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| 2 | Do girls find it to be a red flag if a guy does not have social media?False. If there are guys that don't care about social media then you have women that don't care about social media. Before social media people still hooked up. Can it help? Maybe if you're looking for women that care about social media. Do you care about social media of the women you date? Likely not. | /r/seduction | 14/03/21 05:16 PM |
| 2 | 90% of the dating coaches out there are full of shit and they can make you infertile.Especially since a married person could have "lucked" into their relationship. Plenty of people get married because they got introduced through friends. Most people that have trouble with getting into relationships usually have confidence issues and lack some fundamentals of reading body language. | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 04:35 PM |
| 3 | 90% of the dating coaches out there are full of shit and they can make you infertile.Yeah some people might even use the logic of: Nice I can go to a dating coach which is less painful than a vasectomy and I get cool techniques for picking up women who will now not worry about condoms or pregnancy. | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Asked out the hottest girl in my gym... (first time trying pickup)Oops, most realized I replied to the wrong person. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lfbhla/_/gmntcaw | /r/seduction | 09/02/21 01:01 PM |
| 8 | Asked out the hottest girl in my gym... (first time trying pickup)Exactly, yelling a compliment at someone you don't know as they are leaving is pretty much the same as cat calling. If you want to hit on someone with a compliment of even just give a compliment, then go up to them and say hello first. Make eye contact and communicate. Don't run after someone or yell at them from across the room. Whenever you do something like this, imagine if some dude did the same to you or you were to give a compliment to another guy. The goal of this exercise is to try and a… | /r/seduction | 09/02/21 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Why “nice guys finish last”I agree 100%, but going back into stasis will happen as the numbers get worse. Local governments won't have a choice when their hospitals are overflowed. See california: https://covid19.ca.gov/stay-home-except-for-essential-needs/#regional-stay-home-order When ICU capacity drops below 15% for a region a stay at home order gets initiated and lasts for 3 weeks. I am not saying businesses should stop, but caution is needed. I am not against going to stores, shopping and helping local businesses. Ho… | /r/seduction | 23/12/20 04:54 AM |
| 9 | Why “nice guys finish last”Everyone needs to still go shopping for food. Depending on your area, masks may not be mandated or compliance can be low. They could have had a friend or family member over that was not social distancing thinking they were safe because of no symptoms. Your story is anecdotal, they could have been doing stuff that was risky but told everyone that they were not. At this time going out of a very risky thing and if you happen to get civic and need hospitalization then you are screwed. If you are "lu… | /r/seduction | 22/12/20 04:45 PM |
| 3 | The worst advice ever. There is like a million reasons they might forget to call you/ be shy themselves or just simply think you’re “meh” at first. Grab life by the balls and you call them! Its all on you.To be fair, being on life pro tips and not men trying to seduce women. If your a women, then the advice is golden because it's exactly what men hope for. Based on that, it's good for the majority of people (51% of people in the US are women). The men seeking men or women seeking women, it can also be great advice since someone needs to give their number. It's not great for men going for women because of social expectations. It's changing slowly, but unfortunately you are at the mercy of hoping y… | /r/seduction | 22/10/20 12:39 PM |
| 3 | Attraction is not created by what you logically say but instead by what you emotionally convey. This is why intelligent technically minded people often fail at casual conversation.Well being the top 0.5% at rocket league can get you laid. http://dignitas.gg/articles/blogs/rocket-league/13605/interview-with-elyse-girlfriend-of-yukeo http://team-dignitas.net/articles/blogs/rocket-league/13329/interview-with-mira-girlfriend-of-tsm-rocket-league-player-remkoe Though I guess you need to go pro first to make that money. | /r/seduction | 20/10/20 03:25 AM |
| 35 | Attraction is not created by what you logically say but instead by what you emotionally convey. This is why intelligent technically minded people often fail at casual conversation.This is because when you break down mating behaviors you start seeing all sorts of patterns. These patterns are not really rules, more of conventions that seem to lead to success. Many people who have difficulty with social conventions are very logical so they need logical explanations. You could just say, be the best version of yourself don't put others on pedestals Try to leave everyone better than when you me them. Don't have expectations and you won't be disappointed treat everyone with resp… | /r/seduction | 20/10/20 03:12 AM |
| 13 | I just picked up a cutie in the Walmart parking lot!! (Cold approach Story)It's an advertisement for his YouTube channel and dating services. The picture is for believability and "proof" of the encounter. | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 12:00 PM |
| 3 | LPT: If ur talking to a girl and some other dude approaches to hit on her just interrupt and say “I’m sorry, is this a friend of yours? Hi nice to meet you”Or they both give a fuck and a threesome is born. | /r/seduction | 14/08/20 12:21 PM |
| 10 | How to meet girls in 2020?It's a numbers game and with online you have much larger competition with less interaction. It's much more difficult to connect so looks are far more important along with providing a profile that sells you well compared to everyone else, but not too well that you seem fake. Think about it, you can spend 10 minutes at a bar with her undivided attention while online those first ten minutes are likely spread over hours or days while she is interacting with multiple other guys in between you interac… | /r/seduction | 20/06/20 03:59 PM |
| 6 | Men cannot outsmart women in seduction (and shouldn't)Exactly, however saying just be yourself is poor advice because many people don't have the natural drive to become better. They need help in order to realize that not all change is against being yourself. Do you care about your health? Sure! Do you exercise regularly? No, I am a nerd. Plenty of people don't exercise but get women! Do you eat well balanced meals? Nah, veggies are not very good. Do you care about how you look? Nah, women don't care about looks like guys do! Reality check. Being yo… | /r/seduction | 10/06/20 11:52 AM |
| 3 | Why talking to strangers (including beautiful ones :) ) is so hard...Agreed, what people don't understand is that so those conversations in line help teach you not to be afraid of approaching and becoming more comfortable just talking. The first minute or two is the toughest part because your thinking, "am I bothering this person, what should I talk about, does this person like me, etc". Those are things you don't really think about when talking with a friend. What's the difference between a friend and some random stranger in line? Time. Friends were strangers on… | /r/seduction | 29/05/20 11:54 AM |
| 3 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyExactly, is like dancing. You put music on and most people will shy away because they are afraid of being judged. Then this dude gets in the dance floor and owns it. You think you could never be like that, but that dude practiced and failed so many times. He could do the stupidest dance move and many people would love it. Eventually he stopped caring about what other people thought and just danced. Some people like it, some may not. You sometimes get so in your head you can't focus on what's in … | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 03:18 PM |
| 19 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyTo be fair, most of this sub is about getting guys talking to girls and trying to improve themselves. They give them some "tricks" that may or may not work but give some confidence. Some girls even like them, but the guy makes zero moves. Now they come here get some stuff to try that may not work well. In the process, they might get rejected but they are also learning. This is better than before where they were just doing the same safe things. They get used to being rejected and realize it's not… | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 11:49 AM |
| 2 | Flirting isn't getting someone to like you, it's finding out if someone likes you.The problem is that most guys have a problem with self confidence and being thirsty. They try to impress women because they think that will make up for being boring. Instead of hitting the gym to get fit and better they look for bad advice like treat them like dirt. Girls like good looking guys just like you like good looking girls. The thing is girls don't approach guys often. Guys get rejected and want to avoid it as nice as possible. You know girls get friend zoned by guys too and hate it? Gi… | /r/seduction | 27/04/20 02:37 AM |
| 21 | Flirting isn't getting someone to like you, it's finding out if someone likes you.Very wrong attitude. Having sex with someone your not into is not some great accomplishment to be proud of. Basically the moral of your story is: she got desperate because the other guys she found more attractive rejected her so she went after you who because you were also desperate lowered your standards as well. What you should be doing is not spending energy on chasing women who are not interested. Instead focus on becoming a better person and actually being interested in the people you meet … | /r/seduction | 26/04/20 07:16 PM |
| 9 | Your thoughts on the Art of seduction by Robert Greene?Fact: women are just as nervous as you when they are around someone they like. Fact: women are afraid of rejection just as much as you. Fact: women are people and have confidence issues just like you Fact: the worst thing about rejection is that you don't get that girl Fact: the best thing about rejection is that you know that you should put your energy into another girl Fact: women reject men because they don't find them attractive or have a relationship just like men rejecting women Fact: men … | /r/seduction | 23/03/20 04:01 PM |
| 3 | Most girls only want your attentionThe reason push pull works so well is because of the dating strategy of most women of to see who is attracted to them. And try to wait out for the most desirable mate. This means that guys that show lots of attention have a higher chance of picking her over some other girl so they can wait longer to decide the guy they want. Think about it from your perspective. You see several attractive girls. Do you try to date the girl that shows you excessive attention or the one that seems to have options?… | /r/seduction | 23/03/20 12:13 AM |
| 1 | So a girl tried to put me in the friend zone yesterday…What do you mean? Is that how (bring nothing to the table) you treat your friends? Is this how your friends treat you? | /r/seduction | 08/03/20 11:31 PM |
| 37 | We all know we can't make a girl attracted to us. So if the girl is attracted to us, what's the point in gaming her?Attraction is a state not a trait As you learn about a person attraction can increase or decrease. If you do nothing, then attraction fades just like the novelty of watching the same mystery where you know the ending. Game provides tools and rules to get to on the path As you become more confident you gain freedom from game and just be the best you. It's not far from becoming a Buddhist and trying to achieve enlightenment. The more you try to understand yourself and how it relates to others, the… | /r/seduction | 06/03/20 05:17 PM |
| 2 | Strip clubs are a an amazing trainer but should never be used as a substitute.To me it's better to chat with strangers in line and stuff. This is much better because you can see that even regular people won't care about you being a bit awkward. It also gets you in the habit of just chatting with people even if you don't find them attractive which is key. | /r/seduction | 25/02/20 07:04 PM |
| 4 | Strip clubs are a an amazing trainer but should never be used as a substitute.Think about it like this. Women get sick, goto the bathroom, shower, brush their teeth, comb their hair, get dressed, worry about the clothes they wear, worry about how they look, worry if the guy they like likes them, worry about money, etc. Make friends with women and watch how they get worried about guys just like you worry about girls. To see them as regular people, make friends and just be friends. Edit: women also get nervous when meeting new people. They also are afraid of rejection. | /r/seduction | 25/02/20 05:37 PM |
| 5 | The single biggest sign to look for to find out if a girl is attracted to you.If they are that shy, then they will likely blush a lot when you pay attention to them. They will also look down in a submissive fashion instead of to the side. | /r/seduction | 08/02/20 10:26 PM |
| 2 | Eye contact when walking past womenThat's old school: https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/does-exercising-at-night-affect-sleep Sleep can be positivly affected by exercise before bed. The caveat is you can't do vigorous exercise like interval training. | /r/seduction | 07/02/20 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Eye contact when walking past womenIt's all relative. You can be slim and athletic and be attractive like many of the boy band guys. Being skinny but can't do push-ups? That's problem. Being skinny has an advantage in that as you get stronger your likely will be very shredded so your muscles will be very noticeable but you won't be bulky assuming you dress well. Work out to healthy and don't worry about becoming shredded, muscular or anything. Just try to be fit. Even if you don't notice it, others will even if they can't put the… | /r/seduction | 07/02/20 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Eye contact when walking past womenExactly, treat other people's interactions as innocent until proven guilty. In other words, attribute positive reasons instead of assuming it's negative. She is looking at me: maybe she likes me, wants to get to know me, thinks I am cool, likes my clothes, etc. Heck when if a girl had a negative reaction to your approach: she was not interested just like your not interested in tons of other girls on to the next, she has a boyfriend so not your fault, she was having a bad day which is not your fa… | /r/seduction | 07/02/20 03:11 PM |
| 2 | How would you address why you don't have anything on facebook/no friends on it? Say she asks you for your facebook or searches you, only to find a blank page with your name on itThat's because most services people use don't require Facebook logins. It might be an option, like Google, but but not required. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 12:46 AM |
| 1 | How would you address why you don't have anything on facebook/no friends on it? Say she asks you for your facebook or searches you, only to find a blank page with your name on itUnless your actually joining, What services? | /r/seduction | 01/02/20 09:50 PM |
| 1 | How do you (20 M) show interest and effectively flirt with girls?Easy Become confident. Become fit. Become a better you. Since your kinda friends your should kinda ask her out. If she kinda rejects you, then you can kinda ask out other people into you get a date. Multiple dates can lead to sex, multiple sex can lead to kids, multiple kids can lead to marriage, multiple marriage can lead to a new perspective on family. Like others said, do some research and experiment. If you can't ask her out then you got to get out your comfort zone. | /r/seduction | 20/01/20 12:46 AM |
| 6 | What Every Pretty Girl and Champ Guy Knows, But Can Never Tell YouOr to look at it another way, why do you think people who get into long term relationships start to slack off? They get stuck in a rut, start missing the gym, figure they got the girl/guy and they can relax. Remember, you should be improving, and your girl should be as well. You don't see an Olympic athlete stop training once they win gold, they keep training to do better. They beat a record, and they want to beat the new record. As they get older they start looking at other things to pursue, ma… | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Essentials of Seduction & Pickup: Boyfriend Vibe vs. The Player VibeThe problem is to approach is attracting the girls. The fact your picking up girls without have to say anything speaks volumes to what those girls are after. Most girls looking for monogamous relationship will be a bit more picky about personality. You will need to have conversations so that the girl understands your after more than a hook up. This will mean you will probably turn off girls looking for hook ups, but that is a good thing because you need to filter them out to get what you want. D… | /r/seduction | 13/12/19 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Remember, if someone wants you in their life, they will make both the space and put in the effort.Your projecting your own insecurity. I never said you deserve nothing, that is you saying that. So I said was that people who judge others tend to have insecurities about themselves. If you stop judging others and try to be more positive you will judge yourself less and gain confidence and self esteem. You will care less about what others think and learn to decide what critiques are worth your energy. Focusing on improving yourself. Calling other people lazy and fatties is not trying to improve … | /r/seduction | 11/12/19 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Physical looks get your foot in the door, character and personality keep you in.Most would agree with you however, a minimal level of physical looks is needed. This minimal level might be higher or lower depending on your own looks and expectations. | /r/seduction | 09/12/19 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Remember, if someone wants you in their life, they will make both the space and put in the effort.Everyone can improve, the first step is recognizing this. There will always be someone better than you at something. Olympic athletes train their entire lives to become the best and there are still people better. However that don't mean they stop training. Models (male and female) are insecure about their looks, but most could not understand that because they see near perfection. Accept what you are now and try to improve to become better. Some things you can't change, but many things can be imp… | /r/seduction | 09/12/19 04:05 PM |
| 4 | Remember, if someone wants you in their life, they will make both the space and put in the effort.People who judge others harshly judge themselves the harshest. Learn to be less judgemental. Don't mean you have to date people you don't find attractive, but you should still try to not judge then so harshly. Don't generalize and try being more positive, you never know you might actually start enjoying people. | /r/seduction | 08/12/19 09:59 PM |
| 3 | A part time job can actually make you a better conversationalistAgreed, imagine a job where rejection is pretty much the norm and having to deal with unreasonable customers on the regular. As a software developer you will have opportunities to meet and chat with people. This will range from doing support where people have problems and you need to figure out what they are and how to fix the bugs. You will learn how to calm people down and not react to angry people. You will also eventually move into more analyst type position where you meet with users to gath… | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 03:53 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else simultaneously want to make a deep connection with one girl but..also want to bang many hot girls?I certainly agree the biggest issue is social. It will be tough to remove the stigma of poly and getting people more comfortable with sex on general. Media needs to show such relationships as viable and ok. Heck we still have an issue with people who don't get married or have kids by a certain age. I certainly agree that poly is an attractive proposition. You get to have a more rounded core group of relationships. I think in time out will become more common once it becomes more accepted. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 04:04 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else simultaneously want to make a deep connection with one girl but..also want to bang many hot girls?Because most people grew up having many platonic relationships with a core group and some "lower tier" acquaintances. There is a higher level of trust because you don't have as much invested into the relationship. You don't have as much intimacy and sex brings on stronger bonding than just hanging out. Most people in platonic relationships are in the same sex and not with people they would want to have sex with. Sex is mostly considered sacred in many cultures only to be shared with one person a… | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 01:16 AM |
| 14 | Comparing this to the IG model who doesn't want a nice guy 🤔The Instagram model was looking for someone who was genuine and confident who was not a yes man. A person that challenged her if she does stupid things and she can challenge if he does stupid things. A person who she can bring new experiences to and teach things and she can learn and have new experiences with. Her wording by saying she rather be treated like crap was poor, but only a small part of what she said. In fact if your going by the opposite of what the Instagram model is looking for, yo… | /r/seduction | 01/11/19 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Instagram Model Reveals How She Feels About “Nice Guys” and “White Knights” on LAHWF.I think your missing her point. She wants a person that challenges her and that she can challenge. The fixing of the guy is get way of saying that he is a better person with her in his life. She also wants the guy to be an improvement in life. Take a guy who don't travel that much. She might find it enjoyable to open him to traveling. By the same token he might open her up to going to trying new foods or going to plays. Most people want someone to compliment them and have enough similarities to … | /r/seduction | 01/11/19 09:02 PM |
| 5 | The one thing I know for sure about excusesYet people still ask why and want explanations. Seems hypocritical to hate "excuses" but ask for explanations when things don't go your way. | /r/seduction | 05/10/19 03:05 PM |
| -1 | Leonardo DiCaprio Dating BoundariesIt's not like these women were famous since birth. | /r/seduction | 03/10/19 02:16 AM |
| 3 | She confirmed it, the truth in one sentence.Your joking right? Most women fully admit that they wear certain outfits to feel sexy and confident. This is for themselves. Sometimes it's just certain underwear that nobody can even see. The results are they appear more attractive as a whole and can pick up more mates, but it's no different than guys wearing clothes that look good. Why do you wear nice clothes? Your thinking is a perfect example of overthinking and trying to seem like you have a better understanding of people than you actually… | /r/seduction | 01/10/19 02:50 PM |
| 16 | Very hot girl gave me a record-breaking number of shit tests on our first date. I deflected most of them and she ended up initiating the kissWhat games? Sounds like she was teasing and bantering with him and he was able to keep it fun. The girl initiated the kiss which likely means she is not stringing him along. Heck she even contacted him to confirm the second date. Your looking at a snapshot of an entire night which is only discussing the "tests" she gave. | /r/seduction | 17/07/19 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Why do festivals and parties have much higher quality women than you see at a bar/club on a normal weekend?Festivals can draw tens of thousands to over one hundred thousand people. Couple that with people travel from around the country to around the world depending on the festival and you can a larger variety of people that have money. They are also going to be fit, because they enjoy going to parties where they are going to be wearing less clothes (ie swimsuits, shirtless, etc). You also get the girls weekend and such. | /r/seduction | 08/07/19 03:50 PM |
| 14 | Women will laugh with a happy man, they will comfort an upset man, but they will run away from a bitter man.I think it's more about being unhappy/anger for other people when what brings them joy seems trivial it stupid to you. Like seeing adults getting excited for a fortnite gaming session and that thinking they need to grow up and stop playing a kid's game. Being angry at kids for doing silly dances at the mall. Seeing people dressed up for a comic/anime/gaming convention and making fun of them. Seeing guys dressed in drag and making fun of them. You should be able to see the joy and have wonder abo… | /r/seduction | 20/03/19 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Look for three things before asking a woman outI think we are in agreement on this. I don't feel you if you see her looking at you and assuming anything. If you want to go for it, go for it. However don't think that she was checking you out and when you get rejected think that she was attracted to you and wanted to fuck you anyway. That creates neediness as well, because some people will continue to go after the girl that is not interested at all. Negative thoughts are definitely not helpful, and to me a better way to look at it is that it w… | /r/seduction | 01/03/19 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Look for three things before asking a woman outMy point is that, if someone wants to have sex with you on an unconscious level it don't mean much. They could be looking at because they like your jacket, the clothes, the shoes, the car, your juggling, your laughing, your crying, your yelling, your in their eye line, etc. The guy looks great but smokes. Some girls would be a hard pass on that, but might fantasize about him. Some fat guy who is ugly has no girls checking him out can flaunt money to get sex with models because they see monetary … | /r/seduction | 22/02/19 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Look for three things before asking a woman outSome people can appreciate beautiful people without wanting to have sex with them. | /r/seduction | 21/02/19 09:07 PM |
| 0 | Look for three things before asking a woman outAny girl telling you she had a boyfriend either has a boyfriend or is not interested. If she wants to strings attached she more likely will say: just looking to have fun, I am ok with being single, not really looking for a boyfriend, not looking for a relationship, I want to keep it casual, I am seeing a few other people, etc. If a girl is pretending to have a boyfriend to get a FWB or one night stand, it's a red flag and a sure sign of immaturity. | /r/seduction | 21/02/19 08:54 PM |
| 5 | Look for three things before asking a woman outGirls enjoy looking at attractive people even if they have zero intention of dating or sleeping with them. Guys do the same thing. | /r/seduction | 19/02/19 03:33 PM |
| 9 | Look for three things before asking a woman out"wrong moves" are better than no moves. This is even truer if the girl is already attracted to you. | /r/seduction | 19/02/19 03:20 PM |
| 1 | The deal with “hot” girls... and why they’re definitely not out of your league.When I say don't be a negative person, I mean not negative in general. If your really a negative person you wont be seen as genuine when you act positive. You say women are negative in front of and you don't care, that concerns me because it seems to me either your hanging out with negative people or your ok with a negative atmosphere. Personally I don't tolerate constant negative behavior and either try to make things more positive or give up interacting with such people. But I genuinely am a p… | /r/seduction | 08/01/19 04:46 PM |
| 2 | The deal with “hot” girls... and why they’re definitely not out of your league.That's because the people telling you that some magic tricks will get you girls are usually trying to make some money as well. Everyone can't be in the top 1% of males by doing some trick on the internet. Women are people, the overweight nerdy girl could be like you and not willing to compromise waiting for the perfect mate. Women are people and that have more interests than physical. Maybe she don't like that your negative. Are you connecting with this girl on an emotional level? Can you hold a… | /r/seduction | 08/01/19 03:06 PM |
| 5 | The deal with “hot” girls... and why they’re definitely not out of your league.The thing that annoys you is that attractive people don't need conference to get friends or mates. What you miss is that fat nerdy girl wont be getting a bunch of guys or friends if she is not socializing. Men don't need tons of confidence to have friends or get girls. The issue is many guys are trying to get super model girls when they are even hitting the gym regularly looking like a make model. Looks are not everything, but they can be open the doors. The reality is that many women are gettin… | /r/seduction | 08/01/19 02:53 AM |
| 1 | How to start Friends-with-benefits (FWB) relationship with one of my friends?In the US we tend to consider dates for potential significant others. It's more of the connotation of the word. I agree some kind of outing is required like a Netflix and chill to provide an excuse and atmosphere so the lady don't feel like a slut. She went to watch a movie and "things happened". It's definitely a bit different than dating a girl because usually you don't care about getting to know her (you probably do already), and you don't care if she is compatible emotionally (it's just sex)… | /r/seduction | 27/08/18 08:11 PM |
| 2 | How to start Friends-with-benefits (FWB) relationship with one of my friends?The idea is that dating a girl usually implies you will wait on sex to build a connection. While a FWB is someone you are likely comfortable with but don't see as dating material. This usually means you can be very direct with simply going for sex or at least bringing the topic up without taking them to "dinner and movie". | /r/seduction | 27/08/18 06:30 PM |
| 1 | How to get rid of a girl that friendzoned meAsking a friend for help is not desperate. You act as if you never asked someone to help introduce you to a guy you liked. How is it desperate to ask for help? A guy asking you to introduce him to your single friends means he thinks your friends are worth his time. If you think he had no standards because of that that reflects on your poor choice of friends not him being desperate. | /r/seduction | 19/08/18 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Is it essential that she thinks you are handsome for a cold approach to work?If it's not fun and your happy where you are then don't stress about it. Nothing will throw women in your path. You have to put yourself outside your comfort zone. Sure being almost 30 means you probably have a lot of quirks you may need to work on, but it's not the end of the world. There is now way to discern the difference between a lucky person and a skillful person when it's related to something you don't understand. The only thing we have is consistency that makes an outcome go from lucky … | /r/seduction | 16/08/18 07:04 PM |
| 3 | Is it essential that she thinks you are handsome for a cold approach to work?No your attitude is toxic because you sound like your giving up and calling yourself an alien. I agree some of of the experts are trying to take advantage of people with poor social skills to make money. Some even do it for the thrill of being seen as awesome. Yes it does all come down to being attractive which is subjective and every changing. That is a good thing, subjective things mean that every person is a unique opportunity as everyone has a different definition of subjective. Oops auto co… | /r/seduction | 16/08/18 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Is it essential that she thinks you are handsome for a cold approach to work?Your attitude is toxic instead of positive. Seduction is not snake oil, it's about playing numbers and becoming a better version of you so you can eventually meet people where a mutual attraction is created. The more friends you have the more likely they will have single friends that might click. Get fit and learn to enjoy how you like. The reason is describing techniques seem simple but hard to execute is because some people are naturals and others are not gaining experience by trying. Eventual… | /r/seduction | 16/08/18 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Is it essential that she thinks you are handsome for a cold approach to work?Don't forget confidence is important. If you go up to a girl with a carefree attitude and no expectations you will do better. The idea is you have to truly be ok with just being friends or even getting rejected. This boy only reduces pressure on you, but reduces pressure on the girl. If the girl is attractive enough, but not too attractive she will be approached by many guys. This can cause her to be very dismissive and picky about granting strangers her time. Really attractive girls don't get h… | /r/seduction | 15/08/18 08:31 PM |
| 4 | Is it essential that she thinks you are handsome for a cold approach to work?A better example is a similarly less than ideal physically girl hitting on you and your reaction. It's more powerful than showcasing an example of some other guy that "did it wrong". | /r/seduction | 15/08/18 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Is it essential that she thinks you are handsome for a cold approach to work?Yes, because below average for one girl can be average or even above average for someone else. Think of it like this, you certainly have probably have found a girl attractive when your mates did not. Girls are people and have different tastes. If you got enough physical looks, your personality can fill the gap. The key is being reasonable with your approaches and being good at reading buddy language. Don't just approach the hottest girls, approach girls you find attractive even if others might n… | /r/seduction | 15/08/18 06:51 PM |
| 1 | The sexual history of a girlBut by the same token it does not mean that those guys are using her. The conversation could have actually went, Guys: we want to do you doggy style while my friend films it Girl: sure ok. Granted I am sure it would be elegant than that, but I imagine at no point the girl is assuming it's anything more than just sex between random strangers. They may have even given her money as well. You are judging them for an act you feel is immoral in that people should not be intimate like that without bein… | /r/seduction | 08/07/18 11:52 PM |
| 1 | The sexual history of a girlPerhaps I did misread your post. However I think now I understand why you get angry at such things. You value something that really does not have value. Your a virgin by some technicality that you made up where only penetrative sex where your penis enters her vagina makes it sex. The realty is that oral sex is also sex. Handjobs, fingering are also sex. You place this value of virginity on others who may not feel the same and it creates an incongruence where you think that the girl is being used… | /r/seduction | 08/07/18 07:17 PM |
| 1 | The sexual history of a girlWe are discussing why you get angry at consensual acts of sex you don't agree with. The goal is to understand why you feel that the consensual acts of sex you are viewing are making you angry. You said something similar happened to your FWB which I assumed was you doing things based on your post. Maybe you feel that you may manipulate women not in purpose. You talk about not having sex with your FWB yet have oral sex. You are wondering why you are getting so angry at these consensual acts of sex… | /r/seduction | 08/07/18 03:02 AM |
| -1 | The sexual history of a girlIf my daughter wants to be in porn videos, that's her decision. I would remind her that the internet never forgets and she should becareful if the social stigma of such a profession. See that is exactly why you get so angry. You manipulate girls and feel it's wrong and assume other guys are doing bad things like you. You are judging yourself and in turn judge them as well. You feel guilty about the bad things you do and project that onto others. | /r/seduction | 08/07/18 12:02 AM |
| 11 | The sexual history of a girlThat is a culturally thing that needs to be removed. Don't think a slut is bad. Why is it wrong for a girl to enjoy things like that? Assuming everything was consensual, there is nothing wrong. Some girls enjoy being treated that way during sex, some guys as well (being submissive). You should not judge her or them as long as everything was consensual. Many women have rape fantasies. This not that they want to be raped but want to give in and be submissive. They want their strong protector to do… | /r/seduction | 07/07/18 12:26 AM |
| 16 | Do men like being asked out or pursued by women?For some they don't want the baggage of a kid that is not theirs. Also many feel in our culture that of a person is a single parent that they made some poor life choices in having kids when things may have not been good in the relationship. I know some women that have used having a kid as an attempt to assert the man into marriage or at least keeping the relationship alive. Behavior like that is unhealthy and is a red flag. If the single mom has older kids in their teens when she is in her late … | /r/seduction | 14/05/18 06:20 PM |
| 5 | ☠️7 Deadly Sins Of Picking Up Women☠️I agree. It's fine to be frugal and is in fact it's quite desirable. However it is important to give the vibe of being frugal as a choice and not because of the lack of resources. The idea being that you are in control of your finances and they don't control you. Sure you could buy that Tesla, but you are driving a Civic because you don't feel it's worth the extra money for something to get you from point A to point B. That money could be better used by saving for retirement, nicer vacations, ho… | /r/seduction | 30/04/18 01:31 PM |
| 1 | A guy lived with all women for a week and tweeted all of his observations about themYes society refers to everyone, not just men or women. I was not trying to say you are wrong for not accepting them but agreeing with you while trying to give another perspective. The idea is to see where the behavior comes from and hopefully learn how to ensure we don't read people reward it. Some people here are so focused on getting laid they don't care about the destruction they cause in the form of creating people who derive self worth from beauty alone. Everyone should accept their faults … | /r/seduction | 22/12/17 11:43 PM |
| 0 | A guy lived with all women for a week and tweeted all of his observations about themSo many women who were attractive when younger are so used to the constant attention they can't understand why they no longer have that attention. Even worse is they still expect free stuff like dinners and such even though they have a good job and can support themselves. They also were so scared of getting big muscles when younger they only did cardio and child weights that are lighter than the pocket book she carries all day. This leads to bring skinny fat and no longer able to hide it due to … | /r/seduction | 22/12/17 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Game with no alcoholYeah I used to say stuff like "I want to be fully aware" and it always resulted in people defending their drinking by saying they are not drinking that much or I don't understand because I don't drink. It just added tension to a situation that should be fun. Instead my friends now feel I am the only sober person they enjoy being around while drinking. As long as you are having fun most people won't even realize and definitely won't care your not drinking alcohol. I find that the biggest thing is… | /r/seduction | 13/10/17 01:22 PM |
| 5 | Game with no alcoholBars are social spots where people drink, talk, eat, and sometimes play games (darts, pool, etc). The biggest reason people who are drunk hate people who don't drink is that they feel they are being judged for drinking. They combat this feeling by becoming defensive and try to pressure you into drinking or otherwise leave to feel more comfortable. The easy solution is to not judge people and show you are having a good time. Never say things that make drinking seem bad or beneath you. Instead piv… | /r/seduction | 12/10/17 07:04 PM |
| 1 | I think I cockblocked myself by making women feel insecure or viewing me as a playerThat was my point just not as straight forward as you worded it:) | /r/seduction | 12/10/17 02:27 AM |
| 1 | I think I cockblocked myself by making women feel insecure or viewing me as a playerYou are saying the women your after are going for out of shape guys that are less socially appealing instead of other in shape guys. This means you are likely coming off as judgemental. People don't like to be judged, it is likely these guys are not as out of shape or socially unappealing as you think they are. | /r/seduction | 10/10/17 09:37 PM |
| 3 | Female Misleading Communications [UPDATE]This girl appears to be into attention. Personally I would steer clear because if things go south it will be all over her social media hurting your chances with anyone in the same social circle. She might be just weird but there are plenty of other girls out there that are probably a lot more straight forward. Stay friends if your ok with just being platonic friends. Otherwise treat her like other classmates. | /r/seduction | 10/10/17 06:37 PM |
| 1 | How can I seduce men at the gym?Just like girls don't like desperate guys, guys don't like desperate girls. Just because working out is your life don't mean you work out seriously. I am not judging, but most guys are not like you and have desires other than sex that have priority. Come on dude it's just sex, if they are decently attractive they are probably getting laid regularly and a random girl asking for sex won't get far. She needs to put some effort in to beat the competition. And if it is a "fucking gym" I am pretty sur… | /r/seduction | 08/10/17 06:26 PM |
| 1 | How can I seduce men at the gym?When being very forward many guys get shy and wonder what the catch is. As I said it all depends on the head space of the guy. If your at the bar or club you can be very forward and guys will fall over themselves and would have no problem driving the girl home because she is "drunk". At the gym it's a little strange and if there guy is not in the mindset of picking up girls he might be not realize what is going on. You would be better to walk up to guy and tell him he got a great ass and you wan… | /r/seduction | 07/10/17 11:43 PM |
| 3 | How can I seduce men at the gym?Asking a guy to "drive you home" after the gym is not a good idea. Asking about going out to eat or grab a protein shake would be better options. Asking a guy for his number to work out together is also not good. Many guys go to the gym to focus on improving themselves and might see this as a an impediment to this. Some guys might go for it, but many have their brains turned off due to focus on their workout. Some might even think you are just trying to get free personal training. Focus you effo… | /r/seduction | 07/10/17 02:40 PM |
| 2 | Today this car has taught me somethingYou mean Jenny Holzer, the artist that created the work, summed it up. I know your not judging the work, just missing the intent by taking it literally. Being unattainable means someone already wants you and thus your already attractive. No pick up master says to become unattainable. The goal is to become someone people want to improve themselves to be with you. As humans we seek perfection and enjoy the challenges of trying to achieve perfection. People want challenges to feel they are doing th… | /r/seduction | 15/08/17 01:11 AM |
| 4 | Today this car has taught me somethingI think you miss the point of the car and the intent. It is about the desire of a racer to be in first place and striving to be the best they can be. Perfecting themselves and the machines they drive in an effort to beat the other racers and best their own times. It's better to be thought of as self improvement to obtain what you want and then increase your goals further to the next limit that you can smash through. Become someone that girls beg for because of some worth you have is not a great … | /r/seduction | 14/08/17 08:16 PM |
| 2 | I asked a girl to have coffee with me. She insisted a dinner so I agreed. I wanted to be a date, but I didn't specify. Now she wants to bring a friend. I asked who she wanted to bring she said she didn't know yet. How do I handle this situation without being awkward?Sometimes, most places by me sometimes even ask ahead of time if they see a group of college students. I have done this before even with my good friends as some pay with credit cards and it makes things easier to have the waiter split the bill ahead of time. If she says he is acting rude or weird, then she clearly is not even worth being friends with. Most normal people would be ok with separate bills especially if you don't know each other well. He should not feel embarrassed because he is doin… | /r/seduction | 25/07/17 12:38 AM |
| 31 | I asked a girl to have coffee with me. She insisted a dinner so I agreed. I wanted to be a date, but I didn't specify. Now she wants to bring a friend. I asked who she wanted to bring she said she didn't know yet. How do I handle this situation without being awkward?Or you can just go to have fun and just have everyone pay their own way by letting the server know you want separate bills. Under no circumstance should you pay for her and her friend. This also goes for if the friend cancels. Treat this as a dinner with a friend even if it's just you and her. Not saying don't escalate, but don't pay for her as it's likely she is going for the free meal. The key is make it clear when ordering that this is the case to the server. This will give the girls a chance… | /r/seduction | 24/07/17 05:47 PM |
| 3 | What hobbies attract the most girls?And neither are stereotypes. Gaming has become pretty universally socially accepted. Attractive people do play games. Though I would not get into gaming as a hobby to pick up girls as the opportunity to actually meet them are pretty much when your not playing games. With that said you could go to conventions locally, smaller ones are best as you have a better chance of meeting people you can hang out with when the convention is done. | /r/seduction | 07/06/17 01:58 PM |
| 0 | I got brutally rejected twice regarding race last night. It actually hurt.I agree to some extent, however people are not dating based on other physical attributes exists. Size of your nose, color of hair, hair length, weight, face shape, lips, legs, breasts, butts, height, gender, etc. Some can be changed but most are fixed genetic properties. Unfortunately there will always be something that people won't find attractive about your physical appearance that others find attractive. Things like tinder and such allow people to be more forward with their physical preferenc… | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 10:37 PM |
| 7 | Unleash The Perviness Within: How to Bring Raw Sexuality Into Your GameWomen want sex as much as men. You can even now see the trend of society accepting this in mainstream media. Previously this was a poorly kept secret so women can appear pure and innocent which was highly desirable in the past due to how society presented the world. Slut shaming exists which causes women to hide their sexual desires unlike men who are called players and praised. Women have sex opportunities approach them on a daily basis and they just need to accept the approach. They need to pr… | /r/seduction | 27/05/17 02:52 PM |
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