eastcoastfashionista Archive

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11	Q4W: Why when you are in a relationship do you still wear sexy clothes and makeup etc.? Who are you advertising yourself to if you are already taken? So which one is it? I’ve seen SO many men on here talking about women “letting themselves go” after a few years in a relationship or marriage and how you want women who look good and take care of themselves. But now if women wear makeup and dress nice in a relationship that’s also unacceptable? You can’t have it both ways lol. I take pride in my appearance and want to look good not just for my husband but for myself. The important thing is that it makes ME feel good about myself. If you look goo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/26 05:29 PM
1	You're a slim, shorter (5'5 and under) 20-something Girl. What Are Your "Asks?" Exactly. Online dating was overwhelming. I am pretty introverted and did not have the social energy to be going out on tons of dates/talk to tons of people at a time. So I was very selective. At that point too I was looking for marriage and knew exactly what I wanted in a partner. So I feel like I also had to filter well for like-minded people that were also looking for marriage and not just a hook up etc. I also am a WOC so I was also careful with who I dated as that person needed to be open to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 10:24 PM
3	You're a slim, shorter (5'5 and under) 20-something Girl. What Are Your "Asks?" Hmmm. I guess I would? That’s hard because usually when you pursue advanced degrees you’re not doing it randomly. At that point you are usually specializing in something for a specific career. So, as long as they had a plan for what they were doing with it I wouldn’t care. I think if you had a bachelor’s degree in something like what was listed that would also be ok. Those are specific degrees with very specific careers that come out of them. However when I was dating, I was using the apps. And …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 09:30 PM
4	You're a slim, shorter (5'5 and under) 20-something Girl. What Are Your "Asks?" Where I grew up, going to college was a minimum expectation. All my peers (as well as their parents) were all college graduates. So I guess to me, a bachelor’s doesn’t mean much. Education is very important to me and something I place a high value on (I myself have a masters and work in education)and most people in my friend group also have theirs. I wanted a partner who liked school as much as I did. Plus nowadays, earning potential for most bachelor’s is not what it used to be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 07:47 PM
12	You're a slim, shorter (5'5 and under) 20-something Girl. What Are Your "Asks?" Married and in my early thirties now. But I met my husband at 25. When I was dating at that time I was looking for: - Someone who was minimum taller than me (I’m 5’4, so not hard to find) - Someone who was physically fit (I was dancing professionally at the time), so I wanted someone that also cared about their health and physical fitness. - Educated (Master’s degree or higher) - Either financially stable OR in school/making tangible moves to be financially stable. - Generally good looking (up t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 10:14 PM
2	How did you meet the last 5 guys you had sex with Husband: Hinge Ex: at a bar 2 before that were friends with benefits that I met in my dorms Ex: he was a friend of a friend I’m in my early 30s. Literally all of those prior to my husband happened in undergrad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 03:51 AM
7	What is the desired financial status women want? I think you missed my point. My point was that it is very hard to separate money from class. And while money isn’t everything, having a man that makes significantly less or that does not come from the same socioeconomic class as you opens the door to other issues. My ex was extremely insecure about these gaps. That insecurity led to him lashing out at me and being extremely jealous. It’s also hard taking someone to places that they either hate or where they don’t feel like they belong. I just le…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/25 02:50 AM
2	What is the desired financial status women want? I am currently married. However, when I was truly looking to date for marriage, I did have a threshold of what I wanted a man to make. After dating someone below my own socioeconomic status didn’t work due to factors such as differences in education levels, hobbies, and just mindset on life, I came to the conclusion that I needed someone that was my equal in terms if lifestyle (which directly coincides with socioeconomic status). I grew up in an upper middle class household and decided the next …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/25 01:43 AM
2	Question For Women, Which Of These Men Would You Rather Get Into A Relationship With? A) That’s literally what we are doing on this hypothetical post…. Looking at all their attributes and passing judgement… that is literally the task. B) these aren’t just a one perceived flaw. Josh is literally a wife beater. Paul is on the spectrum (nothing wrong with having a disability, but that really does make the relationship hard). Adam is literally supporting a convicted felon. And Jake leads an unhealthy lifestyle and won’t have kids (that’s a deal breaker for me personally). A flaw is t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 02:52 AM
2	Which of these men would you prefer to date? If you are educated, that’s different. I guess my perception of blue collar is more uneducated, rough around the edges, type men. Where I find myself attracted to more if the stereotypical “smart” guy that will appreciate some of the finer things in life like going to the ballet or opera, the fine art museum, or Michelin starred restaurants and be cultured enough to generally enjoy them. I know that I am stereotyping, but I have also dated blue collar men, and it didn’t work out partially becaus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/24 04:04 PM
1	Which of these men would you prefer to date? Just out of curiosity, what makes the lawyer intimidating to you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/24 03:45 PM
1	Which of these men would you prefer to date? Emil is a straight no for me. I’m not into blue collar men as I’m very into academics and would also want someone highly educated. I also don’t like it when men are super tall or extremely big actually, it makes me feel like a child next to them, which makes me feel weird. Also, what is this dark past?? James is a no. The blind ambition without having finances in check and a follow through plan screams instability. Julian’s taxidermy is quite odd, but as long as our house doesn’t look like it be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/24 03:28 PM
18	Question For Women, Which Of These Men Would You Rather Get Into A Relationship With? None. They’re all walking red flags	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 08:48 PM
3	why do women insist on dating men making as much if not more than them? Completely agree! My previous relationship, I made more money, which in and of itself was not a big deal. Where the divide came in is that he only had a middle school education which really limited his job prospects, and I just finished my bachelor’s. I value education and am accustomed to a certain lifestyle. I knew I was going to eventually get more education and therefore keep climbing the ladder as far as career and income. Where we fell apart is that we had different values. I valued educat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 03:21 AM
2	Besides looks, what trait are you MOST attracted to in a man? I would say yes, but I think it also depends on the severity of the drawbacks. If the adhd/ bouts of un productivity for example make it hard to keep a job, then no because then the relationship would lack basic stability and that’s a problem for everyone involved. Being ambitious to me means you have direction in life (not saying you don’t), but just clarifying what would and would not be acceptable for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 11:55 AM
4	Besides looks, what trait are you MOST attracted to in a man? Intelligence is a nonnegotiable. I consider myself intelligent and I place a high value on education for myself and those around me and I carry that expectation for my partner. I want someone I can have intellectual conversations with and light debates. Idk if ambitious is necessarily the correct word, but someone who is not content just rolling through the status quo of life. There should always be a sense of “what’s next?” after accomplishing a goal. But this doesn’t necessarily have to pertai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/24 09:51 PM
8	Women have hobbies. I’m a dancer (all kinds, but recently have been focusing more on ballet), jigsaw puzzles, walking, cooking, foodie (I love reading about and visiting restaurants), and I recently have been trying to get into golf.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/24 03:42 AM
9	Red pillers see women as dishonest / out to get them / subhuman / only good for sex, because due to RPers own behavior / attitudes, they only attract bottom-tier, psychologically damaged women, which then reinforces their attitudes and causes them to attract even more of the same in an endless loop. THIS!	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/24 04:47 PM
–	Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public? Within my neighborhood/immediate community, I acknowledge everyone. And I do that because within the culture, it is considered rude not to acknowledge people. My neighborhood is not the safest, and I would rather be on the good side of everyone in case shit hits the fan. But yes, you are right, otherwise if I’m downtown, out anywhere else, I don’t. But the majority of walking I do alone is within my immediate community.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/24 02:20 AM
2	Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public? I can't confirm or deny that. But I've lived in countries where catcalling is still deemed socially acceptable and is therefore more prevalent/seen as a viable option in approaching a girl, but I do see a trend in that those are the same places that have higher rates of violence towards women. Regardless of how you feel when it comes to dating, I think a commonality is that we would want the women in our lives to feel as though they can walk down the street without being harassed or become a vic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 03:43 PM
2	Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public? I did not, but I would be curious as to the results of these studies. Do you have any links to share?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 01:54 PM
5	Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public? I feel like the men that tend to do the catcalling, to put this nicely, are very specific groups of people. I see it a lot with certain cultures, or with homeless people/people in extreme poverty, or people that are on drugs. Unfortunately, that makes it all the more scary, since some of these people aren't in their right mind to begin with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 01:19 PM
5	Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public? That's totally fine! I feel like regardless, on the street especially, most women are going to have their guard up because unfortunately, the vast majority of approaches (if you can even call them that) is catcalling. I honestly see it as a relief if someone approaches and says something NORMAL instead of just making sexually explicit comments to a stranger. With catcallers, it almost never happens if I am with another man and I don't think these particular men are actually "looking" for somethi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 01:11 PM
6	Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public? lol who said I was chastising all men for being creeps just for approaching me? I just clarified that there is a difference between catcalling, and people being friendly/approaching. I really don't think you are understanding WHAT that difference is, so let me give you an example: 2 days ago while I was on a jog, a man in a white van starts following me, calling me sexual names. When I ignore him, instead of catching the hint, he just keeps following me. THAT is creepy! He ended up following me …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 12:56 PM
13	Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public? There’s a difference between friendliness and catcalling. I acknowledge most people I pass with a nod. What is not ok is people feeling entitled to follow, make lewd comments on about your body, corner, or persist when it’s absolutely unwarranted and the other person is giving you zero attention/validation that they are welcoming this attention.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 02:01 AM
13	Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public? Same!! Catcalling/harassment is almost daily for me unfortunately. But unfortunately due to this, it makes me wary when almost anyone approaches because those encounters freak me out and make me feel uncomfortable. I’m married, so everyone is getting turned down regardless, but this was the case for me prior to marriage, and I don’t forsee the catcalling situation getting any better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 01:26 AM
1	Ranking your own SMV/RMV I feel like this is something that is difficult to put a value on as beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty standards also vary by race and culture. One person's "5" can be somebody else's "8". Some people are into "cute", some people are into "sexy", some people are into skinny, some people are into thick, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/24 05:36 PM