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cheating and disease Better join the 4B movement then. You're red pill, you know a lot of men will whore around every chance they get.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:47 PM
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Well, you're right and you're wrong, OP. I'm bi myself and I spend a lot of time in online social spaces for bi men and gay men. The reality, based on what these men often say, is that sex with men easier to obtain and that it's often more fulfilling for that reason, along with the fact that they don't have to worry about inpregnating anyone and that men are socially freer to be direct in expressing their sexual desire. Secondly, in the cishet world, women are constantly told that their feminity…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:41 PM
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Hey, I have a mattress on the floor, a CRT TV, and 3 towels because I spend money! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 05:42 AM
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>Women got literally 1 popular game with hot men included, you know what happened? multiple men started rating it 1 star and hating on it either because it was male characters being the eye candy, or because it's not cathered to them without a male protagonist option. This happens a lot with otomes, while males got way more options of visual novels for them. This shit only happens with Western gamers, but Japanese gamer guys don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:36 PM
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Speaking as someone who's chick-adjacent, I really do want to see more women asking out guys and stop letting men use "hurr durr but we have to do all the initiating" as a form of leverage. I also want to see more women stop putting up with gendered responsibilities because they think some men won't like it. Tired of wearing makeup to dates all the time? Then stop! Don't just complain about it, be the change you want to see in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:51 AM
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Glad to know my last partner wasn't the average Gen Z guy; he did so much for me, and I miss him terribly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:58 PM
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I got 2/5--no married dudes, no obese guys, no dudes younger than 25 or older than 45, has to make at least $45, 000, and no shorter than 5'7" (my own height). So, now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 09:38 PM
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Because guys like OP are incapable of thinking long-term and think that the only reason to consider anyone's finances is if they're vastly more healthy than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:34 AM
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They'll get plastic surgery, but not to be attractive to women...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 10:15 PM
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Some of the best sex comedies are about teenagers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:25 PM
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That just means you have to put in more effort to find bi women, so that's not an excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:49 PM
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Doesn't matter if they've had same sex sex or not, they're attracted to more than one gender, they're bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:34 AM
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Just because most people are straight still doesn't mean bi people are forced to date them. And if bi men are set on avoiding people who are more likely to be prejudiced against them, than it really doesn't matter if there are more straight women around or not. And most bi women aren't prejudiced against bi men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 10:52 PM
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Lesbian isn't, but ask any straight woman if she wants to be called a dyke.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 05:46 PM
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A lot of cishet people are homophobic, what else is new? The better question is why we bisexuals are so set on dating monosexuals. Bisexuals are the biggest group in the LGBT community, there's more than enough of us to around for us to date each other. If the straights and the gays/lesbians don't want to date us, that's fine and we need to stop acting like the success of our dating lives is dependent on them wanting us.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 05:43 PM
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"Straight women" Actual bi women don't even seem to factor into these conversations
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 05:35 PM
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But that can be solved by legalizing sex work, and I'm pretty critical of women who are anti-sex work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:53 PM
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No one is really entitled to anything, but the power of persuasion is a powerful one and it has worked by appealing to the humanity that we have in common. The reality is that men and women are harmed by most of the same general problems, but with a few distinctions here and there. Again, men being self-serving would mean actually trying to solve their problems. For instance, helping to prevent male homelessness isn't helped by voting for politicians who don't care about ensuring fair wages and …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:21 PM
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The only thing that isn't owed is sex and dating because it violates human autonomy. Is that really the only problem you think men have? Really? Men aren't affected by anything else?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:48 PM
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Why do the problems of other human beings only matter or not matter if you can or cannot sleep with them? Can someone explain this logic to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:34 PM
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Why didn't you ever tease your mother when she cried at sad movies? And why would crying stop you from solving your problems? A good cry takes maybe 2-3 minutes, shedding a few tears takes a few seconds at most. Being open with your emotions shouldn't mean that you're so handicapped by them that you're not able to do anything else. At that point, you're in mental illness territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:03 PM
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raped by their girlfriend Even most female rape victims aren't raped by their partners, is that the best scenario you can think of? Even Gisele Pelicot wasn't raped by her POS husband, she was sex trafficked. People like you are why men victims of rape can't get taken seriously because you constantly deny the reality of their pain and experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:51 PM
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Men are statsically more likely to be raped than falsely accused of rape. Why don't you care about the plight of male rape victims?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 02:06 PM
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Because not enough men care about the issues that men face, and many of them are already included in greater societal issues like worker's rights, civil rights, and LBGTQ+ rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 02:03 PM
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Wanting people to follow the law is entitled?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 09:50 PM
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Even women in the 4B movement have to interact with men; the point of 4B is to not have emotional attachments, not to go out of your way to be rude to someone just because he's a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 09:47 PM
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I meant partners in terms of sexual partners, not romantic ones. And my questions remain the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 04:59 PM
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Yeah, which is why partners need to COMMUNICATE. Do you all have a fetish for being mimes in bed or what? Why is it so hard to say what you actually like during sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 04:44 PM
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The PUA/early redpilllers constantly told you all that you had to actually go out and learn how to talk to women, to be charismatic and actually have a personality, but y'all didn't want to listen to them either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:40 AM
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It's not a conspiracy if it's actually happening. You don't think dating apps exist in their current format because they actually want people to date, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 03:59 PM
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This is why TRP is here to stay, its not MRA, it doesn't seek to change the world And that's a part of the problem. Unless we see more societal changes, how are men's lives supposed to improve? And yes, the Cambridge article is stupid on a number of levels just like most solutions to reversing the "fertility crisis". Here in America, single mothers receive a good amount of welfare (and it still isn't enough, especially as the child starts getting older) but the catch is you have to be a single m…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:12 AM
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There is a for a difference for women who have an active sex life, and most of them still aren't crazy about seeing random dicks. It's not just about the dick, it's about the whole package and that's what hurts the ego of a certain kind of man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:53 PM
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Yes, but what women tend to desire from.sex is a little different because of their bodies. A lot of women actually want their bodies to be touched and to be held and to kiss and to be eaten out, they don't just want dick insertion and to call it a day. And this is even truer for women who are in LTRs. It would have been clearer if OP had said that women aren't impressed by dick alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 09:40 PM
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It's not about fairness, it's more that they they've been taught that relationships are supposed to be instaneous and that's due to being on dating apps. It's just another facet of low attention span culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:34 PM
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I'm neurodivergent myself, and yes, I dislike some of the behaviors a lot of other ND people exhibit, but I hate them just as much in NT people. I hate binary thinking more than anything and unfortunately it's something a lot of autistic people are prone to doing. You'd probably be happier dating other autistic people instead of trying to get with NTs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:50 PM
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If you pursued queer women and were successful, you wouldn't be bitching about what straight women are doing and would let them rot in the cishet hell they've made for themselves. And I'm trying really hard not be ableist, but you're making it really hard, kiddo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:40 PM
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8I have a broken vagina and any pregnancy I could have will likely kill me. Gynocentricism can only function when women are valued for having functional wombs. Again, I'm a masculine woman who can pass for a man, I benefit as much as any other dyke looking woman benefits, which is nowhere near the privileges that straight women get. And, of course, you don't pursue queer women and chase after basic bitch straight women like every other basic bitch straight man. You're not ready to have an actual…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:32 PM
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You do know being GNC and wanting to date the opposite gender is a part of "heterosexual" dating dynamics, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:10 PM
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Because a lot of people say one thing and do another, and like plenty of things that just make them miserable. I mean, s lot of women who say they don't like bisexual men dislike them because of homophobic reasons--"I need a real.man, bi guys are just sissies"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:08 PM
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Bisexual with a strong preference for femme/GNC men. My attraction was so strong that I figured my desires were just too abnormal and being attracted to feminity had to mean that I was a lesbian and I identified as one for years...but I realized I genuinely was attracted to the distinctions of cis male bodies so just went back to being bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:03 PM
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Speaking as someone who's actually masc and black--I can actually pass for a man, I've got facial hair, none of that cutesy white girl tomboy shit--the average straight man is not checking for someone like me and I'm not checking for them. Also, are those women who keep rejecting you actually dating tall muscle dudes or is that just what you tell yourself that they want because you know they don't want you? Also, better remember that a lot of these progressive white women can still be racist. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:04 PM
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Going to disagree as I'm living proof that I've dated men who genuinely enjoyed being with me. Is it a huge gaggle of men? No, but why should I be trying to date every dude on the street? Also, it's pretty sad that even other women think no one is genuinely capable of loving us unconventional types.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:51 PM
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Why do some men seem to hate that other men actually are genuinely interested in different kinds of women, but then will also use this as an example of men are better than women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:48 PM
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Hey, vaginismus-haver, I don't have unpleasant sex because I don't sleep with men who expect me to use my vagina while ignoring the rest of my body. The reality is that a lot of men are penetration-focused and finding ones that don't have that mindset takes some work. But I'd rather do that than get with guys who don't care about what I want, especially when what I want is to focus on them and their pleasure, I just can't use my vagina to do that. I am actively in treatment, but the type of work…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:52 PM
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Heterosexual romances seem that way because a lot of cishets just don't know how to value each other or even see each other as human beings. They barely seem to value each other as sexual beings because neither straight men or women to seem enjoy sex with each other or like talking about it because actual pleasure doesn't seem to be the goal. Many straight men only seem to be able to physically enjoy sex with straight women because of well the vagina fits over a penis. Let them do anything else …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:44 AM
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With or without looking at him also?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:32 AM
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No, straight women are just a little weird and need more mentual stimulation to get that clitoris reaction , but depending on the particular picture used in that study, I might not have reacted either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:31 AM
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But a lot of them don't actually see women that way. Old-school redpillers constantly used to say that being willing to bang different women isn't the same as being willing to date/marry those women, so when did that change? And these same guys will constantly talk about how many different men like different kinds of women, what do they think that is? It's called having a preference! And some guys have different preferences and that's also perfectly fine! It's just this bullshit where some men w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:29 AM
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I mean, I feel it in my clitoris when I see a man I find attractive, or anyone I find attractive. Plus, the clit as similar nerve endings to a dick, it's why it's much easier for women and other clit possessors to orgasm by interacting with it instead of by interacting the vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:44 PM
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If an emotionally mature woman likes a man for his specific qualities, how is that not treating him like a human being? Why are so many men desperate to be seen as disposable and indistinguishable from each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:40 PM
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women are Until they aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:37 PM
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Do other vagina havers really not feel anything in their clitoris when they see a man they find attractive? They literally don't feel anything at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:35 PM
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I mean, you go on a lot of cishet dating subs and hear the women on there complain, they might have better luck on Skid Row!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:32 PM
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The respect I've gained is because I'm kind, caring and I go out of my way to help others. Is that really what masculinity is? I'm poor, disabled, black and queer, and I could definitely use some of those opportunities you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:47 PM
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good to be like a man It's not seen as good, ask any woman who's actually masculine. Where are all these supposed accolades I'm supposed to receive? And what does being like a man actually mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:40 PM
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And that "acceptance" is only possible because of the sacrifices other women made and continue to make. So many women are still mentally shackled by the idea that they need to conform to gender roles or else they won't be accepted or wanted. I am very butch and I'm pretty much invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:35 PM
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It's called small talk, friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 03:15 PM
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Admittedly, not all women have receptive sexuality and are completely capable of knowing when they're sexually attracted to a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 02:52 AM
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I find biscuits and gravy and penises perfectly fine to look at, and I can't fathom being disgusted by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 12:01 AM
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I mean, all that's missing from that description is good sex, regular dates, and planning a life together.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 10:10 PM
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Most bi men are married to straight women and a lot of them stay married. Facts don't care about your feelings, friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 12:49 AM
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That's not a standard, that's just biphobia. Almost every problem that a straight woman could have with a bisexual man is one that can be blamed on her own homophobia or on him being closeted. Seriously, STDs? Closeted. Worried he'll leave you for a man? Emotionally closeted. Worried he's too feminine? Homophobia and internalized misogyny. Not into pegging? Fine, plenty of guys aren't or prefer other types of butt play. Also, great way to imply that the only reason any straight guy would date a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 12:48 AM
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Actually, it is, same as with bi women usually being with straight men, and this is regardless whether the bi person is openly bi or not. Cishet men and women have the numbers on their side, that's just how it is. And yes, a lot of straight women are hesitant to date bi guys and a lot aren't, there's not much more to it than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:53 PM
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Bi and feminine men know they're at a disadvantage but most of them are still choosing to live their truth and find women who want what they have to offer. Again, heterosexual relations are not doing so well, even with all the numbers on their side. So, again, we bisexuals and genderqueer types are probably better off not trying to appeal to you all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:46 PM
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It isn't that hot, who do you think most bi men are married to? It sure isn't bi women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:09 PM
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As someone who only dates femme and bisexual guys, yeah, most straight women aren't going to be interested. But I'm bisexual and masc, so most straight men aren't going to want to date me either. But so what? What makes most straight people so appealing that they everyone needs to get their approval? The only thing cishets have on their side is numbers, and that's not exactly a pro any more last I checked.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:06 PM
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And at the same time they'll rail against making prostitution legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:51 PM
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You people don't want "masculine" role models, you just want to listen to people who are going to kiss your ass. There are a ton of great, living men to base your life off of, but you all will find any excuse not to admire them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:51 AM
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Or men could just refuse the draft en masse. Or do you all want to fight for Israel that bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:09 PM
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No, because red pill/blue pill is basically only about dating and relationships. If men are having issues outside of that, it's not important to the RP community.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/04/26 08:07 PM
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being bi is also a turn-off for straight women, the other group of people they are trying to date Yeah, because bi and queer women are beloved by everyone, but actually considering us as potiental romantic partners is asking too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 06:21 PM
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No, but damned if people don't try to make it one!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 06:18 PM
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Unattractive chick here, and I can count on my hand the number times I've had a sexual encounter I didn't enjoy, and that's without even being able to orgasm (anxiety and nerve damage will do that to you!) In spite of everything, I still knew my worth and was never desperate, that's what makes the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:27 PM
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many women How many women are you trying to date? Do you plan on starting a harem?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:08 PM
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women don't need to improve Yeah, they do, they need to know how to pick a compatible man and to stop settling for Johnny Doesn't Wipe His Ass, but that problem isn't caused by having "high standards." Having actual high standards comes in when you're thinking long-term and not just focusing on what makes your clit/dick feel good all the time, but none of y'all want to talk about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:06 PM
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A lot of guys love to say talk to the fisherman and not the fish, but when it comes time to talk to the fisherman, where are they?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:01 PM
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Many bisexual men date women and may be tempted to use RP strategies.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:04 AM
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I doubt those women can orgasm from penetration, so no, no one wins in that situation. At that point, why waste time with someone you don't enjoy sleeping with? Unless "starfishing" is her fetish and she wants to pretend to be asleep or a cadaver, but then that's taking on an active role of enjoyment because her partner is aware of this desire and also compliant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:52 AM
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When you're actively aware that you don't need to make your partner cum all of the time, then there shouldn't be any pressure to make your partner cum. Those men should be able to simply enjoy the moment of being in sexual congress with their partners. That pressure can only exist if you allow it to fester instead of being open and honest with your partner. When you let the judgement of the outside world seep into your sex life, then you're basically in a relationship with 3 people: you, your pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:46 AM
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muh biology Fat women may not pull as much a slender woman, but they still pull. The bigger problem is that a lot of guys can just flat out dicks to women they don't find attractive instead of just going about their business.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 08:56 PM
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Funny story, I also rarely orgasm--some of it stemmed from anxiety, but now chronic pain and nerve issues probably play a bigger role--with partners and I've known this since I first started fooling around in my 20s. I was always honest about it, along with mentioning that I was more interested in pleasuring the other person, so I never really had much trouble. Even so, nearly every partner I've had still made me feel wanted and desired and interacted with my body, even though they weren't tryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 08:51 PM
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Yeah, in that context the woman is pretty much a starfish that also wants you to go down on her sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 08:29 PM
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I'd critize both of them, yes, because good sex tends to involve eager participants. Unless a man wants his partner to pretend to be a living fleshlight, then just laying there is a type of bad sex. Honestly, I doubt the woman in this equation is getting much out of this either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:35 PM
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A pillow princess is just a power or bratty bottom, and service tops/submissives tend to enjoy them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:29 PM
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These women are called starfish and they get dissed by every group that has sex with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:27 PM
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butch pick me As a butch, girl, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 02:09 AM
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most women Why do cishets think having the biggest dating pool possible is a recipe for success when reality has shown us otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 02:05 AM
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Why does writing something down and working towards doing it make it unenjoyable? Does planning a vacation make a vacation less enjoyable? It's not about planning sex down to the las detail, but about actually ensuring that you actually make space and time for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 07:15 PM
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Agreed, it can't work without communication, which is why I mentioned communication in my own post.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 06:04 PM
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Not all MLM engage in anal, believe it or not. Would you feel the same way about oral or handjobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 03:16 PM
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You phrased your reasoning pretty poorly, why can't straight people be attracted to bi people?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 03:15 PM
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An open relationship isn't cheating as cheating involves deception.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 03:05 PM
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I'll never understand why more couples just don't schedule their sex sessions, especially when they have otherwise busy lives. If you're working a full time job, dealing with kids, and doing housework, you can't depend on sex just happening spontaneously. Making time and actual plans for sex is beneficial to those with a lower libido and those with higher sex drives because both of them ramp up their energy towards that one set encounter. Communication and teasing can be major turn-ons, especial…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 03:00 PM
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Again, I only date and fool around with people who value their sexual health. It's 2026, PrEP is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:58 AM
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Good thing I prefer bi bottoms. The only thing I want him sticking his dick in is me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:52 AM
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Bi women who refuse to date any bi man are judging them negatively. And they're also fairly rare, so I don't know why OP is going after bi women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:00 AM
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Yes, because a lot of men don't take steps to minimize risks, but plenty do. Being a man who's attracted to men doesn't mean your only two choices are to be a bug chaser or to be celibate. Make sexual health priority instead of thinking with your dick all the time, it's not that difficult. I'm saying this as a bi female who pretty much only sleeps with bi guys, and the relationship I'm in right now is monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 11:57 PM
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This is only an issue if you're involved with guys who are hiding their sexuality and sexual behavior i.e. DL guys. Guys who are openly bi tend to be much more proactive about their health.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 09:23 PM
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Some of us really like sucking dick, sis. And getting oral is one of the few ways I can orgasm in front of another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 03:55 PM
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I mean, I can sort of relate to that...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 04:12 PM
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actively Yes, because they're lying to you. Do you like being lied to?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/03/26 09:27 PM
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The sad reality is that conservative policies do not benefit men as a class or men who are in marginalized groups, but too many men keep voting for conservative policies because conservatives are better at ass-kissing and punching down than liberals/leftists.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/03/26 05:02 PM
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As someone who grew up somewhat socially isolated, no, it isn't just a singular choice. Most people who struggle with socializing just don't wake up and say, "You know what? I'm gonna be a hermit today!" It's more that there are a bunch of little circumstances that combine to keep them stuck in a feedback loop, and if those circumstances seem insurmountable, they'll start to feel like their only way to live is in isolation. Acting like all it takes to fix thing instantly is to just make one choi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 04:24 PM
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Capitalism is what's effecting men in particular, it's literally nothing else. Why are American men being sent to die for Israel? Because some rich white men want to make more money on oil. Why are so many men unemployed, struggling in the job market, or homeless? Because rich people want to push shit like AI and outsourcing and outright slavery and they don't give a single shit about what any of that does to the workforce. Now, think for just a minute, what all of that can do to a man's dating …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 04:11 PM
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The problem is "the left" constantly acknowledges how capitalistic systems are destroying community and people's ability to have strong social ties, but a lot of men don't seem to care about that because...they don't understand how that connects with their dating lives. A lot of them don't seem to want to be social at all or actually be with someone they like as a human being. If young men aren't actually willing to help fix structural issues and instead want to support people who are making the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:42 PM
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Being trans doesn't exclude people from having other problems and there are people who transition because they might think being the other gender is "easier". Yes, there are people who claim being trans but don't actually have any sort of dysphoria, but these people aren't the majority. Also, it's wild that you know 3 obese binary trans people, almost every binary/non-binary person I know or have met has been either average weight or overweight at most. I used to be obese, but I wasn't really ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 04:46 PM
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I guess but I'm identifying myself as AFAB because there are conversations that I have to participate in that involve discussing my birth sex (lol vagina and period problems)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 08:49 PM
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That's why there's a difference between being binary and non-binary; being Trans is a spectrum full of different needs and it doesn't do us any good to deny that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 07:33 PM
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So, you want sex and not a relationship? Better let them know, the saying about not sticking your dick in crazy exists for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:11 PM
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I think it's fine if you don't want to refer to yourself by a sex category, but that doesn't make gender and sex the same. I'm not a woman and I don't want to be one, but I have a female body. I think this is an issue where binary Trans people and non-binary trans people tend to differ. I personally believe that transphobic policies are rooted in making sex and gender synonymous while also making no attempt to understand that the nature of a sex can be extremely varied--just look at what happene…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:59 PM
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Hey, AFAB here, and being biologically female doesn't make me a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:11 PM
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Because a lot of women are mentally ill and/or emotionally immature or extremely passive? Is that the kind of woman you want to be with?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:08 PM
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aren't their ideal guy This happens only when when chicks date men they're not attracted to; I've dated men who weren't my ideal but I was still physically attracted to them and wanted to get to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 03:57 PM
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Blah blah blah Leo Dicaprio isn't out here dating or grooming teenagers or children and he's not in the Epstein Files, that's all I care about. Anyone who tries to use Leo to defend being attracted to TEENS and CHILDREN can go sit on a million rakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:47 PM
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A lot of this can be avoided by discussing sexual interests early on to check for sexual compatibility, but cishets seem to think compatibility will magically happen if you just wish for it hard enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:16 PM
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thousands of kids Given that there are millions of kids in the US, those are outliers. Ideologues have been running the show and the solution is, of course, to put new ideologues in their place. Yep, that's always a good solution. Most trans kids are getting care, they're not getting surgeries, so the protocols must actually be working.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:08 PM
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-embrace their own biology So, I shouldn't wear glasses, or take epilepsy meds, or use birth control to stop my period because it was making me disabled? You know, because I should embrace my own biology and all?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 06:48 PM
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16 year olds That's a legal adult in some US states. And funny how you had to reach for BBLs and not the cleft lip or burn victim examples I used. Again, do you think that those examples qualify as mutilation or not? Also, your previous post did not specify only children, we are talking about trans athletes, almost all of whom are legal adults. And the fact that you all have to reach for these bizarre fringe incidents as an excuse to get rid of all gender affirming care treatments as opposed to …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 06:44 PM
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Spoken like someone who knows nothing about the actual workings of gender affirming medical care. most gender dysphoria goes away naturally And medical treatment exists for the cases where it does not. Why does someone getting treatment for a physical disability upset you? mutilating their bodies Do you think plastic surgery or surgery in general should be outlawed? Should people born with cleft lips or burn victims not receive treatment because they're "mutilating" their bodies? Should a circum…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 05:01 PM
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That just proves that, again, men's rights advocacy needs to be centered on men as victims, regardless of who the perpetrators are.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/26 11:40 PM
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I think the talking past each other happens because, and I see a lot of it here, that certain men's rights advocates and feminists need misandry to be a 1:1 match with misogyny and that's just not reality. Because, yes, if you take the stats of men being murdered by women, yes, those numbers are practically miniscule. But if you look at men being murdered by men, then those numbers become horrifying. And I think that's another big issue when it comes to men's rights: why isn't the focus of advoc…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/26 08:06 PM
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Congrats on the engagement!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 04:45 PM
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I only want to date queer men, but dating straight men would give me a broader spectrum of men to date. Am I "hypergamous" for only wanting to date queer men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 11:14 PM
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Yeah, but they also have to meet other standards, like actually being compatible with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 05:39 AM
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4'8", my current partner is about my height, which is around 5'7"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 02:02 AM
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It's not my fault most men aren't nerdy femboys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 01:51 AM
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I've yet to date a guy who doesn't meet my ideals, but guys on this sub also claim that because my ideal guy is pretty rare, I should lower my standards because I'm aiming too high?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 01:34 AM
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And some of us are too exhausted to be any kind of gender in a relationship. But that doesn't stop the gender envy...how do you express being a gay man in your relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:08 AM
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Or she can seek out the type of man she wants. Men aren't a monolith, even if a lot of posterson this sub pretend otherwise; I look pretty masculine and I still manage to find guys who are genuinely interested in me--in fact, I'm dating one right now. If OP wants to be with queer/bi guys, she'd be better off posting in a sub for queer/bi guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:06 AM
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Nietzsche actually recommends that people take an active role in their own lives, even at the cost of being disliked; the average man is too much of a follower to heed his message.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 02:17 AM
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People who believe that there are no good men role models in modern media or real life are the most genuinely misandric people on the face of the planet. Also, how is this "hurr durr men are only shown as being stupid and incompetent all the time" still being peddled? You people don't watch anything that isn't capeshit/Star Wars slop, and you expect fictional characters to be perfect saints and/or badasses instead of engaging with their story on any genuine level. You people don't even want to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 02:12 AM
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And that makes it okay that they didn't have the frame of mind not to choose to rape children? Do you understand that you're basically saying women are brainless automatons that have no choice but to do what a man says, no matter how deplorable? You really think the average woman can be convinced to happily rape and kidnap children just because they're horny for some man? You know neither of those women, once they were away from those evil influential men, never apologized or acknowledged their …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 05:49 PM
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So, that makes pedophilia okay? As long as everyone's "happy?" You know they've since gotten divorced too, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 05:44 PM
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Yes, it is. I could bring up Mary Kay LeTorneau, Rose West, Karla Holmolka, and say the same thing about female sexuality. The instances we're mentioning are horrific aberrations of sexuality--most men attracted to women do not want to rape sleeping women or rape child prostitutes. The average women does not want to rape little boys or murder children. Remember, rape is about power, not sex. No man has to rape anyone to be sexually satisfied and to imply that rape is inherently a part of healthy…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:37 PM
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When someone tells me something, I'm going to give them the benefit of the doubt and see how it pairs up with their actions. If their words and actions don't match, then they don't get the benefits. I'm not naive, but I also can't live my life assuming everyone is out to get me. Being safe =/= being hostile and paranoid And if he isn't willing to take me at my word and give me a chance to reschedule, again, that's his problem and he's not the one for me. Reschduling worked out fine for my last p…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 07:29 PM
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It's a date if you both like beaches, which people can learn about each other if they actually communicate instead of making assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 04:58 PM
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>Let's say you are not in a mood but you like the guy and want him to know this. I use my words and tell him? If he thinks--and I've had this happen before--that my needing to reschedule sexy fun times is a sign of total disinterest, that's his problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 04:55 PM
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It can make the sex better? This is sex-haver 101, man!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 04:49 PM
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Someone not having a partner during at one point in their life =/= undateable There are billions and billions of people on the planet, the idea that there are some of huge minority of genuinely hopeless undateable people somewhere is ludicrous. As a queer person, I get so tired of this "woe is me!" bullshit from cishets. Is finding someone who's actually compatible with you difficult? YES! It doesn't matter groups you belong to or what your circumstances are, finding someone to genuinely love yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:01 AM
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Leagues don't make sense because a lot of people just can't fathom the idea of people having emotional connections with each other. And yes, maybe "leagues" do exist in some sense, but when people start treating them like some strict rule that can never be broken, that's where the trouble starts. I'm pretty masculine and I tend to date men that are more attractive than me. And I mean actually date, not just fuck. Believe it or not, a 9/10 can sometimes fall for a 5 or whatever. I've always been …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 06:15 PM
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When feminism was mainly the realm of the educated--i.e. People who knew how to actually argue--and not 19-year-olds making tweeting emojis to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 09:46 PM
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But Andrew Tate isn't listening to young men's problems, all he's doing is acting saying you need to buy a Bugatti and sign up for his classes and that women are whores. How does that solve men's problems? Are we supposed to believe that only way to solve men's problems is through cruelty and domination? Men have always been told that they weren't shit in some way or another, it didn't stop them from admiring JFK or MLK. Those men didn't have to say, "Hey, you want things to improve? Better go a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 09:31 PM
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Normal guys used to gravitate towards men like JFK, Michael Jordan, Tony Hawk, James Bond, Hugh Hefner, Martin Luther King Jr., Malcolm X, and Barack Obama. Not all of these men are perfect saints, and James Bond isn't even a real person, but none of them are ass-kissing grifters like Andrew Tate. What happened to "normal guys" in the last decade?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 05:54 PM
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You honestly don't remember people defending bands like My Chemical Romance and Panic at the Disco! back in the day? And a shit ton of leftists were treating Sabrina Carpenter like she was going to singlehandedly destroy feminism with her new album, you didn't get on that at all? Also, Green Day doesn't need defending, they're one of the most popular pop punk bands of all time--if you talked shit about them, you'd get the name same treatment you would from Swifities.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/01/26 06:30 AM
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I think a lot of hetero women are really afraid of being slut-shamed and think just talking about sex will make them seem "slutty". Plus, we still see too many acting as if "slutty" women aren't fit to be spouses or LTR partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:27 AM
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>for convenience Budget, see how often she reaches out or reschedules when she has to cancel.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:18 AM
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Meanwhile, I've only had something like that happen with one guy, and I'm probably at almost 20 something partners now. Were these mostly straight guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:14 AM
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As someone who understands the value of sexual intimacy, I believe that men need to learn how to have comfortable conversations about sexual behavior with women that aren't filled with condescion or done with the purpose of getting in bed that same day. And some of it also ties down to how sex is defined--is it only a sign of mutual desire if you get your dick sucked on the first date, but don't get to PiV until date 7? Also, the whole thing about extended vetting also makes it sound like the av…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:08 AM
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>vast majority Why do I need to date the vast majority of people? Any dating requirements anyone has is going to exclude a huge ton of the population; people are not interchangeable and acting like they are is why so many people are unfulfilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:15 PM
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Why do people like this want men in films to be literally perfect beings who don't need help from anyone? Does this person even understand the purpose of dramatic media? The only film that the author describes implies that the leading man character is actually hapless compared to the women in the film, but the other two films have characters that are trying to actively solve problems, and some of the helpful supporting characters are women. That's supposed to prove hypercompetence? Furthermore, …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/01/26 01:59 AM
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Because she wants a relationship and not just sex? Those things are not synomous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:46 AM
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>When you ask him why he won't propose to you, he says that it has nothing to do with you and that it's simply because he had a bad experience with his ex-partner. Wouldn't that make you question yourself? No, I'd realize that he has leftover trauma from that relationship and we'd talk about it, make a plan, and go to therapy if we need a mediator.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:44 AM
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It depends on how the joke is told, but again, that's a part of effective humor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 09:22 PM
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In defense of rape jokes, the problem isn't the subject, the problem is that a lot of people aren't funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:44 PM
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Bi 4 Bi for Lyfe~
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:59 PM
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*straight women Even then, that's still not always true.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:55 PM
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Bi women who outright refuse to date any bi men tend to be either homophobic or obsessed with toxic masculinity. Even so, as a group, bi men will still have better luck dating a bi woman than a straight woman. Notice bi woman are almost always excluded from these conversations, there's a reason why that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:53 PM
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I think you accidentally kind of agreed with the OP. You chose to be genuine and were able to attract quality people who genuinely wanted you had to offer, as opposed to attracting as many people as possible who only wanted what you had but saw you as being interchangeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:49 AM
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Yeah, and how does that end up for so many of those women? Both men and women can fall victim to the scarcity mindset and lose sight of quality over quantity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:46 AM
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So, no one read the article? There are over a 1,000 Men's Shed groups and one decided to let women join out of all those groups, ONE! Plus, the men members still have their own private room on-site for discussion and single-gender socializing. This article was written several months ago, so chances are this hasn't become a trend or anything, so what's the problem? Men and women actually getting along instead of engaging in gender war bullshit is just that scary to you people? Because they're act…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 01:31 AM
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Is Afghanistan some sort of sexual utopia for men? Where do these ideas come from? I know it's not from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 10:36 PM
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Too bad the average man doesn't benefit from political conservative interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 09:25 PM
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No, they weren't but that's how manipulation works. Most people don't know how to avoid being manipulated, which is why we keep having these same pointless discussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 10:21 PM
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Because women are also part of the current society that is growing more and more online and tons of women are openly voting against progressive policies, so yes.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/12/25 09:13 PM
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Maybe, we should stop making everything so gendered and focus on connecting with other people as people? Crazy idea, right?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/12/25 09:11 PM
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Yeah, and he is still able to have a career and is basically able to live his life. He has literally never paid for his crimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:36 PM
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Roman Polanski and Woody Allen are still out here making movies and getting massive accolades.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:28 PM
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And she was kicked out of #MeToo You people don't even follow these movements.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:27 PM
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After a while, you get tired of dealing with that level of chaos that maniac brings.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:46 AM
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I am a black butch, and I've ended up with the white guys because I liked them, they liked me, and they agreed to go out with me. One of my most memorable and adorable dates was with an Asian man, but the circumstances just didn't work out for us. I still adore Asian men and I seek them out when I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 04:56 PM
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Less specifically designed dating events and just places where people go to socialize and hang out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:49 AM
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Because then what's the point of having a justice at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 10:55 PM
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all of the financial burden And those people are just as deluded as red pillers. The majority of relationships in the west are two-incomes, no matter how much gold diggers want to gaslight you. People can go on this Internet and say anything, regardless of what the facts are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:17 PM
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Because they would rather have their asses kissed than work with anyone who actually tries to get anything done? Not liking the new left isn't an excuse to support union busters and clowns who openly have a history of giving billionaires tax breaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 02:19 AM
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Yeah, since literally every single woman didn't take on a job left by a man who was drafted, I guess it doesn't count. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:24 PM
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Women in World War 2 were just built different, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:07 PM
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Wanting men to want genuinely better for themselves and to actually work towards fruitful changes is victim blaming? Do you think the men who created OSHA and other safety regulations were just victim blaming? Society doesn't change on its own, people have to make it change. We don't live in a world where we can just wish problems away.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:06 PM
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And a lot of men in those industries are anti-workers rights, you know, the one thing that could actually help those men...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 02:22 PM
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It's not boring if you do it right, but strength training is always going to be more of a solo thing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:45 PM
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But women like that have always existed and they're only normal in the sense that they have a platform, same as anyone else these days thanks to social media. Teach your son to know the signs of manipulation, to stay away from people who use the term "real man", not to fall into the scarcity mindset, and to search for someone he actually enjoys being with as a fellow autonomous human, and he'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:44 PM
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Or you can not date those women, ever consider that? Women like that aren't going to stop existing. The successes of feminism surely hasn't stopped misogynists from finding partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:49 PM
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If you want liberation, you'll have to fight for it and fight for it constantly. Women weren't just given their liberation, they had to take risks and to willingly upend their lives and deal with misunderstandings and hatred from society. Are you willing to do the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:45 PM
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Because those men tend to imply, if not outright declare, that ALL women need to meet those demands.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:37 PM
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Being a woman doesn't automatically put you in the Feminist club.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:28 PM
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Because people want to hold women "accountable" for bullshit like enjoying sex and not getting married at 18 instead of actual harmful behaviors like physical violence and repeated pathological lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 07:24 PM
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It works for men who are charming and actively put themselves in places where they can be noticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:10 PM
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That's literally me (and I'm in Orlando!), but I'm also a poor, disabled college student, I can't win.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 03:04 PM
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A lot of these people don't care about achieving personhood because they don't have the will. They don't have the inner strength to be who they are or to go after what they want, even with realistic expectations. Truly, I pity them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:46 PM
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Started saving up for an escort yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:42 PM
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I see women much fatter than me with guys I find attractive all the time. Being obese isn't an excuse any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:40 PM
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This just means I'm going to be very selective about who I sleep with, which has always worked just fine for me. No charity sex here!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 01:21 AM
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The problem is that many of the sexless men aren't interested in orgies and swingers' clubs because these things all take place in person and being liked in those places would require actual effort from them to be charming, personable, and the ability to deal with rejection. The reality is that A. a lot of sexless guys don't want solutions to their problems, they want their asses kissed. B. They think just want sex, when what they actually want is for someone to fall in love with them This is wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:27 PM
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Until something is done about workers rights, the plight of men will not change. Until you all start caring about the things that actually decrease the quality of life for men, things will not change.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 02:33 PM
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I'm neurodivergent too, that's partly why I asked. I can relate to a desire for clarity in certain spaces, but the reality is that the current state of dating apps do not really offer that because most of them don't allow for specificity. Zoomers don't really understand how much the online dating space has changed for the worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 02:33 PM
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Human beings are not traffic lights or seat belts. Plus, if professional codes meant anything, we wouldn't need HR departments. Many people just skirt around whatever code there might be; just having a guideline be stated doesn't mean everyone will follow it. Plus, things are changing with how people socialize and not necessarily for the better. We need to go back to having and creating spaces where people can just seek to connect with one another, that sort of clarity can come organically but r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:16 AM
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By any chance are you neurodivergent?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 02:51 AM
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Yeah, you couldn't stand me, I'm one of those people who takes hours to reply to people unless we're figuring something out or I have to change in-person plans.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 06:10 PM
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That's just being a coward. Clearly, they don't want to date you enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 07:44 PM
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This goes beyond just being ND, you have an extremely bad reputation. You have no idea how that happened? And no, just being ND isn't going to cause what's happening to you unless someone someone spread some false rumors about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 01:48 AM
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Not me agreeing with a red pill(ish) dude. Honestly, I'd say exercise regularly instead of "get fit"--it takes a lot less than people think to be at a healthier weight than the average American, and this is coming from someone who's chubby. But I'll never understand why guys who aren't "Chads" genuinely think being charismatic and social doesn't work to succeed in dating. How do they average guys had been getting into relationships for before dating apps? Listen to these clowns and you'd think w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 08:16 PM
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Most places aren't Alabama, dude, sorry to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 09:12 PM
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I mean, a lot of punching up jokes aren't great either. Too many people act like the only reason not to like a joke is because it's supposedly offensive, but the fact is that some humor is a skill like anything else and some people just aren't good at it but want participation trophies anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:06 PM
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People may bitch about it, but punching down happens all the time. Plus, a lot of people really aren't good at making jokes about marginalized groups. A lot of people just aren't funny to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 02:53 PM
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They may not mask but they probably still put some effort into socializing. That some so-called advocates, like OP, act as if autism makes every single autistic person incapable of being successfully social is abhorrent. Autism is a spectrum and having it doesn't force everyone on that spectrum to be a social failure, even if their communication styles may be a bit different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 06:07 PM
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Manipulation is just one kind of abusive, and while being less manipulative makes it harder to hide in plain sight, being outright and openly abusive is still dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 05:59 PM
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Nothing precludes autistic men from being toxic and abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 05:19 PM
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Eh, I don't get the same enjoyment from masturbating if I do it all the time. I also just jacked it the other day for the first time in maybe 2 months, came hard in under 10 minutes, it was great. I also used to have major problems with orgasming with other people, and masturbating less and just keeping myself teased seemed to be a big help. Lastly, I would suck cock every other day (TMJ's a bitch) if I could, but I just don't care about orgasming that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 04:40 PM
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Speaking as a butch, no, almost all the guys that like it only exist on the Internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:48 PM
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No, Nietzsche was fairly positive about humanity's future and how women would contribute to that future.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 05:17 AM
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Gender isn't biology, no matter how much your feelings want it to be. Sex is biological, gender isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:53 PM
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Yeah, I'm done, have fun making things up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:42 PM
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Sex and gender aren't the same. I have short hair and facial hair, what does that have to do with me having a vagina?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:34 PM
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Legalizing sex work, less slut shaming, and more in-person socializing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:50 PM
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I may not want sex as much as a typical man, but I still want it. Should I be shamed for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:49 PM
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It's less that than not actually knowing what they want. OP conflates getting laid with getting a LTR and those require two different sets of skills. Most morally terribly men can get laid easily, but their LTRs are usually awful and stressful. These guys need to just be honest and say they want lots of sex, which is okay but that's not the same as wanting a healthy romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 06:37 PM
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If you go on the ADHD_partners sub, you'll find a fair amount of NT husbands/bfs venting about their ND wives/gfs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:35 AM
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I like my men as femme as they come, I just don't equate not being masculine with passivity and being someone I have to socially babysit. I don't want that in my women, I don't that in my men, and I don't want it in my enbies. Why can't I be with someone who knows how to have a conversation with me? Why does that make me a monster?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:29 AM
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Men have a tendency to tolerate the wrong kind of flaws and end up in miserable relationships, same as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:23 AM
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No, just me and maybe 5 other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 09:35 PM
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What in the misandry?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:08 PM
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Is Pete Davidson a Chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:58 PM
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I don't know, the people I've been attracted to treated me the way I wanted to be treated. How I was treated was a big part of what made me actually want to be in a relationship with them. I'm sure I'm not the only one who cares about being treated well and actually dates with that standard in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:42 PM
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No, thank you, I'm trying to decrease my exposure to rage bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 02:52 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 02:49 PM
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I never listened and I'm not about to start. Still managed to have pretty good relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 05:17 PM
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Then that just shows how contradictory all of these ideals are. Because if masculinity is best, then it really shouldn't matter who's embodying it as a trait. There's no reason to dismiss masculine women except sexism, or to associate masculinity in women with the most negative aspects of masculinity, same as with feminity in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:09 PM
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Speaking as a butch, I do think that "white" feminism has taken some bizarre steps back towards gender essentialism and has some weird issues with masculine women, especially with non-gay women but lesbians aren't completely free from this judgment either. It's just fucking sad, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:50 PM
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default/best A certain kind of masculinity, if that, butches certainly aren't uplifted as symbols of masculinity. I mean, look at all the "transgender" rumors surrounding Michelle Obama. Look at the controversy surrounding the boxer Imane in the recent Olympics! Where is this idea that society values masculinity in women coming from? What are we even defining as masculinity here?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:46 PM
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Sympathy might sound nice, but it's not enough. The mainstream is usually extremely hostile towards any kind of radical change, you need only look at any civil rights movement to see that. What men who want genuine change need is community, that's the main reason why any civil rights movement succeeds.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:38 PM
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Actual cancelings have happened, but cancelling in the way a lot of concervatives think It's real is as real in the same way that it was "real" that Saddam had weapons of mass destruction, or that Michelle Obama is a transwoman, or that Donald Trump isn't in the Epstein files, but we know those are lies. And we also know that people prefer lies that confirm their biases instead of truths that show them they've dedicated their life to a falsehood.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 04:26 PM
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No, because promoting fake conspiracies is more fun and compelling than promoting fair critiques of people's actions. That's what happens when you let every Tom, Dick, and Hailey air their opinion in public and take critical thinking out of public education. Really great combo, innit?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 03:15 PM
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You want to date traumatized women with BPD? Seems to be a very popular type with guys...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 03:11 PM
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Yeah, because the women who date short guys are actually out dating short guys instead of virtue signaling. Stop squinting at the words of negative people and look at what the positive people are doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 03:07 PM
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"Cancelling men" Canceling, as it's commonly referred to by the chronically online? That isn't real. Those men may get heavily criticized, but they don't get "canceled".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 03:05 PM
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Heh, I wasn't having PiV sex even when Roe v Wade was in place, y'all hoes are late to the party.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 11:36 PM
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I like those odds.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 08:48 PM
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Usually if you like an adult, you'll be friendly towards them, especially if they live with you. Your attitude towards her just sounds pretty cold, maybe you dislike her more than you let on. Being friendly to somebody isn't the same as turning them into a second parent. It's okay to dislike someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 06:35 PM
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They were absolutely hurdles and I'm still affected by them. My life is pretty shitty. Even so, I just don't like the idea that children are completely brainless and can't want better for themselves. Maybe it's because my mother was the abuser and instead I wanted to be like my aunt, my 2nd grade teacher, my father, and Shaq? After a certain age, I think kids can see that the world is bigger than the one at their house. Especially now that the Internet exists, so unless the parents are so sadist…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 06:26 PM
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If you couldn't even treat her like a friend, then you just didn't like her, regardless of how "nice" she was. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 02:59 PM
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Hey, as one of those kids who grew up with fighting parents, I decided when I was young that I didn't want that for my life. I haven't been in an abusive relationship yet, I haven't become an abuser, and I'm making sure it stays that way. Kids can have lots of examples of healthy relationships besides their own homes. Eventually, they have to learn to think critically and want better for themselves if they're going to break generational toxicity.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 02:55 PM
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I'm extremely poor and I'd never ask any partner to pay for my rent if I wasn't living with them. And if they want to house me, I can pay back in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 04:12 PM
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If it was a poly relationship? Maybe. Fully monogamous? Yeah, that's gonna be a no from me, dawg.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:45 PM
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"impress" This type of mindset is the problem. You're not trying to impress anyone, you're trying to connect with them. If you think they're not worthy of your time, then move on. What's so difficult about that idea?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:19 AM
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Discussing it is what can lead you to discover that someone is incompatible with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 02:13 AM
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Yeah, no. If someone can't/won't indulge in my sexual interests and they need me to be monogamous too and they want sex once a month or every day? I'm sorry, but we're sexually incompatible. There are some things you can't teach people, that's where genuine incompatibity comes in. Also, asserting yourself sexually? I'm sorry, but I'm not forcing anyone to engage in a type of sex play that they're not interested in, and I expect to be shown the same courtesy This is why communication is so import…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:01 AM
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Because that takes thinking and taking action, and a lot of people want to do the opposite of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 06:02 PM
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seen as oppressive I think it's seen as "oppressive" because a lot of cishet men aren't actually honest about what they want from a relationship. And honestly? A lot of cishet women aren't honest about that either--and no, I don't mean they all secretly want Chad or Brad or whomever. It seems like the idea of having any sort of specific standards for a relationship is seen as wrong somehow because it excludes people, but at the same time, those same people will say that the modern dating market …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 11:20 PM
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Women in video games not all looking like the same copycat stylized Barbie = ugly Literally no other media gets this complaint because even the horny fans of other storytelling mediums understand that not every character needs to be designed for their personal fetish. Also, a lot of gamers seem to be scared of women characters having jawlines, it's really weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:21 AM
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*benzo addict RFK Jr. is the heroin addict.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:58 PM
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My bisexuality is panicking right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 09:11 PM
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Based train nerd and bird nerd combo. I guess I can tell you that I saw a hawk yesterday, it was pretty cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:23 PM
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Do you treat old ladies like crap just because you're not attracted to them? Speaking as someone who isn't conventially attractive, I know that it's going to be harder for me to date, but that's just how it is. The best way to lessen that difficulty is to be social and charismatic, to be open about what you want in a relationship, and to understand that finding genuine love takes time for everyone. On the other hand, just because most men may not want to wife me up, that's not an excuse for them…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:14 PM
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The only remedy to this issue is getting more people off their phones and making them socialize in the real world and making them understand that finding a healthy relationship takes time. But for some reason, too many people think learning how to socialize is too much work...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 05:02 PM
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Maybe the issue is that conservative American women tend to be highly ineffectual? Like American conservatives of any gender...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 02:27 AM
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I'll never understood why heterosexuals seem to take it as a badge of honor not to talk about sex. These weird shit tests can't exist if you just come out and say something like, "I like to wait 3 dates before I get intimate" or "I want us to get STD tests before we have sex." Being honest and tactful is how you find compatible partners, but you have to actually communicate to make that happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:19 AM
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Well, you know how it I'd, people will be affectionate at first and then flip on a dime. And so many people are attracted to their own trauma, others fall for the sunken-cost fallacy, and others have convinced themselves that fake Glad you haven't witnessed anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 12:30 AM
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In the world of modern heteronormativity, I'm not supposed to exist, nor should the men I'm attracted to. So yes, sometimes it does feel like I'm not supposed to like what I like. That said, I think many women could do better to seek out certain traits that they see in their women friends and look for them in their partners as well. Not "muh gay bestie" stuff, but just someone who likes being around you and shows it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 10:17 PM
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You don't, but I do!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 09:15 PM
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You actively call yourself an incel?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:25 AM
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I'd be hanging out with people if they would let me Yeah, because that's how consent works. You want people to choose to spend time with you, how do you solve that problem. First, you have to admit there's a problem, that's why the term was coined. But it was more for people who were unwittingly social outcasts or late bloomers, and wanted to meet other people like themselves. But that's the thing, when you're making an effort to be social and improve your social skills, when you're meeting othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 08:47 PM
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I agree with you, but I also believe that you know that OP is not speaking against societal changes that would benefit a wide variety of people. I mean, why don't "incels" advocate for legalized prostitution and for less car-centric cities? Why don't they advocate for actual socialist policies? Your solutions would make it easier for everyone to socialize and foster community and relationships, which could then lead to the formation of organic romantic/sexual relationships. The issue is that inc…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 06:22 PM
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But that's the thing, the original term of "incel" wasn't even about sex, it was about genuine loneliness and isolation. That term was originally coined by a queer woman during the early rise of the Internet, and she was trying to find a way to bring other social outcasts together. It definitely wasn't about blaming women or about taking away consent, but it was a way to signal to others that you were lonely and that you wanted to change that and wanted to find community and maybe even romantic …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 06:09 PM
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Plenty of homeless people do have jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 05:13 PM
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If you're looking for modern misogynistic pop stars who have held onto fame despite controversy, Chris Brown is right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 02:26 PM
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Pretty much, yes, if we're discussing people who weren't one-hit wonders and who didn't drop off the face of the proverbial Earth after their controversy wrecked their career. The world of pop culture left Robin Thicke behind, and rightfully so. I don't believe we'll be able to say the same of Sabrina Carpenter.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:03 AM
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He got "big" partly because of the controversy and now no one gives a hoot about him. He was nowhere near being on Sabrina Carpenter's level. Plus, unlike many other famous misogynistic musicians, Robin Thicke never built up enough good will or a good enough discography to survive in the cultural zeitgeist. Ask the average person if they remember anything about Robin Thicke aside from Blurred Lines, and I bet all you'll hear is "no."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 08:46 PM
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I don't like how corptoratism has turned a fairly decent story into a huge corporate franchise that has no real respect for genuine storytelling. It almost makes me feel pity for Star Wars fans, but mant them either clamor for that corportatism or only complain about the things that have nothing to do with actual storytelling. I'm not a big fan of films being turned into a "cinematic universe" or some such nonsense. Look at what's happening to John Wick, it's completely unnecessary. And not beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:54 PM
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Who cares about feminism, the song is a bop.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:41 PM
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You've never listen to A Tribe Called Quest?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:39 PM
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Girl, when's the last time anyone talked about Robin Thicke?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:38 PM
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Led Zeppelin feels out of place in this list...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:36 PM
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As a true crime nerd and a Trekkie, this post just further cements my decision to not get romantically entangled with Star Wars fans, so thanks, OP. Shit, give me a Battlestar Galactica bf or a Firefly bf (like my first partner!) any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:58 PM
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Girl, what's wrong with costuming? That's all cosplay is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:51 PM
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Why do you assume they want Chad just because they don't want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 02:01 PM
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I appreciate the explanation, I'm glad you two have each other. In response to your last point, it's more that I constantly hear so many guys saying that they can sleep with women they're not really attracted to, you know, the old "pump and dump" kinda thing. It's not about faking it physically, but faking it mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:16 PM
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Reactive attraction still involves genuine attraction and genuine attraction does not involve having to constantly convince yourself that you're attracted to them. Reactive attraction doesn't involve having to make some kind of logical explanation of why you should be physically attracted to someone when you know you aren't. Attraction, reactive or otherwise, is not a conscious choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:35 PM
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This sounds a little bit like reactive attraction, which is something that rately happens to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 10:50 PM
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No, I wouldn't, since I don't think someone who's attracted to me means that they're automatically going to try and use me only as a fleshlight. Someone who objectified me wouldn't care at all about what kind of person I am or what they actually needed from me to have a compatible relationship. Don't want to objectify potiential partners? Date people that you're attracted to both in and out of the bedroom, and be considerate of their feelings and needs. It's really just that easy. As for me, I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 01:52 PM
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Sorry for wanting a partner that actually desires us without needing to force themselves to sleep with us.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 01:14 PM
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At what age? For someone in their mid twenties who engages in casual sex and long-term relationships, that's practically nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:42 PM
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The problem is that the average woman doesn't have that high of a body count, but the way some people talk, you'd think the average woman was reaching porn star numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:06 PM
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Why would you date someone who needs to change for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:41 PM
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I think people on both sides of the argument keep misusing the term age gap when they're really just talking about teenagers. There's a reason people don't give Leonardo DiCaprio that much shit about his age gap relationships. He sticks to chicks into the 20+ age range, as any mature lover of youth should. Being into younger people should not automatically mean wanting to be with teen girls. If you're 45-30, there's a whole variety of ages you can pick from without being a groomer/groomer lite.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 04:30 PM
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That's barely an age gap. If the guy in question doesn't have a history of pursuing teenagers, especially underage ones, who gives a shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 04:20 PM
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Thanks, but how do I know which social league I'm in? Is it a class thing? I don't really associate with rich people, but most people are going to be better off than me because I had some shit happen in my 20s that I'm still dealing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 10:47 PM
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What about who fit people who like chubbier people? Are they going to be arrested by the Dating Police?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 10:39 PM
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Why do I need to be with a clone of myself? I'm a masculine woman and I like feminine men. Femme men don't look like me, why is that bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:22 PM
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Depends on how long those relationships lasted. If you're with 1 or girls over the course of 2-5 years and the goal is something longterm, then that isn't really surprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:02 PM
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The average man is moderately shy and anxious?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 07:59 PM
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As a chick who sees plenty of online people shitting on the way I live my life? I'd rather keep my integrity than try to constantly contort myself to the whims of random people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 01:53 PM
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I was down with the femboy twink bringing me breakfast in bed, but then OP had to go and make shit weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 11:58 PM
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medical reason You understand periods are a medical thing, right? You don't have to like it, but if you want someone to give you why they can't do something, you'll have to endure it for a few seconds.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 01:05 AM
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There's a difference between saying you're on your period and describing your period in graphic detail. As someone who sometimes has had to have mentioned to others when I'm on my period due to pain severity, I have never tried giving alnyone a period play-by-play and I'm not about to start.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 06:30 PM
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If I had a nickel for every straight woman who says she wishes she was gay, well, maybe some of those women need to put up or shut up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:23 PM
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Yeah, but you're gonna have to communicate face-to-face eventually. And who doesn't want to be a hero?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:45 AM
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Maybe getting off the apps is the solution? Or maybe someone could create an app that actually is designed to help people actually find partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:46 PM
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No, but the actual truths about life that are reflected in Disney movies are what people seem to want to ignore. You want people to care about who you are? You need to show who you are. People aren't mind readers, not even in Disney movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:42 PM
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Disney movie The best Disney movies give the male character to actually show off his inner character, the princess doesn't just look at him and instantly fall in love. That trope really only happens in Snow White and Sleeping Beauty, but outside of those two, the characters actually get to know each other somewhat.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 06:55 PM
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Bring back third places where people can openly socialize and learn to socialize and this issue will solve itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 10:48 PM
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There's plenty of good advice about how to be a good conversationalist, but it's not a magical trick for getting laid, so a lot of guys who could actually benefit from that knowledge don't want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 07:45 PM
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So I should tell more men to start wearing nail polish, have longer hair, to be clean shaven, to know how to hold a conversation, be bisexual, and have nerdy interests that aren't just playing the latest Call of Duty? I mean, that's what I'm attracted to and those are the type of men I sleep with and seek to date. How would you suggest I get more men to conform my desires? Honestly, the most "high-value" person I was ever with was pretty much that and looked like a nerdy metalhead. Pretty sure t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:43 PM
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That's less than half of the Disney princess lineup, that's barely representive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 05:28 AM
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>Disney princesses all acting the same (docile, gentle, beautiful, not very opinionated) and therefore getting the prince This describes maybe 2 princesses in the Disney princess niche, even the original princess Snow White was a little sassy. I swear, way too many people who talk shit about Disney princesses don't even watch those movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 05:28 PM
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If your FWB is better than the other chick, why aren't you dating her?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:42 PM
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If you mean actually obese people and not just husky or average types or overweight types, sure. But you can't say a fit person who is into obese won't get to have their pick. But plenty of fit people are with people who may not be as athletic or as built, or in the middle of their own fitness journey. I don't know where this supposed deluge of obese women chasing after atheletic men actually exists, but it's definitely not happening anywhere I am. And I live in a state that has quite a few obes…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:16 PM
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Some fit people like fat people, why can't they pursue what they're attracted towards?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 06:57 PM
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You stopped at Beauty and the Beast? Because pretty much every princess movie afterwards actually makes the male love interests into actual characters, not just attractive stand-ins. You can say the same for Disney films that have male main characters and female love interests, the love interests feel like actual people, not just plot points.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 06:51 PM
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Ha ha, okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 01:30 PM
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Wanting to be fucked a certain way means you're not worthy of respect?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 01:17 PM
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While I mostly agree with your post, I do take issue with the DEI bits--many men are minorities and LGBT and disabled or a combination of all of the above, and they still benefit from inclusive policies. Getting rid of inclusive policies hurts men more than it helps. Plus, there are a ton of scholarships that take financial need into consideration and are for all sorts of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 01:06 PM
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I was doing that for a bit, but I changed gynos so I'll need a new referral. Glad it's working for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:41 AM
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As someone who has vaginismus, why not both? I've been pretty open about my disorder and PiV has never been a big part of my sex life. I still would like to experience having a cock inside me just once, so I'll keep pursuing treatment. If I end up not liking it, well, then back to blowjobs!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 12:08 AM
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Speaking who has indulged casual sex and enjoyed it, I still didn't sleep with just anyone and I was fairly open about my wants and boundaries. Out of all the encounters I've had, which really isn't that many given my age, I've only had one that I would say was the sort of guy that I hear so many women complaining about, the type that doesn't care too much about your pleasure and/or is just uninterested in you outside of sex or is just kind of pushy. Having the option for actual, rewarding encou…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:40 PM
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Abnormal doesn't always equal bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 11:27 PM
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Why do some of y'all want BPD pussy so bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 10:03 PM
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The issue is more that promiscuity in women seems to have a much lower ceiling, while the ceiling for men seems to be much higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 12:40 AM
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Not that person, but I imagined you'd considered me not wanting to pass my disabilities onto any possible generations to be a form of eugenics. I have various reasons for nor wanting to have children, but not wanting any possible children to possibly have illnesses that are in my bloodline to be one reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:03 PM
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What's abstract and mysterious about people liking specific things?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:36 PM
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But if you're not trying to attract most men, what does it matter? Why do I need to try and attract most men if I want a man who will appreciate me kneeling them in the balls?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:34 PM
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As an ugly mofo with disabilities, I just acknowledge that shit is going to be harder for me; most men are not going to want someone like me. But I keep trying because it's something I want, and if I get tired of trying, I just take a break.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:21 PM
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Just get some tea, or milk, or a pastry, or a glass of water. Jesus! And I say this as someone who barely likes coffee, coffee shops sell other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:56 PM
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No, most anime tend to portray fat incel types very negatively while positive fat guy characters tend to be the exact opposite of incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:35 PM
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If those traits are actually important to you, you have to be willing to make that sacrifice. I'm attracted to people in specific niches and am in a niche demographic myself, so I know how difficult it is. But I'd rather be true to myself instead of doing what seems easiest.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 02:32 PM
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>harems You don't think marketing executives and car salesmen aren't out here slaying mad pussy? Come on, man. I just said that, to sell ethically, you need to respect your customer. If you see your customers as "rubes", you don't respect them. Also, marketing =/= sales. Salespeople are the ones that actually work with customers and clients and have to actually make a sale to those specific people, while marketing, which can still be for different specific demographics, is less based on working …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 02:46 AM
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The principles of trying to fuck are the same ones behind trying to sell ethically: You have to connect with your possible customer, you have to know how to talk to people in a way that isn't condescending, and you have to respect them, regardless if they say yes or no.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 11:01 PM
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How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie A Mind for Sales by Mark Hunter The Human Sales Factor by Lance Tyson 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey Okay, no method is going to work 100% of the time and people are going to say no for reasons that have nothing to do with you. But what today's generation really don't seem to get is that dating and/or getting laid is really just a matter of being able to market yourself. Marketing yourself well takes introspection int…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 07:47 PM
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You can absolutely learn about it from a book BUT you actually have to practice what you've learned. That's where the problem lies because these people don't want to actually socialize.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 07:19 PM
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the vast majority But why do you need to date the vast majority of women? Are you trying to build a harem?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 11:28 PM
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But if men were able to get relief for their sexual urges, that would allow them to be more efficient in seeking long-term partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:44 PM
1

Pretty much what my flair says
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 05:21 AM
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Or just legalized sex work but they never want to suggest that for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 04:55 AM
1

I don't get chased so therefore I'm not a woman. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:53 PM
0

women get chased And this is why I stopped identifying as a woman. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:45 PM
3

They're accountable for making an effort to take care of their children and they are allowed to do so through social welfare programs. But the less women we have doing that, the better it is for the women who need that money. And those other women blame men because men are the ones impregnating those women and then not helping raise those children. At the same time, my sympathy only extends for women who are living in religious facist hellholes (cough the majority of the United States cough) and…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 06:32 PM
7

Not having children you can't take care of and not wasting valuable tax dollars is taking accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:49 PM
1

You sound like exactly my type, but you probably wouldn't be into someone like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 05:56 PM
1

Maybe, just maybe, those women aren't feminists? Being able to benefit from the work that feminists have done does not make the beneficiary a feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:54 PM
2

You quoted the solution in your post, but people have to be willing to do that work and therein lies the problem because too many people don't want to do the work of enacting genuine change.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 07:25 PM
3

I think you're missing what Naomi Wolf is saying in that heterosexuality is natural and fine, but that we can express heterosexual desire in ways that do not need to comform to a patratiarchial system. For instance, women and men can have financial rights and bodily autonomy and that won't destroy society. It's not innate heterosexuality that's the problem, it's heterosexuality as a social role that has the problems and that's what Naomi Wolf's was trying to remedy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 07:22 PM
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It's not but literally comparing it to SA when SA is extremely rampant for both men and women is nonsensical. Intentional false accusations--not including ones where the police are making the false accusations and not the accuser, which is its own horrible issue, see West Memphis Three, The Lovely Bones case, and The Central Park Five--are horrible and real but they should be their own issue to solve and they shouldn't be compared to genuine SA.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/25 12:07 AM
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I know women also abuse boys, but most perpetrators of sexual assault against men and boys are men, and that's something that needs to be acknowledged and to stop acting as if SA( regardless of whether the offender is a man or woman) is something only women need to be concerned about. False accusations of SA should be treated as its own separate issue.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/03/25 11:37 PM
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Only if you assume the perpetrator is a woman, but men and boys have more to worry about being victimized by other men than being falsely accused by anyone.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/03/25 11:14 PM
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Why would you compare false accusations as equivalent to SA when you could just compare SA to...SA?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/03/25 11:04 PM
1

I've also heard my fair share of accounts of transwomen not dating cis women because they don't want to be placed in "the man's role", which is a whole other kettle of dysphoric fish. My first partner identified as a GNC man when we were dating while my 2nd partner was openly transitioning, but yes. And that sort of shift is scary because some of us fear that we can't offer our partners what they actually want. Many bi bottoms/switches talk about the sort of raw, passionate way that men have sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:11 PM
6

Do you think a bi man is just going to suddenly start having sex with a man in front of you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:42 PM
1

As someone who has only dated transwomen, I was always just worried about how so many transwomen talk about how they only want to sleep and date men after going on HRT when, previously, they were attracted to women. I'm sure you've heard such accounts from transwomen.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:41 PM
0

You know you can talk to potiential sex partners about getting tested before sleeping with them, right? That risk you speak of comes from the type of men who hide their bisexuality from their partners and are more likely to be prone towards risky sex with one-time partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:36 PM
0

What if I just don't find big men attractive? I'm not into extreme size difference and I'm not aroused by a need to feel physically protected.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:28 PM
8

Would you surprise someone with an invitation to some fancy French place, knowing that they just lost their job, and then be angry with them when they can't pay for a meal that's $75?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:24 PM
10

You could just ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:42 PM
2

How many shows am I supposed to watch just because I might enjoy them when I can watch what I want to watch and actually enjoy the experience? Who has all that time?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 07:40 AM
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Cortana became more human in appearance, she's still highly attractive. Also, you couldn't think of a genuine example of a game that has a large women demographic? Are there not any attractive women in Balder's Gate 3 or the Pokemon games? I think this stems from actual creators wanting to create want they want (Kingdom Come Deliverance) and versus ignorant CEOs being overly concerned with assuming that attempting to force an appeal to different demographics only within the supposed safety of a …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 07:08 AM
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No, but there should be shame in ensuing that every game that seeks to appeal to other demographics is a part of some sort of conspiracy to attack mainstream hetero tastes. Again, other storytelling mediums don't have this problem in the same way because those mediums have matured to the point that people understand that appealing to a variety of audiences will not destroy that mediums. We have films like women driven films like Barbie right alongside men driven films like Oppenheimer. The femin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:14 AM
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Video games are an entire medium, while romance novels are only a genre of literature. Why are you treating video games as if they aren't a medium and just a conduit for porn? Do you really want to live in a world without Sonic the Hedgehog, Silent Hill, GTA, Super Mario?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:46 AM
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I think this is more because video gaming as a medium is going through some growing pains and people who cannot critique well share their opinions and then other people who can't critique well argue against that poor critique and it creates a feedback loop. I have no idea who Sam Maggs is, but I do remember how certain people raged against Neil Druckman's Last of Us 2 because the character Abby is fairly muscular. On the subject of Druckman, certain subsets of fans have definitely been fussy sin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 01:40 AM
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video games/anime/comics As someone who's actually involved in both of these hobbies, too many of the people who are supposedly in favor of "fanservice" seem to forget that video games/anime/comics are storytelling mediums and not only softcore porn genres and forgetting that means their only priority is sexual desires and not what the creators in those mediums actually want to do with their work. Admittedly, I think that this is more of an issue with certain subsets of video game fans, such as …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 01:04 AM
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And yet, OP is pretty much calling me a monster for not wanting "low-tier" men, and you just said that pursuing different types of men will cause an unequal imbalance. I'm not goth and I never have been, but I like men who are into alt/GNC styles. So, what am I supposed to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 11:16 PM
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Just to clarify, a low-tier man has to be a >2, make be borderline homeless, and and can't communicate his way out of a paperback? Or does he have to fit into just one of these categories for you to consider him "low-tier?"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 11:07 PM
2

As someone with a type that's very different from the mainstream (I'm into goths , hippie, nerdy guys, and Asian guys) am I supposed to date men I don't find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:58 PM
12

Then why aren't more men abandoning dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:32 PM
3

All relationships are temporary. So what?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:21 PM
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~10% of the population So why do we keep talking about the dating habits of autistic men?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 10:03 PM
2

My standards are fairly realistic for the niches I'm interested in, so I'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:16 AM
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It's only unrealistic for people who lack patience, I guess. But being willing to actually pursue what you want, even if it takes a while, seems to upset some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 06:36 PM
1

I think "lower" is the wrong word because it implies that there's some sort of hierarchy involved and that implication is likely what pisses off many people. Saying 'change your standards' instead of 'lower your standards' would work better since many standards are not necessarily hierarchal. For instance, there's nothing really hierarchal about me wanting to date other bisexual nerds.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 05:37 PM
2

I'm a kinky bisexual butch who only wants to date bisexual men. Why are my standards unrealistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:13 PM
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You're speaking to a generation who thinks finding a good relationship should be like ordering a pizza. It's not about the standards, it's about what you'll do to find someone who meets them. And if you're willing to put in the work, why should anyone get to call you delusional?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:44 PM
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Wanting good chemistry with a partner is still a standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 07:46 PM
2

I'm into Benedict Cumberbatch and Tom Holland!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:04 AM
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There are people who aren't overweight who are attracted to overweight people. Why shouldn't overweight people pursue those people who are attracted to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:00 PM
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Rape cases are already extremely difficult to prove for a variety of reasons, including police incompetence. You still have to prove that the accuser actually set out to make a false accusation as opposed to making a mistake or being misled by police.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 08:37 PM
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Malicious accusations have to be proven.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 08:13 PM
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You really think femme guys don't date each other or that femme tops/masc bottoms don't exist? Also, there are plenty of switches who don't make giving/receiving sexual pleasure their whole identity. You seriously need to interact with some modern gays, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:13 AM
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Dating just anyone is how people end up in unsatisfying relationships that they just end up hating. Do you want to be in a relationship you hate?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 05:42 AM
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OP's post is one of the most toxically feminine things I've read in a long time. Also, if you want to see a fight against toxic feminity, look up women have to say about JK Rowling and Amanda Palmer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 08:10 PM
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Other men, which is why no one on this sub cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:35 PM
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Plenty of men are targets of violence in the Sudan and Congo conflicts, but all these so-called men's rights activists don't seem to give a damn and would rather post about hypergamy and child support all day. This is what actual misandry looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:27 PM
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Okay, and what do we do about fulfilling that need for those who are struggling?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:59 AM
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I agree with you 100%, however, I too often see men who supposedly "need" sex arguing against the usage of sex work. Can't say it makes a lot of logical sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:57 AM
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The problem is that too many of the people who speak of sex in these terms do want something done about what they perceive to be a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:51 AM
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If sex is a need, what more are we supposed to do about people who don't have regular access to it? Also, consider that even if sex is a "need", that need still exists on a spectrum and can manifest itself in different ways since different people enjoy different kinds of sexual activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:41 AM
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I'd just ask for retro computer games instead, I'd be good.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:55 PM
1

Okay, so let's say sex is a need. Are you going to set medical centers with sex workers so guys can get the help they need?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:47 PM
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Because calling something a need means that it's highly important to try and find a solution. What's the solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:40 PM
1

Not if it were like Andre Brevik's imprisonment, he gets to play video games
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:38 PM
1

Thank you, brother
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:30 PM
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>Of course, this isn’t about changing your core personality or compromising your values. Unfortunately, this is often what the case ends up being and the people who most need this advice have already compromised themselves into unfilling relationships where do end up trying to change who they are. People need to know who they are and what they actually want from a relationship before engaging in one. And most people in relationships have no idea who they are or what they actually want. >It’s abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:23 AM
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By that logic, it's perfectly okay to say things like men are trash because it supposedly doesn't mean literally all men. It's very easy to just use an adjective and give a statement the correct meaning instead of saying something that gives illogical implications. Also, there are a huge variety of disabilities so just saying disabled doesn't work in that instance. Plus, every immobile human either previously had the ability to walk on 2 legs or was born in a shape that would result in 2 legs. A…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/02/25 04:15 PM
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>I said that women lie and they do in fact need men, as in for intimacy So, lesbians and women in same-sex relationships aren't women?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/02/25 07:24 PM
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The "weirdest" preference I've heard of is my own: I'm a masculine chick and I won't enter into a LTR with a man who isn't feminine in some way or isn't willing to crossdress for me. I'm also starting to want to only date other bi people, but that's already been a trend for me. I just want to be with someone I'm genuinely attracted to and GNC behavior/clothing is what does it for me. And guys in alt subcultures like goths and metalheads. I have enough experience to know that this is what works f…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:40 PM
2

What makes someone a 2?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:27 PM
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Submissive men are a pretty sizeable niche, so they are normal, yes. Subs into hairy women are a niche within a niche, so they might have to put in a little more work. Again, people aren't hiveminds and just because nichemaxxing is "harder" doesn't mean much. But if you want to only date "normal" people, that's up to you and what you genuinely want from a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:38 PM
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RPers are just going to say you're the exception and not the rule. As you know, both genders are hiveminds and being different means that you are 100% going to die alone. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:19 PM
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I just can't understand why anyone would knowingly stay in a relationship with someone who openly dismisses something that's important to you, regardless of whether it's a secret or not. If he had discovered that he liked crossdressing years into the relationship that's one thing, but getting involved with someone who you won't respect this side of you? Why put yourself through that? And before anybody responds, I know why but it still pisses me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 11:03 PM
2

Eh, rock climbers tend to be pretty fit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 12:11 AM
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Yeah, because people still went outside and did things when you were young
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 11:32 PM
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Scraggly guys are physically attractive to me, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 04:13 PM
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People decades ago used to socialize in person and develop connections, while too many people today think that a making a genuine connection with another human being should be like ordering a pizza.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 10:07 PM
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Speak for yourself, I love having guys eat their own loads.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 03:47 PM
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Strangers, yes, some of whom will be men because men exist. Sometimes it seems as if some men will take offense regardless simply because they forget they are Strangers to most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:25 PM
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I don't fear my neighbors, but I still lock my doors.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:46 PM
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I'm gonna say drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:39 PM
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As a chick who likes feminine men--actual femme flamboyant men, not passive men--the supply of femme men who actually seek to date women is NOT high
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:14 PM
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But it's not what makes a man feminine, it just makes him passive. Why use a word for a certain type of behavior when there's already a word that perfectly defines that behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:08 PM
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Feminine =/= passive This false equivalence is brought up almost every time this discussion pops up. Secondly, how are we defining muscular? Basketball players and runners don't tend to be extremely muscular but they're definitely physically fit. You have to be completely deluding yourself to think only weightlifters can get dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:06 AM
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Easier time =/= easy mode 10 is better than 1, but 10 is also better than 1000 if you actually want to get to know people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:13 PM
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Both men and women have low-quality options, that's what you're saying? PLus, serious vetting is going to cut down that hypothetical 1000 to 10 and then to an eventual one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:58 PM
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>Having 1000 options is better than having 10 If you want to be the next Lily Phillips, sure /s
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:45 PM
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A lot of those terms cover women with a variety of body types, not just obese women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 04:46 PM
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Not every single mom is living on welfare, and more than a few of them are in the social orbit of high earners because they're high earners themselves. If you're above average, your equals are other above-average people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 01:53 AM
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Luckily, I'm not after most men, so it's all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 11:42 PM
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It is when guys are constantly complaining about obese chicks. I'm never going to look like a Victoria Secret model and I'm not trying to either, I don't have the body type for it. Gonna try to out on muscle instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 11:06 PM
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I'm 40 pounds lighter than the average American woman, so yeah, I'm above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 10:59 PM
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If I'm above average, why shouldn't I want an above average man?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 10:55 PM
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I find Chris Hemsworth pretty unattractive, that doesn't make him "mid". I just find beards to be a turnoff. I'm more of a Chris Evans type, but I'm not too attracted to him either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:20 PM
1

Forgot your /s! Either that or You're watching the wrong anime.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:50 AM
3

Therefore, sex work should be legal and treated like a form of medicine, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:31 PM
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Well, Yeah, because that's what they were pointing out...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:46 PM
1

If Captain America likes BBWs, what are you gonna do about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:38 AM
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That's what it should be about, but going into specific standards like that is going to shrink your dating pool and a lot of guys on here seem to hate that because they think being successful means almost every woman they see should be a willing romantic candidate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 03:23 AM
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similarly attractive people This is what happens IRL 8/10. That said, different people are attracted to different things and this weird idea that people should only be dating their clones is a little weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:03 AM
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Actually taking allegations seriously would mean having the police do their actual jobs and stop being so lazy and corrupt, but no one want to talk about that...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 08:08 PM
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Women like that usually aren't very good at being best friends with their husbands...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:04 PM
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If one of those guys who she dated had maybe one date prior to that, you wouldn't say that he had been struggling?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 07:05 PM
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How small is it and how good are you at giving oral?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:03 PM
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Find someone who you're attracted to and who also likes you. Understand that doing so may take time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:04 PM
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No, guys like this aren't that low value, OP and others are talking about the shlubby types you see at gas stations and Costco.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:52 PM
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Being fit =/= Being muscular
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 09:53 PM
2

Mmmmm...best I can do is 3/5
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 11:59 PM
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How is a league defined? Is it just about looks or do other factors matter too? It seems like the only examples given involve extreme examples like,"If you're a homeless 5'2 300lb woman, you shouldn't be hitting on 7'1 190lb guys living in Beverly Hills." That doesn't really help people who may not be on the extreme ends of any spectrum. Is it really a big deal if a "6" dates a "7"? Doesn't seem to be the case in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 07:28 PM
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Why does it bother you that some women don't want romantic relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 05:56 AM
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It's not fair that he got life, he should have gotten either 50-or 20 to life, with either sentence offering a chance for parole. The justice system is horrible to the mentally ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 11:27 PM
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No, you ask a salmon what it likes to eat (bait) and you adjust your fishing style accordingly. But you can't talk to fish so...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:06 PM
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Putting Gypsy Rose in that category with a bunch of psychopathic sociopaths is, well, a little psychopathic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 02:20 PM
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Honestly, I wish I was a gay dude all the time Would be much easier for me to get with femme bi guys
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 05:54 PM
1

So, you've never watched or heard of Misery, Mean Girls, or The Devil Wears Prada?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:36 PM
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A model who's a chubby chaser is settling by finding someone they actually desire?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 11:59 PM
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Because some people have a hard time understanding that different people are genuinely attracted to people who are not in this so-called 10-20%.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 11:56 PM
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So, women should date men out of pity and not attempt to find a partner whose long-term goals align with their own?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:00 AM
1

It sucks not being interested in D/S but also having a kink...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:23 PM
1

Regardless of grades or majors as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:51 PM
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Only making SOME scholarships available to people who are left-handed and studying engineering is okay, so yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:44 PM
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Every scholarship is given at the expense of someone else...you do understand that, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:03 PM
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Are women in Northern Europe not women? You can't even be arsed to say you're only talking about Americans?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:02 AM
2

Taco Bell At least go to a real Mexican place, they almost always have cheap tacos And I love Taco Bell, but damn
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:31 AM
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You really want everything to be in black-and-white, don't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:46 AM
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Men being on the higher end of "objective" attractiveness is not the same as a man being attractive to a specific woman. I'd only swipe right on one of these guys because I'm only interested in men with little to no facial hair, but I'm also pretty open about that. I also don't presume that my tastes are objective or mainstream, but I do presume that I should pursue people I'm actually attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 11:07 PM
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My bad! What actually happened is that I misunderstood when OP told me the percentage of guys he swiped left on to get to the people he actually spoke to. So, he still had to use specific standards to decide why to talk to these 7 guys. However, having any sort of standards that narrows a woman's choices is seemed as a crime on this sub. However, however, the less specific standards an "average" woman has, the more options she may appear to have. OP himself said he wouldn't have gone out with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:48 PM
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It sucks because people who actually date with purpose choose not to waste the time of others?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:21 PM
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OP fully admitted that these men are only a small subset of those that responded, so no, this post does not refute that claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:17 PM
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Your experiment simply proves that dating is fundamentally unfair and can't be made fair due to the reality that having specific desires for a LTR means that someone will have to be rejected sooner or later, no matter how forgiving their standards may seem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:14 PM
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So you're basically just making the dating world harder for these fellows for no good reason? And yeah, because most random guys are not going to meet specific standards for a LTR with a specific individual because different individuals want different things. If you did actually go on dates with them, you'd still have to have standards by which some of them would still have to be rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:44 PM
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How many guys did you have to ignore/turn down to get to guys who "you" actually found attractive and met your requirements? Do you plan on dating all seven guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:12 PM
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I have to do the same to maintain a figure that's on the heavier side of average and I still think people think I'm fat because I'm not skinny. Even at my thinnest, I wasn't "thin". I'd have to be anorexic to have that sort of ideal figure, it's wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:32 PM
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Eh, I'd bang at least 40% of the guys at my workplace. Don't know about actual dating because I don't know enough of them that well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:19 PM
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If more guys said exactly that, the message would hit its mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 02:03 PM
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Heh, I wish. Peacocks are gorgeous, more guys should be like peacocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 10:17 PM
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Speaking as a thicker, kinda ugly chick, my cock sucking skills are top notch and I've had several testimonials confirming such
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:07 PM
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It doesn't have to be about just weight loss, just having a regular workout routine-strength training, yoga, pilates, martial arts, all that fun stuff-will benefit a woman's sexual energy. We need to take the focus off of weight (weight gain is almost always a symptom of some other issue) and put the focus on getting regular exercise and actually enjoying it!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:29 PM
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If your ex was a black man? Probably
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:05 AM
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Most people have facial symmetry and do not look uncanny enough to be "ugly"; the reality is women have different things that they're looking for in long-term. A tall man is above 6 feet and Many women are not with men who are tall, they're with men who are TALLER THAN THEM, that's not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 12:34 AM
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I wish that was true on my planet, skinny/slender guys aren't that easy to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:52 PM
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Um, yes? Why do you want to leave socks on the floor of your own house?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:42 PM
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The reality is women are not interchangeable, what's attractive to one woman you hit on may be unappealing to the next woman you go for. Not all women find skinny guys or big guys unattractive, not all women are attracted to muscular guys. Plenty of people who aren't poor live with their parents or have roommates, that's reality and many women understand that. There is no advice that is going to guarantee getting a partner; finding actual love isn't like ordering pizza and that's one thing the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:22 PM
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As someone who's been poly for more than a decade, I see now that me not being fat is why I can't find my bi femme men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:37 PM
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So, women protecting themselves in anyway like being aware of their surroundings, or carrying mace on them, is them being sexist?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 02:06 PM
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It's actually a pretty decent read....
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 02:04 PM
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something deeper Given how many people on this sub don't seem to want to believe that a LTR should actually include similar values...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 02:50 AM
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lol half of these are your generation, sis
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 02:49 PM
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No, both I'm black myself and I like that kind of look in black and dark skinned men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 01:15 AM
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if you know anything about the 50s, the answer is yes. Dating to actually meet a LTR partner doesn't need to include fucking on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:05 PM
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I like long haired guys with piercings and nail polish, think Gerard Way or Billie Joe Armstrong. I'm also into Cillian Murphy, Micheal Jackson, Tom Holland, Arsenio Hall, Kurt Cobain, Bad Bunny, David Bowie, and the guys from BTS (Asian men in general tend to appeal to me)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:21 PM
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Because women are individuals and some individuals will be bothered by certain things regardless of any general rules. There are no guarantees in life but death and taxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:38 PM
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why do straight people just hate talking about what they like in bed before getting in bed? it's like you guys want to have dead bedrooms you're about to marry this guy, just tell him what you want in bed and if he can't give it to you DON'T MARRY HIM
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:41 PM
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There's a difference between being closed poly (triads, throuples, V-style relationships, etc,) and just having a license by your partner to bang randos. The latter can definitely cause more STD exposure, but the former is just as safe as any other closed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 09:11 PM
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And those women tend to lie and obfuscate that they're fucking around, they don't even go on actual dates. Even going on a date or two isn't dating, that's meeting and how things used to be done in more "traditional" times.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:51 AM
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A lot of modern people seem to confuse "talking to" people on apps with serious, actual, dating, it's really insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:39 AM
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If you're seeing someone once or twice a week, a month goes by pretty fast
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:06 PM
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Speaking as an ugly chick, no, they won't. Dating is not the same as fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 04:29 PM
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Who said anything about it being simple? Do you want the pizza or not? Honestly, that's the biggest issue with how this generation approaches relationships, everything is supposed to be simple and instantaneous with no effort involved. The average Joe has to make opportunities, the same way average Joes used to do. It wasn't easy back then and it's not easy now; it's okay to admit that, but it's not okay to pretend that there was never any difficulty involved with finding actual love.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:23 AM
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Imagine knowing you just want a slice of pizza, but also knowing that not all slices of pizza are the same, so you'll have to visit different places to find the right slice of pizza for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:54 PM
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Because you can get one to like you if you're willing to go out and actually meet as many women as possible, while recognizing that every single one of those women is probably looking for something you may not be able to offer. You have to actually know what you want and be willing to be patient and persistent in search of that goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:23 PM
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Almost every guy who complains about why "women" aren't interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:21 PM
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The reality is that there is no silver bullet that's going to make every single woman like you. I'm not sure why this is so hard for people to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 08:51 PM
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In the US it's above average, plus the UK is less automobile centric than the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:21 PM
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LET HER COOK
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:18 PM
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The only way to fix the immigration issue is to fix worker's rights in most countries. You can't say you don't want to fix illegal immigration and then do nothing about corporations not paying fair wages to legal citizens
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:36 PM
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What about beautiful men who don't look like Marlon Brando?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:19 PM
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Speaking as an actually chubby chick (my thickness is apparent because of my shape and losing some mass wouldn't hurt, but I'm not anywhere near obese), I see women who are complete balls of mass with men--good-looking men, but usually it's a heavy guy!--all the damn time. And all I can ask myself is just what the hell am I doing wrong? I know finding someone you actually want to be with in an actual decent relationship isn't as easy as some of the clowns here want to make it seem, but still!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:11 PM
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Hey, I'm pretty masc so by hetero definition I'm pretty ugly, but I love men with femme sides and I don't really know how to attract them. Any advice for someone like me?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:27 PM
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The Marvels Maybe because it was a shitty movie or the average woman just doesn't have a reason to care about the movie because there was almost no marketing? Women showed up for films like Wonder Woman and Frozen, and a ton of women viewers gravitated to TV shows like Euphoria, Jessica Jones, and Wandavision. We just had Barbie become one of the most financially lucrative films of all time. If you honestly think women don't show out for stories that focus on women characters, you're just not pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:11 PM
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Butch bi chick here, I love bi guys but all I want are twink/femme/openly GNC men. All those girls sound absolutely nuts to me!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 09:43 PM
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The terms obese and overweight are not synonymous; obesity is a legit medical problem, most women who are even medically overweight are not going to be over 200 pounds
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 11:50 PM
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