eclipticviolets Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Apparently, it’s unrealistic to not have sex during the first 3-4 dates… 🙄	BAD SEX ADVICE	eclipticviolets	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/11/21 02:43 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
70	What do you think about a man opening up and telling you he goes to therapy on the second date? I do agree with you, but I would like to add that lifelong does not equal unstable or mismanaged. Some people have conditions that they have to be on meds for the rest of their life or go to therapy to stay in a good place. It’s totally okay to not want to date someone with a mental illness but I want to add that because many in that circumstance can function normally and it’s a huge win if they do the hard work of staying healthy.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/21 06:33 PM
2	Tired of polyamorous folks being judgemental towards monogamy, I need help It’s their way of reassuring themselves that they aren’t insecure and that it’s actually you that’s insecure, otherwise they’d have to face the sad reality that they’re repressing their hurt feelings. It’s painful to be told by your partner that they need more than you, because it begs the question: does that mean I’m not enough? I will admit I am biased but I’ve never seen a polyamorous relationship that seems healthy or equal. All of my friends who have done it eventually run into the issue of…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/11/21 06:25 AM
38	Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobs Absolutely this, it’s the fact that they know you can’t leave or be rude to them. I had customers often say things just because they knew it would be uncomfortable. I was once told I had a stripper name. Very awkward to continue bagging your groceries after that..	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/11/21 04:46 AM
10	What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14? Don’t feel obligated to be his therapist. LVM don’t usually confide their feelings in other men and end up dumping all their emotional issues on women which creates a lot of emotional labor for us. It’s great to emotionally support a partner but don’t be their only support and don’t pick up the slack if they’re not actively working on their mental health like going to therapy. You are not his therapist.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/10/21 09:47 PM
13	Be weary of men who are raised in cultures that push machismo. I dated a man from one of these cultures and I’m seeing him in all of these…. I finally broke up with him because he would go days without answering texts or calls and when he finally did answer, he would act like I’m the most beautiful woman in the world and give me all the attention, also trying to make up for his absence with money. I still wonder if he was using me as a girlfriend or a mistress.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/10/21 06:57 PM
47	Why you should NEVER pay or split the bill on your first date True, plus he could pull a dine-n-dash. “Oh hey I just gotta use the bathroom real quick before we go”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/09/21 09:30 PM
25	Can we talk about men who act like they are doing women a favor by objectifying them? Apparently we need candle wax on our chest to feel empowered 😑	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 12:35 AM
1	This insta account is great to see the entitlement that LVM have. (She’s 28 and only matches with old men for science) It’s interesting that he implies he is honest when he isn’t honest with his wife.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/09/21 05:15 PM