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This isn't dating advice for getting a man that I personally would want to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 03:04 PM
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I've noticed that. As I understand they do not learn to read and write joined up handwriting. I feel I would be significantly less literate if I couldn't do those things. Americans feel free to correct or clarify this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 03:03 PM
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A lot of the men here go to the gym, have a job, bland personality and a hidden nasty streak. Anything you suggest will be twisted because they don't want to accept that this is simply how humans operate. You attract a partner, or partners, or you don't. It must really suck if you can't but you can't help someone who won't help themself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 02:52 PM
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"In all my 18 years of living" nooo please don't think you've seen it all at such a young age. You've seen nothing yet, good and bad! All to play for. People will surprise and you will surprise yourself. When people decide they've got it all figured out that's when they stop being able to live with any meaning (imo maybe you'll develop a different perspective).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 02:57 PM
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There's a grain of truth there though. Some people are so desperate for a relationship that it puts people off. If you're someone who hears this a lot then that's what people are telling you, but they're trying to soften it because they think you've got low self esteem or a hot temper.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:12 AM
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Not telling anyone to lower their standards. But there's a lot of men on here who've ruled themselves out of dating because they have higher standards than they can attract. Of course this sub mostly focuses on women's overly high standards because this is easier for sexless men to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:10 AM
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You probably were nicer to be around. People are nice to nice people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:07 AM
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No the point is the fear and discomfort that comes from that imbalance. Whilst most rape does not come from physical overpowering someone, the size imbalance certainly contributes to why someone may freeze etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:05 AM
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So you're saying there's no way for a straight man to enjoy engaging in a conversation with a gay man?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:04 AM
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You're assuming all those men are raped by women. Clearly a lot of those men are raped by other men. Regardless however we are discussing the fear of rape, so your point has nothing to do with the point. You say women don't understand, but really all this shows surely is that men cannot, or refuse, to understand why women are scared of men approaching them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 08:14 AM
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My sexual orientation does not mean that I am happier for men to approach me. It is a good analogy as the fear and disgust are similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 08:12 AM
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The point is you're being hit on by someone big enough to easily rape you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:44 PM
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And yet men give advice on how to be a better woman all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 04:33 PM
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The point is men like you assume that the good looking and charming guy is inherently more "evil" than the average sexless. This is always evidenced by nothing more than tenuous anecdote.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:04 PM
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Either women have high standards and they get criticised, or they have lower standards and get criticised. I'm not in favour of listing requirements in bios, but I think the idea that older women need to know their place in the dating hierarchy simply isn't for you to decide. It's up to older women to decide how to go about their dating business.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:03 PM
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OP is literally afraid. There's the phobia. And it's regarding trans people. Of course it's transphobic to be afraid of trans people. That's a non sequitur.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:46 AM
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Your back must be agony lumbering around that victim mentality all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:03 AM
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Well I too could bonk someone over the head if I got frustrated that I didn't get my way. But I don't give myself an asspat for it and ask what everyone else is doing to keep up with my virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:01 AM
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I get it in that being an ugly man who can't get sex or relationships can't be very pleasant. However the overall ideology is harmful, for both society and the men who participate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 08:59 AM
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I've met hot autistic guys but they gotta be hot and have friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 08:03 AM
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Young good looking guys who live in houseshares don't seem to struggle with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 08:00 AM
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"Egg culture" you're so wrong on this. Egg is just a term for trans person that's just coming out. If you go to trans spaces and ask "am i trans" of course there'll be affirmative comments. Worrying that "transgenderism" are causing damage to society is transphobia. You are quite literally afraid of trans people affecting society.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:58 AM
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Wisdom isn't a given with age. The rest I couldn't have given a shit about as a young un. Money is just something that can control you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:48 PM
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It wouldn't replace the need, but if it was case then I'd make the best do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:54 PM
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So what if you can do something about your weight? I prefer taller men. As a short fat woman, I don't struggle to get them. I don't ask anyone their height mind. It's not a double standard it's called attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:00 PM
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I'm sure there's a few younger women who are impressed by a middle manager salary. Think more are impressed by compatible lifestyles and good looks though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 02:52 PM
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Well if I was wrong then you'd see a lot more young women dating older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 02:51 PM
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I don't think that's what younger women get frustrated at with men their own age, more indecision and emotional immaturity but that's a negative to younger men, not really a plus to older men. Again, it makes sense why older men like younger women, but it also makes sense that the vast majority of younger women see little to zero value in older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 10:27 AM
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You've conflated the west and the United States. Happy to refute some of these when you learn the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 10:28 PM
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None of this so caller objective analysis means anything when the case studies are hypotheticals.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 10:26 PM
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No ones wondering why older men like younger women, but why younger women like older men since they have little to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 10:24 PM
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No one said it was a given, just how it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:16 PM
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My point is, we like handsome men, and some of us like shy guys, but of course they need to be handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 05:22 PM
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So? Women are allowed to like handsome men ffs. Why do you feel the need to put down women's sexuality like that. Fucking hell men it's fine for you to like women and handwring about it, but heaven forbid a woman like a handsome fella.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:44 PM
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Urgh, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:29 PM
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Women who claim that they like "shy guys" are almost universally speaking of tall, dark, and handsome guys with a lot of mystique who only make up a small % of introverts and shy guys out there. Oh yeah, they have to be handsome. Why would I want to date a shy and ugly guy ffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:28 PM
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The laziness of the assumptions in this post really lie in this really arbitrary dichotomy. I like guys who are a bit shy but go out and do stuff. Not to "spice up my mundane life" but because that's my existing lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:27 PM
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For example, being asked if something is OK and saying it is but actually being annoyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 12:53 PM
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I don't think my standards on this are particularly gendered. I categorise people who take their insecurity out on others or who can't ask for the things they want without acting out about it as being emotionally weak, but perhaps that's because those are things I've tried to actively learn to be good at myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:15 AM
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For me that's the litmus test of how I feel about an age gap relationship. If the couple got together because there was a vibe and they didn't midnight the gap that's so fine. Whereas if there's a "young women are tight and deserve my money therefore" its just gross af. You're free to do it, but people are also free to think you're pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:03 AM
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It's not that I don't think sex is unimportant, but the topic is weaponised and I think a lot of the discourse online is really unhelpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 10:35 AM
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Depends where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:32 AM
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It's mad to me that so many guys on here seem to think the only options are OLD or street approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 09:22 PM
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If they check if something was OK I am enthusiastic about it, and I often check their consent too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 09:20 PM
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I've never asked a man his height on tinder so assuming he simply lied about it and I noticed I guessed I'd ask him about it. If the answer was anything along the lines of weeding people out I'd bounce.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 11:46 AM
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This fucking sucks man. I think once you get to a certain point with some problems the length of time that the problem has existed is the only reason it continues to exist. That's a difficult problem to resolve. I will say that you seem very wound up and upset, and that's completely understandable, but your desperate need to be in a relationship twenty years ago/now is only going to hinder unfortunately. I do think that investing in your local community e.g. volunteering etc if you don't already…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 11:37 PM
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He's a drama llama.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 11:29 PM
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Does that mean it's also a problem when men set up their friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 11:27 PM
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Ironically that viewpoint would lead to not being able to deal with that situation. If someone's sex drive goes down at some point, as will inevitably happen in longer term relationships, there needs to be trust and communication between both partners. Blaming one partner isn't going to make them magically want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 11:22 PM
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People are switching up the narrative all over again it seems. Because people isn't a coherent group. People on here have differing viewpoints, it's a debate sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 09:34 PM
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This reads like it an Instagram motivational meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 08:54 PM
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I imagine for a lot of couples, if one of them is pissed off at the other one it's going to put a lot of pressure on them. You say wanting sex doesn't make someone a bad partner, but I don't see how not wanting sex makes someone a bad partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 08:52 PM
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You don't logic your way into attraction. What I do and don't find attractive does not need to be fair, same as it is for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 11:34 AM
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Of course they do. In terms of body it does depend, I like guys who are skinny but strong, and I've got friends who prefer guys who are more stocky.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 09:20 AM
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Sorry but you're deluding yourself if you think your lack of dating success is you don't like drama. I definitely like men that aren't boring by which I mean; they're funny and find me funny, we can spend a few hours chatting about anything and everything and that's fun; they're interested in the world; they get up to cool shit and they're down to do different things. Kept this deliberately generic because the specifics of cool shit is gonna vary depending what area/scene/vibe you're into.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 08:35 AM
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Women do hit on men. They're just not hitting on you and your friends. Women act in their self interest. Their self interest is not hitting on mediocre men they're not actually attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 08:31 AM
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Sometimes you meet men who meet all the technicalities of what a man should be like but he's just a bit nothingy. You can't self improve out of a lacklustre personality. And just for context, I'm early 30s so the time when men are supposed to start getting more desirable has not happened at all. Just a very weird lie men tell themselves tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 08:30 AM
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Fair enough, that was a bit rude of me sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:37 PM
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Its why women aren't allowed to have preferences, because men's preferences are only be thin and wear a little make up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:29 PM
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Gosh I don't know what's got your knickers in such a twist, do you need a wee or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:29 PM
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I agree that it's in incorrect, i don't believe my point is at all misandrist as it's a common view on here. Just look at the comments to this thread. In general though it's not how men I know behave at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:28 PM
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I'll say what I'll say and you can say what you want to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:24 PM
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What makes you think I'm ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:22 PM
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I don't believe im an expert on men's inner worlds and I don't know how I've led you to believe as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:21 PM
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No, because there's a hell of a lot more bits and pieces that men don't even realise. Skincare for example has become a very technological area that women are just expected to know. Same with hair removal, style etc. You say just thin and wear make up but there's a lot of women who could meet that and not be considered comventially attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:20 PM
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I've just discovered dermaplaning and it's changed the game for me. There's so much more than "eat lettuce wear lipstick".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:19 PM
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Then everyone is. Any celebrity you see aka the beauty standard, has a hella lot more faffing going on than I bother with. Your comment is so unnecessary though, instead of actually debating my ideas you resort to base sneer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:17 PM
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Er, OK Mary Whitehouse!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:13 PM
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Anytime a man on here says women just have to be thin and learn to put on makeup just don't sound to me like they know much about womens inner world. There's a lot more intricacy to female grooming, if you're unaware then maybe don't assume that's all it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:12 PM
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Yes of course she gets to leave? Anyone is allowed to leave their partner, especially if they begin coercing them into sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 07:42 PM
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So all he did was just keep shoving his dick in his unhappy wife, and you are asking what she did to fix the problem? She did the sensible thing and dumped him. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 07:05 PM
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It's not changing the subject, it's refuting the assumptions within it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 07:03 PM
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Yeah because once someone has fucked up like that it's going to be really hard to come back from that. He poisoned their marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:53 PM
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Did we even read the first point? She felt pressured into sex with her first husband, so of course she didn't desire sex with him. Something similar happened to me with an ex. Whereas a partner who is consistent about needing enthusiastic consent from you is just better. More attractive, better sexual and emotional connection etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:52 PM
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I was imagining cold approach, but yeah even more so if you know them. A crazy amount of cold approaches I've experienced have included behaviour I don't think is OK so they just ping up my survival instinct now. Would rather be rude then dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:43 PM
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Unattractive men can hit on me if they want, I'll be polite up to a point. It's not being offended at the idea they thought I might be into them it's the behaviour around it that's the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:31 PM
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Get hobbies, meet friends of friends, be a part of your local community. My long term relationships for the most part were all from those.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:05 PM
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This sort of thinking would surely permit saying "if you were really attracted to me you'd give me my way". Real relationships don't work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:04 PM
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I've heard women do this more than men This statement invited it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 05:48 PM
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Nah men do that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 10:27 AM
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I know right. I don't date single parents because I'm not interested in being a step parent, but i have nothing against them as people and doubtless there's a lot of them that I'd be very lucky to date. Some people are so mad at strangers for doing things that make them less fuckable in their eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:35 PM
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I mean everyone just splits the rent/mortgage and bills in half, i don't think that's unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:33 PM
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And others.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:33 PM
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Yes, that's how all my relationships have been. Same with all my friends, excepting people of all genders falling on hard times and leaning on their partner for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 01:47 PM
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Starting a relationship in this day and age should mean entering into an equal partnership, so the analogy of the union does not work. As well, a woman is, in the case of monogamous relationships, only with one man. She does not have simultaneous relationships with multiple men necessitating their needs to collectivise. You've said all that as well as though men don't also have "baggage". I think it is better to use more neutral language here anyway, I think life experiences is better. You have …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 12:22 PM
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I'm not scared of all men, but the kinds of men who freak out about this stuff are a red flag to me. Guys who are more at ease with respecting boundaries are less of a risk, and more attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 12:12 PM
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For the most part it's to the pub for the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 10:27 AM
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People don't know how much money you have without status symbols. That's why they're a symbol, not the source of the status in of itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 05:09 PM
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Have you been in a relationship before?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 05:06 PM
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They're giving advice because they assume you want to do something about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:37 PM
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No you find it harder to understand what they're saying. Assuming it's all women who can't do this is simply less likely than you being unable to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:28 PM
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It's the cross cutting of romantic and sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:27 PM
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They can advocate for a greater chance, but doesn't mean they'll get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:41 PM
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It depends. I know super cool guys who are into anime and video games but they dress well have social lives, are self deprecating etc. I think those plastic figurines are utter tat though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:19 PM
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Sometimes my men friends help me move stuff or buy me drinks, but so do my women friends, and I to them. I don't think what you've observed is universal and eternal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:16 PM
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It isn’t all women going after 20% of men strictly. Population would die out. No it wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:51 PM
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I didn't start being sexually active until I went away to university, and for me personally that was the right choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:49 PM
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I like me a shy bad boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:48 PM
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I'm a woman and I agree with this tbh. I'm short, chubby, muscular and Asian. If I was a man I'd definitely struggle but as a woman I'm considered attractive enough to get relationships with people I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:47 PM
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This isn't what anyone's been saying. I'm friends with straight men. We have shared interests, lifestyles, outlooks and temperaments. We are neither friends despite or because of our genders. If someone doesn't want that sort of relationship then fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 08:38 AM
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I like astrology and I don't know anyone whose into it where they wouldn't date someone with a certain sign. I think it's a fun way of discussing life and personalities, and the way it relates to mythology and archetypes. If a man doesn't want to date me because I'm into it that's fine with me because I'm only attracted to men who are open minded, easy going and interested in women's hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 08:35 AM
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They don't know the difference between orbiting and friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 06:54 PM
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You're 16. Stop worrying this. Get out and live life rather than discussing online. Best wishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 06:53 PM
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maybe rejecting an alternate sexual act. What??? And no.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 04:48 PM
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I've never seen anything like this or anyone talking about it in the real world tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 04:47 PM
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Yes none of them did we break up because of that. You're telling me my own knowledge of my feelings is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 04:06 PM
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Some perhaps but I don't think girls are exclusively socialised to be delicate flowers. Girls are definitely socialised to play nice, smoothe everything over, take the smallest piece, learn to carry the mental load, read people's emotions, help them when they're sick, be good at cleaning, don't make a fuss etc. In terms of the crying thing though like yeah you definitely should be prepared to see your partner cry? I saw all my exes cry multiple times, didn't change how I felt about them at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 03:17 PM
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Sure no one is better than anyone else, although I think the manosphere is full of men who say women are less good then men. There's an assumption that women don't need relationships because they get validation elsewhere. I guess the thinking that frustrates me is that a woman choosing not to have relationships, or to date "mediocre" men is taking something away from a man who will now end up not in a relationship. And I can see that to some extent, just mathematically speaking. I don't think I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 03:13 PM
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But why should women settle though? Men say they want to be ultimately desired fully by their women partners. So women should have that devotion just at a drop of a hat? Isn't this just beta bucks anyway? Women are just damned whatever we do around here. I've not had a long term relationship for a few years and my mum asked me if I was being too picky. I said well my one rule for a relationship is we both need to want it. If its not there it's not there. Being single can suck but being in a wron…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 02:30 PM
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None of us are privy to someone else's thoughts and feelings. If someone says they love their partner then leave them to it unless their behaviour is actively harmful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 02:20 PM
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Of course he can, but on what grounds can that decision even be criticised?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 02:11 PM
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Maybe in whatever bumfuck town you're from. Relationships end, people change, etc. Your view seems a little unworldly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 11:56 AM
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Right, so we divide society and kill off men, that seems to be what you're suggesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 11:55 AM
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Well that goes times a million for women then doesn't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 11:54 AM
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It's not even true tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 10:52 AM
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It always comes back to men on here thinking they know what's best for women, more than women. Women are free to live their own lives and make their own mistakes. If a woman chooses to never settle because she doesn't find a man she wants, that's her perogative.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 10:50 AM
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So unless men can own women, you believe that society should entirely cut off women? What happens to male foetuses? Do they have to be aborted since they can't gestate themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 10:48 AM
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OP isn't generalising, they're asking for clarity of a viewpoint on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 10:46 AM
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Kinda shows that women are gold diggers and money is literally all that matters. It shows nothing of the sort. You just sort of fantasised the answer to your own question, and then used that as proof that the question was impactful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 10:07 PM
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This really needs to separate out sole and primary breadwinners. It's not very useful lumped together.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 10:06 PM
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Assuming the kids are very young; Gardening: I'd do most of it, together do the occasional big day together Cooking: I'd do most of it and he can put together dinner or lunch couple times a week Cleaning: I'd do most of it but he needs to be able to throw a vacuum round, wipe down sides, do his own ironing, know where shit is etc. Parenting: he might not be with the kids as much but he needs to be equally their parent. Know all their likes and dislikes, who their friends are, what's going on in …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 08:05 PM
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In that queer women are a notoriously difficult group to study, wr still ga e numbers increasing of LBT women as more and more come out. I'm not saying queer dating is all Sunshine and roses, definitely not, but I'm saying we should keep an open mind when it comes to this kind of research instead of assuming it says anything about a group.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 06:18 PM
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Yes and that's great but they're rarer amongst straight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:58 PM
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No worries my guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:09 PM
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Obsessed? No. I simply shared a thought on a sub where we discuss this. Did you think this was a straight male support group or something? Literally the whole place is filled with men chatting shit about women but you want to just rag on me? As I said straight people can be interesting but there's just such a weird amount of normie boring ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:08 PM
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Based on your comments you sound like you play golf so I guess I win.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:06 PM
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You saying if I trawled your comments I'd find no generalisations?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:04 PM
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Clearly said its not about their gender. I date bisexual men happily. It's straight people who tend to be boring. I know a lot of lovely and interesting straight people but fucking hell there's millions of these boring straight people out there?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:03 PM
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Lmfao. I know right, how dare a bisexual lefty woman not want to date apolitical straight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:02 PM
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It's not a comment on men. I don't date straight women because they don't date women, as I clearly stated in the post. Nowhere did I mention their politics, only sexuality and how it relates to me finding them interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:02 PM
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That is something people like to say but I believe that issue is more complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:59 PM
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I don't care what anyone accuses me of. I don't see anything harmful in my comment, when the last sentence was clearly a nod towards the normal right-wing hand wringing that happen around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:58 PM
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Oh I date a lot of guys but mostly bisexual men. I know many bisexual women though and that's not universal at all. I know a lot who don't date men at all anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:57 PM
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To get to the ground floor of a building one must take the stairs. If you simply jump to the bottom you'll die or be injured. Flirting is taking the stairs. Each step escalating (or de escalating should I say) towards the ground floor.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:56 PM
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I don't think those are the only two options. That might be the prize that you are, or aspire to me, but the majority of people don't want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:54 PM
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TRP is all corporate boring gym bros flexing in the mirror saying "I'm the prize". Like good for you but you're not a prize in anything I'd be competing for.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:46 PM
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As a bisexual woman, not gonna date straight men anymore. It's nothing political I just think most of them are mad boring. There's a few good ones but it's such a hunt. Think I'd feel the same if I was a bisexual guy fwiw. This isn't misandry its heterophobia.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:45 PM
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Nah society is fully hand wringing about men's problems, mens anger, men's mental health etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:42 PM
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Urgh redpilled types can stick together tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:35 PM
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They really think loneliness is caused by a dickless vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:33 PM
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I don't normally think age gap relationships are inherently predatory, but you've literally just described grooming.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:33 PM
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Slightly above average is my only real aim so that's fine lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:27 PM
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I genuinely appreciate the question but I'd really rather not. I will describe myself; shortish, mixed race, chubby curvy muscular but with small waist, wrists, ankles etc. Long hair, bangs, bit of a quirky-vintage dress sense, a few piercings but not tons.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:24 PM
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Thank you kindly. Here's to the next two rocks 🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:21 PM
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It's not gaslighting when someone disagrees with you. Stop misusing that word. I'm saying if you become that emotionally fucked from having a relationship, then getting one isn't gonna solve the problem cus you'll be such a fucking numpty that you'll fuck it up anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:21 PM
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I'm not most peoples types but I certainly turn heads, have people of all genders and ages tell me unsolicited I'm beautiful without hitting on me, people give me free shit all the time, if I swipe on a guy on dating apps it's more often a match than not. So idk how I'd translate that to out of 10 cus I'm sure tons of people would think I'd mid but other people seem to think I'm hot af.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:19 PM
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I was well over 17 stone and now I'm around 15 stone. Still a way to go but I'm very muscular so I do look pretty good cus it's mostly muscle on my thighs and bum now rather than just excess body fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:12 PM
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I think the intimacy in a relationship isn't easily reproduced, but a pat on the back isn't the only thing other relationships can do. You can have real emotional intimacy within friendships if you want to. If you subscribe overly in the Heterosexual nuclear family style relationship then less so, but that structure is inherently unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:09 PM
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Agreed. You may think if you didn't have an amazing social life, romantic life efc all figured out at 15 that you never will. I know tons of people, including men, who were right weirdo shut ins til well into their mid twenties who are now lovely gorgeous dateable men. Just keep fucking going and be open to the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:07 PM
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I lost my pandemic weight and also have stopped being a hermit so I'm a hot girl again, AMA.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:05 PM
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Lol fair fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:02 PM
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Abortion, abusers in the courts issue where I live atm which has disproportionately affected women etc. Financial crisis unduly impacts women. Etc. But there's no point discussing women's problems on here. A man can discuss his problems and the assumption is society should fix it, a woman does the same and its assumed its just her fault for not being more manlike.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:54 PM
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Oh no, my avatar didn't meet the weddit fashionistas exacting taste
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:51 PM
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If you're very lonely then you have a companionship issue that needs more to address than a romantic relationship can provide on its own. Its like you haven't acually read what I've written.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:51 PM
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Men's problems are their wants not being fulfilled, women's problems are their needs not being fulfilled. Obviously it's actually a lot more complicated than that, but that's when I think when I come to spaces like this and see men discuss not being able to get "free sex" in the same way as being worse than women's problems. Or who conflate their need for companionship with their want of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:23 PM
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Why wouldn't women be selective? Why is that a problem? From my own perspective as a woman, choosing sexual and romantic partners is the time to get picky. Why would I give a shot to a guy who seems boring, not my vibe and not attractive to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:19 PM
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You clearly have no idea what it's like for women. If you can't empathise with women, how can you expect them to empathise with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 08:18 AM
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Considering you're talking about "practicing" on women who you're not attracted to I think this is a bit much. Surely you're then also rejecting them? How do you think they feel in all this? It's true that rejection is horrible though. That's why it's good to just keep meeting new people and see if sparks grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:21 PM
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Women are not "passive actors". Just because you cannot perceive their thoughts, emotions, opinions and plans does not mean they do not exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:11 PM
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Working hard on being less of a hermit. Socialising more, structured activities, community events and gigs etc. Kind of hard but also rewarding and also improving my self esteem a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:06 PM
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I hear you when you say it's bad for men, but please dont act like it's smooth sailing for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 09:57 PM
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I always think this when you see young men saying they want to focus on their career and physicality before they start trying to date. Seems like it won't work too well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 06:17 PM
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I'm saying in that situation I wasn't doing any sabotaging of him. Although I think he thought I was the more attractive one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 06:12 PM
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I've never seen or experienced sabotaging behaviour like this from any gender tbh, although people often mention it on reddit. I have dated men better looking than me and on the one hand I felt a bit insecure but on the other hand it was great so 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 03:08 PM
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I wouldn't say groom because that's a word I'd use for if someone was vulnerable, or under 18. I definitely think it is creepy as fuck though and quite possibly an abuse of power depending on the specifics of the workplace dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 01:44 AM
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Imagine if a 7 foot man with a face that looked like it had been kicked invaded your personal space, had a dominant personality and was quite clearly trying to fuck you in the arse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:32 AM
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Right and wrong are constantly changing, for thousands of years economies relied on slavery, and we would think of this as barbaric now. We would say its "morally wrong". There are more slaves today than at any other time in history. Slavery has not gone away. I personally wish to have as positive an impact on the world as I can because the world is shitty and scary and fucked up things happen. It's shit some men can't get sex and relationships. When people say they're not entitled to them it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:29 AM
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Whilst I abhor Foucault's views on consent, I do think it's hyperbole to say that they mean that the entirety of modern academia is repugnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:16 AM
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Its good to get involved in your local community; gigs, workshops, volunteering, library, pub, allotment, club etc. All tried and tested. Meeting new people organically is the number one way to find relationships. I think the issue is a lot of these things are less accessible in some parts, although if you think there's a lack of community activities in your area you could try putting something together yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:06 AM
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Yeah I'm looking for a partner, not to build my entire life around my relationship and be dependent on someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:01 AM
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So the revenge is being a bit of a nonce? Doesn't seem like a great prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 11:59 PM
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Men don't get called fuckboys because of their looks, it's because they've acted like a cunt. If you fancy a quick shag and want to tell lies to do it then that's your perogative. I think it's kind of like women getting a reputation for sleeping around in backwards areas though, if you get a reputation as a fuckboy you might find that comes back on you. But yeah I guess its still r/ihavesex
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 11:48 PM
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No, 85% of women who care enough about height preference and other filters to have got a premium subscription have a 5'8" minimum. That's not 85% of all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 06:37 PM
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I don't think being one or the other way is wrong on this. Sometimes people do things differently to us and that doesn't mean they're delusional. Time is a very precious conversation, why spend an evening of it on a second date with a man you feel indifferent about
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 10:48 AM
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For something in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 10:42 AM
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More likely tinnitus surely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 11:31 AM
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We should, but that doesn't mean that blanket statements like from OP shouldn't be criticised. If men are struggling that much then of course they need help, but they also need to stand up to ideas like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 11:10 AM
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You've pulled that out of nowhere. Just because you've not been loved by a woman, doesn't mean the reason is because as a man you can't be loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 11:09 AM
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I don't care about being career oriented but he has to have passion. I'm bisexual and this standard applies to women I date too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 10:27 AM
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You've not listed currency, I presume you mean US dollar. But the cost of living varies so much place to place. I guess I'd say £18k because any less and they probably can't really support themselves, but it's really situation dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 10:04 AM
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Yes, and I have. For me the issue is one of stability, planning, frugality and debt. I'd much rather go out with someone who earnt less but didn't have lots of credit card debt or car on finance.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 10:44 PM
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No, it's because she didn't find your personality attractive. If she went on a date she knew what you looked like, and you had potential to be someone she could be into, but she just wasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 10:31 PM
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Yeah and I'm saying this is stuff I've done in PM, if you don't have enough faith to accept that then there's no way for us to have a reasonable discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:46 AM
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They didn't cheat or drunk but they were probably taking all sorts of prescription drugs, or at least that generation is known for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 10:16 AM
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NHS says BMI up to 24.9 is healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 10:14 AM
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Yeah, no one should be being drafted. That's not an oversight. Women fought hard to be not dying in high numbers from what was killing them; childbirth. Why would they start fighting in wars too? Should men want to give birth and die for equality, if they could? No, clearly no one should be dying in childbirth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 09:47 AM
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Can't have rational discussions with anyone who has this sort of bias over anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 09:43 AM
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Never heard a small tit woman complaining about back pain caused by them? Feels made up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 09:41 AM
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For casual sex they're not unreasonable at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 09:39 AM
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It's literally all over this sub. I used to do it a lot under a different user. I'm sure you can find it if you look.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 09:38 AM
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Completely irrelevant to the point which was about casual sex specifically regarding gay and bi men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 09:38 AM
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There's a lot of women who spend time online talking to incels and trying to help them. Never seen that energy the other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:11 PM
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Why would attractive, safe and compatible be too high a standard for casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:09 PM
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You're using a term that's really associated with male spaces and questioning why women aren't more like men. There's much less women on reddit. Women do look online for how to develop their skills and lifestyles, tiktok is full of 5am-9am routines, clean eating diets etc. There may be less influences scamming women into joining courses like happens with men, but I feel like your question is coming from a place of thinking that women are less interested in working on themselves, which is simply …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:01 AM
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For men I really hate boat shoes with no socks with overly tight ankle skimming trousers. Love love just a shirt over a t shirt ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 09:57 AM
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How many have you spoken to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 08:40 AM
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If this happens on the scale you are proposing then it would create all sorts of social policy issues in the countries they move to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 08:37 AM
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Like, learn a skill, do something useful, learn to invest, or do arts and sciences Absolutely nothing to do with it. Women already do those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 11:50 PM
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You see a cute guy at the mall and you think about talking to him but there is a big chance that if you do, he will feel annoyed or even threatened depending on the way you speak. How does that feel? I don't cold approach men already because I don't want to bother anyone as much as anything. What if you have a hobbie you really like but there are no men around when you practice it and when you talk about it to men, they feel bored and give an excuse to go alway? I've got a few hobbies I already …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 11:44 PM
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Kids these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 10:01 AM
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Cillain Murphy is a good looking chap.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 09:59 AM
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For criminal pasts I think there's a lot that I wouldn't mind but jfc sex crimes is not one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 09:56 AM
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I simply say who I am and what I want, and listen to what they say are about who they are and what they want during natural conversation in the first couple of meetings and go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 09:54 AM
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Ensuring your kid is shaggable sounds like a great way of just putting onto them your own insecurities. They need to make their own choices. This approach is gonna create guys who go to the gym religiously but are desperate and boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:29 PM
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Your parents don't need to make sure you're fighting fit for random shagging. Some things you just have to do for yourself or learn from peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:00 PM
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I did a similar amount of time as a bartender, people say all kinds of shit. Would you want men to be judged based on shit they said pissed? Probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:48 PM
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Where are you seeing these? These are presumably private conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:40 PM
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If I had sons I wouldn't send them to a single sex school. I think it's good for kids to be involved in out of school clubs for the socialisation and to have early and good sex and relationship education. Beyond that I'd leave them to it unless there was an obvious problem, some stuff we simply have to work out for ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:14 PM
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I don't have some conscious awareness of a height limit, but there's definitely a point where its like, damn he's going to die young.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 12:40 PM
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But men already don’t have a voice on Bumble without a woman’s permission Thats the point of the app, and it appeals to men who complain women don't initiate. It's hardly some sort of oppression so don't using that language just seems so silly. Filtering by height and body type are paid for actions on a lot of the apps, and likely more often used by men than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 10:25 AM
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I'm a woman but I'll add. I'd say you only have life, so it's up to you to build the kind of life you want. Be open to the world and new experiences and opportunities, and if you can't do good do no harm. And keep up to date with vaccinations and change your sheets weekly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 05:46 PM
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I'm a woman. Honestly, no idea because a significant majority would be the type of men I'd never be looking at in that way, so I don't have any relevant data to work out how many would be interested enough to go on a date. I suppose a lot of single men are down to go for a casual pint with most women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 09:45 PM
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I am 2/3 feminine apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 09:40 PM
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Sure, fine with me. I'm dating a very broke guy atm tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 09:39 PM
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I'm honestly so embarrassed anyone posts on this sub and its fit and fresh or a tiktok.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:31 PM
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Pm this sub it's definitely women who are slammed either way, keep up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:30 PM
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Through friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 10:42 AM
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Just because you're not able to distinguish those shades, does not mean their differences are negligible. Clearly they are understood amongst the group with the selecting power, and therefore matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:00 PM
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Why is there an assumption that irt the 80/20 rule that all women have the same 20%? Personally I prefer pretty boys, and have friends with whom I have little overlap of interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 07:39 PM
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I would go for the second because if I was saying it out loud I would be saying the full phrase and not the acronym.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 07:38 PM
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I'm from the UK. I don't know how it compares to the US because I've not been there. A lot of American online discourse seems to be hand wringing about paying for meals out and we don't really do that here tbh. It's quite casual e.g. go to the pub. I do think people here can be quite closed off and modern life can be isolating but I don't think people are too jaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 07:33 PM
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Definitely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:33 PM
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If that seems unusual to you then maybe that's your own bias? That bar isn't very high.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:32 PM
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Blue pill is just the name red pill gave to everyone that isn't them, and then they act like it's "no true Scotsman" when so called blue pillers disagree with one another or enjoy mainstream success.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:31 PM
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It's not the norm at all where I live, although a lot of men will insist on getting the first round in.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 04:51 PM
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The average man is not sexyally appealing to me, but the vast majority could raise their game just with better clothes and hair tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 04:50 PM
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It's not the confidence is attractive, its that lacking confidence is unattractive. I appreciate that sounds like quibbling but it really is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:32 AM
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I think that's a comment on women's progress in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:19 PM
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Ah so it's a fear of sexual proximity to other men? Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:17 PM
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Because men are the ones absconding pare tal responsibility en masse.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 12:50 PM
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Well, don't get married if you feel that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 12:10 PM
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It's funny you jab women for being into their "fee fees" when this entire comment is just sadness at the idea a woman can't love you because you're a man instead of another more individual reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 09:04 AM
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A dating website ran a survey which is now held up as an irrefutable and eternal fact. It also implies women are all interested in the same 20% which I don't believe the original study even implied.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 08:59 AM
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So men keep saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 09:40 PM
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There's so many male spaces here in the UK. Are you sure there aren't where you live?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 09:07 AM
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I did not say being an arsehole is the same as what I said. Women are attracted to the above, and sometimes those men turn out to be arseholes, but it's not being an arsehole that was attractive. Maybe at a push sometimes confidence or something has a flipside of arrogance etc, but either way the woman will be attracted due to the above. An ugly man who is arrogant isn't appealing at all. So it shows its about the looks and personality not just arsehole tendencies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:09 PM
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You've written this as though you've only listed two qualities women need, but really this is a 15 point list. And i thought women were supposed to be the ones with long checklists.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 12:08 PM
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Yeah sorry I do. Clearly you got under his skin. You're a bad bitch even if you ain't a looker, so don't worry about him. X
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:12 PM
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Why? The average man who struggles with these things is unlikely to give a rats arse about women, so not sure why you think women should be bending over backwards to spell out the bleeding obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:11 PM
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How someone will treat you in the future doesn't form a part of attraction. Women aren't psychic and we never claimed to be so. I said good social skills, so dickish douchey behaviour is excluded from that anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:10 PM
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Completely agree about the texting being deliberate, he seems unkind to the point of dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:54 PM
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Its not a secret. Most women are attracted to good looking men with social skills and interesting personalities with compatible lifestyles.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:28 PM
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I think too many people on this sub have a limited view of what constitutes romantic issues. Someone could be able to attract potential suitors but struggle to find one who matches on key compatability issues (say whether they want kids or not etc). Sure that might seem like a nice problem to have if you're not getting any suitors yourself, but if we actually want to be "objective" about this then we have to accept that there are multiple issues individuals face.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:16 PM
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Depends on if he's hot or not. I'm not against it in principle though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:26 AM
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I see what you're saying, but I've also seen men on here say they feel desperately suicidal and a relationship would fix that. I think there needs to be some balance between the two. You need as a person to be in a position mentally that you can cope with the emotional upheaval that is falling in love, starting a relationship and building a life with another human being. You don't need to be perfect or self actualised or blissfully content though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 01:43 PM
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I think you're underestimating the amount of money, time and skill that goes into even basic female grooming. You saying that men don't care about women's personalities seems like a bizarre rebuttal tbqh. But overall I'm talking specifically about looks anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:33 PM
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This is like something a young teenager would write... First kisses can be awkward and different people and cultures have different perspectives on intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:57 PM
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Nah not at all that tbh. I think at 26 you should have some life experiences and some direction, which you've got. Some people want to do the house/marriage/kids thing and have a proper timeline for it, they're not people I could date and if you're a prison leaver you may want to avoid as well tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:55 PM
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It's not an observation, it's a hypothetical.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 10:08 AM
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You've just made everything in here up. There's no rigour to making up scenarios and saying "prove this is wrong". Just based on stereotypes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 10:06 AM
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Perhaps not, but the average woman is putting more effort in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 10:04 AM
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True, but there's not an ugly man who couldn't improve his situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:56 PM
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Hot and cool guys already do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:27 PM
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Yeah a lot of men need to step up their game and become hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:38 PM
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I recall a study many years ago which shows people varied images of their partner, the couples where they had.hugher partner satisfaction selected the more flattering pictures. Couples who were having problems selected the less flattering pictures. I think if you are in a relationship with someone and attracted to them then this is going to be fundamental in how you perceive that person as well as others. We are not geiger counters for rating every person we meet out of 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 04:21 PM
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If you're someone who can't go out with someone who goes clubbing then I think this should be discussed early doors. Like having kids, it's fine if that's your lifestyle choice but it's not for everyone so why waste anyone's time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:09 PM
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Men on here seeing a man doing something wrong and blaming women every time 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:07 PM
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Not as much now, but definitely when I was younger a lot. Also cuddled with men, and men cuddled men because we all took MDMA too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:06 PM
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Nah not at all. When I've got it bad I've got it bad. This is just truth you've learnt third hand, it's not how actual women think.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:40 PM
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Yeah I don't like how Hollywood writes women these days at all. I want to see women characters who are flawed, interesting and have their own development. I want them to be able to have meaningful relationships with other women characters.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:19 AM
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I donu derstand it's an issue for normie men but they're just not sexual prospects for me. It's not a lack of understanding, it's a lack of caring.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:20 AM
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That's not decriminalisation, that's regulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:16 AM
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You can think problems into existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:01 PM
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There can be traits you like which you're not specifically attracted to e.g. hygiene. It's crucial but it itself is not like, arousing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:00 PM
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Is this the male equivalent of "my last ex was 5'7"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:39 AM
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It can be controlling, I guess it's not necessarily inherently so depending on the shared values of the couple. Either way it wouldn't be for me at all. Urgh a man who isn't laid back is just unattractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:04 AM
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Well most men want a woman whose got bigger tits than them, doesn't mean they think she's better than them as a person for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:00 AM
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Except pilled men do not say that women are head over heels attracted to their male partner who they met at 40. That is very much contradictory.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 07:58 AM
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Not at all. I come across other women like me everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 10:29 PM
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I dont doubt you hold doors open for people. But do you also do all the other chivalrous things men do? Do you also expect those things to be done for you? Yes, I often help people with bags or give up my seat. I don't really help with anything from a great height due to not being tall. I hope to live in a world where everyone gives out that energy, but I do not expect it as I understand many people like yourself mistake basic courtesy for being oppressed and see women as your enemy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:00 PM
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It can be useful for connecting to acquaintances and the like, but overall its a bit of a slog and not a patch on meeting offline.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 10:37 AM
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I'm not speaking for all women, or even saying women can't be the more experienced one. I've had that myself in my younger days, but I feel a bit past that now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:42 PM
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No. I can't afford that lifestyle and I don't want kids. I'd love to be in a situation where we could both afford to work part time and spend time with each other and on our hobbies though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:12 PM
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I guess it's more attractive to be a bad boy than a boring boy. Personally I like creative guys with golden retriever energy, and floppy haired good looks. If I was going to have a fling though I'd go for the bad boy over the boring boy. Why wouldn't I. You'd be the same if you were a woman whose attracted to men most likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:11 PM
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I'm also from the UK and I massively disagree. I hold doors open etc for all people (as a woman) and tend to see other women doing the same. Whereas you get lots of men who are happy to walk down the pavement three abreast with not a care for anyone. As for seats on public transport, I strongly believe the elderly, disabled, pregnant and children should be the priority. The fact that for the most part only women are the ones who are pregnant is not the point of them needing the seat. I don't kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:08 PM
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The OP literally says women give up their seat more.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:05 PM
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He'll most likely be a bit fumbling and awkward, that's how. Doesn't mean it will necessarily be bad sex because such a massive part of sex being good is just being two people who fancy each other like mad. The reason I'm not interested in dating virgins isn't because they'll be bad at sex, it's because we would be at different life stages.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:59 PM
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Yeah I'm not going to say "rearrange the bones in your face and become a more interesting and funnier guy" because if you could, you would. Advice has to be actionable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:16 PM
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As a feminist once I know a guy "gets it" regarding mutual values it certainly gets a fedora tip from me, but yeah he needed to be attractive already.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:14 PM
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Fillers, surgery, filters, eating disorders, implants, lifts, botox, BBL, slim thicc etc etc. That you ignore that there are increasingly technologically driven demands on women's bodies doesn't mean they don't exist. I've never said there aren't standards on men but to say they're more than for women because checks notes lizzo exists is delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:07 PM
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A few hashtags do not equate total acceptance... its a false equivalency to say that women don't receive the same levels of scrutiny as men do for their bodies. It just suggests that you don't know many women well sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 09:31 PM
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Go on then, say what it is men need to be wooed, and how this differs to what women want and deliver.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 07:39 PM
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Well then, if women are ugly and horrible leave us alone then to our delusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 07:37 PM
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James Bond needed further character development to justify a decades long franchise, must be the feminists fault, lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 07:33 PM
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You can grab any pieces of culture like that. Otters, dad bods, etc etc. Fuck outta here with that. Oh, you need a little oppression Olympics, because that makes you feel better about your problems?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 07:32 PM
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Whose saying that? You've presented this as though it's a definitive fact women are thinking Michael Phelps. He's definitely on the muscly side. I agree that body standards have increased for men, along with women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:15 PM
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The first euphoric flushes of romantic interest aren't permanent. It's not a cure. You will put too much pressure on a partner. You need to take therapy if you're suicidal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:21 AM
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Because relationships are emotionally taxing, and whilst they can fill your cup up, you need enough to pour into the relationship in the first place. Someone whose suicidal and who needs the relationship could put a lot of pressure on their partner as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 02:36 PM
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What makes you think having a relationship would stop you being suicidal?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 01:37 PM
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Agree. I wouldn't go out with someone who had no friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 01:37 PM
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Do autistic people want to get partnered, married and have kids at the same rates as non autistics?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 11:32 AM
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Except this post acted as though men do everything and women do nothing, so bring this energy to OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 10:36 AM
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Since you seem unable to take into consideration the labour that women do disproportionately I don't find this a particularly valid point.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 09:55 AM
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What does a societal understanding mean in material terms?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 09:45 PM
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What options for communal resources could be offered? The government can build/encourage houses to be built, but they can't build girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 09:37 PM
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I'd never date a single father (or mother). Being a step parent seems like a lot of the downsides of being a parent with not much of the reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:39 PM
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Just because you don't know anything about those scenes doesn't mean they don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:37 PM
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I think the point is there's whole scenes which have completely different dating dynamics which don't fit with Conservative circles. If you only look at what happens in your circle and extrapolate it to AWALT then that should be pointed out as the selection bias that it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:37 PM
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was very organized/serious about my equipment etc which was probably a turn off Unless you were bizarrely anal I really doubt that had anything to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:35 PM
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There's a lot of different rave scenes. Coachella, as I understand it, is as normie as it gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:34 PM
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IM THE APHWA
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 12:37 PM
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Wanting a one sided open relationship is so fucking weak. Thank christ women can make their own money and fuck each other and the hot soyboys so we don't need that shit. I guess you can keep the women with bad self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 12:37 PM
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If you have a kid you need to support that kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 10:48 PM
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So you want no abortions and no child support, but women are the ones who want something for free
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 10:35 PM
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Men have benefitted so much from abortion. Think about all the child support men have avoided.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 10:04 PM
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Some women liking rougher sex doesn't negate what I said at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 09:56 PM
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a free fukqing dead baby U fucking wot mate
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 09:54 PM
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This whole website is men giving each other asspats. If I see another "you're a good dude" after a man does the bare fucking minimum, along with that obnoxious seal thing...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 09:07 PM
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Genes don't have emotional reactions like that. Of course I understand that there are biological factors involved in sexual preferences. That is not what I said. I said there is cultural reproduction also at play.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 09:05 PM
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They don't understand the merits of tender and passionate sex with someone you love, I wonder why that is 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:57 PM
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Couching your response in the language of observation is not at all scientific, it itself is an incredibly subjective perspective. I myself have no issue with men who choose partners who've had less sexual partners because they're not a part of my social circle, and it just doesn't affect me in the slight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:55 PM
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Because they're hypocrites, but this sub will jump backwards to not point out men's flaws.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:34 PM
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That completely ignores how virginity fetishising is culturally reproduced.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:32 PM
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Never seen this happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 07:12 PM
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There's a whole swath of men in between. The good/bad dichotomy is patently false.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:58 PM
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I think there's a sweet spot, where you're acquaintances or vague friends but not the best of friends. Literally all my LTR have come from that space tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:50 PM
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Not at all my assumption or experience when I go to stuff. I see tons of guys at clubs, gigs etc. It could be harder for guys who come off as creepy or desperate or who deep down are looking for a shag.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:04 PM
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Yeah OP seems to have a bad social life and thinks it applies to all men his age, because the alternative is more uncomfortable for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 09:33 AM
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The post didn't even talk about women in that way. It was about third places allegedly not existing for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:55 PM
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Idk man she seems married to the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:51 PM
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Where
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:48 PM
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I get that's frustrating. We don't have compatible lifestyles, interests and live on different continents. I don't know what your mouth situation looks like but my point remains. You act like you look like quasimodo.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 10:26 PM
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I think a lot of people here miss is that a relationship is more than the sum of its parts. Compatibility means so much more than what each person 'brings to the table'. In this case the table itself is the relationship. You can bond over all sorts of things, lifestyle, preferences, sexuality, temperament etc. It's not simply a percentile for percentile matching which creates a healthy and positive relationship. I'm not saying that other stuff doesn't matter. But if you have everything to bring …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 10:13 PM
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Hmm maybe you're right, I've not met someone like that so was just a surprising comment to me. I definitely think there's women out there that would be up for dating you though. Just maybe not the type of women to be hitting on bartenders.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 10:08 PM
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Well TIL that the main thing I'm attracted to is checks notes visible teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:54 PM
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You have some body dysmorphia. You honestly need therapy. You call yourself literally disfigured. What the hell. You're a normal looking guy in good shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:42 PM
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Except retail workers are key workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:18 PM
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None of that suggests women are objects and men are subjects. That's you applying your bias to simple genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:56 PM
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No cover for women at bars Oh you're north American I guess. Yeah we don't have that here tbh. Lots of male only spaces here too, from mental health clubs, tool sheds, classes, sports etc. I guess you need to focus on building stuff like that, someone has to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:54 PM
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Public/social life is designed for couples, families, and women Do you have specific examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:21 PM
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Nature doesn't roll dice. There's no value added judgement in nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:16 PM
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Don't accuse me of not engaging in good faith because you don't agree with me. I took his comment to mean "the only reason not all women identity with this is because its a new phenomena but it applies to all of them".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:06 PM
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For sure, Benedict Cumberbatch deep down looks like every middle class English guy off to work at the council. Nothing wrong with that at all, my point is every average person could look better, and most could be considered some level attractive if they had the resources, time and dedication. ETA with Cumberbatch specifically he wears very well cut expensive suits, is in shape and has an expensive haircut. That's most of the secret sauce.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:59 PM
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How are men not objects?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:57 PM
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but that's only because its a relatively new phenomena
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:57 PM
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Simping is too broad a term. Tons of guys here use it to mean "is nice to women including those he fancies".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:30 PM
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Some people you don't know having OCD, and you make yourself the victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:28 PM
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And I already know what the response to this post will be from those same people I.E. that the ROCD sub only has 10k users and that this is le totally not all women!1!1!1! but that’s only because it’s a relatively new phenomenon
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:27 PM
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But you want to fuck them despite them not being reasonable adults? Eww.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:25 PM
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As I said, it depends on the jurisdiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:39 PM
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Men need to hold each other sccountable for their dirty teeth and dirty arseholes. And I'm sorry but I just know you know some right wrong uns 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:36 PM
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Different crimes operate in different ways, need different approaches and resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:35 PM
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I misread that sentence very badly first try 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:20 PM
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Short king 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:19 PM
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PPD men blame the woman when the man's behaved badly, and the woman when the woman's behaved badly. But something something women can't be held accountable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:19 PM
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I would still think it a bit tragic if I found out. I appreciate if is the operative word there. But I am just one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:17 PM
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l wouldn't say relationships require experience They don't require it, but you can definitely benefit from bringing your prior experience to a relationship. This will make you a better partner. There was a documentary years ago on UK TV about virgins hiring sex workers. One guy said he knew he'd be a great boyfriend because he'd listen to her and buy her flowers. He seemed sweet and I'm sure he would with time, but his idea of a relationship seemed based on just observation of other relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:16 PM
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I have third hand embarrassment for him. If you're attracted you're attracted. It's like some people just want to be unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:14 PM
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The thing that pisses me off about conspiracy theorists is they refuse to engage with the actual injustices of the World, which are hiding in plain sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:11 PM
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Depends on what you mean by OK. Is it legally fine? Probably yes depending on jurisdiction. If I found out I think the girls group chat would implode laughing at him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:10 PM
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Yep. Never trust a skinny chef and all that, if you don't mind the mixed metaphor.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:29 PM
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Since the main advice is rule 1 and 2, I hardly think the competition is fierce.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:28 PM
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"If you want to learn to fish, ask a fisherman not a fish". OK, but why would you trust anyone whose fishing from the same lake as you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:20 PM
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There's a lot of people with zero experience of relationships dead keen to give the most unhinged advice and wacky hot takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 12:12 PM
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But if your "equal" doesn't give a shit and is out there getting with non-autistic guys, what's left? Maybe no one. Not everyone will have a relationship. It's sad, but it's true.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:22 AM
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Well, as a person whose left the house once or twice, j can say that this is neither feasible nor attractive. I would like to meet someone with whom I am compatible, attracted to and can have a mutually enjoyable relationship. Christian Grey isn't my ideal man at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:41 AM
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I guess the poster was assuming men here were dating normal women, not pickmes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:24 AM
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The entire post was about comparing women to men and how women don't have it as bad. If you can't handle the comparison going the other way then you're not equipped for the debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:22 AM
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Have you ever heard a woman being called a school shooter No because women just don't commit violence like that in the same rates that men do. I definitely think autistic men have a difficult time. But to assume that neurodivergent women have it easy is taking it too far. You don't need to compare one with the other. Autistic women specifically are highly invisible in society, that does not mean they have an easy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:20 AM
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Why, were her eggs in your year at school or something
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:55 PM
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Christ alive I've worked at a company where everyone was a man except for me and they bitched like hell about each other, as well as were horrible as shit to each other. "Men don't gossip" is such a male supremacy truthism.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:22 PM
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Feeling lighter? How much do fallopian tubes weigh?? Or is that a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:21 PM
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I think it absolutely would, but you shouldn't get it unless you're gagging to do so. Sounds like you have bigger priorities and that's the right decision for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:20 PM
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Have fun lad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:08 PM
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Is there a reason you don't want to get it? Jaw surgery must be super painful though, don't blame you. Got my wisdom tooth out a couple ago and the pain was insanely bad, can't imagine what that's like. I'm pretty lucky that being fat is the only thing majorly wrong with my looks. It meant I always felt really guilty, like I was 'wasting" my looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:08 PM
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Did some side by side comparison of before I started losing weight and now, knew I'd lost some from the tummy, didn't realise the thighs as well. Actually looking pretty decent atm and getting lots of compliments, shame I don't have the social skills or mental health to back it up 🫠
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:59 PM
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Love language is a Christian pseudoscience. If it gives you something to read about then go for it, but it isn't an immutable trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:57 PM
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Or maybe misogynistic men are liars and grifters?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 07:37 PM
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I would say she's a financial abuse victim rather than simply not a functional adult, but go off king.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 07:09 PM
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Imagine you were being catcalled by groups of 7 foot men with chains in their fists. That's more apt.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 07:02 PM
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If an issue is becoming more common, then its a structural issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 06:43 PM
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And you think men don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 06:43 PM
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How many feminist girlfriends have you had?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 06:14 PM
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I also know that Chad can grab a nipple upon first meeting and nothing will happen The funny thing is this exact thing happened to me as a young un and I literally ran away. It had been nice up to this point, the good looking halo only gets you so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 05:51 PM
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No. I don't want the pressure and upset of having to reject someone. Yes there's a lot of effort involved in dating for me as a woman, and I'm sure there is for men as well. Ironically I think feminists are actually a lot more equal about this, something my ex said to me was he came to think feminists were better girlfriends for this among other reasons. Absolutely not. Scrolling on the apps is dead boring, I would literally rather be at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 05:46 PM
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Why would anyone want to change your view? By your own logic, women don't care about you, and men are simply competition who have a vested interest in keeping as many men out of dating as possible. Is modern dating horrible? Without a shadow of a doubt. Is there something you could be doing different? Most certainly, anyone whose single and doesn't want to be most likely is (me included!).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 04:37 PM
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Many thanks for this. I will print it out and file in my records.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 04:33 PM
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things a little dry Please don't self harm in the group chat 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 04:14 PM
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I kind of agree, not been following closely but does seem they could have put out more warning.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 04:12 PM
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It's PPD, we're all pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 03:31 PM
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If that was the case they wouldn't reply first, it's a weird attempt to get the last word in.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 03:30 PM
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There's materialistic people of all genders. Stereotypical male consumer hobbies include watches, cars, soundsystems.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:52 PM
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It's not something I've ever heard anyone talking about in real life tbh. Have you just seen it a lot on the Internet?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 08:03 AM
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Women want men who are good looking, pleasant and not misogynists. I don't think that's particularly hidden knowledge, nor unreasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 06:13 AM
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That's nice. They don't live in my head though. Someone mentioned them and I inquired. Are you really going your own way if you need to imagine women are crying at your loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:35 PM
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Every day I'd pick a man who was frugal and could make do and mend, than a man with a higher income who doesn't know the value of anything. Maybe its cus I spent a lot of time in punk type spaces. I do enjoy the odd splurge but I can afford that myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:25 PM
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Do you actually live with a partner? Someone said you're a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:09 PM
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What happened to MGTOW? Did they dissolve or did they indeed get gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:08 PM
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Women are not a monolith. There is a variety of opinions. You're assuming it's the same women. I don't think people should lower their standards, I think they should appraise whether or not their standards are needs or a checklist, based on externalised perfectionism. For example, my need is for a partner who is financially stable. But a checklist item would be they need to make x amount or whatever. There will be a grey area between the two, but the broad strokes still apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:11 PM
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So it's fine for you to generalise, but if I say anything counter than I'm not appreciating that different people have different views.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:04 PM
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Of course. Your post implies a universality though, my comment simply offers my own experience. Apply that energy to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:51 AM
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Do you live in the 50s or something. This isn't my experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:46 AM
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That seems to be what you're saying. I'm just trying to understand where you're coming from. Most people don't take any of this stuff that seriously,, they're able to attract a partner they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 06:40 AM
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I would say climate change was a bigger problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:57 AM
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So by difficult you mean, has more options than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:55 AM
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The intangible connection and attraction between two people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:54 AM
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There's things you can do other than nothing or punishment, like talking to her and being close with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:59 PM
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Sounds like you're happy with your daughter being used but not using others.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:48 PM
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I hope you never have children if you're going to be this emotionally indifferent to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:46 PM
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What do you mean by difficult?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:43 PM
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This doesn't really seem like a theory borne of actually spending time in social spaces. If you want to only pursue the most attractive women then go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:00 PM
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It's because the 10% of men who are ignored by men vastly underestimate how much of an outlier they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:57 AM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I just wouldn't go out with one as we would be in vastly different life stages.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:56 AM
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Women admit when they're wrong plenty enough, but men tend to be less thoughtful than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:45 AM
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If you've got lots of experiences like this then you need to consider whether you're the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:44 AM
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Developing a cannabis addiction, hands down.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:43 AM
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I wouldn't want to sit near a lone man in a bar. But I get it might be because of your visible differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:41 AM
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It's crazy cus I don't think it's as bad as that irl. (I'm south Asian woman). Definitely stay off tiktok and focus on the real world or you'll do yourself a damage mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:40 AM
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Rugged type men don't tend to appeal to teenage girls and young women. Heck, I'm early 30s and I still don't find lumberjack and thicknecks attractive at all. When I was younger I did fancy the odd older guy, but they were all silver fox intellectual types. I don't think there's a major shift going on. Teenage girls and young women like pretty boys. It's not that deep
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:37 AM
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My dad cold approached my mother at a rock concert and my grandfather cold approached my grandma at college. There's a massive difference between hitting on someone at a place like that and on the street. Personally I wouldn't date someone who had no friends in our city. Focus on making friends first.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:33 AM
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I personally have never heard this argument about a couple in the 40 and 25 sort if age gap. Only when youngish men are dating inappropriately young women, e.g. 30 year old dating a 16 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:31 AM
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Whats the hmmm?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:11 AM
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Jameela Jamil is too old and fat for you. Weird. She's a beautiful woman with a stunning figure imo. David Beckham mind, he is too old to be attractive to me. He hasn't got a silver fox thing going on, just looks old.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:24 AM
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I see. Have you tried joining groups for people with visible differences?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:06 AM
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If you're asking for their number and asking to hang out then you are hitting on them. Hitting on someone doesn't just mean asking to have sex with them. Yes I live in a big city (not in North America) that's known for having lots of youngish well dressed people. If you're in shape, groomed and well dressed then I doubt you're a 2. (Personally I don't agree with a 1- 10 scale as I don't find it as useful as its adherents claim, but using in this case is its the framework you're using).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:59 AM
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I see. Those are definitely going to put some women off tbh. There's a lot of autistic men who are able to succeed romantically, but obviously everyone's autism is different. If you ever want to send me a picture and see if I have any advice you're welcome. The women you hit on, are they also 2/10?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:34 AM
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What's your personality like? What's your face like?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:19 AM
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"If you want to hang out sometime" could be off-putting, depending on delivery. Might come across as just asking to hook up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:17 AM
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Oh Jesus OK fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:03 AM
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Do you think you've been ghosted more than you've ghosted?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:59 PM
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Do you not go gay clubbing? I've seen skimpier clad men there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:58 PM
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I don't mind crying men types tbh. My last two serious exes were both very laid back lads who loved to cry during films. Wasn't very deep one way or the other to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:46 PM
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If you followed the money you'd find child support barely covers much for most parents with primary custody I'm sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:37 PM
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If your opponents are stupid, why did you lose?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:29 PM
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You're not the group that's being asked, so don't answer for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:28 PM
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I don't personally believe in souls so that's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:28 PM
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Then why mention "low t"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:17 PM
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It would be cool if you had anything to actually prove it though. Its an assumption, a likely one at that, but stating it is not proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:16 PM
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Child support goes into someone's account from which their other expenses, including luxuries, comes from. That's just basic accounting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:15 PM
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Do you think testosterone causes hair to curl?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:14 PM
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Lmao our responses are so similar 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:13 PM
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I don't hate men. Not sure what you mean by choose poorly. And my dad loves me a lot but not sure why that's always thrown at women like some big gotcha. Like, if men being bad parents is so commonplace it's become a cliche feel like that would support the need for feminism, not diminish it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:13 PM
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How do you know animals don't ask the same thing, just we don't speak their language?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:10 PM
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Yes. I've been in relationships like that, and most of my friends are in relationships like that. Its perfectly possible but you do have to see the other person as a human being as complex as yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:06 PM
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Right I get you now, thanks. Yes being validated can be really important for some people, it is for me. I think for me I'd say it feels important but it's not a need if that distinction makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:38 PM
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Lmao, fucking men does not raise anyone's status. Why would I need men? I date men when there's a vibe. If i dated men because I needed them or wanted something you'd accuse me of being transactional. See, women can't win in your eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:35 PM
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The preference itself isn't the misogyny, it's the language and behaviour that accompanies it. I've known one or two women who had a preference for stocky guys, and they didn't feel the need to put down other men for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:01 PM
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I'm really sorry that's your experience. Hoping you manage to find some likeminded pals for drinks and picnics.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:17 PM
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The latter is definitely less objectionable to me. When it's the former and you see men online say its because women their age are x/y/z then it feels less about them having a connection and more about his deep seated misogyny. I don't think anyone should date someone who hates their gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:07 PM
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My comment wasn't very clearly written at all sorry. I meant, if your disadvantage is based needing strangers to not have consensual sex with one another then there's going to be an issue with finding a solution that doesn't limit their own rights. Yeah I don't think all men that say it are meaning it as a threat, more a warning, but it can be a little chilling, and off putting as a woman who wants to help men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:05 PM
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The problem is, if you feeling disadvanted is predilected on someone else not having consensual sex with another person. The sex lives of other people is their own business. I don't wish to ridicule sexless men, but I don't think in turn that women shagging about is actively harming them. They're offended, upset, hurt perhaps. But it is up to them to learn to emotionally self regulate rather than lashing out. A lot of men here have a "if there's lots if angry men society will suffer" attitude. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:44 PM
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I think it's gross when middle aged men only want to date much younger women, doesn't mean I think it's the same as child rape or that it should be illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:35 PM
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You're assuming the reason shut shaming happens is because women don't acknowledge that. In reality its because of historical reasons that started long before any of us were alive, and its been reproduced by each generation. The best thing women can do is to not have families, not fuck pilled men and retreat from circles where their sexuality is policed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:22 PM
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No, if he isn't attracted anymore he should end it, not cheat. And I think that's the case for any gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:08 PM
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You can see the lust leave their eyes as it’s replaced with something more platonic as though you shift from a potential partner to more or a friend and confidant. Re read what you just said. If your partner is opening up then of course it's going to be non sexual. Caring for someone puts a lot of people into a non sexual headspace, but that doesn't mean that it's only going to be like that forever. All my exes opened up to me, cried in front of me, shared their insecurities etc and none of it k…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:17 PM
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I agree people feel such a strong desire for sex and relationships that it becomes a need, but i think its false to correlate that with dating app matches. That is a going to be a fleeting feeling which does not provide intimacy in of itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:08 PM
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Why is one weirder than the other?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:46 AM
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Men also do that. It's a tried and tested method, but it can have serious emotional consequences if you're covering up feelings by applying more feelings on top of them. It's better to have processed it some extent before you start queuing for the orgy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:45 AM
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A lot of people have cottoned onto this tbh. I'm always down to shoe legitimate criticism towards white women, but criticism about them by white men is like, who fucking invited you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:59 AM
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It's not a boundary I'd set, assuming fair usage, but i agree that you're probably going to have a healthy relationship if you avoid too much of either. Short term dopamine bursts where you can disengage from the person actually in front of you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:55 AM
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Sounds like your mate is a bit of a twat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:51 AM
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Ah yes, it's either decadent abortions or a dead bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:50 AM
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Yes, cars are even more dangerous than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:47 AM
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Everyone thinks they have good taste in those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:46 AM
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Why should they be forced to settle? No ones forcing them to settle. If they think they're worth x, but can't get x, then they have the choice to stay single. What's the alternative you're suggesting?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:15 AM
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Why are so many people here obsessed with the dating apps studies. Completely flawed datasets from companies with vested interest in the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:09 AM
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Agreed. This should have been her big comeback moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:23 PM
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Yes men who cheat probably have to put more deliberate effort into doing it, didn't even think about it like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:53 PM
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I agree that it's up to the individuals. Bringing money feels unnecessary to me, and when I was that age I definitely enjoyed dating men my own age, and I don't think it's wrong for women to share their own perspectives on this with younger women. Same as men warn other men about certain types of women. It's not an edict, just sharing perspectives.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:52 PM
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Depends where you live I think, I live in the North of England and have to take vitamin D because I just can't absorb enough from food. Definitely not a replacement for a good diet though I agree. Personally I wouldn't use coconut oil because I would worry it could clog pores, but if it works for you then that's good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:50 PM
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He's Canadian not American. Feel bad for his wife and kids though. It's one thing to leave, another thing to have your new girlfriend post it online. Gross behaviour that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:45 PM
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It had so much potential but I don't like the way the sample was used, its like their verses are too cluttered with the original vocal in the background. beat is lacklustre too. Definitely got potential for good remixes though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:40 PM
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George Harrison cheated on her a lot, feel like that's pretty crucial context.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:37 PM
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I honestly think it must be porn influenced behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:35 PM
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Moisturise and take vitamins too. And add fruit to the vegetables. But this is advice everyone should be taking tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:34 PM
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In your own words So we’re on the same page, the 40yo and the 25yo can just be boyfriend/girlfriend until he flips her out for a younger chick. Basically Leo and his girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:29 PM
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What depends as a nude really varies. Topless or suggestive can be hot I suppose. Straight up penis does not appeal. And I think a lot of men feel the same, don't want to just get nudes from random women off dating apps or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:18 PM
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Agreed. The explanation men give for why those age gap relationships are good, are the reason women think they're bad. If it wasn't discussed in those terms I'd have less issue with it. But its not in a young woman's interest to shack up with some older man who only cares about young looking vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:17 PM
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There's no need, but if you want to be sexually attractive in a capitalist society that will involve spending some money. A skincare routine does not need be expensive mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:14 PM
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Genuine question - is this how you actually feel, or do you have fear of rejection/commitment issues and so are hoping and assuming everyone else is the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 01:27 PM
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Hahha not come across them (him?). Saying women don't enjoy sex is like when Ben Shapiro said women don't get wet during sex. What they thought was a sick burn to women really just makes them look like they're notably rubbish in the sack.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 01:26 PM
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For sure, I meant finding the right barber is important, as in someone whose got the style and skill to advise someone on the right cut for them. It's definitely worth building a relationship with the right hairdresser, although an absolute pain in the arse too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 01:19 PM
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For sure, and whilst some people are more physiologically aligned with conventional beauty, there's still going to be a few things that can improve your looks, if that matters to you. ETA anyone wanting quick skincare tips my DMs are open. Haircuts for men is more about finding the right barber, there's a lot of subtleties in men's hair that I won't pretend I'm an expert on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 01:01 PM
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Yes, different women have different opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:52 PM
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Yeah I agree with that. Overall reddit leans much more towards men so when subs have more women who are active users (making posts rather than just scrolling) I think it stands out more and people hand wring a bit about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:51 PM
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And men don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:49 PM
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I'll add that a lot of men would reap benefits with learning basic skincare and getting a decent haircut.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:00 PM
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Good social skills and relationship etiquette are learnt at a time when a lot of these men were focusing on other things, and missed their boat a bit. Must be really hard to catch up with. But I see so many men on here complain about women who stay with men who don't have these things going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:59 AM
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Pushing boundaries, lying, saying you have one sexual or romantic goal when it's another. TRP is proudly manipulative, it's explicitly stated within its core discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:56 AM
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If transactional sex is women's nature, then its everyone's style. It takes two to tango. And there's more reasons to have sex than simply "get off", I've had plenty of sex where I didn't orgasm in anyway and still had a really good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:55 AM
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Statistically men are more likely to cheat, although that's an old data set I'm thinking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:48 AM
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You've completely mischaracterised what I said. I said if you believe in a relationship market etc... Taxes don't just go to people who made "bad choices". It's about investing in infrastructure, climate, people etc. The welfare state is a small part of that, most of which goes to the working poor. The reason there is a working poor is because of excessive surplus value extraction. I did not accuse you of wanting to enslave women, I was talking in more abstract terms. But I can see you're angry.…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:41 AM
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What a nastily phrased response, really demonstrating little ability to empathise at all. I'm not telling men to pull themselves up by their bootstraps. I'm saying interpersonal relationships aren't, to my opinion, something that needs a collective organisation. I don't believe the market applies. There's no hypocrisy in what I'm saying. If you're not far left, fine. But paying tax is not the same as being obliged to pity fuck a guy who hates you. There is absolutely a material difference there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:11 AM
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I think a lot of people are looking for an idealised partner I agree. Maturity comes from being able to step away from that a bit, where you can accept what you do and don't find attractive but don't expect perfection. Yeah still no idea why manosphere has an issue with women having sexual strategy as you put it, when so much of the mansphere is about men having sexual strategy. Like, we all just want the best for ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:06 AM
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I don't think they're identical. One is an individual and their bodily and social autonomy, and the other is an issue of society caring for everyone. Unless you want society to enslave women and dole them out to men, men who likely do not like women as people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:27 PM
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In what way do you see leftists acting like capitalists in the sexual marketplace?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 09:26 PM
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I agree that most women like tall, handsome, confident men who are financially stable and are fun and interesting to be around. Where I disagree is that this is a problem. RP applies market theory to sexual politics, and then seem genuinely offended that women make essentially rational decisions within that. Like, why would I go out with an incel that I wasn't attracted to and who hated women? I wouldn't benefit from that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 08:02 PM
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Being accountable for what? Being single? That's not a crime. Lumping all women in together is so weird. Do you think men are actually better at it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 07:49 PM
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You've completely misunderstood that comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 07:46 PM
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Ah yes, the two nationalities. American and Foreign.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:30 PM
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No, you've mistaken the early infatuation with attraction, and a deepening of an emotional bond with sexlessness. Whether or not a woman has a "low SMV" doesn't seem particularly relevant either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:29 PM
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Because anything you say will be twisted, distorted or misunderstood.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:26 PM
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Why would you go on a date with a woman with coloured hair if that's a red flag for you though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:07 PM
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Same as what homophobic Americans call gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:06 PM
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I don't have an issue with the rudeness of the word to be clear, I just think it's not necessarily as precise a term as you think it is. For me ''forward' might be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:52 PM
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Interesting, I think there's a lot of different types of stoicism. I've met people of all types who were stoic, or not. I've seen women holding it all together many times.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:50 PM
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I've never assumed that misogynistic men are incapable of grooming so I'm not sure what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:49 PM
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Yup, despite men remarrying much quicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:25 PM
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Yet another man blaming a woman for a mans shitty behaviour. We don't even know how long they were going out ffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:25 PM
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When women get asked about it on here it's rarely from a position of good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:22 PM
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Jason Statham is a funny choice, he seems more of a man's man than a woman's man. The second picture literally has him pulling a face. I don't even disagree I just think your evidence selection was off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:20 PM
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I'd prefer a shorter guy over a taller guy if the shorter guy was more handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:19 PM
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I'll agree with that. I'm not attracted to wealth but men I've dated long term have all had some kind of project they were passionate about, mostly music related. It's weird because it's not a conscious thought I have; "must put on gigs/be in bands/dj" but it's how it works out. Its definitely a large part of my social circle though. I guess just not sure which came first, the chicken or the egg.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:18 PM
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Oh look, it's David Attenborough if he didn't have a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:16 PM
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For real though, how is it not hypergamy when men divorce their wives if they get fat or get cancer?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:15 PM
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If they're making money from their looks, are they even past their prime?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:14 PM
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Men who men here think are Chads are repellant to me tbh. The idea that there is one singular Chad is so patently false. If you wish to ascribe a man's name to the generic ideal then you need to at least accept that varies a lot. Some rich man who plays American football and is über macho isn't attractive at all to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:11 PM
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Jesus so that's so fucking sad. She saw a sign and her FIRST option was to shoot him in the HEAD?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:09 PM
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Face, grooming and attitude. Going bald seems really stressful, I don't wanna downplay that. Sometimes you get dealt a shitty hand, and don't have the tools to deal with it well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:07 PM
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They absolutely do, but there's way too many submissive men for them all to find one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:33 PM
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Yes, women aren't attracted to men who demonstrate zero romantic behaviour. Is that supposed to be a shocker? I think wrapping it up in the language of them being a "pussy" doesn't work well though, your definition of one isn't what I'd have written. Better to focus on the specifics rather than using a deliberately loaded word that's about someone's masculinity. I heavily prefer men who don't have a traditional relationship to masculinity, but doesn't mean they're a "pussy".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:32 PM
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For me I have grown an attraction to someone before, but I've not started fancying someone ugly just because we clicked on a hobby or I found out they rescue kittens.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:30 PM
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Don't forget that all those older women were younger women once. The ones who feel strongest about this are the ones who got it the most from older men when they were younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:29 PM
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Where was the character assassination? I'm not a "blue piller" either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:13 PM
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I use the term incel because it seems to be the term those in that area use themselves, I wouldn't label someone who didn't want it who just didn't have sex. I think you've conflated two separate issues here. The sympathy/empathy, or lack thereof afforded to male virgins, and their ability to date. I don't date virgins, and whilst I have sympathy for those who wish they weren't, that's not a reason for dating someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:22 AM
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Absolutely untrue feminists would be in favour of war if it didn't happen to them. I really don't think you understand feminist theory or discourse. I suppose you go on two x and think that's the totality of feminism. I don't think glib jokes should be taken so seriously either. There's a lot of similarly edgy jokes in the manosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:16 PM
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I've had sex with women, so whilst I've not penetrated one with a dick I understand the wider principles.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:14 PM
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Strong independent woman was not the subject of discussion though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:13 PM
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I'm strongly anti war, which is a long standing position amongst many feminists. The Liberal position of wanting women to also join armies is ludicrous, we need full scale demilitarisation. I absolutely agree men should not have to go to war. But we should also acknowledge that women are massively affected by war too - mass rape civilian casualties, disease etc. Combat is one way you can die or be hurt in war, but it is not the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 06:03 PM
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No. My point is that there is a range. Your point is that your experience is the totality, despite never having orgasmed as a woman yourself (presumably).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:59 PM
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On a larger scale the subjectivity is ramped up even higher. If you think I'm delusional for thinking I'm some mens types when you don't even have a foggiest what I look like then that's just wrong. I don't think that's delusional at all. And I think the same applies for a lot of men as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:55 PM
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Bottom 10% i doubt that tbh, 10% above that i could see. I think most men reach a point where they mature and prefer quality over quantity. (To use terms I've heard men themselves say).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:54 PM
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For sure, and I can see why you'd doubt it, but if she's happy and you're happy then I don't see the need to doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:52 PM
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Your experience on this is not definitive though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:50 PM
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There's a lot of variety amongst humans physically, even though we are the same species and have a lot in common. Some are tall, some are short, some have blue eyes, some brown etc. This also applies to genitals.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:49 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:47 PM
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You brought it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:47 PM
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You don't tend to need a moment to recover from a PIV orgasm in the same way as direct clitorial orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:17 PM
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Disagree, there's a lot of physiological differences at play.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:17 PM
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Agreed. I've ended relationships where my boyfriend had for whatever reason checked out, mutually we'd drifted apart etc. I might be the one to have done the paperwork as it were, but it doesn't mean he's the victim and I'm the abuse or something. Just means I think women can be a little more proactive in this area for whatever reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:15 PM
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For sure, and I don't hold it against someone hitting on me respectfully in a place I'd prefer not to. It's when it's literally on the street, walking with me when I walk away etc. It can be really scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:13 PM
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What's not fine? That I've dated men who made less then me? Why does that offend your sensibilities?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:12 PM
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Thatching? Who thatches their own house these days other than roofers. Its hardly a regular occurrence. And so much of the labour that women do impacts their body as well like giving birth, breastfeeding etc. Sure climbing a ladder is dangerous. I don't know where you live but here women do their own DIY tbh. As an aside, I went on a health and safety training course a few years back, and the instructor told us about a woman who worked in health and safety, she was at home and her husband was ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:12 PM
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There's definitely safety concerns with those as well. But when you get cold approached you've essentially not had time to risk assess the situation, so for me that just means swiftly leaving. I'm sure there's some situations that would be better for me, but they'd all be moving more towards being at say, a book shop or something, not the supermarket. Probably seems to be an unimportant distinction, but there's a social difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:50 PM
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Agreed, it's superlative, not claiming to be a genuine and objective assessment.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:48 PM
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In short, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:47 PM
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I do feel empathy? Not sure where you've shown any for women mind. It's a hypothetical, the only one I can remember is a guy who sent me a lot of messages I never replied to, wasn't using the app but hadn't deleted it, then he reported my account for harassing behaviour. Sure, I noticed that, but its main impact was going through my matches and unmatching all of them for safety reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:41 PM
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Seduction is not the same as red pill. Seduction used to mean something different to how it's used online now though. I'm not being disingenuous, I simply have a different viewpoint to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:34 PM
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Does it? If I got messaged by a man on a dating app, and then he messaged me calling me out on it, I'd just unmatch and not think about it again. As a man is the central character in his own life, women are for theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:33 PM
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People do use them for that here, but I think there's a big drinking culture here so that's the bread and butter of it still I think. I'm not in favour of dating apps but as you get older and that's how more and more people do it, not being on them feels like an unnecessary way of holding yourself back.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:32 PM
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Do they? Personally I'm not in favour of the 1-10 scale because there's too much subjectivity involved. But if I had to say for myself I'd say I was average. 4 on a bad day, 6 on a good day. But I'm definitely a certain "type" that could be perceived as higher for some. And of course, the inverse of that as well. I've honestly never had this discussion with my friends though, it's just not on our radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:29 PM
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The behaviour that you're describing doesn't need to be called out. You just need to move on. That's the situation with modern dating. I agree none of that is nice, but "calling it out" does not serve that man. (Nor anyone, it also happens to women).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:19 PM
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Where I live it's either dating apps or through friends that people find partners from usually. I don't know what it's like in the US, but if my flight or fight is triggered then my priority is keeping myself safe, I'm not concerned about how this is going to affect men's confidence to hit on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:09 PM
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"If you..." except no one is doing that. White straight men certainly have privileges, but those issues are structural. In terms of dating it's about that individuals politics and opinions and whether they're compatible with yours. Acting like miscegenation is hypocritical just seems very far right to me tbh. If you don't want to marry a women of colour then you don't have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:07 PM
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Back in the PUA days it was really obvious, they'd immediately be very physically forward in this distinctive way. I don't think I know any redpilled men irl, but I live in the UK and my circle is mostly queer and far left, so it's too much trouble for redpilled men to infiltrate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:05 PM
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Women are definitely called out for bad behaviour, you not being in the room at the time doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:59 PM
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Dating white men isn't the same as being a racist, I feel like I've missed something here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:59 PM
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If by pursued you mean low effort vagina sniffing then sure. I probably ask someone out couple times a year. I don't think that's a problem. Men asking out lampshades everyday in the hopes of a shag doesn't delegitamise my own pace.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:50 PM
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I don't know this woman, and I don't know why you're this obsessed or think her behaviour holds the secret to the question of what women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:48 PM
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You're arguing against a point nobody's made. I've dated men who made less then me, it's fine. I don't intend to support someone financially, nor do I wish that for myself. Its not about being insecure though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:45 PM
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Red pill is probably helping non pilled men, because it reduces the demand for normal women. Red pill tactics by definition only work on some women, and anyone else is deemed an outlier, despite the outlier being much bigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:44 PM
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And men rely on women's contribution as well. As for women in war, it's never made sense for a society to send it's wombs into battle. It's yet another unpleasant reality of war. But its a myth that women don't. Read about women in the LTTE.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:35 PM
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Not all women are young single women. There's a whole cabal of women who are invisible to men who discuss these things. There's a lot of research into the economic contribution of unpaid care labour of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:33 PM
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Both parents work, and the mum does most of the domestic and childcare labour. Having families isn't a good proposition for a lot of women these days as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:32 PM
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Women contribute to the economy in essential ways like care, which they're not paid for. If women stopped doing that every economy would fall apart. So I don't think your point makes sense at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:03 PM
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socializing negative externalizes. Would you mind recasting this sentence? I don't know what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 02:57 PM
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I think the issue redpilled men have is they date a certain type of woman, who conforms to their idea of what a woman is, and then this reinforces their ideas of what a woman acts like. Intellectual curiosity is key, I absolutely couldn't be with someone i couldn't have interesting conversations with. If you're going to be together lifelong, that's a lot of time for you two to be chatting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 02:53 PM
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So? I didn't get my degree to be more attractive. But overall I think the evidence suggests the opposite anyway. University educated men prefer to date likewise educated women and vice versa. I'm not against dating someone without a degree but realistically the vast majority of people in my social circles have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 02:51 PM
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That last sentence feels like veering into an unsupported direction. A woman's "access to resources" isn't the issue most will have with cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 02:48 PM
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Women are dammed if they do, damned if they don't. I don't see men on here being given a hard time for trying to shag hot women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 02:46 PM
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I don't think that's providing utility, I think that's two people having a connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:48 PM
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Ah, American football, very nice. Out of interest, do you ever watch rugby? Didn't realise there's a Hershey park. I tried the chocolate one and did NOT enjoy. I like a lot of American stuff like Cardi B and HBO but you can keep the chocolate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:38 PM
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Utility? What utility and service can only a man provide that a woman cannot do for herself, or get from her community, self, friends or relationships with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:17 PM
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That's nice to hear! Is watching eagles sporting or ornithological?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:14 PM
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Not every woman is surrounded by simp types. A lot of young people had the pandemic really interrupt their normal socialisation as well. Living a Hermit life is not conducive to having a social, and therefore romantic, life. Looks are one part of dating, but it's really not the only thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:13 PM
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Anytime I've been cold approached I've felt startled and just wanted to get away. I think the acceptability of this varies country to country though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:11 PM
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I'd rather regret not having kids, then have kids and regret it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 12:44 PM
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I definitely get broody, I love kids and babies, and would like being a mother, but working full time, raising kids, being a partner, maintaining my physical and mental health, socialising and having community etc. Just seems too much for me to handle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:44 AM
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I actually think the opposite is true. There's certain things I'm interested in, or have rarely done, which I would only do in a LTR. Should a man consider a woman's sexual history? If he wants to, same as women will. There's things that are dealbreakers for me for example buying sex. Fwiw I am a bisexual woman, and most of the men I date are also bisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:35 AM
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1 and 1 I think, or 2 and 2. I rub along fine with most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:33 AM
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Coming to accept that I'm not going to have children. I used to want them, but realistically it just seems to expensive and time consuming. I think I'd prefer the DINK lifestyle and spend Sundays having brunch and doing things we liked, rather than pissing about with prams and nappies and dummies and the like. Anyone else make a similar realisation?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:31 AM
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I'm sure it comes up in actor couples, but I don't think it's inherently disrespectful. It's up to a couple to determine what their rules of engagement are.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:28 AM
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Why? If women stopped using, buying or being a part of anything men had been there would be an unparalleled economic crash. I'm assuming for parity women would also have to stop raising children that had fathers, stop working etc. Society is inter connected. Personally I've never understood getting pride by things people witb traits same as mine did. I prefer to take pride in my own achievements. But hmmm yes I guess Pythagoras was a boy so you got me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:20 AM
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Women have always been in the labour market. You're discussing middle class women in the west joining the professions, and whilst I think it had some impact, that wasn't inevitable at all. If women need men, but men don't need women, then why is the issue as determined by men the fact that men don't have women? I absolutely disagree that the vast majority of men don't want children but women do, and I'll be interested to read where you got that from. As for women needing a man to help them throu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:16 AM
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Are there are pubs either board games near you? Something like trivial pursuit or scrabble can be a good conversation starter. Sometimes you might go on a date and there be zero spark and its a bit awkward and then you go home and its fine. I think what you fear is itself the cure to the fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:07 AM
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I don't think you read what I wrote at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 10:33 AM
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Most people are able to have relationships, so I don't think what your saying makes sense unless you're only talking about men who've never had a sexual or romantic relationship. Those men are not going to be the one pursued by women. Women do ask men out and participate, but they're not obliged to, same as men are not obliged to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 10:24 AM
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Yes I agree with the if there. Whilst I have no doubt that this is a complicated situation that a lot of families go through, the mums reaction didn't seem authentic at all to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:35 AM
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Yes, some men are simply interested in buying a womb. I guess it's fine if everyone's consenting, but I do worry about the quality of life and safety for a woman in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:14 AM
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I think human attraction has always been of interest, including amongst the working class and middle class. Just look at Chaucer for example. Do men find most women attractive? I find that hard to believe. I wonder if "attracted to" means different things for different people. To me it means "they're cute and if they have the personality and we connect I'd go to bed with them" whereas for a lot of men on here it seems to mean "I guess I'd put my dick in her". Maybe they sound similar but I think…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 08:25 AM
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In your own language then, men are not salesmen. They're the purchasers, but in a market with a low supply. But if men only want sex, as opposed to wanting sex along with other things, then you are making a good case for women to remain single or date other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 08:14 AM
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I've had compliments in that vein before and found them funny. Of course, a mild jokey compliment isn't going to have me shag someone I dont fancy, but I completely agree with how "women" (parenthesis for generalisation) would hate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 08:13 AM
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I've never understood the need to compare "men do this and it's the same as women do that". Aside from that I have no major issue with what you've said, although I don't think it's tremendously important. For me personally I need a man to have a more civilised attitude than to name everything on biological programming. As for Al Pacino I do think it's gross, because he's going to die when that kid is young.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:57 AM
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Yes, I didn't think about that. But that's a terrible basis for a relationship if you don't respect that person and well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:54 AM
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Yes agree, becoming paired up is the ultimate happy ending for so much media. So the idea of self actualising without it needs a concerted effort. This is an area that I think pill type people of all genders would benefit from building a solidarity with one another, particularly the singletons.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:50 AM
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I've not suggested meet ups nor being yourself, I've suggested developing a normal and active social life. There's no guarantee there and there are plenty of other steps involved. If you think you have better insights then please share them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:45 AM
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There's a difference between complaining and making threats. If you can't tell the difference that's worrying. Women just very rarely resort to mass violence when they feel aggrieved by society compared to men. You can feel that your problem isn't taken care of. But frankly, rhe average incel by definition isn't going to have enough contact with women to know about their problems and how seriously they're taken by others.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:44 AM
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Absolutely, but I have no regard for individuals who deem others to be inherently more subjective than they are, especially as it seems to be a lazy way of shutting down women's viewpoints in these type spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:41 AM
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It's not irrelevant at all, the point is some people actually get up and do something about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:34 AM
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Do you think the majority of people in human history have had validation from others about their looks? I really don't think so. Self esteem has to be build on a stronger foundation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:33 AM
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I'm not dating for a specific income or something. I would date an autistic man. I wouldn't date someone I found unattractive though. Don't need model looks but fundamentally if I'm seeing your face when I orgasm it needs to be at least a little bit pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:15 AM
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A lot of queer and radical people live in housing coops and similar for this very reason because they disagree that a monogamous relationship and a nuclear family is not the only way to achieve intimacy. But your post implies that loneliness can only be alleviated by one person, and that one person forever. Each stage of our life may bring different people who are that close to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 12:43 AM
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You've never seen anyone being similarly rude to women? And you've never seen empathy towards men? Sorry not going to sift for comments as have to go to bed and realistically I will not remember tomorrow .. but j am sure if you had a look you'd find it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 12:28 AM
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Not what I said, not what I meant. You don't need to diminish women's pain to make your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 11:40 PM
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That's so sad. I really don't see why people prefer that to being single. Sure being single has its problems and loneliness, but being with someone who hates you is the worst feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 11:20 PM
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This is called the mental load, and it's a form of domestic labour which is different, but related to emotional labour.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:35 PM
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There are different types of loneliness. If you want your problems to be taken seriously then perhaps you should put that same energy out there. Just say "I'm lonely". You don't need to say "I'm lonely, and women never get lonely" .
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:34 PM
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Women's best years being when they're young and men's when they're older just feels very male centric. My best years aren't determined by how fuckable random men find me, it's about how happy you are and what your quality of life is. I honestly think this line of thinking is holding the incel lite crowd back so hard. They think they're going to get some well paid job programming in their 30s, be making a ton and then all the women who rejected them will be crying because Chad got a beer belly or…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:31 PM
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So much sympathy is shown to men forever alone men. Both online and offline I've seen this. Saying it's never shown is odd to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:23 PM
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Everyone being different was literally my first sentence in that. I agree it varies so much. Didn't say anything about going to meet ups though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:21 PM
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What's right about anything? Of course she can complain. Anyone can complain. Doesn't mean anyone needs to care. But it also doesn't mean it was the wrong decision. I complained like hell when I was doing my degree, still glad I did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:44 PM
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Have they heard of wanking
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:52 PM
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I'd be surprised if someone said I looked like Lizzo because whilst we are both fat we have different races, body shapes, face shapes and dress styles. It would be the most shallow of comparisons intended to be hurtful. But I've never had anyone speak to me like that as far as I can recall tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:41 PM
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No ones standards are wrong I don't think. Whether or not they end up with a relationship they want is another thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:40 PM
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I just don't understand straight people who hate their opposite gender but still want to date. Like, what happens next? Your partner sees a cute dog in the street and you're angrily tittering "yeah of course you like dogs you fucking bitch/wanker".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:38 PM
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I think you can say this to anyone whose permanently single and complains about it online. All the incels could date one another, but they don't exist in physical space together. They're chronically online and under experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:37 PM
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I don't think that's what that person is saying. They're saying everyone has their own problems so they don't have the resources to swan in and help you with yours. As for being a nihilistic Intel, that only hurts that young man himself, unless of course he resorts to violence, in which case he wasn't emotionally equipped to have been in a relationship anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:20 PM
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It really varies person to person. I've known a few guys with these struggles and it wasn't the same things. The most general piece of advice I can give is work on your social life. If you're into music, go to local gigs etc. Make new friends. If you want to date women, you'll need to not resent them. But if not dating women is causing you to resent them then that's something you need to work on. An angry young man just isn't a good romantic prospect. Personally every long term relationship I've…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:18 PM
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Yes agree with the last bit for sure, everyone has that problem. I know I do, where I feel pessimistic so stop bothering. Not sure about the old days as much, think a lot of people just dated from their friendship group. "Dating culture" is newer here. Out of interest is your dad British? I know a lot of foreign men struggle here because they don't have a social group to strike out from.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 05:03 PM
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Of course I'm picky. Of course I don't like being pestered. I don't live my life to give gratification to strange men through matching with them, dating them etc. If not interested I'm not interested. I agree that it's unbalanced, but it always has been. Now that women are legally enfranchised, and able to fulfill their emotional needs with platonic relationships, their need for men declines. (Note, need, not want). But there has always been an asymmetry, but previously men were the ones who ben…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:51 PM
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A lot of the things men complain about in dating( feminism, hypergamy, promiscuity, AF/BB) about are universal regardless of the country you're in How so? Feminist cultures vary regionally. "Hypergamy" seems to be simply choosing the best partner you can, which isn't gendered. Or are you saying men do not choose the best partner they can get? OP also mentioned being from Nordic countries so not even anglosphere. I'm from the UK and our dating culture is entirely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:28 PM
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I also commented but you've summed it up very nicely. I think we are very lucky in the UK, when compared to the portrayal of some other dating cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:25 PM
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Completely agree. From the UK, and eating out isn't very usual at all for a first date. Usual first date is at the pint and it's rounds. I'll admit I've had many guys insist on getting the first round in, which doesn't feel unfair to accept knowing you'll get the next one in. Whilst I appreciate that this is an important issue for some, it's just not a universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:21 PM
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No one can look at dating politics objectively. One cannot be objective regarding a data set one is a part of.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:19 PM
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If you think all women are ugly, have horrible personalities and zero rizz then you're just not orientated towards women. Which is fine but weird to chime in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:15 PM
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You've said ugly women have it easy, what would you know about it? Ignore my other points of course. Ugly women have difficult lives and needing to say that they don't is just needing to assert women have less complicated inner lives than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:45 AM
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Looks aren't everything, unfortunately these men blame their lack of sex and relationships on the fact they're ugly whereas it's because they're ugly AND have horrible personalities AND zero rizz.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:50 AM
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Chris Brown is an abuser, creep isn't strong enough a word. Plenty people think he's terrible, chiefly feminists. Not before they vet for things like height, looks, income, and status. All easier things to vet first. You're determined to see women as being shallow and less complicated then men, if that's how you feel then leave us alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:35 AM
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Its not a diagnosis but if a woman says she is one to a man that is already her shooting him down. If he persists he either has the social skills of a lamp post, is arrogant or is a sex pest. Or likely all 3. Either way he can get gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:24 PM
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So what do men want, needers? Doesn't that also make men all the same and needing to stop thinking they're special.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:20 PM
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countless hysterical screeching misandrist feminists Gosh you tried hard with that one. Frankly Andrew Tate is doing wonders for feminism tbh. I just feel bad for all the young uns who have to be in the vicinity of kids he's corrupted. But overall his continued existence is fantastic news for feminism, he explains the need for feminism much more succinctly than I could.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:19 PM
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Men hitting on women they know are lesbians is so fucking pathetic. Just practice your social skills in the mirror, it'd get you closer to your goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:16 PM
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Are you saying that the value women bring to the table is their menstruation? Don't think this is the place to air your kinks mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:14 PM
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This whole sub is just mean complaining about how they're victimised by not being noshed daily, I don't see how a little counter repetition that men should replace their needs with hand holding is particularly egregious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:13 PM
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If you think ugly women don't have a hard time then you're not listening to women. Women do vet for "agreeableness" but they're shamed for not using language that caters to male feelings e.g. using terms like creep. I will always assume that someone's vetting criteria is right for them. Every man on here seems to think he knows what's best for women better than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:01 PM
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"Throw on some make up" see you lost me there. You seen uninformed about the realities of performing femininity; the cost, the skill, the practice etc. You may not see the difference but you would know the difference. The 6 figures thing is a v American thing. Income isn't something my girlfriends have ever discussed about potential partners in a serious way at all, and I don't think that's unusual. Sure, you want someone financially stable, but I think that's mutual. A well dressed, good lookin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 06:45 PM
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You're very convinced this woman, and similar to her, are not attracted to the men they marry. Why do you think women can only have one type they're attracted to? Do you think Teddy bear type men with dad bods don't have casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:49 PM
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I agree that not cheating isn't emotional labour, but I also don't think driving and being in the room as she gives birth are either. The former is domestic labour and the latter is what we call "the bare fucking minimum".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:42 PM
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Love language is pseudo science.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:37 PM
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He has to earn £27.5k. He must drive a Toyota Yaris. His job title must be "female body inspector". He should dress like he's an undertaker but it's casual Friday.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:36 PM
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Some men never open with other men, and only do with women. So it goes from being emotionally supportive as equals to being an unpaid therapist. When that transition happens attraction can lessen for some. I prefer emotionally open men but I also don't like when someone opens up too fast, I suppose there's a certain level of emotional reciprocity that's needed to develop and maintain attraction, for me at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:33 PM
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Side note - I know some of you will be like... "this isn't the case for me"... great. That's awesome. This is just what I have observed and it seems like it was confirmed from that conversation I overheard. Sorry but what's the point of this point? "CMV on this subjective feeling I have based on hunch and an overheard conversation, but your personal experience is not valid evidence" I'd also like to add 12 is mentioned as though that's some incredibly high number. Its a very average number.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:26 PM
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Your prize as a traditional woman is to bag a traditional man. That does not appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:22 PM
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How do you know she didn't? And how do you know she was his first choice? We don't start our adult dating lives with everyone who will ever be interested in us lined up. You seem cross at her for being able to have gone out with "bad boys" and now be settled down. That's not a dual mating strategy because its 1) not simultaneous 2) we live in complicated post industrial human societies. We are not cuttlefish. If dual mating strategy were a thing then inherently there would be no value added judg…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:13 PM
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You've not said anything to justify the claim that sexual violence does not prevent women from engaging in the sexual behaviour they'd like to. I dont think anyone can change q view when the view is self supporting. If there was no sexual violence the world would be such a remarkably different world, and no one has the ability to see what it would be like.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:05 PM
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You discuss modern Western societies as a monolith and yet the very concept of liberalism varies by western nations. Single women are very much shunned. I do believe the issue is of unpartnered people being derided.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:03 PM
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I think those type men have likely never had sex, and feel very different from other peopleas a result. So they feel that they are missing out on something most people have. Some problems can be over analysed and the over analysis is what prevents it being solved. A man who just whinges about not having sex and hates on women just has nothing to contribute to a relationship. So his fear of being unworthy of intimacy becomes true, and he can justify his fear of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:59 PM
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Agree. They want to be considered attractive enough to have sex, even though they aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:52 PM
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Why do we need gender stereotypes, one way or the other? I prefer for my merits to be my own. The point of drilling into statistics such ad gender paybgaps is to identify structural challenges. The vast majority of men are not Nobel prize winners, so what stereotype do you even think should exist there? The stereotype of being marginally more likely to win one? What materially disadvantage is conferred on men for not being stereotyped in that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:46 PM
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Interesting, I see a lot of men on here say women don't vet highly enough. It's either women vet too hard, or don't vet hard enough. Naturally the barometer of good vetting is implied to be male in either scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:41 PM
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They're single, they're not in a relationship. Being friends with a man whose happy to change a light bulb doesn't mean you're not single.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:39 PM
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Then why do men on here constantly denigrate women for getting male validation?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:38 PM
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Yes, different people have different experiences, thank you for this noble contribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:37 PM
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There's something particularly horrible about cheating on a pregnant partner because of the risk of passing on an STI to the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:34 PM
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Do you think she should have kept going for men who weren't right for her? What, in your estimation, would have been the correct course of action?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:29 PM
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This sub leans heavily male. Women go to other spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 08:39 PM
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I dont disagree but talking the census means you're only counting couples who live together. It's a flawed approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 06:33 PM
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See I don't have any issue with that. I just see so many guys on here who seem to think that there are innate differences, but get annoyed if women get treated differently to them. You can't have it both ways. If you're happy for men to maximise opportunities for themselves then what is the issue with women doing the same. Personally I think the average PPD user has trouble differentiating the gender politics of their specific time and place, with what is eternal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:33 PM
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Then it makes sense women and men are given different advice in this situation no?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:38 PM
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Do women see man and and first think “wow he looks successful, he can take care of me”? Lol no. They'll be like, aww he's cute or he's hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:24 PM
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Because women being fat reduces the supply of fuckable women, and if you approach sex and relationships with an economic style analysis this essentially raises the value of an individual woman. I also think that when you only value women for looks then a woman being unattractive to you means she isn't human. I'm fat and I don't know why that bothers some people. I'm not wanting to date you, don't stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:22 PM
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if you believe in innate gender differences then there will be different answers to the same question depending on gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:18 PM
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Sounds like you're boring, ain't women's fault or problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 11:25 AM
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My crocs are life I go clubbing in them. Need to get gangbanged in them at some point. Do you think blue or purple hair is the bigger turn off?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 07:05 PM
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And why shouldn't she? Men put themselves first. Why shouldn't women. Men want to be able to fuck around and then settle down with the love of their life, why isn't that wanting cake and to eat it too?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 07:03 PM
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Numbercunching "men this women that" as a way of improving your chances of having the sexual life you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 05:21 PM
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You're so right. I've only got a couple, need a tramp stamp that says lucky cow in Amharic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:58 PM
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I don't like people I know Irl to be subjected to my cunty personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:46 PM
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Women lose housepoints every time they don't breed with me 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:45 PM
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Most normal people don't care about "sexual strategy". The only people who do are virgin men (understandable) and men who don't have the natural charisma needed to be fuckbois (understandable but not sympathetic).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:42 PM
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They're literally saying sex with men makes women crazy 🤪 surely that says more about men than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:40 PM
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Oh thats really encouraging, that every time I fuck a woman I make the pool of marriageable women a little bit smaller. What about fingering? Does that add a whole n?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:37 PM
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I really enjoy being miserable, thats why I love upsetting men. It's my love language.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:34 PM
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I'm actually going on a date and then need to pack for holiday the next day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:34 PM
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Lmfao they think a woman making herself less fuckable for them is a hate crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:32 PM
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If women are still getting married then they're not getting run through enough. I know men say they don't count women fucking women as n count, but does that include if she's fucking women who used the strap on?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:30 PM
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I read it, but i just wanted you to realise that the hatred you express for women is just the hatred you have for yourself, and instead of dealing with it you project it onto women who dont know you exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:05 PM
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Discovering redpill has been such a blessing. Realising how much men hate high n counts for women has been eye opening. Since I've be encouraging women to fuck as many Chad's as possible, and raise their numbers even higher. My life work is to make sure there are no women who meet the standards of the average man. I won't stop until every woman is a fat bisexual who only porks a handful of approved Chad's when they fancy some D. Anything else that men hate that I should incorporate? Wearing croc…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:03 PM
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It's not that you didn't send the right words. It's really clear that you're quite bitter, don't like women and have mediocre looks. That just means you don't have anything worth offering and women don't want to be with you. That's not women's fault, it's yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:57 PM
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If one doesn't have a uterus then one does not need access to abortion. A greater access to contraception for all is in the benefit for everyone. Abortion benefits men greatly. Without it there would be more men who fathers without wanting to. You're the one who brought up conscription as a weird tangent. If men want their reproductive rights to be considered then they should protect the provision of abortion. Women having access to abortion doesn't mean they have more rights then men. It means …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:34 PM
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Did you get lost on the way to r/ibs
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:18 PM
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A cisgender man already couldn't get pregnant, so abortion isn't needed. I don't believe the US has conscription currently? And it also doesn't have abortion rights enshrined?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:10 PM
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I don't know as much about the developing world sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:40 PM
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Where are men's access to voting rights determined by their reproductive Labour? Which reproductive rights do men not have which women do? When men have uterus they're as permitted to have abortions as women. Cis men already had the right to not gestate due to their inability to gestate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:39 PM
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That just doesn't map onto men's rights as they currently exist. You're larping being oppressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:03 PM
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Currently got too much on for dating with intent atm, switching to casual dating. By which I mean dating men who only want sex, getting attention and then ending it before we boink.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:03 PM
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Honest question, had anyone actually asked you that? I'm surprised anyone cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:01 PM
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If a girl has a personality of a guy, wouldn't that just mean that that personality type isn't gendered? She would have the personality of a woman since she was a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:00 PM
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In the real world if someone asks you those things and you don't know them well you just brush it off. You don't tally them up and give a precise figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:57 PM
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Being alone with cats is fucking ideal for most women. That's not the consolation prize anymore. Its the ideal. The average man just doesn't have much to offer. Lesbianism, casual dating and singledom are better than some average man with an average personality who lowkey despises you for being a woman. Look at the vile on this sub all day every day. Then you wonder why women don't want to date men anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:56 PM
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So I guess the reason so many of the men on here can't get a date is because they haven't got the looks and they haven't got the brains.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:50 PM
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Community events and spaces, through friends etc. Introduce yourself, spark a conversation, go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:49 PM
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If women don't want to introduce you to their single friends then they think you're not good enough for them. Do you put effort into helping women find dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:46 PM
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