove who the father is or isn't. Wait. So there are laws in place, that if a man (who thinks a child is his) signs a birth certificate and/or begins to care and provide for a child, but then finds out through DNA the child is not his, is still legally responsible?!	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/22 02:07 AM
5	Why Do You Think Most Men Instinctively Care About N Count? I think it’s based more on one simple concept (a generalization). Because men are suitors and females are choosers, it shows a certain level of lack of discretion. While there are some females that are simply high libido and do use discretion and may not want the trappings of a traditional relationship, these might be high quality women that end up with a high n count. But again, generally speaking, it moreso shows a lack of self control when met with a need for validation or a litany of other n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/22 02:40 AM
1	Why do women gas up unattractive/ugly women? It has a lot to do with biology. From an evolutionary or scientific standpoint: Women are tribe natured and more importantly emotional beings. As such they subconsciously recognize the need to build each other up, if you are building up the emotional strength of the tribe the tribe is stronger and has better success at taking care of each other in reproductive or other survival type needs. Plus the law of reciprocity, women know they need that validation and encouragement when they are trying to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/22 09:46 PM
1	Got unmatched on a dating site for returning an assumption about my daughter Tell me you can’t understand nuance, without telling me you can’t understand nuance.	/r/MensRights	01/01/22 05:12 PM
2	Got unmatched on a dating site for returning an assumption about my daughter I think we are getting somewhere. Because no, I don’t subscribe that a man doesn’t cry, etc etc. But the inverse is equally if not worse for the state of a man. It’s not black and white and needs nuance. But polarizing men into macho fools or fem metro soy boys. Are both (and in my opinion intentionally) destroying the concept of real men. I think what makes a “man” a “real man” centers more around character and responsibility. However, I also believe in traditional gender, while being willing t…	/r/MensRights	31/12/21 08:28 PM
-1	Got unmatched on a dating site for returning an assumption about my daughter I do kind of see what you are saying now. But, even then, If you are single, it would be more of an assumption that you have full custody. Not for any reason other than that’s generally how things are. That doesn’t make it right or wrong, or her good or bad. A women should want to know how often you get to see your daughter. It shows your mental health, your availability for dating. It shows if you are bitter towards and ex. It is a great question. And if you would look at it from a different pe…	/r/MensRights	31/12/21 04:19 PM
-1	Got unmatched on a dating site for returning an assumption about my daughter To each their own I suppose. Most people have some level of hypocrisy.	/r/MensRights	31/12/21 04:15 PM
-2	Got unmatched on a dating site for returning an assumption about my daughter I disagree. Men not being men and thinking the world is out to get them is why men are treated like shit. It may not seem like it, but I am on your side, I have been under these types of mindsets. Modern feminism has castrated men and turned their natural mind inside out. I know my wording in my previous post was really harsh and maybe a bit tacky. But it doesn’t change the truth. I am a champion for mens rights. I have been wrecked by the courts regarding custody and child support. But at the e…	/r/MensRights	31/12/21 04:14 PM
-26	Got unmatched on a dating site for returning an assumption about my daughter Lol. Getting downvoted. Ok. Hold onto yalls victim mentality and come back here and use your sexless tears to circle jerk.	/r/MensRights	31/12/21 05:26 AM
-25	Got unmatched on a dating site for returning an assumption about my daughter I think, there is a little defensiveness in this thread. What I have found from that question is the opposite intention. They want to spend time with you and want to know if you are going to have enough time availability in the event they become attached. All men reading this: please stop assuming the worst. Women like you and want you, and will tolerate and jump through all sorts of hoops. But if you are defensive and projecting they will be so turned off that there is no redeeming it. Hence mo…	/r/MensRights	31/12/21 03:31 AM
1	The whole thing about women’s only gyms No one said clothing = invitation. No one is quoting statistics outside of anecdotal observations. I’ve been working out in gyms for 20+ years. And the majority of females dress in a way that has little to do with comfort and is almost always centered around fashion and or appearing desirable. And most females, if speaking honestly, will admit that they dress in a way to get the attention of men they desire. These are facts.	/r/MensRights	28/12/21 12:30 PM
14	The whole thing about women’s only gyms Maybe slightly controversial take: Womens only gyms won’t sustain financially. They might have a small loyal base. But most women that go to the gym, want to be seen by men. Yes there are creepers. Yes there are those that make it uncomfortable. And there should definitely be etiquette. But most women, proven by how they dress (in a gym or anywhere) are willing to take the risk of being ogled by creepers if they can be seen as attractive by men they find attractive. One lesson I have learned, is…	/r/MensRights	27/12/21 06:34 PM
11	Shoot. Your. Shot. There is something of merit here. There are many many women, who want to interact, get laid, etc. But they want very little involvement in the process leading up to it. They want you to: -initiate the conversation -keep it going (even after several full stops) -exchange numbers/move to text/call -set up a meet/date (pick the place/time) *pro tip pick a place early evening, close to their place -lead the conversation, pace of drinks, time to close out, and kiss them, and to nonchalantly invite yo…	/r/seduction	05/12/21 05:11 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey I can tell you're being needy by your replies and thought process. If I can tell, girls can tell 10x. Your neediness can be: a want for sex. a want to be liked. For them to be your girlfriend. for them to text you back. none of those things are bad in themselves, but I think they are picking up on this vibe. It seems paradoxical, but in order to get any and all of the things I just listed, you are going to have to not want them. When you are with them, you are in the present, with no expectation…	/r/seduction	16/11/21 04:51 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey There are a lot of things that are "ok". So I am not going to tell you any specific thing is wrong in this context. What I want is for you to stop getting hung up. It is clear to me, that you are attractive enough and have enough early stage game, to match and date and get these girls to make out with you. After that it gets super messy. I think you are sinking your ship with attachment and neediness. I just want you to have an abundance mindset and always be thinking about next. This is going t…	/r/seduction	15/11/21 04:16 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey I think you leave it alone and go on to the next one.	/r/seduction	15/11/21 12:30 AM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey All of that sounds good, normal. She is a horny girl that doesn’t want to be seen as a slut, normal. This is the part where it gets tricky, you can’t really do anything but wait. She will either be into the idea of seeing you again and make that known or she won’t. If she doesn’t don’t think too much of it. Just go on about your business. If it’s been a few days, you could always text her and say something nice but not needy. Something along the lines of “I had a good time the other night, would…	/r/seduction	13/11/21 01:55 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey Well if she went on a date with you and then this other guy, she is not dating one guy at a time. And if she just got out of a broken engagement, she's going to be a little confused. She probably still does want marriage and that whole thing, but she is probably going to feel more comfortable around something that doesnt look or feel like that. But no matter what, she said she isnt interested, so be it. If she likes the other dude, so be it. Next.	/r/seduction	08/11/21 10:00 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey Dude. I just wrote a super long thing and the power went out, lol. All deleted. So now you get the super abbreviated version. You dont command respect. You respect yourself. You have a zero tolerance policy for disrespect. If someone doesnt see me in a romantic way, it is either simply that, which is fine. Or it is a defense mechanism. With this girl I can see it going either way. If I think it is a defense mechanism, I will call her out on it. And if she cops to it. I'll most likely still move …	/r/seduction	08/11/21 08:24 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey That's all good. If you are going to date someone exclusively, and hope to pursue marriage and kids and the whole deal, you are going to want her to have all of those types of things. But there is one thing you are going to need more than any of that. You need her to want you. You need her to respect you and desire you so fiercely that she will surrender to you. And then, and only then can you love her and protect her and provide for her. This is the natural design. A lot of the advice I could g…	/r/seduction	08/11/21 07:32 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey I think shes just not super into you. And that's OK. I was on a date last week. It had almost zero conversation beforehand, we matched, I asked her for a drink and like an hour later we were in a bar, we exchanged some basics. And hopped over to another bar. We continued to drink and were vibing super hard. I walked her to her car where we made out, she kept leaning in for more kisses. And then just stopped, said goodnight. All of that is fine and normal. But when I hit her up to try to meet aga…	/r/seduction	08/11/21 04:16 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey Ok, hold up, so you met her on Hinge? And her berry is soo bomb that you are losing your shit? You think she doesnt know this? She has the world by the balls. (and you). I am going to try to make this as plain as possible. Does she like you? yes Did she like sex with you? Probably Does she want to get feels for you? No. Is she seeing and talking to and smashing other dudes? 100% Is there anything you can do at all to have any impact on this situation? No. nothing. You are a plate. You are on her…	/r/seduction	04/11/21 12:05 AM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey I wish that was not what you wanted, but I get it. The short answer is if you want her back, or want to move on from her. They are going to look almost identical. The only exception is going to be you are going to have to show interest, and risk rejection. But the #1 thing you cant do is be needy. If you love her, you can't make her love you. And you will lose your complete mind if you try. You are going to have to accept where she is at. Allow her her independence without jealousy or judgement.…	/r/seduction	01/11/21 06:41 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey You are putting energy, where energy doesnt need to go. It doesnt matter if it's you or a plate. It is most likely a response to the bachelor or one of her girlfriends. This is why we are not looking at her social media. Let her live her life, live yours. I can't tell you what the right decision is, only you can decide that for yourself. I am offering advice from personal experience. A girl who is playing games doesn't respect you. And a girl that does not respect you, will destroy you. You can …	/r/seduction	01/11/21 04:18 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey Stop. Looking. At. Her. Social. Media. Stop. Thinking. About. Her. Think about yourself.	/r/seduction	31/10/21 11:51 AM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey I would highly suggest ignoring all of her social media. Especially the stories. It seems like such a little deal but you are giving her so much power to mess with your head. Do it for yourself. No the reason. If she is not on the same level with you. That’s ok. Go out there and entertain others.	/r/seduction	30/10/21 07:46 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey Reading all of your comments here, the picture is becoming a little clearer. And I think my point is still true about her avoiding being extra intimate because of her feel of catching feelings. But I would shift my opinion slightly and say it’s not as much about her promiscuity, as it is about her just being scared to have feelings or get hurt. This makes more sense and falls more in the normal realm than any of the other things I said. I’ll try to simplify it like this (assuming): She does like…	/r/seduction	30/10/21 01:43 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey So I pretty much went from being the main guy to backup position is what you're telling me... --No, there is no way to know that. But you are obviously not the main guy. It sounds like this to me. You are the guy she is scared to have feelings for. If she has feelings for you she has a problem to reconcile with her promiscuity. So she keeps you compartmentalized. She doesnt let you do the most intimate things because it will make her feel more. I know this. I am the type of guy that girls want t…	/r/seduction	29/10/21 09:10 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey "Edit: I went to that corn maze I was trying to invite her to last weekend. I even posted it on my snap story. She didn’t look at it the entire day. An hour before my snap story was going to delete itself, I noticed she viewed it lol" This. You see? She didnt want you to see that she saw it. She is very likely sleeping with other people. But not as many as you think. And different ones serve different feelings/purpose. This is not an attack on her, this is the way a huge portion of single cultur…	/r/seduction	28/10/21 03:51 PM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey Everything I am telling you here is based on experience. I have been exactly where you are many times. I love love. And as a result I can catch the feels. That is fine, we are human after all. But, you have to get out in front of your feelings, and see things as they are and not how you so want them to be. Stop reading her tweets. Dont delete or block her but mute her from everywhere. I'll tell you a weird twist here. With what you explained above, it is clear she is using for sex. And from her …	/r/seduction	25/10/21 04:12 PM
2	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey There you go man. Sorry about that brother. Feel that feeling, let it push you. You didn’t do anything wrong or right. You just have to push past that feeling of wanting her and put yourself first. Guard your heart. Never give it away. If you fall in love one day, it’s still your heart, you share it with her but it should never belong to another human. If you can help it, it will be hard. Don’t unfriend her from ig or fb or anything. But delete her contact. And don’t delete from sc either but do…	/r/seduction	21/10/21 03:10 AM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey You are living your life without her. I know what you’re feeling and you want to reach out soo bad. Even if if you have all of the feels and you know how good it would feel just to be with her. You have to resist. At the end of the day this isn’t about her or getting her attention or any of that. It’s about you. And you making a pledge to yourself that you are not going to compromise. If you can do this and get deep in your spirit. This girl will be a distant memory. The best part is this. You w…	/r/seduction	21/10/21 01:10 AM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey No. You should do nothing. Talk to other girls. Post anything fun/creative/weird you can on your story.	/r/seduction	21/10/21 12:58 AM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey In her mind it’s not playing. And it’s not a “in case of emergency”. The reason it’s so confusing for you, is because it is how you see it. She likes you, you have a connection. But… she can shut that off like a switch and go about her business and turn it back on when she feels like it with the luxury of knowing you’ll be there waiting. You have to flip that script. You have to ghost her like she ghosts you. When she wants to hang you need to be busy and not tell her what you are doing or who y…	/r/seduction	18/10/21 10:02 AM
1	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey Maybe she will come after you maybe she won’t (but she will especially if she let you hit once already) Because now she knows what shade of lipstick you are, when she wants to where that shade she doesn’t have to vet out another guy, because she has you in her pocket. But when she wants something different she will go do that knowing that giving you silence will make you want her more. Do you see? She does it because she can and it works. And her ego likes the game. Dude give it to her good ever…	/r/seduction	18/10/21 02:56 AM
4	Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakey OP - She owns you. She is in your head, you are not in hers. She does like you and she does find you attractive. But that's it. The sex was probably more a treat she decided to give you. She likes the attention and then she wants you away while she is alone, with friends or with other dudes. You will not have a relationship with her, if you do it will be bad for you. My advice to you would be to just be done with this chic. She is flaky. And you are being too needy. I don't think you will do tha…	/r/seduction	18/10/21 12:56 AM
11	Men learn from their mistakes. Wise men learn from the mistakes of others. Here's my biggest mistakes, hopefully you can avoid them I have a similar method but it also tricks the mind into comfort. I actually learned this from observing females who were showing interest in males. Anyways, if I see a girl that I find attractive etc. I will simply try my hardest to believe that her and I have already had sex in the past and got past awkward pleasantries, etc. and we still have a mutual chemistry, etc. I have found that this frame with eye contact and a small smile is like magic. They (usually) have instant comfort and don’t kn…	/r/TheRedPill	02/03/21 02:44 AM
1	When is a girl “TOO drunk” to smash? If you have any doubt, no matter how small, she is too drunk.	/r/askTRP	28/02/21 08:44 PM
3	Why are most men never taught how to attract women? One thing that is lost in this conversation is that alpha doesn’t equate to good or bad. Stable or unstable. It is simply the state of alpha and it’s what girls find attractive biologically. Both guys and girls can be selective and find a mate/husband/homemaker. These tend to be betas more than alphas. But there are a small percentage of good family man/stable/faithful/ solid and alpha. But that combination is very rare. Same is true of the inverse. The girl above who talked about her first bf (…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/21 03:26 AM
4	Sex question She might just be playing it up cause she thinks it’s what you think is hot. I would bet money on this. I’m not saying she doesn’t like it rough, just the extremism is most likely her “trying”. If this is correct, this can easily be solved by 2 humans talking. If this is not correct whatever the issue is can most likely be solved by talking.	/r/askTRP	21/02/21 09:13 PM
2	Looking for Wisdom from Men You sound a lot like me. First you have to understand all of your feelings are normal. And those feelings are probably never going to go away, in regards to other options, etc. The jealousy thing is definitely something you can improve on. Learn to be vulnerable and give the gift of trust. And communicate how things she does or doesn’t do can make you feel secure. But to tie it all together, part of your insecurity probably lies in the fact that you have fear. Uncertainty in settling down or tha…	/r/RPChristians	17/09/20 11:54 AM
3	What elements of your sexual past could be a problem for future boyfriends? It is interesting. I’m a quirky guy, so some girls can’t discern if I’m cute like they think or not. So when I was in my late 20s and dating a lot, it was really common for me to start talking to a girl and then she would want to meet up with me when she was with some of her friends. It really weirded me out at first, but once I figured out what was going on it didn’t bother me any more. Girls are funny, they will bring in the tribe to make sure you are high value enough and safe and not dangero…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/20 01:45 AM
5	27 year old virgin male. What are the chances of me finding a very good looking woman that's a Christian woman and a virgin outside of church? By virgin I mean, someone that has never done anything sexual with a man physically. I appreciate you taking the time to comment. yes i agree, God has designed for me 1)Loves God, aka Bible Reader and puts it into practice 2) Hot 3) virgin. I look and have prayed for this. The more important thing is that you have good chemistry, you bond through the Lord. Yes that'll be there because of #1 in response above Not necessarily. People who love the Lord and read the Bible and apply it and are true Christians still live in a fleshly body, still will have selfishness and misunderstand…	/r/RPChristians	12/09/20 02:16 AM
18	27 year old virgin male. What are the chances of me finding a very good looking woman that's a Christian woman and a virgin outside of church? By virgin I mean, someone that has never done anything sexual with a man physically. Not to take away from your specific question. But maybe shift your focus just a tad. You are a Christian, you want a partner that God has designed for you. Pray for that. Look for that. The more important thing is that you have good chemistry, you bond through the Lord. I can assure you 1 thing with utter most certainty: if God wants you to find a virgin, he can make that happen. But if God wants to change your heart and perspective you have to allow that to happen. I have been promiscuous. And …	/r/RPChristians	09/09/20 05:14 AM
1	Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standard From a biology stand point, both species have a yin and yang energy to procreate. The difference lies in the fact that women have to be more careful. If they make the wrong move they can be harmed. If they make the wrong choice they can fail in their attempt at procreation and or procreate to a level that is beneath their inherent need to reproduce to the highest value capable. Even with the modern day feminist and the blow back on slut shaming, women will still hide and or suppress some of thei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/20 06:16 PM